Wednesday, January 18, 2012
I guess the fiasco over the Share Bar, which has now been pulled by SP, had major consequences in that many members have now decided to make their profiles private. In a sense, it is good that people are more aware of privacy issues perhaps now more than ever. But it does pose a dilemma for me.
When I go on my Friend Feed or huddle in my groups every day, I see blogs that I would love to read or respond to. However, now many of these are private. There is an issue when people blog asking for help or suggestions and their profile is private. I also am a member of groups that message their members every day regarding other member birthdays. I used to send goodies or birthday wishes. Now I don't even bother as most of the profiles are private.
I guess I feel frustrated with the technical ineptness of Spark People and why they cannot bring in more privacy options instead of forcing members to go private. How about a feature where member information can only be viewed by other Spark People members or "friends of friends", somewhat like what Facebook does?
It used to be enjoyable to read the blogs of others and to send well wishes and goodies but, to me, it is now frustrating to see so many private profiles. And I will not add a member as a friend in the hope that they add me back just to read a blog or send a goodie.
I've vented enough I guess. But what a world we have come to when a nice, humble, community like Spark People has become such an issue of concern with so many. But, I guess that's the world we live in today and I have to get used to it.
Cheers my friends!
Tuesday, December 27, 2011
On Christmas Day morning I went to visit my Mom in her special care home. When I got there she had just finished having her breakfast. The staff took her to the living room and she settled into a nice comfy chair by her favourite picture window. She was able to use her walker. Some days she has to be in a wheel chair.
I gave her a black and white plushy panda bear which she absolutely loved. Not only does she have dementia, she also has macular degeneration in her eyes and can't see except peripherally. We played with the bear (she loves bears) and it made her laugh (which made me laugh).
At noon, we had Christmas dinner in the kitchen. All 10 residents, the 3 staff and 2 guests (including me) enjoyed it very much. One of the resident's sons brought in the entire, catered dinner from our largest hotel. God Bless him, he does so much for all the residents there. He owns several businesses and is very well-to-do.
The dinner was awesome. We had turkey and dressing, mashed potatoes and gravy, all sorts of veggies and for desert we had chocolate cheesecake. I must have put on all the weight I lost this fall - haha.
After dinner we went back to the living room and had a nice visit. I stayed for about another hour. The staff and the residents were going to sing Christmas songs later in the afternoon.
It took awhile when I first saw Mom that day for her to grasp who I was but all in all the day turned out wonderfully well. I feel so blessed that I was able to spend yet another Christmas with my Mom.
As I always say, please always take the time to hug your loved ones. It is the best thing you can ever do.
God Bless you all and have a Happy New Year!
Sunday, December 18, 2011
Sometimes I think God must be looking down on me and smiling. Yesterday I think he said, "I am going to give Bob a wonderful Christmas gift even though it is a wee bit early."
My Mom, who will be 95 next month, is in a special care home for dementia patients. She loves it there. There are only 10 residents in the home and 3 full-time staff to look after them. There are always home cooked meals and they have a wonderful time. God bless the staff as they are so good. Mom has been there now for four years.
This past year has been tough. Her dementia has really taken hold and she has become allergic to all antibiotics. If she gets an infection all they can do is make her as comfortable as possible and hope that her body fights it. That is no small feat as she is getting more frail all the time. When I visit now it takes her awhile to remember who I am, if she does at all. Sometimes I give her a kiss and a hug and leave, saddened and depressed, but I feel good knowing that maybe in some way I helped her a bit.
I used to just go out to her place and popped in unannounced. Now I call first to see how she is. I called yesterday morning around 11 am and she was just getting up, so I thought that I would make a little visit in the afternoon. To my amazement she was sitting in the living room and enjoying looking out the big picture window. She knew me right away, she even laughed and smiled. I spent a long time there and we all had hot chocolate and cookies.
It was a dreary day when I left my house but as Mom and I were sitting in the living room and looking out the picture window the sun came out from behind the clouds and the rays entered the room.
I think it was God saying to me, "Have a wonderful visit. I made this day especially for you and your Mom."
God Bless you, all my Spark friends, and please, please hug someone you love each and every day. You never know what the future holds.
Sunday, November 20, 2011
I was listening to a Joyce Meyer conference in which she states how our lives could change for the better with a little adjustment in our attitude.
Here are some interesting things she said:
Should you be grumpy because you had a hard time sleeping, think of the homeless family that has no bed to lie in.
Should you find yourself stuck in traffic, don't despair as there are people in the world for whom driving an automobile is an unheard of privilege.
Should you have a bad day at work, think of the man or woman who has been out of work for three months.
Should you despair over a troublesome relationship, think of the person who has never even known what it is like to love or to be loved.
Should you grieve over the fact that your boss denied your request to work four days a week and have a three day weekend, think of the woman in dire straits working twelve hours a day seven days a week for $10 a week just to feed her family in a third world country.
Should your car break down leaving you a mile away from assistance, think of the paraplegic who would love the opportunity to take that walk.
Should you not get the parking place you wanted and you had to walk a couple of blocks and you complained, it's time for an attitude adjustment.
Should you notice a new gray hair in the mirror, think of the cancer patient in chemotherapy who wishes she even had some hair to examine.
Should you find yourself discouraged because you can't decide what your life's calling is, be thankful as there are those who didn't even live long enough to get the opportunity to think about what their life's calling might be.
Should you find yourself the victim of other people's bitterness, ignorance, smallness or insecurities remember things could be worse - you could be that person.
Here is an interesting question:
Is your problem really your problem or is it your attitude toward your problem that's your problem?
There are people in the world who have the exact same problem that you do but yet they are a lot happier than you are and there are people who have a much worse problem than you do and yet they are a lot happier than you are. It's not about the problem. It's about the way they decide to look at their problem.
Your attitude affects you and everyone around you, therefore:
Change your outlook and change your life!
Have a wonderful day!
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