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Why...

Saturday, July 12, 2014

Because I want to be healthy.

Because I want to be fit.

Because I want my boys to have a role model for health, happiness and success.

Because I want to wear clothes that don't have an "X" in the size.

Because I want to inspire others.

Because I want to live a long, healthy life.

Because I am more than a number on the scale.

Because I am worth it.

Because I deserve it.

Because I want to ride roller coasters again.

Because I want to fit in a booth comfortably.

Because I don't want to wonder if "I'll fit".

Because I want to shop for clothes in any store.

Because I want to wear matching, sexy lingerie.

Because I want to fly in a plane without a seat belt extension.

Because I don't want to have to take medications for cholesterol, blood pressure or diabetes.

Because I want to trust myself to make healthy decisions.

Because I want to love myself enough to believe that others can love me.

Because I want to live.

Because I CAN.

  
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EVER-HOPEFUL 7/28/2014 4:56AM

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RUNNER4LIFE08 7/16/2014 10:14AM

    emoticon Great blog and great reasons of why you are doing this!

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ORCHIDLADY56 7/15/2014 12:58PM

    Love this one, Steph! Excellent!

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2BEABETTERME 7/15/2014 12:02PM

    What a lovely post!
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AMY-MIMI77 7/14/2014 4:28PM

    I have faith in you; you are an amazing person and deserve all of the above!

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MOJO0607 7/14/2014 11:11AM

    Yes, yes, yes. Sometimes we just have to take a moment and verbalize the why--and then go out and make it happen. Keep up the great work!

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NDKARIKARI 7/13/2014 10:25PM

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JADED_CHICK19 7/13/2014 8:06PM

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Sometimes writing out all the many reasons why we are on this journey helps during those rough times. Keep up the phenomenal work and you will get there before you know it!

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JAYKAYSTRONG 7/13/2014 5:33AM

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Spark recommends you keep these posted in places you'll see them everyday. I need to make a list and print it out and post it. Thanks for the reminder!

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APRIL_V_2 7/12/2014 7:47PM

    Love this! These are awesome reasons and goals! emoticon emoticon

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VALYNN26 7/12/2014 5:41PM

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1CRAZYDOG 7/12/2014 5:18PM

    Awesome! We ARE worth it.

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WORLDSERIES11 7/12/2014 2:15PM

    Beautifully said!!)

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VEG954 7/12/2014 11:38AM

  Love your post.
I can almost see you riding the roller coaster!

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You are enough...

Saturday, March 29, 2014

YOU ARE ENOUGH. When I logged into Spark, those 3 words jumped off the page at me. I stopped and whispered them to myself. It felt good so I said it again. And again.

I've been incredibly overwhelmed with life's curve balls lately. And when I'm overwhelmed I start thinking of what more can I do and what should I be doing differently. YOU ARE ENOUGH. Those words made me realize that I'm doing what I can and that I am enough. Life's curve balls are not about me not being or doing enough. It's just the part of life where things are hard.

I AM ENOUGH. I will get through this and those other life challenges that will surely come. I will because I am enough. I will because God says I am enough and sometimes He gives us more than we can handle so that we hand it over to Him.

I AM ENOUGH and so are you.

  
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BA5454 6/28/2014 4:24PM

    Love the quote, it's very self-affirming and that's very powerful. Thanks for the reminder!

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CHSHULER89 4/22/2014 8:05PM

    Thank you for being such a cheerful, strong, wonderful woman! love always knowing that when I come to your page their is always something uplifting and positive!
We are enough and I always need to remind myself this. Thanks!
Thanks for being such a great encourager!

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AMY-MIMI77 3/31/2014 6:35PM

    Thank you so much for the reminder - you are so great with words
I love reading anything you post as it usually touchs my heart/situation as well

Hugs to you cuz you are enough & very much worth it

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VALYNN26 3/30/2014 8:07AM

    What a great blog!! I restarted body revolution this past week and there's a part where Jillian says you are worth it. When she says that I just keep repeating it. It feels so good to say. Great reminder that we are enough!! emoticon You my friend are an amazing person, who is strong just like a diamond. You are enough!! emoticon

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LITTLK 3/29/2014 7:16PM

    What a wonderful blog. I have never thought that God gave us more than we could handle so we can hand it over to him....I really like that thought and I'm so glad that you shared that. Thanks for sharing these thoughts because it is true, you are enough!

