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Veggied-Up Birthday

Tuesday, April 05, 2011

Today I had a birthday lunch for my older-teen son and his friends. Events like this help me see that I have continued to take baby steps toward healthy patterns for our family.

A couple of years ago, I would have said you were dreaming if you thought I could have a party for a bunch of guys and not have loads of chips, processed snacks, pop, and candy. That is just WHAT YOU DO to have a fun party. Over the last 2 years I have gradually "cleaned up" the menus for family events. My husband is all for it and actually said several months ago, "You're not buying any more chips, are you?"

Even teen guys like a little atmosphere, so I went for Italian-restaurant ambience with plenty of wholesome food!

Whole wheat blend noodles
Tomato-based Sauce with onions, garlic, green pepper, celery, carrots, and ground beef, plus herbs&spices
Feta cheese & parmesan cheese
Spinach & romaine salad with cucumber, carrots, green pepper, celery & Caesar dressing
Fresh fruit salad: cantaloupe, honeydew, pineapple
Toasted Rolls with garlic butter

In beautiful glasses I served ice water without apology. Later we did have chocolate cake and vanilla ice cream.

My son was pleased and I didn't hear a word of complaint about the "absent" items.

Who know the strides I can continue to take on this journey to better health?!

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FITJANE 4/6/2011 12:25PM

AND I just LOVE your new background!

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SUNRISE14 4/6/2011 10:53AM

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NANCY- 4/6/2011 9:41AM

    What a wonderful gift to your son and his friends. Slowly I am getting my guys to open up to healthier options.
You are one amazing lady, thanks for showing us it can be done!!!!

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JLITT62 4/6/2011 9:16AM

    I wou,d hear complaints, and DH always wants to know if I have chips (which I don't), but I keep working on him.

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JUNEBUGG02 4/6/2011 8:37AM

  What a great idea to have delicious, healthy food served in style! You are a thoughtful mom!

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BLESSEDMAZARS 4/5/2011 11:53PM

    Wow! That's awesome! Changes come slowly, but eventually even "they" come around to some healthy choices!

Good for you!!!! I think that's great!

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    Great job Mom. They can get junk food any time, any where but a home cooked italiain dinner? Priceless like you and all these efforts.

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WATERMELLEN 4/5/2011 8:57PM

    Sounds like a feast for the senses: flavour, colour, texture . . . good for you, getting teens to eat "real" food with pleasure! That's a gift that endures a lifetime!!

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CRAFTY1960 4/5/2011 7:19PM

    Way to go, I like that healthy meal and treat desert, emoticon

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DOUGLYE 4/5/2011 7:08PM

  Nicely done!

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Thinks Like a Thin Person

Monday, April 04, 2011

My 13 yo daughter wanted to go in the tea store and taste the exotic flavored iced tea, which was served in shallow sampling cups. She took several sips and put the rest in the trash. I drank all of mine (you could have guessed this, right?) and we continued strolling along.

Much later . . .

DD: You know, that tea we tried was really, really, good!
FL: (astonished) Then why did you throw half of it away???
DD: Because I was through with it!

I thought about her answer for a long, long time.

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DIDMIS 4/6/2011 1:14AM

    Smart little girl

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ID_VANDAL 4/5/2011 12:26PM

    Your daughter is wise beyond her years! You must be very very proud.

"because I was through with it" wow - how powerful is that.

I also checked on your previous blogs and I'm going to get me one of those slim shakers as well. I loved that one!!

Sorry some was rude and demanding to you. That just isn't right but then we human and it happens but congrats on a very positive response!!

Keep up your focus and your great work.



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    WOW! Simple, something SO simple is SO important!

Thank you SO much for sharing!

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EDITOR 4/4/2011 10:51AM

    Out of the mouth's of babes!

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JUNEBUGG02 4/4/2011 9:44AM

  Wisdom from our children - always humbling, isn't it!

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NANCY- 4/4/2011 7:25AM

Now that is being mindful.
Thanks for sharing.

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JUNEMONKEY 4/4/2011 6:18AM

    That's great! I think I need a new motto (A Little is Plenty)

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OPHELIA105 4/4/2011 3:47AM

    oooooooooh i like this!

your daughter's attitude is what I aspire to.

