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Now THIS is MY kind of exercise! :-))

Friday, July 25, 2014

emoticon If I'm going to exercise I have to coerce myself into it! It has to be something I really LOVE and something that is fun to do at the same time.

Tonight's meet up with our big dinner group covered both bases beautifully.

We joined the group at one couples Golf Club clubhouse for a nice evening of dinner and dancing with a Margarita~ville theme. emoticon

YAY...for Jimmy Buffet...I'm a BIG PARROT~HEAD from way back!

I had to do some closet digging to find a tropical themed top and some serious additional digging through my jewelry to find the perfect pair of pink flamingo earrings and a matching pink flamingo pin. How I remembered I STILL have these crazy items...don't ask me! emoticon

I had just recently completed a huge closet purge and gave away lots of my tropical print tops...but still managed to pull off the typical tacky tourist look for this great theme.

It was SO much fun! A big buffet where I selected mostly shrimp done several different ways. Steamed, and herbed shrimpers made up the biggest portion of my plate with a little splurge of two coconut shrimp and a yummy mango sauce.

Some terrific steamed veggies and a chicken leg and a tiny little slider without the bun.

I skipped the dessert table and had fresh mango and some pineapple chunks with melon for my dessert. I am so proud of myself that I can now look at dozens of other rich desserts from fellow friends all around me at the table and not be tempted. Sugar is my enemy...it just sets me off and I want to eat the entire house down. It's taken me a good long time to learn this...but FINALLY I get it! Do you know that sugar is 5 times MORE addictive than cocaine...believe it! emoticon

No drinks...just a virgin mango margarita and lots of fresh ice water with lemon slices.

Then the BEST part... the exercise...lots and lots of dancing! Now this is the kind of exercise I thrive on...if only I could lure myself into this great mood with ALL my exercise...I might actually be skinny! emoticon

And speaking of skinny...this is SO funny! My one friend that I've known for many many years and have secretly started calling 'Sally Superficial' (to myself of course) in our group just got back from a big trip to Russia.

I was SO excited to hear ALL about it. I wanted to know all about the Russian Amber (you know I'm a jewelry designer...so stones from foreign countries are always on my mind), the architecture...the food, the weather...tell me...tell me!

My friend mentioned 3 things about her entire two weeks over there.

#1 on her report and I guess A#1 on her radar....was that the Russian women over there were ALL very, very thin...in fact here in America we'd probably call them anorexic. Most of them wore dresses (the big fashion fad now) and extremely HIGH heels.

She and her husband felt safe where ever they traveled even on the trains.

She usually mentions this safety thing to me coming off of any foreign travel...as a personal little dig...because I'm always telling her to be careful when traveling.

Believe me I've been with her when she blunders down dark alleys wearing a HUGE diamond ring totally oblivious of her surroundings.

I had so many years of security drilled into my head working in banking and I'm constantly shocked at how careless some tourists can be... then wonder why they have been robbed or worse. emoticon Thank heavens is all I can say they are back again safely...and breathe a big ole' sigh of relief!

Oh...and the city...it was very, very clean.

HUH... emoticon this is your vacation review???? This is THE number one item you can't wait to tell me about....this is what you most pay attention to on a TWO week trip to one of the most fantastical architectural dream cities in the world.... How skinny the women are...you're killing me here! emoticon

It's no wonder I lost interest in the entire conversation within the first 5 minutes!

I've got to tell you...have I really changed that much since this woman used to be my BEST~EST friend in the whole entire universe?

Was I truly THAT superficial then...they say you attract what you reflect. Have I changed THAT much in the 20+ years that I've known her...that I don't even think I recognize her now with the things that most impress her?

How skinny Russian women are would be about the LAST thing I'd ever notice on a trip that awesome...really, really it would.

Maybe they just dance a lot over there...what do you think? emoticon

  
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GRACEOMALLEY 7/27/2014 11:38PM

    You did very well and dancing is my favorite. I can do cardio dancing while I clean, to wake me up in the morning and just because the music makes me happy.Dance away and enjoy it!
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TSISQUAUSDI 7/27/2014 9:50PM

    Dancing makes your body smile! Glad you had a great time. As for your friend, I certainly don't know what part of Russia she was visiting, but the women pretty much look like they do here. I suppose if someone where to only visit the very nicest parts of New York or LA, they'd probably say the same thing. Funny, but there are a lot of Russian people here in Sanford, including my vet and his wife, and I know of only one that's thin and pretty, and one other that's just thin......Go figure..... emoticon

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JAZZEJR 7/27/2014 2:04AM

    Bobbi, you are soooo funny! I too am a travel buff and love to experience different cultures, and there are so many aspects of culture to explore (the weight of the women not being one of them...never thought to even notice that. Is your friend over 50? Strange.....) Anyway, your night out sounds like so much fun, and you were SO good with your eating choices. BIG pat on the back, Girl! At least you have interesting parties to attend with your friends!

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LYNCHD05 7/26/2014 7:41PM

    You are one smart cookie with your food and drink choices. Love dancing too!!!!

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JSEATTLE 7/26/2014 7:38PM

  I love to dance for exercise too! Glad you had fun at your party. Love shrimp and Jimmy too.

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BARBARAROSE54 7/26/2014 6:22PM

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SPARKLINGME176 7/26/2014 4:19PM

    This is why I LOVE ZUMBA so much! An hour dancing & 700-1,000 calories per hour! emoticon

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BONNIEMARGAY 7/26/2014 2:53PM

    You are so good at having wonderful adventures!

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MSTWOMOONS002 7/26/2014 2:26PM

    Hi Bobbi emoticon emoticon


Glad you had fun with friends that dancing really sounded fun, I like Jimmy Buffet & Margarita-ville. As for your dear friend, you've changed from the inside out over the past 8 months You are different the FMD changed you, really.

You get the life you allow, You are a wonderful beautiful kind caring person you changed your metabolism, your energy & light-ness. You are in touch with your owl spirit guides Owls are wise, and so are you.

Take care dear friend, be well live the life you want to live healthy & happy.

Many Blessings Always Debby emoticon emoticon

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PICKIE98 7/26/2014 2:03PM

    It is oh-so obvious that this woman did not see the real Russia. they must have only gone in the big cities, never looked up at the stunning architecture and museums!! A highlight of any trip is to explore the countryside and museums, markets, shops, to get a sense of everyday life.. not caviar and clothing!!!!!!

I would have made a beeline for a mine or some sort of fossil place to get my peepers on some of that beautiful amber!! I saw some in the Smithsonian in the "60's" during the Cold War that had been smuggled here by somebody for the culture end of it.Stunning! The fossils were perfect and the striated colors were eye-popping!! (ramble to self:hmmm, wonder if it is still there..?)

Bobbi, your life changes in the past eight years, have been a re-birth for you and your hubster. You have floated back down to earth, gotten to where you are enjoying gifts, not entitlement.. That treasure is greater than anything your rich "acquaintances" own.
Josh was the pilot guiding you to that place you are now.. What a blessing he gave you..

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BIGPAWSUP 7/26/2014 1:19PM

    Just keep being you and have FUN. I agree on the vacation report.

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GOOZLEBEAR 7/26/2014 12:21PM

    Sounds like a fabulous evening. I use to love to dance but don't do much of it anymore. It is great exercise!!!
I agree, if I ever get to Russia, I don't think I will notice how skinny the women are!!!!

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OLDERDANDRT 7/26/2014 12:14PM

    Dancing was my fav. exercise when I was in college. I blew up like a balloon when I graduated. It was when my dancing came to a close. Duh! It is a great thing! I went to college when the bump was the fad dance and I love, love, loved it! I was 104 pounds dripping wet at the time!! NIce! It do burn some serious calories!
Funny your friend was only interested in skinny Russian girls. hehe In this day and age and all that's going on over there, it would be one of the last places on earth I'd want to be no matter the size of their ladies!! hehe
Glad you enjoyed your evening and ate so well!! You still losing poundage? Have a great day and keep up the great work! (((HUGS)))

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SIMPLELIFE4REAL 7/26/2014 12:13PM

    Dinner and dancing is so much fun! I've come to realize most of those pretty looking desserts look a lot better than they actually taste. Fruit usually tastes SO MUCH better.
Hugs,
Kay

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NILLAPEPSI 7/26/2014 7:15AM

    So glad you had a great time! If you have a pic anywhere, we wanna see it. emoticon

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REGILIEH 7/26/2014 1:07AM

    I wish you had posted a picture of how cute I know you looked!

People are really weird! Everyone I know that have been or lived in Russia always talk about the architecture, it is always #1.

So glad you had such a great time with your dinner group and I'm sure your least favorite person didn't go if she were even invited.

A good time before you have to go on your MIL/SIL trip!

Hugs!

Anne

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DS9KIE 7/26/2014 12:09AM

    that is crazy and odd that you only notice the people only and not all the other stuff

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EJOY-EVELYN 7/26/2014 12:05AM

    You did fabulous at Margarita~ville not only eat and drink perfectly well, but to work out to the Jimmy Buffet atmosphere on the dance floor. What a great workout . . . and fun too!

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Sometimes when things seem a little stinky...you get a wonderful lift...from a MOST surprising place

Wednesday, July 23, 2014

emoticon Such a NICE telephone call last night from our favorite lawyer at Ice Legal...one of the PREMIER legal firms in foreclosure defense in FL.

As you who follow my blogs know...I LOVE to write!

Why I can't get my act together and do it for a living I'll never know. I guess I'm a little self esteem challenged...if I ever finished a book...would it be GOOD enough...do I know enough about writing and subject matter to have people actually WANT to read it...ALL the way through?

