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Inching ever closer to our new gallery opening! :-)

Friday, October 29, 2010

YES...my sweetsies...it's getting closer and closer to becoming a reality. This new business venture of opening a Consignment Furniture & Accessories Gallery.

It won't be long before you get to see some progress pictures. As they say...it's come a long way baby!

We still have to get the wood flooring purchased and installed in the front office section where I will display my jewelry. Whoop da...a REAL LIVE shoppe for my customers to be able to come and visit! I'm SO blessed that I've worked up a following throughout my years at the Farmer's Markets. They actually tell me I'm the first one they want to come and visit when they return to Florida.

Thats QUITE the compliment when I win out over the fresh produce, or the fish guy..hee.hee! emoticon A sad note is that one of our biggest organic farmers went belly up this year. He was SO POPULAR...always had THE BEST produce! He lost a few crops last year due to the freeze and that put him behind the eight ball. Some say he had tax problems...other's say he lost the lease on his land after he fell behind on payments. Just SO SAD...Farmer Mike was around for a LONG LONG time and he was one of the BIGGEST local produce farmers we had so I'm mega sad for him. The market scuttle is that he moved back to Illinois...farming is SUCH a hard business it hurts my heart that he had to leave.

I like to think my popularity is because I always have UNIQUE QUALITY designs AND MOST IMPORTANT...I treat my customers like the GOLD that they are! I've got to tell you the whole reason this gallery came into fruition is because I was shopping for a consignment gallery to place MY own beautiful stuff in.

The customer service (or lack thereof) was appalling! I kept telling DH ....I could do this SO much better! After listening to my grousing over the course of numerous visits to different shoppes...he finally said...well hey...why don't you put your money where your mouth is...and just DO it! emoticon

Never one to back down from a challenge..especially a HUBBY challenge...I thought Eureka... emoticon why don't I do this?

I love interior design, I've got SO much more than just furniture to put in a space, I can teach my classes, and do my demonstrations out of a shop much easier than out of my upstairs studio that some of my customers have a hard time navigating the MANY steps up to reach the second floor.

We are eventually going to have to say goodbye to this house any how...maybe I CAN do this!

That was over six months ago...but that little glimmer kept growing deep inside my grief stricken self. As many of you know I was thrown into the pit of sorrow when we lost our beautiful son. Just wanted to check out of EVERYTHING.

It's taken a good 4 years to try and climb back up into the world. So maybe this new business is just the catalyst I and DH need to get our blood pumping again...SOMETHING to be excited about.

Of course I'm trembling scared at the same time! We are terribly underfunded...you should have at the very LEAST a good year or more of capital to carry you through start up. And the wonderful State of Florida is NOT the least bit small business friendly...I don't CARE WHAT they tell you in the ads on television..."Come on down to the friendliest small business State in the Union!"

When we started our former big construction business WAY back in 1989...we almost gave up before we even began because of the hassle Occupational Licensing put us through for proper licenses...a NIGHTMARE I still remember in techni-color. I actually believed that the woman in charge must have had a relative in a similar business to the one we were starting and simply DIDN'T want any competition.

But we hung tough and made it through the obstacle course they put us through. And as much as my DH gripes about keeping those licenses current (expensive) I tell him to NEVER let them expire...because we'd never get another one. It's even HARDER today if you can imagine.

But the gallery is becoming a reality. I almost lost my teeth when I found out they require a $550.00 deposit before the power could be turned on. WHAT? That's just nuts...but we coughed it up!

Now I know why these malls and shoppes are so outrageously expensive...they rape the small business owners with fees! Pitiful in this economy! Shame on their greed! emoticon

But...hey nothing ventured, nothing gained. I'm grateful that the landlord is working with us and giving us 2 months grace. Our first gut busting rent payment won't be due till January...I'm hoping I sell LOTS of pieces by then!

The wood flooring will go in this weekend or early next week. We have an appointment for getting our credit card processing machine set up today at 4 p.m. Fingers and toes crossed this goes well...who knew they check out YOUR credit before they allow you to take OTHER people's credit cards. I guess this makes sense..but it was news to me. Our credit isn't sterling...in fact it's probably a base metal...at this point...so that's a BIGGIE concern for me.

We've got 3 coats of paint on the CBS walls in the warehouse section and 2 coats of oil based paint over the UGLY metal overhead door. So it looks much lighter and brighter in the back. A coat of concrete paint will have to go over the big ugly floor. Again an attempt to lighten and brighten the space.

Steps need to be buildt to the upper level to access the a/c equipment. I'm having them enclosed to create more storage space.

We meet with the sign guy Monday...that will be another chunk of change..oh my!

We opened up our new business account yesterday at the bank. The big mission now is the phones. Do we want a land line..probably not with the convenience of cell phones...we do need an internet connection...another big decision.

All of these time saving gadgets ARE necessary...but the balancing act is to keep our FIXED expenses as low as possible...so there's the challenge.

I've designed my business cards, and my brochures but can't finish them until we get a new phone number. Must get that done ASAP...I want to start advertising the gallery at my Farmer's markets ASAP. I love graphic design SO much...I could easily do that as a sideline business if only I had the time! LOVE it!

Anyone with good ideas ...they are officially WELCOME!

Hugs...I always love Emerson's quote...Do EXACTLY what you fear the most...I'm diving in to the DEEP end of the pool...and me legs are shaking the WHOLE way..but I believe in myself...and it helps me SO much to know that YOU believe in me too!


