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5 Habits of Truly Happy People!

Monday, August 10, 2009

I was pleased to receive an email with an article written by Marci Shimoff, May 2008. The author had analyzed people of various ages and different backgrounds for her conclusions. I wanted to share her findings.

HABIT 1: Don't believe everything that you think. (We are often programmed with negative talk.)
Rewrite the story you tell yourself the list of what you did correctly today. Don't keep focusing on the one mistake.

HABIT 2: Notice the happy things in your life... no matter how small. One lady gave out silent awards: to the person with the nicest manners, to the guy who let me into traffic, to the lady who handed out correct change...

HABIT 3: Choose the happier thought: do you usually see the glass half empty or half full?

HABIT 4: Tend to your relationships. Happy people have friends and family they are in touch with. Call them before you need the safety net. It isn't the number of friends you have that makes you happy... it is the quality!

HABIT 5: Find passion and purpose in your life. Examine your tasks, recreation and hobbies. Do you find satisfaction in interacting with people or do you get excited doing detail work? Incorporate more of the challenges that satisfy you. Her example had a retired dentist who took up the hobby of needlepoint because he thrived on things with fine detail.

This article was published in the Ladies Home Journal and it's time I focused on things that make me smile. Although I'm usually an optimist, I know that my self-talk has been too negative recently. I will work on 'cheering it up' a few notches. Why miss the bliss???

How about you? Do you have traits of the Truly Happy???

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    This is great, Karen. I'm going to work on being more positive too--in all aspects!

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KRZYKAT3 8/10/2009 8:58PM

    I need to work on my happy.

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LACEEJO11 8/10/2009 8:43PM

    IRENE said that honesty is better than perfection...my comment to that is GREAT...cause honesty is sure a whole lot easier than perfection!!

LIGHTEN UP and be your own best friend!!

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LITTLE_QUEEN 8/10/2009 6:18PM

    No I am afraid I don't, but yes, I need to change

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GEEOHDEESGIRL 8/10/2009 4:06PM

    Thank you for sharing this. Things to go after, for certain. :-)

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When It All Becomes Too Much

Thursday, July 30, 2009

July came in like a summer breeze and will be ending with the intensity of a blast oven! Golly it is hot outside.

Today I am seeking sanctuary in an office where I am volunteering (because I am unemployed) and there is air conditioning (which is not available where I rent.
I have had nights of poor sleep due to the heat, the noise of the upstairs teenagers and not being able to turn my thoughts off at night.

If you don't know my story since May, my landlord upped the rent $100 in July, another $100 in August and will want the third $100 more in September. (This is all illegal, of course.)
Also the landlord is furious if I don't look after his two dogs whenever he goes away for business or on his boat...) It hasn't been a smooth relationship.
That same week as the rent increase news, came the job termination. That has left me all a-jumble.
My partner and I started looking for a house to buy (in the most costly part of our country) and although have an accepted offer, we still are waiting to hear if our mortgage application has been approved. (I am learning a lesson in Patience this week.)

My body has been reacting by churning my stomach and intestines. I have gone to The Lord in prayer an have been walking alone for exercise. Many Spark Friends have been praying for me too. I thank you dear hearts!

So, here it is Thursday July 30 with the month almost exhausted. I think I am too.
Physical signs of stress are showing in the sleep problems and the upset tummy.
Mentally I seem to be less sharp and I have little endurance in my though processes. Emotionally I am as fragile as a spider's web. I have not taken to weeping much, but I am not very self-assured these days.
Spiritually, I feel stunted and rather pathetic.
I have claimed this day as one where I have nibbled my meals delicately. I am sitting by a fan and breathing deeply with my focus on recharging my body. The phones have been sympathetically quiet and the business challenges have been light.

Call it a "ME" day. I have surrendered my worries for 24 hours. I will not beat myself up for not finding a job. I am tuning out for a shift and trying to see the sunny side to this scorcher.

Got any hints on how to face a day, when it all becomes too much?

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GOSPELCLOWN 7/30/2009 10:50PM

    Thank you, Sweet Ladies!!

Your words of encouragement are clearing the fog! I'll follow your insightful suggestions. I am grateful for your prayers.


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EARTHSEAME 7/30/2009 9:45PM

    First, do what you are able. And then, nurture yourself like nobody's business. Every second, every minute, every hour. Sending kind thoughts your way!

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    There is a William Makepeace Thackeray quote that I always like to think of when I'm ready to throw in the towel:

"A good laugh is sunshine in a house."

I like to listen to funny albums/cds or watch funny movies when I have days like the one you're having. I find it to be a real treat.

I'm thinking about you my friend. Hang in there!!!


