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How did I run out of time when I retired?

Sunday, November 16, 2008

Hello everyone,
I am back to pop in and see if I can be more diligent with my logging in. Lots has changed since I last wrote a blog. I have signed up with a nutritionist and go to the gym at least three times a week. So far I have lost the 7 pounds I regained while doing nothing. Time is something I really don't have these days. Between taking care of Mom, taking care of two children twice and sometimes three times a week and running back and forth to the gym has left me with little or no time to do the things I need to do. I know that Spark People is a great source of inspiration and friendship. I'm making some good progress now and hope to keep that up through the holidays. Hope all are well and doing great! March on my fellow Sparkies. emoticon

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SUNSHINE_GAL 11/17/2008 1:49PM


Hi Gigi,
Glad to have you back. I know how hard it is to take time out for yourself. I too was my mother's care giver and I couldn't leave her for any long period of time. ( I can write more about this subject later) I'm so glad to hear that you are able to get to the gym and also have help on your food. It sounds like you are really moving in a positive direction and taking control even though you have some issues that can alter your course. The first and most important item is YOU! Take care of yourself, set small attainable goals and keep moving forward. Please do check back in with us when you have time (maybe when mom takes a nap or let the dusting wait until the next day)! It won't get any dirtier and it definitely won't disappear overnight..Ha!

Be good to yourself and you'll hear from me again

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Life as a caregiver

Friday, September 26, 2008 it is a chilly rainy day in Connecticut. They say it will rain all weekend. We are sitting here waiting for Mom's bus to pick her up for daycare. My days seem shorter when she is away, but it is good for me to have time to get things done around here. My major cleaning gets done on the days she is there. It's a strange position to be in when you are the sole caregiver of someone, especially your mother. She is acting more and more like a child. You have to give her instructions one step at a time or she just sits and does nothing when it is time to get out of bed and get ready for her day. I am hoping that I will not have dementia or altzhiemers, but find myself forgetting things more and more. Maybe it is because I have lots on my mind. I sure hope that it! I love my mother dearly, but this is not an easy job day in and day out. Is there anyone out there who can understand where I am coming from? emoticon

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ALMAGGIE 9/29/2008 7:52AM

    I have set with the elderly for about 7 years now.. It can get to you sometimes....But look at the love and rewards that it brings....These sweet people have give their best years to us and now it is time to give back to them....

When they go to getting to me...I walk in the next room and find something to do for awhile...Then back to them I go and put my arms around them and just Love them like a child...Sometime they like that and sometimes not so...

You have to be an angel to take this day end and day out...I hope you the best....Maggie emoticon

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PATRICIA441 9/26/2008 10:19PM

  It is so very difficult to be a care taker for a parent. We do not expect to have to be their helpers. The most important thing to do is be sure you take care of YOU. Have some quiet time, some "ME" time and somehow find some time to have fun. I am glad that your Mom has the day care. God Bless you . You are being prayed for, May God surround you with His Peace and Love. Hugs. Pat

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LEAFYFERN 9/26/2008 10:09AM

  It's sunny and warm here in Indiana. I hear the east coast is in for a wet, chilly weekend, but we won't be affected.

Thanks for keeping it there! However I do sympathize with you for the gloom you must endure. It only adds to the mental gloom, I know.

I am also a caregiver for my mother. I am fortunate enough to have someone who helps - for now. My son lives with me and works from home and when he must be out to meetings or on business, we have friends who will come to stay with her.

Two weeks ago she spent 3 days in the hospital with pneumonia and bronchitis. Since she has been home, we have taken serious steps towards finding a nursing home for her. Although her physical health is generally good for her age (83), she depends on us more and more...especially me. I seem to be her anchor. One minute she seems alright and the next she is confused and unable to to even the smallest thing. Last night I had to help her get into her nightgown for bed.

I completely understand your worry about developing Alzheimer's or dementia yourself. I wonder if my sons would put me in a home or actually take care of me. I don't sleep well, and the decision to just find a home has me unbearably stressed. I don't want to do that to my mother. I know she will hate it, but how much longer will I be able to push myself to the edge taking care of her? I have little social life and no time alone. The only time she isn't at my side is when I am in bed. Even then I must lock my door so she won't barge in on me (she no longer knocks) and want me for some very small thing. Sometimes it's only to tell me she's going to the bathroom.

It's heartbreaking to watch someone you love deteriorate like this. Even hygiene is now beyond her. I have to be sure she bathes and washes her hair - and that is a huge chore, as she will argue with me, saying she just showered that morning when I KNOW she hasn't . I have to make everything an upbeat game in order for her for agree to it, and that in itself is draining.

I guess this is more than you asked for, but this is always uppermost on my mind.

Please feel free to pour your heart out, if needed. I know it's necessary to have someone who understands.

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Monday, August 18, 2008

I'm back....haven't been good about coming in and getting the support I need. I haven't gained anything, but I am holding at the same weight I was six months ago. Time to get serious again! I cannot do much exercising because I have a stress fracture on the side of my foot and I am in a cast! How's that for fun? Just to keep you up to date, my Mom, to whom I am sole caregiver, had two hospital stays and now seems to be ok. We had a family get together lunch for her 90th birthday at the end of June and that was GREAT! My sister was with me for two weeks and then my niece (her daughter) took a month off of work to come and help me with Mom. I was feeling a bit overwhelmed when everyone left, but I am getting back into the swing of things. Will try to get myself into the Spark Grove again with a little help from my friends :-)

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PATRICIA441 8/18/2008 6:15PM

  We cannot do this alone GiGi. We have to help each other ,together we are strong . When things get tough that is when we need each other all the more. Sending you a loving hug. Pat emoticon

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sick, sick, sick

Sunday, April 27, 2008

Here I am. Feeling glum here. Just was diagnosed with bronchitis after not sleeping all night long (literally). On meds starting today and have some really great cough medicine to take me through the night. I vow to keep up the eating right after I am back to feeling better. Right now, all I want is soup and tea, tea and soup. Hoping everyone else is feeling ok.

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PATRICIA441 4/27/2008 8:11PM

  Gigi, what a bummer you aren't feeling well. So very sorry. Sure hope you sleep better tonight. Lack of sleep is really tough. Hope the medication kicks in quickly and you are feeling better tomorrow. Tender,healing prayers and hugs. Pat emoticon

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4 days later

Saturday, March 08, 2008

Well here I am, four days later. Still having trouble, but being aware of what I am doing wrong.....I am buying more salads and have not chosen to eat out this week. It is supposed to rain all weekend here so I am going to get on that inside bike of mine today. Haven't jumped on in awhile. I did buy some weights about two weeks ago and should get started with those even though I am babysitting and lifting a 12 pound baby and 30 pound child up and down LOL Dealing with a sick cat.....don't know what to do about it, but I am already $300 out of pocket for her. Can't afford this. It's nice to have a journal to write all this stuff down. Planning for my trip a week from Monday. Taking Mom down to see her new great grandchild.

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BKP4166 3/9/2008 12:16AM

    Hi Gigi! It sounds like you've got your plans set up and are ready to get going. Keep on with the great work and we'll get this journey done together.

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PATRICIA441 3/8/2008 11:16AM

  Have fun with your grandchildren. They will get your exercise in for you. Just make sure you don't eat their food!! Have a super day GiGi!! Hugs. Pat

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