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Tuesday, October 26, 2010

emoticon Yesterday was a sobering wake up call to our newly undesired credit reality!

We've always just picked something out that we wanted, plopped down the payment and bought it! No more! emoticon Now with our credit in the crapper we are facing a new reality...and I don't like it much! emoticon I don't like it at ALL!

Our lease on our Ford Escape comes due in December...now any other time, we would just select a new vehicle and trade the lease in and be done with it. This year we decided that we would hold onto the Ford since it's in good shape and has LOW miles on it...of course the REASON it has low miles is because DH had NO work in the construction business..so that's a plus and a negative. But bottom line...I'm not sure we will get the financing we need to hold onto it. So that is a BIG concern...but...what are you gonna do? I normally would just pony up the cash...but with the business venture looming I can't let go of our reserves...

It's just a reality check of what millions of homeowners are going through and it certainly knocks me right off of my high horse and let's me experience a completely different norm for us.

What's the point in telling you all this...it's that you never can get too content in the reality that you are living each day. Life can change in a micro-second so be mindful of the goodness that you have in your life and value it with all of your heart and soul. I'll never again look down my nose at the haves...and the have nots...because as one of the former...and now living the latter...life goes on. I don't like this life lesson...I don't like it one darn bit...but it is what it is...and I think it's taught me to be a more compassionate REAL person...day by day minute by minute! Glory be for that! emoticon

I did manage to lose a pound on my latest team challenge...so that's a GOOD thing!

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Love your life...love your health...love your family and friends...THEY are the things of value, not a new Ford vehicle! emoticon

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DAKOTASMOMMY_07 10/26/2010 7:56PM

    emoticonYOU are truly a Warrior!!
I have to say PRAISE GOD!! The way your taking this..and the way you sound in your blog you are learning ..AND ACCEPTING!! There is a BIG difference there..MANY of us just get so MAD..Usually means we don't grow from our trials.
This is making you STRONGER!!

YES we sometimes take our life,and our blessings for GRANTED..Thank you for posting this.

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VAMANOS 10/26/2010 5:49PM

    I can so relate. Our old Buick is approaching 150,000 miles, if it hasn't passed it already. We failed to note the original mileage when we replaced the control panel with a used one, so we're not too sure of the mileage. We'd replace the car, but no one gives a loan to a person with only a temporary job, regardless of credit. And of course our reserves are to carry us over if and when the temporary runs out! It's just one more aspect of our reality, and we will continue to cope. So will you! You are resourceful, you'll find a way.

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MS.ELENI 10/26/2010 5:41PM

    I know you are struggling but you will get thru this. things will get better.

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ELLFIN3 10/26/2010 5:02PM

    Very insightful blog! Be grateful for today as we do not know what will happen tomorrow! Hang in there!! emoticon

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RONIE11 10/26/2010 4:08PM

    I think there are more in the same situation than you think... I worry over finances constantly... I wish there were real get rich quick things out there....

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CINCYDORA 10/26/2010 3:28PM

Keep hanging in there. Your positive attitude will get you through!

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BARBARAROSE54 10/26/2010 2:35PM

    good weight loss on all you have going on in your life.

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GOODGETNBETR 10/26/2010 2:19PM

    emoticon with the weight loss during these trying times. emoticon and God bless with the new norm.

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GOING-STRONG 10/26/2010 1:49PM

    We do need to be mindful of all the blessings we have in our life... and the biggest one of all is our HEALTH. I'm sending good vibes your way that things will work out with the lease... you know the dealers really don't want those cars back without selling a new one so maybe they will just be able to help you. Hugs to you, Rhonda

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CATHYGETSFIT 10/26/2010 1:41PM

    Yep, I can certainly understand that!! When times are tough it really makes you appreciate what's important! I realized after nearly dying after a surgery several years ago that materialistic things are not important. All the nick-nack's that people collect are not important. I've since gotten rid of a lot of clutter around the house. I just hope that when things get better people remember these times. I tend to be a bit skeptical about that though since people tend repeat history. emoticon Hope you figure things out with the vehicle!

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BOBBIENORTHERN 10/26/2010 12:28PM

    We should never become that attached to the world and worldly possesions, because that is not what life is all about. Love your neighbor as yourself and get your focus off of yourself and focus what you can do to be a blessing to someone else with what you have for it will be multiplied back to you. Love over comes all of lifes obstacles. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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SIMPLELIFE4REAL 10/26/2010 12:07PM

    All I can say is that you are so right about this economy changing the way we do things. My husband's car is almost 20 years old! We just don't want to spend money on a new one if we can keep this one working.

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SLAYINGDRAGONS 10/26/2010 11:18AM

    Hi girlfriend! Been awhile since I´ve been over to visit. Today´s the day! Wondering how your book is coming. Sorry to hear about the financial challenges. It does help to think of it as a phase; doesn´t hafto be for the rest of life! Challenging nontheless, but we will get on with Life!

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SLIMMERJESSE 10/26/2010 10:50AM

    Oh, how I know what you are saying about life changing in a second! This past three years of the "recession" (more like a Depression) have been life-changing. I often think of my grandfather, who lost everything he'd worked for all his life. Pufffff! It's all gone, gone, gone. Yikes! Big hug. I am so looking forward to sharing your new business adventure through cyberspace and wish you the best in everything.

