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I'm In The Dog House Again

Tuesday, August 28, 2012

This morning I suggested that my partner test his blood before he go to his doctor appointment today. DH has had diabetes (or pre-diabetes) for 8 years. He has never focused on turning his 'numbers' around.

I had brought the tester to the breakfast table but he continued to butter his bagel... I wasn't going to begin the prayer over our meal until he tested. Hmmm, a bit of a stand-off.
He told me he didn't want his toast to go hard. I came back with a flippant, "Any excuse in the book."

He tested. When the numbers are bad, he won't tell me what the reading was. He didn't mention the number.

Aaaaannnnyway, if the doctor asks what the reading was, there will be a very updated sample. Somehow DH thinks he only has to test once a month so he has very little info for a doctor's query.

This health challenge is not mine. I know this. I only want to encourage healthy eating, more exercise and regular taking of his medicine.

I often wonder what I can do to be helpful AND not make him mad. Usually I ignore his poor choices and self-delusion.

Thanks for letting me let off steam.

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IUHRYTR 8/30/2012 11:50PM

    Call his doctor and ask if she/he would talk to him about his habits. -- Lou

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NOLAZYBUTT110 8/30/2012 1:31PM

    P.S. as I s \ee it hubby is in the dog house, hes the one that should be in control of his diabetes and if hes not caring about the end results... he soon will be in the dog house, because without feet he cant walk! Or enjoy life and be independant. He will be in the Dog house! Tell him that! Susana

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NOLAZYBUTT110 8/30/2012 1:28PM

    well, I lost a friend and a neighbor to diabetes! You can tell him him that or ask him if he would like to be footless.... because when your diabetes gets real bad, they cut your feet off many times due to gangrene and after that many people die due to
it and die within a year of lsoing a foot!

I also lost a neighbor to this disease. But worst... its when a fmaily member has it and you see them slowly die. I have seen my sister deteriorate so quicklyocne she went into memopause! First thing I noticed was her hair, it got so thin and grey... like over night. I saw her a month apart and it struck me how fast she turned grey and then it got paper thin. Now she is bald after a few years! Because when you eat uncontrollably sugar laden foods that is some of the ways it affects your cells! Balding and thin hair! The elast of the issues!

My sister does not watch what she eats and when she, she stops eating altogether and ends up in the hospital from the side affects of it! Its just as bad. Her hair is so thin, her butt is twice the size of mine, she walks with a walker and and it has even affected her mind. I wonder how many more months or years she has because she has a foot that is swollen and its becoming hard for her to get around. Its not helaing as fast as it sued to when she would bhhit her toe. Now I am thinking gangrene may be setting in. She just ignores it because she has no feeling in it. Scary! She does not take care of her self and all we can do, is help her the ebst we can to focus on her health! Its all you can do soemtimes, is nag!

All I can do is help her see that she needs to take care and take control of her own health if she wants to be around for her grandchildren. We remind her constantly and if we did not, we would not be showing her love. But we do, and that is why people nag. Give your husband a copy of this blog response if you like, because once the damage is done it take s a long time to heal. Sores are just the beginning, when they dont heal. The skin then heals funny and gets rough or gets gangren and its then they ahev to cut your feet off. (I knwo a man who had his whole leg ampuated! Not funny! Now eh relies ona wheel chair to get around, but hardly ever goes any where! He stopped living as we saw him deteriorate. He died last year! He left a whole in many peoples lives!

