It was a fairly cool morning here in sunny SW Fl so I got my keister out and walking before my logical mind could talk me out of it! I usually do my walking on my trusty treadmill but with the cooler air and slightly misty rain I just wanted to be outside for a change.
It felt good to get my mile and 1/2 in slightly after 7 a.m. I'm hoping to make this a streak..I like getting out before all the other neighborhood walkers get started. Everyone wants to stop and chat and me...I'm there for a purpose...get that exercise done and dusted!
Early is the key!
I've changed so much as I've matured and gotten a clue about what is REALLY important in life. Any other time I NEVER would have ventured out with no make up and my glasses on. But why put make on... just to sweat it off? And if you aren't working up some kind of sweat you aren't working hard enough.
I have a lot of work in front of me. I'm back to my same starting weight or fairly close to the last challenge. This is discouraging but I know I have no one but myself to blame. I have to work harder at intentional exercise.
Our mighty leader Kaliswalker made this apparent to me with the beginning of this challenge. We can't just use our fit bits to measure exercise because that is activity exercise. Intentional exercise has to be sustained for at least 10 minutes so running up those long flights of stairs that I'm so proud of at the gallery really doesn't count unless I do it for 10 minutes straight.
Bummer...no wonder I wasn't losing much weight!
This challenge I know I have to step up my sustained exercise no questions asked! I'll have to really challenge myself to do that because I'd much rather have my keister parked writing, or beading, or most anything other than exercise.
I'll have to hit Slim my treadmill later for another go at making that goal. The morning walk wasn't enough to win at this weight loss plan.
I'm going to do Paleo this time around and see how that works for me. I've always enjoyed this type of eating and although giving up grains won't be the easiest thing for me...I love my breads and grains.... I'd like to see how it works for me. If I don't like it...guess what...I can change my approach. Life is full of choices and I intend to start making better ones!
Onward and upward! I'll still keep some of my Fast Metabolism recipes in the mix too as long as they comply with the Paleo approach.
I gave LOTS of thought about stepping up to hostess this Friday/Saturday night's get together tonight. I felt like I should be hostessing this week since we haven't done it for a long time but then decided I'd be CRAZY if I attempted it for tonight.so I e-mailed the group last Monday and committed for Oct. 3rd. That will give me some breathing room with all the things I have on my plate right now.
We have some new paint colors coming in and I have to get those on the shelf and then there is the LONG process of new color cards being made up. This is one of my pet peeves that the distributer doesn't make these available for retailers to purchase. We have to make our own and with 36 different paint colors it's a ridiculously long process!
Then the sample jars have to divvied up and that is a process too. I have a paint workshop next weekend and those always take time and energy to get that put together...sooooo...the group is low priority for right now. They don't like to be low priority..but it is what it is.
Friends are important to me...but this group of friends are much more 'fair weather' than true blue. I lost my true blue friend several Christmas' ago to colon cancer and I miss her so very much. She knew EVERYTHING about me...and I knew EVERTHING about her...you don't find those type of people often. Having no sisters or brothers make friends all the more special to me.
This group of 15-20 women (I've known most of them for 20+ yrs) basically socialize on a very superficial level. They know about our struggles in trying to save our house (I'm not one that believes in putting on a facade that all is well when it isn't).
Sadly there isn't a one of them that can really relate since most of them have two or three houses and now look at us as former peers who fell off their money horse and lost their riches and their son and are now more to be pitied than understood.
I have to tell you...super wealthy people don't have many empathy genes in their DNA. They are too focused on where their next big money pile is coming from. I'm really seeing this sharply now and wondering why I didn't see it long before...maybe I was more like them than I ever wanted to consider?? We were certainly pretty focused on making a ton of money that's for sure!
Being a huge people pleaser...there was a time I NEVER would have put my own needs above the groups 'wants'...but those days are in the past for me now.
This pampered group of friends is my secondary concern now with all the problems I've experienced with them over the last 8 or 9 years. They have no concept of what the hubs and I have gone through and it's time to consider our own needs before theirs from this day forward.
YAY me...for finally realizing this and YAY you...for helping me see it!
