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Saturday, January 14, 2012

I need to get back to my SoulCollage...I love this one that I made a year or so ago. I was on a very ACTIVE team led by a phenomenal leader and then poof she disappeared. This is the second time that has happened and I always am left wondering how people can go from being SO prolific...to abandoning you entirely.

I have a feeling that the softest hearted, really kindest hearted people jump in full force then just get overwhelmed with all the responsibility they have taken on. I can understand that...but still it leaves me a little lonely...kinda abandoned feeling.

SoulCollage is SO amazing and I really think it helps with lots of inner self reflection. You don't really deal with words...you just thumb through magazines and pick out pictures completely random that APPEAL to you in some form. Then you assemble those pictures according to a template and make up your cards. There is a series of questions that are associated with each card and you can go to the cards at any time for a reading.

The practice was invented by Seena Frost and she has a book on the whole process. The team still has some active links...I think...that will give you lots of insight for the application.

I've been doing lots of self examination lately...maybe it's because I'm sick right now and the nasty cold stops me and makes me slow down enough to gather my thoughts.

I'm wondering why I just won't give up the fight on trying our best to save this house. I mean it is only a structure. It of course is filled with VERY special memories...but you can take your memories anywhere with you.

If we leave the house I won't have the ability to walk into my Josher's room and look around at all of his personal items and envision him sitting at the computer, or rocking out to his music (playing WAYYY too loud of course) but on the practical side this house is HUGE and takes a bunch of energy and money to maintain.

So why can't I just move on? It's a dilemma to be sure and I'm spending lots of time right now reflecting on that little stubborn streak that I have and if it actually is a GOOD thing...or an energy sucking BAD thing!

I'm sure the biggest part of my reluctance is that if we give up and let the bank mow us down then THEY win. THEY always win. It's NOT fair...they are devious robber barons and they have rained down misery on literally THOUSANDS of unsuspecting homeowners that just don't know how to EVEN begin to fight them.

Sometimes they probably do have a justifiable claim against the house, but MOST of the time I bet they don't. They use their corrupt lawyers, to manufacture their bogus paperwork, and they accept modified payments promising for a permanent fix to the monthly payments all the while secretly moving covertly in the background to take the house in spite of the homeowner's good will. Big robber barons bring out the "David" in me of the David & Golith story. I not only want to fight for ME...I want to fight for all the other wronged homeowners in the process. I always think if I can say...HEY..we WON...and here's how we did it...it will give hope and spunk to other people who really need some light at the end of the tunnel.

Soooo lots of introspection is going on this weekend. What makes me tick, and is my clock healthy or not?

My SoulCollage cards always give me an inner peace as I assemble them and that's exactly what I need now. Tomorrow I'll have a little 'me' time and I'm going to pull out my SoulCollage folder and get busy.

If you are interested I think I have the team link on my team page. It's a worthwhile endeavor for looking inward in a world full of outward distractions.

Happy Saturday my sparkers...make this day a special one! emoticon

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SIMPLELIFE4REAL 1/17/2012 5:25PM

    I miss Sue too, but I think you are right about that feeling of getting overwhelmed when trying to do things in such a big way. I think depression and some family issues also played a role in her deciding to spend her energies elsewhere.

I think if she ever decided to come back that she would get in touch with you even if she is using a different user name.

Anyway....I'm glad you are hanging around! I've been a bit of a slacker lately, but I don't plan on disappearing.


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VICIOUS421 1/16/2012 6:14PM

    I think you are right about people getting overwhelmed. You have to do what feels right for you to do about the house. Josh will be with you where ever you go or where ever you live. You are right about what the banks have done to you and so many others; it isn't right and it isn't fair.

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SUNNY332 1/14/2012 5:03PM

    If you have been on my page lately, you probably have noticed I have been praying for a Sparkster named Lucky13. She just disappeared and I too felt abandon wondering why she would just leave and not let anyone know. I did get an e-mail from a good friend of hers letting me know Lucky had been in a horrific motor vehicle accident and had multiple injuries including a closed head injury. I keep praying with hopes that some day, she will recover and come back to Spark. It is very upsetting though.

Hang in there and know I am not leaving unless I let you know.

Hope you have an awesome day at the Gallery.

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SUNNY332 1/14/2012 5:03PM

    If you have been on my page lately, you probably have noticed I have been praying for a Sparkster named Lucky13. She just disappeared and I too felt abandon wondering why she would just leave and not let anyone know. I did get an e-mail from a good friend of hers letting me know Lucky had been in a horrific motor vehicle accident and had multiple injuries including a closed head injury. I keep praying with hopes that some day, she will recover and come back to Spark. It is very upsetting though.

Hang in there and know I am not leaving unless I let you know.

Hope you have an awesome day at the Gallery.

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GOING-STRONG 1/14/2012 12:37PM

    I have been doing a "virtual" collage myself on a website called pinterest. It is like eye candy and I find it very fun and interesting. You can even follow Spark people! If you are interested just let me know and I'll send you an invite (I'll need your e-mail address again .. you can spark mail me). Happy Saturday to you.. Hugs, Rhonda

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MS.ELENI 1/14/2012 12:22PM

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MIZCATHI 1/14/2012 12:03PM

    You think, therefore you are. Or maybe you can add some cynicism to that and think "maybe me thinketh too much..."

You're a fighter and a survivor. That's why you fight. You're a sweet person, that's why you want to remember. You're a thinker, and that's why you strive to make the world around you think.

You're on the right path, I don't know if you could do it any other way but your way.

