Tuesday, February 07, 2012
I've been looking for 'thinner', 'stronger', 'fitter', 'hotter', but shorter?
First of all, he's a stereotypical guy. Not so good with the communication. Not one with a compliment unless forced or coerced. A friend of mine for over 15 years with NO physical/emotional/relationship history other than friendship. Married to my BFF and father of 'my girls'. So we spend a fair bit of time together.
I had just jogged down to the stop light with the 9 year old to hit the Walk button and when the rest of the family caught up with us to wait for the light he says "I know this sounds weird, but you look shorter."
I have to admit, I was confused by his comment, so I had to ask him a few questions. Since losing 45+ lbs, and working out consistently, my over-all size has shrunk so much that I am not as "intimidating" any more. And therefore, I look shorter. Yep, that's what it came down to. We are about the same height. I'm 5'8" he's 5'9". He's always been at least mostly fit, I've always been in the obese to morbidly obese categories.
Think about it. When you're walking down the street and you see 2 guys, both 6'0" tall. One is thin, the other could be a linebacker in the NFL. Which one looks more intimidating?
I was a linebacker. Intimidating. Taller than many other women. Not very 'girly'. Not very feminine. Now, I'm starting to get an hourglass figure (of course mine's about an hour and a half). I'm wearing cuter clothes.
So we are on vacation together in Disneyland and I'm out-walking everyone, not whining about aches and pains, running to catch up with Goofy for a hug and cute picture, giving the girls piggy backs for blocks. Not eating funnel cakes, only having a couple bites of churro before handing it off, getting the sliced mango and pineapple instead of ice cream, apple slices instead of fries, eating off of the 'skinneylicious' menu at Cheesecake Factory (No dessert thank you.).
Did I feel deprived? Not one bit. Did I feel stronger, fitter, thinner and maybe a little bit hotter? Yes, I sure did.
So, 'shorter'. Yep, I'll take it.
Tuesday, December 13, 2011
Is it worth the knee pain?
Is it worth measuring portions, counting calories?
Is it worth re-evaluating "the plan" when it's not working?
Is it worth being hungry?
Is it worth NOT going out on Friday night because you've already maxed out your calories?
Is it worth NOT having seconds at Thanksgiving dinner?
Is it worth it having carrot sticks when you want pizza?
Is it worth logging the food and exercise?
Is it worth it drinking all this water?
Is it worth sweating and being all gross?
Is it worth stepping on the scale when it's not moving fast enough?
Is it worth buying new sneakers?
Here's the problem... it's the wrong question!
The question should be:
Am I worth it?
And the answer is a resounding "HELL YES, You are worth it!!!"
Now, quit asking about it and do it!
play with kids,
play like kids,
take a class,
eat veggies and fruit,
park at the far end of the parking lot,
read a post/article/recipe,
help a friend,
ask a friend for help,
ask a stranger for help,
take your vitamins,
inspire and be inspired,
eat real food,
take the stairs,
and most of all, when you fall down, get back up again.
Because more than anything, YOU ARE WORTH IT!!
Wednesday, December 07, 2011
...take a moment to know what you are seeing.
I had to take a step back last weekend. And had a realization. Sometimes we, as human beings, choose to believe what we *think* we see versus what is actually happening. Here is the situation.
I was driving to a friends house. I was in the right turn lane at a stop sign. All of a sudden, the passenger door of the vehicle in the left turn lane opened. The person leaned out and began getting sick... repeatedly. Gross, I know, but it happened.
My first thought/rush to judgement was "Hah, that's what you get for drinking to much!!" And then I had a flashback.
February 2004 I had a hysterectomy. Without going into too much detail (I'll be glad to talk about privately if you are interested), for months before, I was extremely anemic. Some of the symptoms of Anemia include: Easy fatigue and loss of energy, Unusually rapid heart beat, Shortness of breath and headache, Difficulty concentrating, Dizziness, Pale skin, Leg cramps, Insomnia
December of 2003, prior to surgery, despite feeling week and tired, I went out with friends to a local pub. About halfway through my first cocktail, I went to the restroom. I began feeling unwell. I returned to the table to tell my friends that I needed to leave. I then passed out. In the middle of the bar. Loudly. Without grace. To the floor. Knocked over a couple of glasses. Made a HUGE spectacle. And the people in the bar clapped.
Yes, they clapped. And cheered. And hooted and hollered. Here they were rushing to judge me. Thinking I was some idiot who had had one too many. While I was so close to being hospitalized.
I've never been the one who understood the clapping in the high school when some poor kid was tripped and dropped his tray. I've never been the one who joined in and laughed when someone falls on the dance floor. I'm not the one to point and stare and laugh. But here I was, sitting in my car. Waiting for traffic to clear so I could drive on. Rushing to judge the person hanging out of the car getting sick.
Could be he was hungover. Could be he just received upsetting news. Could be he had food poisoning. Could be he was coming home from the hospital after having chemotherapy.
The fact is, I did not know why he was doing what he was doing.
I was rushing to judge a man I did not know, in a situation where I did not know any of the facts.
Think about some of the times when you have rushed to judge someone. Think about what you may or may not have known about their life, their situation, their circumstances.
Think about situations in your life when you have been judged, but people who did not know your life, your situation, your circumstances.
Before you or I rush to judge anyone, we need think about what we are doing. Take a moment to reflect on how what we do or say or act upon may affect another human being.
Be your best!!
Gretchen ~ golfchick2-0
Friday, November 18, 2011
Don't compare yourself to others. Happy people judge themselves by their own yardsticks, never against what others do or have. Keep up with yourself - not the Joneses.
Does the other person have a bigger house, better car, loses weight faster/easier, better hair, nicer clothes... I have one word... WHATEVER!!! On the flip side, do you have a better house, nicer job, college education when they don't... WHATEVER to that one, too!
I can only do what my body allows me to do. Comparing myself to the 20 year old who has never been obese, doesn't make sense. Neither does comparing myself to the 60 year old who has had a new knee put in. Or the person my age who has 100 lbs or more to lose.
Each person has their own strengths and weaknesses. By focusing on MINE and only mine, I am able to work out at the level that works for me. I am able to find a job that I can do, and do proficiently. I am able to enjoy my life where I am, right now.
Here's a nice blog on zenhabits about the benefits of NOT comparing yourself to others.
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