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Valentine's Day Stress

Monday, February 14, 2011

There was a nationwide poll done recently. The question was, "Is Valentine's Day Fun For You?" The three answers one could choose were:
(1) Yes, it's a day of love and joy
(2) Not that much; it's more of a day of anxiety and stress
(3) Other

The results were:
(1) 29%
(2) 50%
(3) 21%

Valentine's Day is meant to be a day to celebrate and immerse yourself in love. But the fact is that 50% of the people polled found it to be a day of stress and anxiety. I wonder why this is? It's probably not too difficult to figure out. Some reasons:

- Worry about choosing the "right" gift
- Worry about choosing that "special" gesture or comment on this day to your
special someone
- A reminder that you have not found that special someone, that perfect relationship
- A reminder of past relationships gone wrong

It could be any of these or any of a hundred other different reasons. Many people today consider that Valentine's Day and other special days like Christmas, Easter, Thanksgiving Day have lost their real meaning and commercialism has taken over. This is true to a point I guess. I would imagine that we will be seeing Easter eggs on store shelves right after the Valentine's Day candy is taken off.

With all that in mind here are five ways to deal with the stress of Valentine's Day:

(1) Discuss with your significant other how you two want the day to unfold rather than how it's "supposed to be". Make the day unfold just for you two, not for anyone else.

(2) Express yourself the way YOU want to express yourself, not what the Hallmark card says you should do.

(3) Perhaps forgo the expensive, classy restaurant and cook a nice, intimate dinner at home, together.

(4) Forget the commercialism and use the day to reflect and remember what is special for you on this day. Communicate this to your spouse, friend, Mom, Dad.

(5) Breathe deeply and and put everything into perspective. Don't be overwhelmed, it is only one day. Can it really be that bad so as to produce that much anxiety?

Remember when we set our expectations too high, we can often times miss them and then really feel let down, disappointed and unfulfilled. Make this Valentine's Day a simple one. Make it according to what you would like to see happen. Enjoy the little things. It doesn't have to be a big production.

I celebrated Valentine's Day with my Mom in her special care home. It was all fancied up with hearts and flowers and they were serving a special dinner. There were red balloons everywhere. And everyone was so happy. It didn't take much. It doesn't take a lot to make someone feel special. Try the simple way, take the simple path. You may enjoy it!

Happy Valentine's Day my good and special friends!

Oh, and 34 days 'til Spring!

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SEAGLASSQUEEN 2/15/2011 8:23AM

    No stress, just sharing the love. We get cards for each other and include our personal feelings and appreciation. I am lucky that my DH brings me flowers regularly!

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WALKINGDAVE 2/14/2011 9:41PM

    Valentines Day is just another day to me, we constantly show our love to each other in different ways. My dh did buy me roses the day before. but usually we just have a nice supper and watch a movie together. It's a shame when it becomes so commercialized that people can't enjoy a simple night without the angst of buying gifts and cards. There are countless ways to show your love and a simple hug and kiss are two of the best. Enjoy your Valentines Day with your loved ones, I did and we didn't spend a fortune. emoticon

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    Hubby and I spent a simple quiet Valentine's Day at home with our son. i would fall into the number one category.

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KARLYNCANDOIT 2/14/2011 7:59PM

    awww the puppy!! I don't think it is too stressful. Nothing like Christmas. We are just having a low key evening in~ emoticon Happy Valentines day to you~

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APIRLRAIN888 2/14/2011 12:11PM

    lol ;p no stress here have a great v day

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KAMAPERRY 2/14/2011 11:50AM

    Not doing anything but being nice to myself today emoticon

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WILLOWWINDS 2/14/2011 10:56AM

    Good Blog. For me and my DH we just exchange cards. One year I just wrote him a poem.

Any "romantic" gestures my DH always felt were worth more meaning on a day that isn't valentines day because of all the commercial aspect.

Have a lovely day.


