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Choosing Well

Tuesday, January 01, 2013

These are the behaviors I am choosing. I choose to be healthy and strong and well.

Eat without distraction.
Eat on time ----because hunger and thirst lead me to make bad decisions.
Avoid bread, sugar, and starchy foods ---those only increase cravings.
Take my vitamins. Yes, it's hard. So what? Use the mortar and pestle.
Do wii fit every day.
Do SparkPeople every day.
No BLT's ----no bites, licks, or tastes while cooking. I will eat in peace and dignity.
No eating something just to get rid of it.
I will choose good quality, nutritious food.
I will consciously give thanks to God, the Maker and Giver.

  
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CAMEOSUN 1/4/2013 8:13PM

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WHOLEBODYHEALTH 1/3/2013 1:44PM

    Right on target with you.
God bless you,
Wholebodyhealth


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GOPINTOS 1/2/2013 9:56PM

    Love this!

Thanks for sharing!

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STRNGNGRNDED 1/2/2013 5:27PM

    I'm in total agreement with BIGLITTLEWOMAN!

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BIGLITTLEWOMAN 1/2/2013 10:09AM

    Yes you can do this. Yes you can, yes you can with the help of family, friends, Spark and the Holy Spirit who resides within you.

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NANCY- 1/2/2013 7:04AM

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Great doable list.
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The BLT's made me smile, never heard of that before.

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Chain Reaction

Saturday, December 15, 2012

A series of small occurrences keep nudging me to stop being in denial about my weight and my apathy.

I chatted with a sweet friend at the chiropractor; we haven't run into each other recently. C originallhy set up our free exercise classes, which have blessed me for 3 years ongoing, and she has been an inspiring example for weight loss. Utterly kind and generous, she is also direct.

(after small talk)
C: So, how are things going, health-wise?
Freelady: Well, I haven't been eating the way I know I should. (silently thinking, she can see I gained back most of the 57 pounds loss she celebrated with me)
C: (sympathetically) Is that because of stress in your life?
Freelady: Well, I can't blame stress. I'm just not making good choices about food. Plenty of people have had more stress than I have, and still eat healthy. I can't use that as an excuse.
C: I understand. But don't give up. Just do what little bit you can. And let me know if I can help you in any way....
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Having to verbalize my failure was sorrowful, yet liberating. I think of myself as a rational, realistic person---- yet I've been imagining that my backsliding was a secret. Ha.

More day-of-reckoning came when my daughter did a fancy braid in my hair and I looked at my back view with a hand mirror and a long mirror. I was honestly shocked. I don't like tight clothes, so most of the time, if I don't look too hard, I can avoid being too disturbed by my size and bulges from the front view. But the back view was truly disturbing. I actually felt shaken. My stomach hurt. How could I let it go this far?

Daughters' basketball season started. Husband coaches 2 dds. I am the team scorekeeper and locker room helper. I have a team warm-up jacket but I have to wear my own shirt underneath. I dug out something to try on and asked my husband and daughters how it looked. They said it was okay. Then my sweet husband said innocently, "What about the shirt you usually wore to all the games last year? I thought that one looked nice." I took a deep breath and said, "I am too fat now to wear that shirt." Whew. I said it out loud. They still love me. Of course my daughters know I have been getting bigger and bigger. They still love me.

I have had one good week of healthy choices. I know how to do this; I have done it before and I just have to make myself behave. As VisualLyrics says, Progress not Perfection. As far as the feelings of humiliation go, I just have to tell myself, "Get over it." And, "Get on with it."

  
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BIGLITTLEWOMAN 12/26/2012 7:28PM

    Looking forward to getting back on track with you.

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YENDUCHAKA 12/19/2012 9:25AM

    I don't know what I can say that hasn't already been stated by others here (by way of offering encouragement), but I just wanted to show you some support.
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RUNNINGOMA 12/16/2012 2:20PM

    Honesty is hard, but it helps us to see ourselves where we are at and to be able to make the changes we need. Sometimes we have to start back where we were in teh beginning and start taking those small steps, day after day, that will lead us on the road we want to be one.
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WARMSPRINGDAY 12/16/2012 11:59AM

    I can relate! And you are so right. I think the words of my fitness coach that helped me move on were, "You've got to let it go." We can't move on while we're hanging on to the past with its guilt and shame. And I understand the guilt and shame. Believe me, I do. But if we humble ourselves, admit the truth to God and to ourselves, ask his forgiveness, then we need to "let it go" and let the guilt and shame behind us. Not that I have arrived, but I'm learning, as I still struggle to lose the 35 pounds of rebound weight.

Progress, not perfection - Yes!

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NANCY- 12/16/2012 8:54AM

    Your honesty is amazing. Putting it all out there is a clear sign that you ARE moving forward. That is something to be proud of... including the week of healthy choices. Each choice you make is another step you make toward your goal. From your spirit I can tell you WILL succeed.
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BOBBIENORTHERN1 12/15/2012 7:02PM

  Please, don't ever quit or give up on yourself because you are too valuable to toss away.

