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DAY 37: Reduce stress

Sunday, March 21, 2010

The Beck Diet Solution has taught me to say "It's just a mistake. I can get back on track right now." This is a great stress reducer in areas besides eating. I'm learning to tell myself, "It's okay. Move on."

The God of the universe has given me grace. Certainly I can be merciful with myself!

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ID_VANDAL 3/22/2010 10:49AM

    I like that one as well. It builds on something BigLittleWoman said a long time ago that I've adopted as my mantra - "Don't let a bad moment turn into a bad day" The Becks "It's just a mistake. I can get back on track right now" is the same thing stated a little differently. Both very helpful and very much NEEDED for all of us.

We are human and as such we will all struggle from time to time but you are strong and you have LOTS of friends so we can all just help each other out when the time comes.



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MAZZYR 3/22/2010 9:39AM

    A recent poster reminded me that her gratitudes included getting to start over anew every moment. Every moment really does present a new opportunity and choices.

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MOUSEWEILER 3/22/2010 8:22AM

    This has been the hardest lesson for me to learn, and also the most valuable in terms of my progress. In the past, I would turn a molehill of a mistake into the proverbial mountain, and be unable to see my way through the mountain pass to the other side. Now I see my molehill-sized mistakes for what they are, and have even found ways to blast a pass through my more mountainous mishaps. The key is to always find a way to move forward. I'm so glad you're able to apply this lesson to areas other than eating as well! I'm glad we are able to share this journey!

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NANCY- 3/22/2010 8:12AM

    Letting go and moving forward gives us results. emoticon

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DAY 36: Believe It

Saturday, March 20, 2010

I was fascinated that the Beck Diet Solution has a section called "Believe It." I am still stunned when I realize 51 pounds are gone. I think I always imagined it would require some exalted plane of perfection to accomplish that. It did require 15 months. These days I try to focus on the next 15 minutes or 15 hours. By the mercy of Jesus Christ I can handle that.

Nothing about my process has been perfect. Why was I hung up on that? God receives me as a compassionate Father.

I kept hearing my chiropractor say, "Something is better than nothing." This applied to exercise as well as eating choices!

I remember a couple years ago a Reader's Digest article which recommended one small change per week in eating choices. I thought, "I could do that." I started with drinking more water. Then buying whole grain bread. I didn't keep adding a change every single week consistently. But I did mostly continue what I did change.

I read Eating Right for Optimum Health by Andrew Weil, and several biological explanations he gave made a lot of sense. I got more serious about eating food with a lot less sugar. I went to some free seminars about healthy eating and listened with a lot less stubborn defensiveness.

God in His wisdom has His own purposes for why at this particular time I received grace to do things differently. I am grateful.

My chiropractor said, "You think you can't afford to buy mostly fruits and vegetables and high-quality protein. But can you afford to be sick?" I kept thinking about that. I shopped more wisely. I ate more fruits and vegetables.

I got back on Spark People. I started using the Beck Diet Solution steps. I received so much support on SP.

This has been a very gradual, stagger-step process. But as Beck says, I have a lot of tools that work. I know how to handle snags. What I don't know, my Spark friends will tell me!

When you have been 80 pounds overweight a long time, it is very difficult to see yourself any differently. I honestly could not imagine a slimmer self. I did assemble motivational images, but it didn't seem a real prospect. I'm still surprised when I walk up to a plate-glass window and the person reflected there is not obese. But I'll keep reading this Beck chapter and soon I'll believe it!

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ID_VANDAL 3/21/2010 6:52PM

    What an inspiring blog FreeLady - you are such an awesome person! Your focus is really helping me to keep on track - although my tracks are a little wobbly at times but you lead by example!!

Plus the support and kind thoughts you have for others just makes Sparkland and, indeed, the world a better place!

Thanks for sharing!



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NANCY- 3/21/2010 8:45AM

You have done a great job shifting your habits. This is a journey of inspiration and positive changes. Results may be slow in coming at times, but they are steady and in more areas than just what the scale reflects.
Changing one's perspective is challenging, but you are doing it beautifully.

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INGRACE 3/20/2010 1:55PM

  YAY! YAY! YAY FOR YOU! Well done and keep up the amazing steadfastness. emoticon

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HGISFM 3/20/2010 11:09AM

    Thanks for all you share.