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NATPLUMMER 2/14/2011 10:56AM

    Have a great day!! emoticon

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BLESSEDGIGI 2/14/2011 10:54AM

    I love Valentine's Day. I do agree that it is too commercialized. When I was in the store yesterday, they were already putting Easter candy where the Valentine candy was that had sold. I know it is hard on people who have lost loved ones. But I think we have to enjoy life and thank God for the loved ones we still have and for the ones we had and that we will see them again one day. emoticon

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SP Anniversary (missed it by THAT much)!

Wednesday, February 09, 2011

Wow, I got so caught up in all the snow and cold weather we've been having lately that I forgot that yesterday was my 3 year anniversary of when I joined SparkPeople. I can't believe I joined up 3 years ago. Time has gone by so fast.

When you have an anniversary, it gives us an opportunity to reflect on what has happened in our lives and in the lives of others during the last anniversary. I am so happy I discovered Spark People in 2008. I have been on and off the site for various reasons since joining but a few months ago I decided to come back in earnest and I am so happy I did. Besides changing my lifestyle I have met the most wonderful friends here. And I want to give a great big "Thanks" to all of you! I try and read as many of your blogs and updates as I can and apologize if I miss some for one reason or another.

When I joined in 2008 my weight had ballooned to 262 pounds and my doctor wanted to put me on medications for diabetes and for cholesterol. However, I decided to try and control them with lifestyle changes. I am now at 218 pounds and I would like to get down to around 180-185 which would be great for my height and body type. I have noticed as I lose weight, exercise and relax with meditation and positive thoughts every day that my blood sugar has come down, my cholesterol has normalized and I am still medication free in those areas. My lower back has become better as the weight has lifted off that area and I have reduced the visits to my chiropractor. I am determined to lose those last 35 pounds or so.

But I am not rushing it. When I graduated high school I was 209 and so it took many, many, many years to put the weight on (did I forget a "many"?). I guess I can take some time to get it off. Even if it takes me another year or two to do this, I don't mind. As long as I'm making progress I am okay with that. I am determined, I have the motivation and I have the support of my SparkPeople friends. And with God's help, what more can I ask!

I wasn't going to blog today but when I saw the date I just had to put my mythical pen to mythical paper and do some reflection. And I wanted to thank you for being my Spark Buddies and giving me so much motivation. You are the best and we are all in this together!

Oh, and 39 days 'til Spring!

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WALKINGDAVE 2/13/2011 3:34PM

    Happy Sparkversary, I joined about a year and a half ago and have met many wonderful people on Sparks, What would my life have been like -before this...dull, depressed and definitely would have been a lot heavier. I may not be losing fast but I'm not gaining either. emoticon emoticon

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SEAGLASSQUEEN 2/10/2011 3:47PM

    Happy Sparkaversary! Love your determination! emoticon

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APIRLRAIN888 2/10/2011 12:52AM

    woohoo happy sparkversary

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NATPLUMMER 2/9/2011 11:03PM

    Happy Sparkversary!!!
Slow and steady wins the race!!

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TWEETYKC00 2/9/2011 8:23PM

    Happy Sparkversary! it's funny how time flies by.

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FVHORVATH 2/9/2011 8:06PM

    Congratulations on your 3rd Anniversary! I just celebrated mine about 2 weeks ago!

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VAMANOS 2/9/2011 7:03PM

    emoticon emoticon on your 3 year Sparkversary!

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WILLOWWINDS 2/9/2011 6:27PM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

Happy Sparkaversary!


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STARFISH619 2/9/2011 5:57PM

    Happy 3rd anniversary. My 1st anniversary will be May 11th, and I'm looking forward to reflecting on things at that time as well.
You have been making such great progress and what really matters is that you keep moving forward. Great job and keep on keepin' on! :)

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    You are doing great!~ I started in 2008 as well!! Keep up the great work!!

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Toothy update and a more snow

Saturday, February 05, 2011

Hi my friends,

I saw my dentist on Thursday and he did a root canal on my wonky tooth. He got to about 1 mm from the end and there was some irritation there and wanted it to heal so he put in a temporary filling and sealed it and will finish it in about a month. It went really well and I am now pain free for the first time in over a week. YAY! And I don't have to see an endodontist as my dentist is doing the whole thing. Another YAY!