Wowsa...I'm not much on reading my daily horoscope...but today's was particularly significant for this Strappy little Cappy!

"You can easily see how much work you have in front of you, but your inclination is to remain quiet, rather than expressing any negativity. You may be guardedly optimistic because you realize that accomplishing your goals won't be easy even though you have confidence in your skills. Take your personal time early in the day and then start clearing the obstacles that are still in your path."

Pretty right on...right on huh?

Anddd....isn't it funny that I have discussed NONE of my above concerns with our circle of friends...only my trusty sparks...that's a FIRST! emoticon

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CAROLYN1213 10/31/2010 9:32AM

    My dear friend, you have such a beautiful light in you that you so willingly radiate out to others. I am sure that your faithful following is blessed by the sprinkling of love and blessing that you bestow upon them. Be you, be the beautiful you that you were created to be and all your ventures will succeed.

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PENNYAN45 10/30/2010 10:45PM

    You have lots of good ideas - and lots of energy. Those seem to be the two most important resources (after MONEY) that will bring you success.

I'm cheering you on all the way!!


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SHERYLP461 10/30/2010 10:55AM

    How wonderful for you I know you are so excited. We go over to Punta Gorta often, I can't wait til the next time which is usually in Feburary so I can see your new shop! best of luck!

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MIZCATHI 10/30/2010 8:39AM

    I am so excited for you, as I can hear and feel your excitement from your written words. Getting pumped from a new idea and creation is the most powerful surge. Where are you in FL? I have family there and would love to stop by your gallery the next time I am there.

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ANGELCOWBOY1 10/29/2010 9:40PM

    I'm so excited for you - if anyone can make a success of a small business these days, I believe you can and WILL!

Waiting for the pics!

Hugs dear Spark friend,

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HEALTHY4ME 10/29/2010 9:12PM

    ASWESOME!!! that is so cool. i hope it all works out well. I know it will you can do it, it will all work out and sometime in 5 years time when i get down to Florida will find you!!!

oh and why did i move to Nova Scotia Canada from florida.... cos I am Canadian and my hubby was in Pensacola on a military training thing. lol
we laso live in bermuda for a year too. then went to nfld ( one of our coldest provinces.... hot to cold winter from oct, to mid may!
well have a great weekend. me i hope to sleep....

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BARBARAROSE54 10/29/2010 8:55PM

    Bobbi, I'm feeling your excitement. Can't wait to see some pics of your gallery.

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CHRYS13 10/29/2010 6:30PM

    Absolutely thrilled for you!
Can't wait for the pictures!

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ELLFIN3 10/29/2010 4:38PM

    emoticon I can hardly wait to start seeing pictures of the progress!! Enjoy!!!!! You are going to be to busy to eat!! emoticon!!! emoticon emoticon

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VAMANOS 10/29/2010 3:45PM

    Check out Vistaprint.com for inexpensive but nice business cards and other business printing needs. Spring for the better-quality paper and to eliminate their logo on the back, it's still way less expensive than a local printer, and they're fast.

I'd have to give some thought to how it would work in a retail setting, but if you get turned down for credit processing, Paypal might be an answer.

You're making it happen, no obstacle can stop you!

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GOING-STRONG 10/29/2010 1:53PM

    As you would say WOWSA... you are having quite the week. The credit card merchant set up could be an issue for you all right. If they turn you down, try and negotiate a "trial" period and maybe they will give you a chance. I'll keep fingers and toes crossed for you. I'm excited... when I visit in December I'll get to see the gallery! Whoop da! Hugs to you and have fun. R.

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SLAYINGDRAGONS 10/29/2010 12:57PM

    Well, girlfriend, you are running high! I´m imagining all this going smoothly and you seeing your investment pay off, not only financially but in dreams fulfilled and goals reached!

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RONIE11 10/29/2010 12:09PM

    this is going to be such a blessing to you and your hubby... you can even set up a place to work on your desings while your at work.. at least while the season is slow.. which it sounds like your getting ready for the busy season.. with any luck it will start off with a huge bang and never slow down.. I would love to open a shop like this.. it takes a special personality to make everyone who walks into the shop feel special or at least welcomed... I have been into way to many that makes me glad theres a fast exit..LOL but the great ones I go back to over and over.. Best of luck... Ronie

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MSLZZY 10/29/2010 11:47AM

    Good luck but you are a lucky lady in the business world and you will go far!
BELIEVE in yourself! HUGS!

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-GOT2FINISH- 10/29/2010 11:43AM

    Sounds like your plans are going as close they possibly can! Looking forward to seeing the photo's!

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KARVY09 10/29/2010 10:38AM

    Your new venture is SO EXCITING!!!! Best of luck to you!

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SIMPLELIFE4REAL 10/29/2010 10:19AM

You are going so great getting all of these things taken care of so quickly. Your business will be successful because you DO treat your customers like gold. I hope you can get your business cards printed up soon so you can start giving them out. It's great to be starting this up in the fall as the snowbirds are coming down and needing furnishings!

Wishing you the best!

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SUNNY332 10/29/2010 10:17AM

    Of course you are scared my friend. If you were not afraid, I would worry about you. I am so excited for you and can not wait until opening day.

I want to leave you with my favorite quote on fear...

Fear knocked at the door...
Faith Answered...
No one was there.

Where there is faith, there is lack of fear so go forward in Faith and believe in yourself. Success is standing in the wings waiting for you.

Hugs to you.


