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Jail...my final exam...and the Big Blue H...

Friday, December 09, 2011

Jail...my final exam...and the Big Blue H...

This is about the good , the bad, and the ugly...OR

it is the good news, the great news, and the sad news...


The good news is(this deals with the BAD too)...my half-BIL Stupid Steve, lovingly referred to as SS...is in JAIL...

Yippee-kay-yeah for the local law enforcement! (Round of applause here.)

Don't know or care how/why he got picked up. I am relieved when I know WHERE he is. He is in for apparently 30 days...won't be his first Christmas in jail...sadly, probably not the last either.





DH was scheduled to be released from the hospital on Wednesday, provided that I passed my care-giving class. And pass the home assessment that I wasn't aware of until Tuesday evening. Remember, my house became the Wreck of the Hesperus during my DH's hospital stay.

I did not live like that when I was single. However, I have noticed, that upon marriage, and increasingly, with each additional child...well, simply put...my standards of what is clean, have not only slipped, but plummeted! This is the UGLY part of this...

So we cut our Tuesday evening visit short, so we could straighten up the Wreck. My kids were flying around like little worker bees.

Wednesday morning I re-arranged the living room furniture to make room for the hospital bed, power wheel chair, bath bench, etc.

I like the bed(functionally), though wish it came with a more high end designer look. Don't they realize that some people have to put these in the living room? I think I will try to decorate it. I am giving up the full size Christmas tree for the ugly bed. I have the Charlie Brown Tree on the coffee table. *sigh*

After I took delivery of the designer bed, I went to the hospital to take my class. The PT showed me what DH can and can't do. It was simple really. I just had to show the PT that I could transfer DH from the wheelchair, to the walker, to the car. Then we went home for the final exam...I had to show the PT that I could get DH from the car, up the steps, and into the house. Then she had to check out his living space--bed, bathroom, kitchen. She loved the designer bed...asked where she could get one like it. LOL After about 20 minutes, she determined that I, and our house, passed the final exam. This is the GREAT news...we went back to the hospital, where he was officially discharged.



The SAD part of this deals with my MIL...she finally went to see DH at the hospital the day before he was discharged. Her excuse for not going to see him...are you ready for this...she didn't know where the hospital was. I didn't say a word, though I am certain she could tell by the look on my face, I thought that was a lame excuse. So she added, that she didn't have internet to look it up. Still lame, in my opinion. She could have used her other son's internet--he is 40 and lives in her basement, urinates in milk jugs because he is too lazy to go upstairs to the bathroom. Nothing wrong with that, I am just saying. She could have went to the library. She could have went to a store and just looked at a map. She could have called the hospital or ME. She lives 11 miles from from the hospital. She is 1/4 mile from a major state route. Literally, she made one left and one right turn to get there. She was closer than I was. She could have driven to the state route and followed the BIG BLUE H signs. You don't even have to speak English in this country to locate a hospital! Truth be told, she was probably visiting SS in JAIL.



All I can say about her is...she is consistent...she never fails to disappoint.





I am off to go do some decorating!

Spark on!




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RINA2002 1/2/2012 12:03PM

  Wow, you are a fighter. I admire your persistence to take charge of your life and enjoy it despite the challenges.

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LITTLELADYHOPE 12/30/2011 5:06AM

    WOOHOO for SS being in jail AND for DH being home!!! I'm sure being around you and the kids more will help him heal faster. He must be so relieved to be home!

My future MIL is the exact same way. Lots to look forward to, huh? You have my sympathy.



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TWNOMWE 12/21/2011 2:59PM

    I hope that with all these, you find time to enjoy the beauty of the holiday season. Pray for your MIL and then forget her for a while.
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HKARLSSON 12/21/2011 11:47AM

    Hey, lady! I'm not surprised at all that you passed your caregiver test with flying colors. You are Wonder Woman!

I know people are going to call me out for being a cold-hearted witch, but re: SS = BOOYAH!!! Forgive me a moment of Schadenfreude.

Your MIL... *sigh* I feel bad for you, especially when you have to be the one to deal with her, and knowing that she's your husband's MOTHER, and knowing how that kind of behavior must make him feel. Maybe she pays more attention to her other offspring because they need to be shepherded, whereas your husband is being taken good care of and has a good life, and doesn't really need to be mothered. Some moms have this bizarre desire to keep on being mommy to their children to the point of wishing (if not outright ENABLING) their children to be functionally useless, and punishing their children who have become functioning adults by ignoring them in times of need, among other things. In any case, it's pathetic, but you seem to have a grip on how to handler her, so kudos to you.

Don't forget to take some time for yourself, and don't let anyone make you feel like you're being selfish if you are. If they do, you can borrow my 25 pound steel pipe straightening mandrel to produce a counter-argument, as it were.

Regarding the designer bed, I have three words for you: TINSEL and ROPE LIGHTING!!!! Or the kind of lights that you can program to blink along with the music. There must be a way to Martha Stewart that thing up!

Wishing you and your hubby and kiddos a merry (and drama-free) Christmas!

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MSPRIS3 12/21/2011 11:09AM

    "he is 40 and lives in her basement, urinates in milk jugs because he is too lazy to go upstairs to the bathroom. Nothing wrong with that, I am just saying."

LMAO!!!!

Wow
, and I thought my inlaws were bad. Your MIL, wow, would I ever do without that relationship. Funny how when repeatedly dissapointed, we just learn to accept it. Really shouldn't be that way, but such is life.

Glad your hubby will be home ove rhte holidays though, and just so ya know, there is nothing wrong with a Charlie Brown Tree!

All the best!



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JENN26POINT2 12/21/2011 9:15AM

    Your mother-in-law is a piece of work... I'm sure if she wanted to see her son she could have just called you and asked you to drive her there. I'm sure you're not such a horrible daughter-in-law that you would deny her a ride the hospital to see her injured son... some people never cease to amaze me.

I'm glad you passed the exams and that DH gets to come home. congratulations and I hope he has a speedy recovery.

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COMPUCATHY 12/20/2011 9:53PM

    Wow, sweetie, you are really dealing with "it." Glad DH got to come home. What a load you are carrying! Find some time to take care of you, okay? Be really careful helping DH around. So many people really hurt their backs in doing that kind of work...just be really smart about it. About MIL...that's so sad. Some day, she will look back and be filled with remorse...and it will be too late...regret is no fun. Hopefully, she'll figure it all out sooner rather than later. Keep up the good work! Thanks for the encouragement! Spark on! emoticon

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PONYFARMER 12/19/2011 10:23PM

    Blessings that your DH is home and what a lucky man to have his very own designer bed.

Oh my goodness on the IN-LAWS. Bottom line on the MIL, she just did not want to go. End of story. He and you were probably better off she did not go there much.

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NEVERORNOW 12/17/2011 4:41PM

    Soooo happy to hear DH is home and recovering! Now if there were only a cure for what ails SS and the mil (sigh)...

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MOSTMOM1 12/17/2011 1:53PM

    Yay! Glad he's home. String lights on the bed and hang a stocking on it. Might as well... Go to the nearest gas station and buy a local Mal for MIL for Christmas. Good grief. Well, if you ever decide to write a book or screenplay, at least they're giving you free material.

