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A BIG WHOOPEE...THREE days off in a row...I need em...and bad!

Thursday, December 23, 2010

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This is happy me...no stuff to do for three whole days..except FUN stuff like parties and going to the movies and getting a pedicure, and sleeping in if I feel like it! Whoopee! The picture is me at the market last season...I think I've dropped a few lbs. since then...but I don't have a current picture so this one will do fine.

Hummmm...I just had to check the pics out, and I think I still look pretty chubs..I need to lose another 30-35 pounds...but I know it will come off...it's just a matter of staying aware and alert to what I'm eating. I also seriously need to step up the ST although I make it a point to raise the big HEAVY overhead door at the consignment gallery that weighs a TON and operates on a pulley system...if that doesn't tighten up my arms...NOTHING will.

I'd also love to incorporate some Pilates and Yoga into my schedule...I'll work out a schedule of at least three days a week that I can squeeze in a half hour at least. I know this will be tough since the winter season is my craziest busy time...and now with the gallery I have to keep regular 10a.m-5p.m. hours...ughhhhh...I'm not a punch the clock kind of gal. DH is great, he goes over and opens up and I roll in about noonish... emoticon you've got to LOVE that guy... emoticon of course he calls me 20 times to ask questions because he has NO clue nor does he want one on the pricing, or the new inventory that comes into the gallery.

If you saw it today you wouldn't know it from the day that it opened. That was officially December 8th. The stuff comes in and goes out so often that it's always a NEW store...I LOVE arranging the new stuff into little vignettes to show off the new pieces as they come in. Every day is a new adventure.

I can see GREAT potential in this business...even though we are small...we are MIGHTY! I just hope January is gangbusters...that's usually when the flurry of snowbirds arrive. Then we stay pretty busy though April...then it's DEAD...I mean you might as well roll up the streets and turn the lights out. THAT'S the part I'm worried about. I don't want to make money during season just to turn around and give it all to the landlord during the 'off' season.

I'm pretty sure he has NO intention of lowering the rent during the summer...so that will be the tough part of my decision in staying put. We shall see...but in the meantime...I'm living in the moment and loving it! That's all any of us can really do right?

Today at the market was SO boring...I was totally regretting rolling out of bed at 5:30 a.m. to be there at 6:30 a.m. My sales were miserable...my SLEEP time is worth more than I made...believe me it is! I did manage to sell a pretty substantial ring and a bracelet...but other than that...3 Loop de Loos and that was it! Boooooo! Everyone was probably at the mall with that glazed over desperate "got to get that last minute present" look in their eyes! emoticon It's the same old thing every single Christmas...people are procrastinators...SERIOUS procrastinators!

This Christmas we have done absolutely NOTHING...and to tell you the truth it's been kind of refreshing. I didn't do my Christmas Craft party which is highly unusual...I've been doing that for the girls for some 20 plus years. I didn't do my annual Christmas dinner party..which is a BIG lot of work and didn't miss it a whit. I'm not doing my HUGE Christmas brunch this year either...another HUGE exorbitant function and a whole lot of FUN for everybody but me...I've been thinking...why do I put myself through this for at least the last 8 years...I've done the breakfast for probably the last 22 years...we always used to let Josh open one present and then we had to wait...because...EVERYTHING was all about the BREAKFAST...I'm SO sorry now that I put others in front of my darling son for all those years...now that I no longer have my darling Josh...those breakfasts seem pretty hollow. But I always did it because it was TRADITION...and heaven forbid we break a TRADITION....and disappoint someone's expectations....guess what...life moves on...and this comes straight out of the mouth of a certified Christmas loving junkie!

Heck I didn't even send out Christmas cards this year...now that one...I did feel a little guilty over...but you know what I send out the MOST beautiful cards through JacquieLawson.com...they have music and you can personalize them...and guess what else..they are totally 'green'...which is a BIG kick I'm on right now.

