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The Chocolate Race

Wednesday, September 01, 2010

Because life is short...running is hard & chocolate tastes good - what more of a reason do you need to enter a race!

This is definitely going to be an annual tradition (along with Dirty Girl - same organizer) and we hope to make it an entire Girls Weekend Getaway next year as the Saturday before the race also offers bike tours throughout the area. As you can see, the course is beautiful and we (SPIRITRUN & I) were in it for the fun (and of course the chocolate!) and did not set out with any time goals at all - we were there for a good time. Was incredibly hot by the time we finished - I did have to drop back & top up my electrolytes big time and struggled the last few kilometres but that was just my bodies way of telling me to take it easy in the heat - definitely had to listen!
Anyway, I highly recommend this event if you can next year - it really is for everyone as they offer 5k, 10k, Half marathon Run/Walk and the goodies along the way and at the end are well worth it!!

Jen & I with the official pace care.

The start/end location
Along the route... Oh, and another great thing about this race - our clinic coach helps with the organization of this event so most of the volunteers along the route were from the Barrie Running Room - it was great having their encouragement along the way!









Kawartha Ice Cream at the end of the race - "Death by Chocolate". We also received coupons for fudge, truffles, rice krispie square dipped in chocolate and strawberries dipped in chocolate - and it was so hot we had to eat it all (actually we didn't) before it melted...
We are now officially "Sugar Momma's"

  
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SPIRITRUN 11/15/2010 10:33AM

    It was deeee-lish!
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MANDA_MICHELLE 9/24/2010 10:47AM

  awww what a great race! its in my hometown where i grew up! i only found out about it like a day before it happened, but hopefully i can do it next year! i will have to remind myself!

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ANITABREAK2 9/4/2010 10:27PM

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Congrats on a great race!

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LADYSNOWFALL 9/2/2010 2:53PM

    Oooh! Sounds decadent!

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XHOOSIERLOSER 9/1/2010 1:42PM

    I might take up running if I can run this race!

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JEN-HAIR-RUN 9/1/2010 11:25AM

    This race is like a dream come true! I will run for chocolate! And what a beautiful course.

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DRAGONFLY1974 9/1/2010 10:50AM

    I'd love to do that race!!!!!! Sounds and looks awesome!!

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GEOGIRL 9/1/2010 10:13AM

  Sounds like an absolutely fun experience! I'm always looking for new "destination" races so I'll have to put this one on my to-do list!

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PINKCOCONUT 9/1/2010 9:42AM

    That sounds like so much fun!!!!!!

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TRIATHLONBABE 9/1/2010 8:19AM

    Will run for Chocolate, I see that totally! Too much fun and what great goodie stuff!

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JHADZHIA 9/1/2010 8:04AM

    WOW!! Congrats in finishing the race in spite of the heat! What a beautiful area to run in!! Looks fabulous! Neat things happening along the way looks like! I love calyspso music! I sooo love chocolate too, would I ever get a fix if I could ever go to that LOL. Glad you two are making it a regular event, you need to have a fun run in there too!

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WISLNDR 9/1/2010 8:03AM

    How fun! Great photos, thanks for sharing!

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If your friends jumped off a bridge, would you???