What if it fell flat on it's face? THEN what would I do...I may never write again and THAT would absolutely KILL me...after all...writers write. emoticon

It sometimes seems easier just to converse with you...sharing my life on the day to day and my hopes, my fears, my wishes my dreams. emoticon Spark to me...is MUCH beyond just weight loss and good health for the body...it's jam packed with food for the MIND and the psyche and the friendship that it includes...yes, even if it comes through the cosmos...we STILL connect...and I think sometimes ..better than face to face. emoticon

I've gotten so close to so many of you since 2009 and I must say I totally LOVE a huge majority my friends here! emoticon I think I've only met a few stinkers in all that time!

I always think that somewhere out there in SparkLand something I say to you or something you say to me will really make a difference...really SPARK ... that spark lightbulb to brighten with an "A~HA" moment and we'll BOTH be better for the insight.

And...yes it's true...I am always editing...sometimes I'll go back and edit a blog that is weeks old just to make it read more clearly...the most important thing is the connection of the thoughts...word by word by word. emoticon

I'm a deeply spiritual humanoid...not particularly religious...having grown up Southern Baptist I got indoctrinated in religion a LOT from very early childhood. My mother was absolutely resolute that we go to church as much as possible. Monday night prayer meetings, Tuesday night, candle services, Wednesday night bible study, then of course Sunday 2 times...once for the morning service and then again for the evening service.

My best friends grandparents were the pastor and pastoress of our little church 'Central Bible' and they adopted me in the best Christian way as their little grandchild since both of my grandparents on both sides of my family had passed on before I ever got to enjoy them.

I definitely believe in church and religion and I definitely believe that the weekly meetings of reverence and community and the doing of good deeds brings a comfort and a familiarity to what our mission should be here on earth.

BUT...I've also seen many 'good Christians' that are hiding behind the role and use their station to smoke screen the whole' holier than thou' attitude they REALLY have and that's why I pulled back from the dogma and phoniness of it all when I could make my own choices a long time ago.

I believe you can DEFINITELY be a good Christian without having to make a show of it. Many people don't go to church just because they want to gather and receive the blessings...they go for the 'look at me' aspect of it too. I'm only addressing those that go for less than charitable reasons...and you yourself...I know have born witness to this I'm sure.

My grandparents were not in the picture because my mother married very late in life...at least for the 50's.... she was a die hard career woman (photo-journalist) and most likely never planned on marriage in the first place, her go go career was her focus. (she didn't marry until age 36)-definitely considered an 'old maid' during that era and I doubt she ever planned on motherhood (age 38). But when she met my daddy...all bets were off. He was a 'charmer' and beyond that had been married before..something my mother would have never considered with her prim and proper religious background. Don't even ask me why..there's NO good explanation to explain this way of thinking. emoticon

So I was an over indulged spoiled rotten to the core little kid that was VERY appreciated...maybe even OVER appreciated and actually suffocated... brought up to think I could do ANYTHING. I had a mother who pushed me to the hilt on literary achievements believing that knowledge and education were the true riches in the world.

She took me to the library when I was still a toddler and later the Library of Congress where she worked after her photo-jounalist career was put on the back burner for motherhood. My mother was a complicated and multi faceted woman...try as hard as she did...I'm not sure she ever really adjusted to life at home instead of out in the field covering new breaking news.

Maybe those field trips to the library and our Library of Congress excursions helped her satisfy that need of hers to be in the know...regardless....I'm SO happy that she did this and honestly...it's the VERY best thing you can do for YOUR kids!

Teach them at an early age that knowledge IS power...and the appreciation for words and books and stories and adventures you read about can only benefit little lives and imaginations too! I traveled all over the world as a child...even if only in book form. I used to check out encyclopedias and carry the BLASTED heavy things home from school with me for the sheer wonder of learning something new each night! emoticon

When we went to the library I was shown how to wash my hands and to turn the pages of a book at the top and NEVER EVER EVER dog~ear a page or heaven FORBID highlight or underline in a book because that would spoil it for someone else in the future.

Books were meant to be shared and passed around to as many people as possible on this earth because they are truly a gift...much as music is!

My mother had a formidable reading list for me...all and most of the classics:

'The Little Prince'
'Uncle Tom's Cabin'
'The Wind in the Willows'
'Gone with the Wind'
'Wuthering Heights'
'Anna Karenina'
'To Kill A Mockingbird'
Pride and Prejudice'
'Tom Sawyer'
'Treasure Island'
'Oh the Places you'll go'
'Jonah and the Whale'
'The Great Gatsby' which I read in one marathon setting refusing food and drink throughout the entire book...it was THAT arresting to me!
Tons of Dickens
Sheves of Melville and Edna o'Brien, and Henry James. She even encouraged me to read Poe which always gave me nervous but exciting goose bumps because he was so wild and strange and weird and wonderful!

Don't you think that ALL great artists are a little crazy to the literal world...it's what makes them so VERY special!

This may well be...why many of my friends accuse me of owning my own library right within the walls of our home.

I just can't part with my books anymore than I could part with my soul. Some day I will go through them and put some of them in our consignment gallery so others can buy them and hopefully love them as much as I have! emoticon No sense sitting on something so grand when others need to enjoy the adventures between the covers.

My latest and all time FAVORITE in QUITE sometime has been 'The Goldfinch' by Donna Taart...I have serious writer envy for this author's VAST talents. She can put together paragraphs that make me set her book down and clap emoticon .

If I ever met her in person...I'd have to make a grand sweeping curtsy and bow to her skill. Her books are DELICIOUS...and maybe that's why she only puts one out roughly every 10 years.

She wants every sentence to be perfect and every bit of research to be flawless!

AND....that's all she really has to produce for the sums she garners...try 1.5 million for her first book published "The Secret History"....I'm reading it now and it's good but NOTHING like the Goldfinch...if you get the chance to snap up this book...DO!

You will read until your eyes bleed! emoticon

Anyhow...ramblings as usual...but you now know why I love to write so much and why I do it so frequently. I also LOVE to read...all great writers MUST be good readers and I love to read your blogs and share in the adventures and challenges you go through... the day to day ritual of having a life. emoticon emoticon

There are some INCREDIBLE characters out there in Sparksville...~ you know who you are... emoticon and the more complicated and the more misunderstood you might feel you are......well...that's what makes you absolutely more interesting and absolutely SPECIAL to me!

It takes a very honest and hardy person to revel your true self...especially in this world of superficiality...but...I say... if you are a phony baloney what can possibly be interesting in fake...that's the question of the day. emoticon

Why are people so very concerned with what OTHER people think...who cares...there is not one single person on the planet that is better than another...not one! Maybe a little luckier...about being in the right place at the right time...or born to a station that gives them a 'leg up'...but better...NO! emoticon

So...at last to the subject of my blog...last night I was working on our books for the gallery...what a job...and I got a telephone call from our FAVORITE lawyer at the legal firm that is representing us on our 'save our home' fight.

I had written them an e-mail about the fabulous new logo (an owl) on their website. I pay close attention to their website because I can watch videos on their newest appeals for homeowners to the higher courts for homeowners that have been treated so shabbily by the state courts.

It's good to stay in the know!

They recently upgraded their website you can see it at IceLegal.com with this AWESOME new image of an owl.

I wrote a blog about this a while back and the owl has a very particular and significant meaning to us.

Well...they loved the e-mail and asked for permission to use some of it on their website. Pretty inspiring huh? Remember they have this website put together by the TOP marketers in the nation...and that they noticed MY e-mail and want to use a little of it...is pretty sweet! emoticon They don't know what and how much they will use...they aren't even sure when it will be utilized...but they asked my permission to use certain parts and of course I was VERY flattered and said YES...use whatever you wish.

Here's what I wrote....sorry this is so bloody long...I just can't seem to shorten what I want to say! emoticon I need a very good editor! emoticon AND I need to ponder longer on just what the RIGHT word is for EVERY word..instead of just spilling things out willy nilly.

NEW CHALLENGE! emoticon

Oh gosh...it says no html...whatever THAT means...must do some technical work here! Golly gosh...good thing I'm a FAST typer...had to retype the whole darn thing...I yak TOO much! emoticon

July 4, 2014

Dear Mr. Ice:

I am so grateful that we have had your wonderful firm's counsel for about the last 3 years on our foreclosure defense! Thank you for the bottom of my dear husband's and my heart!

I often check in with your website to see your latest appeals and am SO proud of seeing our Ms. Amanda in action! She is so powerful when she presents for homeowner's rights and their future well being while fighting for their rights to stay in the homes they so dearly love. Amanda is truly our angel because she agreed to take on our case when I contacted her after reviewing the Pino case. We think our case is VERY similar to Mr. Pinos. We also adore Mr. Randy because he is so fearless and so dedicated to his clients and his cause and he truly cares like no other for his client's and their security!

This 4th of July is one more holiday we get to celebrate in our beloved home and it's truly 'freedom' for us in the biggest sense of the word.

But...the reason I SO love your new website now is because the owl that you have chosen is SO MEANINGFUL to my husband and I. It also seems so serendipitous in our journey. I wanted to share our story with you.

We lost our son Joshua in this very home when he as only a tender 22 years of age. He had his whole life in front of him and he wanted to be a documentary filmmaker. He was planning on attending Full Sail college in Orlando that fall. Believe me, if he were still here...our foreclosure ripoff story would be documented for the world to see. As business owners with a deep history in our community I'm not sure if that would have good or bad for us...but Josh would have put the story to film no matter.

