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Monday, April 25, 2011

This blog title refers to my dental work.

I got a few more deep ones filled, so Im getting there! It cost a ton, but Im not even sad! This is work invested in ME. Worth every penny, I say. I booked the next appointment to coincide with my insurance coverage, so I will not have to pay like this again.

My dentist is such a sweetie. It was near the end, and he was getting ready to polish the teeth, and the disc polisher fell out of the tool and landed in my mouth! It could have fell down my throat, but it didnt, so I just let him retrieve it. I gave him the thumbs up - "It's all good!" and he apologized a million times.

Then he dropped a water pick thing (sorry, I dont know the names of the tools) on my upper lip. My lip was numb, so I didnt care. He apologised AGAIN. He was uttering things like "I have never ever done that....ever! So sorry, my dear!"

I said exactly this: "That's cool. I'd rather you drop it on me than some grump who is going to make a fuss. Honestly."

"Well, I guess when you say it like that....You are a very understanding patient."

My appointment lasted 1.5 hours. I was given a hot towel (I was told you put it on your face....I had never had that before.) and I got up to pay for my visit. My insurance was totally maxed, and I had to pay for everything....That hurt worse than the dental work, which didnt hurt at all, by the way. If you live in toronto, I'll give you this guy's number, no joke.

Jo, the receptionist, booked my next appointment. She held out a Tim Hortons gift card.

"Dr. M feels awful. He wants to give this to you." She made me accept it, though I said it wasnt necessary. It was a very sweet guesture, I thought.

I went to the drug store afterwards to buy Ensure. I hate eating after the dentist. The thought of it repulses me. So I decided to buy that stuff and at least get bit of something in my gut. They dont list the sugar content on the bottle, which alarms me quite a bit.

Then I did something awful. I totally forgot that easter candy was marked down today. Im scottish, so I never buy easter candy/halloween candy/valentines candy at regular price, so I saw the sale and bought a few treats. Nitz and my guests will help me eat it. I get sick of it after a while anyways.

And then I came home, forced myself to eat 2 boiled eggs (UGH.....but I need the protien) and worked out a bit. So I feel pretty yuck right now, but it's all for the best.

Happy Monday everyone.

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MESAJOGGER 4/27/2011 1:52AM

    Glad to hear you're doing well! Hope you don't feel so yucky anymore. :-D

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DAISY-HIBANA 4/25/2011 9:30PM

    LOL, I thought all that guff about Scots and penny-pinchin' was mythic. Oh, my Mom brought home a pirates' hoard of half-off candy. At least there will be no more commercial candy-based holidays for 6 more months. Hooray for the candy famine! (One Reeses' egg is 170 calories ...yeesh!)

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Friday, April 15, 2011

My boss was trying to help me with some things today and she said "Do you understand this? I mean seriously, do you?" as if I had limited intelligence! I wanted to yell at her. I wanted to say "I do, but you arent guiding me me! You arent telling me how to do these things! I have to make the time, then something else will suffer, then I'll get in trouble again!" I hate it so much. I feel like a failure. I feel frustrated! I just want her to feel like I did well.

But I shouldnt live my life like Im trying to please other people. This isnt healthy for me. This isnt healthy for anyone. I get anxiety on sunday nights, I feel misunderstood. I need out. I am in charge of my own destiny!

Normally, I would take solace at home. I went to visit a friend after work and I forgot to take my phone off of vibrate and Nitz tried calling me many times to see if I was okay. This is a new friend and I didnt respond to his texts. I finally got home at 8pm to three voicemails, texts, and missed cell phone calls.

I was okay until he said "I was worried, why didnt you answer the phone? Why didnt you have your earpiece in?" and I said "Im sorry Im such a f--k up and I cant do anything right for anyone!!!" I was very vulnerable and sad and frustrated and it broke me. He didnt mean it like this, he said he wasnt yelling at me, but I took it this way and now I just want to be by myself for like a whole week. I dont want to eat, or drink, or make nice with other people. I just want to be alone.

Im never alone. It's a gift and a curse.