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FLORIDAGHOST 1/14/2012 11:26AM

    I think you are right about how sometimes, someone will jump in with both feet and take on the responsibilities then get overwhelmed and get out for their own safety. Another thing that people do not realize is that when a leader just vanishes, the team often dies (faster than you would think) and if no one takes the responsibility of leading the team, it basically dies and even a new leader cannot bring it back, even with carisma, as the team memebers become involved in other teams to replace that one they liked. Once they stop interest, they don't seem to come back no matter what happens. I've done it for 3 teams already and it has never worked, When you get one person that is the only one left, you get to a point where you just feel the friendship can last somewhere else so you tell them lets dump the team and move on and you do. At least that is what happened to me.

So don't feel abandoned. The leaders probably left because they felt there was no participation and they couldn't get it going and felt like their energies were just gone.

SparkFlorida just seems to run by itself. I don't really have to do anything and it just keeps going. When I tried to get some things going, nothing ever happened so I stopped killing myself over it. People post to the threads they like and that's it. You can't get them to huddle if they don't want to do that and you can't get them to post to thread B if they like thread A or C better. Why drive yourself nuts trying?

I checked out the team you are talking about several weeks ago. I don't know about readings but I like the idea of making the cards and they seem easy to make. I may try making some one day, but I am so busy right now that I don't have time to make them and getting someone to give me old issues of mags they no longer want is a little tough. Besides, I just got rid of all the ones I didn't want anymore before I heard about the team.

As far as your house is concerned, I understand the feeling. When my dad died, I inherited his SUV. It was old and while the engine was in supior condition, the rest of the thing became a heap. But I kept it running great "for my dad". The guy who always fixed it called it a yard orniment. And eventually that is what it became as I no longer needed it and it felt dangerous driving around in a vehicle about to fall apart and it looked like it to. Know one ever believed there was a racing engine inside it - long story. The mechanic wanted the engine. I sold him the whole thing for more than my dad paid for the engine. But it got to a point where I didn't feel the same about the heap anymore. It became the yard orniment as foretold.

I think you will get to a place where you will be able to she Josh sitting at a computer, or rocking to loud music anywhere. You won't need his stuff in his room any more. But you have to wait until that time comes. I think if you push it, you always have guilt about pushing him away. I don't think you need to worry about it until it gets to a point where you know it's been too long. You will never forget him, FS, he will always be with you.

It isn't an easy road to travel after you lose someone you love. But you have to travel it, like it or not. Eventually, you will crest a high spot in the road and you will look back and see how far you have come and you will know he is standing right there beside you, holding your hand, and listening to that loud music! Then you'll turn around and keep on going, knowing he is going with you. It just get's easier the farther you go.

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Squeezin' in a little lunchtime Sparkin' Fat Burning Mocha Madness! Whoop da!

Wednesday, January 11, 2012

emoticonSmoothies are a GREAT thing!

Quick, easy, and chock full of nutrients! I love em! Maybe for my cold climate Sparkies you can warm this in the micro just so you aren't drinking a freezing drink when you are...oh my...freezing! emoticon

Fat~Burning Mocha Madness

In a blender mix 1/2 c cold water you can add more or less depending on what consistency you like
Add 2 scoops of nutrient rich chocolate flavored protein powder I like Body Fortress super advanced whey isolate it has the least carbs 3 g and sugar 1 g AND it includes BCAA's which help you with lean body mass (branched Chain Amino Acids).

You can pick it up at Wal-Mart which is pretty quick and convenient for everyone and best of all...it won't kill your budget like some of the health food stores do.

There's tons of protein (60 g per 2 scoops) which I need when I'm really concentrating on my RAW diet kick start. AND it keeps me full and satisfied an not eye-balling my hubs juicy hamburger with envy. emoticon emoticon

I know I won't stay on RAW forever...I just like my food to be warmer than the 107 degree threshold RAW endorses. The theory is that all the active enzymes are destroyed when food is hotter than that.

Look at Demi Moore and you get the idea that RAW does work and I truly believe it prolongs youth as your body doesn't have to deal with the oxidation process that heavier foods need during digestion. Eating RAW also doesn't have two digestive acids fighting(one for digesting protein & one for digesting carbs) against each other in your stomach. I honestly believe it is a wonderful way of eating and the energy boost is MUCH appreciated...but again if you like hot food...this is a problem.

Fantastic short term weight loss boost and really almost a detox too...so I do it for the health of it! emoticon

I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE to read and write (as you well know from my book length blogs..hehe) about ALL subjects and especially inner wisdom and inner peace.

When we lost our Josh Man...the EPI~center of our universe my off-balance view of the world and those in it..changed LITERALLY overnight.

I learned in one fell swope that NO one is better than anyone else in this world no matter what circumstances you are living in at this moment. We all are very vulnerable and our accumulated 'stuff' and self importance isn't going to protect us when it's time for the universe to teach us a little harsh reality life lesson.

I always thought I was pretty BIG stuff..we were quite successful in business and I had accumulated lots of fancy smancy rewards telling the world all about it.

But when my Joshua disappeared from my world...I almost did too. Suddenly the stuff I trotted out to impress others no longer impressed me. I learned that we are ALL alike in more ways than we are different and we will be WAYYYY ahead of the game in life if we learn to stop judging each other and start accepting the beauty that we can learn from supporting and sharing with each other.

Take a look at congress and you will see the MOST dysfunctional self important idiots in the world. Then ask yourself WHY...WE who are paying them to display this horrendous behavior let them get away with it. Most importantly do what YOU can to offset their lack of compassion and human caring and spread your own sweet self around to help mend the fences of greed and deceit they have broken. emoticon

Oh boy...there I go again...I need to jump OFF my soapbox and get back to work!