Sooooo in spite of foregoing all of the Christmas craziness...I'm still super busy with the gallery and two markets...so something had to give...and guess what...it's just fine. Luckily we will spend Christmas eve with friends, and Christmas Day with friends...and all I have to bring is dessert and wine...how GREAT of a Christmas gift is THAT?!! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

  
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DS9KIE 12/25/2010 9:12PM

    nice picture, hope you had a great time off and Merry Christmas. emoticon

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TKADEEPBREATH 12/25/2010 11:38AM

    Get all the goodies out of the day that you can. You certainly deserve it!! All your hard work has to have a pay off somewhere.

Be blessed and take care . .. love, Jan

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MSLZZY 12/25/2010 9:24AM

    Merry Christmas!

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LADYIRISH317 12/24/2010 1:07PM

    I am so with you! Three days not to have to go to the office -- ahhh!

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SUNNY332 12/24/2010 9:03AM

    God Bless you my sweet friend and enjoy your days off work - I think you definitely earned some time off.

You look terrific. I said so and so did some of the others so that settles it.

Take care and Be Blessed.

Hugs, Sunny

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BARBARAROSE54 12/24/2010 5:45AM

    Love your attitude Bobbi !

Wishing you and yours a blessed wonderful Christmas.

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GOING-STRONG 12/24/2010 1:16AM

    I didn't do cards this year either and I agree totally that we run ourselves ragged over the stupidest things... Enjoy your 3 days and let me know if you see any good movies. You are the best movie reviewer! Hugs, Rhonda

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SIMPLELIFE4REAL 12/23/2010 8:32PM

    Have fun for three days!!! emoticon Sleep! emoticon emoticon
Drink lots of water!!! emoticon Enjoy Christmas! emoticon

I'm glad you are not doing all that party stuff this year. It's time that other people do the work. You have been way too busy with your new business.

That sounds awesome that things are moving in and out pretty quickly!!!! That means $$$$$. Hooray!!!! I'm delighted for you!

I totally understand the not decorating for Christmas. We didn't decorate this year for Christmas. We were very busy with the kitchen remodel during the weekends we normally would have been doing the decorating. We also thought we would be going down to Tennessee between Christmas and New Years and wouldn't be here much to enjoy the decorations. We just decided on Monday that we are not going down and will be just taking it easy up here in Illinois. It's supposed to snow here for the next three days...a White Christmas...I thought we could drive around and look at Other People's decorations!!

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VAMANOS 12/23/2010 6:14PM

    You are beautiful at any weight. Enjoy your time off, you've earned it!

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Sunday...the day of REST...how I loved it! Big happy face!

Monday, December 20, 2010

emoticon It's SO funny how we tend to take things for granted as we move along in our hectic lives. We forget to STOP emoticon take notice and APPRECIATE the mere pleasure of doing NOTHING...or at least nothing stressful.

That's what I did yesterday. Oh I piddled around the house throwing out a huge cache of magazines...you know I'm a book and magazine JUNKIE. I've had so much clutter since we've moved some of our larger storage pieces over to the new consignment gallery for sale.

I'm downsizing and RIGHT sizing by getting rid of my mountains and mountains of STUFF! I'm so ready to let go of the surplus and just keep the really special pieces of value in my life now.

That's been a long time coming, being a girl that grew up from very modest means...STUFF has always meant a lot to me. But seeing my dear friend dieing from colon cancer and wading through the mountains of stuff she has accumulated in her life set me to thinking. You can't take it with you and why make others have to deal with it? Honestly, not to be mean, but her house could have been an episode in the hoarders. It was crammed full of soooo much clutter, it was actually unhealthy. The fact that her daughter had to sit in that dank, dark place for three months taking care of her mother was a comparable to sitting in a cave. I honestly don't know how she dealt with it.

I remember my friend telling me in her last days that she wished she had used her life differently in the last 8 years or so. I know she was pretty depressed about some things that she felt weren't fair and she let that depression turn to bitterness. Of course the bitterness isolated her from many of her friends and she was a challenge to be around. I understood what she was going through and luckily I remembered her in the years prior and was able to know that this wasn't her true self.

She spent more and more time by herself, which we KNOW leads to trouble. I think she entertained herself a lot by shopping and that's how the house got so overrun.

