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Sweet Sweep September

Thursday, August 28, 2014

My list of resolutions for August was long. Overall, I am pleased with how it went. Some things, like packing for tomorrow, cooking, and cleaning were a challenge. On the other hand, exercising and turning off the TV and doing fun things were easy. The big pleasant surprise was that turning off the TV and engaging in Ďjoyí talk made my husband very happy. I felt good too. It creates a loop of happiness. I want to explore this a bit more in September. Towards that end, I want to be sweet in September.

I will act like everyone I encounter is my neighbor. That means Iíll tolerate their quirks better. If their pace is slower than mine, Iíll assume there is a good reason for it: something hurts, they are being carefulÖ Also, Iíll squelch the urge to debate someoneís ideas, and I will not think about how Iím going to top their story. Instead Iíll just listen. Iíll nod my head and look to them for cues on how they want me to respond. Iíll be as enthusiastic or sympathetic as the circumstance calls for: Iíll be sweet!

The other thing I want to work on is sweeping away all the stuff that taunts me every time I visit my garage. There is stuff out of place in other parts of the house too and in the office and in the car. I will put some order in my stuff this month. I need to learn how to do this and this clean sweep might take longer than a month. This month, Iíll focus on the boxes in the garage.

There is one nutrition habit I want to work on too: drink less soda.

Here are the specific things to measure:
emoticon No dark colored soft drinks.

emoticon Sort the stuff in boxes in the garage for 45 minutes and spend 15 doing something fun, like reading, listening to music, dancingÖDo this cycle for three hours at a time during the weekend.

emoticon Spend 15 minutes before going to bed to clean up. (And pack for tomorrow.)

emoticon Spend 15 minutes a day reading books/blogs/ideas about organization.

emoticon When I have the urge to get annoyed with someone, give them the benefit of the doubt. Think about what might motivate them. Is there a noble intent behind the action? What would Mr. Fred Rogers do?

emoticon Listen attentively. Ask follow up questions.

emoticon When I feel like I know better what should be done, let the thought go and let it be.

emoticon When I am annoyed with a situation, Iíll think about an alternative way to look at it.

Here is some sample before and after thoughts:
emoticon Honey brings home five blocks of cheese: Iíll think, ďWhere are we going to put it and how much will go bad before we eat it.Ē Iíll say, ďGreat! Letís think of recipes we could make with this cheese.Ē

emoticon The garage door opener doesnít work. Iíll think, ďNothing works around here.Ē Iíll say, ďGreat! I get to get out of the car and walk a few extra steps today.Ē

the first week--I started with the garage well, then hit a snag. There are boxes that do not belong to me and honey is unsure about getting rid of them. Also, I found that some things I want to keep need a home. I have things I've written I want to keep, but they are loose papers or pages in a notebook. I need to find a place for them. I think I'll get a cardboard file box and put some manila folders to keep the things. Now, I also have some art work I need to figure out how to keep. I know there are holders for these things. I just need to purchase them. I plan to also put up some shelves in the garage, but there is still stuff to weed. The first weekend went well and the second weekend not so much because it was a busy week.

Being sweet is hard when I'm hungry or anxious about time. I was mindful about thinking about others as neighbors, but I didn't always act well. I don't like waiting and that brings out the zoom zoom instinct which has me tripping over others. I'm sure they don't like it. Then, I also need to figure out what to do about people that are not being very aware of others. When do I say something? When do I not? Finding the answer is tough.

Keeping away from dark soft drinks has 100% compliance. I'm glad it is easier than the other things.

  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

JKPONYGIRL 9/11/2014 6:35AM

    I love your blog. It hits so close to home. I have been working on these same things for a while now. It feels good to be sweet, but it is not easy. It feels good to clean and de clutter but takes so much time.

Great job on the no soda. I have not had ANY in years. I don't even like it anymore! I do like water and sparkling water though and I drink LOTS of it!

Keep up all tour hard work!


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CHRISTINEBWD 8/29/2014 10:59AM

    Wow, you really have thought out a lot of things you are going to work on. That is really great!! emoticon

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    Something tells me you are already pretty sweet!

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HOTPINKCAMARO49 8/28/2014 6:40PM

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GEORGE815 8/28/2014 6:18PM

    Great advice to follow!

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August 2014

Monday, August 04, 2014

This year is past the half way mark and I it feels like I am spinning my wheels and not getting anywhere. I hope Iíve learned something about what eating for hunger feels like. Now, I will focus on the Ďeasyí stuff: Action. These are my ten actions for August.