The drying out of the skin is the least of the skin issues due to diabetes. You jsut cant be ignorance of it! Or ignire it, becasue this disease speeds up as oyu age! (My sister looks 86 and she is only 59! )

Sugar is in every thing practically. You cant live without it. Or with too much of it! But its the kinds of suagr that affects everything. Even your brains cells need sugar to reak down sugar and are affected by it. Its why many get senile because of sugar. Boxed and swet things is laoded with sugar. Its even in green veggies but it has the least amount of sugar. You cant avoid it completely. But sugar is like sandpaper to every cell in your body. By the time the host realize the damage, many times it is too late to correct it. But if caught in time and the diet is change, the bodyc an ehal within 6 months. (I reverse the dry skin and slow helaing on my body just by eating less junk food! And my skin ahs improved and so ahve my nerves. They do ehal if you catch it sooner. ) My feet were the first things I noticed of the diabetes and I am just borderline now. but I had sugar over 210. I did not want to be as bad as my sister. She was sick all the time. It affected her so bad that her sugar was destroying her blood. Her blood count was so low they did not know how she was staying alive and living. Because she ate candy non stop and junk food all the time. She did nto eat much of any veggies or protein! (Now she does) We scared the crap out of ehr by showing her a person who had no feet and said, that will be you ia year if you dotn stop eating candy and junk food! Now she eats better. But the person who needs to take control is the host of the body, not a siblings or parent or spouse. Tell your Hubby if he wants to be around for his kids or grandkids, he best get his act together. Because many times its too late by the time a man figures it out! If he has dry skin and its wrinkled, he still could reverse it hsi diabtes.But it takes diligence, a changed diet and paying attention to the Blood sugar numbers! And get them down! Dotn wait until your on insulin!

I am just borderline diabetic now, but I had to learn to take control of my own helath and stop eating so mcuh carbohydrate foods. I had to learn what not to eat; and taking your blood sugar readings BEFORE you get full blown diabetes is what oen needs to do! Seeing the blood sugar at 210 scared the crap out of me! But seeing my sister who is several years younger than myself is what scared me! I did not want to end up like her! Bald and walking with a bum food about to be cut off! Its sickening to see her sores! And the smell of ehr sores, unbearable! If anything does nto scare a man, make him bandage his own feet if it ever happens to him. It does nto take long, just a bump foot can do ti to you! Its what happened to my sister. She ahd no feeling in her feet and she just bumped the edge of her bed, now she has a sore that oozes all the time! Disgustingly ugly and such a nuisance to take care of such sores. Worst than bed sores! !

But if your Hubby starts to eat right, as little as 6 months of eating healthier can reverse diabetes! And exercising helps by lsoing that added weight! Diabetes can eb reverse or even delays the damage...IF your not too old! Because as you age the RNA and DNA are affected, and you dont heal the same way! When there is too much damage to the cells... its why it does not heal as fast or as good. Diabetes can actaully cause lesions on the brain, because all the cells of the whole are affected by diabetes and the body deteriorates.

By the time they feel the senility casued by the diabetes it may be too late! Some people you just cant help...like those in their late 70's or 80s; its too late for them! But cellular structure is when its too late! And it happens faster as you age. Its not the dugar as much as it is the BAD sugars that cause it and too much sugar . Your body cant handle it. It wears the cells inside of the liver, pancreas and other organs you cant see..... that is the damage sugar does to cells! Sugar affects all the cells of the whole body! The body needs suagr but its those GOOD sugars from green veggies! And beans!

Your best sugars are veggies, geen veggies! Stay away from the fruits for a while. No candy, no packaged goods. NO CHIPS! Sometimes if you have to, you have to keep all those foods out of your grocery cart to eep them out of your cupboards before a man will get the picture. You cant trust men to make the right choices. so dont give him any! Sometimes thats the only way to chaneg their diets! Because men are too dumb to take care of their health!If he was, he would take his blood sugar before and after he ate! It shows you what to NOT eat!