I'm using her as a prime example to keep moving my life FORWARD no matter how many little bumps and setbacks I have along the way. I just don't want to end up unhappy and unhealthy...there's no reason for any of us to suffer in that manner or drag our loved one's down that road.

Remember we are spiritual beings having a human experience. Our prime purpose to visit this earthly level is to teach our lessons and to learn our lessons. The primary and ONLY important thing is to love each other and reach out our arms in help and support to others who can use our support along the way. Every kindness I've EVER given has returned to me 10 fold...and honestly when you think you are doing something to help someone else...the feeling of happiness and accomplishment that comes rushing back to you is SO worth that effort...truly it is!

I've never known the love and support we receive from each other here on Sparkpeople...it is truly the BEST tool for moving our cycle upward and onward.

Take it from my friend's last words to me..."Oh Bobbi, if I just had those healthy years back...I would have used them SO differently!"

Guard your health my darlings...and use your days to concentrate on becoming healthier, then put your happy face on... emoticonand GO LOVE someone...right now! emoticon emoticon

  
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1HAPPYSUSAN 12/23/2010 11:32AM

    Thank you for the wonderful reminder, Bobbi! I, too, have a bunch of clutter and stuff around the house; my husband accuses me of being a hoarder but part of it that some of the piles of stuff are associated with things that were difficult for me to accept, like my moms unexpected passing (ten years ago!) and accepting and dealing with the loss of our business (which I'm still feeling guilty about).

I know I just need to get it cleaned up so that I can move on. It's taking those first steps.

I'm so sorry for the loss of your good friend. Her words of how she would have lived her last eight years are sticking with me. A beautiful lesson for those of us listening. Thank you.

Love you bunches and please know that I wish you a very Merry Christmas and I'm so blessed to get to know you and share your SP journey. You are an angel emoticon in my life and I am so very grateful for your friendship. Thank you, my friend!

With love and hugs and blessings!
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MS.ELENI 12/23/2010 10:25AM

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KAT573 12/20/2010 10:18PM

    We can increases our chances for a healthy life and a healthy exit but we should never forget that ultimately, health is a GIFT, and each day, is a 'present'. emoticon

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GOING-STRONG 12/20/2010 6:06PM

    I agree with your friend... if I could do it over I would have spent my younger years taking better care of myself ~ and for sure I would have spent less time working. We are so oblivious when we are young... we live like there is no tomorrow. But fortunately we are learning and we DO have today. I'm going to make it the best I can.... so we are walking side by side on that point Bobbi. Have a wonderful day and thanks for sharing. Hugs, Rhonda

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HEALTHY4ME 12/20/2010 4:24PM

    OH yea you are so right as was your friend. I have been dointg pretty good at not overeating and have lost 4 lbs nothing to sneeze at since I was going up and up.
I am going to get down to a healthy wt so my poor legs and knees dont hurt so much.
Hope all is going well, I have been so busy whit my new work which is a blessing but wish I could take the laptop on some of my respite assigments lol heheh
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MSLZZY 12/20/2010 12:33PM

    I'm finding the same to be true since the house explosion two doors down. I am having to repaint and clean the upstairs and there is just so much stuff I should have let go of in the
past and am finding it a daunting process. I'll be the one sifting and sorting as DH has a habit of throwing everything, regardless of who it really belongs to. But it will get done, with time
and a lot of sweat equity. Probably a lot of good cardio there so that is the plus.
Keep on trucking and SParking! Love hearing from you! HUGS!

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MPARKER67 12/20/2010 11:29AM

    I am trying to get rid of things for my move to AZ in 5 years but I hate to let anything anyone gave me go because of the memories attached. But it has to be done so I am trying.

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KSTYLEFITNESS 12/20/2010 11:09AM

    I have lots of STUFF too! My whole upstairs is a maze of STUFF scattered around. It would look like hoarders up there! No one goes up there but me, but stil...I plan on sitting down and packing away some things, tossing a lot! I am a magazine hoarder!! BAD!! I mean, seriously! And as soon as I get rid of some of them, I will miss them...or so I think. If I have not looked at it in awhile, I probably don't need it right. Ugh! I did get rid of a buinch of clothes (still have lots more) but that was a start. I don't have much extra furniture since I am in my first house..but that may collect over the years.

