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Why are teenagers so stupid??

Sunday, November 20, 2011

My heart is broken. My son has been training for the past six months for wrestling season which began this past Monday. The boys got certified yesterday and were so happy.

Last night my son and his wrestling buddy and best friend went out. What I did not know is that they went to get drunk and celebrate the certification and the start of the season.

My son's friend is much smaller than he is and some other drunk kid pushed him and my son punched him in the face. My son broke his hand.

Six months of intense work, constant drive to get better and better. Healthy eating, weight lifting, private wrestling lessons and in the blink of an eye, poof, gone.

I spend hours in the hospital with him last night. He is in a soft cast now, tomorrow he goes to the orthopedist and gets the bone set and the hard cast. The season is over. His friend got 10 stitches in his arm and will be wrestling again in two weeks.

His coach told him he would be the superstar of the team this year. He was so excited, couldn't wait for the first match.

Lots of tears being shed here, lots of pain both physically and emotionally. Being a single mom makes it really hard but I know I am strong and I will help him get through this.

What a tough lesson this is. I hope he learns from this, I really do.

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HIKETOHEIGHTS 11/29/2011 10:11PM

    Awe, poor kid. On a good note, hey how about that great kid sticking up for his buddy? Okay so we definitely don't want our kids Resolving violence with violence but he sure has a good sense of loyalty! Not as stupid as some other boys!

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SLIMCRUISER 11/23/2011 3:00PM

  My daughter has just finished a very rough year. Similar lesson, different details. She took my car and hit a bicyclist, injuring him badly. She left the scene (in her defense she did not know he was hurt and we all hope she would have done things differently if she had) Oh, did I mention she has no license? Yeah...So she was charged, plead guilty, and was put on probation for a year and has 100 hours of community service to do. It took this major disaster for her to turn herself around.
Just this week she had a school project to write her memoirs. The final chapter was called "Choices and Consequences" (that was the phrase we used when she was little to get her to think about what she was doing and make good choices) It was the story of the event and I was amazed and so proud of what she wrote. She really learned and grew from it. Sometimes it takes a near tragedy to make them understand we aren't just nagging and being a pain for fun! It's to guide them through...
Good luck with your son...and remember "this too shall pass"' (or what doesn't kill us will make us stronger)

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LSCHULER72 11/21/2011 12:27PM

    As the parent of 4 teenage daughters, I have come to the conclusion that teenagers are stupid simply because they haven't learned how to be smart yet. I think hormones block the ability to become smart at that age sometimes! I'm glad that nothing more serious happened to him than a broken hand, and think maybe taking the consequences for this will be a way to let the "smart" gene come out a bit. Good luck!!!

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1BEACHWALKER 11/21/2011 2:52AM

    Oh that is so sad! Sorry for that happening to you! A tough lesson for your son to learn! I hope for a speedy recovery for him and maybe by next year he will be even better!

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PHEBESS 11/20/2011 8:18PM

    Wow, that was stupid on so many different levels - and so many lessons to be learned from it!

Teen brains really are different from adult brains - all kinds of tests have proven that. There's no concept of action-reaction-consequence. Just doesn't exist in their world.

I hope he heals quickly!

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STRINGS58 11/20/2011 7:33PM

    That was really stupid, and I suspect he now knows it. Fortunately, he may avoid worse stupid crap because of this! I hope you recover from having your hopes for him dashed into small unrecognizable pieces. Such a shock! I hope everyone recovers well.

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JUDI_CUTIE 11/20/2011 6:26PM

    I am so sorry that this had to happen. It is such a harsh lesson! As a parent, I was not good at letting my kids learn anything the hard way, but that caused other problems!

My heart goes out to you. emoticon

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LINDA! 11/20/2011 4:35PM

    I hope your son recovers soon. My kids got through the teenage years....I am surprised I made it. LOL emoticon

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MORETHENAMOM39 11/20/2011 4:07PM

    I am a single mom too.. I feel for you. My teens are 18 and 16 both boys. I dont think that teenagers are stupid.. This is their time to make mistakes so they can learn from them. I have continually told my boys over and over again that drugs are bad and people that use drugs are weak people. Its takes a strong person to live life then to hide from it. I myself don't drink much any more..(as a teenage it was a different store) a glass or two a few times a year. But I have bought alcohol for my sons as I feel its better for them to learn the hard lessons at home.. where I am in control.. One good time of getting drunk and having a hang over and the memories of how stupid the alcohol made them act and neither of them are in a hurry to try it again. I understand that this is not for everyone but I tend to be an outside the box kind of mom.

Whatever your style is I am sure that he will have learned a valuable lesson out of this..

Best of Luck,


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SBNORMAL 11/20/2011 3:25PM

  Maybe he will learn this lesson, now and not do it in his 20's. Be strong Mom!!

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MRE1956 11/20/2011 2:06PM

    Ah, yes - teens.......somehow they feel invincible and can take on the world - add illegal alcohol/drugs to the mix and all h*ll breaks loose.......