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CANNOTFATHOM 7/30/2009 8:02PM

    When I am overwhelmed...I do something nice for someone else (it makes me feel good)....then I do something nice for me ( and I feel good again). It can be a gesture.....not necessarily something monetary.


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LENNY48 7/30/2009 6:50PM

    Give yourself time for a pity party. When done, figure out action needed for your situation. Make a goal and then work towards it. It sounds like it would be great if you could move. I would put that at the top of the list. Keep praying God always answers sometimes He does seem slow though!

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EMILYBEMENT 7/30/2009 6:29PM

    It sounds like the world has got you down and boy can it do it when we allow it to get to the best of us. I guess I learned after we lost our home to a fire is to, turn it over and truly trust in God. He has bigger and better things for you. I turned to the Word, again and again, time after time...I dove in so deep and didn't come out until I had it together. I still go to the word daily and some days most of the day.

1Corinthians 2:9 No man has ever seen, heard or even imagined the wonderful things God has in store for those who love the Lord.

John 10:10 I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.

Proverbs 16:3 Commit to the Lord whatever you do and your plans will succeed.

Isaiah 43: 19 Behold I am doing a new thing. Can you not perceive it?

This are just a few I read to help myself when I am down. I will pray for you. Together our prayers will be heard.

Blessings In Christ, Em

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JEAN524 7/30/2009 6:13PM

    Difficult to know what to say of comfort in the face of such disasters. I just hope that everything works out for you with the mortgage and you find a worthwhile job soon.
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JENSVICTORY10 7/30/2009 6:09PM

    When it all becomes too much, have a good cry first! You'll feel better releasing all that tension and pain and anger inside.....Im so sorry you are hurting....next. Wait as you are on the Lord and Be of Good Courage....God knows the Plans for you to prosper you for things to work out for good....not to harm you.....Believe He has something better for you.
Can you go to a lake? A movie with air conditioning that will make you laugh! A really good book to get your mind off the situation? A hot day makes it miserable to sleep also Is there somewhere you can visit and be in airconditioning for 1 night and just rest. If not can you go away for a week? Listen to some music and remember this too will pass.....DAnce Dance Dance find someone to laugh and be silly with.....HUGS Hugs Hugs....Give yourself an break and don't overdo anything pamper yourself...a bubble bath if you can.....I too am praying for you! Jen

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LACEEJO11 7/30/2009 5:31PM

    My heart goes out to you, not as in sympathy, but empathy. I can relate to times being tuff... I am keeping you in my prayers too.

Just tossing this out there, as I know that many many times room mate situations don't pan out, LOL. I was just wondering if you have a great friend or someone close that you totally trust and could try to help each other. Man, that landlord sounds abusive!!

I will keep you in my prayers and sure hope something breaks soon. LOVE & HUGS, LaceEjo11

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LITTLE_QUEEN 7/30/2009 5:20PM

    As I am sitting here trying to think of something I can tell you to make you feel better, I am reflecting on my own life as of late, I hope that all works out for you karen, that you find a good job that pays a decent wage, A nice home to go home to at the end of your work day, where perhaps it could have air conditioning too.I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

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Dare To Dream

Sunday, July 26, 2009

Hold fast to dreams for if dreams die,
life is a broken winged bird that cannot fly.
--Langston Hughes

I have had difficulty sleeping in the last ten years and dreaming has not been a big part of my sleep. Ever since my hormones have begun changing in the perimenopause time of life, I suffer from hot flashes, the inability to modulate my body temperature and I often cannot turn off my thoughts. (Read that as fears, worries, disappointments, frustrations...)

Without dreaming, the next day is set up as if I have to struggle uphill to do anything.

But now, here on the west coast, I am again beginning to dream again. It seems that my brain is taking the time to "defrag" and sort out the challenges of the past day. I am less edgy and short-tempered. Life can again be enjoyed, rather than endured.

When you think of "dreams" do you automatically go to 'what happens when you sleep' or do you think of plans and hopes for the future?
I used to shut down my hopes and aspirations for the future, because the grind of day-to-day existance used to take up all the energy. I didn't allow myself much time to think outside the box or formulate goals for the future.

I realize that was a sad way to live.

Today, if I were to ask you, "What 3 great dreams do you imagine for your future?", could you come up with a small list like that... or are you denying yourself?

Go ahead, dare to dream!

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LITTLE_QUEEN 7/26/2009 10:52PM

    First of all Karen, That is one of my most favorite quotes and I use it often it is beautiful!