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BOOTYLISCIOUS3 10/26/2010 9:45AM

    i love your blog and couldnt have said it better myself

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SUNNY332 10/26/2010 9:26AM

    Yes, I agree, this day and age is certainly giving us all a sobering wake up call. I am a lot more conscious of the money I spend these days not knowing what tomorrow might bring.

Thanks for a GREAT post. I do hope it works out for you on the financing.

Hugs, Sunny

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ELSEEBEE 10/26/2010 9:22AM

    My dear Bobbi, you are experiencing something so many people are going through right now. Our country is learning that living in a world where the emphasis is on the material just doesn't work. We are learning that "things" aren't really as important as we once thought. The more important things are our relationships with each other and with the world around us. Hopefully, once this financial crisis has eased, we will remember our experiences here and now and be able to live much more in harmony with each other and nature.
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The new gallery countdown begins!

Sunday, October 24, 2010

Friends make my world go round...being an 'only..lonely' I've always surrounded myself with adopted 'sistas'...they truly are family in every sense of the word. And I think our construction business was successful because many of our customers became friends long after their jobs were complete.

If you are going to be successful, no matter what you choose to do...you need to understand that every single person on the face of the earth wants to be seen, validated, and held in esteem. That's always been fairly easy for me because by and large I'm fascinated with humanoids and what makes them tick.

Now even more so after losing our beautiful son...you can't understand how valuable a human life is until you've lost the very one that meant the entire universe to you.

I see people in a whole new light now...I see their struggles, I see their hopes and dreams and the scars they try to hide from the world. We all do the same thing...we all try to appear so much tougher than we really are. This just reinforces to me over and over that no matter WHAT we look like, no matter WHAT our heritage is...we are all SO MUCH MORE alike than we are different and it's a fabulous awakening to me!

I love to talk to all of my market friends and find out what their backgrounds are...I love to hear the stories about how hard they work and how many markets they balance throughout the season. Some actually do markets full time...traveling from good weather to good weather...they are true gypsies...disillusioned with the traditional workplace...determined to make their living THEIR way...it's pretty inspiring.

That brings us to the gallery. I told my friends a little more about it last night. Now this is a group of self-employed...mostly semi-retired individuals that have no worries about money and devote themselves to travel and volunteering and leisure activities.

Most have a healthy bank account and no financial worries...so we are definitely the odd couple out...it was a sobering fall from grace for us...at least in our social circle as we used to be the so called "leaders of the pack"...sooo....for us to have to jump back into a full time business...retail...no less...which is the hardest of the hard...in a time where the economy is so flat...is nearly impossible for them to understand...let alone support. You'd think their manners alone would encourage them to well...encourage us...but I didn't hear much of that...well...maybe a few "hope this works out for you."

But I won't let their doubts stand in our way...I've thought every thought that they have, and I've given myself every argument that this isn't the BEST of times to do this that is rattling across their minds...and I'm still pushing forward and hoping for the best possible outcome.

Sometimes you've got to believe in yourself even when your 'family' doesn't...nuff said emoticon

I'm also thinking this will be a good life lesson for me to shed all of the materialistic stuff that I've always held in such high esteem. It...to me...is like peeling an onion..little by little I'll get to the core of who I really am...and people will never see 'my stuff' before they see me...should be interesting...stay tuned for the ride! It's going to be a hairy...but FUN one! emoticon

Found Object~A Consign~ Design Gallery of Furniture & Accessories
Rethink, restore, repurpose
Gently loved objects of beauty

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MIZCATHI 10/26/2010 7:50PM

    I can relate to this blog so much! While living in FL and raising our children, my husband and I owned a small business - if you remember the cottage decorating industry of "Country Folk Art", that's what we did. We were self supporting for 14 years and were confronted with lots of skepticism, let me tell you, and this was in the other flat economy of the 90's. Through thick and thin my husband and I supported each other during the boom times and the bad, and it made us so strong! When we finally caved in, our experience and our confidence in our abilities propelled us to our next careers, where we are today.

It's great that you have your talents to fall back on during the lean times - it makes you industrious and wise!

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CATHYGETSFIT 10/26/2010 1:31PM

    Considering that you and your DH own a construction business plus you are pretty successful at selling your beautiful jewelry at markets makes me believe that you tend to know what you are doing. Besides, life isn't always about playing it safe. Also, it seems that you have pretty good instincts and judgement when it comes to business so I'm sure you will do well. It may take some time for it to really get going but that means it will be successful! It's like the saying goes...Nothing ventured, Nothing Gained! I'm sorry your friends weren't more supportive but all of your Sparkie friends are rooting for you!! emoticonYou have a great personality and have a great way of communicating with people which is a big bonus!! No one wants to shop @ a store where the people who own it or work there are unfriendly and don't care about the customer.


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SIMPLELIFE4REAL 10/25/2010 8:52AM

You are so good at making other people feel they are heard and esteemed. That is a huge asset in the retail business. With a personality like that, how can you fail?