Stay away from Juices, candy, cereals (unless they are whole grains) bread and potatoes and spaghetti and macaroni! Dont even buy them! If you can live without them, force him to too!
But if he loved you (you can tell him that) he would be MORE diligent at checking his blood sugar. If hes has excuses like jis work or hes a gardener, make sure he alway wears gloves! You dont want parasites getting into the prick sites after he pricks his finger. They even have new blood testers and most insurances cover for a new machines every year so get an update, maybe that would make it easier if he could test on another part of his body. Because soem men are sissy's, and believe me the fingers get so sore and bruised from alway pricking the same spot! I know becasue I went from being a full blown baby at being a diabetic to borderline.... because I watch my diet and I lost 16 pounds (so far) . Just lowering ones weight that much can make a difference. Keeping below 175 helps! Hope this helps you cpnvince your Hubby.... to show him what he can become and some info Hope this has helped you too. Just tell him, if you did nto love him you woudl just walk away from hsi hhealth issues and nto ask for his blood! lol Good luck. (I know men are lazy or in denial about their weight and other helath issues. I now mine was!) . susana

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DJ4HEALTH 8/30/2012 12:22AM

    Find articles on what the sugar does to the body and also let him know that he can go into a diabetic coma and kill some one if he is driving when that happens. My husband is a diabetic and his sugar was over 400 and the hospital would not release him until he got his sugar down.

Oh make sure that you get them at medical sites so that he does not blow it off.

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GOSPELCLOWN 8/29/2012 10:00PM

    You all are so sweet and supportive. THANK YOU

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MOTTAMAMALOU 8/29/2012 11:50AM

    Anytime. Men can be very difficult with safety issues.

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CAROLJ35 8/28/2012 8:36PM

    Sorry 'bout that! If you are doing the cooking, make it healthy. You can't spoon-feed him and can't insist on him taking the readings. Maybe some tough love letting him know you don't plan on being a care-giver would help.

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SHERIO5 8/28/2012 5:20PM

    Awww gee...I'm so sorry! I can't imagine anything more frustrating, and frightening, than seeing a loved one choose to not care for their body... emoticon

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L*I*T*A* 8/28/2012 3:32PM

    my husband is pre diabetic as well.......
lead by example as best you can..........
i too have tried almost everything and nothing seems to work....
you can lead them to the water but you cannot make them drink it???!!
i say very little now......
blessings and hugs.............lita

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JESSIEJACKS76 8/28/2012 10:37AM

    hugs, it is hard, i think, to see a family member not make the best decisions. We just have to remember that they are their decisions and not ours. emoticon

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Don't Be Pulled Down By Negativity

Monday, August 27, 2012

Do you have a happy image or a cheerful memory? I have a list that I go to to pick myself up on a stress filled day.

My orange quilt always puts a smile on my face. (It's not just babies that love their cosy 'blankee". )

I like to look through art books. Painters have always fascinated me. A bad day at work can send me straight to the Emily Carr, Group of Seven, or the cheerful colours of the impressionists.

When I go for a walk outside, I will sing to myself... sometimes in French just to practice the words.

I was "there" for a co-worker who was distraught and I'm glad I listened... but it took me quite a while to get myself back up to a simple happy place. whew!

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SHERIO5 8/28/2012 9:21AM

    Your co-worker is blessed to have you! I'm glad you worked your way back to a happy place! I have kept and collected a few beautifully illustrated children's books that can put me in a calmer, happier place just by reading through them.

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KINEPS 8/28/2012 9:08AM

    Karen -- if you like looking at art books, my daughter's professor suggested a book: Picture This, Perception and Composition by Molly Bang. It sounds really interesting!


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L*I*T*A* 8/27/2012 10:17PM

    awesome reminders..........
thanks for sharing........
blessings and hugs....lita

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MRSCLAUS46 8/27/2012 10:07PM

    Love your pics--you look like you were an amazing clown! My go to thoughts or memories are walks in the woods and picking berries in the warm summer sun--and oohhhh--swimming until my arms were tired and my legs felt like rubber when I finally emerged from the water---------Thank you so much for starting me down memory lane! emoticon emoticon

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Have a Great Saturday!

Saturday, August 25, 2012

Let your troubles go for the day and feel some wind in your face! Get the muscles moving! Sing a song to yourself.

Be your best friend if only for one day.