Josh did a stupid, stupid thing while we were away from the home on a cruise with friends celebrating our 28th wedding anniversary.

He had a big party at the house (which he was told DISTINCTLY not to do) and he died of an accidental overdose on Coriceden (an over the counter cold medication).

He had taken up with a kid just a few months before that we had never met even though I had repeatedly asked to meet him.

Josh knew I would immediately know this kid was no good and do everything I could to keep him out of Josh's life. But this never happened..the kid came to the party, dared Josh to take a full bottle of pills according to the story we got from other friends...and it's all just sorrowful history at this point, 8 years later.

BUT we LOVE our home so VERY much and feel that we are still close to Josh by being able to go into his room when we want to. It's weird to some, but comforting to us and that's why we have fought so hard to hang onto our homestead, it's more than a house...it's Josh's home and memories of happier times as a family together.

BUT...the thing I wanted to tell you about the significance of your new website and the owl is that when we truly felt we could not go forward in life due to the the depth of saddness and sorrow over losing Josh..the gift of two great horned owls..a pair actually..came to to us and they were SO comforting during that immediate year after we lost him. Then ..boom..here they show up again on our mighty lawyer's website..it MUST be for a reason right?

Our home backs up to 26 acres of Florida wetlands. We had never seen the great horned owls before and actually after that year they came to visit us EVERY single night at twilight settling right in a big cypress tree only about 10 feet from our back lanai..we've never seen them again.

Call me crazy..but I really think that Josh wanted us to see these exquisite and beautiful birds in a pair..as a symbol..that we still had each other to lean on even with the loss of our beautiful uber talented only child.

I'd hoot up at them and they'd hoot back down at me. Seriously, no joke...they did not fly away and my hooting is AWFUL! I do believe in Animal Spirit Guides and I feel that seeing this majestic owl on your website is once again a sign that all is going to be well for us and we shall prevail.

You couldn't have picked a BETTER representation of what your firm does. The owl is so mighty and graceful and powerful and tenacious... I thought you might enjoy the following:

My Animal Spirit Guide book says to call on owl when~ (I think this perfectly applies to us right now).

"You're facing a difficult decision, one that has considerable consequences, and you want to make the decision that will reap the best benefits for all concerned.

You want to be more discerning about someone as to what is true, and what is illusion or deception.

You're going through a rather dark period in your life and need some help navigating through it. AMEN to that one!

You've undertaken a new and challenging course of study and want to increase your confidence in your ability to learn this new material.

You want to uncover the hidden qualities, talents, and aspects in yourself and bring them into the light."

All of those radiate EXACTLY what we needed to know right now..perhaps once again those comforting owls are being brought to our attention for a good reason.

The book goes on to say..when the owl is your power animal~as it applies to you now perhaps..(now that you have chosen it for your website).

"You typically see what others don't see, and hear what others don't hear, and are able to discern the truth behind any falsehoods.

You're an old soul and have an inherent wisdom that continues to expand as you age.

You have a finely tuned awareness and sensitivity to others.

One of your greatests gives is being able to foresee the future.

I just wanted to share our little story with you and let you know how meaningful your new logo is to us and how much we truly appreciate your tireless fight for war weary homeowners like us. Without you we'd be nothing and most likely sitting on the curb!!

Thank you and Happy 4th of July!

Don & Bobbi

I'm hoping to attach some pics of the two owls we enjoyed so much. I never could catch them as a pair sitting side by side...but they often were.





and...just because I never get tired of sharing him...here's a pic of our brilliant, creative, loving son Josh who I truly think sent those owls to his dad and I as a symbol that we had each other and he is ALWAYS with us..now just in a different way. Thank you for indulging a mother's loving heart. :-))

  
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CATHYGETSFIT 7/27/2014 3:12AM

    You write such awesome blogs! You should write your book!! I've read some bad authors and if they can get published then so can you!

That is so cool that the legal team wants to use some of your thoughts and ideas on their website!! Hopefully they'll put a little more effort in your case!

Keeping my fingers crossed that the work you and your lawyers have put into this case pays off in spades in the end!

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Your virtual daughter

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JAZZEJR 7/27/2014 2:14AM

    Girl, you KNOW you can write! Who are you kidding--it seems to just cascade off your fingers. Interesting life you've led. Your mother sounds fascinating. One Sparker said on your page that you should have sold real estate. I think your sparkling, open personality allows you the versatility to do what ever you want. Why don't you just start putting your blogs in one place on your computer, and let them grow into a book. You can have a different folder for each topic, which will organize it somewhat into "chapters." You can always copy/paste to us here. Think about it. emoticon

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DS9KIE 7/25/2014 11:56PM

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SPARKLINGME176 7/24/2014 11:22AM

    In my mind you are an amazing writer! How about just turning ALL of your blogs to day into a book? They are already edited, right? LOL

Go for it, my friend.... all your volumes from your save your home fight, could REALLY help someone! I KNOW you love to help!

Love you!
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SNOWFLAKELILYM9 7/24/2014 12:00AM

    Bobbi, I love your blogs so much and this one gave me goose bumps. I always feel like I am sitting across the table from you having coffee when I read your blogs. You are an amazing and gifted writer and I would be the first in line to read any book you wrote and to start with if you wrote a book about your house struggle I think it would be a best seller.

Thank you for posting this blog and sharing the story about the owls.They are so beautiful and what an absolute gift you were given to have the come to your yard, and visit you every night at twilight!!! I know the Lord sends gifts like that along our way to comfort us and I read what a great comfort they were to you, and now your lawyers have them on the website too.

How wonderful that the law firm asked to use your blog.

Margaret

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GOING-STRONG 7/23/2014 10:06PM

    Bravo! Bobbi, you are great at short stories.... that my friend is your forte!

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JUDYAMK 7/23/2014 9:46PM

    Oh Bobbi you are one wonderful awesome person, you are so beautiful within the very depth of your soul!!
Judy

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TSISQUAUSDI 7/23/2014 7:51PM

    Girl, I love your blogs, and your writing style. Write a book - Seriously! So what if it bombs - at least you wrote a book! One of my very favorite authors (and now, friend!) is Martha Lou Perritti - She is a "lost child" of the Tsalagi, like me, and she's written a series of books about her family and her life - Awesome historical novels. Please take a few minutes to check out her website, and read at least one of her books. Her first book, "Standing Against the Wind" is a good place to start. I just know Martha Lou will inspire you to write that first book - Who knows what you can do from there? Love you - Mean it!

http://www.marthalouperritt
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OLDERDANDRT 7/23/2014 7:17PM

    Bobbi, How wonderful! I hope now that they have this insight into y'all, and love that you love their owl motif, the wheels of justice will roll a bit faster in the right direction for you! I know you were not "buttering them up", but if it worked, all's the better, I say!!
Still praying for you on the save your home plight!! Without ceasing! (((HUGS)))

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SIMPLELIFE4REAL 7/23/2014 7:08PM

    Wonderful letter Bobbi! I'm so happy for you that they want to use part of it on their website. That's awesome. I also think that it means they will pay closer attention to your case and want to have a good outcome with it. It's all good!

You are a wonderful writer....as you know. When I read your blogs, I always feel like we are sitting in the kitchen talking!

Hugs,
Kay

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BIGPAWSUP 7/23/2014 6:56PM

    Wow thanks for the incite in your childhood.

Congrats on the call and email.

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GRACED777 7/23/2014 4:57PM

    I too may end up writing more than my blog here and my occasional blogspot blog (address below). It just hasn't happened yet. I get something to write, write it, and wait till something else strikes me. So far, nothing has gone together enough to go too far. Meanwhile, I'm still getting life experience that I'm hoping will come together at the right time. If I work when it comes together, it works. Otherwise I don't even like it myself, let alone think anyone else should read it.

That's neat about the legal firm wanting permission to use some of what you wrote, friend! emoticon

Thank you also for sharing part of your story. That takes courage. You and your husband are more than survivors, Bobbi. You have been learning to thrive through some of the worst pain imaginable. That is worth sharing! Have a great rest of the week, friend! emoticon

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LYNCHD05 7/23/2014 4:56PM

    Love your blogs Bobbi.........you certainly know how to express your thoughts and share them with us....good job !!!

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BARBARAROSE54 7/23/2014 4:30PM

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PICKIE98 7/23/2014 3:53PM

    Fantastic blog..

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JSEATTLE 7/23/2014 3:49PM

  I admire your ability to put your deepest thoughts into writing. Looking forward to your next post.

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MSTWOMOONS002 7/23/2014 3:41PM

    Writer, artist extraordinaire I hope you'll write your book I'll buy it. Now I'll keep checking the site you mentioned to see what they included from your letter. I am amazed they are doing this, this is a sign for sure. If you were waiting for a sign, here's Your sign, go for it.

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You sooooo need to write a book!

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BONNIEMARGAY 7/23/2014 2:35PM

    Wishing you a miracle, gorgeous!

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REGILIEH 7/23/2014 2:11PM

    Oh dear wonderful Bobbi!

Write your book and I will be first in line to buy it and read it! You are such a special person and you need to share yourself with at the very least America!

I'm so glad you sent that email, believe me you do have thier attention and more than ever they would not want to let you down.

Love you!

Hugs!

Anne

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GRACEOMALLEY 7/23/2014 1:13PM

    I love it that they contacted you and want to use some of what you wrote! Good job, lady!
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MPARKER67 7/23/2014 12:54PM

    May your home fight succeed.

