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So many private pages now.

Wednesday, January 18, 2012

I guess the fiasco over the Share Bar, which has now been pulled by SP, had major consequences in that many members have now decided to make their profiles private. In a sense, it is good that people are more aware of privacy issues perhaps now more than ever. But it does pose a dilemma for me.

When I go on my Friend Feed or huddle in my groups every day, I see blogs that I would love to read or respond to. However, now many of these are private. There is an issue when people blog asking for help or suggestions and their profile is private. I also am a member of groups that message their members every day regarding other member birthdays. I used to send goodies or birthday wishes. Now I don't even bother as most of the profiles are private.

I guess I feel frustrated with the technical ineptness of Spark People and why they cannot bring in more privacy options instead of forcing members to go private. How about a feature where member information can only be viewed by other Spark People members or "friends of friends", somewhat like what Facebook does?

It used to be enjoyable to read the blogs of others and to send well wishes and goodies but, to me, it is now frustrating to see so many private profiles. And I will not add a member as a friend in the hope that they add me back just to read a blog or send a goodie.

I've vented enough I guess. But what a world we have come to when a nice, humble, community like Spark People has become such an issue of concern with so many. But, I guess that's the world we live in today and I have to get used to it.

Cheers my friends!


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KARAMAC2012 1/27/2012 12:05PM

    This is all so sad - as someone new to SP, I'm mainly adding new friends based on their pages, and if I can't see the page I don't get enough information to add them! emoticon
I completely understand anyone not wanting to share personal information with the world in general, though.

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SLIMMERJESSE 1/24/2012 12:01PM

    Yes, I've also noticed the numerous private pages when I go to read a blog. I wondered why this was happening.

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GOOZLEBEAR 1/18/2012 9:35PM

    I agree too, I guess I'm to trusting with people, I don't tend to think about someone seeing what I do or say and violating my Spark page or FB page. I know in this age of technology I should be more careful. I'm rarely on FB unless I get a message that someone has left a comment on my page. I spend most of my time here on Spark.

emoticonand thanks for venting!

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UNSTOPPABLE_ 1/18/2012 5:46PM

    Ditto! I totally agree

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SLEEPYDEAN 1/18/2012 4:58PM

    Very well put.

The whole share thing just happened to coincide with some personal/relationship issues I'm dealing with that prompted me to put my page on private. I love getting feedback and support from Sparkers other than my "friends", but I can't risk my potential safety because of my blogs being found so easily with a Google search of my Spark name. So for a while, mine will have to stay private.

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YICHE12 1/18/2012 4:53PM

    I had put my Spark Page on private, but decided to not do that because I do lead teams and people do need to contact me, so my Spark Page is now open again. I will just be careful NOT to put any private information in them. Hugs.

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LAURIE5658 1/18/2012 4:23PM

    Ditto! I totally agree with you.


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    I've had the same problem. I went to several people's pages that I used to read their blogs and I'm blocked. Oh well, it's their decision.

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NATPLUMMER 1/18/2012 4:14PM

    I'm with you.

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1CRAZYDOG 1/18/2012 4:01PM

    I agree.

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TWEETYKC00 1/18/2012 3:32PM

    I'm with you. I understand why many people chose to go private, but again, it can be frustrating at times as well. I am glad that the problem feature was removed, but I think it will take time for people to come back for fear of having all of their information thrown into oblivion.

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SPEEDY143 1/18/2012 3:29PM

    I don't have a Facebook account for a number of reasons and was not happy that SP launched the new feature without full disclosure. I immediately went in to my share area and removed it from my page on day one. I'm pleased that SP removed it all together but just like any thing on the internet you must be careful what you share. I agree, there's been a number of times I've wanted to read/comment on a SparkPage and it is set to private.. I shrug and move on. Nothings perfect emoticon


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Inadvertently Sharing Your Blogs?

Saturday, January 14, 2012

I received this email from my friend EMMABE1. Perhaps some others may have recived this as well. I wasn't aware of this feature and maybe some of you aren't either. Some valid points are made in the email. Read it and see what you think. These are simply my friend's opinions of course.