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IUHRYTR 8/25/2012 10:36PM

    My day was filled with bowling practice (two hours), grocery shopping, dog's nails cut at vets, refill at pharmacy picked up, mowing the front yard (one hour), cleaning a bathroom, laundry, ironing, now relaxing after a hot shower by watching a movie on TV while waiting for the sleep pill to kick in. So I got my muscles moving and burned more than 1,700 calories. emoticon -- Lou

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BABY_GIRL69 8/25/2012 4:33PM

    I love it too!! God bless, Dee

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SHERIO5 8/25/2012 3:44PM

    Great idea! Hope you enjoyed your bike ride today!

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L*I*T*A* 8/25/2012 12:32PM

    love it!!!
thanks for the awesome idea!!!
will do today!!!
blessings and hugs...lita

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Do You Plan Your Weekends?

Thursday, August 23, 2012

What do you do with time off? Do activities just happen or have you got a list with a pen at -the- ready to scratch ACCOMPLISHED beside your goals?

I often allow others to make up the bulk of my weekend duties. "Hey, Karen, will you hem my trousers if I visit on Saturday?" "Karen, I need you to drop over and help me paint my living room." "What are you doing on Friday after work? I could use your help."
And that's how it goes.

By Monday, I haven't done much on my To-Do list.

Perhaps you are the opposite. Do you focus on at least 5 of those chores on the list? Laundry-- DONE!, vacuuming-- DONE!, dishes--DONE!... and so your weekend goes.

I am ready to break away and take neither of these approaches. There is no cabin or cottage to visit, I don't own a boat or a tent. That leaves me to decide on a bicycle trip or heading out with the car.

What will you be doing with your upcoming weekend?

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GOSPELCLOWN 8/24/2012 10:56AM

    I think I need to take my bike out and find a nice beach to read my latest book.

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IUHRYTR 8/24/2012 5:13AM

    Bowling practice Sat. at noon, mowing the yards, trimming bushes and trees, laundry, cleaning house, decluttering, all the domestic chores that pile up during the week. But I also make time to read, watch video movies and play with the dogs. Mostly, I need to force myself outside to enjoy being out of the house, sunning, yard work, or something. -- Lou

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L*I*T*A* 8/23/2012 5:02PM

    i exercise one day of the weekend and the other is a rest day.....
we kind of flow with what is happening.....
blessings and hugs....lita

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SHERIO5 8/23/2012 11:31AM

    Hmmm...sounds like you could use some planned "me" time?

I'm a lot like you in that I often let others "plan" my weekends, and days! But I am not employed right now, so I am able to take some me time..but often it's around other's schedules.

I think you are worth spending some time on yourself, what would you like to do? I am planning to spend some time bargain hunting at several Thrift Stores looking for treasures on Friday...unless someone needs me!


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KCWIND 8/23/2012 11:19AM

  Exercising! And visiting my Grandsons!!!!

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Home-Sewn Shirt

Sunday, August 19, 2012

He is a photo of the Hawaiian shirt that I have been working on. I am relieved to report that it fits him well!

I think it might go to his office on him tomorrow.

I hope this photo is not too large, as I really don't know what I'm doing with Picasso and picture sizes.

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IUHRYTR 8/24/2012 5:14AM

    Looking good! Now for a lei and some hula dancers! -- Lou

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KINEPS 8/21/2012 10:00AM

    Great job -- it fits him well!!!


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ADRIENALINE 8/20/2012 4:52PM

    Wow, Perfect fit!

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DJ4HEALTH 8/19/2012 9:44PM

    Nice job and it looks good too!! emoticon

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PEGGY-BEE 8/19/2012 4:17PM

Very nice work! and the fabric is pretty cool, not flashy at all.
Love it,

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AVANELL 8/19/2012 3:28PM

    Very nice shirt! Looks like you could go into business!

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SHERIO5 8/19/2012 2:30PM

    Nice work!

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L*I*T*A* 8/19/2012 1:59PM

    looks awesome!!!
what a great work you do...such talent!!!

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