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MS.ELENI 10/29/2010 10:15AM

    You will swim like a champ in that deep end. I have faith you will make this happen. You can do anything . emoticon emoticon emoticon

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Sooooo here's my NEW life now! :-}}

Wednesday, October 27, 2010

A Consign & Design Gallery
Furniture~ Accessories
Hand crafted Semi=precious Gemstone Jewelry

It's official emoticon we signed our commercial lease for 2400 sf of new beginnings yesterday. After a few bumps in negotiating the lease, and a few surprises that weren't completely wonderful we knocked out an agreement for our new business venture deal. Who knew that a price quoted as 'inclusive...of everything' still could have sales & use tax loaded on top? Not me...inclusive to me...means INCLUSIVE...but with my lonnnnnnng pause....and a big frown on my face....and the fact that the wifey...not the husband... that we negotiated with... showed up with the paperwork...I DID get stuck with the tax...but...I was able to get a concession to spread out the last month's rent...and deposit...over a longer period of time than I originally had hoped for...so all in all...I guess the duel of female...vs...female stubborn wills... would have to be called a match.

I kept hearing over and over...well we've used this lease for 20 years and it's worked just fine for us and we aren't going to rewrite the entire lease for one tenant.

I smiled brightly and reminded Mrs. Leasemeister...that what worked 20 years ago probably wasn't going to work in today's soggy economy and that MIGHT be why they had so many vacant spaces open...of course I did this in a respectful manner...but come on...don't dangle the carrot and then pull it back at signing...I've been around the commercial block too many times for that. After all I reminded her that when we owned commercial property what I quoted to the tenants was actually WHAT the tenants paid. emoticon But all in all...I think we will get along now that we know each other's tolerance levels...so that's a GOOD thing right?

We have SOOOO much to do to get the gallery in order and want to be OPEN ASAP to offset that frickin'...HIGH rent...so I might not get to spark as much as usual during this crazy time...but you can be assured I'll do my best....and you can feel like you are right there with me on this new business venture.

I'm hoping it might set a fire under you to try some new SEEMINGLY impossible things...for us to open a business of this magnitude on a SHOESTRING WITH crappy credit will be a feat to be remembered. If WE can do it...ANYONE can do it!

Same thing with the weight loss ...I've lost my first pound in my new warrior challenge...probably WORRIED it off...hee..hee! emoticon

But I'm planning on using LOTS of calories pushing furniture around in the showroom and just GETTING it to the showroom will require Herculean strength...my one major worry...even beyond being underfunded is my energy levels. I think I'm going to have to go back to my mostly RAW lifestyle to recapture the FANTASTIC energy I obtained in the past...heaven knows I NEED it now more than ever!

So sit back, stay tuned and take an armchair journey to a business start up. How do you like my name...and my logo...kinda cute huh?

Love you to the moon and back...NEVER underestimate how powerful and fantastic you are!!

emoticon emoticon If you can imagine it...you surely can bring it to fruition!

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JMARIES51 11/9/2010 11:35PM

    Your energy is so exciting and I can't wait to read more about your new venture. All the best luck in the world to you!!

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1HAPPYSUSAN 11/7/2010 4:22PM

    Fabulous, Bobbi! Simply fabulous! I am so excited and happy for you!

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SNOWFLAKELILYM9 10/28/2010 6:04AM

    Bobby, you are a woman of such courage on so many fronts!!!!! Just reading your blogs is so inspiring and energizing, You truly have a spirit of adventure in you to look at all that is happening in your life right now and approach it in a positive way and make the best of it by starting this new business. I love your logo and picture it makes me think and wonder to the point of wanting to go in and check this place out. I'll be praying for you and all the work you need to get done to get up and started so you have income coming in to pay that rent. I know I wouldn't want to tangle with you in a business deal. That lady doesn't know what a savy business woman she is dealing with!!!!!!

Your Spark friends are here rooting for you even though you may be too busy for a while to spark as much, we won't forget you and we'll still be here pulling for you.

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PENNYAN45 10/28/2010 3:04AM

    Your name and logo look great! I like that elephant with its designs - and hidden chandelier.

May that elephant bring you good fortune.

You probably already know that in the east, the elephant is known as a symbol of strength and power. It also represents perseverance, in that it is an extremely hard working animal. Elephants are also seen as symbols of wisdom and dignity, because of their incredible intelligence and very long life span.

I wish you all the best in your new business venture!!!

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MS.ELENI 10/27/2010 2:11PM

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I look forward to seeing it in Decenber. emoticon

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ETAGGEL 10/27/2010 12:48PM

    I send you my very best wishes for your new venture. It is surprising what we can do whe we set our minds to it. Keep on going!

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VAMANOS 10/27/2010 11:44AM

    Nothing like excitement to send your energy soaring! Good for you, Bobbi, you made it happen and now you get to see the fruition of all your effort. Wish I could come and help, you just gave me a shot of energy that would move a mountain!

Remember to take progress pictures!


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BOBBIENORTHERN 10/27/2010 10:43AM

    This blog of yours has sent my spirit soaring as the eagle soars. Wow, I am so happy and elated for you. Isnt the Lord just awesome how He has blessed you? Now, you know like I know that it was the favor of God all over your life that did this for you. Praise God. You also have inspired me to take more courageous and bold steps in my life. I am really excited for you. Wow, this is really great. A person needs to depend on the Lord God instead of worldly assets for the things that are to be accomplished. He wants us to use our faith for all that we want to accomplish and have but love must be our motivator. Have a great life. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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ELSEEBEE 10/27/2010 10:20AM

    You are on your way, dear friend! You will find the energy- just remember to eat right and ,more important, remember to eat! Don't let the business get in the way of your good health. We are all out here cheering you on because we know

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GOING-STRONG 10/27/2010 10:16AM

    I'm so excited for you... what good news! This venture really sounds promising and if anyone can pull it off you can. Go Bobbi! Hugs to you, R.