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NDKARIKARI 3/29/2014 6:35PM

    it's interesting that you talk about God giving us more than we can handle so we can hand them over to him. Was reading 1st Corinthians 10:13 yesterday and today about God never giving us more than we can handle when it comes to temptation. God always provides a way, provided we listen and turn to Him. Thank you for the encouraging blog, as usual

-Nana

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WORLDSERIES11 3/29/2014 5:49PM

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WE ARE ENOUGH!!
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TRUNKJUNK 3/29/2014 2:14PM

    We are enough

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1CRAZYDOG 3/29/2014 1:53PM

    HUGS

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MEGAMITENCHI 3/29/2014 12:50PM

    Love this! It is perfectly in line with the idea that you need to tell yourself "I love you". You can't expect, or even hear, other people say that to you, if you don't believe it first. Growing is a part of life, but it's not an excuse to kill ourselves of things. You are enough!

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AMARILYNH 3/29/2014 12:04PM

    Those are words we need to PLANT in our brains and bring out frequently!! Thanks for sharing them with us!!

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RHOOK20047 3/29/2014 10:42AM

    Yes this is a lesson we all need to take in and understand. We are enough! The meanings are numerous!

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HILLRUNNER 3/29/2014 10:26AM

    Yep!! You sure are!!!

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FAIRY_MOON76 3/29/2014 10:15AM

    Love this! So absolutely true. Reading this raised my spirit up. Thank you for your inspiration!

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2BEABETTERME 3/29/2014 9:40AM

    Oh, I needed this, THANK YOU!!!

Hang in there. You will get through it. There are a lot of people here lifting you and your family up in prayer. Hugs!

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EVER-HOPEFUL 3/29/2014 9:37AM

    i personally think god doesn´t give us stuff that he diesn´t think we can cope or manage with.this pholosophy is what gives me the strength to keep going and carry on no matter how hard it may seem.after all if god things i can handel it who am i to say he is wrong or call him a liar.but by the same token to him we are enogh.take care and keep on keeping on emoticon

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SASSYLJB 3/29/2014 9:24AM

    You are an amazing, strong, vibrant woman, and YES you are enough! You inspire, motivate, and love with your whole heart! What more could we ask ask for, you are truly remarkable woman, and I am honored to call you my friend and spark sister!
Luv ya girl!

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Spring Goals...

Thursday, March 20, 2014

With the promise of warmer temperatures and more sunshine, I'm ready to give my goals an overhaul. It's been a long winter and I've been in somewhat of a rut so I'm ready to change things up.

1. Get outside more. I have a very sedentary job that keeps me inside most of the waking day. I'm going to get outside for at least 15 minutes 3-4 times a week during my lunch break and then walk in the evening/weekends 4 times per week. I have a very low Vitamin D level which I take supplements for. These supplements don't seem to be helping in any great way. I've seen small increases but nothing significant. The best way to take Vitamin D is through sunlight so I know this outside exposure will help in more ways than one.

2. Keep on tracking. I'm currently on an 18 day streak of tracking my food. I track the good, bad and the ugly so that I'm accountable and can see patterns. One thing I've noticed is that there are "extras" I eat that I don't need. For example, a bread stick with a great meal. I don't need the calories and don't even want the bread stick. I ate it because it came with my food. I will continue to track all food, everyday.

3. Water, water, water. As I've been tracking my food and drinks, it's glaringly obvious I'm not drinking enough. Not just water but anything. For this goal I will focus on 6-8 glasses of water per day.

4. Dealing with stress. I haven't found the perfect tool or exercise for dealing with stress. I am going to keep trying different things to find what works best. The current items I'm trying are blogging, devotions and prayer. I'm looking at a Bible Study and yoga to also try.

I'm looking forward to shaking off the doldrums of winter and embrace Spring. Spring is a time of renewal and I'm going to work on a personal renewal of spirit and energy.

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BESSHAILE 4/6/2014 8:19AM

    Isn't it amazing what you discover when you track. Who knew?

thank heavens it's starting to warm up - and you can get outdoors more. I wear an activity tracker and try to take 2 short walks every day. Really short - like 6 or 7 blocks. But wow do they make a difference and the tracker lets me see that difference. You might enjoy getting one.

hugs and happy springtime to you

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AMY-MIMI77 3/24/2014 6:13PM

    These sound like great goals -- you can do it!

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RUTHIEBEAR 3/23/2014 10:15AM

    These are great goals and very do-able! I believe in YOU!

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PKCTTS 3/20/2014 9:32PM

    Great goals and good idea - Winter has made it hard to stay motivated.

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WORLDSERIES11 3/20/2014 6:06PM

    Great Goals Steph! I'm ready for Spring too!!
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EMMACORY 3/20/2014 3:38PM

    Thanks for sharing your Spring goals. It will push me to think about this too. Happy Spring! emoticon

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RUNNER4LIFE08 3/20/2014 2:50PM

    These are all great goals Steph! I know emoticon

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1CRAZYDOG 3/20/2014 12:24PM

    That's a great goal having tools to deal with stress. You're right, it can keep changing, depending on the stressor. The more tools you have to handle it, the better things will go.