IMPORTANT : Take the SHARE bar off your blogs

This information came to me from another member. Through another blog I just learned of a new feature on SparkPeople that automatically added a "Share Bar" to our blog entries. I do not like this feature.

If you'll notice your own blog now there is a "Share" bar at the top of the blog. That means if someone likes your blog entry they can "share" on their Facebook wall!! Who wants his/her blog about losing weight to show up on someone else's Facebook wall?

To delete this "Share bar" feature from your blog do this:

Go to your SparkPage.
Click to Edit the page.
On the top Un-check "Show share bar on my blog posts".
Save your changes.

This is apparently a new feature of SparkPeople that I was not aware of. I have unchecked this feature as I do not want my blogs shared by others. It's different if I want to share my own blog but .......

Anyway. like EMMABE1 said, you may not want your blogs to appear on a Facebook page without your knowledge. If you don't then just folow the instructions.

I hope all of you are meeting your 2012 goals. I am trying my best, but not having much success. I think this is my stress related to my Mom who is not too good right now. My back is still giving me some problems from last August when a car slammed into me. Ahhh, but we persevere - it's one day at a time!

Have a wonderful day and a wonderful 2012 my friends!


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YAHWEHCHILE 3/11/2012 6:35PM

    WOW!!!!! Thanks a lot, I didn't know this Bob! emoticon

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BABY_GIRL69 1/31/2012 10:19AM

    I know this was posted a while ago but I hope is doing better & your back as well. This is very interesting as I start a fast & only wanted to share with a few people that follow my blog. I did not know that I was exposing myself to being published on FB?! I have a page on there but am rarely on the site. I did it cause everybody said you just gotta get a page. I did & now I don't know half the people I friended. I look back now & figure I friended them because a friend was helping another friend get more friends. HELLO?! Exactly. I do keep in touch with family mostly & look at their lives unfold on their as we don't get to see each other much but this a inactive way to be active in their lives. lol

God bless & I'm going to edit my sparkpage right now!


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STEVENGO2 1/16/2012 12:22AM

So sorry to hear your Mom is not doing well and that is causing you stress. My Mom's ward is under quarantine since the beginning of the month because of a stomach flu going around. My sister, nephew and I have not been able to visit her and celebrate her 78th birthday which was on January 7th. We have to wait until all patients are symptom free for 60 hours before we can visit her. Mom got the flu for a few days.

Hope your Mom improves!


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    I certainly shut that off!!

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LARIESHA 1/14/2012 6:07PM

    Thanks Bob for the info. There is some info I don't want to share on FB. I have changed mine. Thanks again!

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NORASPAT 1/14/2012 1:51PM

    Thanks for that information. I actually had a facebook from England and that was actually a NICE surprise but I had no idea how it got there. Our sons kept telling me I show up on other face book entries .I am happy to have clicked on the blogs Huddle. Thanks a lot Pat in Maine. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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NATPLUMMER 1/14/2012 12:57PM

    Yes, I have heard and have unshared mine. I find it irritating that we weren't warned about his.

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GRACEISENUF 1/14/2012 10:42AM

    I heard the same thing and very quickly unchecked the feature myself. Good for you for writing a blog about it and informing your friends! I do not belong to Facebook and certainly don't want my weight loss history on Facebook.

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I.M.MAGIC 1/14/2012 10:38AM

    I'm not particularly surprised that you'd object to this kind of exposure... on the other hand, look up the words "blog" and "publish"... you may be surprised!

We get so used to sharing our hearts on SP, like a private conversation, and thinking that we're the only ones who read the blogs on this site. If someone likes my blog and wants to share it... it doesn't particularly bother me, since I wrote it to share with my friends here--technically, I guess, I shared it first.

Thing is, you're right that we should be aware of it, and make that choice for ourselves.

Thank you for pointing it out to folks!

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Christmas with my Mom

Tuesday, December 27, 2011

On Christmas Day morning I went to visit my Mom in her special care home. When I got there she had just finished having her breakfast. The staff took her to the living room and she settled into a nice comfy chair by her favourite picture window. She was able to use her walker. Some days she has to be in a wheel chair.