I love Spark...it allows each of us to be US...and as different as we can be..in reality we are all just looking for a little acknowledgement and knowing that our place in the world is for a reason and that reason is IMPORTANT!

Huggers...and onward and upward! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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SIMPLELIFE4REAL 1/12/2012 7:55PM

    Great blog! Since my dad died a few months ago, I've really been rethinking what is important in my life. "What's it's all about?" sort of thinking. I can't even imagine what you went though losing Josh or all the rethinking you have done since. As painful as the losses are, I've got to believe that it makes us better people.

Hubby and I have been having smoothies every morning. Our current favorite is coconut water, spinach, chia seeds, banana, a variety of fruits (fresh or frozen), cabbage and raw nuts in ours. They are amazingly quick to make. Yum.

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SEASONS_CHANGE 1/12/2012 5:47PM

    He's always with you and smiling at all of the wonderful things that you do.

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MPARKER67 1/12/2012 10:03AM

    I hate elections. It seems my choices are always which one do I think won't do as much harm instead of someone I believe will help.

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VICIOUS421 1/12/2012 12:43AM

    Being different is what makes us unique!!! LOL can you imagine a world where everyone was the exact same as everyone else? LOL a frightening thought!!!!!!


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GOING-STRONG 1/11/2012 10:54PM

    I agree with you about those weirdos that are our elected officials. Most of them are the biggest crooks in the World and probably are no better than Bernie Maddoff. Thanks for the tip on the protein powder. I need to get into doing more smoothies myself... particularly after I work out. This might just be the boost I need!


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FLORIDAGHOST 1/11/2012 10:18PM

    GREAT JOB! I APPLAUD YOUR LIFE. I'm going to go to Walmart and get the choclate flavored protein powder. I used to have protein powder years ago when my aunt got on some binge about health food, which is nothing like it is here. First, she was already skinny so her harping about how to eat by eatting protein powder and nearly nothing else except celery and lettuce was such a turnoff that I wanted to scream at her to get some sense. Poor woman had so many problems, I guess her extreme eating system was her only controlable thing in life. But she was selling the stuff too and I had to buy some, so I did, to get her off my back. It sat in my house, 3000 miles from where it started at her house and eventually I figured the years had worn their work on it and it went in the trash.

But this sounds good and I have a greater understanding and a lot of inheirant sense coupled with a gob of education from SP, so I can drink this and not get carried away with it.

By the way, I drank that Super green smoothie, I swapped the parsley (yuk) for basil (yum) and it's like drinking grass, but it's got a good flavor and I don't get hungry or crave anything. I don't usually get cravings and most of the time I don't even get hungry, but lately I have been missing something and once I stop to eat, I can't get past the eating, but this really helps all the way around.

Got enough stuff to make more tomorrow so I'm going to be making more.

Have a great day and thanks for the recipes! emoticon

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DUSTYGIRL25 1/11/2012 7:19PM

    YUM!!! emoticon

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MIZCATHI 1/11/2012 1:35PM

    Amen sister, what you say is completely true. I was in the same boat several years ago and now all I care about is that everyone is well and treats each other with dignity and respect.

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VAMANOS 1/11/2012 1:24PM

    Probably better than the hot chocolate my body demanded on this cold snowy morning. But does it taste as good? We shall see...

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JDFAN448HS 1/11/2012 1:21PM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon Amen Sista! And thanks so much for the protein drink formula. Cheers! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MIRAGE727 1/11/2012 1:13PM

    Thanks for sharing on all fronts. Embrace the day!

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My year to 'shine' baby steps to a better me...join me my darling friends!

Saturday, January 07, 2012

emoticonThis year I'm UP for it! Putting me~self first...well...at least toward the front of the line.

I LOVE this saying and it shall become my mantra. Actually I should probably have it tattooed on the front of my forehead! emoticon

"If our goal in life is to please everyone then we have no life at all~
it is merely a compilation of choices made for us by someone else"~ ~

Are you a pleaser? Do you always say yes when the inner depths of your soul are screaming NO..NO..NO?

This has ALWAYS been a problem for me. Not the saying yes part...well actually YES to the saying yes part...

Case in point. Customer had a pick up on a sofa. I called them at 3 p.m. and told them to PLEASE get there by 5 p.m. when we closed. Oh yes..they would be there.

Later...MUCH later they called...could we please stay open a little longer..they were up in Ft. Myers and wouldn't be there until at least 5:30 p.m. No problem I said..they could just pick it up the next day...noooo wouldn't work for THEM...they were leaving town.

Now I SHOULD have said...well...5:30 p.m. doesn't work for US tonight..but being the pleaser that I am...I told them they HAD to be there by no later than 5:45 p.m. and what the heck had they been doing since the 3 p.m. telephone reminder I gave them to be there by 5 p.m.?? emoticon

Retail business and PEOPLE...it's just a "No good deed goes unpunished" page out of my lesson book to life.

Now how many OTHER stores do you know of that stay open AFTER closing...NONE that I know of...gotta get my "NO" act together this year.

I need to brush up on "it's not my problem...it's YOUR problem" action plan.

We are now into our 'season' hours.. that's 6 days a week from 10-5 instead of Tue-Sat. 10-4...you wouldn't think another day and only an hour later would make a big difference...but when you're no spring chickadee...it surely DOES!