Wednesday, March 17, 2010

Who hasn't heard that one in their lifetime? Or, said it to your own kids... Now of course this question is usually posed after having done something that is maybe...not so smart...
I usually consider myself quite independent (to the point of being subborn!) and I have been known to get into things just to prove someone wrong! I also know that although I may have grand ideas (ie. wish lists) I don't always follow through either...
But, how about this scenario?
You sign up for SparkPeople because a friend tells you about it & you are intrigued....
You start to exercise more & try new activities because a friend not only suggests it but is willing to join you...
You sign up for half marathon training because you just completed your first 5k and it was so much fun....and you now have a friend that is willing to do it too....
You run through the winter, not just because you have paid for the clinic (I have wasted so much money on "diets" that despite not being able to afford it, money spent is not always enough motivation for me!) but because your friend expects you there... and eventually, the new friends you make expect you there too...
You start to eat cleaner becuase so many of your friends are and look at the results they have had...and you realize it's not a fad (ie ANOTHER DIET!), it's smart and it's healthy!
You join "challenges" on SP knowing that if your friends can do it, you can too... And if not, well there is the support - both giving & receiving because hey, that's what friends do for each other...
You check in daily with SP and learn that no matter what, someone somewhere has felt the same way as you at any given moment and if they can keep at it you can too...
You start to sign up for races even though you are scared spitless of not being able to finish strong... or finish at all for that matter, but for once TRYING is just as important as DOING... (Plus it really is a great feeling to think that you have reached a point that you can sign up!)
You start to think of trying other "athletic endeavours" that prior to this you would never have considered because...you've got it...your friends are too!!
So, back to the original question at hand... Well as a matter of fact, if it was my SP friends I probably would jump off that bridge... (And for God's sake Jen don't get any ideas - I'm just speaking figurativaly!!) so far they seem to be leading me in the right direction.... And even though I might have that "OMG what have I done?" moment on occassion (ok - regularily!) once the realization that I have done it has sunk in, it's usually quickly followed by "what's next?" because in reality I am having way too much fun following my friends off that bridge!!
So, my friends- take a deep breath and JUUUUUUMMMMP!!!

Oh ya, the whole point of this blog - just got registered for Dirty Girls 30k & Run4Chocolate Half Marathon - yep, if Jen (SPIRITRUN) is involved, chances are I am too... Copycat? Maybe...I like to think of it as more of a Thelma & Louise kind of thing - just without the car going off the cliff - we all have our bridges, nice to have someone along for the jump...Although there is absolutely no way I am signing up for a 50k, now way, no how...this year....

  
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LADYSNOWFALL 3/20/2010 5:35PM

    LOL! Love your "this year..."!

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LDY_ALI_79 3/17/2010 11:24PM

    This blog was incredible! I agree that SP is very contagious! People get to doing things you never thought were possible or obtainable & your curiosity gets the best of you!

Rock on superstar because that's what you & your friend are!
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USARUNNERGIRL 3/17/2010 11:07PM

    LOVE, LOVE, LOVE it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Woohoo. Let's JUUUUMMMMMMMMPPPPP!

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TADTURC 3/17/2010 10:09PM

    Im reading to JUUMMPP with you after reading this blog!

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KARVY09 3/17/2010 10:01PM

    You guys have an awesome friendship and I love following you both here on Spark! I wish I had an active buddy who pushed me along and raced with me. Keep it up!

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SPIRITRUN 3/17/2010 9:48PM

    Nothing I have ever read in the whole wide world has ever made me feel as happy, warm and fuzzy as this blog. I am having way too much fun, too, and I owe it to you for inspiring me, too. We are the Thelma and Louise of running, fun and fitness!

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ANITABREAK2 3/17/2010 12:04PM

    From one stubborn person to another.... congrats on signing up for more running fun.... though jumping off a bridge would be quicker and less painful....LOL.

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PINKCOCONUT 3/17/2010 11:55AM

    If there friends are right, I'd jump off with 'em too! Sometimes you just gotta trust that your friends know what's best for you!

So excited that you're doing Dirty Girls!!!!! I'll so be at the finish line cheering you guys on! Besides, my friend is still going to be running round and round and round for 24 long hours...

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IDAATJE 3/17/2010 9:01AM

    emoticon emoticon on signing up for those races (Wow 30K!)!! And I think you're lucky to be able to run with someone else. I'm going to jump into a half marathon again, but when and where is still open.

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LKEITHO 3/17/2010 8:48AM

    Great blog! I love this way of thinking! Congratulations to you and to all of your friends who have helped you along the way!

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1st Half-Marathon...not a pretty one...

