Tuesday, March 02, 2010
In this series Linda who calls herself another name...wears a blue suit, makes herself up, hair combed just so, buys stockings and shoes. She waited for a compliment from someone in her office. Someone gives one her but its not what she expects. Instead they tell her that her suit is beautiful but her shoes does not match. She thanks them goes to her office and cries.
In the past or present we might experience this too. Someone putting you down. Some times some folks are not happy unless they try and make you unhappy as they are. Here is a suggestion from LINDA:
Here’s a simple exercise that can bring your self-esteem back
up almost instantly. It involves remembering periods in your
life when you’ve been living or performing at your best. This
also includes times when you’ve done something great or acted
with confidence and power.
Start by thinking about times in the past when you’ve been at
your best, such as when you were at a healthy weight or were
exercising regularly. Recall recent jobs or school years when
you were doing great work. Picture your best friendships or
the excitement of being in love.
Remember days you when you’ve felt confident, strong, capable,
and able to face challenges head on. Even if it’s been years
ago, think of times when you were truly at your best,
physically as well as mentally and emotionally.
In a notebook or on a piece of paper, write this phrase…
At my best, this is what I’m like:
Then write down every descriptive word and phrase you can
think of that would portray how you act, look, feel, or live
when you are at your best. Here’s an example from my own list.
At my best, here’s what I’m like:
• Energetic, bouncy, smile a lot, twinkly eyes
• Laugh easily, tell jokes, feel good physically
• Grounded, centered, confident about my abilities
• Productive, hard worker, accomplish a lot
• Blend well with people, relate easily, enjoy my friends
• Hug and cuddle my husband a lot, encourage sex and intimacy
• Connected spiritually, cultivate my faith, attend church regularly
• Physically strong, fit, flexible, play tennis and golf
Once you finish creating your own list, read it out loud and
notice the energy and enthusiasm it generates. Then use your
list as a guide to living each day in ways that match your
Remind yourself that all of those descriptive phrases are the
real you, even on days when you don’t feel or act like it. For
example, it you wrote that you are a patient person, yelling
at your children doesn’t mean your description isn’t true. It
just means you didn’t live out of your true self for that
Save your list and read it often, especially at times when
your self-esteem droops. By recalling your favorite
personality traits, you see who you really are as a person.
Holding this positive vision becomes critical to the
self-esteem component of how you ‘see’ yourself.
This is Grace the one who blogged. Yesterday I fell into this trap..caught off guard and hurt. They did not compliment on anything. I did not expect them too. I did not set myself up that way. We have what I call off days. I had one. After our VERY LOUD discussion. I came home and prayed for strength, and yes repented for what was said. Now I will remember what God said to me about me: I am fearfully and wonderfully made, he shall never leave me nor for sake. His ears are opened to my prayers, He is my healer and provider, he is my prince of peace. He is the God who can and will heal me of all my diseases and he has and will forgive my sins. If God is for me Who can go against me. WHEW!! now that is enough to praise God for he is my keeper!! In him will I trust!!
Wednesday, February 03, 2010
Who stole your self-esteem?
It’s funny how easy it is to let events or situations ruin
your confidence. Even when you’ve worked hard on building
your self-esteem, a simple negative comment can destroy your
inner spirit and send you running toward the refrigerator.
And it works, because food makes us feel good! When a
grueling experience devastates your confidence and self-trust,
food soothes the pain. It gives you the courage to face the
Of course, at the same time, overeating hurts your
self-esteem by making you feel disgusted and frustrated. Next
thing you know, you grab more food to appease these negative
feelings. And that just makes you feel even worse!
Regardless of your current life situation, you can still find
your inner spirit and rebuild your self-esteem. And it won’t
take years to accomplish. By making a few simple changes in
your self-talk and your internal beliefs, you can improve your
self-esteem almost immediately.
See your potential
Imagine you’re walking through a forest when you spot a
piece of wood nearly hidden in a pile of leaves. As you study
the layers of moss and caked-on dirt, you can’t see any
beauty in this scrap of wood and you question whether it has
But something compels you to pick it up and carry it home. In
your workshop, you carefully scrape off the dirt, then begin
sanding and polishing your wood. To your astonishment, you
uncover a deep grain filled with rich, beautiful colors.
As you continue restoring the wood, you start planning how
you could use it for some special purpose. Your excitement
builds as you envision creating a unique picture frame or a
graceful table leg. There’s no doubt in your mind that this
piece of wood has great value.
YOU are this piece of wood. Even when painful layers such as
your weight or other burdens cover your beauty, the real you
Your value as a person doesn’t change because of what you
look like or what happens to you. Beneath your discouragement
and low self-esteem, you are still you, as strong and vibrant
Hanging on to your confidence
If you ever watch the TV show 'Dancing with the Stars,' you
certainly recognize confidence, self-esteem and inner
strength. The contestants never win by focusing on their
faults. Instead, they do lots of self-talk about their dancing
skills and how great they look. Then they go out and dance
like maniacs with total confidence and poise.
To help yourself focus on success, take the 'dancing
contestant' approach to managing your weight. Build an image
of being successful and tell yourself you are totally capable
of winning the weight loss contest. Then dance your way
through each day with a positive, confident attitude.
Think back to the earlier example of the piece of wood. You
may have to scrape off a few old beliefs and habits, but you
can build self-esteem that remains strong, no matter what
happens in your life.
Soon, your renewed self-image will add power to your efforts
for managing your weight.
This is true but I know if left to myself I would only stumble so I take this with faith in God who gives me ultimate strength and who is my strength daily.
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