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GRAMMIE1959 10/27/2010 9:29AM

    Bobbi, I still don't have a job and am now looking for volunteer work to keep my hands and mind busy...maybe I should come to Florida and volunteer a while for YOU!! Honestly dear friend, I wish I could. Success to you!
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SUNNY332 10/27/2010 9:10AM

    My Prayer for you as you go forward:

Our Dear Heavenly Father -

The Scripture says that You will prosper the efforts of Your children. Lord! We know that Bobbi is anxious about this venture!

As the Scripture says You were with Isaac and gave him hundred fold blessings. I know You have the same love and concern for Bobbi's well fare also. Have mercy upon her O Lord prosper all the efforts that she takes towards the success of her business. Grant her Your wisdom and guidance so that she can make the right decision at the right time. Unless You bless her, she cannot be a success Lord. So I beseech You to grant her success in her endeavours and lift her up in life. Be with her and prosper whatever she does! I ask this in accordance with your will for Bobbi.

I thank You and praise You for answering my prayers even now providing all of Bobbi's needs. In the sweet name of Jesus I pray.


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SUNNY332 10/27/2010 9:04AM

    I love it and will be praying for success with this new venture. You are very brave but that is what it takes in this day and age. Go forward with all the "moxie" you have, my friend. You certainly can not do otherwise. We live in an age where hard work and perseverance will be your two best friends.

My friend, Pamela, joined Spark People so she will be looking you up soon.
She is so excited about visiting your new business. You are going to love her - that I promise.

Take care and know that I will be your "Balcony Person" - standing in the balcony of your life cheering you on to success.

Hugs, Sunny

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DS9KIE 10/27/2010 8:58AM

    emoticon emoticon emoticongood luck I'm routing for you.

You really did give to the landlord, I like that good for you.

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MUSTANG_SALLY2 10/27/2010 8:51AM

    I am so excited for you! Wish I was nearby so I could help. I can weld a paintbrush or a vacuum cleaner! LOL I've got my fingers crossed for you!


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KSTYLEFITNESS 10/27/2010 8:43AM

    Awesome!! I would love to open up my own fitness center one day, but my crappy credit and little to put down....that dream seems so far away.

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HEALTHY4ME 10/27/2010 6:54AM

    WOW congrats and you are so brave. I just couldn't do it without some $$ behind me. I am in awe and know you will do fantastic!! Wish I still lived in Florida I would come down and see and help out too. LOL easy to say way up here in Canada.

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A sobering reality!! :-((

Tuesday, October 26, 2010

emoticon Yesterday was a sobering wake up call to our newly undesired credit reality!

We've always just picked something out that we wanted, plopped down the payment and bought it! No more! emoticon Now with our credit in the crapper we are facing a new reality...and I don't like it much! emoticon I don't like it at ALL!

Our lease on our Ford Escape comes due in December...now any other time, we would just select a new vehicle and trade the lease in and be done with it. This year we decided that we would hold onto the Ford since it's in good shape and has LOW miles on it...of course the REASON it has low miles is because DH had NO work in the construction business..so that's a plus and a negative. But bottom line...I'm not sure we will get the financing we need to hold onto it. So that is a BIG concern...but...what are you gonna do? I normally would just pony up the cash...but with the business venture looming I can't let go of our reserves...

It's just a reality check of what millions of homeowners are going through and it certainly knocks me right off of my high horse and let's me experience a completely different norm for us.

What's the point in telling you all this...it's that you never can get too content in the reality that you are living each day. Life can change in a micro-second so be mindful of the goodness that you have in your life and value it with all of your heart and soul. I'll never again look down my nose at the haves...and the have nots...because as one of the former...and now living the latter...life goes on. I don't like this life lesson...I don't like it one darn bit...but it is what it is...and I think it's taught me to be a more compassionate REAL person...day by day minute by minute! Glory be for that! emoticon

I did manage to lose a pound on my latest team challenge...so that's a GOOD thing!

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Love your life...love your health...love your family and friends...THEY are the things of value, not a new Ford vehicle! emoticon

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DAKOTASMOMMY_07 10/26/2010 7:56PM

    emoticonYOU are truly a Warrior!!
I have to say PRAISE GOD!! The way your taking this..and the way you sound in your blog you are learning ..AND ACCEPTING!! There is a BIG difference there..MANY of us just get so MAD..Usually means we don't grow from our trials.
This is making you STRONGER!!

YES we sometimes take our life,and our blessings for GRANTED..Thank you for posting this.

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VAMANOS 10/26/2010 5:49PM

    I can so relate. Our old Buick is approaching 150,000 miles, if it hasn't passed it already. We failed to note the original mileage when we replaced the control panel with a used one, so we're not too sure of the mileage. We'd replace the car, but no one gives a loan to a person with only a temporary job, regardless of credit. And of course our reserves are to carry us over if and when the temporary runs out! It's just one more aspect of our reality, and we will continue to cope. So will you! You are resourceful, you'll find a way.

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MS.ELENI 10/26/2010 5:41PM

    I know you are struggling but you will get thru this. things will get better.