Tuesday, March 09, 2010

OK, let's put it out there.... First of all, I was just more than willing to let this race and the fact I did it fly under the radar - obviously by my activity feed I had a half marathon scheduled for Sunday (that & whole team thing too...) but still, I don't blog nearly enough so just figured I could get away with a "no comment" kind of a day....
But on the bus on the way home Jen said to me "I feel a blog coming on...you know you have to blog about this..." And of course there's usually a funny side to everything - this unfortunately is more along the lines of potty humor!! Nothing like a good "potty joke" to bring out the nine year old in all of this! And by the end of the trip home, despite still feeling queasy, we had pretty much covered every line/joke possible to describe my race - and definitely crossed a line for too much information!! But at least I was laughing....
Obviously now you get the picture... I don't know what I ate differently - had tried to be very careful all week - maybe it was nerves, but whatever it was it hit me!! And hit me hard!! Tummy troubles like you would not believe (how's that for a delicate way of putting it?)
Now, when I went into this whole half-marathon training program my intention was to just finish - I thought surely to goodness I can do this in less than 3 hours (max time)!! And as the training progressed although I am by no means the fastest I tended to be somewhat in the middle of the pack - good days & not so good days but overall happy with my progress. I was never about the pace/speed just the fact that I was out there all winter running distances that most days I felt surreal about...
As race day approached our coach advised us that we had done the training - we would be ok and there was no reason we wouldn't be able to do this (barring injury of course) so just enjoy the day.... But she (& other experienced runners in the group) also reinforced the fact that you just never know... something could come up, you could have a bad day, a bad run - could be the weather, could be anything but just remember it's only one day, one race - there will be others!
So, I kinda had a goal time in mind but still overall I was just focusing on the fact that we made it through the winter, we were on our way to a HALF MARATHON - this in itself was huge - what started out as "at the back of my mind, some day..." kind of a thing was now in my face - we were actually on a bus to a different city to run 21 friggin km - WTH - and on purpose..... Anyway, my holy cow I would be so thrilled time was 2 1/2 hours - doable although I was worried as my shoes were showing signs of wear & tear and the last few weeks of speed training brought out some new aches & pains - but again, I was here, that in itself was good.
I ran with a friend I met through the group - we had been pretty consistent with our times together & each of us had good & bad days so the intention was to start out together but of course not hold each other back...
We were passed by the 2:15 pace bunny early on and our intention became not to let the 2:30 pace bunny get past us and that became our incentive. My stomach was in knots prior to the race but again, I was more concerned about my shoes & my calves/shins not hurting. We hit the 8km mark & were both feeling good - I was gurgling a bit but still, the sun was shining, it was a great route with lots to look at (big, gorgeous homes overlooking the lake) and the crowds were enough of a distraction that we were both positive about our times so far.... Unfortunately, my tummy decided to ruin the party.... Almost at the half way point I told Julie to go ahead I needed to stop at one of the stations... It went downhill from there.... By the time I hit the 5km left marker I was in agony - I literally couldn't run, kept trying but the fear of all hell breaking loose kept slowing me down!! (I know, too much information, but you know what I mean?) I tell you, I kept looking at the police at every intersection wondering which one of them would consider this an emergency situation and get me back to the finish line - to heck with completing the race!! The power walkers kept passing me and although I told myself it wasn't about the time I was frustrated that I couldn't run (insert potty humor here!!) and my stupid body was not cooperating! I was still smiling at the crowd of well wishers & appreciating the fact that they were there and trying to tell myself to just finish strong- the mind was willing, the body not so much....
I crossed the finish line and it was all I could do to hang on... I started to feel dizzy and nauseous and was thinking "great, let's just pass out now to top this whole thing off!" Needless to say I couldn't bask in the glow of "finishing" I felt crappy and I just wanted to go sit in a quiet corner!!
But, when you run with a group like that...how can you be standoffish? There was concern expressed & they knew it wasn't a good finish but still, I did finish (didn't really have a choice did I?) and there were others that had a great time - not fair to deny them their kudos because I felt lousy.... Julie did finish at the 2:30 mark and Jen - she did 2:08 - an amazing time & how can you not be happy when your friends have done so well??? Celebrations need to be had - I may have been more subdued about it but proud & happy for them all the same. We headed off to the chili area - needless to say, I did not have any but it was good to be part of the camadre of race completed... There were some good times & there were others too that were disappointed in there times, but again, there was satisfaction in having completed it whether it was pretty or not!
Eventually on the ride home the humor of the situation did become clear and of course we had all kinds of lines/descriptions for my race - and as in any thing someone else always has a similar story to tell...and bottom line it could have been a lot worse....
My official chip time was 2:42:09 so really, considering I was aiming for 2:30 that's not bad - it just felt like a much longer time when I was still out there. I did it, I completed a half-marathon - woo hoo - and I know what it feels like to push through...