Good luck in ALL your healthy dreams and challenges...remember YOU are worth it..and if you don't take care of your own sweet self..no one else will!
Lots of things in this world puzzle me...but few actually BAFFLE me! Today we heard back from our faithful and loyal lawyer on the discussion about our case. This is when the lawyers meet with a case manager...not the judge to go over pending cases to get them lined up for their docket.
When Randy called I was relieved that he was the one that had gone to represent us. He is always the most forthcoming of all the lawyers at this very prestigious law firm and frankly I love the man! He ABSOLUTELY cares about his clients with his true heart and soul and how in the heck he ever got into lawyering after being a Buddhist missionary I'll NEVER know.
He's engaging and low key and SMART, SMART, SMART...a good family man and devoted to his children. He's our standard of excellence when it comes to lawyering....I'm so happy we had him in our corner today!
I asked him how it went and told him how thrilled I was that he drove all the way from Kissimmesse FL to Ft. Myers to appear for us. That's a HECK of a long hike at 6:30 a.m. to make the 9:20 am. appearance. This CAN'T be easy...I don't know if I'd last as long at that drive as he has...he also regularly drives to Palm Beach FL where the main office is also.
You've GOT to give kudos to someone that dedicated to the care and legal justice of your clients..so LOVE is a word that is truly correct! I'd readily recommend Ice Legal to anyone in FL who is struggling to keep their home from foreclosure. This firm works HARD for you!
Anyhow...lost track of the story as often happens when I'm flustered and excited.
I asked Randy how it went. He said "Well surprisingly well!" My heart skips a beat.
"Tell me, tell me!"
He says that actually he is more surprised at what happened at our last court appearance back in June when he got the plaintiff's appearing attorney to transfer our case out of the 'rocket docket' court and into the circuit court. I think that's what happened...I don't really understand the full hierarchy of the court scheme but from what I understand it puts our case in front of a REAL Judge...not some retired old fart that has been brought in to rush cases off the court docket no matter if they are fraudulent or not.
He explained that by agreeing to do this and having Judge sign off on this (which apparently he did and the Order went to the wrong address...not to our attorney's office...that's why they never received a copy of it). By having this happen it essentially starts the case all over again from day one. That means that the whole process of discovery, witness lists, production of the note..the whole ball of wax begins anew. I guess this is a good thing...although in some ways not, because it again stretches out the vast unknown of what our ultimate fate will be.
According to what the case manager was able to give according to their court calendar our trial would not be until AUGUST 2015.
Okay you can make the SAME shocked face I did when he told me that. I guess that is JUST how backed up the court system is with cases to be heard.
The plaintiff has until January to produce their witness lists and until March to turn in all of their discovery. This too could be a good or bad thing for us because Ocwen has moved lawyers and who knows how ruthless this new law firm is. Their website is pretty intimidating swearing that they GET results and know all of the state timelines for producing what their clients need and want...to get the homeowners OUT and possession of the house in the banks hands.
Of course we know as all things go talk is cheap and action is where the rubber hits the road.
Randy told us that this is FAR from a done deal...the Judge would have to agree to that timeline and they might not. He also said that we are in better shape now then when we walked into the courtroom and that they will continue to vigorously defend our rights.
On another note I'm thinking the longer this craziness plays out sooner or later...the government is going to HAVE to take some action against the banks that are still dirty dealing even after all of the fines and slapping of their wrists has been meted out. They thought they were putting a lid on the simmering cesspool of corruption but they are finding that that lid is about to blow off and scald them in the process.
Divine justice DOES seem to find it's way doesn't it?
I'm a happy little camper for now...I'll keep you posted on what comes next. Our life is NEVER dull....I can certainly tell you that!
Thanks SO much for your prayers and encouragement...you've stuck by me through thick and thin and I'm SO very blessed for your friendship!
THANK YOU from the bottom of the hubs and my heart!
As our life unfolds we ALL have our trials and tribulations. But I have learned ABOVE anything else that you just can't control EVERYTHING...no matter how hard you try.