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ELSEEBEE 12/20/2010 10:36AM

    You are starting a process I've been doing for a while now. When we moved to the mountains from Florida I gave up a lot of beautiful BIG pieces of furniture. After we remodeled and moved into our current house, I found more furniture which I didn't use or didn't fit. I gave it to the local women's shelter and a young lady who cat-sits for us and is trying to improve herself by going to college as the single mom of a teenager. Then when my daughter was here at Thanksgiving, we went through all my "stuff" and she took my sterling, china, etc. that she thought she might want. There's only one rocker she wants and I think I may take it to her this Christmas. I realized last year when I lost both my parents, what a problem we leave behind us when we die and have hoarded stuff.

As always, you show so much wisdom, dear Bobbi, and help everyone see the lessons you are learning in your journey. Happy Holidays!
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I said goodbye to my dear friend today, I'll miss her with all my heart

Saturday, December 18, 2010

I've been talking about my dear friend who is in 4th stage of colon cancer. She has been a friend for over 23 years. That is some record time for a Florida friendship. Most people in Florida are here one year and gone the next. DH and I have been extremely lucky with our circle of friends, most of them we have known over 20 years. They are our family.

This particular friend was a bossy little Capricorn the same obstinate sun sign that I am. When I first met her at a Newcomer's organizational meeting I was putting together to form the Newcomer's of Bonita Club....SO many years ago I thought "Gosh is she a bossy Flossie!" And I immediately thought I didn't much care for her personality. But as the meeting went on I had to concede that she brought up some VERY valid points, and that SOME of her ideas were VERY good! By the end of the meeting I thought that she had some strong possibilities of becoming someone I might like to know better...if even...at arm's length.

As time went on she bacame like a sister to me. Honestly we were so much alike in our thinking and our viewpoints on SO many things we could actually finish sentences for each other.

Then I remembered how the universe gives you a mirror to look into and that sometimes the very people that annoy you the most are reflecting back lessons that you could take a good look at in developing your own bad self to a higher more actualized person.

Donna was that mirror for me! We bumped along throughout our 22 year relationship on again off again, sometimes talking for HOURS a day (and I HATE to talk on the phone in most cases) then we wouldn't have contact for weeks at a time because our busy lives took different twists and turns. But the minute we'd get together again it was if we never skipped a beat, we were RIGHT back on track with our friendship.

I told Donna that if I EVER had to be stuck in an elevator with someone for days on end SHE would be the person I'd want to be with...because she was SO quick witted, so opinionated, and SO up on what was going on in the world that we'd NEVER run out of things to talk about...NEVER EVER!

She often used to say that we should go into business together and I'd be quick to tell her that if that day ever came about...we would kill each other...so better to just be each other's sounding board for business ideas.

My saddest and I'm sure Donna's saddest time was when she got too sick to come and see my latest business venture at the consignment gallery...she wanted to hear EVERY little detail as to what was happening and gave me wonderful feed back on the whole process.

I'll miss that MOST about her...she might have been a little bossy...NO ONE could do things better than SHE did them...well...no one other than I...of course...but she was a REAL TRUE HONEST LOYAL friend who always had my back through the thick and thins of our lives.

We told each other EVERYTHING...and how often do you ever find a friend that you can do that with?

We even made it through the election when I was a dyed in the wool Obama supporter and she was ABSOLUTELY positively convinced that he would ruin the world if he got elected. A few of her racial slurs almost ended our friendship...ALMOST...but we made it through that too...we just learned to NEVER discuss politics...and to agree to disagree respectfully.

That was a test for BOTH of us...and a lesson in true friendship and the mountains that it can bridge.

Today I had a feeling that I needed to say goodbye. I know she is tired of the fight, I know that she is looking forward to peace. I know that her heart is hurting for her daughter and the saddness she has endured carrying for her day and night these last three months.