Just like tonight...I have 20 of the dine out group coming over for 'dine in'..it's my turn to hostess and the restaurants are wayyyy too busy to contain a group that large now that it's season. Now don't get me wrong...I LOVE entertaining. That is the ACTUAL entertaining period...NOT the cleaning the house to get ready part, or the prepping 25 pounds of ribs part, NOT the cleaning up the mess part...but I just can't say no...I'm WAY too busy for you retired leisure life people who love my cooking and always show up to smooze and be waited on hand and foot.

Okay that's not really fair...because I let them wait on me hand and foot when they hostess. I used to ALWAYS jump up and grab the dirty dishes and head for the kitchen...but NO more..when I'm a guest now...I'm a GUEST..at least I've done this once in the 20+ years our group has all been together....hehe! emoticon Soooo baby steps right?

I'm aiming to make baby steps AWAY from my people pleasing tendencies this year. It's JUST got to happen. I'm missing the market today to prepare for this big group tonight...that means I'm taking money out of my pocket just to make their evening special. I'm a good friend...but a good resentful friend is not a reason to be a good one in the first place.

Today's calendar:

Spark...I'm NOT giving that one up..that's the only selfish thing I do consistently and I'm darn proud of that little slice of "me" heaven.

Fight those nasty ribs and get them marinading and dry rubbed

Prepare at least one other side dish because invariably one assigned side dish guest...YOU know who you are...doesn't show up and throws the whole menu off. In this case it's the Baked Beans person...and you know you MUST have baked beans with ribs! emoticon

Clean house...ughhhh HATE this...DH keeps telling me to get someone to do this during our heavy working days...but then I'd just have to be here anyhow, so what time does that really save? But...I'm thinking about this rather hard.

Set up all the tables and get those looking pretty. Another BIG job but I love a beautiful table so it's just an important part of entertaining you can't scrimp on..right?

Find somewhere in there to do my 30 minutes on the treadmill. Even if it's just 15 minutes at a time.

Drink my new SUPER BLAST green smoothie as soon as I get done here:

2 c spinach
2 c cucumber
1 head celery
1/2" ginger root or 1 t. powdered
1 bunch parsley
2 apples
juice of 1 lime
juice of 1/2 lemon

Throw all into the blender...makes about 28 oz. 3-4 servings so I'll have some for an afternoon power blast pick up.

Oh...and on a GREAT note...lost 2 pounds...told ya this RAW thing is a GOOD thing. Hope I can hold to it whilst watching everyone snarf down those delish ribs tonight. Did I tell you I LUV ribs?

Hey...I'll do the best I can do...my life is merely a compilation of MY own best choices within any given moment.

If I can do this health and fitness thing..you surely can to...come join me my sweet friends we'll walk down this pathway to health and fitness...the BEST way...and that is...together!

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DS9KIE 1/11/2012 12:20AM

    I like your blog

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TSISQUAUSDI 1/10/2012 12:53PM

    I didn't have a lot of time (or energy!) yesterday to say much to you, but Girlfriend, you have more going on than I could ever imagine! And I applaud you on the "Raw" diet - I just wish I liked raw stuff veggies........ Anyway, you're doing amazing!

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TSISQUAUSDI 1/9/2012 12:12PM

    You go, Girl!!

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MPARKER67 1/9/2012 10:30AM

    Sounds deelish. emoticon

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FLORIDAGHOST 1/9/2012 8:53AM

    Okay, I made the green smoothie but I hate parsley so I swapped in basil instead. A few grams of carbs less and a couple calories less.

I love green, but I hate grass (allergies) and this green stuff didn't have an awful taste, but it made me think of grass. So I added a packet of Splenda to it as it was a little too basil. Also I don't like how thick it is so I add some unsweetened apple juice to make it a little easier to get out of the glass.

I made this yesterday and took 2 servings and today I've got 2 more scheduled (both snacks). I've lost 2 pounds already. I don't know if it has anything to do with the green stuff, but I don't know that I changed anything else, either. Doesn't matter, the green stuff is extremely good for me and any way to lose the weight is better than not losing.

I'm moving forward again and that's what counts.

Thanks for the green stuff recipe and being my friend.


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    I hope you had a great time with your friends. They are fortunate to have you! Your smoothie recipe looks interesting. I'm surprised you are putting all that in a blender instead of a juicer. I've ever thought of putting lettuce in my Vitamix although I put spinach almost every day. Duh! I'll have to think about that one. Hubby and I are thinking of getting a juicer for Valentines Day....we figured it would be good for our hearts! Any juicer recommendations? I'm currently leaning toward an Omega single auger juicer.

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VICIOUS421 1/8/2012 7:43PM

    Baby Steps are what I am doing too!!!!! The most important thing is you are taking steps forward!!!!!!

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TKADEEPBREATH 1/8/2012 12:37PM

    My head is spinning from all the things you attend to. And do it very well I might add. Don't let it get on top you . . . though. I get a feeling you thoroughly enjoy the "ride".

People pleasing, well you could look at it from a different prospective, how about being an "equalizer"? I heard this about a person that just wanted to "make things all right" for other people. Not that they wanted to "please" them necessarily, it's just that they wanted them to feel OK?

Well, you have to ask the question "Is that really my job"? For me, the answer has to be a resounding "NO"!!! I can't control how someone else is going to feel and it will be a futile effort if I try. The only reason I know about this so well is because I had to painfully learn this myself.

Here's a scenario, an elderly Mom is at the end and struggling with illness (my daughter-in-law's for the record). I'm compelled to say something to make it better, so in my ignorance try to comfort by saying "She'll soon be in a better place". WRONG . . . ! I just didn't know any better till it happened to me. Through my own experience I finally learned that at a time like that the only "right" thing to say is "I'm sorry . . . ". It was like a huge light got turned on for me. New revelation you could say. I finally understood. You can't make it better for anyone, they just need support. And that's the best thing you can give.