Well, more snow is expected tonight and tomorrow, just as we got over the last Wednesday storm. I think they are forecasting about 10-12 inches or so into tomorrow afternoon. Then another storm is on the way for Tuesday. I posted a couple of pictures of our snow above. The top one is of one of our city bus shelters and the second is of someone shovelling the snow off of his roof. I have quite a bit of snow on my roof but I think I will let the sun melt it.

One thing is sure, Spring is coming. I can feel the heat from the sun now and the days are getting longer. I'm going to watch some of the Super Bowl tomorrow on television. I'm not a fan of either team really, but I guess it's tradition for me.

Now that my toothy saga seems to be done with I can get back on my SparkPeople regime and get back on track. Meanwhile, I'll dream of Springtime! Take care all!

43 Days 'Til Spring!

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    Woohoo! Glad your tooth is better.

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KAMAPERRY 2/6/2011 4:46PM

    Glad you are better, tooth pain is the worst!

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FVHORVATH 2/5/2011 8:07PM

    I am glad you are finally pain free! What a relief for you!

I could swear that I am looking at pictures from around here when I look at your snow. We are having the same thing and more snow on it's way tomorrow thru Tuesday. You have to be geting the same systems as us! Hold on my friend, Spring has to be coming soon!

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VAMANOS 2/5/2011 6:48PM

    So glad your are now pain-free.

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BEFIT014 2/5/2011 5:51PM

    Glad you got that tooth fixed. I had a root canal done several years ago, so I sympathize with you.

Is that you on the roof of your house?! That, my friend, is a LOT of emoticon!

Have a great weekend!

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NATPLUMMER 2/5/2011 5:11PM

    I'm glad your tooth is feeling better. Nothing worse than tooth pain.
It seems like there has been a lot more snow than usual.' emoticon

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APIRLRAIN888 2/5/2011 3:48PM

    wow that is a lot of snow and glad you got your tooth done

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41SUSAN14 2/5/2011 2:52PM

    Huzzah for Pain Free!

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STEVENGO2 2/5/2011 2:39PM

    Glad you are pain free in the mouth now. We have been lucky here in Pittsburgh with the snow this year (so far)! Hey become a Steeler fan for just one day~ok!


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A snowy day and a toothache

Wednesday, February 02, 2011

Happy Groundhog Day everybody! For sure, the critters didn't see their shadows today so I'm expecting them to live up to their promise of an early Spring. Meanwhile, it is certainly not Spring outside today... snow, snow and more snow. I don't know where we are going to put it all. The city streets have banks of snow so high that it is difficult to drive as you have to poke the nose of the car out to see what is coming. I must admit I do not like winter driving.

Well, my tooth has not gotten any better. In fact, it's a bit more achy. So, I called the dental office and my dentist is going to do what is called a pulpotomy on it tomorrow at 1:30 pm. This takes about 45 minutes to an hour and is totally painless. After there will be no more tooth pain as this procedure takes out the nerve of the tooth. He will put in a temporary filling until I get to see the endodontist in 3-4 weeks when he can finish the "root canal". At least half of the root canal will be done tomorrow and the pain will be gone. Yippee! Many dentists don't do complete root canals as that is the specialty of the endodontist. But they do pulpotomies to relieve tooth pain until the patient can see the "endo". I have seen this "endo" before and he is absolutely great. This is a front tooth and has only one root unlike a molar which can have 3-4 or more, so it's a snap to work on.

It is so hard to concentrate with tooth pain and mine seems to go all over my head. I think they call that referred pain. And I haven't been eating or drinking much so my SparkPeople plan has been out the window since last Wednesday when I had the filling replaced in that tooth. I know I have lost weight as my pants feel looser and my belt buckle has moved in a notch. LOL. But, I don't want to lose weight this way. I don't even feel like exercising right now, to be honest.

Anyway, I just thought I would take a few minutes to say HI and to give a quick update. I don't want to ramble on. I'll let you know how everything goes tomorrow. I'm hoping I can get the car out, but if not I guess I can rob a bank vault and call a cab. emoticon

46 Days 'Til Spring

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KAMAPERRY 2/3/2011 2:10PM

    Hope your tooth is better soon!

