Monday, February 14, 2011
There was a nationwide poll done recently. The question was, "Is Valentine's Day Fun For You?" The three answers one could choose were:
(1) Yes, it's a day of love and joy
(2) Not that much; it's more of a day of anxiety and stress
The results were:
Valentine's Day is meant to be a day to celebrate and immerse yourself in love. But the fact is that 50% of the people polled found it to be a day of stress and anxiety. I wonder why this is? It's probably not too difficult to figure out. Some reasons:
- Worry about choosing the "right" gift
- Worry about choosing that "special" gesture or comment on this day to your
- A reminder that you have not found that special someone, that perfect relationship
- A reminder of past relationships gone wrong
It could be any of these or any of a hundred other different reasons. Many people today consider that Valentine's Day and other special days like Christmas, Easter, Thanksgiving Day have lost their real meaning and commercialism has taken over. This is true to a point I guess. I would imagine that we will be seeing Easter eggs on store shelves right after the Valentine's Day candy is taken off.
With all that in mind here are five ways to deal with the stress of Valentine's Day:
(1) Discuss with your significant other how you two want the day to unfold rather than how it's "supposed to be". Make the day unfold just for you two, not for anyone else.
(2) Express yourself the way YOU want to express yourself, not what the Hallmark card says you should do.
(3) Perhaps forgo the expensive, classy restaurant and cook a nice, intimate dinner at home, together.
(4) Forget the commercialism and use the day to reflect and remember what is special for you on this day. Communicate this to your spouse, friend, Mom, Dad.
(5) Breathe deeply and and put everything into perspective. Don't be overwhelmed, it is only one day. Can it really be that bad so as to produce that much anxiety?
Remember when we set our expectations too high, we can often times miss them and then really feel let down, disappointed and unfulfilled. Make this Valentine's Day a simple one. Make it according to what you would like to see happen. Enjoy the little things. It doesn't have to be a big production.
I celebrated Valentine's Day with my Mom in her special care home. It was all fancied up with hearts and flowers and they were serving a special dinner. There were red balloons everywhere. And everyone was so happy. It didn't take much. It doesn't take a lot to make someone feel special. Try the simple way, take the simple path. You may enjoy it!
Happy Valentine's Day my good and special friends!
Oh, and 34 days 'til Spring!
Wednesday, February 09, 2011
Wow, I got so caught up in all the snow and cold weather we've been having lately that I forgot that yesterday was my 3 year anniversary of when I joined SparkPeople. I can't believe I joined up 3 years ago. Time has gone by so fast.
When you have an anniversary, it gives us an opportunity to reflect on what has happened in our lives and in the lives of others during the last anniversary. I am so happy I discovered Spark People in 2008. I have been on and off the site for various reasons since joining but a few months ago I decided to come back in earnest and I am so happy I did. Besides changing my lifestyle I have met the most wonderful friends here. And I want to give a great big "Thanks" to all of you! I try and read as many of your blogs and updates as I can and apologize if I miss some for one reason or another.
When I joined in 2008 my weight had ballooned to 262 pounds and my doctor wanted to put me on medications for diabetes and for cholesterol. However, I decided to try and control them with lifestyle changes. I am now at 218 pounds and I would like to get down to around 180-185 which would be great for my height and body type. I have noticed as I lose weight, exercise and relax with meditation and positive thoughts every day that my blood sugar has come down, my cholesterol has normalized and I am still medication free in those areas. My lower back has become better as the weight has lifted off that area and I have reduced the visits to my chiropractor. I am determined to lose those last 35 pounds or so.
But I am not rushing it. When I graduated high school I was 209 and so it took many, many, many years to put the weight on (did I forget a "many"?). I guess I can take some time to get it off. Even if it takes me another year or two to do this, I don't mind. As long as I'm making progress I am okay with that. I am determined, I have the motivation and I have the support of my SparkPeople friends. And with God's help, what more can I ask!
I wasn't going to blog today but when I saw the date I just had to put my mythical pen to mythical paper and do some reflection. And I wanted to thank you for being my Spark Buddies and giving me so much motivation. You are the best and we are all in this together!
Oh, and 39 days 'til Spring!
Wednesday, February 02, 2011
Happy Groundhog Day everybody! For sure, the critters didn't see their shadows today so I'm expecting them to live up to their promise of an early Spring. Meanwhile, it is certainly not Spring outside today... snow, snow and more snow. I don't know where we are going to put it all. The city streets have banks of snow so high that it is difficult to drive as you have to poke the nose of the car out to see what is coming. I must admit I do not like winter driving.
Well, my tooth has not gotten any better. In fact, it's a bit more achy. So, I called the dental office and my dentist is going to do what is called a pulpotomy on it tomorrow at 1:30 pm. This takes about 45 minutes to an hour and is totally painless. After there will be no more tooth pain as this procedure takes out the nerve of the tooth. He will put in a temporary filling until I get to see the endodontist in 3-4 weeks when he can finish the "root canal". At least half of the root canal will be done tomorrow and the pain will be gone. Yippee! Many dentists don't do complete root canals as that is the specialty of the endodontist. But they do pulpotomies to relieve tooth pain until the patient can see the "endo". I have seen this "endo" before and he is absolutely great. This is a front tooth and has only one root unlike a molar which can have 3-4 or more, so it's a snap to work on.
It is so hard to concentrate with tooth pain and mine seems to go all over my head. I think they call that referred pain. And I haven't been eating or drinking much so my SparkPeople plan has been out the window since last Wednesday when I had the filling replaced in that tooth. I know I have lost weight as my pants feel looser and my belt buckle has moved in a notch. LOL. But, I don't want to lose weight this way. I don't even feel like exercising right now, to be honest.
Anyway, I just thought I would take a few minutes to say HI and to give a quick update. I don't want to ramble on. I'll let you know how everything goes tomorrow. I'm hoping I can get the car out, but if not I guess I can rob a bank vault and call a cab.
46 Days 'Til Spring
Tuesday, February 01, 2011
I had an interesting day yesterday. In my previous blog I mentioned that I had a family doctor appointment at 2 pm and a dental checkup on my tooth at 4 pm. Well, I went to my doctor's office for my 2 pm and at 3:30 pm he was still seeing his morning patients and the waiting room was full. So I had to reschedule and now can't get in until March 9th. I don't understand why he books so many patients.
I did get my tooth checked out after that. I had an x-ray done and there is no infection or inflammation. It is still sensitive to cold but not hot. And it aches at times but not all the time. The dentist said that probably part of the nerve was exposed when he did the filling last Wednesday and that it would take time to recover. But he said I was "in the middle" and that the nerve of the tooth could either recover or not recover. He put on a desensitizing fluoride on the tooth. So, I am to keep watch on it over the next day or two. It's still achy today though, but we'll see.
Meanwhile, I'm having a nice cup of hot chocolate (Lite, haha) as the heat doesn't hurt my toothie. We are expecting a snowstorm later today and then a break and more snow tomorrow. Ahhh, it will be nice to see the spring. The temperature here at noon is about 5F... brrrrr. It seems that this winter we have snow every second or third day.
I guess that's about it for now. I'll keep you updated on "the saga of my tooth".
And, it's February 1st....
Enjoy your day, my friends!
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