Thursday, December 19, 2013
As I've mentioned before, my little girl is getting married in May. It is so amazing, and a bit daunting, all of the big and little decisions she has to make. There are so many choices! There are so many methods of making it happen! There are so many struggles regarding personal preference! There are so many people voicing their opinions (especially Mommy, LOL) !
It's not all that different from the whole weight loss and exercise "thing".
There are a lot of ways for us to get to where we want to be. We can jog or swim. We can "go big" with P90X3 or we can walk around the block. We can do yoga or lift weights.
So many food choices, too! For the wedding we went to a tasting, and sampled many main courses. Some were incredibly good, and some were mediocre. We did not agree on every dish. Same is true for weight watching. People will go vegan, or low carb, or calorie cycling. Some will journal each and every morsel. Some won't journal at all. Do what works for you, and more importantly, do what you can maintain for the rest of your life. Don't allow this to be a diet, meaning that when you reach a certain weight you go back to your old ways of eating. That is the best way to regain your weight and the amazing thing to ME is that what can take me two months to take off, can take me a three day weekend to regain. Have you all noticed that too?
I think that what I am getting is that there is no "one way" to have a wedding, nor is there "one way" to lose weight. For me, the only criteria is that it is done in a health-conscious way, which means don't starve yourself and don't exercise so frenetically that you burn out your body and your soul.
Like getting married, we can get caught up in the every day little decisions. OR we can focus on "the prize". For my daughter, the prize will actually be marrying the man that she has loved for the past seven years. For us, the "prize", even if we think it is a certain size or a special number on the scale, is good health.
Find the path the works for you.
Monday, December 16, 2013
I am very excited for a natural occurrence here on Sparkpeople. All of the newbies with their shiny New Year resolutions will begin to trickle in over the next weeks, maybe even right after Christmas to get a jump on their plans, just rearing to go! Remember when you were that excited? Remember when you said, "this is going to be my year?"
IT CAN BE!
For many of you, you have already met your goal. Congratulations! Job well done! Now you navigate the tightrope walk of maintenance. For the rest of us, let's just expect the BEST from us. Let us ACT AS IF we are on a mission. A mission of good health. That can be the smallest change. A swap of water for soda. Ten minutes of moving your body if your daily routine has been zero minutes. Eating two cookies instead of six.
There are so many ways we can be successful !
I look forward to meeting our newcomers. We already know what a dynamite place Sparkpeople is. Now is our chance to cozy up to our newcomers, whisper sweet encouragements into their ears, shine our love all over them. Give them that Spark, and watch as they grow it to a flame that will send their tickers (weight ticker AND heart) to their "goal". Let us bring them, let us bring us ALL, from newcomers to OVERCOMERS!
Friday, December 13, 2013
I have not had a great week. I couldn't go to work on Tuesday and Wednesday because of my back. Then yesterday I went to the retinologist expecting a clean bill of health, only to find out that I had an extension of the original retinal tear and needed more laser work. Yes, I am so grateful that I have a good doctor and my needs, compared to many, are small and fixable. Yet coming home from the doctor yesterday, I felt rather sad and vulnerable.
Honestly, theres a part of me that would sort of like this sink me. Have this encourage me to give up eating better and exercising. Have this massive "pity party for one" and just blow it all. I am glad to tell you that something inside of me has changed. and won't allow that.
It won't allow me to use my back problems as the reason to give up exercise. I need to get some good physical therapy and build up my muscles so this doesn't happen again. My new mentality won't allow me to binge today, though my husband is out of the house all day at a seminar, and I just returned from the grocery store with the ability to buy whatever I wanted. I bought a veggie wrap for lunch and a small bar of candy. The wrap was just okay, so I ate
only half. The candy was yummy, so I ate the whole thing. The cookies and clementines I bought to bring over to my internist soon (seeing her about my back) have been arranged in a pretty tray, with leftover cookies. There were about twenty cookies that wouldn't fit. They could have all been in my tummy right about now. I took a bite of one, and it wasn't worth it. I will let hubby decide if they are worth it to him.
Worthiness is about value. How valuable is it to you, to exercise? How valuable is it to you to eat properly? Even more essential is, how worthy are YOU?
What are you willing to do for yourself?
Worth feels like it has puzzle pieces. You have to care about something to feel it has worth. And if you mistreat it, it automatically loses value. Once the value goes down, when you look at it you care less. If you care less then maybe you continue to do more and more to mistreat it. Of course I am talking about our bodies, but it reminds me of my old Tahoe. It's a great old car, in rather good condition with low mileage, but it rarely gets washed. When I look at it, it is just a dirty piece of metal to get me where I need to go. I know that if I washed it more I would appreciate it more. It would shine and have more value to me.