I went over to say goodbye late this afternoon, I didn't want to infringe on her daughters who are both at her home now...but I knew in my heart of hearts that it was time to make this visit. I knew if Donna had the same feeling that I did that she would be right there by my side in my final hours. She is going into Hospice and I didn't want to remember her in that setting. I wanted to say my goodbyes in private in the security of her own home. I made sure to tell her that she was a beautiful friend, a beautiful human, a wonderful mother, and a doting grandmother.

I told that I had asked my Josher to welcome her to the other side and to show her around and that I knew our paths would cross again. I told her that her sister loved her and would be with her if she hadn't been caught in an ice storm in the Carolinas. I told her to go to the light and rejoice and to know that she was valued and loved on this earth.

I know she could hear me, even if she couldn't talk to me. I saw her eyelids moving, and her face gave me indications that she understood each and every world of love that I left her with.

I feel at peace now, so I know she is peaceful as well. I told her daughter that she was a beautiful selfless daughter and that her mother adored her and her older sister with all of her heart. I told her to never blame herself in any way for her mother's choices at the end of this road...that every soul has the right to choose when and how it will depart this earth and that her mother had made her OWN choice and I honored her for it.

Sparkpeople teaches us SO many things! It teaches us all about our health and our goals for being the best person that we can be, but above all of that I think the MOST beautiful thing it teaches us is to honor each other as friends, and to encourage each other to validate and support our friendship. I'm doing that today and I have an enormous amount of love in my heart for my beautiful friend Donna and I thank you for supporting that in only the way that sparkies do! emoticon

  
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VALERIEMAHA 12/23/2010 12:13PM

    What a beautiful expression of a deep and enduring friendship. Thanks for sharing this soul searing process, dearest Bobbi.

The love you give comes back manifold times,
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1HAPPYSUSAN 12/23/2010 11:44AM

    Beautifully said, dear Bobbi.

Thank you for sharing, my friend.

Love you bunches.
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KAT573 12/20/2010 10:23PM

    Oh, soulmates! a rare and wonderful gift of growth, awareness and sharing. blessed are you. blessed am I for I also have one. I have learned some very painful and provoking things about myself and I thank God for giving me these lessons through her, as does she through me.
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MSLZZY 12/18/2010 9:59PM

    My deepest condolences to you! Cherish those precious memories! HUGS!

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GOING-STRONG 12/18/2010 9:29PM

    Beautifully said and what a wonderful tribute to your friend. Take comfort in the fact that you were able to say goodbye. So many times our loved ones go without warning (such as your Josh). While it is hard you know she is going to a better place. Hugs to you and stay strong. Rhonda

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ELSEEBEE 12/18/2010 8:35PM

    Sending you hugs, love, and peace, dear Bobbi. What a treasure you have in your friendship with Donna. She heard your beautiful and loving good-by and I'm sure it eased her on her journey. Now you have your memories of her to comfort you in the coming days. And when she makes her transition, imagine the fun she and your Josh will have, telling stories about YOU!

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SIMPLELIFE4REAL 12/18/2010 8:15PM

    You were a wonderful friend to Donna. She was blessed to have you in her life. I'm sending virtual hugs to you as you go through this difficult time. I agree with Sunny332's comment that I hope she isn't in hospice long.

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FIT-LIFE 12/18/2010 8:07PM

    Have tears right now for your loss and her pain. May she go swiftly to the light.

Hugs, Sheryl

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FIT-LIFE 12/18/2010 8:01PM

    Have tears right now for your loss and her pain. May she go swiftly to the light.

Hugs, Sheryl

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SLIMMERJESSE 12/18/2010 7:49PM

    So sorry, Bobbi. Words fail me.

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TUBLADY 12/18/2010 6:26PM

    My heart goes out to you. I have been through the loss of a dear friend. You have some wonderful memories and that's more than many have.

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JUDYAMK 12/18/2010 6:04PM

    I am so sorry you lost your friend. She left you with memories that you will be able to pull out of your heart,remembering what she would have said or did & you will find your self smiling Those memories of her will never leave you.