As Jen put it so well sh*t happens! emoticon (such a good friend!)

So, two days later, still feeling a little off so apparently it was a little more than nerves but our wind up party is tonight and I'm looking forward to sharing everyone else's experience (I think I have had enough discussion of my own!!) and making future plans... And considering the fact that we've already signed up for Around the Bay (30km) the end of March and a Full Marathon in May I guess I'm in this for the long haul...figuratively & literally so what the heck... And next time.... Imodium....

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***I apologize for any visuals this may have caused, but really, it is funny (now) & yes, it did need a blog!

  
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LKEITHO 3/15/2010 9:52AM

    Great job finishing when many others would have quit! Congratulations on completing the half. The next one can only get better, right?!

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SPIRITRUN 3/14/2010 11:05PM

    Oh my friend, that is a fun recap to read now that it is behind you...no pun intended...oh my gosh, I am still making potty jokes. I need to stop!
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RUNNINGPFUHL 3/14/2010 4:06AM

    You did it!! You finished! I like what John Bingham says: The miracle isn't that I finished, but that I started! :D

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CPRENSCH 3/11/2010 10:47PM

    Well, at least you can be assured you'll never forget your first half marathon. emoticon
Congrats on finishing and considering what was going on ... you should be really proud of that time!

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SAMSPARK1 3/11/2010 2:36PM

    Sorry it didn't quite turn out as planned, but WAY TO GO!!!!!!!!!! You completed your first 1/2 marathon. That's awesome!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Seriously!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I have to say your blog made me chuckle - something I could totally see happening to me....except I am no where near the 1/2 marathon mark....yet! :)

P.S. A friend of mine is doing the 30k Around the Bay also!

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REMEMBER2BME 3/11/2010 1:26PM

    I can't believe you hit such a good time while sick. Great job.

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CREATINGAMANDA 3/11/2010 12:45PM

    Oh my goodness - you poor thing! I can only imagine how uncomfortable that must have been. BUT you did it! You finished it and with not too shabby a time either! soooo ...

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SEATTLESIMS 3/11/2010 12:25PM

    sorry your 1/2 marathon wasn't as rewarding as you had hoped..those tummy troubles happen!!
but damn, your time was pretty good!!
Now, you can try again, and KNOW you will do better..


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PINKCOCONUT 3/11/2010 11:56AM

    Oh man! Sorry to hear your tummy ruined the party but you're right, you STILL came in at a respectable time so good for you! Just think, your next half will be an automatic PR! :D

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MJASR5 3/11/2010 11:38AM

    Congrats on finishing! I, too have had those tummy issues on my long runs. It is so frustrating! Good luck on your full marathon. emoticon

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RUNDARCYRUN 3/10/2010 7:52AM

    Congrats on finishing your first half!! I laughed so hard reading this, not AT you, but because I dealt with the SAME junk on my first half last year! At least you finished, and that is great. Way to push through, in spite!

I have been trying to fix my tummy problems myself... Just posted a topic about this on here, and someone posted a link to a Runner's World article about that very thing that I found extremely helpful.

Hope your next race is AWESOME!!