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ELLFIN3 10/26/2010 5:02PM

    Very insightful blog! Be grateful for today as we do not know what will happen tomorrow! Hang in there!! emoticon

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RONIE11 10/26/2010 4:08PM

    I think there are more in the same situation than you think... I worry over finances constantly... I wish there were real get rich quick things out there....

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CINCYDORA 10/26/2010 3:28PM

Keep hanging in there. Your positive attitude will get you through!

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BARBARAROSE54 10/26/2010 2:35PM

    good weight loss on all you have going on in your life.

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GOODGETNBETR 10/26/2010 2:19PM

    emoticon with the weight loss during these trying times. emoticon and God bless with the new norm.

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GOING-STRONG 10/26/2010 1:49PM

    We do need to be mindful of all the blessings we have in our life... and the biggest one of all is our HEALTH. I'm sending good vibes your way that things will work out with the lease... you know the dealers really don't want those cars back without selling a new one so maybe they will just be able to help you. Hugs to you, Rhonda

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CATHYGETSFIT 10/26/2010 1:41PM

    Yep, I can certainly understand that!! When times are tough it really makes you appreciate what's important! I realized after nearly dying after a surgery several years ago that materialistic things are not important. All the nick-nack's that people collect are not important. I've since gotten rid of a lot of clutter around the house. I just hope that when things get better people remember these times. I tend to be a bit skeptical about that though since people tend repeat history. emoticon Hope you figure things out with the vehicle!

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BOBBIENORTHERN 10/26/2010 12:28PM

    We should never become that attached to the world and worldly possesions, because that is not what life is all about. Love your neighbor as yourself and get your focus off of yourself and focus what you can do to be a blessing to someone else with what you have for it will be multiplied back to you. Love over comes all of lifes obstacles. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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SIMPLELIFE4REAL 10/26/2010 12:07PM

    All I can say is that you are so right about this economy changing the way we do things. My husband's car is almost 20 years old! We just don't want to spend money on a new one if we can keep this one working.

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SLAYINGDRAGONS 10/26/2010 11:18AM

    Hi girlfriend! Been awhile since I´ve been over to visit. Today´s the day! Wondering how your book is coming. Sorry to hear about the financial challenges. It does help to think of it as a phase; doesn´t hafto be for the rest of life! Challenging nontheless, but we will get on with Life!

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SLIMMERJESSE 10/26/2010 10:50AM

    Oh, how I know what you are saying about life changing in a second! This past three years of the "recession" (more like a Depression) have been life-changing. I often think of my grandfather, who lost everything he'd worked for all his life. Pufffff! It's all gone, gone, gone. Yikes! Big hug. I am so looking forward to sharing your new business adventure through cyberspace and wish you the best in everything.

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BOOTYLISCIOUS3 10/26/2010 9:45AM

    i love your blog and couldnt have said it better myself

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SUNNY332 10/26/2010 9:26AM

    Yes, I agree, this day and age is certainly giving us all a sobering wake up call. I am a lot more conscious of the money I spend these days not knowing what tomorrow might bring.

Thanks for a GREAT post. I do hope it works out for you on the financing.

Hugs, Sunny

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ELSEEBEE 10/26/2010 9:22AM

    My dear Bobbi, you are experiencing something so many people are going through right now. Our country is learning that living in a world where the emphasis is on the material just doesn't work. We are learning that "things" aren't really as important as we once thought. The more important things are our relationships with each other and with the world around us. Hopefully, once this financial crisis has eased, we will remember our experiences here and now and be able to live much more in harmony with each other and nature.
(OMG, the hippie that was me in the 60s is re-emerging!) emoticon

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The new gallery countdown begins!

Sunday, October 24, 2010

Friends make my world go round...being an 'only..lonely' I've always surrounded myself with adopted 'sistas'...they truly are family in every sense of the word. And I think our construction business was successful because many of our customers became friends long after their jobs were complete.

If you are going to be successful, no matter what you choose to do...you need to understand that every single person on the face of the earth wants to be seen, validated, and held in esteem. That's always been fairly easy for me because by and large I'm fascinated with humanoids and what makes them tick.

Now even more so after losing our beautiful son...you can't understand how valuable a human life is until you've lost the very one that meant the entire universe to you.

I see people in a whole new light now...I see their struggles, I see their hopes and dreams and the scars they try to hide from the world. We all do the same thing...we all try to appear so much tougher than we really are. This just reinforces to me over and over that no matter WHAT we look like, no matter WHAT our heritage is...we are all SO MUCH MORE alike than we are different and it's a fabulous awakening to me!

I love to talk to all of my market friends and find out what their backgrounds are...I love to hear the stories about how hard they work and how many markets they balance throughout the season. Some actually do markets full time...traveling from good weather to good weather...they are true gypsies...disillusioned with the traditional workplace...determined to make their living THEIR way...it's pretty inspiring.

That brings us to the gallery. I told my friends a little more about it last night. Now this is a group of self-employed...mostly semi-retired individuals that have no worries about money and devote themselves to travel and volunteering and leisure activities.

Most have a healthy bank account and no financial worries...so we are definitely the odd couple out...it was a sobering fall from grace for us...at least in our social circle as we used to be the so called "leaders of the pack"...sooo....for us to have to jump back into a full time business...retail...no less...which is the hardest of the hard...in a time where the economy is so flat...is nearly impossible for them to understand...let alone support. You'd think their manners alone would encourage them to well...encourage us...but I didn't hear much of that...well...maybe a few "hope this works out for you."

