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Monday, October 17, 2011

I have nice friends, they try to be kind and supportive. Oftentimes though it can be offered with food. Today my girlfriend dropped off a piece of pie for me "just because" she knew it was my favorite. I thanked her of course. When she had gone I ate a bite of it. I was very relieved to find out it wasn't very good and got rid of it.
Of course this is all my own fault. I am known to one and all as a choocolate and wine lover so that is what people tend to get me. I also stopped telling people about my healthy eating attempts because it became too embaressing after the zillionth time of starting and stopping. How can I expect support if I don't tell anyone? But still...I feel like for now this is my secret.
But I DID throw away the pie after one bite!!!!!!

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FUTUREHOPE49 1/1/2012 2:31PM

    Well done for resisting! All over Christmas, people have been feeding me biscuits and cake! Back to the Mediterranean diet today!

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FLAFLUTTERBY 10/18/2011 4:51AM


For so long our culture has been friendship = food. Many a friendship has been formed and solidified over a meal or coffee and dessert. Old habits die hard! Congratulations to you for resisting! Not sure I could have done it!


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ELISADENK 10/17/2011 4:28PM


You're doing great!

Keep taking those Baby Steps. Get them well indoctrinated into your new SP lifestyle and you'll be fine.

I'm a chocolate gal. GOOD chocolate, not just any. Portion control is a key for me.

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LNSYLVSDOGS 10/17/2011 2:49PM

    Good for you for throwing out the pie once you realized it wasn't so good tasting after all! I know what you mean about the well meaning intentions of others. Even family (most especially family, actually) can be quite guilty of things like this.....(even when they KNOW we are counting calories.) I also understand about the wanting to keep it a secret (about your weight loss plans). During my pregnancies I had gestational diabetes. I kept it a secret (b/c I didn't want pity), but it also meant I got lots of plates of desserts offered to me with loud proclamations that I was eating for two...! I have a sweet tooth. But, I stuck to my plans and didn't eat the desserts. It just takes determination, determination, matter WHAT anyone else is offering.

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SUECHRIS50 10/17/2011 2:09PM

    I know what you mean and my hubs is the top culprit!Hang on in there sweetie it will happen for you!!

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ALICIA214 10/17/2011 1:54PM


Good for you !!! emoticon

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I feel overwhelmed

Friday, October 14, 2011

I spent a lot of time today reading sparkpages and have learned a lot! Maybe too much? I have read about people's successes (and the research that backs it) for all sorts of plans from plain ole counting calories to Paleo to Eating Clean to Atkins. My head is spinning. I know I should just find out what works for me...but how? Where to start? My hubby loves meat and carbs and fruit and veggies...the whole shebang...but he has given up chocolate. Can I give up wine and chocolate? Do I have to?
Do I sound like I need medication? LOL emoticon

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ELISADENK 10/15/2011 7:05PM

    Yep, sounds like you over did it!

Remember SP is a Lifestyle. Any one particular 'diet' can work for awhile. But in the long run?

No, you don't have to give up chocolate unless Doc says too or your allergic to it or something.

Do what you feel comfortable doing and keep tracking your food and all the nutrients possible. You'll learn and adjust as you go along. No worries!!

My breakfast evolved this way. And I like what I'm eating.

Play around, experiment and have fun! emoticon

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GREENMOUSE 10/15/2011 12:07PM

    Starting small is good advice, I think. And make only changes you know you can live with the rest of your life. I KNOW that wine and chocolate will be two pleasures that I hope to enjoy the rest of my life, so they will NOT be dropped. But I WILL learn to enjoy within boundaries. To me, that's what it's all about.

Good luck to you!

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BLUE42DOWN 10/14/2011 5:50PM

    It's possible to progress without giving anything up - just reducing the portion sizes to reasonable. There's a difference between a single glass (not an 8 oz. one ... a serving of wine is actually 5 oz.) and a shared bottle. There's a difference between one truffle and the whole bag.

Some of those diets you mentioned are very drastic changes to eating habits - and not all are healthy for you, no matter how many pounds Tina, Diane, and Harriet lost on them, how vibrant they felt, or how glorious their success story is. Start with the simplest and easiest things to implement without such major shifts. Those can come later once you're more in a groove and can feel when things work or don't.

And to add to what Staciepete said, making too many changes all at once means that even if you succeed at one or two ... failing at one or two tends to overshadow the successes. A few small, simple changes toward improved health are things that you can and will succeed at - and things that will serve you well for the rest of your life no matter what.