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RONIE11 10/24/2010 4:51PM

    Sometimes life's lessons are harder to think about then to actually learn.. I know that there are some of those friends that are just scared it could happen to them.. and would they have the vision you have in how to climb back up and out of this.. I think your new venture is exciting and wonderful. I know its hard but you really do need to not worry about what they think. There are just as many who believe in you and those are the ones who count the most right now..
I think you will like your life a bit more once you do shed the layers off.. We lived in the country for years we didn't have tv.. there weren't many homes with computers and we werent' one of them.. we got the radio in the car but not to great in the house.. we spent that time really getting to know ourselves and each other. I wouldn't trade that time for anything.. we have actually thought about selling and giving away most everything and buy a big RV when we retire.. we have so much junk its hard to realize how fast it adds up... Best of luck with your business. thanks for sharing your pictures.. Take Care.. Ronie

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JACKIE4019 10/24/2010 4:06PM

    I'ts so important to have good friend.

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BARBARAROSE54 10/24/2010 2:07PM

    wishing you all the best Bobbi

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BOOPSTER69 10/24/2010 1:28PM

    Good for you - stepping from the comfort zone into the unknown - you will be a tremendous success! emoticon emoticon

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VAMANOS 10/24/2010 1:12PM

    If you were a starry-eyed novice to business, I might worry about you also. Your friends have either forgotten that you are a veteran of starting businesses, or they have forgotten their own entrepreneurial roots. Which is too bad! What this country needs to re-start the economy is more people who are willing to dare to step up. Small businesses fuel a good economy.

What's the worst that could happen? As your last blog mentioned, you don't have a lot more to lose. I can tell you from personal experience that losing everything and starting over is liberating. Figuring out what comes next will keep you sharp and young. But you, my friend, will succeed. That's partly because of what others have already said...your personality will attract customers like a honeysuckle attracts bees. And partly because you're smart, have a good business head on your shoulders, and are prepared. You've thought it through. The very nature of your new business is in tune with the times.

I'll miss you when you don't have as much time to blog, but you'll be having the time of your life! Just remember to come back and tell us about it from time to time.


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SHERYLP461 10/24/2010 10:15AM

    I really feel that you will be successful, you have the empathy for other people that makes for a wonderful place to shop and visit. I have been to many of these types of places that seem to be so unfriendly that to visit one like you are making would be just heavenly!

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SUNNY332 10/24/2010 9:50AM

    It is going to be OK, my friend. I would imagine your friends just operate on the
more conservative side and also, the gallery does sound like "work" not play. They are just coming from a different perspective than you are right now. Hang in there and give it your best. I think it is going to be an awesome adventure and you are going to receive many blessings.

Wish I could be there for the Grand Opening (btw - when is that?) Also, e-mail me and let me know where it is located so I can tell my friend. She does want to come meet you and wish you well. She also has that house she & her husband bought to decorate so it could be a wonderful relationship for the both of you.

Love you,

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IUHRYTR 10/24/2010 9:39AM

    There are going to be doubts about starting a business in any economy but if you don't try, you don't succeed. Give it your best every day and always believe you will be successful. All the best to you. -- Lou

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MS.ELENI 10/24/2010 9:31AM

    i could be more supportive and I do try. I just am a big worry wart and worry about you. Foolish me as i know you can and will do whatever you set your mind to do. I look forward to seeing the store in Dec.

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MSLZZY 10/24/2010 7:40AM

    It is interesting when you see the disparity of the "haves" and the "have-nots"
and the amount of compassion displayed. It is almost like they can't understand why you would even put yourself in the position of trying to make your life better. You can't wait for life to hand you the brass ring-you have to grab it!
This is your attempt to be better and do more. Maybe in time, they will understand. For now, they are comfortable with their lives. But if the tables were turned, I am sure they would be trying something new as well.
Keep your happy humor and GO FOR IT! At least you can say you tried! HUGS!

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DOGSTARDADDY 10/24/2010 7:39AM

    hanks for sharing :)

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Having friends will make you healthier...I know THAT for sure, for sure!

Tuesday, October 19, 2010

emoticon So this morning while I was working on my jewelry in my upstairs studio I found I can no longer get HGTV in on my t.v. set...THAT is a MAJOR bummer! I love all things HGTV...I truly do..so I was stuck with the Today Show...which isn't bad either..and I heard their little segment on having friends and how it helps our health and happiness. AND...here's the BEST part...it doesn't really matter if they are human or vitual...so isn't that cool beans for people who live in remote areas??!! emoticon Annnnnddddd...hugs, and supportive advise really help too.

So of course, we Sparkies ALREADY knew this..but it's nice that it's been confirmed by a fancy smancy marketing company on national television eh? emoticon

I have to say my FAVORITE of all the emoticons is the hugs button and second to that the big smiley choppers! I now know that every time I sprinkle them across someone's page I'm contributing to their health and well being....GREAT feeling! emoticon

I had a nice salad for lunch and it was great getting back with my group of friends that are just now returning to their Florida Snowbird status. I've known these ladies for MANY years..one used to be our next door neighbor in Pelican Landing when we lived there. I'd say they are probably a good 20 years older than I am...but you'd never know it. We have the BEST conversations and I treasure their friendship SO much!