But I won't let their doubts stand in our way...I've thought every thought that they have, and I've given myself every argument that this isn't the BEST of times to do this that is rattling across their minds...and I'm still pushing forward and hoping for the best possible outcome.

Sometimes you've got to believe in yourself even when your 'family' doesn't...nuff said emoticon

I'm also thinking this will be a good life lesson for me to shed all of the materialistic stuff that I've always held in such high esteem. It...to me...is like peeling an onion..little by little I'll get to the core of who I really am...and people will never see 'my stuff' before they see me...should be interesting...stay tuned for the ride! It's going to be a hairy...but FUN one! emoticon

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MIZCATHI 10/26/2010 7:50PM

    I can relate to this blog so much! While living in FL and raising our children, my husband and I owned a small business - if you remember the cottage decorating industry of "Country Folk Art", that's what we did. We were self supporting for 14 years and were confronted with lots of skepticism, let me tell you, and this was in the other flat economy of the 90's. Through thick and thin my husband and I supported each other during the boom times and the bad, and it made us so strong! When we finally caved in, our experience and our confidence in our abilities propelled us to our next careers, where we are today.

It's great that you have your talents to fall back on during the lean times - it makes you industrious and wise!

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CATHYGETSFIT 10/26/2010 1:31PM

    Considering that you and your DH own a construction business plus you are pretty successful at selling your beautiful jewelry at markets makes me believe that you tend to know what you are doing. Besides, life isn't always about playing it safe. Also, it seems that you have pretty good instincts and judgement when it comes to business so I'm sure you will do well. It may take some time for it to really get going but that means it will be successful! It's like the saying goes...Nothing ventured, Nothing Gained! I'm sorry your friends weren't more supportive but all of your Sparkie friends are rooting for you!! emoticonYou have a great personality and have a great way of communicating with people which is a big bonus!! No one wants to shop @ a store where the people who own it or work there are unfriendly and don't care about the customer.


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SIMPLELIFE4REAL 10/25/2010 8:52AM

You are so good at making other people feel they are heard and esteemed. That is a huge asset in the retail business. With a personality like that, how can you fail?

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RONIE11 10/24/2010 4:51PM

    Sometimes life's lessons are harder to think about then to actually learn.. I know that there are some of those friends that are just scared it could happen to them.. and would they have the vision you have in how to climb back up and out of this.. I think your new venture is exciting and wonderful. I know its hard but you really do need to not worry about what they think. There are just as many who believe in you and those are the ones who count the most right now..
I think you will like your life a bit more once you do shed the layers off.. We lived in the country for years we didn't have tv.. there weren't many homes with computers and we werent' one of them.. we got the radio in the car but not to great in the house.. we spent that time really getting to know ourselves and each other. I wouldn't trade that time for anything.. we have actually thought about selling and giving away most everything and buy a big RV when we retire.. we have so much junk its hard to realize how fast it adds up... Best of luck with your business. thanks for sharing your pictures.. Take Care.. Ronie

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JACKIE4019 10/24/2010 4:06PM

    I'ts so important to have good friend.

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BARBARAROSE54 10/24/2010 2:07PM

    wishing you all the best Bobbi

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BOOPSTER69 10/24/2010 1:28PM

    Good for you - stepping from the comfort zone into the unknown - you will be a tremendous success! emoticon emoticon

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VAMANOS 10/24/2010 1:12PM

    If you were a starry-eyed novice to business, I might worry about you also. Your friends have either forgotten that you are a veteran of starting businesses, or they have forgotten their own entrepreneurial roots. Which is too bad! What this country needs to re-start the economy is more people who are willing to dare to step up. Small businesses fuel a good economy.

What's the worst that could happen? As your last blog mentioned, you don't have a lot more to lose. I can tell you from personal experience that losing everything and starting over is liberating. Figuring out what comes next will keep you sharp and young. But you, my friend, will succeed. That's partly because of what others have already said...your personality will attract customers like a honeysuckle attracts bees. And partly because you're smart, have a good business head on your shoulders, and are prepared. You've thought it through. The very nature of your new business is in tune with the times.

I'll miss you when you don't have as much time to blog, but you'll be having the time of your life! Just remember to come back and tell us about it from time to time.


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SHERYLP461 10/24/2010 10:15AM

    I really feel that you will be successful, you have the empathy for other people that makes for a wonderful place to shop and visit. I have been to many of these types of places that seem to be so unfriendly that to visit one like you are making would be just heavenly!

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SUNNY332 10/24/2010 9:50AM

    It is going to be OK, my friend. I would imagine your friends just operate on the
more conservative side and also, the gallery does sound like "work" not play. They are just coming from a different perspective than you are right now. Hang in there and give it your best. I think it is going to be an awesome adventure and you are going to receive many blessings.

Wish I could be there for the Grand Opening (btw - when is that?) Also, e-mail me and let me know where it is located so I can tell my friend. She does want to come meet you and wish you well. She also has that house she & her husband bought to decorate so it could be a wonderful relationship for the both of you.

Love you,

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IUHRYTR 10/24/2010 9:39AM

    There are going to be doubts about starting a business in any economy but if you don't try, you don't succeed. Give it your best every day and always believe you will be successful. All the best to you. -- Lou

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MS.ELENI 10/24/2010 9:31AM

    i could be more supportive and I do try. I just am a big worry wart and worry about you. Foolish me as i know you can and will do whatever you set your mind to do. I look forward to seeing the store in Dec.

