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Christmas with my Mom

Tuesday, December 27, 2011

On Christmas Day morning I went to visit my Mom in her special care home. When I got there she had just finished having her breakfast. The staff took her to the living room and she settled into a nice comfy chair by her favourite picture window. She was able to use her walker. Some days she has to be in a wheel chair.

I gave her a black and white plushy panda bear which she absolutely loved. Not only does she have dementia, she also has macular degeneration in her eyes and can't see except peripherally. We played with the bear (she loves bears) and it made her laugh (which made me laugh).

At noon, we had Christmas dinner in the kitchen. All 10 residents, the 3 staff and 2 guests (including me) enjoyed it very much. One of the resident's sons brought in the entire, catered dinner from our largest hotel. God Bless him, he does so much for all the residents there. He owns several businesses and is very well-to-do.

The dinner was awesome. We had turkey and dressing, mashed potatoes and gravy, all sorts of veggies and for desert we had chocolate cheesecake. I must have put on all the weight I lost this fall - haha.

After dinner we went back to the living room and had a nice visit. I stayed for about another hour. The staff and the residents were going to sing Christmas songs later in the afternoon.

It took awhile when I first saw Mom that day for her to grasp who I was but all in all the day turned out wonderfully well. I feel so blessed that I was able to spend yet another Christmas with my Mom.

As I always say, please always take the time to hug your loved ones. It is the best thing you can ever do.

God Bless you all and have a Happy New Year!

Bob.

  
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SPARKLEIIGHGAL 1/7/2012 10:04AM

    That's wonderful that you had such a good Christmas with your Mum. (I still miss my Mum terribly). What a wonderful home she is in and such a kind,generous man. Glad you dined well.
My Mum loved cuddly animals too. Her favourite were deer, she loved Bambi and Thumper which I bought in Florida for her. I also got a big polar bear for her. Every good wish to her and you for the year ahead. God Bless.

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STEVENGO2 12/28/2011 12:52AM

    Bob,
I am happy for you that you and your Mom could spend Christmas day together. Like your Mom, my Mom received a stuffed animal for Christmas that Mom was very happy with. I am glad that your Mom was able to use the walker today. Seeing her strong enough to use the walker was a gift in itself to you. I am glad you could enjoy Christmas dinner with your Mom. I am sure you will get rid of any pounds you gained, quickly. It was nice that someone cared enough for all of you to have an excellent Christmas dinner. Best wishes for you and your Mom that you receive the gift of more Christmas days together.

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MORTICIAADDAMS 12/27/2011 7:03PM

    Loved your blog. It is what Christmas is all about. I'm so glad you got to spend some quality time with your mother. And bless the man who provided such a nice meal. He knows how to make the most of the blessings he has had bestowed upon him.

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SPEEDY143 12/27/2011 6:03PM

    Another Christmas together... they really are special aren't they emoticon emoticonI'm so glad see loves her bear and you two shared some laughter emoticon

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NATPLUMMER 12/27/2011 1:34PM

    Sounds like a great day.
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DIDMIS 12/27/2011 11:45AM

    Bob what a wonderful thing. You could spend time with your mom and make her happy as well as you were happy also.
My husband had dementia and I know what it is like. I'm so sorry for those who have to go through it. People say they don't know but my husband did and was very unhappy. When he did go home to be with the Lord I was happy for him. Of course I missed him but would never call him back again.
God bless you Bob. You are a good son and one meal won't make you gain back the 40 pounds. Take care of yourself. I gained a lot of weight when my husband was in the n/h as I didn't take care of me as I was still taking care of him as much as I could.
Sorry this is so long.
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GRACEISENUF 12/27/2011 10:49AM

    Bob it sounds like such a wonderful time and I am so happy for you that you got to share it with your Mom. The dinner does sound fantastic and I am so glad she liked the panda bear. Nothing can compete with a smile from a loved one when they receive the gift you've selected for them.

God bless you too Bob and I hope you are blessed beyond measure in 2012!