I gave her a black and white plushy panda bear which she absolutely loved. Not only does she have dementia, she also has macular degeneration in her eyes and can't see except peripherally. We played with the bear (she loves bears) and it made her laugh (which made me laugh).

At noon, we had Christmas dinner in the kitchen. All 10 residents, the 3 staff and 2 guests (including me) enjoyed it very much. One of the resident's sons brought in the entire, catered dinner from our largest hotel. God Bless him, he does so much for all the residents there. He owns several businesses and is very well-to-do.

The dinner was awesome. We had turkey and dressing, mashed potatoes and gravy, all sorts of veggies and for desert we had chocolate cheesecake. I must have put on all the weight I lost this fall - haha.

After dinner we went back to the living room and had a nice visit. I stayed for about another hour. The staff and the residents were going to sing Christmas songs later in the afternoon.

It took awhile when I first saw Mom that day for her to grasp who I was but all in all the day turned out wonderfully well. I feel so blessed that I was able to spend yet another Christmas with my Mom.

As I always say, please always take the time to hug your loved ones. It is the best thing you can ever do.

God Bless you all and have a Happy New Year!


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    That's wonderful that you had such a good Christmas with your Mum. (I still miss my Mum terribly). What a wonderful home she is in and such a kind,generous man. Glad you dined well.
My Mum loved cuddly animals too. Her favourite were deer, she loved Bambi and Thumper which I bought in Florida for her. I also got a big polar bear for her. Every good wish to her and you for the year ahead. God Bless.

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STEVENGO2 12/28/2011 12:52AM

I am happy for you that you and your Mom could spend Christmas day together. Like your Mom, my Mom received a stuffed animal for Christmas that Mom was very happy with. I am glad that your Mom was able to use the walker today. Seeing her strong enough to use the walker was a gift in itself to you. I am glad you could enjoy Christmas dinner with your Mom. I am sure you will get rid of any pounds you gained, quickly. It was nice that someone cared enough for all of you to have an excellent Christmas dinner. Best wishes for you and your Mom that you receive the gift of more Christmas days together.

For your Mom many emoticon

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MORTICIAADDAMS 12/27/2011 7:03PM

    Loved your blog. It is what Christmas is all about. I'm so glad you got to spend some quality time with your mother. And bless the man who provided such a nice meal. He knows how to make the most of the blessings he has had bestowed upon him.

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SPEEDY143 12/27/2011 6:03PM

    Another Christmas together... they really are special aren't they emoticon emoticonI'm so glad see loves her bear and you two shared some laughter emoticon

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NATPLUMMER 12/27/2011 1:34PM

    Sounds like a great day.

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DIDMIS 12/27/2011 11:45AM

    Bob what a wonderful thing. You could spend time with your mom and make her happy as well as you were happy also.
My husband had dementia and I know what it is like. I'm so sorry for those who have to go through it. People say they don't know but my husband did and was very unhappy. When he did go home to be with the Lord I was happy for him. Of course I missed him but would never call him back again.
God bless you Bob. You are a good son and one meal won't make you gain back the 40 pounds. Take care of yourself. I gained a lot of weight when my husband was in the n/h as I didn't take care of me as I was still taking care of him as much as I could.
Sorry this is so long.

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GRACEISENUF 12/27/2011 10:49AM

    Bob it sounds like such a wonderful time and I am so happy for you that you got to share it with your Mom. The dinner does sound fantastic and I am so glad she liked the panda bear. Nothing can compete with a smile from a loved one when they receive the gift you've selected for them.

God bless you too Bob and I hope you are blessed beyond measure in 2012!

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1CRAZYDOG 12/27/2011 10:17AM

    Awwwww, so very glad that you had such a wonderful Christmas with your Mom. You know, it's so very hard to see our parents get to a point where they cannot take care of themselves. But it sounds like your Mom is in a good place and happy.

Wishing you a happy, blessed, healthy, SPARKING New Year.