This is getting long, to be continued. I'm going give you a goodie . . . Muah!!! Toodles, Jan

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HEALTHY4ME 1/8/2012 9:43AM

    Busy lady and I know of no store that stays open cos you are going to be late....
HOpe some of my snowbird friends go to your shop. not sure how much I could bring back being in our trailer lol I have no interest to go south but hubby does, he wanted to do it for 2 years now he is hoping i will do it for a few months lol
me I could sell the trrailer today and be fine, enjoy it parked but thats about it.


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MSLZZY 1/7/2012 9:28PM

    And you think I do too much! You amke me look like I am standing still. People-pleasers, unite! And learn to say no!

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SEASONS_CHANGE 1/7/2012 8:26PM

    I sooo wish I had your energy. I may have to give your smoothie recipe a shot! Hopefully, it tastes better than it sounds, lol...

If your guests don't say it, then I will... "Thanks for all that you do as you are very much appreciated."

2012 is the year for you, and to live the way your heart leads...


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VAMANOS 1/7/2012 4:42PM

    Oh, that sounds so familiar! Real estate agents get it, too. The one who shows a buyer 40 houses, or does an EXTRA open house (that is, any at all) for an overpriced seller....that was me! One of the reasons I got OUT of retail real estate. Yes, it's customer service, but when you look at it objectively, it isn't doing the customer any real good, it's just catering to their uneducated whims. A buyer who can't make a decision after 10 houses isn't ready to buy, and the overpriced seller isn't going to sell no matter how many hours you sit in their house with no one coming in to see it. Well, obviously I spent too many years doing it, because here I am ranting about it 5 years later!

You go, girl! Do this for yourself, and make it your top priority, even over losing weight, this year. You've reached that milestone birthday that I used as an excuse to say, I now deserve the best for ME, and that's who's going to come first from now on. emoticon

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MS.ELENI 1/7/2012 11:41AM

    you are one tough cookie. emoticon

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SUNNY332 1/7/2012 11:25AM

    20 people - yie, yie, yie.

I am with OH2BESKINNY on this. emoticon It wears me out just thinking about it.

I used to be a people pleaser but not so much these days. I do understand the necessity to be flexible when you are in business but sometimes, it is just best to stay firm. If people find out you stayed open for one customer, they will ask for you to do the same for them. I guess I am thinking if they wanted it bad enough, they should get to the store during the store hours.

Hang in there. Enjoy your dinner tonight. emoticon

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MYTURN11 1/7/2012 11:22AM

    I will be right there to help you Bobbi but it will take a bit as I am up here in Delaware. Oops my people pleasing skills are showing.

Seriously 20 people?? There must be something to that SUPER BLAST green smoothie and I am hooking myself up w/ one of those - I copied it to try it.

Love ya and enjoy your get together and I mean truly take the time to enjoy after all of your hard work. Sounds delicious!

Best of luck w/' those baby steps ~ sounds like a great plan!

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MIZCATHI 1/7/2012 11:07AM

    Wow, you are so introspective and your thoughts force me to take a look at my own behavior. Am I a pleaser? I'm getting better at that. Entertaining for 20 is a blessing in disguise. To have so many friends must fill your heart despite the work and it's great that you are starting to draw lines.

Having your own retail business is just so personal, but you have to make that sale. So that's why you stayed late, to make the sale. Maybe you can post a big sign at the delivery sign up station that there will be NO EXCEPTIONS in hours for pick up, and state so verbally at the time of the arrangement. Even it they call.

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GOING-STRONG 1/7/2012 10:30AM

    20 people!!
Definitely worth a sweaty brow emoticon!

Hugs to you and congrats on the 2 pounds!

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FLORIDAGHOST 1/7/2012 9:57AM

    I'm like you - I'll have to do the baby steps on changing from, "Sure, I'll do that for you!" and never expect a thing in return or just figure it in anyway. People are selfish and thoughtless - like customers that expect you to stay open a half-hour longer just for them because they can't change their day in the least. But I can tell you from exprerience, if you would have said no, they can sure put on the pressure to change your mind. It's like they can't compromise in the least and, "because you - Ms Vendor - aren't the only store out there, I'll just go find a store that will make changes for me." I think they have been working the system their entire lives to get people to jump for them and of course they do not jump for anyone.

My DH sells flooring and goes through this all the time. He can't have a day off or even an evening off after working 10.5 hours a day. Sundays are days when the customer is home bored out of their mind and thinking, I'll just call over there and make a change, again, to the plan and they'll do it for me or I'll go somewhere else and they know it."

My contention is, how much work do they put into everything to get it done the way they want it? They seem willing to wait until the hottest-place-know-to-man freezes over to get what they want as long as it is done they way they want it regardless of the price or hassles. I think those people enjoy the hassles and don't understand those of us that just want it done as inexpensively as possible, as fast as possible - just done. So we deal with them. Because, it seems, eventually, you are out of business if you don't.

But the saying yes part and pleasing other people seems like part of my genes. Nobody taught me that, I don't think, it was just part of life trying to please everyone. Now I can look at it and realize that if I don't please them, someone else will and if they can't figure out that I don't have to please them, then we aren't very good friends. I know that sounds a little snide, especialy since I say yes to almost everyone, but you get to a point wher eyou have to decide, can I really do this for my friend? Do I really want to? If I do this, what do I have to not do because I only have so much time in my day to do, and I like you, will not give up Sparking! That pleases me period, end of discussion. Oh! We weren't discussing that!