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FANCEEG 4/15/2011 10:57PM

  Awe, I'm sorry to hear things aren't going the best at work between you and your boss!! Work is a big part of our lives, and therefore it's hard when it can be such an anxious experience!! My only advice is that, if you are able to speak with your boss about your concerns - and able to tell her that you feel you need more guidance, then that would be good. It is important to take care of yourself and try to leave work at work! (I personally find that very hard!! If something goes wrong at my work, I take it home and obsess about it until I think people have forgotten about the situation). Of course we are all at work mostly because we need money to survive, but secondly because we need things to occupy our time/feel valued and that we are doing something important to us.

I really hope things will change and that your boss will be more supportive!! Sometimes people do not know how to relate to others and unfortunately, a lot of times they are in higher positions! If you are super stressed in your job, I agree that you should look for a place where you WILL feel valued and know you are doing a good job. Ultimately though, it's you who needs to be happy with yourself and the work you are doing. If you feel like you are doing a good job and enjoying the work, sometimes it's worth it to just tough it out and later things will brighten up :)

I hope they do brighten up soon :)

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40ISHHUBBY 4/15/2011 9:50PM

    I agree with Char. I spent way to long in a job I hated because it paid the bills. It affects all aspects of your life in a negative way. You don't need that. Find something you like and it'll do the opposite. Keep your head up and hope next week is better for you.

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CHAR1970 4/15/2011 9:13PM

    Aww I'm sorry your day went so bad. But I'm glad that you could come onto Spark and vent a bit. I hope it helped.

You sound like you need a new job. If it's causing anxiety like that, maybe it's time for a change?

I'm a people pleaser too. Not as much as I was when I was younger (I'm 40), but still enough that I fret about making myself look stupid in public.

You need to find something you really enjoy and do it often. This may help renew your self confidence, give you the outlet you need.

It sounds like your new friend cares for you. Take comfort in that. He may be the sounding board you need to be able to work through your stress.

Tomorrow is a new day. This allows us to wipe the slate clean and start anew. Make your self a priority tomorrow. I think you need that.

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A little of this and a little of that....

Wednesday, April 13, 2011

Today I joined a social networking site for professionals. Exciting I guess. Maybe I'll meet someone with a career like mine, or find a great opportunity.

I miss dealing with patients sometimes, like, dealing with people face to face. I think maybe I need more of that. I think it would let me feel more joy in my career. I just feel like Im slogging through right now because Im wrapping my brain around new processes and terrified to do the wrong thing. I want to make my boss proud of me, but I feel like Im missing something. I feel like there's a nice group of people I could be meeting right now! I dont know... Not that I dont work with nice people, I really do, but Im feeling this gap lately, and I cant imagine going to the same place for the next 20 ears, or 10 years or even 5 years. I want to smile at work and feel like I did a really great job.

In other news, I havent worked out at all, but I run around a lot at work and rarely take the elevator, so I feel like Im not doing completely nothing. I find the weeks are going far too fast for me! It's insane!

At work the other day I went to buy my lunch. We have a salad bar at work that's really affordable, and it's usually stocked with good stuff, so I typically opt for that when I have to eat at work. So I go to the salad bar and a girl I know is beside me. She's 'husky' and I hate that word, but I consider her very healthy and very active, but she isnt in that emaciated super model size double zero category that is the definition of thin these days (YUCK!), and neither am I by the way. Anywho, Im not paying attenion and someone is talking to her, mentions the salad bar and she says something like "Yup, I love salad" and the person beside her says....

No seriously, get this....

"Good for you."

I found this very condecending, though Im sure the person was being very nice and making conversation, I felt it was biased somehow and patronizing. I kept telling myself it was a kind comment, not a mean one, and Im sure no one else took it the same way I did, seeing as it wasnt meant for me and everything, but I guess I find the statement "Good for you" unnerving. Or insincere? Im not sure.

I notice the weirdest things sometimes.....


Tides have Turned!

Friday, April 01, 2011

So today I had a weekly meeting with my boss at 4pm. I worried about it all last night.