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MSLZZY 10/24/2010 7:40AM

    It is interesting when you see the disparity of the "haves" and the "have-nots"
and the amount of compassion displayed. It is almost like they can't understand why you would even put yourself in the position of trying to make your life better. You can't wait for life to hand you the brass ring-you have to grab it!
This is your attempt to be better and do more. Maybe in time, they will understand. For now, they are comfortable with their lives. But if the tables were turned, I am sure they would be trying something new as well.
Keep your happy humor and GO FOR IT! At least you can say you tried! HUGS!

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DOGSTARDADDY 10/24/2010 7:39AM

    hanks for sharing :)

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Having friends will make you healthier...I know THAT for sure, for sure!

Tuesday, October 19, 2010

emoticon So this morning while I was working on my jewelry in my upstairs studio I found I can no longer get HGTV in on my t.v. set...THAT is a MAJOR bummer! I love all things HGTV...I truly do..so I was stuck with the Today Show...which isn't bad either..and I heard their little segment on having friends and how it helps our health and happiness. AND...here's the BEST part...it doesn't really matter if they are human or vitual...so isn't that cool beans for people who live in remote areas??!! emoticon Annnnnddddd...hugs, and supportive advise really help too.

So of course, we Sparkies ALREADY knew this..but it's nice that it's been confirmed by a fancy smancy marketing company on national television eh? emoticon

I have to say my FAVORITE of all the emoticons is the hugs button and second to that the big smiley choppers! I now know that every time I sprinkle them across someone's page I'm contributing to their health and well being....GREAT feeling! emoticon

I had a nice salad for lunch and it was great getting back with my group of friends that are just now returning to their Florida Snowbird status. I've known these ladies for MANY years..one used to be our next door neighbor in Pelican Landing when we lived there. I'd say they are probably a good 20 years older than I am...but you'd never know it. We have the BEST conversations and I treasure their friendship SO much!

Here we are at The Island Club right behind the Trianon Hotel near Bonita Bay. It was such a BEAUTIFUL DAY!

After lunch I stopped by my dear friend's home who is suffering from stage 4 colon cancer. She was SO happy to see me. I took her a few fresh juicy ripe tomatoes that I had bought at the Farmer's Market this past Saturday. Her sweet daughter from Miami is staying with her pretty much full time now.... to my GREAT relief.

It is SO important that someone be with my friend most of the time. She is now taking Morphine for the pain, and although she can get up and move around it's very painful for her and she has to use her walker most of the time. She is so brave! I know the pain is excruciating, but she does her best to put on a happy face....big sad sigh...I feel SO bad...no one should have to endure that kind of pain...especially not someone I love so much!

There's nothing I can do other than pray for her, so please send your prayers along as well. She is one of the ONLY friends that I've ever had that I could share ANYTHING with and who would never want anything but the very best for me. How lucky I was to have come across someone like her in my life! I'm praying for a miracle...because I DO believe in miracles, they still happen every day!

Tomorrow afternoon we meet with the landlord to discuss final details on the gallery space for my furniture/accessories consignment shop. I know all of our friends think we have lost our last bean....but I think there is wonderment in being fearless...not that I'm totally without fear...I'm actually shivering in my shoes scared...but I'm also thinking what's the WORST that could happen...they are already taking our house away from us...I've lost my son...there's not too much more to lose, so if I'm going out in a flame...it may as well be a roaring BLAZE of GLORY! emoticon

It certainly won't be because I rolled up in the corner and played dead!! emoticon emoticon

On a positive ending note I've joined the Battle Warrior team at the suggestion of a dear
spark friend...it's an all OUT WAR...8 weeks of hitting it hard to lose those stubborn pounds...and I intend to gear up! emoticon

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CATHYGETSFIT 10/26/2010 1:07PM

    I am sending lots of positive thoughts towards your friend. I'm glad that your friends' daughter is staying with her full time now. She is going to need someone to be with her all the time. My aunt whom is dying of ovarian cancer just had her 70th birthday on Saturday and today is her anniversary. She sleeps most of the time now and only can keep down a half popsicle. She doesn't have the strength to even turn over in bed so her daughters have to turn her every 3 hours. It's just the pits what she and her family are all going through. My mom and her fiance as well as my grandpa and uncle went to see her on Saturday. I sent her a card along with a letter about our pets and what we are doing. So, please send positive thoughts and prayers her way. She is lucky to have a friend like you!!

I hope everything goes well with your new business venture and that you'll get to keep your house in the end.

The Spark team you just joined sounds interesting! I might just give it a try or check it out myself!

You are so right about friends!! Living out in the woods and not having anything in common with the people in this area makes me appreciate my Spark friends all that much more!! You are not only one of the people on here that I consider to be an emoticonfriend but my adopted Spark Mom!! emoticon emoticonCan't get much better than that!

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WENDYSPARKS 10/22/2010 1:58PM

    Good luck with the team!! You can do it!! Love your picture with your friends!! Beautiful Smile!!

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VAMANOS 10/22/2010 1:34PM

    Your first paragraph certainly struck a chord with me! I'm usually about as remote as you can get in a civilized country, and when I'm without internet for a week during relocation...as I have been until today...I miss my friends and family so much! Luckily I'm a glass-half-full kinda gal, so I don't get depressed actually, but I can definitely feel the lack of communication as a sort of half-panicked feeling.

You are one brave lady, I have to agree! I emoticon your attitude! I'll bet you'll have customers flocking to the store just to be with you! Hopefully, they'll open their wallets and buy, buy, buy. What a great time to open it, right before gift season! HURRY!!!!