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LALMEIDA 12/15/2011 2:44PM

  I am glad that your husband is home. emoticon
Remember to take care of yourself too. Merry Christmas

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BABYSTEPS84 12/13/2011 1:23PM

    I love how through this you and your family have pulled together. I'm sure you've all made sacrifices, but it is good to read about the kids pitching in to get dad home :) I'm sure it's difficult celebrating the holidays without the tree and everything, but I'm sure having your husband there will make this holiday unique and special.
And MIL - well, my inlaws rarely fail to disappoint also. I've come to terms with the fact that they have their own issues and that they are so absorbed in them that they forget the important things. I maintain just enough contact that we don't lose them completely (I fear my husband would regret it if it did happen like that). The joys of lowered expectations :) We should exchange stories some day :)

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ANIMAL_L0VER 12/13/2011 12:25PM

    So glad he's home and things are slowly getting back to normal!
It sounds like the DH's family has some issues, and I'm glad to see that you don't get sucked into the utter stupidity and nonsense.
However, you're too kind when you say the BIL "urinates in milk jugs because he is too lazy to go upstairs to the bathroom. Nothing wrong with that, I am just saying." There's IS something wrong with a 40yo man peeing in a bottle because he's too LAZY to go the the bathroom!! If he was homeless, had no access to a bathroom, etc., then he'd have an excuse but pure LAZINESS at 40?!?!?! WTF?!?! And I don't know how you deal with the MIL... I'd have a really hard time biting my tongue.

All in all though, it sounds like you've perfected dealing with all of them and I'm glad to hear things are improving. Keep up the positive attitude and stay strong!

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LINDAJ0621 12/13/2011 10:57AM

    Happy to hear your DH is at home to recover. Remember to make time for YOU!
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KELLEEH 12/12/2011 8:22PM

    Wow, what a mixed bag! You seem to be taking everything in stride, with your sense of humor intact! I'm glad your DH is coming home!

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ADRIENALINE 12/12/2011 5:09PM

    Best wishes to you and your family. So glad that your DH is home. I sure know about that caretaker part and it is a stress a minute. Thanks so much for keeping your sense of humor.

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CRAZYDOGLADYBO 12/12/2011 2:33PM

    I am glad to hear about SS and DH!

I hope DH heals quickly!

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IMIN2GENES 12/12/2011 2:23PM

    I am so glad to hear that DH is coming home! That is good news.

As for the other news... well, families sure can work that last nerve! I wish I could say I'm surprised by some of the behavior you mentioned; but sadly it is too familiar.

I hope you, DH and your kids have a wonderful holiday season all under one roof! And congrats on getting them to help you clean up. I'm still working on that one!
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MOMTONOAH 12/11/2011 5:38PM

    I'm glad to hear that DH is home and healing. Wishing SS a memorable holiday behind bars. Good luck with your continued caregiver duties. I know this must be a very stressful time.

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GOHUSKERS2 12/11/2011 10:15AM

    Glad DH is home and since MIL can't find the hospital maybe she'll forget how to get to your house too. I feel sorry for your husband. I wonder what it would feel like to have such an uncaring mother. Sounds like you do all you can and so take comfort in that. We don't get to choose family and we have a doozy in our family too.

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SARAHSUNDAE 12/10/2011 5:20PM

    I'm sorry about your in-laws.

I'm glad that your husband is home. That is the most important thing!! You must be so happy. emoticon

And the hospital beds? I know. They aren't glamorous. I work for a medical supply company and they are pretty hideous.

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FUSCHIA6 12/10/2011 1:37PM

    Try not to buy into the crap with your in-laws too much. It must be stressful on your husband to be one of them & have you at odds with them, even if he agrees that they are nuts. I do however, find it hilarious. I wish Stupid Steve an even longer "time-out." Thank goodness DH is on the mend!
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LOSER05 12/10/2011 11:59AM

    I think every family has their crazies. I agree with LOPEYP you have the BEST one. emoticon

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CHEEKY1000 12/10/2011 10:50AM

    I know the important thing is that your hubby is home, and I'm so glad!

However, what I CANNOT get out of my head (and I really wish I could) is the 40 year old living in the basement and peeing in jugs because he's too lazy to go upstairs. I take it he plans on being single until...FOREVER? lol

You crack me up. Thank you for sharing, and again, I happy that you passed your test and your DH is home.

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MISSY455 12/10/2011 2:12AM

    So glad to hear you passed your caregiver class! There was no doubt in my mind. So happy your DH is home.

Keep your chin up girl, and take sometime for you everyday.
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FINALLYBEINGME 12/9/2011 10:50PM

    emoticonhope you're getting a few minutes to yourself here and there. Take care.

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BOMBSHELLBEAN 12/9/2011 8:56PM

    So glad DH is home. Happy news until the end. As far as the MIL goes it is what is. Just focus on the good. Hey if she couldn't find the hospital what is the likelihood she will forget where you live? One can only hope right. emoticon

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RUARUGBYNUT2 12/9/2011 8:43PM

    HI TRISH
In all fairness it takes time to catch all them toads
and spiders for her potions so dont be too hard on MIL and Broomsticks are not as cheap as they used to be due to the economic fiscal climate at present, as for the house well put the kids in an orphanage you,ll be amazed at the results of how clean your home becomes[in just hours]. Great news about Dopey lets hope they lose the Key to his apartment, i say apartment because if its anything like our jails it is a bloody apartment!

Hope DH is feeling somewhat better and you Take Care
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ME_FIRST 12/9/2011 7:38PM

    I'm glad DH is home. Crazy MIL's are just that, crazy and full of excuses. SS in jail.... a big blessing for the whole family. Now, how to keep all the crazies out of your house. Through all of this, don't forget to take care of YOU, even before DH. He can wait a few minutes for whatever it is he needs (except the bed pan!!)



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RAYLINSTEPHENS 12/9/2011 5:48PM

    Glad to hear DH is home - while it will be more work for you physically, it will be less stressful with him home again.



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BLUE42DOWN 12/9/2011 4:42PM

    Good to hear he's doing well enough so quickly that he's coming home. Also good to hear SS is out of the picture for a while, no matter how or why it happened.

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And I so pictured you running Xmas lights all around the designer bed, except that knowing such beds I can't imagine that being safe or convenient.

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DAS92687 12/9/2011 3:16PM

    Perhaps if you and MIL exchange Christmas gifts, you will consider getting her a road atlas. (At least I probably would, and would do it without discussing it with DH as he would just say I was being a B ;-)

It has been about 8 years now, but I do remember when we had one of those beds AND (Get ready to be jealous!!) a porta-john in the livingroom in order to bring my grandfather here. I did not have the foresight to consider decorating them. But, in my defense, it wasn't Christmas, either. But I'll look forward to seeing how gorgeous yours looks.

Seriously ... glad you Hubby is home!
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LOPEYP 12/9/2011 3:06PM

    Safe to say you got the best one out of the bunch. Hope your husband has a speedy recovery!

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MOUNTAINMERMAID 12/9/2011 2:32PM

    (((TRISH)))
I know Your situtation is Not funny BUT , the way You write about it made me Smile in a few places!
You are such a Positive role moldel for Everyone in Your Life!
Me included.
Woo Hoo!
Go Trish!

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WALLAHALLA 12/9/2011 2:12PM

    Your husband is so blessed to have you in his life. I'm sure you don't want to even imagine what it would be like if it was left up to your mil to care for him. This will definitely be a holiday you never forget. In years to come, I hope you will find things to look back on and laugh at. I am so glad your family will be together for Christmas. I think I would find a way to hang lights on the bed, or garland, or something, just for fun. I will continue to keep you in my prayers!

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THETURTLEBEAR 12/9/2011 2:10PM

    Hugs to you. I know you will be making lemonade out of those lemons...and can just picture the designer bed after you have holiday-ized it, LOL!

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JENNIFER_67 12/9/2011 2:02PM

    Glad to hear your husband is home now.

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ALIHIKES 12/9/2011 1:45PM

    So glad your husband is coming home! (even gladder that your MIL doesn't live in your house!) Congrats on passing the last minute home inspection!

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NWCOUNTRYDANCER 12/9/2011 12:15PM

    Awesome on the hubby coming home. Glad you passed the test. (We all knew you would!) Love the designer bed idea. Remember to keep taking care of you during time.