Judy.

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TEXASLYNN 12/18/2010 6:02PM

    Been there-hurts!

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SUNNY332 12/18/2010 5:41PM

    I feel so bad for you. What a great tribute to your friend. I know you will miss her so much.

God Bless her as she enters hospice. I hope she isn't there long. She may be gone here but you will see her again someday in glory. What a day of rejoicing that will be.

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Can I please just SKIP Christmas this year?

Thursday, December 16, 2010

emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon There...that's about the extent of my Christmas decorations for this year! I really could easily skip Christmas this year! Getting the gallery up and running, staying on task in jewelry creations and of course the ever livin' display at the farmer's markets have kicked me in the kabukie BIG time this year.

I told our Friday night group that I wouldn't be hosting the annual Christmas Craft party...which has become known as the Christmas 'CRAP' party...which of course it isn't! We've made some pretty cool stuff over the years.

I moved my studio to the gallery so I no longer have everything set up at home. At first I was thinking we'd just do it at the gallery...but I'm telling you at five o'clock I'm DONE!

I haven't kept regular working hours for YEARS and I forgot just how HARD it is! Retail is a killer and you have to man the boat, especially in the beginning when you don't have payroll dollars to spread around. So it's just the hubs and me for now.

My hat is OFF to our enormous work force that bails out of bed each day to punch in! HATS OFF TO YOU! I forgot how REALLY hard that is...but it's coming back to me QUICKLY as I now work those regular hours!

I have back to back Christmas parties tonight and tomorrow and then ughhh the INSANE wake up call of 5:30 a.m. for the Saturday farmers market. Sunday I am FLAT OUT going to do......NOTHING...except maybe a movie with DH and a nap!

The weight is still peeling off. All of this constant movement has it moving too...and in the right direction...which is DOWNWARDS!

I'm now down to 168 and I think I'll be happy with about another 30ish pounds off. It's a slow process and I'm happy that it is coming off slow but sure...I've been really stocking up on my freggies and I know I need a little more protein for the staying power I need to get through my jam packed action filled days...but all in all...it's all good..if I could only build in a nap at the gallery somewhere comfy...that would be the perfect little pick me up! emoticon

  
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DS9KIE 12/25/2010 8:56PM

    I'd go for the skipping on Christmas and just take a nap instead

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NEWFLABULESS 12/22/2010 12:19PM

    emoticon on your weight loss. I am just opposite of you. I have worked since I was 14 so I can't imagine NOT getting up everyday to work at least 8 hours except for the days I'm on vacation or holidays.

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MSLZZY 12/17/2010 8:17AM

    Find a couch or set up a room just for you to take a load off! You need to rest. You can always decorate next year! HUGS!

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BARBARAROSE54 12/17/2010 4:06AM

    Hope you do take a "me" day on Sunday, you deserve it.

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PENNYAN45 12/16/2010 10:27PM

    You are doing so much! And you are accomplishing GREAT things!

Especially at this time of the year - things are so busy anyway - be sure to take good care of yourself.

Eat that protein. Get to bed early so you get lots of rest.

Congratulations on your hard work!

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ETAGGEL 12/16/2010 9:37PM

    Hope you have a nice relaxing day on Dunday with your husband. I know how exhausting running your own business can be, my husband and I done it.
But I wont be celebrating Chrristmas this year except for going to Midnight Mass. I am here in Corpus Christi TX on my own working, and my family are in NC and Maryland. SO i am just going to relax.

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SUNNY332 12/16/2010 7:44PM

    It is OK with me if you skip christmas. Christmas is in your heart, not in decorations and you have a heart as big as any christmas there ever was.

BTW - speaking of decorations, I hung the photo ornament today. You know the one I made last year today of you all and Josh Man.

Take care and do what you need to do for you. You have been working so hard and if you don't feel like doing something, don't do it.

Hugs to you, my friend.