You are precious and worth every step of making good healthy choices to live a long, strong and satisfied life.

You not only can do this, you are doing this and will continue on doing this because you love and care for yourself.

You are awesome and a work in progress and are human so forget about perfection and just strive for you being you and being the best that you have been created to be.

Each day is another day to learn more of what and who you are and are able to do to achieve your vision and dream and goal that you have in your heart and soul of who you are and what you are going to be at the end of the journey.

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WATERMELLEN 12/15/2012 4:38PM

    I agree entirely with Marsha (SLENDERELLA): most of us "maintainers" learned how by losing and regaining and relosing and regaining and relosing and regaining and . . . . yeah. Finally something clicked. This could be your time to click and I sincerely wish that for you. But keep on keeping on. Because eventually it WILL click.

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SLENDERELLA61 12/15/2012 4:30PM

    Brilliant!! Congrats on a whole week of healthy choices!! I find the first week is by far the hardest. Congrats on facing it. That can be a really tough one.

On the At Goal & Maintaining Team + ... there has been discussion that it often takes people more than one time losing the weight in order to learn maintenance. For me it took eight times. Each time I learned something I needed in order to finally succeed. You can do it!!!!

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Bouncing Back

Tuesday, December 11, 2012

What some have said about picking up to start again. . . .

Michael Eisner (head of Disney from 1984 to 2005) --
Recovering from failure is often easier than building from success.

Roger Von Oech (Stanford PhD, Creativity Consultant to Apple, IBM, Disney, Sony, and Intel) --
Remember the two benefits of failure. First, if you do fail, you learn what doesn't work; and second, the failure gives you the opportunity to try a new approach.

Brian Tracy (Business Leadership Speaker) --
Remember, you only have to succeed the last time.

Charles Franklin Kettering (GM researcher & inventor with 186 patents) --
An inventor fails 999 times, and if he succeeds once, he's in. He treats his failures simply as practice shots.

Paul, first-century apostle of Jesus Christ--
I press on so that I may lay hold of
that for which also I was laid hold of by Christ Jesus.
Brethren, I do not regard myself as having laid hold of it yet;
but one thing I do:
forgetting what lies behind
and reaching forward to what lies ahead,
I press on toward the goal
for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.
Philippians 3:12b-14

  
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NANCY- 12/12/2012 8:51AM

    Love those some I like are:

“I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work.”
― Thomas A. Edison

“It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed.”
― Theodore Roosevelt

“What seems to us as bitter trials are often blessings in disguise”
― Oscar Wilde

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DIANESAV1 12/11/2012 8:47PM

    Thanks for sharing and so true.

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WATERMELLEN 12/11/2012 8:40PM

    Resilience: you are bouncing back indeed.

So nice to see a blog from you!!

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GOPINTOS 12/11/2012 7:12PM

    Thanks for sharing!

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WARMSPRINGDAY 12/11/2012 7:08PM

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So good to see a blog from you again, my friend!

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REDQT2 12/11/2012 1:18PM

    These are excellent!

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WILSON1926 12/11/2012 1:15PM

    emoticon Great Post
Thanks
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This is my Beijing Olympics

Thursday, August 09, 2012

I heard it over and over again the past few days at the London Olympics: an athlete recalls being devastated by failure, feeling so low at missing goals, publicly displayed while falling short. And then, that sentence each victor repeats, each interview reinforces: "I just didn't give up."

For some, discouragement was accompanied by severe injury; for some, personal tragedy. Hurdler Aries Merritt, who had been a champion & record-setter since high school, radically changed his start-up strategy (including taking off on the left foot instead of the right) just nine months ago. He took the gold medal in 110-meter hurdles tonight. Interviewer asked what was the key to making such a huge modification successful, and he said, "DILIGENCE."

I am soaking up these vivid portrayals of the BIG COMEBACK. Humbling setback and falling short of an important goal is not the end. Missing your dream is not the final chapter. Like those athletes who wept at the Beijing Olympics in 2008, I am sorrowful and disappointed that I have not performed as I imagined. But I'm not retiring from the field. I've got the coaching and the instruction to make a smashing comeback. I just won't give up.

  
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ID_VANDAL 8/20/2012 1:25PM

    What an excellent post. We all cheer the winners and say "wish I could do that" but in truth we don't or we would.

No worthwhile victory comes easy and anything worth doing is going to take lots of failures and efforts but IF we don't quit we will get there.

Thanks for an inspiring blog.

Vandal

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NANCY- 8/13/2012 10:12AM

    You have already won Gold.
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It is inspiring to hear about overcoming challenges. Knowing it can be done gives us all hope and the courage to move forward.