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TRUCKERWIFE2 12/9/2011 11:25AM

    This is the 1st blog of yours I have read. You really need to have a sense of humor to get through your life and I'm glad God has blessed you with one. Sorry MIL is such a pill. I've always told my kids you can't pick your relatives. Hope dh recovers quickly having family surrounding him and encouraging him. Love can do amazing things. Take time for yourself so you don't get burned out. It's easy to put yourself last when you are the primary caregiver. Even if you have to soak in the tub for awhile for a mini vacation.

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IGSBETH 12/9/2011 11:07AM

    Unbelievable. I am glad that things are looking up for your family, though!

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IRISHBEANERGAL 12/9/2011 11:02AM

    Reading this blog made me sad for your hubby and his relationship with his Mom. Hard stuff there - he's lucky you are so *flexible* lol (nicest word I could come up with for the situation lol)

Big Congrats on him coming home. You will be busy and there will be some adjustments for sure - but its good to have him home. Be on the lookout for wandering MIL's who may try to sabotage the whole situation.

Congrats also on the SS dorkasaurus being put back in the cage he belongs in. That will definitely help you with your stress levels this holiday.

Best present of all for the holidays - hubby is recovering and coming home!!

Don't forget to take care of YOU during all of this!

~Irish

*plan to work and work your plan*

edited for this: PS - maybe for Christmas Santa can bring the MIL a garmin? I'm just sayin'... LOL

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I need to take a CLASS on how to CARE??? Excuse me?

Sunday, December 04, 2011

First of all, I want to thank all my Spark buds for all the thoughts and prayers for my DH. It is overwhelming...in a good way...I feel loved. I wish I had time to respond to everyone individually. I am way behind in my Spark online activities...especially reading blogs, responding to Sparkmail, and sending goodies. Please know I am not ignoring you. I read a lot of friend's blogs and try to comment on most. Even if it is just a couple of words or an emotioncon. I do that just so you know that I CARE. I really do. I try to be a positive force example for my children. I hate the word "can't". It is like fingernails on a chalkboard to me. So I don't want to say I "can't" get caught up on my Spark stuff.

This whole ordeal with DH is really cramping my Spark time. So please be patient with me. I am not deleting any mail. I promise, I WILL read everything. I just may not have the time to respond to everything. Especially since I will be using my phone more for reading blogs and mail, etc. It is more difficult for me to see on my phone. I need new glasses. Man, it suc>s to get old. Well, it beats the alternative, I guess. My birthday is in about 2 weeks...can you tell? emoticon

Update on DH...
He was moved to the rehab floor. He is in PT and OT virtually all day. He is progressing very well. He is still getting great drugs for the pain...he says it reminds him of his 20's. Whoa! I think the drugs were a lot safer then. emoticon

My MIL STILL has not been to see him. He has been there 8 days. She lives closer to the hospital than I do. Don't know or care what her excuse is, really.

While I am at work, DH emails me through out the day. Friday, he sent me an email asking if I could take a class for care-giving on next Wednesday. My first thought was...WTH...I need to take a class on how to CARE? I was a little insulted. I spend most of my time at the hospital. I get my children on the bus, go to the hospital, then to work, get my children off the bus, and back to the hospital, The only thing I do at home is sleep and shower. And my house looks like The Wreck of the Hesperus. I don't know how it got this way...all we do is sleep here. emoticon

So he explains to me, that the class is to show me HOW to care for him PHYSICALLY. OH OK. I am glad we got that straight.



So please know that, even though it may seem that I am absent, yes, I truly CARE about YOU too!


Spark on!


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LITTLELADYHOPE 12/30/2011 5:01AM

    If we all had to do the same amount of stuff in a day that you do, we'd be falling behind too. I can't speak for anyone else, but I do know you care, and I care about you too, and you've been a real inspiration to me, so don't worry. Hope things are getting better!

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MOSTMOM1 12/17/2011 1:49PM

    Lordy, nobody's expecting you to keep up with SparkMail stuff right now! Glad you found a class on caring, one way or another. Lol Fight on, brave warrior!

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STLCARDSFANS05 12/16/2011 11:06AM

    OMG...i share that gene. i have a limited circle of caring. inside the cirle, i care. outside the circle is clutter. some see it as insensitive...pashhaaa....i see it as refreshing

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MERAINA 12/13/2011 12:32PM

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ANIMAL_L0VER 12/13/2011 12:17PM

    Glad to hear things are progressing and that your keeping your spirits up and your focus in the right direction!

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TEXASFILLY 12/8/2011 9:12PM

    emoticonHope your hubby is on the mend and back to 100% soon. Take care of yourself, gf~ *hugs* BB~

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POLLKAT 12/7/2011 1:11PM

    You are an inspiration. Your plate is beyond overflowing and yet you can joke, still eat healthy and get everything accomplished without losing your mind. And I sit here wallowing in my own self-pity stuffing my face with cake..... for no apparent reason. Goes to show who is the victor in this game!! You do inspire me. You make me want to do (much) better. I pray for strength for you in all you are about to undertake. I pray that hubby is mended and back on his feet with no complications!! "This too shall pass!"

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JENN26POINT2 12/6/2011 12:39PM

    A class on how to care... that's a funny one. Glad the DH is doing so well. Hang in there!!

And I can't believe his own mother hasn't been in to see him! I'd have to race my MIL to the hospital if it were my husband. How can a mother NOT visit her son in the hospital? I don't get it... she must be too busy "caring" for SS... hehehe I love that nickname!

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CJBIRDJO 12/6/2011 8:42AM

    Take care of YOU, take care of him, and the rest will follow suit. The rest of it is, what it is.

Prayers and blessings!!!

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TURTLETALK 12/5/2011 7:38PM

    My DH lost a leg in an accident 5 years ago. My version of "caring" looked much different than others expected. Others hovered over him and allowed him to feel sorry for himself. My "caring" was to set the house up to accommodate him, then expect him to figure out how to do some things himself. Don't let others get you down. You know better than anyone else just what kind of care he needs. emoticon

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BABYSTEPS84 12/5/2011 11:43AM

    hahahah - I love the care class story!
I'm glad he is mending well and that you are doing okay.
Good job not getting caught up in the family drama!

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MRE1956 12/5/2011 9:45AM

    Hey, there - you do what you need to do - don't worry about us Sparkies......we totally understand!

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RAYLINSTEPHENS 12/5/2011 7:29AM

    bless you today and always
prayers for you and your DH and the rest of the family!

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EUPHRATES 12/4/2011 11:34PM

    Ooooo, you're birthday is in 2 weeks? *pounces fellow Sag* Mine's the 15th!

Biggest rule of Caregiving? Remember to take care of the Caregiver!
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THETURTLEBEAR 12/4/2011 10:21PM

    You have a great attitude! We are all behind you!

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MISSY455 12/4/2011 10:09PM

    Hang in there, as this too will pass. And you are so right about the alternative!

My elderly Dad came to live with us a few months ago, and although I am much happier with this arrangement than I was with him being 1500 miles away, I definitely find myself wishing I knew more about how to care for him. I have a long list for everyone of his Dr's visits...I am sure his Dr thinks I am a nut case. I have found there is a fine line between doing too much for him and pushing him too do what he can. I hope you find your class to be very informational!

Oh and don't worry about us...we know you Care!
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KRZYKAT3 12/4/2011 9:56PM

    hi, not sure what all your hubby has giong on but I felt the same way after my DH's heart surgery when they told me Ihad to go to class as well.

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TEXASFILLY 12/4/2011 9:48PM

    Do what you are able, sister, and don't worry about the rest. Life happens and your family comes first. Keeping y'all close in prayer. Love ya, Trish~ emoticonBB~ emoticon emoticon

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MTULLY 12/4/2011 9:04PM

    How you have been able to keep your sanity and sense of humor during this whole ordeal is beyond me! You are pretty darn amazing. Glad to hear your husband is making progress. Those were substantial injuries, and he is one lucky man. Like others have suggested, be sure you are taking care of yourself during all this. You are in my thoughts and prayers. emoticon

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LALMEIDA 12/4/2011 8:50PM

  emoticon I hope your husband feels better.

