Friday, November 04, 2011
Cultivate Friendships!!! OOOoooh I like this one!
I am single and live 3000 miles from my nearest (blood) family member. So holidays, birthdays, special events, COULD be pretty lonely. My last job, Bartender at a golf course (local blue collar course, not country club) I met tons of people and was 'adopted' into several families. My best friend and her husband are my family here in Oregon. I have spent many a holiday dinner, picnic, vacation with both of their respective families. As a matter of fact, I will be going to Disneylad with them and their two girls (my 'nieces') in January.
I also belong to a group called Meet in Portland (www.meetin.org) which is a free, online, social networking club based out of most metropolitan areas around the WORLD. I haven't spent too much time with them in the last year, but have decided that I need to get out for more adult companionsip too.
It's true, fostering relationships, spending time with friends, getting out and about is wonderful for the soul. I did have to stop going to certain events where drinking and eating were the main focus. I had to learn how to go out and be healthy, without being boring. Now that I am comfortable going to an ice cream social and getting a single scoop instead of a big ole sundae dripping with chocolate sauce, I can go out and enjoy my friends and my friendships more often.
And that makes me happy. Which makes me want to eat healthy. Which makes me want to work out. Which makes me happy....
Thursday, November 03, 2011
Develop your spirituality.
This one is kind of tough for me. I don't belong to a church. I don't have religion. I guess I'd be considered more of an agnostic than an atheist. I believe that there is a power that guides us as human beings. I'm not sure if there is an afterlife. I am not against religion. I support other people's beliefs. I just haven't had 'the calling'. And yes, I have searched, I have prayed, I have read, researched, attended and discussed.
But that is where I like this Day 3 entry. It isn't about religion. It says 'Develop you spirituality.' Yes, there is a difference between Spirituality and Religion. "Spirituality is the art and science of self-realization. It's a practice of knowing each part of your body. Being spiritual means awakening the very spirit of being who you are." Here's a pretty good article on the difference between spirituality and religion: www.buzzle.com/articles/spirituality
I will always remember the most spiritual event I ever had. Several years ago, I was hiking with friends in the mountains near Wenatchee, WA. Years before, there had been a massive wildfire that nearly destroyed the whole forest. We were walking over a rise into a clearing and I was suddenly overcome. I had to stop. I couldn't breathe for a moment. There was no panic, no fear. I started to breathe again. Looked around at the burned out disintegration trees still lying on the forest floor. The new trees growing around. The flowers blooming, moss and lichen spreading. The flora and fauna beginning again. It was the renewal of life in this forest. The cycle of life, death and rebirth. And it washed over me and filled me with a peace that I had never known before.
I have described this event to a very dear friend of mine who is a Franciscan Priest. He told me that it is very close to the same feeling that he had when he went to Medjugorje.
I need to find a way to get that feeling back. I need to find that peace again. Looks like I'll be doing some searching this month!
Wednesday, November 02, 2011
"Get Plenty of Sleep." Sleep is good. I like to sleep. I like to nap. I like to dream. Lately, my sleep hasn't been so great. I have trouble falling asleep some times, wake up through the night and then have even more trouble waking up. Here's my plan:
1. Put my microfleece sheets on the bed (like sleeping in my favourite sweatshirt!)
2. Plan on going to sleep by 10:00 on work nights
3. Journal before going to sleep. If something is bothering me, I can get it out of my head and on paper. Or I could use my worry dolls...
4. Be sure that bed is cleaned off before crawling in. The clean clothes are just waiting there to be folded and put away... so do it!!
Here's a decent article on the benefits of good sleep: www.better-sleep-better-life.com/ben
And another on the links between weight gain and sleep apnea and other health problems: www.better-sleep-better-life.com/wei
Monday, October 24, 2011
It happened... again. I got off track. Fell of the wagon. Lost my focus. However you phrase it, it was a glitch.
This time, a mental one. I went back to a bad habit of using food to "ease emotional pain". The eating, it didn't help. Now I just feel guilt as well as the extra weight.
Fall down 7 times, get up 8.
It's not about the failure. It's about learning from the mistake. It's not about what was broken, it's about how to fix it.
Lesson learned: Eating the Oreo cookies will not make the Idiot who chose another woman over me, like me more. Eating the pint of Ben & Jerry's will not make me more attractive to another smarter man. Not exercising because I was sick to my stomach didn't do anything but make me feel even more yucky.
So, what to do with that lesson???
Fall down 7 times, get up 8.
RE-FOCUS. I am worth it. I am worth eating healty. I am worth exercising. I am worth being well. I am not defined by my relationships (or lack thereof), I am defined by me, how I treat myself.
Until I find the man that realizes that I kick a$$, I'll be happily single. Until I find the man that realizes that I am beautiful and healthy and smart and independant and sometimes wounded, I will focus on me. I can NOT let myself ruin all my hard work because one man didn't realize what a great catch I am. I wil NOT allow myself to wallow in self pity because I chose to let the wrong person into my heart.
Life is not about waiting for the storms to pass... It's about learning how to dance in the rain.
~ Vivian Greene
When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.
~ Helen Keller
You have to accept whatever comes and the only important thing is that you meet it with courage and with the best that you have to give.
~ Eleanor Roosevelt
Fall down 7 times, get up 8....
It's not a true failure if you learn the lesson and get back up. It's only a failure if you stay down.
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