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30 Days to Greater Happiness ~ Day 4

Friday, November 04, 2011

Cultivate Friendships!!! OOOoooh I like this one!

I am single and live 3000 miles from my nearest (blood) family member. So holidays, birthdays, special events, COULD be pretty lonely. My last job, Bartender at a golf course (local blue collar course, not country club) I met tons of people and was 'adopted' into several families. My best friend and her husband are my family here in Oregon. I have spent many a holiday dinner, picnic, vacation with both of their respective families. As a matter of fact, I will be going to Disneylad with them and their two girls (my 'nieces') in January.

I also belong to a group called Meet in Portland ( which is a free, online, social networking club based out of most metropolitan areas around the WORLD. I haven't spent too much time with them in the last year, but have decided that I need to get out for more adult companionsip too.

It's true, fostering relationships, spending time with friends, getting out and about is wonderful for the soul. I did have to stop going to certain events where drinking and eating were the main focus. I had to learn how to go out and be healthy, without being boring. Now that I am comfortable going to an ice cream social and getting a single scoop instead of a big ole sundae dripping with chocolate sauce, I can go out and enjoy my friends and my friendships more often.

And that makes me happy. Which makes me want to eat healthy. Which makes me want to work out. Which makes me happy....

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BOBINVA 11/5/2011 10:09PM

    Connecting with people. Forming bonds and relationships where you can share your thought and feelings with them.

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CHRYS13 11/5/2011 1:49PM

    Wonderful! I'm so pleased for you.....and thrilled that you have an "adoptive" family!
Smiles and happiness to you, my friend!

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NURSESUSIE51 11/5/2011 1:38PM

    Today is my day to catch up with blogs. I'm enjoying your series and look forward to your 30 day journey.

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ERIKO1908 11/5/2011 12:52PM

    This is an area that is tough for included. I'm happy to hear that you have been adopted into those wonderful families!! Good luck on getting back out to the meet in's!! :)

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SEAJESS 11/4/2011 6:24PM

    Please comment more on being a friend. I'm not very good at that, I'm afraid.... hoping to learn.

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30 Days to Greater Happiness ~ Day 3

Thursday, November 03, 2011

Develop your spirituality.

This one is kind of tough for me. I don't belong to a church. I don't have religion. I guess I'd be considered more of an agnostic than an atheist. I believe that there is a power that guides us as human beings. I'm not sure if there is an afterlife. I am not against religion. I support other people's beliefs. I just haven't had 'the calling'. And yes, I have searched, I have prayed, I have read, researched, attended and discussed.

But that is where I like this Day 3 entry. It isn't about religion. It says 'Develop you spirituality.' Yes, there is a difference between Spirituality and Religion. "Spirituality is the art and science of self-realization. It's a practice of knowing each part of your body. Being spiritual means awakening the very spirit of being who you are." Here's a pretty good article on the difference between spirituality and religion:

I will always remember the most spiritual event I ever had. Several years ago, I was hiking with friends in the mountains near Wenatchee, WA. Years before, there had been a massive wildfire that nearly destroyed the whole forest. We were walking over a rise into a clearing and I was suddenly overcome. I had to stop. I couldn't breathe for a moment. There was no panic, no fear. I started to breathe again. Looked around at the burned out disintegration trees still lying on the forest floor. The new trees growing around. The flowers blooming, moss and lichen spreading. The flora and fauna beginning again. It was the renewal of life in this forest. The cycle of life, death and rebirth. And it washed over me and filled me with a peace that I had never known before.

I have described this event to a very dear friend of mine who is a Franciscan Priest. He told me that it is very close to the same feeling that he had when he went to Medjugorje.

I need to find a way to get that feeling back. I need to find that peace again. Looks like I'll be doing some searching this month!

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SHANTISHANTI 11/11/2011 1:47PM

    May I recommend yoga, again!!! I have found so much peace and serenity on a yoga mat. emoticon

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CHRYS13 11/5/2011 1:51PM

    Blessings to you in your search, dear friend.
I often find my spirituality in the gifts of nature....

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AGASSIFAN 11/4/2011 9:38AM

    LOVE IT! I am always looking for better ways to stay "grounded"...

Peace & love!


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BOBINVA 11/3/2011 7:51PM

    Sounds like you know what spirituality is. It is also believing in a force greater than yourself. It is an understanding that the more we try to control things the more out of control they are. It is associated with values and harmony and knowing that you also are part of something greater, you have a purpose and if you listen, really listen you will hear what you need to know.

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ERIKO1908 11/3/2011 7:25PM

    It sounds like you had a beautiful experience up on that mountain!! Good luck in your journey!!

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30 Days to Greater Happiness ~ Day 2

Wednesday, November 02, 2011

"Get Plenty of Sleep." Sleep is good. I like to sleep. I like to nap. I like to dream. Lately, my sleep hasn't been so great. I have trouble falling asleep some times, wake up through the night and then have even more trouble waking up. Here's my plan:

1. Put my microfleece sheets on the bed (like sleeping in my favourite sweatshirt!)
2. Plan on going to sleep by 10:00 on work nights
3. Journal before going to sleep. If something is bothering me, I can get it out of my head and on paper. Or I could use my worry dolls...
4. Be sure that bed is cleaned off before crawling in. The clean clothes are just waiting there to be folded and put away... so do it!!