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GETSTRONGRRR 12/4/2011 8:25PM

    Wow, that's a lot to deal with on any given day, so it sounds like you're finding the right balance.

Do what you can to take CARE of yourself too....probably don't need a class for that. just keep checking on on Sparkpeople!

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NYS_EMT 12/4/2011 8:02PM

    I'm so sorry to hear all this! I, too, am behind on Spark communications... although for different reasons!

I am praying for you and DH! I wish him a speedy recovery and some sanity for you!

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CMFARRELL36 12/4/2011 8:02PM

    You're title drew me in, too!
But yes, a "class' on how to look after your DH should be a good thing. Just in itself, but also to give you, hopefully, some contact with other folk in a similar situation, if you need more support.

I hope everything works out well for you both.


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HEALTH4MICHELLE 12/4/2011 7:44PM

    Hang in there!
Hopefully, the caregiver class will also give you contact with people who are going through the same thing that you are. That will help you too!!

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LINDAJ0621 12/4/2011 6:52PM

    Wow...your title drew me in, but sorry to hear about your DH. Hope his recovery goes smoothly and SS and MIL stay far away! Remember to take time for YOU... emoticon

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SHERRYJVP 12/4/2011 6:09PM

    It is apparent you care deeply. Which just makes those classes important because I bet you want to care perfectly. You just sound the type to care THAT much. They will give you confidence. I am sending prayer for you and your DH. Take care of you, too.

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HKARLSSON 12/4/2011 5:40PM

    Lord have mercy, woman. How you have kept from putting a hit out on your MIL and SS, I do not know. That would have been the first thing on my list after getting DH situated. He is a lucky man to have you there for him. Hopefully he'll realize it and be able to express it.

As far as the caregiving class is concerned, do it. And if they have a social worker or counselor there, talk to them about what to expect, both with how your husband might respond to treatment and also how you might respond to being the solely responsible adult for a while. It's nothing to be ashamed of, and it can be such a relief to hear that those thoughts and feelings you experience are normal, and to hear ways to deal with them that you may not have thought of. Heck, it even feels nice to be validated once in a while during such an ordeal. Don't be surprised when nobody in your family asks how YOU are doing. It's okay. That's what the counselors and social workers are for. They are better equipped to listen to what you have to say than your family members, anyway, because they are a neutral third party. And of course, friends are always there!

I also agree with everyone else about the "taking care of yourself" part. You will have to continue to take care of you, even after the immediate danger has passed, because the stress has a way of sneaking up on you when you least expect it. I am glad to hear that he is progressing well. Sending positive vibes for his speedy recovery and peaceful vibes for you! Hang in there.

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BOMBSHELLBEAN 12/4/2011 5:39PM

    Trish~
Don't worry about anyone or anything other then you, DH and the kids. Anyone who care about you will understand. Just please remember you are no help to him or the kids if you don't eat right and get enough sleep.
Positive thoughts and prayers coming your way.
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CHEEKY1000 12/4/2011 4:18PM

    Care-giving...wow! So, contrary to what the amazing SS thought...your DH was not just winded. Sheesh! I'm sending positive thoughts your way, and hoping local law enforcement acts on one of SS's outstanding warrants.

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DANCINCAJUN1 12/4/2011 3:16PM

    So hope all goes well .... I really wished someone had offered to show me how to take care of my Hubby after his surgeries .... it was definitely a learning situation for us both .... he lucked out -- I didn't hurt him !! had no clue what to do to help him until he started his therapies .... take advantage of the class if you have time ... and do take care of yourself as well ... prayers for all of you !! Roc
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AHAPPYLIFE 12/4/2011 3:15PM

    I wish your husband a speedy recovery & for you, a few moments of calm!

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    Thinking of you and your family. emoticon

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JEM0622 12/4/2011 2:52PM

    Continued P&PT for your DH. And for you! As the caregiver.

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RUARUGBYNUT2 12/4/2011 2:36PM

    HI TRISH
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WALLAHALLA 12/4/2011 2:30PM

    You and your family will rise above this stronger and closer than ever before. We will continue to keep you in our thoughts and prayers.

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POINTAFTER 12/4/2011 2:09PM

    Being a primary caretaker is hard, demanding, physically AND emotionally exhausting. My mother took care of my father AND sister while they were battling cancer because I live too far away to provide any substantial help. Had she not been healthy it would have wiped her out.

She had experience with her mother and brother, so she has it down to a science. The class may not be a bad idea if you've never done anything like this before. I can say from personal experience that looking after others can wreak havoc on your life if you let it.

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NWCOUNTRYDANCER 12/4/2011 1:51PM

    Good luck! Glad he is doing better.

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IRISHBEANERGAL 12/4/2011 1:38PM

    First - unsolicited advice - you do not have to keep up with everyone - the cool thing about friends is that we CARE about you and want you to do what you need to do. We will be here when it's over. Those who are insulted by a lack of attention - pffft... they aren't the friends you need to worry about. However, with that said - I would probably be saying the same thing to all my friends that I would catch up etc etc LOL

Now, on to DH - what a true gift that he's recovering so well. Take your class so you can do the medical care stuff-- it sounds like you have the feelings part down well :)

~Irish

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LORIENABANANA 12/4/2011 1:23PM

    Sending you positive thoughts and prayers. You will make it though this - one step at a time.

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we are all thinking about you, too! 'an, we Know you're a champ.!

Lizzy=D

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AZULVIOLETA6 12/4/2011 1:21PM

    Sounds like you are (understandably) very tired but you haven't lost your sense of humor!

Hang in there.

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    You and your husband have been in my thoughts- good to know he's better emoticon

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MOMOF4CHANGES 12/4/2011 1:18PM

    Thanks for the update.
My husband was in the hospital for 11 days when I had 2 school age sons and a 2 year old daughter. The hospital was over 1/2 hour away over windy roads in the winter. Then when he got home I was his nurse, showering, changing bandages, and giving him IV medicine 3X/day. It was a difficult time, but we got through it. For better or for worse, sickness and health. In the end, I felt very thankful that I had the opportunity to prove I could uphold those parts of our vows.
I wish the very best for you and your husband and your family. You'll get through this and we will be waiting for when you are able to get back in your sparkpeople routine. Remember you have a large support system here and you are thought of often. emoticon emoticon

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    You are too funny! emoticon

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DAS92687 12/4/2011 1:12PM

    Enjoy the class .... maybe MIL will want to attend with you ;-)

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My bra strap got stuck on my tiara--please help!

Wednesday, November 30, 2011

My bra strap got stuck on my tiara--please help!

It all started with the free bird last week...

The turkey my employer gave me for Thanksgiving gave me fits coming out of the hot oven. I pulled a muscle in my back wrestling that dumb bird to the counter top! No serious injury, me, I mean…the bird was dead. I did ask myself if I could get Worker’s Comp since my employer gave me the bird. I doubt it.

I did great on Thanksgiving and Black Friday, as far as my fitness and food. I stayed in range, no problem. I remember thinking, if this was the test, I passed with flying colors.

My back was fine by Friday. At this point the tiara is still firmly planted on my crown.

Saturday was THE big game…Ohio State @ Michigan.

It was really nice out that day. And DH decided to take down 2 trees in the back yard that were fairly close to the house. I usually help him with the big ones. He knew I wanted to watch football, so he asked his stupid half brother, Steve to help him. This guy is 36 years old, irresponsible, convicted felon, only operating with half of the normal brain cells due to his drug habits.