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SLENDERELLA61 4/4/2011 3:32AM

    Very, very interesting observation! Don't know that anyone I'm related to would have that experience.

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KIMHALLMARK 4/4/2011 12:19AM

    Help me to remember that. I'm a depression kid (1930's) and was taught NOT to waste. It's a HARD habit to break.

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KIMHALLMARK 4/4/2011 12:17AM

    Help me to remember that. I'm a depression kid (1930's) and was taught NOT to waste. It's a HARD habit to break.

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PRINCESS1959 4/4/2011 12:09AM


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Anger Without Anaesthesia

Saturday, April 02, 2011

Someone was rude and demanding to me today. And then someone was unjust. Usually by God's grace I can shake it off . . . certainly in view of the mercy I myself have received in Christ Jesus, I should have forgiven quickly. But I was angry.

I went out in the hall and walked up and down the building's corridors, thinking it out. So clearly in my head was the phrase I AM ANGRY. I felt pretty sorry for myself also. I was thinking about going home and taking a shower, and wondering if I should also take a nap. Then it hit me. I WAS NOT THINKING ABOUT EATING.

This is pretty big stuff for me. I was quite upset, but I did not immediately anaesthetize myself with food. I did not crave food for comfort. I was able to verbalize my feelings and acknowledge them. This is growth.

I know the struggle will be there again for me many times in the future. But one victory is sweet. And now I know what it feels like . . . to feel my feelings and get past it with other tools. I can make it happen again, and build a new pattern.

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JUNEBUGG02 4/5/2011 8:52AM

  I really like this blog. The title is so descriptive, and I am going to remember this when I am tempted to soothe myself with food!

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PEPPERLEAH 4/3/2011 12:37PM

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NANCY- 4/3/2011 9:27AM

    What an Aha moment. It was terrible that you were treated that way, but not stuffing your emotions away with food is just Awesome.
You will make it happen again.

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BLUESKY_321 4/3/2011 9:20AM

    Good for you! Acknowledging an emotion (even one we wish we weren't having) is so important - you didn't need to disguise it as anything other than what is was!

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WARMSPRINGDAY 4/2/2011 10:10PM

    Good stuff, my friend!

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WATERMELLEN 4/2/2011 9:23PM

    Wow! This is a huge leap: permitting yourself to BE ANGRY and to acknowledge being angry means -- you don't have to anaesthetize yourself with food. In my line of work, I'm afraid that dealing with rude and unjust people is a recurrent issue: it makes me angry. I'm going to remember that like you, I need not anesthetize myself with food.

(Having a nice hot soapy shower, now -- that sounds promising! Just wash it off and rinse it away . . . yeah!!)

Thank you!!

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JLITT62 4/2/2011 6:50PM

    Oh, that us wonderful! I actually remember an aha moment like that quite a few years ago - that's how memorable that can be!

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MAMASUDS 4/2/2011 4:45PM

    I'm so sorry that people treated you like that today. I wish I had been there to pace the hall with you. I have even been known to stick my tongue out a time or two. Congratulations on your victory! So thankful that you made it over the hurdle today. Do we need to invest in a punching bag and jump rope for anger management? I personally love to go ride my bike when I need to clear my head and listen to the Lord as He calms my spirit.

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HSMOM2FOUR 4/2/2011 4:19PM

    wow! now THAT is success!!!!!

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Safe Appetite Control for Just Pennies A Day!

Friday, April 01, 2011

Have you tried this cool product? Just replace your salt shaker with a Slim Shaker, which is also available in single-serve purse-packets to complement the original classic crystalline tabletop dispenser!

It comes in a tiny paper bubble the size of a salt packet. The product is odorless and colorless. "You can take it anywhere," said Isa Ribov, corporate spokesperson. "You can sprinkle it over your meal without embarrassment."

Rigorous laboratory standards ensure the microscopic purity of what's inside every Slim Shaker we sell. In fact, the granules have such a fine grain, they cannot be seen with the naked eye. "Some people have said the Slim Shaker looks empty," said Ribov. "They just don't understand the power of this product to change how much a person eats and how satisfied she'll feel."