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BIGLITTLEWOMAN 8/12/2012 5:33PM

    You have a winning attitude, that is for sure. I am rooting for you as you inch your way forward towards your Gold. Persevering here in my corner.

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MAMASUDS 8/12/2012 3:33PM

    How inspirational is that! You are great! I look forward to keeping on track with you!


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TRAVELGRRL 8/9/2012 6:28PM

    What a great analogy! I too have heard many, many gold medal winners say they learned a lot from their loss in Beijing and came back strong! Yes, failure is NOT the end of the world! Diligence, persistence, whatever you want to call it -- it's what separates the winners from the whiners!

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WATERMELLEN 8/9/2012 8:02AM

    Not easy . . . but giving up is not an option.

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JLITT62 8/9/2012 6:51AM

    The most important lesson of all!

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STRNGNGRNDED 8/9/2012 12:10AM

    That's right. I know a young lady who was at the Olympics as a pole vaulter. She didn't make the qualifying, even though the jump was something she's surpassed many times.
This will be experience under the proverbial belt if she decides to do this again in four years. =)

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Lose weight the way you're willing to maintain

Wednesday, July 18, 2012

I heard on TV today:

People have so much trouble KEEPING weight off because their method of dieting to lose weight in the first place is not sustainable. You need to develop an eating and exercise approach which matches what you are willing to maintain for life. That's the only way to maintain fitness and health permanently.

  
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FILARECKI1 1/21/2013 2:59PM

    So very true. That is why I feel that I have finally found what is right for me with the Wheat Belly plan. I've been gradually, unknowingly converting to this way of eating for several years so it is really easy to make the full conversion since I got the Wheat Belly cookbook.

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WILSON1926 12/11/2012 1:18PM

    One day, One Minute, One meal at a time.

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MAMASUDS 7/26/2012 5:23PM

    So very true! Thanks for the reminder!
This is exactly what I have been working on this summer.
I know I still need to make adjustments, but baby steps - one improvement at a time. When I try to change everything all at once, I can't wait until the challenge is over so that I can destress a bit. A healthy lifestyle can't be a stressful one!

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BIGLITTLEWOMAN 7/22/2012 4:12PM

    It seems like so much common sense doesn't it? Those things that we do temporarily give us temporary fixes and those that we change for the long term will give us long term benefts. I'm going to go ponder that for a while.

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FLYINGB16 7/21/2012 10:27AM

    I had a lady at work come up to me yesterday (in the bathroom) and ask me what I eat to keep the weight off. She is doing weight watchers and some walking. I told her I don't diet. I eat now the way I plan to eat for the rest of my life. She is hungry because she uses her points for unhealthy foods. If she made better choices she could eat triple the quantity of food and be satisfied. I gave her the website www.sparkpeople.com for the third time in a year and a half. I told her to just focus on the food tracker.

Quick fixes are not permanent and they can cause damage to your body, especially your metabolism. You cannot do the same thing you have always done and expect different results. Commit to your health and set small goals.

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WARMSPRINGDAY 7/21/2012 8:51AM

    Exactly. That's why, even though I am not losing right now, or losing extremely slowly in spite of all the exercise I am doing, I am unwilling to go much lower than my current calorie intake, because I'm not willing to commit to it for the rest of my life. This is exactly what I'm trying to do on my weight loss journey.
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STRNGNGRNDED 7/19/2012 10:25PM

    This is exactly why I stopped counting calories and logging everything, etc. I had to go back to listening to my body. And this is what worked and continues to work. Amazing, right?! LOL

Great blog. Thank you for sharing!

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ID_VANDAL 7/19/2012 12:27PM

    Spot on!! Not to knock Jenny Craig but I don't know how those people keep off the weight with those prepackaged meals. It makes great sense to eat that way but can a person do that forever. I like weight watchers where you eat what you want (mostly) but your watching the portion size. That makes more sense to me plus you are learning to prepare foods yourself.

Great reminder thanks for posting it.

Vandal

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NANCY- 7/19/2012 8:51AM

    So True!
Making sustainable changes is challenging ... but doable.
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BRIAN36 7/19/2012 7:46AM

    Amen!

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WATERMELLEN 7/18/2012 9:57PM

    Agreed. Taking weight off is tough: keeping it off is tougher!!

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TRAVELGRRL 7/18/2012 5:46PM

    What a great blog, and a timely reminder!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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RUNNINGOMA 7/18/2012 4:30PM

    That is why spark has worked and is working for me. Because I can make my normal recipes and just eat a portion.
I never want to go back to just random eating....well, at least most days!

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KICK-SS 7/18/2012 3:44PM

    Absolutely!!!!!

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DISPATCHGIRL32 7/18/2012 1:30PM

  This is very true. Thats why they say you have to make small lifestyle changes not just diet or occasional exercise. You have to do the things you are willing to continue to do.

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