Sunny



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GOING-STRONG 12/16/2010 7:15PM

    I'm having a very hard time getting my Christmas decorating finished and all the rest that goes along with the Holidays. I second your motion of just skipping it!

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MAGPIE74 12/16/2010 7:07PM

    You have my permission to skip Christmas this year!

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GRAMMIE1959 12/16/2010 6:55PM

    Hon, just decide what is important for you and your hubby and celebrate the season "low-key". You have been so busy and accomplished so much-it's okay to NOT do everything this time. Have a wonderful Sunday and recharge your batteries! hugs n such!
Vivian

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SIMPLELIFE4REAL 12/16/2010 5:52PM

    Smart decision not to host the annual Christmas party....it's important for you to take care of yourself as much as you can.

You actually have more decorations up than I do (unless you count my profile pic and my background on my Sparkpage). I've been more focused on getting my house back in order after the kitchen remodel.

Isn't it awesome that you have been losing pounds as you have been shedding your extra things in your house and gaining a whole new business in the process.

You are so right that it is hard and physically exhausting to work regular hours. It will get easier, but that doesn't make it easier now.

I hope you have great sales this weekend.

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Happy Sales to You!
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MPARKER67 12/16/2010 3:50PM

    Congrats on the steady weight loss. Many years I have felt like cancelling Christmas. emoticon

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GRACEISENUF 12/16/2010 3:44PM

    Sounds like it has been quite an adjustment. Way to go on dropping the pounds steadily. That kind of a loss is the kind that stays off.

Enjoy your day of rest on Sunday with your hubby.

Merry Christmas to you!
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The universe serves up interesting seasonal lessons

Sunday, December 12, 2010

emoticon Christmas has always been a MAGICAL time to me! Maybe because I grew up in pretty humble circumstances and although I certainly didn't know I was poor...I was.

Of course NOT in the things that are important in our life...certainly I had NO lack of love from my parents! emoticon And I was made to think I was BRILLIANT and able to achieve anything! Those are treasures with NO limits on value...so all in all I was very wealthy in developing a good sense of self and a BIG imagination for what is possible in the world.

I've been reflecting on lessons quite abit lately. You know my dearest and most darling friend is suffering from colon cancer. I've felt guilty and neglectful for not being able to visit her daily. Of course I've had the gallery front and center, and my markets keep me scrambling, but all in all...those things are really just excuses for not wanting to face the inevitable.

My friend is going to die, and I just don't want to accept it. Today I went over to visit her and was feeling a little sulky about it. I told DH...geeze...on my ONE day off...I really need to go and visit Donna and try to cheer her up a little. How selfish of me! When the day comes that she isn't here anymore I will rue saying those words...and today she dropped a harsh reality on me.

"Bobbi, she said...you've just got to let me go." She looked up into my eyes and I could tell she was making an effort to keep her eyes focused on me. I cried like a spoiled brat of a child who has just had their favorite toy taken away. But then I understood. She's just tired of the struggle, and the pain, and the sadness she feels for taking other people away from their lives in caring for her. Her sweet daughter has stayed with her for over three months now. Leaving her job, and her boyfriend over in Miami. Her other daughter and her sister travel from many miles to come and see her when they can.

She has made the decision and she wanted me to understand, selfish guilty friend that I am.

I told her it's okay to go. She will be at peace and happy. I asked just one promise that when she gets there she will let me know somehow that she is okay. She promised me she would and I know that is a promise she will keep if there is any earthly way she can.

So I'm sad and happy today. I'm sad that I'm losing my dear friend and that I get to meet another Sparkie friend. The universe always seems to cheer us up with something positive to counter balance the negative. I'm looking for the silver lining in friendship..yes, I am! emoticon emoticon

  
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CATHYGETSFIT 12/15/2010 9:20PM

    Boy do I understand what you are feeling. It's so hard to let go of the ones we love and care deeply for. It's especially hard during this time of year to be losing someone. Be thankful for at least having the time today and making the time to go see her. It sounds like she has made peace with the inevitable and it's good of you to let her know that it's okay. I know your heart is breaking over this emoticonas is mine when I think about my aunt having passed away a little more than a month ago.