So good for you, is what I say, and I'm with you. Somehow together we will learn to say only to the things we really, really want to do and not the things that are yes'd because we haven't learned to say, I'm sorry, but I don't have time for that."

I have a girlfriend back in WA (which I love your background because it looks like some WA forest with the wild rhody's that are the state flower) and she always had a way around people trying to get the Mayor to do something for them (bragging rights). After she said, "Sorry, no" (in a very nice way) she would refer them to someone that might be able to help them. She didn't worry that they might be as you and I, can't say no, but it got the person off her foot anyway. So it's something I have to learn how to do, too.

Best of luck on this goal. I'm taking it on, too.

Have a great one!

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MIRAGE727 1/7/2012 9:38AM

    ...maybe not on your forehead but one word on the inside of your forearm, surrounded by a hibiscus wreath might look good!
I came by today just to see how you were doing. You are always in our thoughts and prayers. Be strong and go forward this year.
We hope to visit you "down south" from Dunedin soon! Be afraid!
All the best in everything you do!

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WENDYSPARKS 1/7/2012 8:48AM

    I will join you!!!!

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Healthy can become a habit in no time if you commit to it...

Friday, January 06, 2012

I was always a skinny kid growing up, here I am at a Rainbow girls installation (2nd from the left) I never thought a whit about food. When we ate my mom was more of a one pot meal cooker. She didn't think much about eating either and her job as a photo journalist was always primary on her mind...certainly not homemaking. She didn't get married until her mid 30's and didn't have me until she was somewhere around 36ish...something absolutely unheard of in the 50's era.

So like daughter, like mother...I just never focused on food, sometimes I'd even forget to eat and then get this gnawing feeling inside and decide...oh...better eat something. We ate mostly plant based foods, my daddy was a farmer and loved his gardens even after we moved to the BIG city of Des Moines, Iowa. My mother didn't like meats much except turkey...so when she cooked it was usually what came out of the garden fresh. My favorites were wilted lettuce, and new potatoes and green beans. I just loved those dishes as a child.

After I had Josh around the age of 31 I started noticing that I had a little weight left over from pregnancy that was stubborn to drop. I think I really started adding weight in my late 40's to early 50's. I always had a stubborn 10 pounds that I was fighting with that eventually turned into 20, then 30, then 40, and up to 60. So distressing this extra weight is. It harnesses me and reminds me that I really CAN'T do anything by just wishing it away.

So...I'm ready to admit this and get busy shedding it to be the best I can be in the current moment.

I know HOW to lose weight...I just need to LEARN how to consistently practice the healthy habits that keep it off.

That's calories in versus calories out. I have never been a big exerciser for the sake of exercising but I do know that if you get yourself to do it you are rewarded with happy little endorphines that make you feel great...so it's really worth the effort right?

I have NO excuse not to use my treadmill, and I get plenty of exercise vaulting up and down the huge expanse of stairs at our consignment gallery.

You can't tell how really tall they are from this shot...but believe me they are UP there! emoticonI run up and down them many times a day with customer questions. This counts as a work out right?

Another thing I need to work on is eating smaller meals more frequently...this is always a challenge because it demands prep time and planning...both things that my crazy topsy turvy lifestyle challenge me to do.

Then...I need to go within and ask me what is REALLY eating me that I am turning to food to supply when I should be getting to the root of the frustration without food props. Hummmm this is where meditation will come in handy...another challenge I need to learn to sit still for and explore.

I know we all have our own individual journeys to explore in what makes us tick and together I know that supporting each other is nurturing and filling and we can do it WITHOUT food...for sure...for sure! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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    Great blog!! I do think that running up and down those steep stairs really does count!!

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VICIOUS421 1/8/2012 7:27PM

    emoticon And you will do it with your own unique style and flair!!!!!!!!

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SEASONS_CHANGE 1/7/2012 8:50PM

    Ahhhh, the memories...and with the right tools in place, and with a little help from our friends, it should become a habit in no time!


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GOING-STRONG 1/7/2012 12:03AM

    Yes healthy can become a habit... just repeat behavior (good or bad!) long enough and it becomes routine. I did 5k on the treadmill after work tonight and am trying to do that at least every other day. I want to log in at least 500 miles this year... so jump on that treadmill and we will do it together! Hugs to you, Rhonda

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DS9KIE 1/6/2012 8:20PM

    hey you are so right, the trick to having healthy habits is to keep doing the habits everyday..wow we is that hard but you seem to be doing it.

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BTRTHANEVA 1/6/2012 8:19PM

    I've found a little friend which is a great motivating tool ~ my pedometer. With all the walking and running up and down those stairs, I bet you'd be surprised how many steps/miles you get in during a day! I'm challenging myself to get in 15k a day. Every hour I make sure to get in 1,000 which gets me away from my craft table or computer for a bit.

A BIG wakeup call for me was my latest physical. My ldl's rose 70 points. I had simply stopped caring about what I was putting into my body. NOT ANY MORE! I feel better knowing that I'm fueling my vehicle with nutrious, healthy, good for me foods. I'm planning on blasting those 70 points out and then some by my next check in six months from now.

I'll be right here cheering you on!


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MS.ELENI 1/6/2012 8:04PM

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EL-E-E 1/6/2012 11:39AM

    Love this post. Thanks for sharing it. I have recently become reacquainted with endorphins! emoticon I surprise myself with how GREAT I feel after working out. I want to shout it to the world! (It's almost obnoxious, hee hee.)