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1CRAZYDOG 12/27/2011 10:17AM

  Awwwww, so very glad that you had such a wonderful Christmas with your Mom. You know, it's so very hard to see our parents get to a point where they cannot take care of themselves. But it sounds like your Mom is in a good place and happy.

Wishing you a happy, blessed, healthy, SPARKING New Year.

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My early Christmas present with Mom

Sunday, December 18, 2011

Sometimes I think God must be looking down on me and smiling. Yesterday I think he said, "I am going to give Bob a wonderful Christmas gift even though it is a wee bit early."

My Mom, who will be 95 next month, is in a special care home for dementia patients. She loves it there. There are only 10 residents in the home and 3 full-time staff to look after them. There are always home cooked meals and they have a wonderful time. God bless the staff as they are so good. Mom has been there now for four years.

This past year has been tough. Her dementia has really taken hold and she has become allergic to all antibiotics. If she gets an infection all they can do is make her as comfortable as possible and hope that her body fights it. That is no small feat as she is getting more frail all the time. When I visit now it takes her awhile to remember who I am, if she does at all. Sometimes I give her a kiss and a hug and leave, saddened and depressed, but I feel good knowing that maybe in some way I helped her a bit.

I used to just go out to her place and popped in unannounced. Now I call first to see how she is. I called yesterday morning around 11 am and she was just getting up, so I thought that I would make a little visit in the afternoon. To my amazement she was sitting in the living room and enjoying looking out the big picture window. She knew me right away, she even laughed and smiled. I spent a long time there and we all had hot chocolate and cookies.

It was a dreary day when I left my house but as Mom and I were sitting in the living room and looking out the picture window the sun came out from behind the clouds and the rays entered the room.

I think it was God saying to me, "Have a wonderful visit. I made this day especially for you and your Mom."

God Bless you, all my Spark friends, and please, please hug someone you love each and every day. You never know what the future holds.

  
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BARB5970 12/25/2011 7:30PM

    I believe we get exactly what we need at the exact time we need it... that's a blessing. Treasure that moment and the memories you created.

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MORTICIAADDAMS 12/24/2011 9:23PM

    What a wonderful day - a real gift!! I hope you have many more with your mom.

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DIDMIS 12/24/2011 10:33AM

    Bob I know what dementia is like. My husband passed away at 83 after suffering various stages of it. I kept him home as long as I could but one day it was getting dangerous and I had to put him in a n/h. Your mom is in a wonderful place.
Where my husband was they did not have enough employees and it seemed most of them didn't really care about the patients.
I am so glad you had that wonderful day with your mom. My mom lived to be 99 1/2 years old. No one is as precious to us as our mother.
God bless you.

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STEVENGO2 12/24/2011 9:32AM

    Bob,
I am happy for you that you received an early Christmas present this year! I hope when you visit Mom on Christmas she is having another 'good' day. May your Christmas day be full of love and happiness.

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1CRAZYDOG 12/20/2011 12:56PM

  Awww . . . what a wonderful gift! Happy holidays to you and best wishes for a wonderful New Year.

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SPARKLEIIGHGAL 12/19/2011 6:56AM

    What a wonderful blessing for you both. It reminds me so much of my Mum after she had her stroke and then the last few times I saw her before she passed away in a care home. She was as happy as she could be and the very last visit we all sat outside in the sunshine and she saw us all and I think knew us which was a blessing.
May you have a wonderful, peaceful Christmas with your loved ones. Happy Christmas and a very Happy New Year to you dear friend. emoticon

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APIRLRAIN888 12/19/2011 1:00AM

    awe

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LARIESHA 12/19/2011 12:36AM

    What a great gift! GOD is good all the time! He knew that you needed a good visit with mom and knew mom needed one with you! This blog just touches me as dementia is a big part of my family. My great great grandmother died of it 2.5 years ago at the age of 101. My grandfather died of it 2 years ago at the age of 80 something. So I know what you when you say you have those saddened and depressed days! Hang in there!

