Saturday, September 25, 2010
All my life my overweight father told me I was fat and overweight and had me on some kind of diet or other - but, I had to eat everything on my plate!
The most humilating thing that I had to do was to weigh in front of him every week. I remember myself being huge.
Funny thing is, I'm working on my family tree and my daughter was looking at old pictures of me when I was growing up. She asked me where the pictures of me being fat were. I told her they were in the album and she said the only pictures of me that were in there I might have been 10 or 15 lbs overweight but not more. I looked and she was right. After thinking about it, the biggest size I ever wore when growing up was a size 15.
I was stunned and angry. I didn't even look bad in my clothes and all this time I had this horrible image of me being this huge gross overweight child that has carried me into adulthood and I still have trouble leaving food on my plate - so much guilt from growing up.
This same daughter is overweight. She had a rough marriage, which she is finally free of, but it left a lot of emotional scars and she ate for various reasons. A doctor friend of hers told her that it's time to lose the weight, that the weight she has put on is from her marriage and it's over and it's time to move on.
My dad is always telling me I need to do something about her weight. Please, she's 32-years-old! It's my "responsibility" as her mother to make her lose weight. I told him I refuse to do to her what he did to me. I blame alot of my weight issues on him and am working hard to overcome them but she knows she needs to lose weight and doesn't need me to remind her.
I just wish parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, whoever, would realize the damage they can do by saying something negative.