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FIT4MEIN2013 7/23/2014 11:57AM

    LOL! I, too, write and have been urged to write books (weight loss/health/ late husband's memoir/medical thriller), but am too terrified of failing. Perhpas we should both kick our butts about writing now!


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Don't you just HATE it when things are beyond your understanding?

Sunday, July 20, 2014

emoticon Oh boy the Iowa trip is only a week or so in front of us. WHY am I dreading it so much? It's nothing new...I ALWAYS dread that trip and it's completely beyond my understanding on developing coping mechanisms to make it easier. I've tried removing myself from the triggers that set me off and that seems to be my best defense. But it makes DH mad that I draw a line in the sand about how much I will allow myself to be manipulated. I don't GET this! emoticon

What do you do when two people just...can't think of a better word to buffer this...hate you?

Only because you love the same person they do...well I have to back that up and say only one of them really does....or at least she claims she does...but the actions she presents towards the person he loves tells me different. Maybe she loves what he can do for her. I've never in my 36 years of marriage seen her offer any assistance or motherly support to him. The sister of my DH has no love in her heart for anyone. It's sad beyond belief to me.

This situation started when I began dating DH. A LONG, LONG, LONG time ago...37 years ago as a matter of fact.... and it has continued to seethe under cover for SO many years that at this point in time...I'm sure that MIL and SIL don't even remember the cause of it all. But it's absolutely there...and the added years of resentment on both ends of our relationship seem to just make it fester and boil into a bigger bru~ha~ha each and every time we have to see them.

I've said before that this jealousy was never particularly focused on just me...or at least when I first came into the picture...it was plainly distributed to any other women in DH's life before I came on board.

I remember being shocked emoticon absolutely SHOCKED when MIL pulled out photos to show me of my DH in earlier years and there was no mistake that any girlfriends he had at that time... who happened to be in the pics with him had had their heads cut off and out of the pictures! Is this normal...I think NOT. emoticon Is this pretty malicious....I think SO...should it have been an ominous warning of what I had in store for me in the future...you betcha! emoticon What does DH has to say about this...not much. He's pretty blind when it comes to any transgressions of his mother. It makes me incredibly sad that such a vile character gets nothing but excuses...because...after all...SHE...IS...his mother.

This makes no sense to me and causes a big rift between the two of us. Its passive aggressive behavior towards me....in full color. He resents his mother as much as I do...she makes him as miserable as she makes me...but he can't admit or comprehend this...because after all...she IS his mother.....so he directs that anger and frustration at me. Again....I just don't GET this...and it's very sad indeed.

And..... what do you do in an instance such as this? You really have no defense against someone who has decided you are an interference in their control of a child (now beyond fully grown) that they have manipulated and laid claim to and have decided that no one else should have any part of.

I do have to give DH credit for moving us far far away. But the undercurrents and the control manipulation still occur each and every Sunday over the telephone. How he can listen to all of that griping and whining is a complete mystery to me. When he hangs up the phone he is irritable and jumpy and guess who catches the brunt of THAT sour mood...me...so she is STILL....of course weaving her bad ju~ju from over 1800 miles away. It's discouraging and disgusting at the same time...more often than nought...like today... the rest of our day is ruined.

In our early days of marriage it was the wrangling over the house that his grandfather willed to him and he spent money on to make it habitable for his mother to live in. Then sister moved in and they have lived together ever since. I can't abide in a mother who is so needy and controlling that she would 'guilt' her own daughter into sacrificing a life of her own just to take care of her...but it happened...his sister is now 58 years old...never dated...never had anyone to call her own...just mother! How sad is that...no wonder his sister is as mean as a junk yard dog! emoticon

She isn't nearly as effective about hiding her sentiments toward her brother and me as his mother who loves to play the poor victim is. But believe me...I DO know people and I do know the games they are so good at...his mother is every bit as jealous and as resentful...she's just better at hiding it...in my book that's even more dangerous. I call a spade a spade...at least they know where they stand. His mother is a round the bend...down the rocky road...but still she gets what she wants when she wants it. Mainly that is to cause grief between DH and me...she's always made him feel like he needs to pick a side...and sadly it's usually hers. emoticon

If that was his sisters ACTUAL wish to spend the rest of her life babysitting his mother...then thats fine...but I think it was the master control of guilt thing myself...and although Dh argues that his sister only did it for her own interests I can't buy into that argument. If you EVER met his mother you'd know this little lady has 'TOTAL manipulation by guilt' down pat! She still is a master of it over DH and it just makes me sad to see how he buys into it.

One would think the MIL and SIL would be very happy to have lived in a house free of rent for the many years they did. But when he told them they would have to take over the modest payment on their own once we married...because he'd have his own obligations in providing a shelter for his new family...this is probably when the hatred for me REALLY throttled up. How dare me for stealing away their meal ticket! emoticon

We were under a constant barrage of complaints about this is wrong and THAT is wrong with the house and you need to fix this for us and THAT for us. You need to pick me up and take me here..and there. Exhausting!

I'd get so upset over their sense of entitlement...but even beyond that it was never enough...they always had their eyes on the next upcoming prize ...the prize of MORE. I can't even imagine how his sister will be on his back this year about the bad roof on the place they are living in now...or the gripes and complaints about how their neighborhood has run down. After all...THEY chose this place after giving us grief for YEARS on how bad their last house was...like I said...if they aren't griping..their mouth isn't moving. emoticon

We got so sick these constant and continual complaints that he finally just GAVE them the house thinking that would make them happy. As you know...these types are NEVER happy...it's just off to the next thing.

What do you do with people who are NEVER grateful or satisfied with the goodness that other people show them? What do you say about a sister so full of hate and resentment towards her father for leaving that crazy house and starting a new life that she refused to go see him on his death bed. That kind of hatefulness is very, very scary to me. That kind of anger makes me feel unsafe in their house. emoticon It comes from both of them...they feed off of each other...one is just better about putting on the victim mask. emoticon

But....I love the man...and honestly can't even believe he CAME from this heritage...so I just wonder and worry and fret about what will happen in the future. When his mother dies will he become as bitter as she is? Will he pick up the complaining and whining traits he falls victim to enduring every Sunday when he has to listen to her rail on about how miserable she is and how this is wrong and that is wrong....gosh I sure hope not! I just can't relate to weepy sorry for themselves women...my line of women were all strong and self sustaining. He described his grandmother as being this way though she was gone before I met DH. He even blames his mother's back boneless ways on his grandmother....come on! My mom was pretty domineering also...that may well be the reason I left the home and married at age 16...but I surely didn't stick around to blame my 'take care of poor little me' ways on her! Can't buy this argument either. emoticon

I don't know...it's sad to even think about. We argue about his mother and the guilt strings she pulls every time we go back there. We argue and quibble about the anticipation of the stress she brings out in each of us.

There may be those that say...just ignore it...but I've never been one to ignore things I don't think are right. Especially when it involves ME! This situation absolutely involves ME...it also involves the one that I love more than any one human being on this planet. I hate to see someone manipulated so wrongly just by the mere sake that they can...claiming title to it by the name mother. It's his life...but the bad moods it brings on surely affects me every bit as much as it does him.

This woman did nothing to raise him...he was primarily raised by his grandmother while she was out running the bars. The only great memories he has of her was that she'd take him to a Sunday matinee when he was a kid. I don't get it...I guess it's totally his choice...after all she IS his mother as he's sure to point out to me when I tell him something I won't be subjecting myself to this trip.

Okay then...don't take your frustration out on me for the bad actress you have to endure in your life. Just suck it up and deal with it. If you would have put your foot down when we FIRST got married none of this drama would have been allowed and the whole family would most likely be on a better course.

I can't figure this rotten situation out...I really don't think there is ANY figuring it out. If someone hates you merely for the role you play in their family I guess it is what it is pure and simple. It isn't strictly a 'mother-in-law' thing...my first marriage was 10 years...I loved my MIL from that marriage and she was really like my best friend. When the marriage ended I said" I am happy to be free of your son...but I sure hate losing you!" emoticon

I also am so sad that our Josh never had the opportunity to marry...I'm telling you I would have been the BEST MIL around...I've had plenty of exposure as to what a good and a BAD MIL looks like! emoticon No matter what I thought of his choice on a personal basis...I would have made it work...if he chose her then she had to be RIGHT for him...and.... I think it's a MIL's responsibility to show respect for her child's spousal choice. emoticon

Like I say....UGHHH is the only word that comes to mind on the situation coming up in a week of so. I will do my best to stay sane and be polite for the mere fact that she IS his mother...but I won't let her manipulate me the way she does everyone else in her orbit...I won't!

Sorry for the ramblings...this should be a time I'm really looking forward to...its vacation...we should be going somewhere and doing something that truly IS a vacation...family...you can't pick em...if you could...I'd be asking for a BIG FAT refund!

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KSNANA2 7/25/2014 10:53PM

    I agree the MIL and SIL are toxic people and I hope you can find something to do while DH visits them. I'm sure you will need to see them but I'd make it as short and sweet as possible. Someone suggested going to antique or flea markets. Anything you can think of to occupy your time and get you away from them! DH can call you when it is time to pick him up and take him away too. Best of luck to you!

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CATHYGETSFIT 7/21/2014 9:33PM

    Wow! Your MIL and my mom could almost be the same person!!! Except that my mom isn't a whiner. Between therapy, my hubby and growing older I've come to realize what my mom is really like. She is controlling and manipulative. I think it's wise of you to not spend anymore time with your MIL & SIL than you have to. Your DH doesn't want to see what they are really like or he does but isn't willing to admit it. I think he just wants to be a good and loving son/brother and chooses to overlook their egregious shortcomings. She doesn't like you because you can see her for what she is really like and she can't control you. She also doesn't like you because she thinks you took her baby boy away from her and she can't control him everyday like she could when you lived there in Iowa.