I wish you great success with your goals!


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VAMANOS 1/6/2012 10:59AM

    I never thought I had a problem with emotional eating. For example, I have never in my life eaten a pint of ice cream just because I had a fight with my husband...and believe me, I had plenty of opportunities with my first. Even the tests say it's not much of a problem for me. But deep in my heart, I know that there are times (like right now when I'm dealing with the stress of having no kitchen and contractors in my house from 9 a.m. until 7 or 8 p.m.) when I use the excuse to have just a little extra treat. I deserve it don't I? What I don't deserve, and neither do you sweet Bobbi, is the health consequences of an extra 20 lbs. or more.

So, you're right. we know HOW, we know WHAT. Now we should take a tip from Nike and just DO IT.

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NEWNAC304 1/6/2012 10:43AM

    Good blog. You're right, it can be a habit we just have to make small changes to make those habits stick. You can do this!

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AUNTB63 1/6/2012 9:07AM

    Interesting blog. One of the keys to success is to put into practice what we know we need to do. Just take it one day at a time....changing perhaps one habit at a time. I assume you grocery shop at least once a week....make out that list with healthier foods in mind....than before you are put away those groceries put together as many single servings that you can for lunches and snacks to take to work.....just a thought to help you out. Have a healthy day and keep sharing a smile. emoticon

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OH WHAT A NIGHT...my birthday...survived it! Onward & Upward!

Wednesday, January 04, 2012

emoticonHoly tomatoe...the BIG 60!! Who would have EVER thought I'd get this far in life? As Bette Midler said..."If I knew I'd be around this long...I woulda taken better care of myself!"

I don't project myself far into the future so arriving at the big 6~er never really occurred to me.

I can tell you...I don't FEEL 60...people tell me I don't LOOK 60...but then WHAT does 60 really look like anyhow. My crowd of friends have been under the knife so many times (sorry women...but your secret is OUT)...that I don't really have an actual role model to gauge by.

The only thing I can really say is that I don't have the fire whip energy that I used to have and I'm planning on getting it BACK!

Remember when I first started Spark...dare I say WAYYYYY back in 2009 I was blogging me little heart out about the wonders of RAW eating. I seriously was losing a POUND a day..and I know there were those of you out there that were a little skeptical of those results...but honestly they were TRUE! emoticon I'd wake up at 5 a.m. in the morning for no other reason then I was READY and EXCITED to get out of bed!

Who would have thunk it? I remember those RAW days so fondly and I'm going to get myself stocked up and ready to climb back on the RAW train...at least for awhile until I feel fit enough to alternate RAW with CLEAN eating.

Sooooo...it's too darn cold right now..in the 40's...I KNOW...wimpy Floridian...but I'm going to stock up on organic raw at the Farmer's Market this Thursday...hey...that's tomorrow and we'll be launching our RAW journey anew.

Of course you know I'll share this with you...just because I love you all so much and if I'm crazy healthy and jumping off the planet with energy...I've got to have my lovely Sparkies right there with me right?

Let's start this new RAW adventure Monday January 9th. That gives you a chance to think about it and stock up if you want to join in. Now I also know that RAW probably isn't your first choice for the winter months...but you can still follow my adventure and jump in during spring.

Okay...I'll be your guinea pig how 'bout that?

I MUST do this to capture every bit of energy I can to carry me through 'season'...that's six days a week at the consignment gallery, maintaining the jewelry design for my inventory to keep 2 BUSY farmer's markets going, that puts me up in my jewelry studio til the WEE hours of the morning. Then of course my VERY important social life. Ya gotta have fleshie people in your world right along with your sparkie people too.

So last night...pure spoiled BLISS. If anyone happens to live near a Capital Grille...go there for ANY special occasion. Yes the prices are through the moon...but for special occasions don't hesitate one moment! The hubs made reservations for my birthday dinner online (modern technology STILL knocks me out!) he told them in the comments box that it was my birthday and he wanted to make the dinner special for us and two of our closest friends.

Well....when we arrived and they took us back to the table it was BEAUTIFUL. It had little "happy birthday" charms laying on the table, a card for me saying how much they appreciated that I would share my celebration with them. Then champagne (and it was the GOOD kind) all around in little fluted glasses...so adorable! A picture of all of us before the dinner, developed and delivered after dinner. On top of THAT...a delectable sampling of a sushi grade tuna appetizer, AND a killer triple chocolate cheesecake dessert with forks all the way around!

Talk about SPOILED..yep I was and loved EVERY minute of it! P.S. for $50 bucks an entree with sides extra...I guess they can afford to load up the special occasions. But you know what...when something is REALLY really good...I don't even mind paying top dollar for it. The service was exquisite...although we had a bit of a problem understanding the very PROPER waiters French accent...it was all part of the decorum and I LOVE decorum...so this little occasion was the BEST!

Here's a pic of the cute little beret that my friend Deb got for me along with a beautiful jeweled scarf. She said it was 60ish...for my 60th. Kinda sassy don't you think?

Here's a view that the waiter took with my new I-phone...I'm telling you that camera is BETTER than professional...I'll never have to carry a separate camera around again...technology...LOVE it!

Here's the sweet hubs who made this happen...and this is BIG...he's a tightwad about spending money on fancy smancy restaurants...his theory...what have you got to show for...it just goes right through you...wow...romantic huh?

Okay...it doesn't take much to get me going...this was right before we all went dancing at the club next door!

These were our willing partners in silly town...Don and Richard have been buds for TOO long to remember..they went all through school together and served on the fire department together...you know fire fighters...a crazy brother bond above all others!