Here we are at The Island Club right behind the Trianon Hotel near Bonita Bay. It was such a BEAUTIFUL DAY!

After lunch I stopped by my dear friend's home who is suffering from stage 4 colon cancer. She was SO happy to see me. I took her a few fresh juicy ripe tomatoes that I had bought at the Farmer's Market this past Saturday. Her sweet daughter from Miami is staying with her pretty much full time now.... to my GREAT relief.

It is SO important that someone be with my friend most of the time. She is now taking Morphine for the pain, and although she can get up and move around it's very painful for her and she has to use her walker most of the time. She is so brave! I know the pain is excruciating, but she does her best to put on a happy face....big sad sigh...I feel SO bad...no one should have to endure that kind of pain...especially not someone I love so much!

There's nothing I can do other than pray for her, so please send your prayers along as well. She is one of the ONLY friends that I've ever had that I could share ANYTHING with and who would never want anything but the very best for me. How lucky I was to have come across someone like her in my life! I'm praying for a miracle...because I DO believe in miracles, they still happen every day!

Tomorrow afternoon we meet with the landlord to discuss final details on the gallery space for my furniture/accessories consignment shop. I know all of our friends think we have lost our last bean....but I think there is wonderment in being fearless...not that I'm totally without fear...I'm actually shivering in my shoes scared...but I'm also thinking what's the WORST that could happen...they are already taking our house away from us...I've lost my son...there's not too much more to lose, so if I'm going out in a flame...it may as well be a roaring BLAZE of GLORY! emoticon

It certainly won't be because I rolled up in the corner and played dead!! emoticon emoticon

On a positive ending note I've joined the Battle Warrior team at the suggestion of a dear
spark friend...it's an all OUT WAR...8 weeks of hitting it hard to lose those stubborn pounds...and I intend to gear up! emoticon

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CATHYGETSFIT 10/26/2010 1:07PM

    I am sending lots of positive thoughts towards your friend. I'm glad that your friends' daughter is staying with her full time now. She is going to need someone to be with her all the time. My aunt whom is dying of ovarian cancer just had her 70th birthday on Saturday and today is her anniversary. She sleeps most of the time now and only can keep down a half popsicle. She doesn't have the strength to even turn over in bed so her daughters have to turn her every 3 hours. It's just the pits what she and her family are all going through. My mom and her fiance as well as my grandpa and uncle went to see her on Saturday. I sent her a card along with a letter about our pets and what we are doing. So, please send positive thoughts and prayers her way. She is lucky to have a friend like you!!

I hope everything goes well with your new business venture and that you'll get to keep your house in the end.

The Spark team you just joined sounds interesting! I might just give it a try or check it out myself!

You are so right about friends!! Living out in the woods and not having anything in common with the people in this area makes me appreciate my Spark friends all that much more!! You are not only one of the people on here that I consider to be an emoticonfriend but my adopted Spark Mom!! emoticon emoticonCan't get much better than that!

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WENDYSPARKS 10/22/2010 1:58PM

    Good luck with the team!! You can do it!! Love your picture with your friends!! Beautiful Smile!!

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VAMANOS 10/22/2010 1:34PM

    Your first paragraph certainly struck a chord with me! I'm usually about as remote as you can get in a civilized country, and when I'm without internet for a week during relocation...as I have been until today...I miss my friends and family so much! Luckily I'm a glass-half-full kinda gal, so I don't get depressed actually, but I can definitely feel the lack of communication as a sort of half-panicked feeling.

You are one brave lady, I have to agree! I emoticon your attitude! I'll bet you'll have customers flocking to the store just to be with you! Hopefully, they'll open their wallets and buy, buy, buy. What a great time to open it, right before gift season! HURRY!!!!

Best wishes for a successful opening, and emoticon to your friend. Love and laughter create miracles, so make sure she gets plenty.

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VICIOUS421 10/21/2010 11:08PM

Way to go Warrior Woman!!!!!!!! You can do anything you set your mind to do!!!!!!!

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RUBYCLAIRE 10/21/2010 10:20PM

    Friends help with ones health, huh? Are they just finding this out? Heck, we've known that for eons!

I agree with you about your favorite emoticon, they are mine, too.

You ladies certainly are a lovely bunch. I'm so glad you were able to get together with your friends once again.

Lots of prayers going to your friend, her family AND to you!

By now you'll have already met with the landlord. I am praying that ALL went well for you, Bobbi.

Good luck with EVERYTHING!

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MUSTANG_SALLY2 10/21/2010 11:03AM

    I am so proud of you! You make me want to drive all the way from Michigan to Florida to see your gallery space and to check out your jewelry.

I can imagine the word spreading like wild fire about the super nice lady with the lovely new shop. And hey, if that wild fire helps along the blaze of glory, then so be it. I think the blaze will be like the Olympic torch that shines thru the dark world and leads people who need your loving touch over to your door. You're a great lady and I'm wishing you all the best!

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SUNNY332 10/21/2010 9:46AM

    Friends do make our lives complete. I am so glad you are a part of my life.

Thanks for a great post. Love the photo of you and your friends.