Nitz had asked me out on a date on Sunday. We live together, and have been in a relationship for 5 years, but we still try to 'date'. He said he wanted to take me to the art gallery. I accepted his invitation politely (jumping up and down in my head of course, wondering what I was going to wear) and went about my week, but when Nitz asked me last night if I had thought about further date plans, since the art gallery was merely a suggestion, not concrete, I groaned out loud.

"I gotta worry about tomorrow first! I want my meetings to be PERFECT!"

"They will be," he said, always the optimist.

But I honestly didnt know what to expect. I imagined the worst case scenario: Me sitting down, with all my work projects in order, my desk clean, not a loose end left untied on a friday afternoon, and she finds something...anything.....and asks me why it wasnt done. And I wont know what to say. I'll just sit there and turn red and promise it wont happen again.....a NIGHTMARE!

....but I sat down at 4pm, my notes detailed, my progress marked and outlined, and we chatted. How was your week? What did you do? Did you have any problems or worries about any of this? Who is this client and do they ask for help from us often? I had answers for all of these, with details.

For thirty minutes we had a chat, a great chat, and we joked and smiled and giggled and she told me about a presentation she was working on and how well it went that morning. She told me I was very busy this week and supported everything I did. I had submitted some papers to legal and she apologized that she didnt help me with the process as she was so busy and she'd answer the questions the executives wanted to know about, not to worry.

I have no idea why I was worried. So I asked her: Do I just keep doing what I am doing? (aka, making notes and doing a good job in general?) Yes, this is great, Candy, thank you!

I couldnt have been more relieved. To celebrate a small victory, I went and got a bottle of wine I like and cheese ball. Hey, I know it's not super healthy, but give me this one okay?

Nitz is watching the Blue Jays play tonight with his two friends, which means Dante and I can watch Avatar: The Last Airbender uninterrupted! Yay!

Also, my tooth feels fine, but I am giving it plenty of time to speak out if need be. Still sending positive thoughts into that tooth because I want it to thrive :) I've flossed every day, brshed, and used antiseptic rinses to help.

I hope everyone has a really great weekend. Mine is off to a wonderful start. Im glad my luck is finally changing :)

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MESAJOGGER 4/2/2011 11:25PM

    YAY! I'm so glad things have been going well and thanx for the support also. :-)

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Monday, March 28, 2011

This month has not been good to me.

Im trying really hard to be positive right now, I really am.
Last week I got in trouble at work. I got a written letter sent to HR because I didnt follow through on a few things and my boss was really upset at me ('Gross incompetence", "So disappointed"). I dont want to make her mad, I really dont. I want to make her proud of me so for the next month on fridays at 4:30 I have to meet with her (fun fun fun fun....heh). I feel like a total failure and I need to be baby sat. I feel awful.

Then I got up today to find out I have two parking tickets on my windshield that dont make sense....on the day I have to go to the dentist to get some major work done. I have never had this problem parking there before, so I have 80 dollars to pay for these tickets. It's all too much right now....

And Nitz called me to tell me to fight them. How?? I feel lost. I cant take the time off of work, I had to leave early to go to the dentist! This will not bee seen as favorable in the eyes of my boss.... But Nitz wouldnt drop it. He kept trying to 'help' by talking to me about the tickets but I really dont need this right now at all! He can fight them if he wants, but I cant take the time of work to do this. This couldnt happen at a worse time, really.

I just got home and my face is all swollen. Dr. M has told me he has done everything he possibly can to avoid a root canal, so now we wait and see. It isnt the same tooth I thought, so I might have to do the canal to save it and I am completely ready for that possibility. I am willing all my positive energy into that tooth and trust that Dr M has done the best job ever! 4 cavities are filled. 8 more to go.

So sorry this is such a sad note, but this is why I havent kickboxed, am afraid to eat, and just genuinely unhappy with how my life is right now. Im fixing up my resume and we are looking at other apartments (with underground parking) so hopefully life has an upswing for me soon!

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MESAJOGGER 3/28/2011 11:11PM

    :-( I hope things change for the better soon! emoticon

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