Today's court date is a real left fielder. It's supposed to be a Case Management Conference. I'm not exactly sure what that is but I think it's when the judge hears from the lawyers if they are ready to proceed to Summary Judgment. I SURELY know what THAT means...it's usually the verdict on if you will be able to keep or lose your house. It isn't by a LONG shot a fair trial because it's decided by a Judge who plays Judge and Jury and has a lot more interest in getting your case off his docket rather than heard with a sense of fairness and propriety.
We have survived SEVERAL Summary Judgments for one reason or another. Mostly because I like to think that we are deserving of justice and the good that exists in this world and your prayers of course have always allowed us to dodge the fatal bullet.
Even if that bullet is shot we would most likely appeal our case to a higher court that isn't so h*LL bent on speed and more interested in justice. Of course this ALL takes money...as in most things in life the lawyers and the courts get paid and paid and PAID.
We would have no assurance that we'd win and since we've fought for almost 5 years come May it would take a lot of thought and prayer on our part to push longer.
This of course, is EXACTLY what the banks ah...BANK on. They can run you out and wear you down and STILL walk off with their spoils. It's just a sad fact...he with the biggest pile of money usually wins. BUT...not ALWAYS...and that's what keeps the little scrapper in me going!
I love it when the underdog comes skidding into the home plate...dirty and bruised for the effort but a HOME run after all! I dream of being that player...I dream of it because it is RIGHT and I dream of it because it is JUST...and I DREAM of it because if I can do it (and the hubs) YOU can do it too!
That makes for a better world on a more level playing ground and that lifts ALL of us upward and onward.
Sooooo this morning instead of fretting and worrying and getting my voluminous pile of files together I'm letting go and letting God.
I'm realizing that there are only SO many things I can control and I'm praying our wonderful lawyers do their job and report back to me with positive results.
I'm spending my time in quiet prayer and meditation and hopes that justice prevails. I'm spending my time with you and hoping that if our lawyers were this confused about this particular court date and if they should or shouldn't go..the plaintiffs lawyers will be too and just won't show up.
Hold on...that doesn't mean they will lose the case...as demonstrated numerous times in the past the court will give them a pass and they will survive to fight on. It would only be US that would get rousted if we didn't have someone there to represent us. Sad but true.
So now I'll wait for our attorney's call...it may take awhile...most Judges rocket through up to 50 cases a day each person gets all of 10 minutes...and that is exactly why they call it the 'rocket docket'. Hard to find the true facts of a case in 10 minutes wouldn't you agree. Actually hard core criminals and murderers get more due process in the State of FL than homeowners fighting to hold onto their beloved homesteads. At least they get a jury of their peers deciding their fate.
Even if I were to haul myself down to the courthouse our lawyers HIGHLY discourage us from going into the courtroom to hear what is going on. I do know why...the last time I insisted on going in (last December) I was appalled about how little our lawyer had to say (in fact NOTHING) in our defense. Thank goodness he's no longer with our esteemed law firm...but it's a CRAP shoot...better handled by divine intervention than certain lawyers that don't have the facts of our really FAT file in their heads. I hope our favorite lawyer Randy will be there for us...he at least is the most familiar with our case...but again...a crap shoot...it all depends on who is available..and sadly what kind of mood the Judge is in today. Wow...this is our great American justice system....I can only hope for the best!
I guess the BEST thing to do is just to PRAY! Thanks my friends you are my ROCK! I discuss this with no one in my immediate circle of 3D friends...they are all so wealthy they would never 'get' it and it gives them cause to look down their noses...even more so than they already do....not a good feeling at all, and with no brothers or sisters and the loss of my wonderful 'tell anything to' girlfriend 3 years ago to colon cancer spark world is my redeeming grace. I feel SO grateful for the wonderful friendships I've forged over the last 5 years...so VERY grateful!
Justice has to prevail...it just HAS too! I'll keep praying and plugging along asking everyone in power that I can think of to do the RIGHT thing..that's what I do!
I've spent my day off chasing down our attorneys and trying to determine if we are supposed to appear or NOT appear tomorrow for a case management meeting. Our attorneys weren't really sure because they say they haven't gotten back an Order to strike by the court on their June 16th appearance.
The confusing thing about this is that I see 6/18/14 where the Court Register of Actions Order on Motion to strike appears.
