Tuesday, January 14, 2014
I happened across a fellow sparker's blog describing "mental toughness" coaching, and the free 21-day "fatloser.com" program. I signed up for it, and have been really enjoying it.
In today's video, our mental toughness coach described his own mentor, and how - as he learned to be a public speaker - his mentor was always beside or behind him. Now that his mentor has passed away, he wears a necklace to remind himself that his mentor is with him in spirit, loving him and "wanting him to win".
It made me think about all the people who are in my corner -- all those who want me to win. I know my parents have always felt a little burdened that I struggle with my weight - they want me to live my fullest and happiest life, and my pain is their pain. They are certainly on my side! My sister, too, knows how much I want to be healthy and is cheering me on. My boyfriend has been so strong for me, too - he even joined me in skipping desserts at all of our Christmas parties this year! I have two great groups of friends who want me to succeed - some of whom have struggled with their own weight. And I have a wonderful group of colleagues where I work, and mentors at school, who have told me they believe I can achieve any goals I set for myself (professionally and otherwise!). There is also such a wonderful community here at Spark, filled with people changing our lives together and cheering each other on. And there are perfect strangers across the world who want the best for me - people like Steve Siebold, who offered this mental toughness coaching seminar for free. And even people I can't name, and whose lives have only briefly touched mine or maybe never will - I can imagine that there's a whole world out there who want the best for me. For example, any time I've needed help - whether it's when I've couchsurfed, or just needed directions - the world has always been an amazingly loving place.
So with so many people - and a whole universe - in my corner, how can I tap into this strength and this energy when I need it? Life can be hard, and it's easy to feel alone when I'm struggling. Today I put on a favorite ring that my mom had given me, and designated it the "universe wants me to win" ring! I'm hoping that if I wear it daily, it will remind me of all the people who love me and who are cheering me on in this journey.
Tuesday, December 17, 2013
I haven't posted a blog in a very long time. Even though I've been back Sparking for a while now, I just hadn't felt the urge. But SEPTEMBERSPIRIT posted an incredibly beautiful blog entry on "20 Things to Let Go for the New Year", and it inspired me to put "pen to paper" (or fingers to keyboard, as the case may be) and do a little reflecting.
Here is her list, from Mind Body Green:
1. Let go of all thoughts that don't make you feel empowered and strong.
2. Let go of feeling guilty for doing what you truly want to do.
3. Let go of the fear of the unknown; take one small step and watch the path reveal itself.
4. Let go of regrets; at one point in your life, that “whatever” was exactly what you wanted.
5. Let go of worrying; worrying is like praying for what you don’t want.
6. Let go of blaming anyone for anything; be accountable for your own life. If you don’t like something, you have two choices, accept it or change it.
7. Let go of thinking you are damaged; you matter, and the world needs you just as you are.
8. Let go of thinking your dreams are not important; always follow your heart.
9. Let go of being the “go-to person” for everyone, all the time; stop blowing yourself off and take care of yourself first … because you matter.
10. Let go of thinking everyone else is happier, more successful or better off than you. You are right where you need to be. Your journey is unfolding perfectly for you.
11. Let go of thinking there's a right and wrong way to do things or to see the world. Enjoy the contrast and celebrate the diversity and richness of life.
12. Let go of cheating on your future with your past. It’s time to move on and tell a new story.
13. Let go of thinking you are not where you should be. You are right where you need to be to get to where you want to go, so start asking yourself where you want to go.
14. Let go of anger toward ex lovers and family. We all deserve happiness and love; just because it is over doesn’t mean the love was wrong.
15. Let go of the need to do more and be more; for today, you've done the best you can, and that's enough.
16. Let go of thinking you have to know how to make it happen; we learn the way on the way.
17. Let go of your money woes — make a plan to pay off debt and focus on your abundance.
18. Let go of trying to save or change people. Everyone has her own path, and the best thing you can do is work on yourself and stop focusing on others.
19. Let go of trying to fit in and be accepted by everyone. Your uniqueness is what makes you outstanding.
20. Let go of self-hate. You are not the shape of your body or the number on the scale. Who you are matters, and the world needs you as you are. Celebrate you!