But I am" too hard on him." I need to" give him a break because he has had a hard life".( his CHOICE, not mine) He has stolen property from us several times. My MIL expects me to" ignore it and share the wealth" because we are "lucky". I am not lucky, I work hard to have the material things. So yes, it angers me that I drag my happy a$$ to work everyday, pay taxes, to support Stupid Steve’s kids, then I am expected to ignore his stealing, and " loan" him money too!

OK, my in-laws sometimes cause my tiara to slip. I have considered wrapping it around their necks or poking them in the eyes with it.


So my DD and I are watching the game on TV. We are wearing our matching Michigan sweatshirts. My DD is a cheerleader, so you must show your S P I R I T. I was sporting my NEW EXTRA SMALL Michigan sweatshirt. I may be sorry for this later in the day…

The two trees are close to the house, so DH wants to top them first, then take down the trunks. He climbs the tree, cuts the high branches first. I can feel the ground shake when the branches hit the ground. It was half time. I just happened to look out the window…

I saw my DH faced down in the dirt with Stupid Steve rubbing his back. I felt like I had swallowed my heart. I ran to him, climbing through a maze of tree branches to get to him. It had been at least 5 minutes since I had felt the last limb fall, so I don’t know when Stupid Steve was going to come and get me. DH was conscious, but having difficulty breathing. The first thing he said to me was" I can move my toes". You see, he sells durable medical equipment. He specializes in custom wheelchairs…think Christopher Reeve here. I tell SS to call 911. He is now on the other side of the tree, playing with his phone. He says "he just got the wind knocked out of him." I said "call 911." He said "what town is this, what is the address." I told him. He said "we should use the house phone." I said "we don’t have a land line anymore. Call 911." He said "where are we?" I said "do I need to go get my phone…call 911!" He finally called. I asked SS what happened. He said DH was standing on the branch of one tree, cutting a branch out of the other tree. When the branch fell it hit the limb he was on causing him to fall about 25 feet to the ground.
I told SS to clear the branches out of the way so the EMTs to get to him easier. He didn’t listen. He started pacing back and forth. When the first responder got here, I looked around and SS was gone. I found him pacing on the driveway. He told me that if a sheriff comes, he is giving them a different name, if they ask—he has outstanding arrest warrants. I was shocked--NOT. Guess that’s why he did not want to call 911. The thought of going to jail was more important than the safety of his brother.

At this point I hear the sirens, so I go around back, and realize SS did not move the branches. So I did. There went the same back muscle…ouch! I don't know or care where my tiara is at this point!

OK this is one of those times I feel like using that blasted tiara as a weapon!

It took awhile for the EMTs to get DH on the board and into the ambulance. I was inside preparing my 2 kids to go to the hospital.

Oh guess what, no sheriff deputy came-- darn it!

As soon as the ambulance pulls out of the driveway SS starts barking orders at me. "Just leave the kids here with me. I will finish cutting down the trees. Leave me DH’s car key so I can get home."

This is when I thought my head was going to explode!

I would not let this dumba$$ take care of my CAT, let alone my children.

He does not have a driver’s license, so I would not give him my car key.

He is a THIEF, so I would not leave him alone at my house.

Did I mention…I thought my head was going to explode. No tiara is going to hold it together!

I am trying to process my options in my head. I decide that he is just going to have to go with me to the hospital. That way, he could get medical attention after I beat the crap out of him. Which I now realize, he would have refused to go to the hospital. He once got arrested in an ER waiting room. My neighbor was on my porch, and could sense my stress. So he told SS that he had to leave. I told my neighbor that SS did not drive there, so he volunteered to take SS home. I was so relieved.

So we get to the ER waiting room…

good news…the game is on the TV…

bad news…we are wearing Michigan sweatshirts in a room full of scarlet and gray, including the Dr.s and nurses...

you see, we are fairly close to the OSU campus…so there are a lot of Buck Nuts here

Deep down I am very worried about DH because I don’t know the extent of his injuries. I want to protect my kids, so I keep it light, focus on the game.
We missed the entire 3rd quarter and part of the 4th quarter.

In case you missed it…Ohio State 34 Michigan 40…I’m just saying, that’s all.


We finally got to see DH and a doctor. The injuries…a collapsed lung, several broken ribs, broken left hip, broken left shoulder, broken pelvis. Yes, he broke his a$$. I know it sounds bad, but I feel blessed because it could have been much worse. He will be fine in 6-8 weeks. After the Buck Nut Dr. did the procedure to re-inflate his lung, I called my FIL and MIL. They are divorced. I have been on vacations with both of them, separately. So I can see how they could not live together. I would not want to live with either one of them. MIL already knew that DH fell out of the tree. SS lives with her. Shocking that he still lives with his mother, I know.

Sunday morning, DH is in the ICU. I walk in on a phone conversation between DH and MIL. She led him to believe that I never called her the day before. BITCH-- that’s all I’m saying about that.



I usually track all of my food for the day before breakfast. I didn’t on Sunday. When I sat down Sunday night to do it, I realized something. Healthy eating is a fully ingrained habit for me. You see, in the past, I would have grabbed anything sweet and salty and devoured it under such stress. Not this time. I only eat when I am hungry. It is a HEALTHY HABIT. I do not have to worry about it. It is now a part of me.


I did have a meltdown(no eating, just crying) when I got to work Monday morning. I think it was because I was away from my children for the first time since it happened. I didn’t have to pretend to be strong. I was worried. And I was wearing a bra that the band was too big, so the straps were getting on my last ever-loving nerve. When I got on Sparkpeople.com I realized I was" in the Spotlight" for the Winter challenge. I said "Oh crap, I am not in the mood to be a motivator, or a cheerleader today. God help me." Then I realized I just needed to pull my happy a$$ up by my bra straps and straighten my tiara. Why…because I am a Warrior!

I do need to get some new bras though, really!

Spark on!

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DAWNIAMW 1/23/2012 10:10PM

    I know I am late in seeing this but I gotta say..."oh geesh!"....re-runs of family gatherings are spinnng in my head. I was fortunate enough to be able to move 3000 miles away and now can hang up [literally] if I dont want to hear or deal with the drama.

I agree with the above post as well in that, as much as it pains me to say it, i'm glad it was your dh and not bil that got hurt as im SURE they would have had dollar signs spinning faster than jackpot slots in their minds and gone after your family for everything you had.

As to your Warrior/Princess nature, I've never met you, but I absolutely think you are wonderful.



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MZKYND 1/1/2012 4:56PM

    You have such a refreshing voice :) I laughed my butt off, found myself going "Ooh what a horrible accident" and "thank god that isn't my BIL".

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CONNIER64 1/1/2012 2:19PM

    Love your sense of humor emoticon

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4DOGNIGHT 12/31/2011 10:11AM

    SOOO Funny if it wasn't so sad! Glad things are working out. And go Michigan!

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LITTLELADYHOPE 12/30/2011 4:56AM

    So thankful that your DH will be okay, and that you are strong enough to handle this gracefully. Sounds like SS should be locked up for a good long time, and it's gotta be awful of being in the position of being his family. Yes, he's had a hard life, but we all should take responsibility for our actions.

Hope DH heals up quick!! Sending tons of positive energy your way.

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PONYFARMER 12/19/2011 10:38PM

    I am thinking now that the best thing for you, your DH, the children and any pets you may have, is to move as far away from those nut balls as you can possibly get. I realize you may need to wait until your husband heals, but you can at least start packing and makign arragements.

SS needs to be locked up permanetly! Are you not so happy it was not him who fell out of the tree or I am sure that he would be living in your basement.

My heart goes out to you and your family. Hope he heals up quickly and completely. All I can say is OMGosh.

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FIFIFRIZZLE 12/19/2011 12:09AM

    I am in awe. All that in just one day. You are WonderWoman!