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CAROLJEAN64 11/20/2011 2:00PM

    He will learn from it and it will be a cheap lesson. These are the years for leaning these lessons and if they aren't learned here, they are learned in the 20's and 30's at much greater expense.
Kids' brains are still forming at this age and the biggest area of growth is understanding the consequences of their actions. I'll bet he experienced some big brain growth. Ask him to write in a journal about the experience. or in a letter to himself that he opens in 5 years.

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MNJONES2 11/20/2011 1:55PM

    Yes that is a tough lesson to learn... but one that will last a lifetime. I hope your son will find a way to be involved with the wrestling team just the same - manager, stats something.

Letting the natural consequences take place without being rescued is a time honored way to learn -- I know I had to learn that way a few times myself.

Hang in there - they do grow up!

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BESTMEPOSSIBLE 11/20/2011 1:42PM

    That's the whole thing with teens - they feel invincible, they can be impulsive and they learn a lot from each error and victory. I hope he heals quickly.

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Health update

Friday, November 18, 2011

I haven't written a blog in a while because I feel I should talk about my health but don't want to whine. You don't have to read on :)

When they did the endoscopy they took biopsies of parts of my esophagus and stomach. The news isn't great. They called and said it came back "abnormal" and they want me to continue the meds and will do another endoscopy next year. I'm not sure I want to wait that long and am going today to talk to them about the results so I have a clearer idea of what I am dealing with. I have an appt. today.

Interesting thing is that the only thing that makes me feel better is getting on the treadmill. If a walk just a couple of miles my stomach pains are gone and that usually lasts the whole day.

Of course that leads me to the next problem, my foot. I need surgery on my foot. I have been to two doctors and they both said the same thing. I am scheduled to have the surgery next month. It will take care of the problem but I will have to be off my feet for a solid 10 days after and then limited for the next 5 weeks! That means no treadmill or really any exercise where I am on my feet.

Talk about damned if I do, damned if I don't.

Ok, pity party over. Getting on treadmill now before I can't!

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ABISMITHY 11/24/2011 1:08PM

    I hope you start to feel better soon.

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DETERMINEDJANET 11/18/2011 12:24PM

    Glad that you aren't just letting the stomach thing wait a year without getting more information. Definitely will be tougher to get the type of exercise in you're used to after surgery. Maybe you can find some things to do for the upper body and abs during that time....

Hugs & Prayers!

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K8NJKSMOM 11/18/2011 11:24AM

    oh my - what a terrible time for you. I wish you good luck with your doctor's visit. Very stressful when they don't give you all the information.


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MHNGJR 11/18/2011 11:10AM

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The bad, the good and the better

Saturday, October 22, 2011

I finally got some answers to my stomach pain. I had my endoscopy yesterday and it showed I have a hiatal hernia and gastritis. The Dr. told me I was about 2 weeks away from a gastric ulcer.

I have been given meds that will help cure my stomach and get me better. The bad news is that I have arthritis and need to take anti-inflamatory and pain meds. These will re-irritate my stomach so there is the possibility that I will have to be on these medications for the rest of my life. I'm not thrilled about that but it's better than being in pain all the time.

The good news is that I have to be very regimented about my eating routine. I must take one of them before I eat lunch. Usually, I eat when I get home from work (around 2 ish) but am so hungry I have something to eat in the car on the way home. I can't do that anymore.

Now I must take my medicine when I get in the car and can't eat for an hour which means nothing till I get home.

My evening meds are taken before bed but must be after two hours of eating so, I can't eat late into the evening. This is going to save a lot of calories too!

So, it's not great news as I do have a real stomach problem but it may have a silver lining getting me to eat better.

The great news is that I won't need surgery and soon I will be feeling better. The better news is that it's going to help me keep on track by being sick. Weird but hey, it works!!

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LE7_1234 10/24/2011 6:01AM

    I'd be interested to hear how balancing the stomach meds and arthritis meds goes...

My mom has moderate to severe arthritis, and the one medication that seemed to be really helping unfortunately appears to have caused an ulcer (it's a known side effect). She was advised to stop taking it, at least until her stomach heals.

May you be pain free--both stomach and joint!

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DETERMINEDJANET 10/22/2011 11:03PM

    Yes...thankful it will not require surgery. My husband has had horrible stomach issues forever and finally resolved them when he found out what his food allergens were and began eating that way. Glad you got your answers!

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LANNIEMANUEL 10/22/2011 6:19PM

    I completely feel for you with the whole stomach and meds for arthritis. but it is a good thing when they finally find out what is wrong. so good luck to you with it all.

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6 hours in the ER.....

Saturday, October 15, 2011

Yesterday was not fun. I have been having stomach problems for the past couple of weeks. I would eat, get stomach pains and become horribly nauseous. I had the day off yesterday and decided enough was enough. I went to see the Dr.

The Dr. did an exam and said he thought I was having a gall bladder problem. He said it could be gall stones or an obstruction in the duct of the gall bladder and that I needed immediate attention to this. He said he was calling the ER and I was to go immediately there. He said to stop home, get a friend because I may not be able to drive home as they may operate that day!!