BIG HUGE emoticonand emoticon to you my beautiful, loving virtual mom!

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GRAMMIE1959 12/14/2010 9:36PM

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NEWFLABULESS 12/14/2010 1:30PM

    It's so hard to come to the reality of letting go. I have to admire your friend for stepping up and asking you to let her go - that takes a lot!! Hang in there and cherish the wonderul times you have had together.

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GOING-STRONG 12/14/2010 12:08AM

    I am so sorry that you are losing this dear friend and I know that another loss for you won't be easy. Stay strong and remember that she will be in a better place and free of her pain and suffering. Hugs, R.

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PENNYAN45 12/13/2010 3:32PM

    What a good friendship the two of you have -- sharing your love and your honesty.

Saying goodbye is so very difficult.

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MUSTANG_SALLY2 12/13/2010 1:54PM

    Maybe your son and my nephew will welcome her when she arrives. I've always wanted to ask someone to hug Nathan for me but never get up the nerve. Maybe she will hug them both for us and we won't even have to ask her to, they'll all just know each other.

I'm praying for you, your friend and all her family.

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MPARKER67 12/13/2010 11:32AM

    Yes sometimes we are selfish. We never want to let friends go. You are very lucky to have had her as a friend. emoticon

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SUNNY332 12/13/2010 9:05AM

    What a wonderful friend you have there, Bobbi. You are going to look back on this day more than once and remember how Blessed you were to have had this friend in your life.

God Bless both of you.

Hugs, Sunny

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BARBARAROSE54 12/13/2010 6:17AM

    What a beautiful friend, you are truly blessed.

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VAMANOS 12/12/2010 8:13PM

    What a blessing that you managed some time to visit, for both of you. And what a brave woman to tell it like it is. I know you love her enough to honor her request of you, and that the connection is too strong for death to sever. Yes, it's hard letting go, the hardest thing we are ever asked to do, but it sounds like it is time, so she can be at peace.

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ELSEEBEE 12/12/2010 7:27PM

    Last year I had to hold my mother's hand and tell her it was okay for her to leave this world where she was suffering so much. It is a hard thing to do, but the only consolation for us left behind is that the pain will be over and they will be at peace. Bless you, my friend, for having to endure this during the holiday season. But what a lovely gift from God your friend has been to you. Peace to you and yours.
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SIMPLELIFE4REAL 12/12/2010 5:16PM

    Your friend sounds like a wonderful person. She will keep her promise.

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MSLZZY 12/12/2010 4:40PM

    She offers you comfort inspite of the pain. Hold her close in your heart! HUGS!

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MS.ELENI 12/12/2010 4:23PM

    Life's lessons are hard. Letting go of a loved one is by far the hardest. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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GRAMMIE1959 12/12/2010 3:59PM

    Bobbi you have known the hardest loss possible... emoticonI understand how you feel with this one. emoticon

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SLIMMERJESSE 12/12/2010 2:59PM

    My cousin kept telling me to let go, and I couldn't. I never accepted her illness or her passing. It makes loss so much more difficult that way. It's been 5 months now, and I still think the phone will ring, or whatever.

On your last blog, I smiled. I am a person who cannot sit in one place for long, so I've never considered a storefront. However, you've made this such a great place. And you've sold the piece I wanted - the teak carved bench. I just loved that. How much did it go for?

Take care, Bobbi. Big hug.

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RENA1965 12/12/2010 2:55PM

    Donna is watching over you.. Perhaps this new friend was her gift and sign she will be okay.. emoticon
I have lost also many dear people, do this journey for Donna and know her fight against cancer wasn't in vain..
I do it for my husband to show him his diabetes type 1 was not in vain.. I have learned from his ending and can do better- life is precious..

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NANNER2121 12/12/2010 2:53PM

    NO words, no words. Just hugs.

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CBACH71 12/12/2010 2:53PM

    emoticon It's hard to lose someone you love. I'm glad you are able to spend some time with her and I know she appreciated it to, regardless of her tiredness from the struggle.

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