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MOSTMOM1 12/17/2011 1:42PM

    I'm glad you didn't use your tiara as a weapon, although I'd keep it sharpened if I were you. So very glad that DH is going to be all right but sorry that he's hurt so badly.
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ROCKMAN6797 12/17/2011 8:16AM

    Wow, what a story! So glad that your DH is on the mend and you seem to be holding down the fort magnificently! You have done yourself proud! You are a tiara-wearing warrior!

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PAMNANGEL 12/14/2011 7:30PM

    Sounds like my 'family'. I use the term loosely. I'm biologically related to them, but I don't feel any emotional connection. Alcoholics, felons, drugs, fa la la la!

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ANIMAL_L0VER 12/13/2011 12:15PM

    Oh no! Haven't been on in awhile and so just read this!

I hope things are better and am glad you take the right perspective of things!
Thinking of you!

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LILLIANH13 12/11/2011 1:52PM

    I know how it feels to have a "druggie" in te family.
There comes a point and time when you want to tell them to take responsibility for their choices but they never will. All I can do is keep my mouth shut and ignore them when they're around. In your case, I'd tell SS where to go and what to do when he got there. Enough is enough.

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PROVERBS31JULIA 12/9/2011 1:45PM

    Wow!
You need a bigger and prettier Tiara! You've earned it!!

Hugs!
Julia


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GHOSTGRL21 12/9/2011 1:15PM

    I"m just now reading this *hangs head* I'm so glad he's going to be OK!

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46SHADOW 12/8/2011 9:19PM

    Wow! glad he'll be okay in 6-8 weeks. Wear your tiara with pride.

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MARYHENNIG 12/7/2011 11:54PM

  Wow. Hope your husband recovers quickly. Too bad you don't have a sweet 93 year old MIL like I have. She is just adorable. Hang in there. Hugs!

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POLLKAT 12/7/2011 12:54PM

    Oh so very sorry about hubby. Hope he is doing better now. But the rest of the story is quite funny. (Though I know you were NOT laughing). I can just imagine how you wanted to pulvarize your BIL. That can be soooooo frustrating. Next time just have him stay at home.

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REENIE131 12/6/2011 10:22PM

    Wow...hope your husband is feeling better, and congrats on not killing Steve...or your mother in law. Yet.

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CARLAWO 12/6/2011 7:56PM

    OOHH I want a tiara!
(not just to use as a weapon!)
Hope DH is on the mend!


Carla

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MSPRIS3 12/6/2011 1:45PM

    Glad to hear your DH is ok, he's pretty lucky!

AS for your MIL, in my opinion, she is enabling SS by making you ignore his faults...Um no, she can take care of him and support is bad habits, but that is not at all up to you to do (unless your DH is saying to ignore it too, then that's a differnet story)

My sister got into some bad stuff and lots of trouble about 5-6 years ago, drug use, alcohol, stealing, lying. It took a long time for my brother and I to convinve our Mom that she had to step back and let her get out of her own messes. Did I mention I am 33, and my sister is 41? You see the problem?
(My sister is better now, she is now working on rebuilding her life)

Hope your DH's recovery is quick, and you reach all your goals!

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JENN26POINT2 12/6/2011 12:36PM

    I'm sorry that a blog with such a potentially tragic situation has made the spotlight, but damn girl, that shiz is funny! Your whole "Stupid Steve" and wrecking people with your tiara! LOVE IT! Way to take charge of the situation and get your DH the help he needed. Knocked the wind out of him, my arse! I'm glad he's going to be ok though. I think next time SS needs to be the one in the tree... just sayin'.

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GUITARWOMAN 12/6/2011 10:47AM

    Strength to you!

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MARKSTIPANOVSKY 12/6/2011 7:17AM

    Wow, hope you find the strength to do the things you need to do and the motivation to do the things you choose to do...

All the best + Mark

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SCMAMAJONES 12/5/2011 1:44PM

    Just wow.

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TURTLETRACK 12/5/2011 1:29PM

    Hang in there you are doing GREAT.
Try to keep up the good work. Prayers for your husband and a good recovery.
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BOE4LIFE 12/5/2011 12:56PM

    You have the patience of a saint, and an incredible sense of self awareness to be able to deal with that. I am glad that the injuries were not horrible. Tell your neighbor i said thanks to him for alleviating the neanderthal factor. great job. I applaud you.

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BRANDI.FEY 12/5/2011 12:46PM

    I am so glad your husband is/will be okay! I think I would want to strangle SS, too. You showed great restraint, in my opinion.

P.S. I love your sass. Can I borrow some? Lol.

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BRAVEHEART4ME 12/5/2011 10:57AM

  Whoo, glad your husband is alright! Great article! emoticon

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MAGGIE101857 12/5/2011 6:58AM

    Wow! This makes my week ahead look like a piece of cake! I have a sister who made a mess of her life and everyone else's for quite some time! Now in her 40's, she has turned her life around and we no longer have to clean up her "messes". Never thought I would see the day - a lot of damage still to repair.

So glad that your husband is going to be okay - a rough 6 - 8 weeks ahead for him (and more for you to handle as well). Sounds like you are more than ready!!! You are a strong lady!!! Prayers for you and your family!!!

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LOSINGITALL4ME 12/4/2011 10:48PM

    Glad your husband will be fine after having time to recover. Wow! We all have them in our families. Way to handle the added stress!

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KIARASMUM1 12/4/2011 10:36PM

  Congratulations on getting through the weekend. I hope your DH is recovering well. I have to say though that I thoroughly enjoyed your story. It must be the way you tell em. You are obviously a very strong person. Take care emoticon

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LUVMYCRAZYKIDS 12/4/2011 10:35PM

    You Go!! (I'm a Bucks fan living in Columbus, that's all I'll say about that! LOL!)

speedy recovery to hubby!!

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CHRISKENANDKIDS 12/4/2011 10:05PM

    Oh my gosh! How scary! I think I would have beat the crap out of SS right there! My brother is a SS and it's really sad. But I wouldn't let him in my house by himself either - EVER. I sincerely hope your husband recovers quickly and I am so thankful it wasn't a lot worse! Hang in there!

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TEXASFILLY 12/4/2011 9:45PM

    You are so emoticon! emoticon I'm so sorry to hear about your hubby and hope he makes a speedy and complete recovery, Trish. Love the fact that your healthy eating habits are ingrained~ that is truly emoticon! emoticonBB~ emoticon emoticon emoticon

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STARTINGOVER-11 12/4/2011 5:07PM

    Way to go!!

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HEALTHYSLIM2 12/4/2011 3:31PM

    You are a warrior PRINCESS with tiara shining and glinting in the sun - yes you are! In fact, the glow off of you is blinding me! God bless you as you walk through the (they will feel long) days ahead, and thankfully the injuries, though serious, are ones that he will recover from.
Boo to your darn BIL and MIL. They sound challenging, to say the least. With family like that your husband is DOUBLY lucky to have found such an awesome wife!!
Take care and know that out there there is one more sparker praying and supporting you and your family through this all.
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AHAPPYLIFE 12/4/2011 3:13PM

    I'm actually related to a couple of SS - haven't seen them in years because life is just too short to be so unhappy. I still love them very much but absence has made this much easier! I hope you, your husband, & children will get through this with a smile in your heart & a tiarra on your heads!

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JAGRIF 12/4/2011 2:08PM

    Wow! What a weekend. Glad your DH will be fine.

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KIMMARIE11 12/4/2011 1:48PM

    I too had to read the post after being drawn in by the title. That tiara is firmly fastened to your head if you can tolerate the family drama. It is often said, it is not what we go through in life that define us, it is the way in which we react to it. Your reactions show a strength and humor that is impressive. Blog on ...

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CAREN_BLUEJEANS 12/4/2011 1:47PM

    Wishing your DH a swift return to full health! And wishing SS gets some brains from the wizard.