Best wishes for a successful opening, and emoticon to your friend. Love and laughter create miracles, so make sure she gets plenty.

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VICIOUS421 10/21/2010 11:08PM

Way to go Warrior Woman!!!!!!!! You can do anything you set your mind to do!!!!!!!

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RUBYCLAIRE 10/21/2010 10:20PM

    Friends help with ones health, huh? Are they just finding this out? Heck, we've known that for eons!

I agree with you about your favorite emoticon, they are mine, too.

You ladies certainly are a lovely bunch. I'm so glad you were able to get together with your friends once again.

Lots of prayers going to your friend, her family AND to you!

By now you'll have already met with the landlord. I am praying that ALL went well for you, Bobbi.

Good luck with EVERYTHING!

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MUSTANG_SALLY2 10/21/2010 11:03AM

    I am so proud of you! You make me want to drive all the way from Michigan to Florida to see your gallery space and to check out your jewelry.

I can imagine the word spreading like wild fire about the super nice lady with the lovely new shop. And hey, if that wild fire helps along the blaze of glory, then so be it. I think the blaze will be like the Olympic torch that shines thru the dark world and leads people who need your loving touch over to your door. You're a great lady and I'm wishing you all the best!

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SUNNY332 10/21/2010 9:46AM

    Friends do make our lives complete. I am so glad you are a part of my life.

Thanks for a great post. Love the photo of you and your friends.

Hugs, Sunny

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ELLFIN3 10/20/2010 3:48PM

    I will add your friend to my prayer list and we will hope for a miracle!! I think your shop sounds wonderful! Enjoy the rest of your day!!!!! emoticon emoticon

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LIFE_IS_SO_GOOD 10/20/2010 1:53PM

    Glad you got together with your lady friends ... would have loved to have been a fly on the wall cause I bet there was so much laughter.

My prayers go out to your friend. Most people don't realize how painful cancer can be. I hope her doctor is giving her enough meds ... if not, maybe you or her daughter could insist on more for her. Pain should be manageable ... it's a quality of life issue and when one is in too much pain, one loses hope. Hope is needed for survival.


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FLASUN 10/20/2010 8:03AM

    I'm one to believe in Miracles too! Hoping everything goes well for your friend. Also everything goes well on your upcoming venture..wishing you the emoticon and like you said having virtual friends is so nice! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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CJSARGENT1 10/20/2010 1:33AM

    I will be praying for your friend and for your BIG step.

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PENNYAN45 10/20/2010 12:00AM

    I wish you well in your talks with the landlord. I hope that works out to your satisfaction. I've got my fingers crossed for you.

I completely agree about the value of friends. We are fortunate to have our close friends - and it is so hard to watch them suffer. It is good that your friend has her daughter with her now.

You are so right - when some of the worst that could happen has happened already, taking risks doesn't seem quite as difficult.

Good luck!!


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MSLZZY 10/19/2010 11:07PM

    I will be praying for your friend and you as well. You are so strong that God will
surely smile on you! HUGS!

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CHRYS13 10/19/2010 9:05PM

    Sending prayers of healing for your friend; and praying for you in your business venture, also! I know you can do this....it will be fabulous!

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MS.ELENI 10/19/2010 7:27PM

    Love the picture of you with your friends.Great looking gals.
If anyone can make it work you can. I will be in your area on the first weekend in December so I look forward to seeing your new venture. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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ELSEEBEE 10/19/2010 6:38PM

    Sending lots of love and prayers your way, Bobbi! How fortunate your friend is to have you as a friend! It is so hard to watch someone we love go through the dying process, but I hope when my time comes, I have someone as dear as you to be there for me.
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NANNER2121 10/19/2010 6:24PM

    Whew! That's a lotta info. But I love your closing: going out in a blaze of glory. Sounds more like "I'm not giving up, I'll fight till the end!" Josh would be proud of his Mom.

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DOGSTARDADDY 10/19/2010 5:55PM

    We love HGTV

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SIMPLELIFE4REAL 10/19/2010 5:46PM

You covered a lot of things in this blog! I find it very interesting that they are now saying that virtual friends are as good for one's health as "real" friends. That's pretty amazing.

I really feel for your friend and for you too. It's hard to see someone in pain. I'm glad she is getting morphine. I hope she is not afraid of taking too much of it or becoming addicted. It's really not an issue at this point in her life and she needs to be taking as much as she can tolerate to help ease the pain. She needs to be encouraged to not be afraid of the pain medication if she is having any doubts about that.

I love the way you describe your desire to charge ahead rather than curl up in a corner. You are right!

What a great picture with your friends! They look like a very nice group of ladies and you look very happy to be among them.

Have a great day!
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SIOUXSIE-Q 10/19/2010 5:45PM

    Thank you for sharing your blog post. It is so hard to find friends that you can share every secret with; they are indeed special. My prayers are with your friend as she goes through this difficult time.



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WENDYSPARKS 10/19/2010 5:35PM

    Nice reading your blog!! I will pray for your friend. Good luck with the consignment shop...that sounds fun to me!! Love the picture of you with your friends...love seeing you on Spark too!! Enjoy the day and talk more soon!!

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ANGELCOWBOY1 10/19/2010 5:06PM

    Bobbi - I'm praying for you and your new venture. And I LOVE your smile in the photo with your friends. You are one beautiful lady - inside and out!


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BARBARAROSE54 10/19/2010 4:59PM

    emoticon emoticon continued prayers for you on your new venture and for you friend who is suffering.

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