To get my sugar under control
My daughter to get through her demons
To get to goal weight

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ROBLAINE1 7/26/2009 10:37PM

  Mine would be:

1. To be as healthy as I can be (which includes losing 32 more pounds).
2. To be a living/walking example of Jesus.
3. To have the assurance that all my grandchildren are saved and serving the Lord.

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JEAN524 7/26/2009 5:03PM

    I think I know what mine would be.
1) To achieve my target weight and stay there within 12 months
2) For my youngest son to become healthy and be able to create a normal life for himself (he has bipolar)
3) To be able to work enough to live comfortably and not always have to be afraid of what might be round the corner with expenses

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    Mine would be:
1. A healthy life for me, my husband and our families and friends.
2. A helpful life in terms of others, both those we know and those we don't know in our community yet
3. A successful life--not monetarily--just that it feels worthwhile and well-lived in the end.

What are your 3, Karen? Don't deny yourself!

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I Believe...

Wednesday, July 22, 2009

This was sent to me yesterday by a friend that I have had since 9th grade. She's a sweetheart!

I Believe...
That just because two people argue, it doesn't mean they don't love each other. And just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do love each other.

I Believe...
That we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change.

I Believe...
That no matter how good a friend is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while, and you must forgive them for that.

I Believe...
That true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.

I Believe...
That you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.

I Believe...
That it's taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.

I Believe...
That you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.

I Believe...
That you can keep going long after you think you can't.

I Believe...
That we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.

I Believe...
That either you control your attitude or it controls you.

I Believe...
That heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.

I Believe...
That money is a lousy way of keeping score.

I Believe...
That my best friend and I can do anything or nothing together and have the best time.

I Believe...
That sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down will be the ones to help you get back up.

I Believe...
That sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.

I Believe...
That maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you've learned from them, and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated.

I Believe...
That it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes, you have to learn to forgive yourself.

I Believe...
That no matter how bad your heart is broken, the world doesn't stop for your grief.

I Believe...
That our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.

I Believe...
That you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret; it could change your life forever.

I Believe...
Two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.

I Believe...
That your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don't even know you.

I Believe...
That even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.

I Believe...
That credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.

I Believe...
That the people you care about most in life are taken from you too soon.

I Believe...
That you should share this message to all of the people in whom you believe, as I just did.

The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything.

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RAGGEDYANN4563 7/26/2009 11:04PM

    This was a great post. I wrote the quote at the bottom of your post in my journal! I love it! Thanks!

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    Wow! That was truley amazing! I couldn't agree more. That was a mouthful, but soooooo true. emoticon

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LACEEJO11 7/22/2009 6:15PM


I believe!!!

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LITTLE_QUEEN 7/22/2009 6:06PM

    This was truly beautiful, Thanks for blogging it.

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One In Eighty Chance

Wednesday, July 22, 2009

If you looking for work these days, it will come as no surprise that there are some pretty staggering odds out there.
This morning I had a cordial interview for a job that must be filled by Monday. The interviewer told me that there had been 80 responses for the position and she was interviewing all day.

I don't think she will interview all eighty, so I was pleased to have made it through to the first interview.

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and the office is a busy place there.
Here, where I am volunteering, it is not a fast enough pace and I can feel that the days drag. I need a bit more stimulation. (I am aware that I should be careful what I pray for!)

'Too busy and panicked' is not my dream job description! I pray that I bring the talent and personality needed to add to this company.

I will hear back either way. Keep me and my job search in your prayers?

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NEWEVERYDAY 7/24/2009 11:27AM

    I am praying for you, also. My contract was not renewed at the high school where I was the librarian for three years. Unfortunately, the principal didn't discuss her "displeasure" with me until the day before I got canned. I thought it would be easy to get a new job in the county where I live. It has the reputation for having the worst discipline problems in the state & also, the worst superintendent. I am a Rank I National Board Certified teacher with ten years experience. I am also praying God's will. I know He has a plan for my life, for me not to be harmed, but to prosper, as He does for all who trust Him.
Sorry about the sermon.

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    You are in my thoughts! I'm sure it will go well!!! Let us know what happens!

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LACEEJO11 7/22/2009 3:00PM


You are certainly in my prayers, and tonight is UNITED prayer night. I am sure you are not only qualified but above and beyond.

If you really & truly want this position just lay claim to it in the MIGHTY Name of JESUS!!

Myself, I have learned to always ad to my prayer,,, (if I am not 100 % sure it would be the best for me),,, I ask GOD to make the decision... and for HIS will to be done.

That has saved me from some bad situations that to my mortal eyes looked great...but on the inside weren't all they were cracked up to be...if you know what I mean!! You are a smart cookie, and I am sure you will be fine!!

LOVE & HUGS, LaceEjo11

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