Hugs, Sunny

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ELLFIN3 10/20/2010 3:48PM

    I will add your friend to my prayer list and we will hope for a miracle!! I think your shop sounds wonderful! Enjoy the rest of your day!!!!! emoticon emoticon

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LIFE_IS_SO_GOOD 10/20/2010 1:53PM

    Glad you got together with your lady friends ... would have loved to have been a fly on the wall cause I bet there was so much laughter.

My prayers go out to your friend. Most people don't realize how painful cancer can be. I hope her doctor is giving her enough meds ... if not, maybe you or her daughter could insist on more for her. Pain should be manageable ... it's a quality of life issue and when one is in too much pain, one loses hope. Hope is needed for survival.


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FLASUN 10/20/2010 8:03AM

    I'm one to believe in Miracles too! Hoping everything goes well for your friend. Also everything goes well on your upcoming venture..wishing you the emoticon and like you said having virtual friends is so nice! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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CJSARGENT1 10/20/2010 1:33AM

    I will be praying for your friend and for your BIG step.

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PENNYAN45 10/20/2010 12:00AM

    I wish you well in your talks with the landlord. I hope that works out to your satisfaction. I've got my fingers crossed for you.

I completely agree about the value of friends. We are fortunate to have our close friends - and it is so hard to watch them suffer. It is good that your friend has her daughter with her now.

You are so right - when some of the worst that could happen has happened already, taking risks doesn't seem quite as difficult.

Good luck!!


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MSLZZY 10/19/2010 11:07PM

    I will be praying for your friend and you as well. You are so strong that God will
surely smile on you! HUGS!

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CHRYS13 10/19/2010 9:05PM

    Sending prayers of healing for your friend; and praying for you in your business venture, also! I know you can do this....it will be fabulous!

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MS.ELENI 10/19/2010 7:27PM

    Love the picture of you with your friends.Great looking gals.
If anyone can make it work you can. I will be in your area on the first weekend in December so I look forward to seeing your new venture. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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ELSEEBEE 10/19/2010 6:38PM

    Sending lots of love and prayers your way, Bobbi! How fortunate your friend is to have you as a friend! It is so hard to watch someone we love go through the dying process, but I hope when my time comes, I have someone as dear as you to be there for me.
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NANNER2121 10/19/2010 6:24PM

    Whew! That's a lotta info. But I love your closing: going out in a blaze of glory. Sounds more like "I'm not giving up, I'll fight till the end!" Josh would be proud of his Mom.

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DOGSTARDADDY 10/19/2010 5:55PM

    We love HGTV

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SIMPLELIFE4REAL 10/19/2010 5:46PM

You covered a lot of things in this blog! I find it very interesting that they are now saying that virtual friends are as good for one's health as "real" friends. That's pretty amazing.

I really feel for your friend and for you too. It's hard to see someone in pain. I'm glad she is getting morphine. I hope she is not afraid of taking too much of it or becoming addicted. It's really not an issue at this point in her life and she needs to be taking as much as she can tolerate to help ease the pain. She needs to be encouraged to not be afraid of the pain medication if she is having any doubts about that.

I love the way you describe your desire to charge ahead rather than curl up in a corner. You are right!

What a great picture with your friends! They look like a very nice group of ladies and you look very happy to be among them.

Have a great day!
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SIOUXSIE-Q 10/19/2010 5:45PM

    Thank you for sharing your blog post. It is so hard to find friends that you can share every secret with; they are indeed special. My prayers are with your friend as she goes through this difficult time.



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WENDYSPARKS 10/19/2010 5:35PM

    Nice reading your blog!! I will pray for your friend. Good luck with the consignment shop...that sounds fun to me!! Love the picture of you with your friends...love seeing you on Spark too!! Enjoy the day and talk more soon!!

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ANGELCOWBOY1 10/19/2010 5:06PM

    Bobbi - I'm praying for you and your new venture. And I LOVE your smile in the photo with your friends. You are one beautiful lady - inside and out!


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BARBARAROSE54 10/19/2010 4:59PM

    emoticon emoticon continued prayers for you on your new venture and for you friend who is suffering.

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A fun little ditty times four... flying around Spark World:-)) Consignment gallery pics in the rough

Wednesday, October 13, 2010

Yippee...the Farmer's Market is just around the corner...and JUST in time... it's finally getting a little cooler. That means I'll get to see all of my market friends from last season and make some more this year! The summer indoor air conditioned market was a success and a blessing, who would have thunk it...I'm SO glad I pushed myself to overcome my Iowa bred skepticism on whether it would do well and just DID it! If we PUSH ourselves to do things we are afraid/skeptical of....we OFTEN get wonderful surprises...so JUST DO IT!!

I've got lots of new jewelry designs ready for this season and I'll be posting them for your viewing pleasure sometime in the next several weeks.

Right now I'm intent on exploring the consignment gallery opportunity. I meet with the landlord next week to try to negotiate better terms than what we discussed via telephone...I don't want to look a gift horse in the mouth...he's been pretty flexible by agreeing to give us a 60 day grace period and that's pretty awesome...so we shall meet up next week and see how this latest brain storm plays out for DH and me.

Here's a few pics of the showroom and warehouse space...it's pretty gritty right now, the former tenant left it in rough shape. It needs LOTS of paint and new flooring for sure!