If I lived anywhere close to Iowa or where the two of you are going to be I'd spend some time with you. I guess the only thing you can do is be there for your hubby but try to limit the amount of time you are with his mom and sister. When you are with them just be sweeter than sugar to them. People get real uncomfortable when they are being evil/mean and then you come back being so sweet to them. lol :)

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MTRACHEL 7/21/2014 5:48PM

    Wow, what a story and what great responses! All I can say is...one day at a time (and those days may seem like lonnnnnng days!) You can do it! Rachel

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MKACILLAS 7/21/2014 3:50PM

    Heres sending you ears that can close at the first sign of ugliness. And a big bubble to wrap around you and send the negative vibes back at them and away from you.... If only. Just know i am with you in spirit fighting off at toxicity. I really dislike any negativity now or drama.. Life is too short as we know to live like that. Hugs and love my friend!

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SIMPLELIFE4REAL 7/21/2014 2:46PM

    I understand the sense of dread you feel about this trip. I feel the exact same thing (for different reasons) each time I have to spend time with my own mom. It sucks the life out of you!

I have no words of wisdom....if I did, I would apply them to myself first. All I can say is you are not alone in having difficult relationships with a family member. I'll be thinking of you next week as you are on your "vacation."

Hugs.
Kay

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GRACEOMALLEY 7/21/2014 2:31PM

    If only you were coming a bit further west to Colorado - we could go play and she could go spin in the wind. HOWEVER -

No matter what goes on with your husband, it is his family, his choice, his life and he's a big boy who has a right to make his own decisions, good or bad. It is his family and as the old saying goes - you pick your friends, but not your relatives. You can't change who he's related to and you can't MAKE his relatives over into people you like and who adore you. This is what you have to work with and that's the reality of it. You can throw in your two cents to let him know how you feel, but the rest is up to him. END OF STORY!

Do not give these witches the power to hurt or upset you. My mother would often say, "Consider the source." Well, this source (Momma and daughter) are not exactly rocket scientists or Pulitzer Prize winners or great humanitarians - or even overpaid athletes or actors. They have done nothing - EVER- to earn your respect or your affections, so the only reason they matter in your life is because of your husband and his reactions to their behavior - and his reactions to you when you criticize them. You can render them powerless by letting go of all this emotional debris you have let them build up in your lives. They are honestly not worthy of getting so much of your time and attention. What's worse, every minute you devote to thinking about them and worrying over your "vacation" with them, and blogging about them and getting yourself upset constitutes giving them increasing power. You are letting two people who honestly aren't worth the powder to blow them somewhere eat away at your peace, your comfort, your happiness, your relationship with your husband, possibly even negatively impacting your health and well being - before you get within fifty miles of them! If that isn't giving them one heck of a lot of power over your life, I don't know what is.

They are really just two very sad lonely women who are getting by the best they know how. The ways they've chosen are not nice or pleasant or honorable or loving or kind - but they've gotten by for a good long time using this type behavior and there really is no reason for them to stop it now. They are honestly more to be pitied for the sad and depleted lives they've led. Do your best to minimize their negative impact on your husband without getting him ticked off at you - and remain as detached as you can. Don't let them suck you into their sick games if there is any way to avoid it. You are better then that - better than their nonsense.

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LASARRE 7/21/2014 1:51PM

    Isn't family wonderful! Good luck to you. emoticon

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MSLZZY 7/21/2014 6:58AM

    The chance to cure this or at least nip it in the bud passed many years ago and nothing will change. They have a firm hold on him and he lets them. Putting his foot down now will not ease the tension. Just do the best you can and move on.

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SVELTEWARRIOR 7/20/2014 11:36PM

    Bobbi my friend there is nothing you can do.........it is thier relationship and only they can break the cycle. This however doesn't make it right or mean that you can't speak your mind. When Hubby gets snarky with you simply tell him...you are mad at your mother not me so please don't take it out on me and then walk away

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JSEATTLE 7/20/2014 10:46PM

  Sometimes we just have to go with it and support our beloveds. He appreciates it even if he cannot tell you so.

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TSISQUAUSDI 7/20/2014 9:28PM

    Sweetheart, I feel for you. You are so nice that, for the life of me, I simply cannot fathom why you do this to yourself. That your husband's mother and sister, and if they hate you, why go? These two are toxic personalities, and not good for you at all. Let the Hubs go and make the obligatory trip. You stay home and chill! Makes some dates with your favorite friends; get a massage, get a facial, manny and pedi, and don't give those two old harpies a second thought! Seriously. Tell the Hubs to stay safe, have a nice trip, and know he'll miss you a bunch!

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SPARKLINGME176 7/20/2014 9:23PM

    Hugs to you. Lots of angels helping you! I love you!

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HEALTHY4ME 7/20/2014 7:03PM

    LOL yea sounds so similar. But my hubby finally stood up to his mum when she totally came out and blamed me, and said that she and the 2 older sisters didn't like me, and I was to blame for practically anything and everything, he even kicked her out as she was living with us at the time.

Now when she calls or he calls which isn't super often, he puts her in her place if she starts. I said good thing he stuck by me when she did that 20 years ago or I would have taken a hike and perhaps proved her theory by taking him for all he was worth. But probably not cos I am not like that LOL

Anyway doubt hubby will be like that as he has been away from it more than with it. HUGS and try to say I will have a good holiday with my hubby and he can go deal with the BS. I will put in a token appearance and if they question it I would say oh thought you would enjoy to have your boy all to yourself esp since you don't really make any bones about not likng me. call a spade a spade to her face!

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PICKIE98 7/20/2014 6:27PM

    How did you get access to my Dad's family and their sick,perverted, sadistic satanic lives?

My Dad's family doubled what you describe, made my dad, as a teen in high school, pay room an board for living in his own home, then flauntingly spent that $$ on his older brother to buy a car, new suits, college education..

My abusive mom hated his mom and vice versa, so they hated us kids.. my dad knew how it was, but knew the score,,did things for them out of the goodness in his heart,probably hoping they might finally tolerate him..

HOwever, ,he never had a waterfront home on that river of DE-NIAL. he finally got wise, refused to let us be treated as scum and we all just stayed away..

I, not being the most tactful person when I see sicko abuse, just came right out and told them in their face, that for whatever sick, twisted, greedy reason they hated me andmy dad, I never valued their opinion, so it was no skin off my behind. I also said (in my Dad's and their presence) that if he chose to be used as a doormat for their perverted use, it was his problem, he must love being treated like this to allow them to do it to him.

Nobody said a word, I never heard one word from them, and Dad finally learned and never went there again..

These people had NOBODY show up for their funerals,,I mean the funeral home had to HIRE pall bearers because they had no friends, nobody went near them.. pathetic..

This is a control issue, and your hubby gets yanked in by a poisoned umbilical each time he is in contact with them and allows this.
It is his issue..

If you choose to give him a heads up of what will happen(If, then... I will...), only you know what works for you two. Good luck sweetie...

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REGILIEH 7/20/2014 6:17PM

    Bobbi, my dear sweet lady!

You are letting your MIL win by giving all her nonsense all the time you give it. She isn't giving any thought to you so you are wasting your time giving thought to her. She would be so happy knowing how annoying she is to you.

I think you win by ignoring her and showing you could care less after all it her loss and she wins every time you and DH have any angst over it.

You have nothing to prove, you know how wonderful you are and DH knows it too and all of us know it too. I say feel sorry for her and forget her and SIL.

Of course I know you didn't ask me but you are so fantastic I hate it when something upsets you, especially something so unworthy.

Hugs!

Anne

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OLDERDANDRT 7/20/2014 6:14PM

    Whatever happens, Bobbi, keep that beautiful smile on that pretty face!! Have a nice heart to heart with your handsome DH and tell him exactly how you feel about HIM! That he's your soulmate and you'll love him till the end of time and beyond no matter what comes!! Armed with that truth, you and he, together, can survive everything and anything!!
He's your life, as you said. Regardless of where (or who) he came from, he is your other half and you are not whole without him as he is not whole without YOU! It'll be fine. In all things dealing with the mother and sister, keep upper most in your mind that your DH is worth whatever you have to endure and just be sickening sweet to them in spite of their whatevers. Remember the old saying of "kill them with kindness"? Do it, sweetie!! I know you can do this for DH's sake, if nothing else.
Love ya, Bobbi! I do hope you and DH can find some actual "vacation time" while you are out there! (((HUGS)))

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BONNIEMARGAY 7/20/2014 4:51PM

    P.S. - There is no understanding crazy.

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BONNIEMARGAY 7/20/2014 4:50PM

    Oh, sweet lady, wishing you relief from toxicity.

It would be so easy to have a miserable trip.

I double-dog dare you to find a happy miracle every day of your adventure instead.

May we find peace. May we find deep, abiding joy.

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BEAUTY_WITHIN 7/20/2014 4:49PM

    Oh hon, I'm sorry Dealing with in-laws can be so hard. You'll get through this!

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BARBARAROSE54 7/20/2014 4:36PM

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NILLAPEPSI 7/20/2014 3:45PM

    It's hard to deal with that kind of thing. Keep smiling that great smile. Hopefully, the time will pass quickly. emoticon

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DS9KIE 7/20/2014 3:29PM

    ramblings of my own...

