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The New Stubborn

Sunday, January 20, 2013

I want to record the behaviors which by God's mercy are resulting in pretty consistent good choices these days .

-- I joined a BLC team, Navy Ninjas, which involves commitment and accountability (things I have long avoided in regard to eating).
-- I explicitly committed, and I have accountability with public trackers & team chat threads ("no choice, no choice" according to Beck diet solution).
-- Since I know that for me personally, wheat, sugar, and simple carbs stimulate constant, fierce cravings, I abstain from those. I am much happier.
-- Provide excellent quality, delicious food that is healthy. I note how I am taking good care of myself.
-- Never skip a meal.
-- Since my habits are new and shaky, and I know my weakness, I assiduously avoid temptation. I physically keep my distance, avert my gaze, ask my family to put something out of sight, don't go to certain restaurants right now. I'm weak, but determined.
-- Decide quickly and firmly. For temptations I couldn't anticipate, say to myself (out loud where feasible) Not for me. No. I'm not eating that. No.
-- Notice and label how I'm feeling.
-- Give thanks and praise to the Lord Jesus Christ. Notice my blessings. Pray & pray.
-- Look for joy and delight in non-food areas.
-- LOTS of water and hot tea.
-- Set a specific, moderate exercise goal that I can succeed at consistently.
-- Sleep 7 - 8 hours a night.

I copied these strategies.....from Spark friends, from books, from Scripture. Obviously none is original. But I have been stubborn and willful, and just didn't want to do it. Now what I want is to be fit and healthy.

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WARMSPRINGDAY 1/21/2013 5:34PM

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RUNNINGOMA 1/21/2013 12:00PM

    Great blog. emoticon Doable goals with a terrific focus. I especially like "decide quickly and firmly".
You are going to make some amazing progress with your determination.

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VISUALLYRICS 1/20/2013 9:30PM

    I love your determination to "Just Do It!" ...:::and "Do It", you will!

...:::just remember, if you fall, just get back up again.
We are here for you and we are all of us faced with was Jesus. How precious to me was His journey here on earth....for He knows what it really IS like to be "human".

by the way...::::I love YOU the way you are NOW. I pray you embrace the challenge....::knowing that God cheers for you the loudest! emoticon

Your goals are in place, your Lord is at the helm....::::Enjoy the ride!!

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JOYFULMOMTO5 1/20/2013 8:20PM

    emoticon emoticon you are doing fabulous! Keep up the great work! emoticon emoticon

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PRACHI17 1/20/2013 7:54PM

    Great list , you can do it :)

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DIET_FRIEND 1/20/2013 6:58PM

    I'm loving this blog!

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WATERMELLEN 1/20/2013 6:04PM

    What a program! Stubborn is a good thing! It's so much easier for me if I don't waver, think about maybe, think about what if, think about what would I like to eat . . . and just tell myself right away, "no, this is not for me". Also share your issues with sugar, wheat, simple carbs: they seem to trigger both cravings and weight well in excess of their calorie counts. So: rarely have any of these . . .

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MIRAGE727 1/20/2013 4:26PM

    You've set the record. Stay strong, focused, and just do it. I found my secret in embracing a healthy lifestyle to the fullest for my wife and family, knowing that I'm showing respect in my Maker by not abusing my body any longer. Stay strong, stay focused, and be well.

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Good Feelings that Last Longer

Tuesday, January 15, 2013

Today one of my teens is in a mood that makes me say "AARRGGHHHHH!" I have made some progress in learning to identify my feelings instead of anaesthetizing myself with food, so I was stopped and reflected...... I felt aggravated, disappointed, frustrated, blue.

Sadly, my usual response is to think I should eat something. But lately I have been getting a lot of satisfaction out of feeling in control of my food choices. Basking in it actually, pumping myself up, trying to make myself remember the sensation of good choices and be hyper-aware: "Hey, I feel so much better when I eat this way."

So in the parking lot of the bagel shop I pulled out my iPod journal and wrote,


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NANCY- 1/16/2013 10:10AM

    What a clever solution.

It is interesting that it is often said that the behavior of teens drives us to "x".
The reality is that we choose our reactions.

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WATERMELLEN 1/15/2013 8:05PM

    Excellent distraction from that usual pattern: I'll have to try this!!

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VISUALLYRICS 1/15/2013 5:19PM

    So healthy to journal your thoughts! emoticon
Being mindful of your eating is a HUGE step in making Progress!!
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CAMEOSUN 1/15/2013 3:34PM

    emoticon I am "on board" with this. I was having a good morning & then 12 y.o. son had a fit because his PS3 (game system) got shut down last night & he lost all his "points" for a game. I tried to put his "problem" in perspective. Ummm...when you one day have no job or a place to live [hypothetically] then that is something to cry about. [Dismissing his issue - - and moving on to a better day].

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RUNNINGOMA 1/15/2013 3:32PM

    Wow, what a great idea to journal that!
I know I feel way better when I am controlling my food and it is not controlling me.
Time for me to return to journalling!

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JOYFULMOMTO5 1/15/2013 2:23PM

    Great perspective!

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PARASELENIC 1/15/2013 2:14PM

    Sorry you are dealing with a fractious offspring. Teenagers are no fun: being one, living with one, or parenting one.

Good job identifying your feelings, though, and even better that you took the time to identify them as a trigger AND hold off on emotional eating-- WAY TO GO!

You deserve to feel good, you deserve to be healthy. You're doing great, and you're handling these speedbumps like a pro racer.

