Saturday, December 21, 2013
Anyone who has flown in an airplane has heard the flight attendant explain that in the case of an emergency, place your oxygen mask on first, then help those around you. I understand why they say to do this. What good are you to those around you if you are dead? But do ya know what? I always heard it, understood why but processed it as "Yeah. Unless there are children or people who need help more than me. They come first."
I find that I've kind of taken this general approach to life. In my circle of friends and family, I have no problem trying to save them and help them. Actually I like doing it. I love the feeling of helping and making a difference in the lives of those around me. There's nothing wrong with that, right? Makes me a good, caring person, doesn't it?
This morning I had one of those "God Breezes" where things came to mind in an almost "slap yourself upside the head" kind of way. First, who asked me to help or save them? In almost all cases, no one did. When my Dad was dealing with his high blood sugar and losing weight, I sent him recipes, bought him a fitbit and cheered him on. When my husband was down and battling weight issues, I bought healthy food, a punching bag, new shoes, a fitbit and so on. I put my time and energy into other people and felt like I failed them when they stumbled. I put their success on me. Today it hit me that their journey is their journey. I can be supportive and if asked, offer help. However it's not my responsibility to save them.
This thinking led to the next obvious conclusion, it is my job to save myself first. Instead of looking for answers or expected reciprocated support in others, I have to do this for me. I need to put the time and energy I'm putting into others into myself. Because just like the flight attendant says "Put your mask on first so that you can help others".
I'm not sure why this is so difficult or why I throw so much of myself into others but I need to focus on me. It's my job to be there for them when they need me. Encourage them. Not save them. Not pour all my energy into them. It is my job to save myself so that I can be a role model for them. So that I can be my best self and be there when they do need me.
Wednesday, December 18, 2013
Each winter the cold temperatures and snow tend to drive me close to hibernation. The older I get I find that I like a little snow on Christmas and then I'm ready for Spring. However, here in Ohio Spring doesn't come until April or so.
So until then I'm going to focus on the following goals to see me through the cold months:
1. Drink 8 glasses of water per day. This is tough as I like to drink hot coffee and tea to warm myself up.
2 . More gym time. It's too easy to sit cuddled up, under a blanket this time of the year.
3. Better stress handling. #2 will greatly help.
4. Me time. This will help with the stress too. I'm planning to start a year long daily devotional January 1st. I'm looking forward to this time of meditation.
I know these goals seem basic and are things I shouldn't have to reinforce but winter is tough for me. I think I would have been a good bear with my hibernation instinct.
Thursday, December 12, 2013
Dear Spark Recipes,
Each morning I log into my email and am greeted with a message from you. Typically these messages have yummy ideas for salads, chicken or healthy makeovers. However the majority of the recipes I've been greeted with this month are cookies.
The first few were lower calorie makeover cookies and I thought "Thanks for the alternatives.". But here we are a few days later and today's recipe for the 911 Emergency Cookie is well....too much! You are starting to rival the Food Network's 12 Cookies of Christmas. And I don't think that is a good thing.
If you would, please consider featuring other winter recipes such as soups, stews, crock pot meals and the like through the holiday season. As it is now, I'm starting each day with an insane craving for cookies that seems to be triggered by these emails. And with cookies, candy and treats being at every desk, party and function, I could use a little less temptation.
Thanks so much for listening. I truly appreciate the recipes and tips I've learned from you over the years. But please, back off the cookies!
Monday, December 09, 2013
It takes a tremendous amount of courage to fight every bad habit, every piece of chocolate, every moment where you forget that you are worth it and do love yourself. Some days I fight like a champ and come out on top. Some days I take a blow that I didn't see coming and find myself in that old, comfortable place of self-soothing.
The past few months have been hard ones. There have been family health problems, work issues and mourning. I have struggled. Sometimes I have won and other times I have not. Sometimes I have felt sorry for myself. Sometimes I have felt thankful and blessed. The one thing I have not felt is the urge to give up.
The truth is, quitting hasn't even crossed my mind. I have had more moments than I care to count where I've said "You can do this. You'll do better next time." And even a few where I've said "Think, Stephanie! You know what to do. So, do it."
I'm thankful for my quiet, courageous voice that always tells me to try again. That I'm worth it. That I can and will do this. It takes a lot of courage to try. Sometimes it takes even more courage to try again.
Tuesday, September 17, 2013
I've heard of beauty sleep but never weight loss sleep. Imagine my surprise when I stepped on the scale and saw 151.9! I haven't seen that number since high school!!
Okay, okay. I know it's not really possible to lose over 100 pounds in a single night. My scale somehow got switched from pounds to kilograms.
Oh well, it was a fun way to start the day.
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