I think a recording of the going of of his family would get your husband to see whats going on...see what you see...

why go a week...go a few days then go off into the sunset for the rest of the week somewhere else...

if someone doesn't like me that much I wouldn't go...sorry i have a paint show that week you will have to go by yourself...

So you have to go, just come in enough to say hi then find other stuff to do while your husband is with the crazy woman...oops... I mean his mom...look for antique's, read at the library, walk through a corn field.

the bottom line is that your husband doesn't have understand why his mommy doesn't like you (or what ever ) what he has to understand is that you want no part of his mother boloney...you will go, say hi but that's it, your done, and you will find other stuff to do until he is done visiting her...
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MSTWOMOONS002 7/20/2014 2:41PM

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You are a fighter you've said that many times in your blogs, yet you continue to say over & over this is a fight you can't win, because you haven't yet & things never seem to change or get better.

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over & over (Like beating ones head against the wall) yet expecting a different result other than a bloody head. Ok you've done as much as you can do, yet things keep being the same.

Girlfriend time to stop beating your head against the wall, your MIL &SIL aren't going to change at this late stage in their lives, the insanity is far too engraved in their consciousness, I think you can clearly see that & admit it. I keep repeating the serenity prayer for you from this blog--God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, give me the Courage to change the things I can, and bless me with the Wisdom to know the difference. I let go & Let God handle this situation.

On the case of DH, this is his family, not the best example of one but it's the only one he has. He is still the good kind caring man you married, he's doing his best to put up with their insane ravings & control each week, this can't be easy on him either I bet, yet somewhere deep inside him he's trying to be the "Good Son" to get Mom's approval, yet all she is is a user and she's not going to change. This guilt manipulation pattern is far to engraved in this families dynamic. You can see her for exactly how she is & the tricks she uses to control her daughter, son & who ever else crossed her path, God help them all.

The way I see this you can choose to not go & participate in this drama, & cope with the consequences of leaving DH to deal with them on his own & get dragged into whatever he doesn't stand up to. Or you go and do what you can to support your DH help him get through this nonsense, because you are his wife, the stronger part of him.

Dear MIL & SIL are probably angry that you a wise woman can see through their games & they don't know how you get your "power" so they are afraid of your power of Truth, Wisdom & Clear Sightedness all powers they don't have because they use &. manipulate in their lives to get power. You like to read, The Celestine Prophecy discusses that in length & detail & provides wisdom for the New Age.

Is there a way you can go and support DH and live the life you two share? Is this going to affect the two of yours relationship for time to come? What are you to willing to put up with in order to defend your life? You've been together 37 yrs so you are doing something right.

I wish I could tell you something perfect & wonderful, yet I only know what I've learned in my lifetime. Do your best, Stand up for your own truth & your life, and don't buy into their games, do your best to rise above.

I'm here if you need a listening sounding board. I wish you well, I'll be praying for you & remember the serenity prayer, it does help as a mantra.

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BIGPAWSUP 7/20/2014 1:56PM

    Sorry. I wish Iowa was closer - I'd come steal your for a few days.


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Vacation plans are on my mind...hope to see the great Iowa State Fair!

Friday, July 11, 2014

emoticon I LOVE vacations don't you? I was always able to look forward to some down time without the nervous nagging thoughts of...if we leave what will happen to our house?

It's been that way for almost five years now and it's NOT a place you want to be. I called the attorneys yesterday to find out why they haven't sent me a copy of the last motion to strike that was granted by the court 6/18! emoticon They say they haven't gotten anything from the court yet...hummmmm....sounds a little fishy to me since it's clearly on the court docket.

I asked them to please send me a copy as soon as they receive a copy and I'm still a little suspicious as to why they haven't yet received their copy. All of this stuff is done electronically soooooo... emoticon but if you can't trust the very people that are supposed to be on YOUR side...it's a pretty sorrowful thing so I try not to focus on the situation.

BUT...about leaving for vacation..that's a jittery situation also. DH must go back to Iowa this year to see his 87 year old mother. I get that she needs to see her son even though she is the last person I'd ever choose to spend vacation time with on my part.

It's been a long and sad history these past 36 years..his mother and his sister that have always lived together have a crazy weird resentment toward me for marrying their son/brother and moving him to FL out of their controlling clutches.

Little do they realize that this move to FL was just as much or more...HIS idea as it was mine!

But as things often shake out for the best this move absolutely worked out in our favor and was the BEST thing we ever chose to do! emoticon

If we were still living in Iowa and he was at the beck and call of his mother who doesn't drive and never did...with all of her moaning, complaining and whining we would NOT still be together. I would have had to cut him loose just to be free of her. Believe me the entire year that we were married and living in Iowa before we made the move I was fed up with her actions. We picked her up and took her to work but yet she'd complain that we didn't get her there early enough. Throughout the entire car ride we'd have to endure all of her latest rants about how she was so horribly mistreated at work and how his sister did this wrong and that wrong. We'd have to drop her off at the bars and then I'd worry all night about how the heck she was going to get home and if she'd even MAKE it home. NOT what a new DIL wants to be thinking about when she is trying so hard to fit into her new family.

DH had it good...no sisters and no brothers on my side of the family to contend with and my mother took to him easily. My dad didn't get too involved. In other words my family needed no constant babysitting.

After about 20 years into our marriage of flying his mother down here for 10 days every year and me elected to be the social organizer for her entertainment yet her constant barrage of complaints about this being wrong and that being wrong...never a thank you for flying me down her and wining and dining me daily...I just stopped caring.

This is bound to happen. All I can say is that mothers never win or I should say USUALLY never win against new wives. You surely can't fault his mother for trying though...she's been at the 'I'm more important so pick me...for the last 36 years. I don't see anything changing at this point.

I do go see her (as infrequently as I possibly can) and I am civil to her...after all I wouldn't have DH if it weren't for her...but is it fun...HECK no...is it considered a vacation...DOUBLE HECK no!

We don't stay with them, in fact we've never been offered to stay with them which of course would save immensely on expenses...but after all of this history we'd never even consider it.

So much for the return of hospitality eh?

So there it is...I'm a nervous jervous over something I should be looking forward to. It's not a vacation...it's an obligation. I could just refuse to go but that wouldn't be fun either.

DH and I do pretty much everything together and when we aren't forced into uncomfortable family stuff we have a great time together. His feelings have to be considered it is HIS mother after all so I do the best I can to grin and bear it. Every year it gets harder...last year we didn't go so this year it's pretty much a must.

VERY lucky for us... we stay with his best friend and his wife who have a gorgeous home and let us use the entire basement..this is SO good of them and totally comfortable for us. We do our own meals..mostly out... Debby doesn't cook and we'll have our own vehicle (driving this time...oh joy emoticon ...I'm not a good passenger...are we there YET emoticon ) or we would have rented a car. We are told we are such good visitors they don't even know that we are there. I guess that's a pretty good compliment.

We do take them out to dinner and we pick up the tab...it's the least we can do...and we do lots of activities with them if they aren't busy..so it works out pretty terrific.

BUT...the house thing is ALWAYS looming over our heads. We have told our attorneys to notify the court that we have family obligations and believe me OBLIGATIONS they are during this timeframe. We'll just have to hope for the best.

Soooo I'm hoping to get a paint workshop together and I'm hoping to get some loose ends tied up over at the gallery and then get to packing. It's a good long haul on the road but better than hassling with the airlines and timeframes and we'll have some time to stop and check out some vintage places for some good furniture finds.

Our SUV will suck the heck out of gas...but it's so much more comfortable than our car for long distance traveling I guess we will just have to bite the bullet and take it. It provides lots of storage if we do come across something special to bring back.

So those are the plans...wish I were more excited...but at least there is plenty of good to look forward to along with the ughhhh... emoticon

It just makes me sad to think so many years have gone by that we could have had a nice family relationship and those years were all squandered out of resentment and jealousy. Makes me sadder still that our Josh didn't have the opportunity to marry so I could be a STELLAR MIL and make his new wife feel loved and accepted...maybe in my next lifetime?

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NEWFLABULESS 7/23/2014 4:38PM

    You are a blessing in your dear hubby's life and I'm sure it means a lot to him for you to sacrifice vacation for family. Try to enjoy your trip to the good ole midwest as much as you can. I'm sure it will be nice and toasty :-)

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FIT4MEIN2013 7/19/2014 4:05PM

    Family dynamics just plain SUCK sometimes. So sorry! emoticon emoticon

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2BDYNAMIC 7/18/2014 10:10AM

    Wow Bobbi ............ I would count it as a privilege and a time to look forward if I were that MIL .................... She has really missed out big time ............... Sorry, we were never promised a Rose garden or an ideal MIL ............... (Mine has passed but was not w/out it's difficulties) and LACK of acceptance I s'pose for marrying her little boy ................ lol .............. I DO hope you have LOTS of fun and pleasure and time for you and hubby .................. MINUS a critic on board!!! emoticon

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BBONET 7/15/2014 12:32PM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon Yikes! I just finished posting about my up coming trip to my in-laws and I come to your blog and found this! This is not a vacation - that is why I said I was going on our monthly trip - However, you used the right word "obligation"- Talk about difficult I have two to deal with!!! emoticon m emoticon emoticon emoticon Smile, nod, and remember this to shall pass!

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DS9KIE 7/14/2014 8:55PM

    yikes....so your calling this a vacation?????? family you just have to love em....right???lol emoticon emoticon emoticon

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CATHYGETSFIT 7/13/2014 6:31PM

    I'm like Kay. The feeling of dread is whenever I have to spend time with my own mom. I don't blame you for not looking forward to the "vacation". I was lucky to have a good relationship with my MIL. I hope you can find a way to have a good time despite your MIL.