Yep...you've got to love Richard...he's silly too!

Okay...there's other pics but I can't show you those...the club was WAY too dark...and I think my camera lost focus!


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    Hey you. Now I know why I was drawn to your page. Happy Birthday! Loved your beret, energy and zest for life. Hope to hit a lull soon and visit more often. I appreciated your visits and heart hugs. 2011 has been a tsunami year, and it's continuing a bit more. I adore your picture of Josh. You do 60 beautifully. Cute hubby, too. You two are a sweet match. Luv ya. Sue

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TKADEEPBREATH 1/8/2012 12:03PM

    OMG Bobbie . . . I missed your birthday! Dang, I can't believe it . . . no excuses only to wish you a very happy belated one.

My birthday was 1/1 and I turned 59. We have a lot in common GF. I wish I could have celebrated with you. Your party looked like a lot of fun. Can't have too many of those "fun" times!!

I've been thinking of you since you responded to my recurring dream blog in November but . . . well, life swallowed me whole for a while and my time on SP got very sparse. I hate that because I love catching up with my friends and you are definitely one of my BFs.

Anyway, Happy Happy Birthday and I love the "what does 60 look like anyway" comment. I'm with you there. We are changing the stereotype on that right? Yah!!! Rock on . . . that's what I say.

Love you Bobbi, may all the best and what you sow into others come back in multiplicity . . . and then some. You deserve it.

Bye Doll . . . love, Jan emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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CATHYGETSFIT 1/8/2012 4:04AM

    It sounds like you, your DH and friends had a great time! You definitely deserved what that meal cost!! Glad you had a great time!

It's too hard to do RAW eating here in the middle of nowhere. If / when we move back to the city I will try RAW eating. Until then, I will live vicariously through you! emoticon emoticon

Happy belated birthday! emoticon emoticon emoticon You certainly don't look 60 though! Hoping you have many, many more happy birthdays to come!!

emoticon and emoticon to you my sweet, beautiful virtual mom!!

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SEASONS_CHANGE 1/6/2012 9:28AM

    What an awesome, fun time it looks like you had. And your company looks fun too. 60, wow, you don't look it!

Glad you had a great birthday, you deserved it and may the happiness continue throughout the year!

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TSISQUAUSDI 1/5/2012 7:47PM

    So glad your birthday was wonderful! A beautiful time for a beautiful lady!

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MPARKER67 1/5/2012 12:10PM

    Happy Birthday. Wish I was having my 60th again instead of approaching 63!

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SUNNY332 1/5/2012 8:54AM

    So happy for you. Looks like it was a great party.

BTW, I think we will always feel "Young at Heart". I don't see myself as 65 either and DH says he still feels like he is 21. So glad in our mind's eye, we are still young.

Hugs, Sunny

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CEB2007 1/5/2012 5:12AM

    WOW what a night. Sounds like you had fun. Wishing you many many more.

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VICIOUS421 1/5/2012 1:48AM

    I am glad you had a Great Time!!!!! You look Beautiful and I would have guessed in the 40s if you hadn't of said!!!! So keep on doing what you are doing it is definately working for you!!!!!!!
Enjoy going Raw LOL that sounds almost wicked!!!!!! You will do AWESOME at whatever you want to do!!!!!!!
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SAL1512 1/4/2012 10:35PM

    Happy Birthday!
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GOING-STRONG 1/4/2012 7:05PM

    Thanks for sharing your birthday events with us... the evening looked FABULOUS and you absolutely SPARKLE. A Big 60 Hug to you, R.

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Happy birthday Bobbi..... your hubs did great !

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VAMANOS 1/4/2012 12:09PM

    I've got the biggest smile on my face! So happy that you had a stand-out birthday celebration! That's the way to do it, Love.


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MS.ELENI 1/4/2012 11:33AM

    Awesome. I threw myself a big party when I turned 60.Rented the elks club.Food was a pot luck with family and friends bringing food. I am always thankful for each birthday

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SCIGEEK 1/4/2012 10:17AM

    Happy Happy Happy Birthday! I am glad you had such a wonderful celebration for your special day. It looks like you all had a blast! Hope this year brings you much joy and all the energy you are hoping for with the RAW program. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MIZCATHI 1/4/2012 10:16AM

    Happy Big 60 Birthday to you - you look Mavelous Darlink! Good luck on the RAW diet - sorry, won't be undertaking that challenge!

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SLIMMERJESSE 1/4/2012 9:36AM

    Happy Birthday, Bobbi. Ignore the number. It's just that - a number. Have a great year.

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DS9KIE 1/4/2012 9:20AM

    Sounds like you had a great birthday.

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BECKYSRN 1/4/2012 9:05AM

    Happy birthday, heart sister! You and the hubs look very happy! And you look simply smashing! I'm glad you had a great time.
And there's a Capital Grille just up the street from school... so maybe when I feel flush I'll have to check it out!

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MOSTMOM1 1/4/2012 8:53AM

    You look fab AND sassy! Way to rock the 60! I'm glad you had a marvy time and have fun with your new iPhone.
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    Congratulations on such a lovely birthday celebration!!!

GO RAW!!! I look forward to your exciting blogs about it! It really worked for you.

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-CHERYL 1/4/2012 8:43AM

    I got the iPhone 4 for my Christmas present and I LOVE IT! It's so great it makes me want to buy a Mac computer! The camera is a beast!
And the bar code scanner app! The Spark app!

You look fantastic! Mawvolous! You don't look plasticy like those folks who get surgery, they just don't look "right".
Stay natural!

Happy Birthday!


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