Here's a decent article on the benefits of good sleep:

And another on the links between weight gain and sleep apnea and other health problems:

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TINATC26 11/3/2011 3:02PM

    I hope you get back to restful nights!!

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ALASKASKY 11/2/2011 9:27PM

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ERIKO1908 11/2/2011 9:09PM

    I so need to tackle this myself!! Not ready though...I know if I don't have 100% commitment behind it, that it won't I keep it in the back of my mind & just know that the goal is there waiting for me to pick it up and run with it!!

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CAPECODLIGHT 11/2/2011 2:39PM

    Don't forget to have no/little light in your bedroom. I even turned off the light on the face of the clock by my bed and it really helped.

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BOBINVA 11/2/2011 1:32PM

    Thanks for all that information. I need to sleep better. You have set some great goals.

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CHRYS13 11/2/2011 12:26PM

    emoticon (I can definitely relate to cleaning-off the bed before "hitting-the-hay"!)
Thanks for the info.....and sweet dreams!
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30 Days to Greater Happiness ~ Day 1

Tuesday, November 01, 2011

Sparkpeople gives us these wonderful calendars
to Spark our well being. I know I could use a little happiness in my life... So what the heck. I'm going to give myself 30 days and see what happens.

Day 1 Start a Hobby:
Okay, so I have several that have been gathering dust. Calligraphy was very important to me for a while and I let that slide. It's time to dust of the workbech and get back to writing some pretty words again. I'll post picks when I have some final projects.
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TINATC26 11/3/2011 3:01PM

    can't wait to see your work!!!

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CHRYS13 11/2/2011 12:19PM

    Great! Can't wait to see the pictures!
Keep smiling!

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ERIKO1908 11/2/2011 12:06AM

    I'm glad you took on the challenge this month!! You will reap the rewards...enjoy getting back to your hobby that has been put on the back burner...excited to see pics!!

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JAMGIRL8 11/1/2011 4:40PM

    Ohhh, I love calligraphy! Looking forward to seeing the finished creations! emoticon

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BOBINVA 11/1/2011 3:43PM

    Go and get happy. Can't wait to see the pics.

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Fall down 7 times, get up 8...

Monday, October 24, 2011

It happened... again. I got off track. Fell of the wagon. Lost my focus. However you phrase it, it was a glitch.

This time, a mental one. I went back to a bad habit of using food to "ease emotional pain". The eating, it didn't help. Now I just feel guilt as well as the extra weight.

Fall down 7 times, get up 8.

It's not about the failure. It's about learning from the mistake. It's not about what was broken, it's about how to fix it.

Lesson learned: Eating the Oreo cookies will not make the Idiot who chose another woman over me, like me more. Eating the pint of Ben & Jerry's will not make me more attractive to another smarter man. Not exercising because I was sick to my stomach didn't do anything but make me feel even more yucky.

So, what to do with that lesson???

Fall down 7 times, get up 8.

RE-FOCUS. I am worth it. I am worth eating healty. I am worth exercising. I am worth being well. I am not defined by my relationships (or lack thereof), I am defined by me, how I treat myself.

Until I find the man that realizes that I kick a$$, I'll be happily single. Until I find the man that realizes that I am beautiful and healthy and smart and independant and sometimes wounded, I will focus on me. I can NOT let myself ruin all my hard work because one man didn't realize what a great catch I am. I wil NOT allow myself to wallow in self pity because I chose to let the wrong person into my heart.

Life is not about waiting for the storms to pass... It's about learning how to dance in the rain.
~ Vivian Greene

When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.
~ Helen Keller

You have to accept whatever comes and the only important thing is that you meet it with courage and with the best that you have to give.
~ Eleanor Roosevelt

Fall down 7 times, get up 8....

It's not a true failure if you learn the lesson and get back up. It's only a failure if you stay down.

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NURSESUSIE51 11/5/2011 1:33PM

    Oh, Girl!!! Thank goodness you have come to all those realizations. Although...from experience, it's easy to say them and sometimes harder to put all this wisdom into practice. I've fallen more than 7 times and keep getting up. We must and we WILL succeed.

YOU CAN DO IT!! (But aren't Oreos & Ben & Jerry's good emoticon )

PS: I love those quotes.

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DTSOBEL 10/27/2011 1:10PM

    I am right there with you. Good for you to getting back up after fall down and brushing yourself off. You are re focusing and will do great! Keep up the great attitude. No man is worth it! This is for you!

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MISSYGEEN 10/26/2011 5:14PM

    I can relate. I used to eat my loneliness and when I realized how blessed i really am I made many changes in my life. That was almost 2 years ago. A few weeks ago I was on a business trip with a co-worker (we travel a lot) Her husband drove down to meet her for a few days (sweet guy) and I instantly felt alone, feelings that I had not had in over a year. that night I went to dinner and ate waaaay to much. The good thing these days is I recognize it sooner and my next meal was a healthier choice. I don't feel lonely often but now that I know that it is a trigger for emotional eating I can make a choice to do something different like play tennis or spark a few friends.

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CHRYS13 10/24/2011 5:31PM

    ....and you will NOT stay down!
You are focused. You are knowledgeable! You have the tools. You are worth it.
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