But...in my non judicial gullibility I'm thinking that was probably only the order submitted by our attorney on that date and most likely not the one ever signed by the Judge.
Who knows...the courts propel foreclosure actions forward on their OWN accord...they don't even wait for the Plaintiffs to act...it's all their big 'rocket docket' pledge to get cases rushed through the system come H*L* or high water. They don't care a whit about justice..they just want speed...big difference for the little guy wanting his day in court. BIG DIFFERENCE!
The bigger problem with this theory is that as many cases as they clear on one day..there are twice the amount still coming at them down the pike. This is because the banks have never been stopped from the crimes they still try to commit with all of the illegal and fraudulent documents they have fabricated and have been allowed to slip right under the noses of totally uninterested Judges...now for over 5 yearsI
In one court trial I even saw the Judge snoozing...WOW!
Yada...yada...yada...you've heard it ALL in my blogs about the unfairness of the system in accordance to the haves'...and the have nots'...and I fear we might as well get used to it or move to another country (where the HECK would THAT be) because i surely don't see a whole lot of justice coming for the little guy as things stand right now.
As you KNOW...this doesn't stop me from trying...I've got to keep chipping away at rock just for my own sanity in propping up my ever hopeful...ever optimistic attitude that somehow...some WAY...devine justice WILL prevail and the crooks will be foiled and the little baby homeowner with not a pot to pee in now that they have spent every last cent on their legal defense will prevail.
Yep...it's a LONG shot..but I've never been too afraid of being the under dog. At the ripe ole' young age of 62 what else do I have to fear...not much..right?
Sooooo i'm giving this up to the wonderful big guy upstairs and to my angels and my Josher and to the belief that good cannot be conquered if you just keep flying the white flag and keep storming the dark castle!
Tonight I won't sleep much...I get myself so worked up thinking about the injustice in the very thing we are supposed to hold sacred for justice...our judicial system. Let's admit it...on foreclosures in Florida our court's are COMPLETELY blind, deaf, and dumb...today once again we see this with the conflicting court docket. Yet another shining example of rushing through the process.
I looked at EVERY single Judge's individual court calendar in Lee County for tomorrow...(THAT took some TIME) and no where did I find our names or our court case...on ANY of them.
Yet... there it is our Order as big as can be on their public docket. Who gets to CHARGE them our attorney fees for the screw up. Things might work a WHOLE lot better if they were held as accountable in these foreclosure screw ups as they hold the homeowners!
The only thing I can hope is that the plaintiff's attorneys are as much in the dark as ours seemed to be. If they don't show up it should get our case dismissed. Fat chance..it's happened before and the courts bend over backward to give the banks pass after pass. Should it be us...we'd be OUT in the streets immediately!
On top of this I know I'm WAY over due for having the Friday/Saturday night group over to our house for a dine in. So of course i chose this Saturday a while back and I'm committed to it, I could back out...but it's WAY past my time to host and I frown on people not stepping up when it's their turn so that's not an option.
Yep...I seem to LOVE putting myself in a pinch these days...but who knew then that this crazy court case stressor would have popped up? Not me I wasn't thinking anything would even be going on in September and it wouldn't if the court hadn't took it upon themselves to throw a wrench in the works. Rocket dockets be D***med! The older a case is..the more they are obsessed with getting you off their docket...do they collect bonus' for this dirty deed..of COURSE they do!
Oh well...please just pray for us that the Plaintiff's attorneys are as baffled as ours were and don't show up. Maybe the court will finally put the nail in their coffin that they have deserved for the past 4.5 years...fingers and toes crossed!
In spite of all of this craziness I'm getting myself psyched up for our 5% Fall Challenge...at least that mey be SOMETHING in our crazy world I have a little control over.
Thanks always and forever for listening to my 'save our home' fight ramblings!
I've tried em all! Every diet and eating plan under the face of the sun, they all work...for a while. Then I lose interest or in my latest fall from grace...go on vacation for 4 weeks and all bets are off!
I'm just not willing to miss a sinful beignet at Cafe Du Monde in New Orleans with a cup of cafe latte...at the ripe ole age of 62 screeching towards 63 in early January what are the odds that I'm going to make it back to Bourbon street 50 pounds lighter to get THAT opportunity again?
