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A New Year

Sunday, October 09, 2011

Yesterday was Yom Kipper. It is the holiest day in the Jewish religion, the day of atonement. We fast the entire day and reflect on the past year. What went wrong, what can we fix and what can we accept.

Since I no longer belong to a Synagogue, I need to find creative ways to celebrate this holy day with my son. Several years ago I hit upon a walk.

My son and I walk to a local lake and then walk the path around it. It's 4 miles in total for us.

We talk. We talk about everything and most of the time I just let him talk. Sometimes I find if I just shut up and listen, he will go deeper within himself and tell me things he has been wanting me to know but didn't get out.

Yesterday, he talked the entire time. He told me about the things he had done that past year that I didn't know about (and some I did). If I didn't have grey hair (yes, I color it!) already, I would now.

He told me things he had done that I was stunned to learn. He told me about feelings he had about girls, he told me of some of his hopes and dreams. I pretty much didn't say anything, just an occasional "I see" or maybe a little question like why or when.

All I can say is wow. It's not easy being a single mom to a teenage boy but I am learning every day. I do the best I can and I love my son with all my heart. I only hope he grows into a wonderful man in spite of the terrible role model his dad is. I think one of the most important things a man can bring to the table is the ability to communicate on many levels. It's something I try and teach him every day. Seems to be working!

To all my Jewish friends I wish you a wonderful new year. To everyone, I wish health, happiness, joy and prosperity in the coming year!

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SCOOTERGIRLOZ 10/14/2011 4:11AM

    Thanks for your show of support on my blog. Made me come see what's happening in your world. Your walk around the lake sounds lovely.

It's heartwarming to hear of teenagers making their parents proud. Sounds like you have done a great job as a single mother.

Have a great New Year and hope you are successful with your future goals.

All the best
Scootergirl in Oz

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EDWARDS1411 10/9/2011 8:44PM

    Happy New Year to you and yours!! What a wonderful way to spend such a special day. I'm sooooo impressed that you can listen and talk to your son like that!!!

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JUDI_CUTIE 10/9/2011 1:42PM

    That long talk with your son sounds so good! I have two grown sons. The younger one still goes to services (at Hillel) but the older one has done something similar to your idea. He does fast, and he spends the whole day thinking about the previous year and setting goals for the next year. I belong to a synagogue, so I have a fairly traditional way of observing. But I also have little powerpoint file which different slides for different aspects of life, and things I am working on. Each year I review it and think about changes I want to make. I started it around seven years ago.

So, have a happy and healthy new year!

Judi (I'm on the ADD team and the Jewish team with you)

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BARCINTL 10/9/2011 12:28PM

    Happy New Year to you too. I went out yesterday with Julianne. I listened while she opened up. All I learned was that she thinks that Maroon5 went downhill after their first album but Coldplay has stayed consistently good. Glad this deep thinking/talking works for some!!

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Painful and senseless....AGAIN!

Monday, September 26, 2011

It has been a sad 24 hours for me. I have lost another friend, totally senselessly!!

Over 20 years ago, my ex took me to Memphis on a surprise trip to Graceland. It was so exciting and so much fun. While there I met friends of his and we stayed with them. They were an older couple (my parents age) and their daughter came over (my age) and her children (just kids).

That one encounter, that weekend, left me with lifelong friends. I have been in touch with them ever since. I had come to know "Grandmother" and "Grandfather" very well as well as the rest of the family. They were very dear to me.

Grandfather passed away several years ago, but Grandmother kept right on going. She went to 3 weddings of grandchildren, lots of occasions (birthdays, graduations etc), she was really amazing!

At 91 she was still in great shape. Not a thing wrong with her, no physical problems, no mental dysfunction, nothing. She walked several miles every day without a care in the world. What an truly remarkable woman.

She is gone now, tragically. Disease didn't take her, a drunk driver did! She was on her morning walk, crossing the street and he just didn't stop. She lived for two days, long enough for her entire family to come and be with her but she was just to fragile to go on. So many broken bones.

When I was 16 my best friend was killed by a drunken driver. It was more than anyone can bare in a lifetime and now it has struck again.


Sorry for the rant, I'm hurting and upset. This didn't have to be this way. She still had good years left.

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PROVERBS31JULIA 10/23/2011 9:35PM

    So sorry to hear of your loss. And it is senseless and stupid!! You're just sharing your feelings - nothing to apologize for. That's why we're here on SparkPeople.