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My early Christmas present with Mom

Sunday, December 18, 2011

Sometimes I think God must be looking down on me and smiling. Yesterday I think he said, "I am going to give Bob a wonderful Christmas gift even though it is a wee bit early."

My Mom, who will be 95 next month, is in a special care home for dementia patients. She loves it there. There are only 10 residents in the home and 3 full-time staff to look after them. There are always home cooked meals and they have a wonderful time. God bless the staff as they are so good. Mom has been there now for four years.

This past year has been tough. Her dementia has really taken hold and she has become allergic to all antibiotics. If she gets an infection all they can do is make her as comfortable as possible and hope that her body fights it. That is no small feat as she is getting more frail all the time. When I visit now it takes her awhile to remember who I am, if she does at all. Sometimes I give her a kiss and a hug and leave, saddened and depressed, but I feel good knowing that maybe in some way I helped her a bit.

I used to just go out to her place and popped in unannounced. Now I call first to see how she is. I called yesterday morning around 11 am and she was just getting up, so I thought that I would make a little visit in the afternoon. To my amazement she was sitting in the living room and enjoying looking out the big picture window. She knew me right away, she even laughed and smiled. I spent a long time there and we all had hot chocolate and cookies.

It was a dreary day when I left my house but as Mom and I were sitting in the living room and looking out the picture window the sun came out from behind the clouds and the rays entered the room.

I think it was God saying to me, "Have a wonderful visit. I made this day especially for you and your Mom."

God Bless you, all my Spark friends, and please, please hug someone you love each and every day. You never know what the future holds.

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BARB5970 12/25/2011 7:30PM

    I believe we get exactly what we need at the exact time we need it... that's a blessing. Treasure that moment and the memories you created.

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MORTICIAADDAMS 12/24/2011 9:23PM

    What a wonderful day - a real gift!! I hope you have many more with your mom.

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DIDMIS 12/24/2011 10:33AM

    Bob I know what dementia is like. My husband passed away at 83 after suffering various stages of it. I kept him home as long as I could but one day it was getting dangerous and I had to put him in a n/h. Your mom is in a wonderful place.
Where my husband was they did not have enough employees and it seemed most of them didn't really care about the patients.
I am so glad you had that wonderful day with your mom. My mom lived to be 99 1/2 years old. No one is as precious to us as our mother.
God bless you.

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STEVENGO2 12/24/2011 9:32AM

I am happy for you that you received an early Christmas present this year! I hope when you visit Mom on Christmas she is having another 'good' day. May your Christmas day be full of love and happiness.

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1CRAZYDOG 12/20/2011 12:56PM

    Awww . . . what a wonderful gift! Happy holidays to you and best wishes for a wonderful New Year.

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SPARKLEIIGHGAL 12/19/2011 6:56AM

    What a wonderful blessing for you both. It reminds me so much of my Mum after she had her stroke and then the last few times I saw her before she passed away in a care home. She was as happy as she could be and the very last visit we all sat outside in the sunshine and she saw us all and I think knew us which was a blessing.
May you have a wonderful, peaceful Christmas with your loved ones. Happy Christmas and a very Happy New Year to you dear friend. emoticon

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LARIESHA 12/19/2011 12:36AM

    What a great gift! GOD is good all the time! He knew that you needed a good visit with mom and knew mom needed one with you! This blog just touches me as dementia is a big part of my family. My great great grandmother died of it 2.5 years ago at the age of 101. My grandfather died of it 2 years ago at the age of 80 something. So I know what you when you say you have those saddened and depressed days! Hang in there!


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SPEEDY143 12/18/2011 1:28PM

    What a wonderful gift and how it speaks volumes about what a dear son you are to recognize it as such. May God continue to bless you and your mother every day of your lives. Merry Christmas Bob emoticon

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NATPLUMMER 12/18/2011 1:27PM

    WHat a nice day with your mother. Glad it was such a good one :-)

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PYNETREE 12/18/2011 12:38PM are Blessed, and your Mom must be so proud..of the child she raised, and what you've become.