I just wanted a reference point so that you can see how really beauteous it will become if I decide to make my dream become a reality...time will tell.

This is the front showroom, pretty small but it has a window that looks back into the warehouse area which is light and bright due to sky lights. I like the little window that allows you to see whats going on in the back.

I'll put my beads and jewelry designs in the front section and maybe some gift cards and other little 'gifty' notions.

This is the warehouse section, I see DH got in the pic...how did that happen..little camera hogster!

The big overhead door ...which DEFINITELY needs a fresh coat of paint...will come in handy to get furniture in and out. It also has a little open air section behind the warehouse that we can touch up or refinish furniture if we need to.

Here's a shot from the back of the warehouse area looking up to the front office section...it needs LOTS of TLC...but it is a project just like each of us! It needs the same transformation and loving care that each of us need while we are traveling to become our MOST beautiful.... FULLY... realized selves!

I'm hoping I'll be so busy that I will get LOTS more exercise in on a daily basis just arranging and rearranging all the furniture groupings for best display! I'll certainly be burning LOTS more calories and thats a GOOD thing right? emoticon emoticon emoticon

Okay...so thats my update on

~Found Object~ Gallery
Fine Consignment Furniture & Accessories
Rethink, reuse, recycle...Mother Earth will hug you!

Now here's a fun little ditty going around Spark World from one of my dear sparkling friends! Four fun facts about moi' in groups of four!

Four Jobs I've had in my life:

News Assistant Des Moines Register & Tribune (fresh out of high school) LOVED this job got to go out on scene with the reporters..the criminologists were my FAV!

Stock Broker (out of college) SO WHY the HECK am I so broke now???

Assistant Employment Manager for 5th largest S&L in the U.S. I liked this job too..but LOTS of politics in banking! emoticon and you know me...I always picked up for the under dog! emoticon

Self Employed for the past 20+ years with DH in construction here in SE Florida....that is till the real estate market went in the crapper...now mostly with jewelry designs which I LOVE emoticon

Four Movies I have watched more than once:

"It's a Wonderful World" A Christmas time fav...I STILL cry...what a baby cake!
"Jaws"...scared the bejabbers out of me...had to see it again! emoticon
"Gone with the Wind"...in different versions
"The Titanic"...in different versions...loved the James Cameron one the best!

Four Places I have lived:
Des Moines, Iowa
Ft. Lauderdale, FL
Clearwater/Safety Harbor, FL
Bonita Springs, FL

Four Places I have been:
all over England
All over France
All over Italy
Taos, New Mexico

Four of my favorite foods:
Butternut Squash
A great cut of steak (occasionally)

Four TV Shows I watch:
HGTV International Homebuyers
HGTV Designed to Sell
HGTV Selling New York
BRAVO The Housewives...of....I know, I know junk t.v. but they are SO hysterical..it amazes me that people are REALLY that superficial! emoticon emoticon

Four Places I'd rather be right now:
Hanging with the Josh man WHERE EVER he is! emoticon
Telluride skiing
French countryside for Christmas with our friends who just left to stay there till Jan.
Lake Como in Bellagio having din din with George Clooney and friends...HEY I can dream can't I??

Four things I am looking forward to this year:
Losing about 30-35 pounds to reach goal weight
Start a thriving business IN SPITE of the economy
Making a positive difference in as many peoples lives as I possibly can
Counting my MANY blessings EACH and EVERY single day of my life FOREVER!

Thats it...thats all...time to get ready to meet up with the darling girlfriends! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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WENDYSPARKS 10/22/2010 2:01PM

    Good luck with the new place!! I love your jewelry in the picture above! I am rooting for you and sending prayers your way!!

Wendy emoticon

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SUNNY332 10/17/2010 7:09AM

    I love the "new space" and looks like you are busy getting it ready. When you open, I need the address so I can send it to my friend in Naples. She is back in NC right now and plans to return to Florida the first of October.

Take care! You are "Simply Amazing".

Hugs, Sunny

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CATHYGETSFIT 10/15/2010 5:28PM

    I think the new space will be awesome for what you want to do with it. I hope you can get the landlord to give a little more. I love all of your jewelry pieces and think that you'll do wonderful with the consignment furniture business.


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RUBYCLAIRE 10/15/2010 11:12AM

    Bobbi, you are such an incredible person!!
I LOVE your new space.

I know you, you've got such "joie de vie" (joy of life) and NEVER let anything hamper your spirit. I predict you shall do VERY well there. You are such a talented, creative person. I have yet to find a piece of your jewelry that I do NOT like. If I were filthy rich (or even clean rich) emoticon I'd buy all of your pieces. THEY ARE GORGEOUS!!

I love that you played that little game of life.


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PENNYAN45 10/15/2010 5:45AM

    The space looks good! And after you are finished fixing it up - it will be spectacular, for sure!

Good luck to you with this new business venture. I wish you great success!!


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VICIOUS421 10/15/2010 4:36AM

You will do great!!!!!!!

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DS9KIE 10/14/2010 10:43PM

    your place looks great, hope it all turns out with the landlord.

that fun little times ditty is cute.