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SPEEDY143 12/18/2011 1:28PM

    What a wonderful gift and how it speaks volumes about what a dear son you are to recognize it as such. May God continue to bless you and your mother every day of your lives. Merry Christmas Bob emoticon

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NATPLUMMER 12/18/2011 1:27PM

    WHat a nice day with your mother. Glad it was such a good one :-)

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PYNETREE 12/18/2011 12:38PM

    Bob...you are Blessed, and your Mom must be so proud..of the child she raised, and what you've become.

It is hard to watch this end of life fading away. So glad the the home she has seems like one of the good ones. That's a blessing too!

Happy Holidays to you and your Mom!

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BUFFYSMOM2 12/18/2011 11:27AM

    I cried when I read this, Bob. My 89 year old mom has dementia too and we're looking for a wonderful place like your mom's. I am grateful for every minute, hour or day she recognizes us because it varies so much. God bless you and your family.
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Changing Our Outlook

Sunday, November 20, 2011

I was listening to a Joyce Meyer conference in which she states how our lives could change for the better with a little adjustment in our attitude.

Here are some interesting things she said:

Should you be grumpy because you had a hard time sleeping, think of the homeless family that has no bed to lie in.

Should you find yourself stuck in traffic, don't despair as there are people in the world for whom driving an automobile is an unheard of privilege.

Should you have a bad day at work, think of the man or woman who has been out of work for three months.

Should you despair over a troublesome relationship, think of the person who has never even known what it is like to love or to be loved.

Should you grieve over the fact that your boss denied your request to work four days a week and have a three day weekend, think of the woman in dire straits working twelve hours a day seven days a week for $10 a week just to feed her family in a third world country.

Should your car break down leaving you a mile away from assistance, think of the paraplegic who would love the opportunity to take that walk.

Should you not get the parking place you wanted and you had to walk a couple of blocks and you complained, it's time for an attitude adjustment.

Should you notice a new gray hair in the mirror, think of the cancer patient in chemotherapy who wishes she even had some hair to examine.

Should you find yourself discouraged because you can't decide what your life's calling is, be thankful as there are those who didn't even live long enough to get the opportunity to think about what their life's calling might be.

Should you find yourself the victim of other people's bitterness, ignorance, smallness or insecurities remember things could be worse - you could be that person.

Here is an interesting question:

Is your problem really your problem or is it your attitude toward your problem that's your problem?

There are people in the world who have the exact same problem that you do but yet they are a lot happier than you are and there are people who have a much worse problem than you do and yet they are a lot happier than you are. It's not about the problem. It's about the way they decide to look at their problem.

Your attitude affects you and everyone around you, therefore:

Change your outlook and change your life!

Have a wonderful day!






  
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SW33TG33KGIRL 11/29/2011 8:41AM

    I love this blog and it is so true ;)

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STEVENGO2 11/28/2011 10:58PM

    Amen ~ thanks Bob for sharing such a thoughtful blog. We have so much to be grateful for ~ look at the glass half full. I really enjoyed this blog it made me consider my attitude and realize I should be thankful for so many great things in my life!

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1CRAZYDOG 11/21/2011 11:11AM

  Attitude definitely is everything! We cannot control every situation in our lives, but we certainly can control our responses to situations!

I have learned sooooo much from Spark in this area. And it doesn't necessarily have to do with weight loss per se, but definitely our lifestyle, and that DOES affect our weight and health!

Free will is something God granted us and it is up to us to use it wisely.

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FVHORVATH 11/21/2011 11:07AM

    What a great way to think of things. This is one I will have to remember.

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APIRLRAIN888 11/20/2011 10:44PM

    awesome... sometime my problem aint even mine!!!!!!! and i feel i worry more then the owner of problem ;p
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CATHOLICCORGI 11/20/2011 10:24PM

    As always, Joyce tells it like it is!
Thanks so much for sharing... I needed to hear this word from the Lord today!
Peace be with you!
May your Thanksgiving be filled with joy!