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USARUNNERGIRL 3/9/2010 8:54PM

    Congrats on finishing despite less than desirable circumstances. You are amazing and I personally think you had an awesome ending time.

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XHOOSIERLOSER 3/9/2010 3:53PM

    Oh my - certainly nothing could have prepared you for this! But you did it in good spirits and really, could next time be anything but better! LOL!

Congratulations - you totally deserve them!

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ANITABREAK2 3/9/2010 2:46PM

    Congrats on finishing the race! Who would have thought that you could get not only cardio while running but a nice "cheek" tighting at the same time. emoticon

T

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FREEDOMSTAR 3/9/2010 1:07PM

    emoticonYou did it ! enjoy getting to this point, and you have a goal for next time

cheers
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ELASTI-GIRL 3/9/2010 12:22PM

    A runner's worst nightmare...been there. Congrats on a "job" well-done :) This is the great and crazy thing about running - every day has its own mind. A great time no matter how you look at it. Upright and smiling!

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GEOGIRL 3/9/2010 11:16AM

  Congrats on finishing your half! It sounds like quite the experience and I'm so glad you can laugh about it now. You've got it right, sh*t does happen but your attitude is amazing and you completed the race!

Cheers to your next one being the perfect experience!

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IDAATJE 3/9/2010 9:21AM

    Congrats on finishing, and with a great time!! Woohoo you did it!
My first half is this sunday, and my tummy is already doing some dances when I think about it. But up to know I'm able to tame the nerves and be relaxed about it.
And yes, this will be one of those story's that will become even more funny as time passes!

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KARVY09 3/9/2010 9:16AM

    Congrats on your first half! I think it sounds like a good one, even if you didn't get the time you wanted.

Your next one will be even better!
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If Kathy hits a tree in the forest...will anyone hear?

Saturday, January 02, 2010

That was the qestion I posed yesterday as I came in from my second (EVER) dog sled run.... The response from one of my coaches, "If you tell us you can guarantee EVERYONE will hear cause we will be repeating the story!!" (Hardy breed those dog sledders...not to mention their sense of humor...)
So, besides the fact that I thought some of the trees had moved...that is the FUNNEST THING EVER!!! And scary too - cause if you have learned anything from me it's that speed & I don't go very well together....
As you know, SPIRITRUN is our resident dog sledding expert and I have been waiting for the opportunity to get out with the dogs and a "real sled"... We've always attached our dogs to toboggans and as much fun as that is, when the going gets tough (ie. squirrel!!) it was just a matter of rolling off the toboggan & then catching up to said dogs at the closest tree the aforementioned squirrel ran up!!!
But, "real dog sledding"...
Rule #1 - WHATEVER YOU DO, DON'T LET GO!! This is not easy folks, believe me! My God they go fast - at least it felt like it to me!!! (Keeping in mind I'm the same person that thinks tucking while roller blading is a good way to get yourself killed!)
And then you've got to concentrate on steering (leaning) and applying the brakes with one foot while at the same time avoiding trees and at the back of your mind the entire time is to NOT LET GO!!! This is physically demanding - I really had no idea!!
Truly, I cannot begin to describe how exihilerating that is - it is the coolest feeling ever - standing up behind the sled as your dogs go full tilt (ok, maybe not completely full tilt, yet!) - you know they are having just as much fun as you are too!!
Loved it - want to do some more....so on that note, I better pack up & get out there again - what a great way to spend a winter day! Will leave you with a few pictures...


Jen's DH giving Maddy & Monty their instructions...


Last minute instructions from Jen...probably along the lines DON'T LET GO!!


Maddy & Monty - resting up for the next go....


Of course Monty is born for it!!


Not very often we manage to tucker Maddy out...being a sled dog is HARD WORK!

Happy New Year Everyone!!

  
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HAPPY_AS_IS 2/22/2010 9:27AM

    How awesome! I would be scared of the speed too!

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WISLNDR 2/22/2010 9:14AM

    Wow, that sounds so exciting! The pictures are great, thanks so much for posting this!