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NEWFLABULESS 10/14/2010 4:04PM

    Thank you so much for your comments on my blog...you are such a dear friend that I treasure. Your new warehouse looks great...you will soon be successful at ridding your house of extra clutter.

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BARBARAROSE54 10/14/2010 12:04PM

    emoticon hoping and praying your dreams come true.

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VALERIEMAHA 10/14/2010 10:16AM

    WOW! Awesome...is this just for the holidays...or longterm lease? Will you have sales help...or be open mostly "reasonable" hours? Vely intelesting! I considered a retail outlet many times over the years of working with the Ecuadorian co-op, but I coudln't deal with the way I'd be tied down by it...being the gypsy that I am!

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MUSTANG_SALLY2 10/14/2010 9:18AM

    I'm so excited for you! I love following you thru your dream! I've got my fingers crossed for you!

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GOING-STRONG 10/13/2010 10:34PM

    I'm on the road with a REALLY bad internet connection so can't chat... but thanks for update and have fun with the girls.

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MSLZZY 10/13/2010 10:14PM

    Your can-do attitude and tenacity is amazing. You go, girl! HUGS!

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TKADEEPBREATH 10/13/2010 9:24PM

    Wow, look at you go!! Can you think of just one more thing to try to get done right now? Seriously, you are as busy as 3 people could ever be!! Well, good for you. You are really going to have a great time getting this all set up, just the way you like it.

Way to go . . . . try to get some rest tonight . . take care, Jan

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VAMANOS 10/13/2010 8:35PM

    Yep, a fellow workaholic. I have a cure for that, if you ever want to know. emoticon emoticon

Seriously, the space looks perfect for your idea, so I hope you can work it out with Mr. Landlord. Do keep the pics coming! And most of all, have FUN!

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MS.ELENI 10/13/2010 8:33PM

    Does it have a partial upstairs? Looks like plenty of room to display your jewelry,furniture to sell and a place for you to have your classes. I hope you are able to make it a success.

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KSTYLEFITNESS 10/13/2010 8:27PM

    I'll have to use this for my blog tomorrow, though it's not as interesting as yours!

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ALLYALLYT 10/13/2010 7:49PM

    I just love your "can do" attitude. You get knocked down and get right back up! You are inspiring. I think your business sounds wonderful and will be a rousing success!

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SIMPLELIFE4REAL 10/13/2010 7:39PM

    Thanks for sharing the pictures of the place. I hope it all works out for you. Yes, I do think you will burn LOTS of calories moving all that furniture around.

I wanted to put "It's a Wonderful Life" on my list of movies, but I couldn't think of the name of it! Thanks for putting it on your list. It's been bugging me that I couldn't come up with the name.

You have had some very interesting, and diverse jobs! Fun to read about them.

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NANNER2121 10/13/2010 7:29PM

    Whew! I'm exhausted just reading this.
Seriously though, I know your business will thrive, despite the economy, because you are the driving force and will not be swayed by inconsequentials.
Love the pics - keep'em coming please.

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RONIE11 10/13/2010 6:30PM

    WOW your a busy lady.... hows the book coming? I can't imagine you have much time for it... Your jewlery is so nice.. I hope you can get your business off and running.. it sounds like a great place..

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Deal breaker?...we'll see...what is meant to be is meant to be...

Monday, October 11, 2010

Mirror, mirror on the wall...do you see Bobbi succeed or fall?

That's the 10 million dollar question of the day dear Sparkie friends...Found Object is not a done deal yet. I haven't signed the contract for the showroom yet as the landlord is out of town until the 19th of this month. We've been in phone negotiations with him. A few days ago when DH was talking to him he dropped a cash outlay bomb. Beyond the first month rent he asked for last month and a security deposit. This puts our up front cash outlay into proportions that I feel uncomfortable with.

I have always thrown up a little in my mouth over the monthly rent...it's HIGH...there is NO doubt about it. But I could almost justify that because it is on a heavily trafficked artery in town so I know the visibility is worth something in advertising. It's also nearby a major consignment shoppe that has been there long term and has an established clientele. That's also worth a lot. So the monthly rent...as scary as it is...is justified...at least MOSTLY justified in my mind.

But the problems I have is collecting the LAST months rent...on a month to month lease I don't know how that is even possible. We owned commercial real estate ourselves in the past and I've never heard of such a thing.

The deposit is also HIGH...and the landlord knows us as former tenants when we had our large construction business...so he knows we are of good character and followed the terms of his lease to the letter before we moved to buy our own commercial land. In view of this the deposit is a little insulting...or it shouldn't be as high as it is.

We have done TONS of research on our competition, it is FIERCE and there are so many consignment shoppes right now it will be a tough tough market to capture some of that customer traffic. It will require every bit of marketing ability I have in me..and the hours required will be a major commitment to keep the shop open.

I've decided that if the landlord doesn't waive the last month's rent that he is asking for I'm not sure I'll sign the lease. After all as exciting as this whole new business idea is...I'm certainly not in it just to pay his rent and lose any opportunity to make money for ourselves...I'd do just as well to buy a storage space and take people there by appointment.