HUGS

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JENISDOINGTHIS 3/20/2014 12:20PM

    emoticon You have inspired me to make a few spring time goals for myself. Being outside more is definitely one of them.

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2BEABETTERME 3/20/2014 10:01AM

    Great goals! I struggle with the stressors of life too.

Let's rock this challenge!
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SUNSHINE192DAY 3/20/2014 8:56AM

    Great goals! Yoga is great for stress relief so I'm glad you're going to try it! Have a great Spring!

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Save yourself first...

Saturday, December 21, 2013

Anyone who has flown in an airplane has heard the flight attendant explain that in the case of an emergency, place your oxygen mask on first, then help those around you. I understand why they say to do this. What good are you to those around you if you are dead? But do ya know what? I always heard it, understood why but processed it as "Yeah. Unless there are children or people who need help more than me. They come first."

I find that I've kind of taken this general approach to life. In my circle of friends and family, I have no problem trying to save them and help them. Actually I like doing it. I love the feeling of helping and making a difference in the lives of those around me. There's nothing wrong with that, right? Makes me a good, caring person, doesn't it?

This morning I had one of those "God Breezes" where things came to mind in an almost "slap yourself upside the head" kind of way. First, who asked me to help or save them? In almost all cases, no one did. When my Dad was dealing with his high blood sugar and losing weight, I sent him recipes, bought him a fitbit and cheered him on. When my husband was down and battling weight issues, I bought healthy food, a punching bag, new shoes, a fitbit and so on. I put my time and energy into other people and felt like I failed them when they stumbled. I put their success on me. Today it hit me that their journey is their journey. I can be supportive and if asked, offer help. However it's not my responsibility to save them.

This thinking led to the next obvious conclusion, it is my job to save myself first. Instead of looking for answers or expected reciprocated support in others, I have to do this for me. I need to put the time and energy I'm putting into others into myself. Because just like the flight attendant says "Put your mask on first so that you can help others".

I'm not sure why this is so difficult or why I throw so much of myself into others but I need to focus on me. It's my job to be there for them when they need me. Encourage them. Not save them. Not pour all my energy into them. It is my job to save myself so that I can be a role model for them. So that I can be my best self and be there when they do need me.

  
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RUNNER4LIFE08 2/11/2014 2:13PM

    I don't know how I missed this blog... probably because it was around the holidays. But boy, did this ever come at the perfect time.

Very emoticon I do the same thing and it is hard to change. But these past few weeks I have had to workout on my own. Do this for me and for me only. And I kind of like it! We do need to save ourselves first and we should not feel selfish if we do.

Thanks for posting your thoughts! It really has me thinking this afternoon.

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SKNYMOMWANNABE 2/9/2014 10:51AM

    This is the truth. I always say there has to be a "me" in order for their to be a "we" or an "us." If I'm feeling lousy, I'm not helping anyone. Running on empty if you will?

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RECREATING_ME 1/12/2014 12:12AM

    This topic really resonates with me. Of course, the reality is that we are far more effective at helping others when we are at our best. And that means taking care of us first.

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BESSHAILE 1/1/2014 3:58PM

    Yep. that's your job.

Here's a funny story that illustrates exactly that. My husband recently had a heart attack, from which he recovered, thank God. But then on the way home from the hospital a few days later he wanted to go into Walmart and pick up some glasses he'd ordered. As I trailed behind him with my daughter in law, who had a "Poor Bess" look on her face I said to her "If he'd died on Saturday it would have been a tragedy. If he wants to kill himself today then - let him"

And when I said that - I really did mean it - even if it did sound funny. His body. His heart attack. not mine.

My issue is the crummy brownie from starbucks. LOL

Happy New Year - we're gonna ace this one!
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HDHAWK 12/29/2013 8:11PM

    I have a tendency to do the same thing. I'm trying really hard to take some time for myself. If I'm not healthy I won't be here to spend time with my family and friends. emoticon

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KITTYKITTEMMING 12/29/2013 2:28PM

    Great blog! Perfect timing, too. I offer you all the support and encouragement in the world for your journey, as I continue on mine.

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MPRILL 12/29/2013 12:17AM

    Perfect timing for this Blog post.

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JEN_BACK2BASICS 12/28/2013 7:09PM

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AMY-MIMI77 12/26/2013 4:37PM

    This is truely a GREAT Blog; you are so insightful.
Thanks for sharing

you rock!