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CAROLYN1213 2/22/2010 9:06AM

    Sounds exhilarating! Thanks for sharing the pics of the pups!

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JHADZHIA 1/31/2010 9:27AM

    Loved this blog Kathy! Such fun times! Our Bendix would have done well as a sled dog except for one problem -he loves to chase fur bearing animals and at the first sign of one he would be off -he has hauled down my 6 foot 2 inch step dad many a time bolting to chase something! Having trees around would be a scary thing!

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WONDERWONDERWHO 1/26/2010 10:38PM

    That just looks like so much fun. Had your dogs had experience before??

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USARUNNERGIRL 1/8/2010 1:43PM

    How cool is that. I think you are amazing for trying and FOR NOT LETTING GO! emoticon

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BETHSHEALTH 1/7/2010 2:17PM

    I so want to do that someday. I would love to transplant to Alaska but DH wants to live in Hawaii. So here we are in Kansas where we were born. I got to ride the "dog cart" in Wasilla one year when we went through there on our way to Fairbanks. No snow and tires on the cart with someone else driving. Not the experience you are having.

I've considered bidding to be an Iditarider on the beginning leg of the Iditarod but those go so high in price plus I'd have to get up there to ride.

Breakneck speeds with only two dogs, huh? Imagine a full pack like mushers run the Iditarod with.

I'm a tiny bit jealous Kathy.

Beth

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MICHELLERI 1/5/2010 10:58PM

    Woo Hoo! Way to go Kath! Sounds terrifying while doing it, and exhilarating after! Wish I could have been there too!



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SPIRITRUN 1/3/2010 8:44PM

    WOO HOO Girl! Watched the video today and you look awesome out there. Way to hold on!!!

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IDAATJE 1/3/2010 8:20AM

    Great pics! Bet you had a loads of fun!


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AUNTIE65 1/2/2010 3:26PM

    Sounds like fun... hope you are able to enjoy another winter day with the dawgs soon!

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ELISEL 1/2/2010 2:39PM

    What beautiful dogs. They are lucky to be able to do what they love...run, run, and run some more. Sounds like so much fun.

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KARVY09 1/2/2010 12:05PM

    I love love love your puppies! Looks like so much fun!!!

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ANITABREAK2 1/2/2010 12:02PM

    Looks like fun! It's great to always be learning something new even if it scares the bejeuses out of you. Thanks for sharing.... love the pics.

T

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Christmas Party

Tuesday, December 15, 2009

We can be our own worst enemies, can't we? I was going to make a long story short but ....nah, you need some background here!
I was laid off a year ago - yes, it happens & it was for "financial reasons" so that I could qualify for unemployment - the kicker - it was a FRIEND! I moved here from Saskatchewan to help her with her business (against my better judgement) but there were other incentives to coming back to Ontario at the time too so we made the move.... Needless to say, after 3 years the friendship was definately on the rocks but as an employee I still felt a need to remain loyal... Unfortunately she was having issues of her own & I truly think I was the easiest target - we haven't spoken since! At the time I had thought that maybe we could mend the friendship but things came out afterwards that made it impossible... I'm certainly willing to take some of the blame & of course I wonder what I could have done differently but hindsight is 20/20....

So, flash forward a year - only working part-time- things are tough all over - and this still bothers me - A LOT. I now work for someone else in the same region - he could care less about what happened between us & does not listen to the rumor mill (thank goodness) but I have certainly stayed away from joining in on any region activities in order to avoid running into her...

But, it's the office Christmas party....boss offered to by my ticket (huge deal for him!!!) and I figured it was time to "show my face" again - whatever, I've had too many positives & I really need to let this go - I had made a lot of friends in this office and why should I not get to join in the festivities??