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STACIEPETE 10/14/2011 5:24PM

    You don't have to give anything up. Just start small. Make a list of everything you'd like to change, and don't make any changes you know you can't keep for the rest of your life. Change one thing at a time until that change becomes a habit, and then add another change from the list

My first three changes were:

1) Replace most non-dairy liquid in your diet with water - aim for 8 glasses of H20 a day.

2) Get at least 7.5 hours of sleep a night no matter what.

3) Eat a healthy breakfast every day

I did #3 first, then #1, then #2.

The most important thing is to not overwhelm yourself, and to experiment until you find what works for you. You can do it!! :)

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Wednesday, October 05, 2011

I'll admit it...I have a huge problem with food. For the past five days or so I have been off my plan and just eating whatever whenever. It all started with an emotional eating episode that spiraled into days. Now i am eating stuff I don't even want or particularly like. I need to stop and refocus. I need to remind myself that giving up is not an option and will never be an option.
I am taking a breath and picking myself up

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BIRDINSUN 10/6/2011 3:58AM

    You're singing my song - the one that I know by heart because I've been singing it all my life. For me, every time I launch into a new "plan", when I blow it I'm so disgusted with myself, and it's the beginning of the end. That's one of my goals this time - to truly LET IT GO when I eat something that "isn't consistent with my healthy lifestyle", forgive myself, refocus right away, and NOT let one episode control whether I stick with this or not.

I'm reading "The Spark", and I just read a chapter on this very thing. It was very motivating. I highly recommend this book. I'm new to SP, and decided to learn all I can about it. If you happen to have a Kindle, the download is only $1.99.

Anyway, I care. I understand, and I really want you to talk positively to yourself, remind yourself that you're worth it, and fix yourself and enjoy some really delicious healthy food today. Write to me if you want, and I'll write to you. I'm going to be singing this song again before long, because NOBODY can be perfect, no matter how committed they are, and I'm going to need you to give ME the pep talk.

Oh - one other thing. When I did Body for Life, they have you build in a weekly "free day", when you eat whatever you want, whatever you've been craving, etc. It was great - I never felt deprived, because I knew that in a day or two I could have the doughnut, or nachos, or or or. It worked great - I lost weight well on the plan. Until, of course, I extended my free day to a free week, and the rest is history. But you might consider it.

I'll be thinking about you. emoticon

Lee Anne

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SLNA111 10/5/2011 9:02PM

    Good for you - the past is past. Just move forward.

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Thursday, September 22, 2011

Today started out on a fairly positive note. I woke up feeling so good about it being Day 4 and that I had gotten this far. (I usually last 1/2 day). I had a talk with DH about my weight, his BP and his kidney stones, and how much it would help me if we stopped bringing chocolate/candy into the house. I am not saying we can never have it...I just don't want it in the house because for me that equals eating it and getting out of control. He agreed with mild enthusiasm. I have a feeling I will have to remind him a couple of times about our agreement. But in general it was a good talk and we also discussed the need for more exercise. I won't say he is totally on board but he is willing to talk about it and consider it so that is a victory in itself.
Then I went to go get ready for work. My heart sank as I looked at my closet and realized that 85% of it is too small now. Even the "big" clothes I bought are starting to get tight. To be real honest, I only have one pair of pants left that are truly comfortable and they get worn a LOT. So I put on the comfy pants because I just couldn't stand the thought of a snug waistband all day. Picked out a shirt that sorta kinda matched and some earrings. When I looked at myself in the mirror all I saw was fat, dumpy, lumpy, dowdy middled aged woman. You know...the ones that look like they have given up. I wanted to cry. I got my black sweater and threw it over me for camoflage but that didn't help matters much. I found myself thinking "What is the use, why try?". Then I remembered DH though and I realized that giving up on me would also be giving up for him too. (If I am not eating healthy and exercising you can bet he isn't!). That was all I needed to get my mind back in a semi positive frame. I know we are supposed to be doing this for ourselves, not for others...but at this point, I will take whatever motivation keeps me on target. I have had a hard year. My mom passed away unexpectedly in February and my youngest daughter is estranged from me. It felt like I was eating to make up for the losses but of course food can never fill that hole.
Ok, I am going to end on a positive note, tonight DH and I are going to the local vineyard and I already have the wine and wood fired pizza figured into my daily tracker. What more can I ask for? Life is still good...just hard and crusty around the edges.

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LALEEBEEN 9/29/2011 4:37PM

    All we can do is take it one day at a time.

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DEBTEVELDAHL 9/23/2011 2:30PM

    emoticonattitude!! I am so very sorry about your losses. Just remember the baby steps and you will do fine. emoticon emoticonon getting HB involved too. It will be easier in the long run if you are both on the same page. emoticon Debi T.

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