It wouldn't be as much fun...that's for sure...but the whole strategy is to MAKE money...not to PAY money...so it ain't a done deal yet. Blahhh! We go to see our lawyer today...we'll get yet another professional take on this...I'm in the forest and can't see the trees at this point! emoticon

I'm also stressed to the max about my dear friend who is in so much pain with her colon cancer, I just feel horribly for her and wish I could do SOMETHING...anything to take her constant unrelenting pain away...just breaks my heart! emoticon

On the plus side...I have absolutely NO appetite...so I should be losing a few lbs...that's the bright side of life right now! emoticon

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VICIOUS421 10/15/2010 4:32AM

Maybe it isn't the right place for you. Be certain it is what you want. On the plus side it is month to month so you will have options. Believe in yourself dear friend & anything is possible.

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DS9KIE 10/13/2010 10:01AM

    I hope the landlord comes to his sences and drops all the first and last months rent and and depost (or just lower the amout) I'm sure all that is alot just to get started.

good luck.

emoticon(how much did you say...lol)

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SIMPLELIFE4REAL 10/12/2010 10:25PM

You sound like you are making some very wise choices with regard to starting up your potential business. I'm really impressed with all the work you are putting into this.

Is your friend under hospice care? Pain management is one of their very top priorities. I'm sorry to hear that she is having such pain issues.


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PENNYAN45 10/12/2010 3:09PM

    I'm wishing you luck and cheering you on. Whatever decision you make -- it will be the right one. You know what you are doing.

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NEWFLABULESS 10/12/2010 11:51AM

    Follow your heart...it always knows best. If this isn't meant to be, you'll feel it. emoticon

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RUBYCLAIRE 10/12/2010 6:12AM

    Hang tough, Bobbi!
I know you can do it, you are a strong lady.

Loving thoughts going out to you & to your friend.


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ELSEEBEE 10/11/2010 5:29PM

    Stand tough with that landlord! If he doesn't meet your requirements, then there is a better space waiting for you.

Bobbi, you are such a wonderful friend! I know it is hard for you to see your dear friend in such pain, but your presence is the best medicine she can get at this point.
Hang in there! Sunshine is always waiting just over the rainbow!

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SHERYLP461 10/11/2010 5:09PM

    Yes, I know that Florida is overwhelmed with rental housing and storefronts. You pass entire strip malls that are empty. Have you thought of looking in the old downtown areas? Where I am from the downtown area has just started to open up and the rents are not as bad as other parts of town, but mainstreet is getting all the funding it needs to beautify. Just a thought.

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ELLFIN3 10/11/2010 1:53PM

    I hope the store works out for you as I know it is something you really want! I will pray for your friend! Hang in there!!!!! emoticon emoticon

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VAMANOS 10/11/2010 1:31PM

    Bobbi, the security deposit is probably because of the month-to-month nature of the lease agreement, nothing personal. But I'd definitely balk at the last month's rent. How's the commercial rental business there? I know that commercial mortgages are defaulting right now, almost as badly as residentials have been doing in the past couple of years. Find out where he stands on his before you hand over extra money! It's sad that there is no more handshake business, but you have to protect yourself and your investment.

Eat whether you're hungry or not...starving yourself is ultimately counterproductive to weight loss. You KNOW this!

Best of luck with it all. I'll be cheering you on!



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SLIMMERJESSE 10/11/2010 10:26AM

    You are one brave lady! However, when you read stories about those who've hit it big in business, it was oftentimes when they took the biggest risks! I am behind you and cheering you onward and upward.

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BARBARAROSE54 10/11/2010 9:44AM

    will continue to keep your friend in my prayers. My father had colon cancer so know the agony of this disease.

Trust your gut instinct Bobbi, do what you feel is right. emoticon

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VIVIANJ5 10/11/2010 9:33AM

    It sounds like you've really thought this through, and have come up with what is acceptable to you, and what is not. Once that decision is made, it's just a matter of following through...easier said than done, I know!

You don't want to go into a new business with a bad taste in your mouth from feeling like you've overpaid deposits, etc. for your rent. It sounds like the landlord is trying to get as much as he can upfront, so it's up to you what you feel comfortable with.

You'll make it work, either in this place or somewhere else. You have good karma!

Take care.

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MS.ELENI 10/11/2010 9:31AM

    What is meant to be will happen. Is there somewhere that you could rent a large area to do what you want without renting the whole place yourself. They use to have a large and popular antique store that rented large spaces and people made it their own with whatever. They had one large room that was for furniture
Unfortunately there isn't a lot you can do for your friend. Nothing worse than watching someone slowly dying.

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KSTYLEFITNESS 10/11/2010 9:19AM

    Hopefuly he waives that last month and/or cut that deposit amount. Especially if you have done business with him in the past and there were no issues of you paying. Hang in there lady, if it is meant to be it will be!

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MUSTANG_SALLY2 10/11/2010 8:47AM

    Hang in there sister. If he's wanting to rent the space bad enough, he'll work with you on it. I've got my fingers crossed.

I'm sorry to hear about your friend. I'm sending them happy, loving thoughts. You're both in my prayers.


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MSLZZY 10/11/2010 8:26AM

    Look for the silver lining! There's got to be one! HUGS!

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