So many of those statements are exactly what I needed to hear. One that really resonated with me is to stop fearing the unknown, to take a step forward and let the path reveal itself.
Sometimes this journey feels like one great big unknown:
At school/work, I'm wading into analyses I've never done, working to complete a dissertation which is by far the biggest undertaking of my life, and making plans to start a new job after graduation.
In my relationship, I'm currently in the longest-term relationship of my life (just over 1 year), and I can't help but wonder if we're the right fit for each-other and what the future holds for us.
On my Sparkjourney, I feel like I'm peeling off protective layers as I shed weight... (Whoops! There go my comfort-carbs and my stress-reducing-treats and my baggiest clothes and my please-don't-look-at-my-body-pounds!) Who will this journey reveal? What will my fit, healthy self look like? What behaviors and patterns will I learn, in order to cope with my emotions rather than eating them?
I think it's time for me to stop fearing the unknown, keep taking steps forward, and let the path reveal itself.
Thursday, October 18, 2012
Looking back over my goals, I've had some successes and some struggles so far this round.
I've been doing really well at keeping carbs under 50%, eating high-volume foods (soups, hot drinks, veggies), and eating lots of protein.
My nutrition still needs work. I can improve by tracking calories every day. I also need to find a way to date without eating out so much! Or to not let those restaurant meals derail my progress.
I'm still streaking! And I've made huge progress on fitness - physical therapy has really helped my hip, and I'm finally able to go walking for exercise again. I'm hoping to be able to start up jogging soon!
I'm proud of myself for prioritizing my health and allowing myself to spend !$$ on physical therapy, properly fitted running shoes, and overpronation-correction insoles (Superfeet Green).
I've also bought a single pair of Balega socks, and a new sports bra (my others are all about 10 years old - yikes!).
This is a struggle. I'm down 3 pounds (from 167 to 164) for the round, which is half of what I had hoped to lose. In order to still hit my goal of reaching 155 by the end of the round, I'd need to lose 1.5lb/week, which I am not confident that I'll be able to do in the midst of keeping up with work and dating. So, I'm going to revise my goal. I want to lose 1lb/week for the rest of the round, reaching 158 by the end of the challenge! That will still be a huge accomplishment - I can't wait to be in the 150s!!
Sunday, September 23, 2012
My all-time favorite food is Cheesecake Factory cheesecake. Thank goodness it's expensive, so I have it very rarely - maybe once or twice a year, for my birthday or a date. The calorie count is painful: the Godiva chocolate cheesecake is 1109 calories, 42g fat, 210mg sodium, 105g carbs. Yikes! Even if I split it with someone, that's 555 calories: 50 minutes on the elliptical, or 2 hours of walking! Not worth it! Or, at least, not worth it more than once a year!
Friday, September 21, 2012
I had my first physical therapy appt today, and guess what I learned?! My left leg is 2cm longer than my right leg! Really?! Nearly 30 years I've spent in this body, and I didn't know this about myself???
So, this has likely been behind a lot of my problems lately - with a longer leg, that hip has to do a lot more work to compensate for the shorter leg, apparently. And if there are muscle imbalances (like the muscles on my right side seem to be weaker), then that can exacerbate the problem. Also, I pronate more on my right side, which is another difficulty that may be making things worse for me. What does all this add up to? An over-worked left hip that is now quite angry with me! (Some of these issues might also explain why my knees are often sore when I run.)
Some things I'll be working on:
1) Get insoles (superfeet green or blue) to help with the pronation issue
2) Get studier running shoes for when I'm taking up walking/jogging again (my current shoes are "too squishy" and not providing me enough support on the right side)
3) Do strengthening exercises for my arches (these are neat, involving a giant rubber tie and twisting my foot against the pull of the tie)
4) Do strengthening exercises for my hips (I learned 2 of them today - the therapist referred to them as a form of "clamshell" and "bridge" exercises)
5) Do stretching exercises for my hips (I also learned 2 of these today)
6) Do the strengthening exercises every day, and the stretches twice a day, and see my physical therapist again next week.
7) No walking or running until she gives me the all-clear (hopefully 2 weeks from now)
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