You're a great motivator. I always have lots to think about after reading your blogs.

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BIGLITTLEWOMAN 3/20/2010 11:01AM

    I second glamourgirl; you do rock. Making small changes doesn't give you those feelings of deprivation. Keep your eye on the prize your progress is amazing.

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MAZZYR 3/20/2010 10:58AM

    Believe it, FreeLady!!

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SLIMMERJESSE 3/20/2010 9:30AM

    Wow, that's amazing progress. Good for you. Mega-congrats! Keep up the great work. It's inspiring.

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GLAMOURGIRL-9 3/20/2010 9:13AM

    emoticonYou ROCK!!!!

50 lbs. is amazing. I know exactly what you mean abotu catching your reflection and being surprised at what you see. I can't wait to get back to that place.

Thank you for your fantastic thought provoking and motivating blogs!!!

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DAY 35: Get Ready to Weigh In

Friday, March 19, 2010

The Beck Diet Solution emphasizes a weight-loss graph so I can see that the line is going down overall. Beck suggests I say, "Look what I've done! I love how the line on this graph is going down! I'm so proud of myself! It's totally worth everything I'm doing."

This part from Beck helps me a lot when the scale isn't moving: "I deserve a lot of credit for using the mindset and behavioral techniques I've learned. I deserve a lot of credit for weighing less than when I started this program."

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SEWINGMEG 3/19/2010 7:53PM

    When I am stuck, I just think of how much better I feel, and look at what I have accomplished! We are doing great.. Let's keep it going!!!

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    You are doing such great things. I'm working on my graph too. I thought I might try plotting my exercise on the same graph in a different color. I am thinking I might be able to see the correlation between weight/effort in exercise. I'll let you know if it works. Prepare for the weekend. emoticon

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NANCY- 3/19/2010 8:22AM

    A bit of reflection on where we were, compared to where we are today always helps keep discouragement at bay.

You are doing great ... Keep Sparking!

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DAY 34 - Solve Problems

Thursday, March 18, 2010

As you know, I have been attentive to carry out the assignments in the Beck Diet Solution. However, I was not able to finish solving all the problems in my life on Day 34. I guess this will be one of the steps that will carry over to more than one day . . .

Seriously, I am a big fan of the Seven Question Technique (reproduced in Freelady blog 3/05/10) to dissect thorny issues and process emotions. Recently I have used #6, "What would I tell a friend if she were in this situation and had this same kind of thought?" many times. Amazing how it provides a sane dollop of objectivity.

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    Taking action makes us feel better, more empowered than doing nothing. We don't have to accept any state of affairs. But often we only have just so much energy to go around so we have to pick our battles.

I think its very hard to balance a family and take steps like Becks to review and correct our own lives. We are trained and devoted to doing these things for our children and spouses; very little attention in spent on our own issues/lives.

Now, here we are. You can only put yourself on the back burner for just so long.... emoticon

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SEWINGMEG 3/18/2010 5:24PM

    If there was a way to solve ALL of life's problems, we would not need counselors, churches, God, etc. Please don't try to solve them all in one day, you might go nutty... LOL... (((hugs))) Although, we can't ignore our problems either, and some people do that since they tend to be overwhelming! Beck is very good, and I have enjoyed many of your blogs about all you are learning... Keep up the great work!

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ANNANN63 3/18/2010 10:35AM

    I learned to solve problem early in life because I had to. My mother forced us to become independent and responsible for ourselves really young. So I never though much about it. Then I once worked for a man who said that the only way anyone ever learns to solve problems is to DO IT. The more you do it the easier it becomes. So even if your solution to a problem is not ideal, celebrate anyway. Each time you solve a problem you are learning to do it better and better. Avoidance of problem solving sets one up for disaster. I think many people avoid problem solving because they are afraid of failure. Failure is part of life--it is part of the learning process. We should celebrate what our failures teach us and move on.

You can do this. It isn't really as hard as it seems. The more you do it, the easier it becomes. Also when a problem is particularly difficult, I leave it for a while. Often before I decide to come back to it, the solution pops into my head.


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NANCY- 3/18/2010 9:13AM

    Working on solving problems is much better than giving up and being a victim.
It would be nice to have all our problems solved in one day.