1) Turn off the media (TV, computer, cell phone) by 9pm Sunday-Thursday.
2) Lights out and sawing logs by 10pm Sunday-Friday.
3) Hit the fitness center by 6:30am on Monday(Swim/Walk), Wednesday(Swim/Walk), Thursday(Strength) and before 5pm on Sunday (Strength) Swim/Walk on Saturday AM. Skate on Tuesday AM and Friday AM.
4) Cook for the week on the weekend.
5) Smooches for honey when I arrive home. 5 minutes of meditation. Joy talk in the evening. M-F
6) Laundry, clean kitchen counters and kitchen sink 1x week.
7) Clear out one box per week from the garage.
8) Pack for tomorrow Sunday-Thursday.
9) 3-10 minute movement breaks M-F
10) Do something fun or novel each week(end)

Daily updates at my community journal:

Week one results: I need to work on packing for tomorrow, cleaning my kitchen, and my garage. #1 has helped me focus on honey in the evening and that makes him happy, which makes me happy.

Week two results: I want to get back on my schedule as soon as I can after it gets 'off track.' I had a late night last week and it screwed up my am workouts most of the week.
I want to pack my lunch and an evening sandwich so I am not so hungry when I get home. I want to do the household stuff that I know will help me feel better in the long run instead of watching Netflix... I can still 'visit' with honey. He can join in or recline, but I need to get my garage back. I think that is a big task and I'll have to focus on it next month. This month I'm going with the morning and evening things that make me and honey happy.

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JKPONYGIRL 8/7/2014 2:46PM

    I love your list! I think I'll borrow #5 & #7!! emoticon

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    Definitely a list worthy of your efforts! I think I'll borrow a couple of those goals and make them mine too!

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CHRISTINEBWD 8/5/2014 3:22PM

    Hi! Those sound like awesome goals! I love the "joy talk in the evening" really well and I find myself with that goal too. :)

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    Looks like some great goals. I hope that you will do well with them. I'm cheering for you my friend. Love ya

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    Those all sound like great streaks to uphold!

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2014 Mid-Way

Friday, July 11, 2014

It is time for the half year assessment. Letís look at how things are going:
1) Intuitive eating:
a. I am thicker and heavier than I was at the end of last year. The smaller pants I bought in December sit in the closet. I think this is mostly due to eating out and not cooking at home.
b. I am learning to eat for hunger. Slowly I am undoing the habits of the past. Iím taking small steps, but Iím stepping towards my goal. Iíve found myself tossing yucky food that seemed good when I selected it. That is huge! I would have eaten it in the past.

2) Fitness: I will do some fitness assessments and compare them with early in the year. Iíll update my measurements in SparkPeople.

3) There has been some fun fitness in 2014. Iíve gotten to the pool more often. Iíve gotten to a nice park nearby. Iím learning how to ice skate. I did a 5k. I got a group of coworkers together on many Fridayís of the year for a midafternoon workout.

4) I got a bit of a weird health issue. I had a bout of vertigo. I also see my mom and dadís ups and downs with age-related health issues. This makes me more aware of priorities. Also a niece was born! Seeing both ends of the spectrum on age has an impact.

For the rest of the year I will continue learning how to eat for hunger, learning how to have fun on the ice, and learning how to get stronger. I will continue my visits to the pool and I will continue examining my thoughts and feelings when I reach for the comfort of baked goods.

I spend a lot of time spinning my wheels fretting about getting started when a task looks overwhelming or there are too many responsibilities calling for my attention. Iíve been forcing myself to just do something. Having something done is better than having nothing done, if only for my psyche.

Iíve found that getting a nice physical activity in the morning makes me happier and that is why I like to do it in the morningóswim, walk, ice skateÖ.Then the onerous tasks donít seem as bad.

For July I will focus on something that has slipped a bit: cooking and packing my lunches! I also need to focus on strength training more

Update 7/22: I've taken body measurements and I some are 0.25" up. There are some that have down by the same amount. However, the locations are exactly the opposite of where I would like it. My midsection is bigger and my arm is thinner.

I've lost my way a bit with sleep. I am setting a strict bedtime of 10pm.

I have been cooking all month and I feel great about it.

I need to make a good effort to pack the night before. I haven't done enough of that.

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    It's always good to take a minute to regroup & check on your progress. Good job! Here's hoping much success to you for the 2nd half of the year.

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CHRISTINEBWD 7/12/2014 10:56AM

    I've never thought to look at my year, either half way though, or even at the end. I like this idea and will have to try it!

Eating home cooked meals and lunches have always worked for me too! Hopefully you will get back on track with that.

All the best!!!