Thanks for sharing-- and I hope you don't mind that a fellow BLC21 (azure destinations) person checked in... feel free to drop by our island and get a foot rub and relax on the beach! We love visitors and I know the island is a good escape from unruly teens!

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How I Did the Virtual Sticky Notes

Sunday, January 13, 2013

Several people have asked me about the reminder notes that I wrote about in the previous blog. I am just feeling my way around as a computer user, but here is what I can tell you.

Last year I did it on our PC and I think this is the free software I used.
I believe that version puts the notes directly on your computer desktop. A menu at top changes colors and such.

This time I used a sticky note app that came with the iPad mini. You just click where you want a new note to be, and you can move it around after that, change the color & font, etc. Then I took a screen capture, which takes a picture of whatever is on the screen at the moment. It is stored in photos. Then using Settings -- Wallpaper , I set that image for my background.

Sorry I'm not more clear about the instructions. If you have questions I'll be happy to try to answer them.

I do think the reminders are helping me. I change one or two every few days, depending on the topic I need a nudge for!

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NANCY- 1/14/2013 7:44AM

    Thanks for the info. I used to have a program like that years ago, then my PC's hard drive crashed. Having those notes do help so much.

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WARMSPRINGDAY 1/13/2013 6:50PM

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I'm also playing around with this site for a vision collage:

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BABNURSE 1/13/2013 3:52PM

    Thanks for sharing.That is a great idea.

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Constant Reminder

Saturday, January 12, 2013

I used virtual sticky notes to make a home screen image for keeping good choices in mind. These are like my Response Cards for the Beck Diet Solution cognitive behavioral approach.

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MIRRORBALLMOON 1/13/2013 11:52PM

    Great reminders! And, happy belated new year!


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    Very creative and I bet effective!

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NANCY- 1/13/2013 9:36AM

    Love it and your cards...
where can I find that program?

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WARMSPRINGDAY 1/13/2013 8:55AM

    I love this - how did you do that?

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RUNNINGOMA 1/13/2013 8:48AM

    Great idea! emoticon

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GRACIEC 1/12/2013 11:25PM

    What a great idea! I need to put stickies all over the house! LOL

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STRNGNGRNDED 1/12/2013 10:04PM

    LOL! I like the "eat your own food. You don't need to taste that" post.

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ANNELIZABETH918 1/12/2013 9:56PM

    I like the sticky notes and think I might try them! Thank you for sharing and I hope you have a great weekend!

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Cravings Reduced

Friday, January 04, 2013

I'm entering a third week on my plan of not eating wheat or sugar. I've definitely seen a reduction in cravings. It feels good to make good choices. It feels good to plan my eating and stay under control. I know from past experience not to get complacent about this . . . eternal vigilance is the price etc. . . . but I am encouraged.

This time I'm focusing to use all my Beck Diet Solution skills, but not to attend very much attention to exactly how I'm looking at any moment, or exactly which clothes I can wear from my "Yo-Yo" collection. I need to focus on behavior patterns and healthy thought processes and I'm really going to try to let the weight progress factors take care of themselves.

It's going to be a long road, but if I do what I've been doing --just one day at a time --I have great hopes of being able to reach and maintain a healthy weight. It will probably take about a year and half, but in God's mercy I plan to be maintaining on the fourth of July, 2014.

I've been enjoying a book called The Four-Day Win by Martha Beck (no relation to Judith Beck). It has a lot to think about and a lot to mentally chew on.

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REEGETSFIT 1/12/2013 9:11PM

  Good luck with your journey! I'm currently gluten-free myself as a test to see how my body reacts.

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1HAPPYSPIRIT 1/12/2013 2:13PM

    Wishing you the best on your wheat-free and sugar-free streak!

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CAMEOSUN 1/12/2013 2:10PM

    emoticon Sounds wasteful, but...lately if I'm headed down the "eating junk" road then I may take a bite or two and throw the rest right in the garbage. Walk away. I found it's not worth the ill health/weight gain.


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    emoticon and congrats on 3 weeks of consistency, creating better habits. I find that mental chewing helps me to stay mindful and I always appreciate book recommendations.

A year and a half is a REASONABLE goal. Sometimes we set ourselves up to fail by not being realistic with our goal timelines. When I read your statement, I realized I often do that. Let 2013 be a year of setting REASONABLE goals and reasonable steps to getting there.

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RUNNINGOMA 1/5/2013 1:55PM

    Oh yeah! I can relate to the yo-yo clothing collection! Got rid of a good bit of those "fat" clothes - but right now my choices are a bit limited until I re-lose that December weight gain. emoticon

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NANCY- 1/5/2013 1:48PM

    I'd rather do mental chewing too. I think you are doing great. Sometimes we need to change our mind before we can change our actions.
Thanks for sharing I'm going to check out 'The Four-Day Win"

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WARMSPRINGDAY 1/5/2013 12:52PM

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GOPINTOS 1/5/2013 11:47AM

    Thanks for sharing!


Smile and Enjoy the Rest of Your Day!
Melinda (gopintos)
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WATERMELLEN 1/5/2013 10:31AM

    Love this hard-won optimism!! All best for 2013 and maintaining by mid-2014!!

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-LINDA_S 1/4/2013 10:14PM

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STRNGNGRNDED 1/4/2013 9:31PM

    I've noticed the same thing with myself and my child. If we eat well that is what we crave. If we have something unhealthy, then suddenly we have a sweet tooth.

Keep up the great work!

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