The manufacturer's directions are very specific, and labeling warns that the product will not produce results unless used exactly as prescribed. For clarity the instructions are reproduced here in their entirety:

1. Slim Shaker should only be applied to food if one is seated in a relaxing environment free of distractions.

2. Place all food on a plate and sprinkle with Slim Shaker. Additional servings will void product warranty.

3. Take small bites and chew thoroughly to ensure complete absorption of the product.

4. Eat slowly and savor how Slim Shaker enhances the complexity of flavors in each bite.

5. Put your fork down between bites to ensure activation of Slim Shaker synergy from one bite to another.

If you follow the directions precisely, your friends will be amazed at the results. Don't be the last one on your Spark Team to order this foolproof miracle product!

Get your half-off coupon code at

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PHEBESS 4/3/2011 8:52AM

    But wait, there's more!!!!!!!! You also get the Slim Shake Maker - it's a beautiful cup, and all you do is add the water! Voila, you have the world's healthiest drink!!!!!

Buy now, and you get TWO!!!!!!!

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WATERMELLEN 4/3/2011 8:33AM

    Hilarious!! NOW I know what those two ladies in your wallpaper are laughing about: it's the SLIM SHAKER!!

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PEPPERLEAH 4/1/2011 10:34PM

    LOL cute!

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NANCY- 4/1/2011 8:37AM

    I'm thinking of actually making a slim shaker and putting it on the table. Of course instructions should be listed on the container. It would be a great visual reminder.

Enjoy your day.

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TRAVELGRRL 4/1/2011 8:20AM

    Golly, you had me going! I like your new profile pic too, makes me laugh every time I see it!!!!!!

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BLUESKY_321 4/1/2011 5:36AM

    Ha Ha! LOVE it! Put me down for 2 ... one to keep at home and one to take to work! emoticon

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MAMASUDS 4/1/2011 2:27AM

    And I have a castle in Germany that you can buy for $1.

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JSPEED4 4/1/2011 1:11AM

    Reminds me of my dad's can of dehydrated water! I twas kept on an upper shelf and was guaranteed to store forever! emoticon

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New Challenge: Don't Be an April Fool!

Thursday, March 31, 2011

On the Beck Diet Solution goals forum I posted a new challenge for April. The idea is to select a Dr. Beck skill that we have found challenging and practice it for the 30 days of April. This is doable for anyone and easy to fit in with no excuses; it will help us build a stronger foundation to work from. (Thanks to Nancy- for this proposal!)

A good example of a specific goal for this challenge would be one meal a day with no distractions - no TV, radio, reading material, or computer -- but conversation is okay. (Thanks to Nancy15togoal for this suggestion.)

For accountability, report in on the Beck Goals forum to state your intention of the skill you've picked to practice and focus on. Then keep coming back to keep each other posted on progress! We can spur each other on and discuss troubleshooting techniques also.

It takes 3 weeks to build a habit, so consistency with a specific challenge can establish patterns that will take us all the way to our goals!

Many thanks also to SLENDERELLA61, WATERMELLEN, ID_VANDAL, FLUTTER-BY)L(, BLUESKY104, ANUSCHKA9, JUNEMONKEY, and BLUESKY_321 for brainstorming with me about an April challenge.

Slenderella61 threw out a challenge to take my current level of exercise and increase it 5% or 10%, considering time and/or intensity. I'm formally announcing my commitment to do this. For me it means adding a day of running (just a half hour) and trying to cut my best time by a minute per mile. (I'm still a tortoise.)

I will also be following Flutter-By)L( and BlueSky_321 going through the days of the Beck Diet Solution from the beginning.

After a month of this, I guess I'll be a May Motivation Maniac!

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BLUESKY_321 4/1/2011 5:42AM

    So happy to have a challenge with this group!

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WATERMELLEN 3/31/2011 8:22PM

    I'm gonna work on sticking with my Beck program for sure -- glad to the company on this Beck trek!!

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TRAVELGRRL 3/31/2011 6:43PM

    Geez, I'm late to the party on this! Opened my email and found about 30 of them! I'm IN. I'll have to figure out what skill I want to work on, since SO MANY of them need improvement....

Thanks for getting this started!!

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