Tuesday, May 31, 2011
I am making a choice this morning not to phone an acquaintance that I know is off balance. She is a lady who drops into my place of business and tries to talk to me while I'm working. (It's during the weekend, she figures, so it doesn't count.) HUH???
Anyway, to keep her from distracting me while I'm "on the clock", I have met with her for a coffee off site... away from the mall. If she wants to live there-- fine. I do not live for the mall.
Last "weeekend" for me (Monday-Tuesday), she phoned to get together. I declined. I had 25 pieces of fabric cut and was working on the lining of a new spring/ summer coat. I wasn't about to leave home for a coffee.... that goes on for 4 hours.
Today I COULD phone her and have visit. (She was good on the weekend and stayed away from my place of business.) But I am still finishing the coat.
When I think of our 'friendship' I realize she monopolizes the conversation, wanders off to pet dogs if we stroll a park, her hyper-friendliness is annoying, and she is too clingy-needy.
Part of me says, this lady needs help. Is she on her meds? She really does need a friend but I can see why folks would give her the heave-ho.
Today, I would rather stay balanced. I like a day of quietude. I can sew or do any craft that I have been delaying... week after week.
There is a niggling Christian voice saying, "She needs a Christian influence. She is desperate for a friend." But I already I know she won't talk about anything that I believe in.
God isn't her thing.
So, today I choose to luxuriate by being by myself. I'll be with royal blue polyester fabric and some fancy buttons. My needle and thread will act as my therapy. This is my Sabbath and I won't be worn down by others.
You can shake your finger and tell me I'm neglecting my duty. I won't mind.
You may have had so-called friendships in your past where the other person sucked you lifeless... Are you in one now?
Relationships. Spare time. Where is the balance?