I'm not really a betting woman but... hardly likely... I'd say. Sooooo you go with the flow and the moment and savor those sweet opportunities to be the geekiest tourist alive and enjoy your AUTHENTIC beignet! Actually I almost chocked myself to death on the tons of powdered sugar and one small one was MORE than enough to my sugar shocked system!
Here's my first experience with a beignet...pretty good in very small portions! Especially good with the cafe latte! Coffee is now more of a treat than a standard...I really love my tea!
I love new experiences and this was a FUN one!
I did allow myself some eating leeway telling myself that we were walking off the calories (impossible to anyone who isn't absolutely justifying their splurge...but I did) since our hotel was a good 3 miles down to the action and another 3 miles dragging back 'after' the action!
The good thing was I was gauging well over 20,000 steps on my Fitbit daily and that made me feel invincible...
Yep...we pretty much ATE our way through vacation.
Ribs in Memphis...which for the record I wasn't crazy about...I now know I prefer our local Diner Mel's 'wet' ribs to the dry rub. But I loved the tangy sharp coleslaw and thankfully that came in a very small portion.
A MOST fab authentic New Orleans restaurant Oceania crab cake just the way I like it with hot sauce....I love spicy and I love HOT!
I meant to take a pic of our Oysters Bienville...but oopps they were gone before we knew it!
The BEST part was when we found our beloved 'Stella' at happy hour prices in the French Quarter for only $3....that was a FIND and the atmosphere of the very chi~chi bar was fun and entertaining. I just LOVE people watching don't you? Especially in New Orleans!!
So all in all...it could have been a WHOLE lot worse...I only gained 3 pounds in the 4 week eating foray...and now the new Teddy Bear challenge is right in front of me so I can get back on the healthy wagon and 'Slim' my treadmill and I will become best buddies again. It's all good....I'm so happy we took this vacation it's the wildest thing the hubs and I have ever done...NEVER in our self employed working history have we allowed ourselves 4 weeks of pure freedom. It felt GREAT!
So now the next thing stressful event in our future is the court date next Tuesday for yet another 'save our home' management conference before a new judge. At least this time it's in front of a REAL judge and I hope they have more brains and are more receptive to PROOF of debauchery and fraud than the 'rocket docket' idiots that preside in the other courts that we have been locked in for the past 4.5 years.
I'm prayerfully optimistic that things will go our way and justice will prevail. I now see that our servicer Ocwen is really in hot water with the NY Dept. of Financial Services with a second supoena for suspected fraud and unfair dealings with their homeowners.
Suspected....???? I can tell anyone FIRST hand it's REAL!
Anyhow this is what I'm doing to gear up for our challenge.
Researching Paleo ....has anyone had success with this...does it require TONS of cooking or at least as much as The Fast Metabolism Diet did? I am just not an HOURS in the kitchen type of gal and sadly I don't think I ever will be. It's crazy to spend that much time for only two people. I suppose I could donate the extra food to the soup kitchen...hey that's a thought!
Carving out and putting on my daily calendar at least an HOUR of exercise daily even if I have to wedge it into 15 minute intervals.
Tracking my food which is the BANE of my existence...but I know necessary for calorie knowledge.
Continuing my daily water intake...the one and ONLY thing I've managed to commit and stick to for over 3 years is kicking all sodas to the curb. It's like drinking chemicals...it is...it is!
I'm going to do at least 15 minutes of meditation everyday.
I'll continue my 'daily blessings' notes every night before bed. It makes me happy to see that no matter how much stress we have in our lives not knowing if we will have a roof over our heads tomorrow...we have LOTS of blessings to balance out the negatives.
Use plenty of crockpot meals to keep us out of the restaurants...which I hate during 'season' because they are so jam packed full of people. Plus I can control my calories so much better.
When the weather cools down which probably won't be til the winter challenge get outside and do my walking on the beach. I love the sound of the water and the feel of sand between my toes. People pay thousands of dollars for vacations to a place 3 minutes away from our home. WHY don't I take more advantage of this beauty? I will...I will!
And as always I'm looking forward to your support and amazing friendship and encouragement as one of my teams declares...'Together we ARE stronger'