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VK2Z10 10/12/2011 9:53AM

    so sorry for your loss. that really is horrible.

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PATTIE441 10/8/2011 8:46AM

    Oh my dear, I am so very sorry. How awful. I too, know what it's like to lose loved ones to drinking and driving. Such a horrible waste. My heart goes out to you my friend. Hope he is brought to justice. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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GUITARMAMA80 9/27/2011 10:53PM

    That is so sad, and senseless. So sorry to hear about this.

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DOROTHYBERO 9/27/2011 8:14AM

    So sorry for your loss - what a tragic way to go and so sensless. You are so right - no one should drink and drive. Hugs.

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    You have every right to rant about that because it is totally senseless. Hugs to you!!!!

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FRANCA1P 9/26/2011 9:58PM

    I am so sorry. Alcohol and driving will always be a deadly mix. We need to be vigilant and not let anyone drive if we know they are impaired.
blessings to you.

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NTSOHLTHNT 9/26/2011 7:47PM

    I am so sorry for your loss. I agree, no one has the right to Beth behind the wheel of anynsort of vehicle once a drop of alcohol passes their lips. That is so wrong and so sad, I hope the perso who did this will be brought to justice.

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JUSTPEACHY360 9/26/2011 7:04PM

    I am sorry to hear about that - what a tragedy. I agree, nobody has the right to get behind a wheel after they have been drinking. It's senseless and selfish.

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Holiday gift giving

Sunday, September 18, 2011

If anyone else is like me, you love to bake during the holidays (any holiday!) and give goodies as gifts. When invited to someone's house, going to a dinner party etc. I always like to bake.

My problem was what to put the baked goodies on. Do you use a plate or platter that you want back? Do you go to the store and get a plastic platter or what?

I solved this problem many years ago through yard sales.

Yesterday, My friend Dawn and I went to a huge garage sale held on the grounds of a small airport. It had hundreds of people selling things there. What I did was buy very pretty, cut glass platters for no more than two dollars each. I ended up with 5 or 6 and spent around 12 dollars!!

Now, when I visit with some handmade goodies, I can present the food on a beautiful plate that I can leave as a house gift. The host usually loves it and it's like two gifts in one.

You can't even get a plastic platter for $2. and this is so much nicer. (btw, I put them all in the dishwasher last night and they came out sparkling and beautiful!!

I thought I would pass along my tip!!

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WANAKA 9/23/2011 4:33PM

    Awesome tip! Thankx.

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ELLIE381 9/21/2011 1:39PM

    What a great idea. I would love to receive one of these. Thanks for sharing. emoticon

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GIRLINMOTION 9/18/2011 11:51AM

    Recycling at it best!!!!!!

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CAT609 9/18/2011 9:11AM

    Thank you! What a great idea! emoticon

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Are you sure???

Friday, September 16, 2011

A few days ago I came downstairs in the morning to start my coffee and when I walked into the kitchen I saw the freezer door wide open. Apparently when my son took something out of it the night before, it never closed properly and now I had a puddle.

What a mess! The ice tray was completely melted, there was a multi-colored puddle on the bottom of ice pops that leaked and everything was defrosted. I was crazed!!!

I had some wild caught salmon (which is very expensive) and lots of chicken that I bought on sale etc. Since I had to run off to work and my son (who I was screaming at) had to go off to school, I just threw out what was falling out and shut the door. I would deal with it when I got home.

I posted on facebook how upset I was and my cousin called me. He said that I was being overly cautious and that most of the things there were just fine. I could refreeze just about everything and that the things I was unsure about refreezing I should just cook. Really? Well, what a relief....

So for dinner I made all the salmon. There was quite a bit so I made it several ways. My son was at wrestling practice and I wanted it done when he got home. While I was waiting for him I tasted a little piece. It was delicious.

I went to pick up the boys at practice. As I was dropping off his friends I felt it. My stomach started to growl. Then it got worse and worse. As soon as we got home I headed for the bathroom. Yup, I was sick. Thank goodness I just had a little piece and was only in the bathroom maybe 5 times!! I threw it all away.

What's for dinner my son asked? Salmon? No I called from the bathroom, cereal!!!

Went on the rampage and threw out all the rest of the chicken and fish. Should have done this in the first place. Lesson learned!!!!