It is hard to watch this end of life fading away. So glad the the home she has seems like one of the good ones. That's a blessing too!

Happy Holidays to you and your Mom!

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BUFFYSMOM2 12/18/2011 11:27AM

    I cried when I read this, Bob. My 89 year old mom has dementia too and we're looking for a wonderful place like your mom's. I am grateful for every minute, hour or day she recognizes us because it varies so much. God bless you and your family.
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Changing Our Outlook

Sunday, November 20, 2011

I was listening to a Joyce Meyer conference in which she states how our lives could change for the better with a little adjustment in our attitude.

Here are some interesting things she said:

Should you be grumpy because you had a hard time sleeping, think of the homeless family that has no bed to lie in.

Should you find yourself stuck in traffic, don't despair as there are people in the world for whom driving an automobile is an unheard of privilege.

Should you have a bad day at work, think of the man or woman who has been out of work for three months.

Should you despair over a troublesome relationship, think of the person who has never even known what it is like to love or to be loved.

Should you grieve over the fact that your boss denied your request to work four days a week and have a three day weekend, think of the woman in dire straits working twelve hours a day seven days a week for $10 a week just to feed her family in a third world country.

Should your car break down leaving you a mile away from assistance, think of the paraplegic who would love the opportunity to take that walk.

Should you not get the parking place you wanted and you had to walk a couple of blocks and you complained, it's time for an attitude adjustment.

Should you notice a new gray hair in the mirror, think of the cancer patient in chemotherapy who wishes she even had some hair to examine.

Should you find yourself discouraged because you can't decide what your life's calling is, be thankful as there are those who didn't even live long enough to get the opportunity to think about what their life's calling might be.

Should you find yourself the victim of other people's bitterness, ignorance, smallness or insecurities remember things could be worse - you could be that person.

Here is an interesting question:

Is your problem really your problem or is it your attitude toward your problem that's your problem?

There are people in the world who have the exact same problem that you do but yet they are a lot happier than you are and there are people who have a much worse problem than you do and yet they are a lot happier than you are. It's not about the problem. It's about the way they decide to look at their problem.

Your attitude affects you and everyone around you, therefore:

Change your outlook and change your life!

Have a wonderful day!

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SW33TG33KGIRL 11/29/2011 8:41AM

    I love this blog and it is so true ;)

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STEVENGO2 11/28/2011 10:58PM

    Amen ~ thanks Bob for sharing such a thoughtful blog. We have so much to be grateful for ~ look at the glass half full. I really enjoyed this blog it made me consider my attitude and realize I should be thankful for so many great things in my life!

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1CRAZYDOG 11/21/2011 11:11AM

    Attitude definitely is everything! We cannot control every situation in our lives, but we certainly can control our responses to situations!

I have learned sooooo much from Spark in this area. And it doesn't necessarily have to do with weight loss per se, but definitely our lifestyle, and that DOES affect our weight and health!

Free will is something God granted us and it is up to us to use it wisely.

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FVHORVATH 11/21/2011 11:07AM

    What a great way to think of things. This is one I will have to remember.

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APIRLRAIN888 11/20/2011 10:44PM

    awesome... sometime my problem aint even mine!!!!!!! and i feel i worry more then the owner of problem ;p

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CATHOLICCORGI 11/20/2011 10:24PM

    As always, Joyce tells it like it is!
Thanks so much for sharing... I needed to hear this word from the Lord today!
Peace be with you!
May your Thanksgiving be filled with joy!

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SPEEDY143 11/20/2011 6:33PM

    Amen to that Bob emoticonThanks for the reminder emoticon

I pray your Thanksgiving holiday is as positive as YOU are... somehow I believe it will be emoticon


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LARIESHA 11/20/2011 3:33PM

    Love this! Thanks for sharing!

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MORTICIAADDAMS 11/20/2011 3:31PM

    There is definitely someone who has it worse.

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GRACEISENUF 11/20/2011 2:44PM

    Great advice!

"An attitude of gratitude changes EVERYTHING".

When we are praising and thanking God for our blessings we CANNOT grumble at the same time. (me) :)

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