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WALKINGDAVE 2/3/2011 1:48PM

    I just love the pic of your dog, he's a sweety, and the flowers in your garden are beautiful I'm glad you are getting some relief tomorrow with that tooth. I have an appointment with my dentist next week and can't wait for a good cleaning. I'm also not driving much this winter unless I have to. I have studded tires and all wheel drive but still most people out there are still on all season tires and that makes me even more cautious. I cringe when cars go past us when Dave and I are outside walking, they seem to be going too fast for the road conditions. Hope you feel better soon! emoticon

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VAMANOS 2/3/2011 10:48AM

    Careful on the roads, but glad your pain will be relieved!

We didn't get a lot of snow as we were west of the blizzard, but it has been COLD! Was happy to see a temp above zero when I got up this was 2 above, lol. All the soda in my husbands 'beer and soda' fridge out in the garage froze and exploded. If he thinks I'M cleaning that up, he has another think coming, lol.

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    Love your pictures, hope your pain is over soon.

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NATPLUMMER 2/2/2011 10:39PM

    I have had the displeasure of having to have a couple of root canals, so I totally feel you. Yes, the referred pain can be lots of fun. I felt it all over my head, too.
Not the best way to lose weight, but sometimes it just happens. You'll feel much better after your appointment tomorrow. Hopefully you'll feel like eating something.

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FVHORVATH 2/2/2011 8:00PM

    I can well understand the woos of winter. We got snowed in again today but at least it was not the 40" we got a couple of weeks ago. I don't like driving in winter either. It seems as so many people loss thier brains when driving in it. It's a big pet peeve of mine.

Glad you have that dentist appointment tomorrow and you will be feeling more like yourself again. Toothache pain is one of the worse.

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SEDONACAT 2/2/2011 5:19PM

    Love that picture- Just soaking up the rays.

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A Toothy Update

Tuesday, February 01, 2011

Hi folks!

I had an interesting day yesterday. In my previous blog I mentioned that I had a family doctor appointment at 2 pm and a dental checkup on my tooth at 4 pm. Well, I went to my doctor's office for my 2 pm and at 3:30 pm he was still seeing his morning patients and the waiting room was full. So I had to reschedule and now can't get in until March 9th. I don't understand why he books so many patients.

I did get my tooth checked out after that. I had an x-ray done and there is no infection or inflammation. It is still sensitive to cold but not hot. And it aches at times but not all the time. The dentist said that probably part of the nerve was exposed when he did the filling last Wednesday and that it would take time to recover. But he said I was "in the middle" and that the nerve of the tooth could either recover or not recover. He put on a desensitizing fluoride on the tooth. So, I am to keep watch on it over the next day or two. It's still achy today though, but we'll see.

Meanwhile, I'm having a nice cup of hot chocolate (Lite, haha) as the heat doesn't hurt my toothie. We are expecting a snowstorm later today and then a break and more snow tomorrow. Ahhh, it will be nice to see the spring. The temperature here at noon is about 5F... brrrrr. It seems that this winter we have snow every second or third day.

I guess that's about it for now. I'll keep you updated on "the saga of my tooth".

And, it's February 1st.... emoticon

Enjoy your day, my friends!

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    love the pictures!! I use sensodyne and it helps~~ Hope you find some relief soon~

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KERI_30 2/1/2011 2:48PM

    Ouch! Hope it fixes itself soon for you! I hate toothaches! They are the worse. Stay warm. emoticon

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NATPLUMMER 2/1/2011 11:49AM

    The good thing about the cold weather is that generally you prefer to have hot stuff instead of cold anyway, so less to bother the poor tooth. I do hope the nerve settles down. Root canals aren't fun.

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41SUSAN14 2/1/2011 11:41AM

    I had a filling - and that tooth ACHED for 2 years after. And putting cold on it?? Forget it! Yelping happened.

I used Sensodyne toothpaste (or other "sensitive tooth" toothpaste) - that helped. And after time passed, it got better.

It was just a grumpy and affronted nerve. Very grumpy! It grumbled its way back into passivity, and all is good now.

Hang in there!

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