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NATPLUMMER 11/20/2011 8:28PM

    Awesome!!

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SPEEDY143 11/20/2011 6:33PM

    Amen to that Bob emoticonThanks for the reminder emoticon

I pray your Thanksgiving holiday is as positive as YOU are... somehow I believe it will be emoticon

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LARIESHA 11/20/2011 3:33PM

    Love this! Thanks for sharing!

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MORTICIAADDAMS 11/20/2011 3:31PM

    There is definitely someone who has it worse.

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GRACEISENUF 11/20/2011 2:44PM

    Great advice!

"An attitude of gratitude changes EVERYTHING".

When we are praising and thanking God for our blessings we CANNOT grumble at the same time. (me) :)

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Cholesterol experiment turned out great

Friday, May 27, 2011



Hi friends,

I just thought I would share this with you all.

My doctor and I have been watching my cholesterol over the past several years. I am what they call "pre-diabetic" if there is any such thing. So, he wants my cholesterol numbers to be lower that what they were creeping up to.

Since diet and exercise alone weren't working on getting the cholesterol numbers down, he placed me on a low dose of Crestor. Well, unfortunately I was one of the people that had the muscle weakness from it so we had to stop it.

However, it creeped up again at my last visit and so we decided to try an experiment. We decided to take just 1/4 of the lowest dose Crestor pill (a 5 mg pill) and we would start taking 1/4 pill every second day for awhile, then every day. Then if my body accepted that we would go 1/2 pill every second day mixed in with the 1/4 pills alternating, etc, etc. We would stop when my body reacted to it, if it ever did. We both wanted to see what this would do as, if successful, he would use this regimen with other patients.

So, I had been doing this for about 6 weeks and had increased to the 1/4 of a 5 mg Crestor every day. I took nothing else... no fish oil etc (which I plan to do as well).

I got the results of my first blood test under this experiment yesterday. These will show you that the biggest benefit to a statin drug is in the initial dosage. Increased dosages help very little, lowering the levels by just a fraction. My doctor was overwhelmed with the results as was I.

Total cholesterol 3.89 (150); previously Jan/11 5.65 (218)
Triglycerides 1.16 (103); previously Jan/11 1.36 (120)
HDL cholesterol 0.85 (33); previously Jan/11 0.88 (34) ** exercise needed **
LDL cholesterol 2.51 (97); previously Jan/11 4.15 (160)
Chol/HDL Ratio 4.6; previously Jan/11 6.4

He said to just continue with the 1/4 of a pill and we'll recheck in a month as that may be all I need. And I have no side effects at all from this low dosage.

I guess a point to consider is: perhaps when going on a statin start low. It may be all you need. And this was done with just 1/4 of a 5 mg Crestor pill. A normal starting dosage that most doctors give for Crestor is 10 mg every day! I am taking 1 1/4 mg every day!

Also, my blood sugar was good. My A1C actually dropped from 7.0 to 6.7.

Take care all and I hope you found this useful. I am extremely happy but I have to exercise more to get that HDL up as no pill helps that. Take care!

"The body is like a piano, and happiness is like music. It is needful to have the instrument in good order." - Henry Ward Beecher


  
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MORTICIAADDAMS 6/23/2011 1:33PM

    Sounds like this worked great for you.

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WISEWIFE 6/14/2011 10:09AM

    I manage mine by eating low carb. Hope the statin doesn't do more harm than good, it literally put my sister in a wheelchair.
Hugs,
WW

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SPARKLEIIGHGAL 6/10/2011 2:41PM

    Congrats on the good news. I love the quote. Can I pinch it please?! emoticon

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STEVENGO2 6/10/2011 11:26AM

    emoticon On having a caring Doctor to work out what worked best with you. Good Doctors are awesome!

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NINJA_SMOO 5/27/2011 10:58AM

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    Great news! Hope it continues well for you!
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A tribute to our Willowwinds (Susan)

Friday, May 20, 2011



I learned today with much sadness that our wonderful Spark People friend, Willowwinds has passed on to be with our Lord.