Keep Sparking!

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Quote Digest 8 - Moving Forward

Wednesday, March 17, 2010

One thing I say to myself every day: I want to be successful more than I want to eat. - from ANNANN63 comment on Freelady blog 3/10/10

It's so tempting to be bad and eat out BUT I've done pretty good and have been sticking to the healthy stuff. If you want something bad enough you will do anything to get it! - from LYNZEKM comment on SASSTRESS blog 3/10/10

If something is really easy for a person to do (or not do) then they don't get much credit for doing it. It is when something is difficult and we keep doing what is right that we get mega credit. If a person who doesn't really enjoy eating (and I have met one in my life) is thin, they just don't get a lot of credit for being thin. There isn't any work involved. If someone has no desire to smoke (that is me) I don't get any special credit for not smoking. It takes nothing for me to not smoke. But when I don't eat something because it is not on my food plan, when I eat reasonable amounts of healthy food, when I exercise when I don't particularly want to; then I get tons of credit. - from ANNANN63 (comment on Freelady blog 3/13/10)

MRMENTALFITNESS suggested on CHERYLRUSH's blog that she concentrate on a scale number she wants to be rather than continually lament about the number she is. Now she ends every blog with that new number as a way to focus on where she is going. That's been a very helpful thought for me. - from TRAVELGRRL blog 2/22

I want to build muscle. I have been strength training for a reason. I don't just want to be skinny. I want to be fit and have lean muscle. Muscle ultimately will burn more calories and help me to keep the weight off!! - from 1HKNRN blog 2/22

I have been praying for a while about where my goal weight should be. I know what the charts say, but am longing to know what my Creator has in mind for me. - from MamaSuds blog 2/09

Now I just have to execute - after all we can plan until the cows come home but execution is where is all happens!! from ID_VANDAL blog 2/23

I decided I would rather be the fat girl at the gym than a fat girl anywhere else because being at the gym says that I am working towards a goal that I should be proud of. - from PrincessAlica on Fitness and Exercise Message Board, "Overcoming Embarrassment" 3/9/10

[When we feel like, why bother?] You bother because you know where you are going and don't want to go back to where you were. That's why we all do it. MARTY19 comment on SlimmerJesse blog 3/10/10

. . . Each thing I shouldn't eat, I look at it and decide....YOU'RE NOT WORTH IT. I'll eat you in 5 seconds flat and need a week to get you out of my system. I chose what goes into me with precision. I'm not wasting one more day. I can either do it now for this year, or spend another 10 yrs trying. I'm doing it! - from Celest comment 2/27 on Kitt52 Blog 2/26

At my WW meeting this morning, it was "better in the trashcan than on YOUR can". - from JLITT62, commenting on Digest 5 2/25 quote which said, My mum used to say, "Better it goes to waste than to my waist." - from WATERMELLEN comment 2/23 on TRAVELGRRL blog 2/23

Around here, we don't look backwards for very long. We keep moving forward. - Walt Disney, from Alleluia525 signature

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LYNZEKM 3/18/2010 3:52PM

    thats really cool :) thanks for including me! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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SHERRY257 3/18/2010 11:25AM

    Thanks, It is great to see such wonderful quotes from SP. Thanks for sharing!

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PRINCESSALICA 3/17/2010 11:07PM

    Thanks! It was quite the revelation to me! I'm glad that it was encouragement for someone else as well!

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    These are just the best. Thanks Freelady.

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MARTY19 3/17/2010 7:02PM

    I never expected to be quoted but I will stand by that quote because it still applies to me. I will never go back. Even if I am stuck, it meats where I was.


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GMASANDIE 3/17/2010 5:54PM

    Great post! Thanks for sharing. I often amazes me that the problem isn't in knowing, but in doing. We know well what to do, now to do it! Have a great evening!

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SLIMMERJESSE 3/17/2010 4:03PM

    I really enjoy the compilations of quotes you put together. It helps to read what others are thinking and how they're doing. You will definitely succeed. You're on a mission, I can tell. (smiling) Happy day!

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ANNANN63 3/17/2010 2:53PM

    Great stuff. Thank you for including some things I have said. I love SP--so much support--so much wonderful stuff to help keep us doing what we really want to do to accomplish what we really want to accomplish.

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