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B-NANA 7/13/2014 10:53AM

    Because your MIL finds so much wrong with her life, maybe you could work on a video or her telling about her life growing up. Start with easy stuff like where she was born, Pets, ask about specific happy moments, don't rush things, leave her time to think. Put the camera on a tripod or table and try to ignore it. Maybe you might get some insight into her life. There are lots of sites to help you. Best of luck.

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GRACEOMALLEY 7/13/2014 1:16AM

    Not exactly what you'd choose, eh? I was reading "The Dalai Lama's Cat" (a novel) recently and was reminded there of some useful Buddhist concepts. One is that our upsets don't come from outside, but from how we decide to perceive them. This silly twit of a MIL is more to be pitied, because she has denied herself so much joy and love in her life. If you can see her for the sad creature she is, you'll most likely find her behavior less irritating. She has no power over you or your hubby unless give it to her. Do your best to insist on joy in your trip and refuse to allow her to deplete that joy. Travel safe and HAVE FUN!

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JUDYAMK 7/11/2014 10:40PM

    my brother's one wife told my Mother this "you do not need to see Eugene,because he has her now." He has a son from a previous marriage the child was 2 years old, she told me she hated that child,because he looks like his mother a beautiful blonde blue eyed child, she would make my brother go visit with him in the car on top of the mountain away from her. Like a sap he did !!That was over 30 years ago. His wife since passed away and he has a good relationship now with his son.
I think my Mom is the best mother - in law to her daughter in laws ,as she NEVER got involved with any thing even when disagreement arose she kept quiet. She cried in silence when the one daughter in law told her she did not need to see her son any more. She was an only child ,spoiled ,her parents built her a home she NEVER worked!! Plus everything was handed to her. She expected gold not silver!!
I am sorry she passed away,but gosh what a wretch she was !!
Judy

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GOING-STRONG 7/11/2014 9:43PM

    I hope you have some nice downtime in Iowa and enjoy your friends. Life is short as you well know. Hugs, R.
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GOGETTERME 7/11/2014 9:14PM

    I have a very similar mother-in-law. Luckily my husband never asks to go north to visit her. She comes down to Florida and the last few years I have insisted that she stay in a hotel and rent a car. She was very angry and hurt the first visit but now it's just the way it is. She is much younger, in her mid 60s, so this still works. I worry about what we will do when and if she lives to be older than 80.

It used to make me crazy but now that I don't have to be around her as much the time I spend with her I just grin and bear it. It's my husband's mother so I have to put in some time even if I'd rather not. I honestly can't stand her but I love my husband so if I don't love her I need to act like I do. It's just what a good wife does.

She also resents me for dragging her son from CT to FL. He wanted to move way more than me and we have a much better and happier life down here.

I've found that as annoying and hurtful that she is, if I think about why she is feeling that way and behaving that way the anger just dissipates. She must be pretty sad and miserable to behave that way. If you see her nastiness as something you should pity and not anger at it helps.

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BIGPAWSUP 7/11/2014 8:14PM

    Wow, I'm so sorry you have to go through that. Wishing you all the joy you can experience.

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PICKIE98 7/11/2014 6:41PM

    You wrote about MY mother who turned 88 today.. I could write a VOLUME of books...

remember, UHAUL is still in business...

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SPARKLINGME176 7/11/2014 5:30PM

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JSEATTLE 7/11/2014 5:29PM

  The good thing is that since it is an obligation for you, at least you are going and will make the best of it. You will find fun things to do and you never know, you may even have a breakthough visit with you in-laws!

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NILLAPEPSI 7/11/2014 3:00PM

    I have vacation on my mind ALL THE TIME!! emoticon Can't get enough of them.

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MSTWOMOONS002 7/11/2014 2:25PM

    Hi Bobbi; emoticon

Hope you find a way to make this a positive Vacation, I can hear you saying it's an obligation, I hope you can try to find something positive in the trip. It can't all be negative you have to find the positive, or else why spend all the TEA time energy & attention to all the details to do it at all.

You know I'll be praying for you, if you go to the State Fair be sure to have a little fun, let the trip be fun for you. Be careful in the weather.

Take care & Be well

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BONNIEMARGAY 7/11/2014 1:43PM

    It is such a relief to finally stop caring about the happiness of someone who is bound and determined to be unhappy and negative all the time. Having my wife's parents move out here last year has put an incredible amount of stress in our lives. (If they wanted to move back across the country, I would pack every box for them and move them myself.) May we all find freedom from toxicity!

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REGILIEH 7/11/2014 12:14PM

    I'm so happy to say I can't relate! I'm also thankful I can't relate! You are right a lot of years squandered!

I'm glad you have nice people to stay with and a nice place to stay.

Be safe and I will keep you in my prayers!

xo

Anne

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OLDERDANDRT 7/11/2014 11:58AM

    Whenever you go and however you go and for how ever long you need stay till you can get back home, be safe!! You know, when you start out I will pray for you ( I do always anyway) and I will worry till you get safely back home. It's my "thing". hehe Like a long-tailed cat in a room full of rocking chairs! lol That's me!
I do hope nobody has done another stupid thing regarding the fight to save your home! Where the heck is that document?!?! Somebody trying to bury yet another bit of info?!?! Ugh!
Anyway, have fun with your workshops and stay safe and cool! (((HUGS)))

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HEALTHY4ME 7/11/2014 11:51AM

    OH so relate, my MIL and hubbys 2 older sisters blame me still after 37 years that I MADE him join the military, move etc... well it was his idea as there was no work in his area and he wanted to get married. Yes more so than me. lol oh well...... now his same 2 sisters have totally aniliated him from an issue with a will from his aunt. Long story not good. And no we find the money for motel as we will NOT stay with his mum, last time she told him your kids are so great, don't know how cos you aare a terrible parent. then said when he called her on it, I didn't say that... we wont go to what she has said and done when she stayed with us when she left her 2nd hubby.

He also lucked out that I have no brothers or sisters. But has got dad in our basement in law suite which can be a pain! LOL

I envy those that have a fun relationship with their parents. Mum was a worrier and critical and dad barely speaks to me, talks to hubby more.

Oh well enjoy your holiday!

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SIMPLELIFE4REAL 7/11/2014 10:47AM

    I can relate to that feeling of dread.....unfortunately, it's whenever I have to spend time with my own mother. She lives 30 minutes away and I'm the closest relative (and only daughter) so I get stuck with the grunt work. My brother (who lives just over an hour away) was very kind and did 98% of the grunt work while I was going through cancer treatments, but that's done now....and my mom is starting to focus in on me again with all her requests.

I hope your trip goes better than you think it will. Vacations that aren't really vacations can be a drag otherwise.

Hugs,
Kay

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MPARKER67 7/11/2014 10:22AM

    I try to be a good mil but I get ignored pretty often while my son's mil is always treated first class.

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MSLZZY 7/11/2014 10:12AM

    What a mess and not something I would look forward to either. Just keep in mind that you can always go home and distance yourself-for your own sanity! Hope you get some answers to your court case before you leave! HUGS!

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Owls are appearing to me everywhere! Pics of some new painting projects at the consignment gallery!

Wednesday, July 09, 2014

Hello sparkles! It's been awhile since I've last blogged. Just too many things pulling at my time lately...and you KNOW how I love to blog...so I'm putting the crazy stuff on hold and doing what I LOVE emoticon to do best and that's a few minutes of conversation with you!

We had a terrific 4th of July holiday. BUT...wouldn't you know it...I FORGOT to take pics. emoticon This is so NOT like me as I take pics of everything...but I was so caught up in the moment I just forgot all about my handy little I-Phone...didn't even take it with me? DUH! emoticon

But that's okay because it gives me an excuse to repeat the occasion and next time SHARE it with all of you.

I'm gearing up for my first paint work shoppe. I'll be sending out the e-mail invites and dates by Saturday. I have over 75 people signed up so far and can only take about 8 people at any one time to make the classes manageable.

CeCe Caldwell Paints are introducing some new colors (PRETTY) and some new products so that's exciting! I keep vacillating on holding off the classes until I get the new products in stock...but that could take forever...so I'm just going to plunge in with what we have on hand and show them the new exciting stuff coming. It will give them something else to look forward to as well.

I just finished a contract with a VERY NEEDY customer that I've done tons of hand holding for her over the last 120 days. This is one of those type of customers I put in the 'no good deed goes unpunished' column. It happens with a percentage of customers every so often and fun it is NOT!

This particular woman is very unhappy with the world at large and I'm the unlucky boob that she chose to project that unhappiness on. She brought in a TON of stuff for consignment and I did tell her at the time that summer was coming and sales slow down SIGNIFICANTLY during that period of time. That sales is purely a numbers game and when the numbers of people go from 300 a day visiting our gallery to under 30...the sales opportunities are going to be impacted.

She was okay with that...had to get the stuff in and we had come highly recommended...she was moving back to MN.

Alrighty then...I inventoried over 300 items and told her we'd do our best.

She didn't tell me...but the neighbor that brought the items in with she and her husband told me that she had lost a LOT of homes through the 'flipping frenzy' that had taken SW FL by storm and they now were having to leave FL because losing all of those homes impacted them financially.

Okay...so I PLENTY of background for her foreclosure grief and I.... of ALL people can certainly understand the anxiety THAT horrific circumstance can bring into one's life....BUT...if you were flipping out of pure greed and those homes were NOT your homestead...there is a certain place where the sympathy isn't so justified.