I can't stop the tears from flowing. I realize that I only know Susan (her real name) from Spark People, but she had become a source of such daily uplifting to me and to others. I will so sadly miss her daily blogs, her little jokes, her beautiful poems, her Christmas pages.

Through all of Susan's financial troubles and her many health issues, she never complained. She was always there to comfort us and to enlighten us with her wit and wisdom.

I feel so sad for her husband Russ. Russ was always so kind to Susan. And Susan loved Russ so much. Her fur babies will miss their Mommy so very much.

Russ, to you, please know that Willow was a light here on Spark People. She will be missed by so many. God Bless and keep you through this sad time.

I would like to quote one thing Susan said in her last blog:

"The Secret is this: "I have learned there is little I can do in my life that will make me truly happy. I must depend on God to make me happy and meet my needs. When a need arises in my life, I have to trust God to supply according to HIS riches. I have learned most of the time I don't need half of what I think I do. HE has never let me down." Since I learned that Secret I am happy."

This was Susan. All she wanted some days was some fresh fruit that at times they couldn't afford to get or some extra heat for their home. God Bless you, my dear, dear friend. A spark has gone from me and Spark People today.

God Bless you Susan!

"No eye has seen, no ear has heard, and no mind has imagined what God has prepared for those who love him." 1 Corinthians 2:9b

For those wishing to send a card, her address is:

Susan Distler 3906 Nichol Street Newportville, PA 19056

You may leave a memorial comment on her Spark People page here:

www.sparkpeople.com/mypage.asp?ID=WI
LLOWWINDS

  
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MORTICIAADDAMS 6/23/2011 1:31PM

    I am so sorry for this loss. She sounded truly wonderful and I'm sure she will not be forgotten.

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SUSANISTHIN34 5/21/2011 11:02PM

    I am so saddened by the loss of Willowwinds. She truely inspired and touched all of us who knew her here at Spark. Thank you for this touching tribute to her.

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KJWILSON211 5/21/2011 10:43AM

    Beautifully said, Willow was a uplifting spirit here on earth that will be sorely missed by all. God grant her family and friends comfort and peace. emoticon

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WALNUT5612 5/21/2011 9:23AM

    She will be missed!!

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DAWNWATERWOMAN 5/21/2011 12:42AM

    Beautiful tribute to a beautiful sweet spirit. Susan will be missed! Thanks for this thoughtful blog. emoticon emoticon

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JAMER123 5/20/2011 11:16PM

    I am sorry to hear this news. Thanks you so much for sharing. I am sure Susan is "Dancing with Jesus" now and her pain is no longer with her. My thoughts and prayers to you and her family. God Bless you all. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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REDSHOES2011 5/20/2011 9:35PM

    Sorry to hear she passed, she is no longer hurting.. Like all our other wonderful people is sleeping until God returns..
xx
Red

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VAMANOS 5/20/2011 9:08PM

    Bob, thank you for taking the time to send me a private message. You were right, I hadn't yet heard. I couldn't possibly add any more to what you have so beautifully written, so I'll be directing my friends here to read your post.

Rest in peace, dear Susan, our Willowwinds.

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THISYEARSMODEL 5/20/2011 7:50PM

    Beautifully said, FLYER99. emoticon

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KAMAPERRY 5/20/2011 7:24PM

    I am totally in shock, God bless her family.

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SPEEDY143 5/20/2011 7:19PM

    Beautiful tribute Bob, Willow Sparked us all. What a beautiful soul, I will miss her and pray that her DH finds comfort in knowing that they will be reunited. My deepest sympathies in your loss of a dear friend emoticon

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GRACEISENUF 5/20/2011 6:11PM

    What a beautiful tribute to our sweet Susan. I love the pic she posted of the little girl in the arms of Jesus on her page before she left for the hospital. I am believing that is where she is for all of eternity.

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