I decided he was wrong (how typical of me) and drove myself to the hospital. It took hours to just be brought into the back. Hours more for them to do blood work and the sonogram of my gall bladder.

As luck would have it, my daughter came home for the weekend and panicked when I told her where I was. She rushed over to the hospital and stayed with me the entire time. She was so wonderful and we chatted like school kids. Even one of the aids mentioned that we were so like friends and said I must be a great mom. That made me feel better than anything!!!

After 6 hours, they came and told me I was in great health. They could find nothing wrong with my gall bladder (see, I knew it) and my blood test was perfect. I need to see a gastroentrologist. I should have an endoscopy.

I think I have an ulcer. I have had so much stress in my life this past year that I think this is a result. I will schedule the appt. on Monday.

I will keep everyone updated on the progress. To be honest, I thought I was having an heart attack. Women get symptoms differently than men and one of them is a burning sensation in the "gut" and indigestion. They did two EKG's and my heart was in perfect health. Whew!

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SLIMCRUISER 10/18/2011 2:15PM

  glad it turned out ok so far. Gall bladder pain is the worst! Suffered with it for several years, not knowing that's what it was until it finally ruptured....emergency surgery and good as new....maybe even better! Now I can eat/drink anything and not worry about being sick...hmmm, I may have just figured out one cause of my weight issue! Stay healthy....

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CYNEDRA 10/16/2011 3:13PM

    Hope you find out what the cause is soon and can get it cleared up. I think that it is interesting that you the nice conversations that you can have while waiting in hospital ERs and or ORs.

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ILOVEROSES 10/15/2011 7:11PM

    I am sorry you had to spend so much time in ER but glad that you were right, and they didn't find anything wrong. Enjoy your time with your daughter and hope they find the cause of all that pain you've been suffering. Good luck!

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MHNGJR 10/15/2011 6:09PM

    Glad you got to have some quality time with your daughter even in such a stressful situation and unpleasant surroundings.

Relieved for you that the tests done were negative. Hoping you'll get the problem figured out.

Hang in there! and enjoy your daughter's visit.

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WHOLEHEARTPAT 10/15/2011 4:54PM

    Sorry for the rough day! Look forward to hearing when you get more test results.

Enjoy your weekend with your daughter!


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PATTIE441 10/15/2011 3:27PM

    Oh my goodness. Hope everything is ok. Good luck on Monday, and take care of youself!! emoticon emoticon

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    Sorry it took so much out of your day but good for you taking care of yourself at long last. I don't envy you the endoscopy though!

Enjoy your visit with your daughter!

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PHEBESS 10/15/2011 1:29PM

    Hope they find the problem soon! Feel better!

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CRYSTAL8488 10/15/2011 11:29AM

    That's great there wasn't anything going on with your gall bladder..but it's defintely a good idea to get checked out by the GI guy. Hope everything works out for you, and you start feeling better. emoticon

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GRAMPIAN 10/15/2011 11:19AM

  So glad your symptoms didn't mean anything worse. Good luck! emoticon

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Oh To Be 12 Again...

Wednesday, October 12, 2011

Oh To Be 12 Again...

A man was sitting on the edge of the bed, observing his wife, looking at herself in the mirror.
Since her birthday was not far off he asked what she'd like to have for her Birthday.

'I'd like to be twelve again', she replied, still looking in the mirror.

On the morning of her Birthday, he arose early, made her a nice big bowl of Coco Pops, and then took her to Alton Towers theme park.
What a day!

He put her on every ride in the park; the Death Slid e, the Corkscrew, the Wall of Fear, the Screaming Monster Roller Coaster, everything there was.

Five hours later they staggered out of the theme park.

Her head was reeling and her stomach felt upside down.

He then took her to a Mc Donald's where he ordered her a Happy Meal with extra fries and a chocolate shake.

Then it was off to the cinema with popcorn, a huge Cola, and her favourite sweets...........M&M's.
What a fabulous adventure!

Finally she wobbled home with her husband and collapsed into bed exhausted.

He leaned over his wife with a big smile and lovingly asked, 'Well Dear, what was it like being twelve again?'

Her eyes slowly opened and her expression suddenly changed. 'I meant my dress size, you retard!!!!'

The moral of the story: Even when a man is listening, he is gonna get it wrong!!!

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FERNASHES 10/14/2011 10:44AM

    I thought the moral of the story would be something along the lines of "tastes change" - but I like this ending, too! :)

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SUNRISE;) 10/14/2011 6:59AM

Good for a chuckle this morn!
Yes I would prefer a size 12 too.

Comment edited on: 10/14/2011 7:01:21 AM

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PHEBESS 10/12/2011 12:00PM

    Yeah, sounds just like my DH!

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MHNGJR 10/12/2011 10:46AM

    ROFL emoticon Loved it1

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VK2Z10 10/12/2011 9:47AM

    That is TOO funny. sounds JUST like my DH and how he would interpret what i say. of course, i know that i have to be clearer about what i mean by 12. i would have to say clothing size or age. he doesn't understand my "sayings".

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DOROTHYBERO 10/12/2011 8:33AM

    LOL - ain't that the truth.

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