From the moment that woman got back to MN...the telephone calls and the e-mails began. WHAT had sold...for how much...when would she receive her payment. On and on and on until I had to finally put my foot down and tell her to READ her contract again! emoticon

EVERY single question she bombarded me with was covered in the contract plus the fact that we went over ALL stipulations when she first signed the agreement.

She didn't like THIS...she didn't like THAT...she wanted to walk back pricing on items that she had already agreed would be priced for such and such!

WHY I extended the items for another 30 days in an attempt to help her sell more things that she'd be compensated for.... and she STILL wasn't happy...is a mystery to me. JUST SHOOT me...THEN will you be happy Minnesota?

FINALLY yesterday she sent people to pick up the last few remaining items so she could donate them to the church. This was the final blow...I extend items, I let them take up my square footage so that I can't bring in other items and then you take away my chance at a profit after all this...yep...this is exactly the customer from h e double toothpicks. Everything is all about them and whatever kindness you do for them is discarded and trampled on!

One day I'll learn...DO not extend items past the initial 90 days. It just isn't worth it!

Okay...got THAT off my chest! emoticon

I wrote about the serendipity of the owl in my last blog and since then I'm seeing them EVERYWHERE!

Yesterday I dropped into Pier One looking for a satisfactory table base to match up with a set of 4 CUTE french chairs that just arrived in our consignment gallery.

Aren't they precious? Cute rush seats and very frenchie looking! emoticon



I have a smallish light wood french looking table in stock that I thought would be PERFECT with them but the arms on the chairs prevent them from sliding under the table...so the hunt is ON.

I didn't find a table base...but look what came to my attention and at a great SALE price also!

Mr. Owl.....all hand embroidered and marked down from $60 to $20....SCORE! emoticon emoticon

He is now gracing a spot in our master bedroom so that I can be reminded each and every night that our dearly beloved son... Josher is on the job! He's protecting our home and working his magic from a much higher realm for the 'save our home' fight! Notice that sweet little dragon sculpture...our Joshie made that as his first clay sculpting project in 4th grade! It's pretty good and I love seeing it every morning and every night to remind me of his artistic talent that budded from the time he was just a wee lad! emoticon



I LOVE the detail of all of this hand embroidery...it's simply stunning!

My last blog told all about why the owl is so mesmerizing to me at this particular point in our lives.

The little silver metallic dresser that it sits on in our bedroom has also inspired me to do some silver metallic foiling to some of the furniture pieces we have in the gallery.

I LOVE the look of silver foil as an accent piece and have some sheets on order. Can't WAIT until I get my hands on those for some redo projects. Don't worry you'll see the pics as soon as I get to those projects. emoticon

Here's the owl and the chest together in our bedroom. Creative ideas and serendipity together...not a bad twosome do you agree?



I've had this little dresser for many, many years and I NEVER get tired of looking at it's cuteness....I think customers will like this look also.

Here's another little french pine chair that will have it's seat reupholstered in zebra print. Great sale on upholstery fabric at Joann's Fabrics right now. I'll probably paint it black as feng shui recommends that EVERY room in your house have a little black in it to ground it and make the room more comfortable.

About Joann's....I don't shop there as often as I used to because I find that they are tricksters. Unless you REALLY watch your pricing you will not get the discounts as advertised. If something is advertised on sale...they should not try to let a regular price slip through. But they surely will if you aren't paying attention! Just a note to the wary! emoticon



You'll see the final product in a few days. AND...I have another cute chair I just recently finished with a beautiful fabric and stencils...it turned out so sweet. I'll have to remember to snap a pic when I go into the gallery this afternoon.

The hubs and I are trying to alternate the time we spend there so that we aren't both tied to the place all day. He usually goes in in the a.m. unless he has a construction job to work on and I go in for the afternoon when we are usually a little busier.

Finally another FANTASTIC score I made were these beautiful bamboo chairs with alligator leather seats. I LOVE these chairs and I picked them up for a song from a thrift shoppe.

They had only arrived about 10 minutes earlier..so I was definitely in the RIGHT place at the RIGHT time. Serendipity again my friends...serendipity and owls...they are MY favorite twosome lately and I'm so GRATEFUL for the goodness of the combo!



If I can find a proper table for these little cuties they may just have found their new home...with the hubs and I! Love having the consignment gallery to rotate furniture through..it is so much FUN...on most days that is! emoticon

I'm definitely doing lots more exercise with our 5% summer challenge but I'm slacking on my Fast Metabolism Diet....i just can't seem to keep up with the MAD cooking required.

May be time to try something new. I'm always up for NEW aren't you?

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MKACILLAS 7/20/2014 12:36PM

    Love it Bobbie. Great pics of the owls and reminders that your Josh is always watching over you. I do think we bring things are way by serendipity. And your shining spirit should be lots your way friend. ♥

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MSLZZY 7/11/2014 10:16AM

    What you put yourself through to please your customers is beyond me. Hope you find a happy ending to all this. That own picture is just lovely and perfect for your bedroom. I am sure Josh approves! HUGS!

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SPARKLINGME176 7/10/2014 3:15PM

    Love the pictures & YOU!

Sometimes we give to WAY beyond our boundaries, right? It seems to me, it is about saying, no thank you, to some people & life is SO much easier! Good luck!

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SIMPLELIFE4REAL 7/9/2014 11:07PM

    Wonderful blog (as usual). I bet that chair with it's new zebra seat and black paint will look stunning. I think you should always place a picture of the "before" version of the piece on it when it is for sale....it gives the customers lots of ideas about things they can do to other pieces if they see something they like, but it isn't quite the right color etc. Helps them to think outside of the box.

I love how creative you are!

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REGILIEH 7/9/2014 11:05PM

    Bobbie! Great blog, enjoyed it so much and loved all of the pictures! You're THE best!

Hugs!

Anne

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JUDYAMK 7/9/2014 9:49PM

    I like it when you post photos of your projects. You are always into something Bobbi!!
That lady has done one thing good for you ,when the next one comes along trying to take advantage of you, kick her and her belongings to the curb!! My mother loves owls bought her some nice figurines over the years. They look very mysterious to me. I was fortunate enough to see some in the wild. This past winter here in Pa. we had a lot of snowy owls they did a segment on television about them.
I am walking 5 miles a day since my hours have all been changed at work & eating more healthier. I just cannot wait until 1225/2015 until my retirement, I never wanted to be 65 so fast in all my life!!
I am going to my favorite consignment shop on Saturday, I cannot wait ,I found toss pillows that match exactly my couch in the sun room. I cannot buy any furniture as I like what I have . When I was there last winter I bought a lot of outfits that still had price tags on, & some others that looked like they were never worn. I am in between sizes so that is good for me to get the clothes there rather than a department store. I think the fun of going for me is I am not paying full price for the clothes. Have a wonderful tomorrow and a good night!
Judy

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TSISQUAUSDI 7/9/2014 8:42PM

    In Tsalagi (Cherokee) culture, the owl is a messenger. To see and hear owls means something is going to appear, disappear, or change in your life. Be nice if your mortgage was forgiven. Just sayin'!

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NILLAPEPSI 7/9/2014 7:40PM

    What is wrong with people? Ugh! Keep smiling!!

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JSEATTLE 7/9/2014 7:40PM

  I'm ready for something new too. Love your new owl. I like owls too.

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BIGPAWSUP 7/9/2014 6:50PM

    Sorry you had such a bad ordeal. Glad you are done with her.

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NEWFLABULESS 7/9/2014 4:59PM

    Your talents inspire me. I am so sorry that you had to deal with such an ungrateful, spoiled POS but glad she is no longer in your hair. I hope that you have a wonderful day!

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OLDERDANDRT 7/9/2014 4:13PM

    Love the embroidered owl And Josh's dragon! They seem happy together!
Like your chairs and your plans for them as well!
Glad the needy lady customer is all done screwing you over. Maybe you can relax with normal type customers now for a while till the next screwball comes along! hehe
I know the cooking with your FMD is a lot, but I'm thinking, whatever really good plan you choose to follow will still be a lot of cooking as the boxed, canned and frozen processed foods just ain't gonna cut it for keep up the nice weight loss you have been enjoying. Trust me! I won't cook and I've gained 15 pounds for my trouble. I have to bite the bullet and get back into the kitchen. With no a/c in there, it's so hard this time of the year plus I don't like to cook, but there is another couple of My excuses. Don't let excuses sneak in on you, my friend. You're doing way too well to mess it up! Glad your exercising is coming along really well!
Have a great Wednesday, Bobbi!!! Love ya!! (((HUGS)))

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PICKIE98 7/9/2014 3:41PM

    Love the foil dresser, love the bamboo chair!! Absolutely LOVE the sculpture that Josh made!

Those bamboo chairs would shriek with chic with a red room or lime green accents!! I have no artistic talent, but know what looks good to me!!

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BONNIEMARGAY 7/9/2014 3:31PM

    So many blessings!

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MSTWOMOONS002 7/9/2014 1:56PM

    Hi Bobbi;

Great photos, good luck with the painting class, hope all goes well I hope you'll let us know all about it. Your gallery sure looks nice.

Good luck with your exercise challenge I'm sure you'll do well, Hope you find something good to replace your FMD, hope you don't backslide too badly.

Take care & be well, I'll be sending you positive loving energy to help you get through all the hectic things your dealing with. Love the owls...

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MPARKER67 7/9/2014 1:15PM

    Love the blog. Owl are COOL!

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EJOY-EVELYN 7/9/2014 12:28PM

    Love your shop! As for owls, it seems everything comes back in style again. Other than the living ones I see, I'm fine to passing them by.

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