I've certainly broken down my body, and when I look at lumps and bumps it makes me appreciate that I have a body to get me where I need to go, but I know that I also must continue exercise and feeding it properly to have, very simply, "pride of ownership".
Take care of the machine which is your body. Remember its inherent value. Know that you only get this one body, and you need to be a responsible owner. Be well, and make a decision that you are worth it.
Wednesday, December 11, 2013
There was a children's show that my daughter used to like as a little girl, called Fraggle Rock. In it were these little men who toiled all day. The were called Doozers.
Recently, out of the blue, I was going around from one chore to the next and my dear hubby said, "you're a Doozer!" I was amazed at how unbelievably tickled that made me. Yes, I AM a Doozer!
I really enjoy getting things done. Don't get me wrong, of course I have my days where I complain and wish I didn't have to do something, and of course, there are projects I often procrastinate on, but on the whole I am a woman who enjoys taking care of business. It feeds my soul. Naturally, from time to time I can get resentful and annoyed that there is so much to do, but I rarely just stop doing it.
My back spasms the night before last took the Doozer out of me, LOL. And though no one likes to be in pain, of course, I have to tell you that I so needed and enjoyed my day yesterday. I couldn't go to work and my husband stayed home (we work together) to take care of me, and it was our first snowy New York winter's day and such a pleasure to not have to commute and shovel. We only got a couple of inches but it was a beautiful sight.
I cooked three meals, easily and willingly, ran the dishwasher and the washing machine a couple of times, but otherwise, I just relaxed.
I was in my "nest" that I spoke of in my last blog, for much of the day. You can't nest and not smile, I have found, LOL. It is just THAT darn cozy. The heating pad on my back only added to the joy. I took TWO naps. I watched lots of TV shows on the IPAD on my lap.
I wasn't a Doozer yesterday.
I believe that my back pain is a way of being forced to slow down from time to time. I don't need to "always" be Doozering. Obviously I cannot work out, either, but I am watching my food choices and hoping for a loss this week.
Rest is essential to living a good life. If you are smart, you will rest before you get hurt and you must. If you're a stubborn dummy like me, LOL, you will be forced to rest. And oh it will feel so very good not only to your body, but to your soul.
I am not only worthy when I am working, that is what I learned yesterday. I am worthy of rest and relaxation too. I will probably always be a Doozer, but now I know that it is imperative to make time to be a Snoozer, too.
Be gentle with yourself, friends.
Sunday, December 08, 2013
Like many of you, sometimes the holidays create a bad spirit in me. I struggle with family relationships and the ancient feelings they bring up,
I yearn for "a simpler time", I find things that used to fill me with joy, like putting up my Christmas tree, one more chore on top of the bunch.
All day yesterday my brain was going wild for chocolate. All day, literally. It was a feeling that just wouldn't pass.
It was extremely uncomfortable, but it didn't kill me.
I am finding that I need to be hugged a lot lately. Fortunately for me I have a husband who gladly obliges, but I have found a few more things
that I can do to soothe myself that do not require another person. One is a hot shower and some loud music. The other is what I lovingly call
You take your most deliciously comfortable blanket and you sit right in the middle of it and then you wrap it all around your body and have it encircle
your head. You self-swaddle. It is almost as good as a hug. It is warm and comforting and zero calories.
When my daughter was a little girl we would make "the nest" all the time. Seeing her little face wrapped up in blanket, looking so serene- it's a moment
that warms a mama's heart. My daughter knows that sometimes I need "the nest", too, and it's such a kindness when she comes over for dinner and sees
I'm a bit cranky or tired and she says, "you want the nest?" LOL !
I guess what I am trying to say is, the holidays can make us feel depressed. The holidays can bring up feelings that we have taught ourselves to push down with food.
We can attempt to ignore the cravings. We can learn to knit to keep our hands busy. We can call a friend. There's a long list of things we can do. Yet if you have a day like I did yesterday, no amount of ignoring or postponing the craving feels comfortable.
Instead of asking yourself what you want to eat, ask yourself what you are feeling. And if you don't really even know- build yourself a nest.
You are a sweet little bird who just needs some comfort, and that is perfectly okay. Believe me when I say that we rarely DO "want the food" as a response to feeling bereft. We want the comfort. So do whatever it takes to find something that warms you and takes the uncomfortableness away, if even for a little while.
Be kind to yourself, little birdie!
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