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ORCHIDLADY56 12/25/2013 9:04AM

    So very true! Love the insight!

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WORLDSERIES11 12/24/2013 3:15PM

    Sounds like we've led similar lives. I do the exact same thing. Guess we both have some changes to be working on.
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SASSYLJB 12/24/2013 1:48PM

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This is also one item that I continue to remind myself! We have to help ourselves before we can truly give everything that we can be to others! Your job, to be the best you! AS a diamond you shine so very BRIGHT!

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ANNMACP0212 12/24/2013 2:20AM

    Wow!! Preach it sister…you are so right...

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4NEWDAY 12/23/2013 11:35PM

    Ding, ding, ding! Right on! I mean, mask on! You go, girl!

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FINCHFEEDER80 12/23/2013 11:28AM

    I swear, I think that's the hardest lesson that any of us learn- I still haven't really learned it yet! Thanks for sharing!

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MARUKI52 12/22/2013 5:04PM

    I can relate to everything you say and have been working on this issue. Many a time I've fallen into doing exactly as you have. I have managed to pull myself out of the situation only to find that, without thinking, there I am again doing exactly the same thing. I think, if you are female, then this is part of our nature but there comes a time when we really have to put ourselves first and I know first hand how difficult that can be to start with. I hope you succeed, even if it's only with baby steps first.

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1CRAZYDOG 12/22/2013 5:02PM

    I believe it is just part of our nature! But that philosophy of taking care of you so you can take care of others is really spot on! '

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HUGS and thanks for the wonderful blogs you share.

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PGHP31CK 12/22/2013 2:28PM

    Good for you! You have to take care of you (physically, mentally, emotionally) so that you can care for others.

Cheering you on!

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SPARKFRAN514 12/21/2013 11:41PM

    That is the caring and helpful person you are. I agree we need to remember to take care our selves. great blog. this should go on your to do list for 2014 we can do and need to do it to be healthy and good sparkers

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NDKARIKARI 12/21/2013 5:47PM

    spot on blog.

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TKOVACH1 12/21/2013 5:29PM

    emoticon emoticon I think many women fall into this trap of helping others but failling to do enough for themselves first because it feels selfish. But it is actually the complete opposite of selfish because you will be better able to help others (if asked emoticon ) if you take care of yourself first.

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Winter Challenge Goals

Wednesday, December 18, 2013

Each winter the cold temperatures and snow tend to drive me close to hibernation. The older I get I find that I like a little snow on Christmas and then I'm ready for Spring. However, here in Ohio Spring doesn't come until April or so.

So until then I'm going to focus on the following goals to see me through the cold months:
1. Drink 8 glasses of water per day. This is tough as I like to drink hot coffee and tea to warm myself up.

2 . More gym time. It's too easy to sit cuddled up, under a blanket this time of the year.

3. Better stress handling. #2 will greatly help.

4. Me time. This will help with the stress too. I'm planning to start a year long daily devotional January 1st. I'm looking forward to this time of meditation.

I know these goals seem basic and are things I shouldn't have to reinforce but winter is tough for me. I think I would have been a good bear with my hibernation instinct.

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JEN_BACK2BASICS 12/28/2013 7:06PM

    You got this, girl!! I read that people who exercise regularly aren't as affected by cold temperatures. Let's get less affected this winter!!
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RUNNER4LIFE08 12/20/2013 2:39PM

    These are great goals to get you through winter. I agree... it would be easier to just hibernate.

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VALYNN26 12/20/2013 12:27PM

    Great simple basic goals. Simple is best especially with all the craziness this time of year brings. I have no doubt that you'll meet your goals! Let's ROCK this winter challenge!!

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SASSYLJB 12/19/2013 6:57AM

    You got these goals, You can do this Diamond Girl! Shake those winter blues with some gym time! Remember to visit the Sauna while you are there it will help you think of summer! We get through the craziness of the holidays that we can find something else to make us crazy! You got this! After all you are one Dazzling and Amazing Woman!

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SPAMUNDY 12/18/2013 6:22PM

    These are the goals I need too. I'm with you, if I didn't need to go out to work, I'd stay home all week most weeks! emoticon

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LIAMAY3 12/18/2013 6:21PM

    Great goals, the daily devotional sounds wonderful and inspired. My gym time is my me time, just zone out and sort my thoughts or reflect on something that needs attention. Definitely helps! If you like non caffeineted herbal teas those can count as water!

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JYANCEY14256 12/18/2013 7:24AM

    Love your goals!!! They are very similar to mine!!! Just one more week of madness - then I'll be ready to pump it up!! Continue to Sparkle!!!!
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