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LORIENABANANA 12/4/2011 1:33PM

    You could always call in the warrants on SS......I probably wouldn't do that, but it's an option.....

Congratulations on your strength for making it through that weekend!!

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CRAZYDOGLADYBO 12/4/2011 1:15PM

    I missed this blog, sorry! I hope DH is better! I will hold your coat while you attend to SS!

On another note, I am having the same bra issues, time to head to the store for a new one.

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MICHSTATE 12/4/2011 12:58PM

    Oh my... That sounds like it was very scary, I am glad that your dh is going to be OK!!! I keep seeing your name on the team digests for lots of exercise minutes, and I thought I would say "hi" and "good job" on all the fitness minutes!!!!!
~Laura

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WILDFLOWERMA 12/4/2011 10:49AM

    Wow...what an ordeal! Sorry that you had to experienced it & so glad that your husband will heal. Hopefully, this experience will cut through the delusion about his brother & help him see need to set healthy boundaries with his family.

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-LINDA_S 12/4/2011 9:39AM

   
Had to read a blog with a title like this! So glad I happened upon it! You write so well and with such heart. Best wishes to your DH for a speedy and complete recovery.

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VAWHITE 12/4/2011 7:10AM

    I read this alternately laughing and saying' "Oh no! That's awful." I think I know your SS....wait....no it couldn't be. You live to far away. My SS is SD anyway. Thanks for the laughs.


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VAWHITE 12/4/2011 7:09AM

    I read this alternately laughing and saying' "Oh no! That's awful." I think I know your SS....wait....no it couldn't be. You live to far away. My SS is SD anyway. Thanks for the laughs.


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GOING-STRONG 12/4/2011 2:09AM

    Is that a tree branch I see stuck in that tiara? You have a great sense of humor and I'm so happy your DH is going to be okay. Thanks for sharing and truth can be stranger than fiction. ;o)

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THETURTLEBEAR 12/3/2011 10:34PM

    When you read this, do you see a bunch of miscellaneous characters in the posting? This happened to me a few times when I wrote it in Word and then pasted into a blog. Now I either don't write in Word, or I remove all formatting before copy/pasting into Spark.

Meanwhile...LOVED THE BLOG!

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MARINEMAMA 12/1/2011 4:08PM

    Hope all is well with your hubby!! Love love your blog!!!

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I am a Warrior--a reminder blog for me 11/11/11

Friday, November 11, 2011

This is just a reminder for me...to keep me on track... emoticon


Attitudes of a Warrior

I am a warrior... I act in spite of fear.
I am a warrior... I am willing to do whatever it takes.
I am a warrior... I do everything at 100%.
I am a warrior... I am willing to do what's "hard."
I am a warrior... I act in spite of my mood.
I am a warrior... I am bigger than any obstacle.
I am a warrior... I succeed in spite of anything.
I am a warrior... I never give up!

Way of the Warrior

I am a warrior...
I create every moment of my life.
My choices create my reality.
My response creates my outcome.
There is no "can't." I choose to or choose not to.
There is no "try", I do or do not do.
I am true to my own heart.
I speak my truth... with compassion.
I keep my commitments.
My word is law.
I approve of myself, now.
I don't have to please everybody.
I don't take anything personally.
I understand that how others judge me is about them.
I look 'em in the eye, I tell 'em who I am, and if they don't like it, eff 'em!

Stuart Wilde



Am I a Spark success? Yes, healthy BMI in 299 days. I will not go back.

I am a Spark Warrior...I will go on and on, never quit
I am a Spark Princess...I will only do it when I want to, you can’t make me
I am a Spark Rebel...I don't have to go with the flow if I don't feel the need
I am a Spark Goddess...see the princess rule
But I am no Spark Nazi...thank you very much



Spark on!

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SM-ARTGIRL 1/21/2012 9:16AM

    Too awesome!!!!

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MARINEMAMA 12/1/2011 4:04PM

    Love it!!

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NPA4LOSS 11/28/2011 11:06AM

    emoticon emoticon You show us the way to fight! emoticon

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WELLNESSME09 11/28/2011 7:49AM

    emoticon emoticon great accomplishment!!! emoticon
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MARTY19 11/28/2011 6:52AM

    This was awesome! You are an inspiration. Rock on.

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ZIPCONTROL 11/28/2011 3:31AM

  Read all of your blogs today ! Loved them all !! You really are a true warrior. Keep going..

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KALISWALKER 11/27/2011 11:21PM

    Thanks for the inspiration. I will let you know where I am in 299 days!

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MAGGIE805 11/27/2011 9:54PM

    Love this!!! emoticon

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EJOY-EVELYN 11/27/2011 9:50PM

    Great insight! Glad the 5% group used two of your blogs in today's spotlight! It's great that we all dance to a little different drummer and I love your warrior spirit combined with some of the special privileges that come with being a princess and goddess. Keep up the good work.

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IMIN2GENES 11/27/2011 9:38PM

    Great blog! You ARE a warrior!
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MARTHAWILL 11/27/2011 9:29PM

    Great blog. A keeper!

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CAROLJ35 11/27/2011 9:28PM

    WHAT A GREAT BLOG!!! You are a real inspiration to sooooo many people!!!

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CUDDLYPOLARBEAR 11/23/2011 4:49PM

    great post

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THEIS58 11/23/2011 9:16AM

    Great list! Awesome progress! Congrats to you.

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CHEWY3 11/22/2011 11:02PM

  Way to go! Very inspirational blog. Thank you for sharing.

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So uplifting!

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    WOO HOO!!!!!! emoticon

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JAE_HENNINGTON 11/18/2011 10:32PM

  nice blog

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    YOU GO! GREAT STUFF! THANK YOU! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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ADVENTURESEEKER 11/18/2011 10:24AM

    Love the attitudes and ways at the top emoticon emoticon

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    You rock! Go get'em! emoticon

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GHOSTGRL21 11/17/2011 1:27PM

    Love it!!!

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TEENY_BIKINI 11/17/2011 1:16PM

    Go get 'em, Tiger.

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MELISSAD0721 11/14/2011 4:37PM

    I might steal the I am a Warrior attitudes and frame them for my kids rooms. I love it!

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WALLAHALLA 11/14/2011 2:11PM

    Most excellent!

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ANIMAL_L0VER 11/14/2011 11:36AM

    I love this! May just have to copy it to hang in my office cube and on my fridge!
Keep up the fabulous work and congrats on all your accomplishments!

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IGSBETH 11/13/2011 4:00PM

    Way to go!

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    Love this!

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COMPUCATHY 11/12/2011 5:59PM

    Awesome! Congrats on your success! Keep up the good work, warrior! Thanks for your encouragement! Spark on! emoticon

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ANGEL636 11/12/2011 11:25AM

    Just beautiful, Spark on German, Irish Warrior Princess! emoticon

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TEXASFILLY 11/12/2011 10:51AM

    You are FAB~ulously SPARK~tacular, girlfriend! YOU ROCK! emoticonBB~ emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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    emoticonI like this thanks for sharing.

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THETURTLEBEAR 11/12/2011 9:47AM

    HA HA - No, you are not a Spark Nazi.

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    You are a sparks warrior princess that understands what it is all about!
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LOPEYP 11/12/2011 8:53AM

    Rock on, warrior!

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RAYLINSTEPHENS 11/12/2011 8:30AM

    Go get 'em Warrior Princess!
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MOMTONOAH 11/12/2011 8:12AM

    Love it, Trish. You are an inspiration!!

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RUARUGBYNUT2 11/12/2011 7:27AM

    ROCK ON TRISH BABE!
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BABYSTEPS84 11/11/2011 11:28PM

    LOVE IT!

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MICKEYMAX 11/11/2011 10:53PM

    WOO HOO! YOU ROCK!

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    LOVE IT!