Oh, and I'm fine today, thanks :)

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JIBBIE49 9/18/2011 12:33AM

    When we had Hurricane IVAN in '04 in Pensacola, I lost all the food in the freezer, which wasn't to much since I keep the refrigerator very low during the peak Hurricane period, but my neighbor came over and said she was cooking meat on her gas grill since her freezer was thawing out. I didn't want to try it, since I thought I might end up sick like you got. Not for me. We ate out of can goods and meals from the Red Cross van. Our power was off for 13 days, but we got through. SO happy that we only had TROPICAL STORM LEE go through here last week as that certainly could have been another IVAN or KATRINA. It stretched from Florida to Texas.

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MARLIZG 9/17/2011 2:08PM

    thanks for your kind comments on my SP...we had a similar thing when we had the alarm system installed--they pulled out the plug by the cord; it separated from the plug & it was shut off for 2 weeks & a whole chest freezer full of roasts & turkeys were rotted...when we too it to the dump we were followed by a hoard of black flies...everytime we stopped they settled on the black bags in the back of the truck--then took to the air when we started up actually was funny

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    Hugs! Sorry you did get sick from the salmon after all.

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BARCINTL 9/16/2011 10:48AM

    I hope your son pays to replace some of the food out of his allowance. That will remind him to always close the freezer door!

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DOROTHYBERO 9/16/2011 8:30AM

    What a bummer and an expensive lesson learned. Thankfully you are the only one who ate any - try and have a good day!!

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Ten Years Ago Today.....

Sunday, September 11, 2011

What a difficult day this is for everyone. As a New Yorker I think it is especially hard.

I work in NYC. Ten years ago today I was recovering from shoulder surgery and my client had called and asked me to come in just a bit later. It was so fortunate that she did.

I came out of the shower and turned on the TV to see the weather and traffic before I went in and all I saw as the first tower burning. I sat down on the bed, mesmerized by what I was seeing. No one knew yet that it wasn't a horrible accident but terrorists.

My phone started ringing. It was my cousin who lived in DC. He wanted to know if I understood what was going on and to see if I were still home. While on the phone with him he heart sirens. He looked out his window to see smoke coming from the Pentagon. We were both horrified.

Then I saw the second plane hit. It wasn't real, it just couldn't be happening. I started feeling sick. My brother, my husband and my daughter's father were all in the city. I knew they weren't in that area but you never know! I couldn't reach them. Phone lines and cell lines were jammed.

My girlfriend called me hysterical. Her husband worked in the towers. She couldn't reach him. It was all such a nightmare. Hours later, we finally got a hold of him. He was one of the lucky ones. He got out in the nick of time, covered in soot, running for his life, but alive. He is ok physically, but emotionally will never be the same with the things he saw and endured.

My family was all ok. I ran to the school and got my children out. I hugged and kissed them and reassured them all their loved ones were ok.

They don't remember much of that day but for sure, I will never forget. Let's give them all some thoughts and prayers today, both for those we lost and those that survived. Life will never be the same.

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SCOOTERGIRLOZ 9/16/2011 2:27AM

    Fascinating blog to read. It's still so spine-chilling to hear people's experiences on that fateful day. So glad to hear your family ended up safe. Almost like seeing it again with your account of your girlfriend's husband being in the thick of it. Hope he has recovered as best as possible. Thanks for bravely sharing as it could not have been easy dealing with emotions from recalling the memories.

Scootergirl in Oz

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DARLENEK04 9/15/2011 6:21PM

  I cannot but imagine what those people were thinking/feeling,
and those who were in the immediate area have suffered as well.
Thankful for you that your family is safe.


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    You definitely had a "front row seat" of life for this tragic event! I was far removed but I remember the day well. I had just pulled into the parking lot at work when the news came over the radio. I went inside and found everyone huddled over the internet coverage to watch it unfolding. I worked in Govt. Sales at a computer company and knew we still had a couple field reps in the Pentagon area so we set out to locate them. The oddity of the day for me was that I had a 20 week ultrasound that afternoon so I was dealing with conflicting emotions of joy/sadness and life/death.

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CELEST 9/11/2011 11:07AM

    I cant believe 10 yrs have passed since that tragedy. We sat watching it on SATV (South Africa) in horror at the poor people involved. If we felt it bad, I can only imagine what it felt like being there.

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