Wednesday, October 28, 2009
I got an email from my sister who just hung up on my mom. When my sister needs a bit of support, she doesn't usually phone Mom, so this is disappointing.
My sister, "S" is a young widow with a 12 year old daughter and 14 year old son. She works full time and has both kids in hockey. Their time and finances are often stretched to the max.
When sis phones our mother, there isn't the sympathy you might expect. Mom doesn't value the time & money spent on equipment, practices, games and exhibitions. Telling my sister to get the kids out of hockey isn't the answer she wants to hear. Telling sis that she's doing too much isn't what she wants to hear either.
Sometimes we women just want to unburden and have a listening ear...
Have you ever needed to purge your troubles and all your supporters want to do is SOLVE your problems? sigh
Sure, my sister could use a full time housekeeper, a part time nanny, a rich partner, a chauffeur, cook and maybe a few more support staff. (Some days, couldn't we all???)
I'm 5 provinces away and feel pretty useless at this point.
Since I've read her email, I've had a prayer for her, asked some Spark friends to pray, and I haven't sent any reactive email back. I hope she is doing all right.
If you have a friend or relative who needs to be heard, try with all your energy to listen and sympathize this week. Don't solve. Don't poo-poo their trials.
And if you see your sister sometime soon, give her a hug. I sure wish I could hug "S" this afternoon...