And of course there's the "changes" too - not a huge amount of weight but definately inches & I keep hearing that people can see the difference. Being female, this always helps when confronting someone from the past - male of female, I don't care - might be petty but I needed all the help (confidence) I could get!! And then the dress... Not like anything I've ever worn - size 12 Calvin Klein (yay for Winners!) so I was feeling good & looking forward to wearing it! Had the great shoes & my mom can always be counted on for the bling - got the hair done too - I was prepared to wow them!

But then, I stepped in front of the mirror.... and every single insecurity came out! I ranted & raved, cursed at myself, stomped up & down - you know the drill? Who was I kidding, what made me think I could pull something like this off, still a fat cow and on & on!! Yep, it definately wasn't pretty (my poor daughter had to listen to all this & was doing her best to make me feel better) - I just wanted to rip everything off and stay at home - to heck with the party & really what did I care what all these people thought!!! Needless to say - no pictures - I didn't want to see them - bad enough to look in the mirror - yes, I know, poor attitude but I couldn't shake it... Unfortunately (or more fortunately) Genna was our DD & we were to pick up Chris & his wife - I was already late but they were expecting me.

Deep breaths in and away we went - I knew a lot of this had to do with running into A again & I was mad at myself for letting it get to me so much. But not only am I petty but really stubborn too & it came in handy because I was not going to back out now!

Do you know what? She didn't come!! Apparently she wasn't ready to face me....so, if we're keeping score (and I most certainly do!) I won that round - nobody knows hard it was for me to show up - they just know I did! It was really a relief - I could let loose now & enjoy seeing everyone... And then, the compliments...I couldn't believe it - this is a tough crowd & I honestly didn't expect to hear anything, it was just my own personal thing to finally wear a LBD! I had worked my self up into such a self loathing stage that every single hug & compliment was a balm to my self esteem! I know, it sounds silly & yes, we're supposed to not worry so much about what others think but some days... you do need to hear it! I look in the mirror - all I see are negatives, not the positives and for the most part I can "look past them" but I did need this - just this once - I was trying to be the bigger person figuratively but not literally!!

I ended up having a great evening - not too much wine (had my long run scheduled in the morning after all!) but lots of dancing & one of the gals forwarded me this picture on Monday... And I know, it's not only the weight off my butt that makes me feel good but the weight off my shoulders...time to let it go - too many other great things happening in my life - it's too bad things ended as they did but we all know things happen for a reason & people come into & leave our lives for a reason too...lesson learned...

Just getting the party started.... did keep the shawl/pashmina on all night though - was feeling a little self conscious...


Thanks for listening :)

  
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ANITABREAK2 12/30/2009 4:05PM

    OMG...... what a great photo. You look radiant and pulled off that LBD to perfection. Time to let bygones be bygones and focus on all the positives in your life. Mirror, mirror on the wall, who's the fairest of them all...... Kath is!

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BETHSHEALTH 12/17/2009 4:58PM

    Humm, I have one of those type people in my past too and she showed up at my church of all places. All my sisters know the story and how things ended and one even told me last night she thinks the person wants to apologize but just can't do it. I've finally come to the point I don't care, I was there first and she's there because her husband is employed by our church. He's a music director and they seem to move around so it's just a matter of time for me.

Glad you got to have fun and that little black dress does look really good on you!

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SPIRITRUN 12/16/2009 9:47PM

    You look so fantastic in this photo and you are radiant and full of life. Beautiful inside and out. You start practicing some positive self talk and let go of the past. Lighten your load. Just let it go. Love ya!!!!!
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USARUNNERGIRL 12/16/2009 3:57PM

    I think we are always more self critical when we are worried about what another thinks, and as you said in your blog I think you are ready to soothe out the past. Too bad she didn't show, it might have really done some good.

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IDAATJE 12/15/2009 6:41PM

    You look really beautiful, and so happy! I'm happy for you you could shed also the weight off your shoulders!

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XHOOSIERLOSER 12/15/2009 6:24PM

    You just look wonderful! And don't be so hard on yourself :) It is OK to enjoy the compliments and attention!!! You have worked hard, and it shows! Good for you for going and have a great time.

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