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REALTYLADYLISA 7/11/2014 10:33PM

    It's always good to take an all-encompassing look at the plan and where we need to make changes to it...good luck with fine-tuning your plan and seeing more success the second half of the year!!! emoticon

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Joyful June

Friday, May 30, 2014

How did May go? Well, it is hard to tell. I donít exactly know how to measure the changes Iím trying to make. Iím going to make some goals for June that are easier to track, so I can feel awesome about checking off that Iíve done them. I think I need to feel good, especially in unstructured time like the evening, to make the nutrition goals easier to meet.

The evening, after work, is one of the most difficult times for me to eat properly. Sometimes I eat my feelings. I need to shift into joy in the evenings.

My goal for June is to make the evenings joyful by
1) Being joyful when I get home.
a. I will give my husband a proper hello with a hug and a kiss.
b. I will not pollute the environment with negative talk or criticism or gossip.
c. If I donít feel like it, Iíll do it anyway. I will act happy until I feel happyÖor go to sleep.

2) Taking a moment or two or more to transition from the anxiety of my commute to a joyful evening. That means Iíll go upstairs before heading to the kitchen. The only thing Iíll do before the transition is to hug and kiss honey hello. Iíll shower and/or change. Iíll meditate or listen to music or stretch for at least five minutes.

3) Eating for fuel to meet my bodyís needs. Iíll follow the tactics I spelled out for May so I will avoid the grazing and binging.

For the week of June 1st I will
Do #1a above every day.
Do #1b, #1c, #2, #3 2x during the week.

Week 1 went well. Most importantly these goals kept me from mindless eating because it kept me calm and happy.

For week two, I'll do things 4x.

Week 2 is still going well. I am keeping this on my mind by having a poster up and by my own goals on the spark people start page. I have been neglecting the cooking and the packing a bit, but I'm still feeling good about my coping with emotions and being joyful.

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TORTISE110 6/18/2014 9:56AM

    I like your blog! Love your attitude and how you frame your goals.

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BESSHAILE 6/18/2014 7:06AM

    Oh. I LOVE how you think.

LOL - and I too, find the world goes much better when I get home with a smile on my face.

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LISAN0415 6/8/2014 5:28AM

    I enjoyed your blog; your goals are awesome and totally do-able.

We all need to live more joyfully, after all we only get one life!

Have a joyful weekend :)


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DAWNWATERWOMAN 5/30/2014 11:31PM

    Excellent goals. I love the idea of a JOYFUL JUNE!!! Bright blessings to you.

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CHRISTINEBWD 5/30/2014 7:55PM

    This sounds like a very good plan! Kinda like "fake it until you make it"! I hope this works well for you and that your family life will be happier! :)

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I don't like Sundays

Monday, May 12, 2014

On Sunday I felt a push to have too many treats because I was resenting that I had to do a bunch of chores to get ready for the week. The contrast between the fun weekend and the onerous work week was especially obvious because I just got back from a three day visit to a resort.

It was my first lounge-style vacation. It was great. I took some books and nail polish to fill in the free time, but I never got to them. I filled my time with the newspaper and visits to the spa. When I was relaxed, I didn't feel a big pull from the baked goods or any other type of food. I ate according to my bodyís needs.

Then I got home. I had a list of chores to do. It felt like I had no choice. I do enjoy getting my house clean, but I get anxious that I can never complete the tasks. I think it is that anxiety that directs me to the cupboard to see what I can pop in my mouth on my way to folding laundry and on the way back when I check the pot on the stove.

I know that this pull is all in my head. Maybe if I see Sundays as opportunity to prepare for a productive week, Iíll feel less anxious. The tasks will not seem so tedious. Maybe if I cut myself some slack and not notice the spots on the kitchen floor, it will be more fun. My husband doesnít see the spots on the floor. I think he is happier for it.

Maybe I need to change the title to this blog to something like ďSundays offer me the choice to prepare for a productive week,Ē then it will be more fun and seem more like I am in charge and then I will not feel the pull from the cupboard because that pull only comes when I feel like compensating for feeling out of control in other areas.

Ö2014 is becoming clearer as I think about things like this. This is the year to eat when hungry and stop when satisfied. This is the most important thing. I like moving, but exercise will not get me to a happy weight. My mind has to change first.

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ANAKIE 5/13/2014 7:10PM

    Hate to say it, but I sometimes feel the same way. Sundays are my busiest day of the week, unless of course we have something special going on that takes days of prep.

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DAWNWATERWOMAN 5/12/2014 10:13PM

    Glad that you're taking the time to blog about your concerns. I'm cheering for you to stay on task. Bright blessings to you my friend.

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MOTTAMAMALOU 5/12/2014 6:56PM

    Sunday is a day to do as you please. Enjoy the day.

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CHRISTINEBWD 5/12/2014 6:38PM

    It sounds like writing this blog has helped clarify what your true feelings are and it is pointing you in the right direction.

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