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MOSTMOM1 11/11/2011 10:17PM

    I am sending a virtual, ululating battle cry your direction!
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    Love it !!

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WHITEANGEL4 11/11/2011 10:14PM

    Congratulations. You are a successful warrior. I like your comments and success.

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14-14-14 Mini-challenge for Thanksgiving--Day 14 11/23/11

Thursday, November 10, 2011

I got this from the 14-14-14 Mini-challenge from KANSASROSE67….


There are 14 days left before Thanksgiving. The mini-challenge:

~Eat under 1400 calories every one of those 14 days

~Run 14 miles every week during the challenge, no matter what the weather!

~Post a different status each of the 14 days naming something I'm thankful for.

My accountability will be that each day I'll edit this blog, telling how I did and adding an emoticon for each challenge met.

If anyone would like to join me in this mini-challenge, let me know and I'll do my best to support you! I am not a Spark Nazi...you do not have to run 14 miles...you may walk, or do 14 reps or 14 minutes of something. Whatever you want...make it your own. Have fun! And if you see that I'm slacking, feel free to give me a nudge (or a kick) in the right direction!



Day 1--November 10:

Under 1400 calories--1287 emoticon

Thankful Status: We just lost a standing dead tree...I am thankful the wind didn't take it in the other direction onto the neighbor's house or my nephew's Porsche that had been parked in that very spot for 5 years up until last weekend... emoticon

Mileage for week: 4.2 emoticon

Day 2--November 11:

Under 1400 calories-- 1388 emoticon

Thankful Status: I am thankful for all Veterans because freedom is not free. emoticon

Mileage for week: 4.2+ 5.3 emoticon

Day 3--November 12:

Under 1400 calories--1390 emoticon


Thankful Status: I must attend a funeral today...I am thankful to be ALIVE and HEALTHY. emoticon

Mileage for week: 9.5+5.4 emoticon emoticon

Day 4--November 13:

Under 1400 calories-- 1332 emoticon

Thankful Status: Today I am thankful for chainsaws and gasoline and the fact that DH is proficient with the saws. After 15 years of living in the woods, he better be. emoticon

Mileage for week: 14.9 +4.8 emoticon emoticon

Day 5--November 14:

Under 1400 calories-- 1388 emoticon

Thankful Status: It is raining here today. This reminds me that I am thankful for WATER. I like to use it to clean. I like it in the form of steam and ice too. I LOVE to drink it. And I am less likely to hit a deer on the way to work when it is raining. emoticon emoticon

Mileage for week: 19.7+4.9 emoticon emoticon

Day 6--November 15:

Under 1400 calories-- 1367 emoticon


Thankful Status: Today I am thankful for the cornfields that are now bare. I never noticed the corn/soybean farms around here until I started walking/jogging on the roads around my house. I just took them for granted. I watched this corn grow since it was planted in the spring. Now it is gone. And so is another season. emoticon emoticon

Mileage for week: 24.6+5.8 emoticon emoticon


Day 7--November 16:

Under 1400 calories-- 1398 emoticon

Thankful Status: Today I am thankful for all of the people that help to bring me good food and drink. From the farmer, to the truckdriver, to the cashier, and everyone in between. emoticon

Mileage for week: 30.4+5.75=36.15 emoticon emoticon


Day 8--November 17:

Under 1400 calories-- 1388 emoticon

Thankful Status: Today I am thankful that my family loves me...flaws and all. emoticon emoticon emoticon

Mileage for week: 5.5 emoticon

Day 9--November 18:

Under 1400 calories-- 1207 emoticon

Thankful Status: Today I am thankful for music. And thankful DH took us to see the Trans Siberian Orchestra last night. If I could tolerate the paparazzi and the lights...I could be in that band. LOL emoticon

Mileage for week: 5.5 + 3.6 emoticon

Day 10--November 19:

Under 1400 calories-- 1331 emoticon

Thankful Status: Today I am thankful for Sparkpeople.com and all of my Spark friends...because you make this journey more fun...and I am all about FUN! emoticon

Mileage for week: 9.1 +4.75 emoticon

Day 11--November 20:

Under 1400 calories-- 1394 emoticon

Thankful Status: Today I am thankful for my brain, heart, and nerve. And I thank the wizard for reminding me that I had them all along...I am just a horse of a different color... emoticon emoticon emoticon

Mileage for week: 13.85 +4.4 emoticon emoticon

Day 12--November 21:

Under 1400 calories-- 1210 emoticon

Thankful Status: Today I am thankful for CHOCOLATE! emoticon

Mileage for week: 18.25 +4.4 emoticon emoticon

Day 13--November 22:

Under 1400 calories-- 1361 emoticon

Thankful Status: Today I am thankful for my home. And I am thankful for the blood, sweat, and tears contained within these logs...oh if these logs could talk. emoticon

Mileage for week: 22.65 +5.8 emoticon emoticon


Day 14--November 23:

Under 1400 calories-- 1400 emoticon

Thankful Status: Today I am thankful that the Thankful Challenge is over...not really...I saved the most important for last...I am thankful for my 2 children and husband...better than having 1 child and 2 husbands. LOL emoticon

Mileage for week: 32.75 emoticon emoticon






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MOM2LOSEW82 11/15/2011 11:47AM

    Sounds like you are doing great with the challenge. Keep it up! emoticon Diana

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DREAM2009 11/14/2011 8:33PM

  Hi
I have accepted this challenge. Doing variation in workouts with 14 -14-14 principal. Like spot jogging 30 - 14 sets etc.


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DREAM2009 11/14/2011 8:33PM

  Hi
I have accepted this challenge. Doing variation in workouts with 14 -14-14 principal. Like spot jogging 30 - 14 sets etc.


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KELLEEH 11/12/2011 6:45PM

    Oooh, I like this challenge! Sounds like fun!

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LOPEYP 11/11/2011 7:11PM

    Great idea!

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WALLAHALLA 11/11/2011 9:28AM

    I like this!!! Totally doable.

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MOSTMOM1 11/11/2011 8:31AM

    Cool challenge!

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JOANOFSPARK 11/11/2011 1:09AM

    emoticonWhat a great challenge........I would like to do something similar.....along those lines...it sounds like a fun challenge..:)

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BABYSTEPS84 11/10/2011 11:41PM

    Love it!
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DREAM2009 11/10/2011 9:24PM

  Its interesting. I am joining u for this challenge. For me its 11.11.11. But yesterday I had less than 1400 calories and did floor exercise 15 mts. Today is 2nd day of challenge. emoticon

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SHERRYJVP 11/10/2011 7:44PM

    very cool challenge...and even though I just read it at the end of the day..it was Just in time to keep me from having something I didn't need...to stayunder the 1400. God is good!

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RUARUGBYNUT2 11/10/2011 7:39PM

    No problem for someone of your calibre Trish
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REDROSEMARIE 11/10/2011 6:31PM

    That is a great challenge. I would like to set one up for myself with goals to reach before Christmas. What a fantastic idea! Thanks for the motivation and I wish you a successful journey.
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THETURTLEBEAR 11/10/2011 5:37PM

    Woo hoo, we'll be doing this together!!

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LBSPOERL 11/10/2011 4:33PM

    Great idea!! Good luck with that! I think I may have to do the challenge myself, but modify the running since I can't do that due to some health reasons. Thanks for posting this. :)

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IGSBETH 11/10/2011 3:08PM

    Good luck! I'm glad the tree missed everything!

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ARGYLE-RUNNER 11/10/2011 2:56PM

    emoticonchallenge! I look forward to your updates :)


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MOMTONOAH 11/10/2011 2:49PM

    Sounds like a good challenge. I'd love to join you, but I'm definitely NOT a runner. I could exercise 14 minutes each day instead emoticon

I will definitely be cheering you on. emoticon

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RAYLINSTEPHENS 11/10/2011 2:43PM

    You can do it!!

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