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Menopause Sucks

Monday, August 25, 2014

My husband told me today that he no longer finds me sexy. That he is disappointed in my weight gain. That he can't understand why it appears that I have given up. I have been making excuses for myself for years now. Blaming menopause, blaming not accepting myself, blaming accepting myself - but none of that gets rid of the look of disgust I see in the reflection in the mirror. I have gained 20 pounds in the past 4 years. The scale is going up not down. Simply because I don't exercise enough. I know that is what it is. And my excuse I would tell myself is that I just don't feel like it. The result? I'm fat.

Add menopause in to it - slower metabolism, weight gain around the mid section.

I guess when he was honest with me about my weight gain it was a slap in the face. Sure, I could have said the same things right back to him but what good would that have done? He IS trying to do something about his weight. He knows he's gained but he is working to lose it. What am I doing? Not a thing other than occasionally taking the dog for a walk.

People will take care of themselves when it's important to them. What is it going to take for me to that for myself? It's time, I just have to face that fact.

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EDLEAR 8/25/2014 1:52PM

    I'm so sorry to see that you're going through this now. Menopause is rough.
I've put on weight too, and haven't been doing anything different to blame it on. Eating the same, exercising like a fool. It isn't fair. Metabolizm has changed.
You aren't alone in this, there are many of us here to support you. emoticon

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JUDITH316 8/25/2014 1:46PM

    This is tough, I'm so emoticon you are going through all this, I too am going through menopause, should of been finished but am still pushing through all the cold sweats and mainly hot flashes etc etc...anyway, just wanted you to know I hear you and am WITH you, sounds to me that you have taken the first step, I know you can do it, let's push on together 1 step and 1 day at a time.. Together we CAN...

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LALATIDAH 8/25/2014 12:18PM

    It sounds like you have taken the first step... seeing what others see... or what YOU think they see (mind you, I can't see what they see, so I am speaking from what you stated).
I gained 50 lbs from being in a wheelchair due to not being able to do any physical activity, even walk, for 8 months. I had/have severe sciatica for the past 13 years. The wheelchair came into play during the first year of my affliction. I had always weighed less than 120 lbs & was very active. The sciatica just hit me for no apparent reason that I was aware of. Skipping to the point of Feb 2014... I finally had enough of being fat & sedentary.... I have always eaten pretty healthfully but my portion sizes were way too big and I drink quite a bit too much alcohol during the weekend (we run a karaoke show in a bar). I still eat anything I want, but my portion sizes are more realistic and healthier. I still drink alcoholic drinks, but I drink a glass of water in between each drink. I go to the gym at least 3 times a week, but try for 5 times a week (sometimes twice in one day). I have lost 38 lbs and have not worked very hard. If I tried harder (better diet, no alcohol & more intense workouts), I would have lost even more. I didn't mean to make this about me, but to show you that it doesn't take much effort to make a small difference. A LARGE difference will take greater effort.
My husband has never made negative comments about my weight or how I look, but since I started my weight loss journey, he gives me soooo many compliments on my looks, my stamina, my motivation, my efforts, etc.
I wish you much success on our mutual journey to good health!
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FORZACHANDMATT 8/25/2014 12:09PM

    I'm so sorry you are going through this - it's so tough.

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Loving Myself

Monday, March 11, 2013

This may sound crazy and one may have nothing to do with the other but ever since I started juicing and eating vegetarian I have become less obsessive about my weight. I feel so good! I've lost a few pounds and my measurments are down - but not where I wanted them to be when I first started with Spark.

I certainly feel healthier. I look in the mirror and sure I don't have a Hollywood standard body but who does? I'm not saying that it's okay for me to be over weight, I guess I'm just looking at myself through different glasses.

I do know that I need to get back in to my exercise routine. Going on vacation every other week certainly breaks the routine and get's me out of the habit which I'm not thrilled about. But that will change too - I'm confident about that!


Stop Sugar cravings

Tuesday, March 05, 2013

I don't remember where I read this but I was researching diabetes since both my Grandmother and mother have it - developed in their senior years. Anyway, I read that if you take chromium then not only does it help your kidneys process carbs and sugar and decrease the spikes but it also helps with cravings.

I might be crazy but I have to say it works! Since I have been taking a 500mcg pill a day (the lowest amount I could find) I have not had the evening sugar craving. In fact, I don't desire sweet things at all. The thought of eating dessert has no appeal to me at all, in fact I'd rather have a piece of fruit or cottage cheese or anything else.

So I've eliminated meat from my diet, my protein intake is actually higher than when I was eating meat. My carbs are down since taking the chromium. I'm eating way more fresh fruits and vegetables then I ever was (due in large part to my new juicer) and I feel fabulous!

Why didin't I do this sooner?

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EENLIGHTENING 3/6/2013 10:29PM

    Sweet! I am vegetarian and I love how I feel now. I don't have any trouble getting my protein even when I exercise a lot. I am so happy for you success. Keep up the good work.

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Eating Vegetarian

Saturday, March 02, 2013

I decided to go cold turkey (pun intended) and stop eating beef, chicken, and pork. I bought a juicer - love it! And I started looking at vegetarian meals. The first thing I noticed was how easy it was to eliminate meat from my diet. The second thing I noticed was how good I feel! So now it's been almost a month and I am not missing meat at all - no cravings, nothing.

So here's my theory - I am giving my body so much in fresh veggie, fruits, and whole grains that it's not interested in any of the garbage that is in meat. The funny thing is that I do not crave salt as much or sugar. I don't have those evening urges to have something sweet and in fact sweet things just do not "turn me on" at all. I have a freezer full of Coconut Hershy kisses and Coconut M&M's and have no desire to have them at all!

Lesson to learn - give your body all the right stuff and you won't even desire the wrong stuff!


I am trying not to give up

Tuesday, February 12, 2013

The scale is an evil invention more than likely created by a man to torture women into thinking they are not and never will be good enough.

There, I said it. But why am I continually drawn to it? Why do I allow it to have such control over me? I vowed to only step on it once a week and even then to not let the number have any effect on me - it is just a number. That my measurements are what matters, how I'm feeling, the fit of my clothes - none of that can be measured by that evil scale.

I have been diligent the past month or so. Eating right, exercising regularly. Mixing my workouts up between numerous JM dvds of various lengths and the elliptical. I am feeling more fit. My clothes are fitting better. Even my husband has commented on how I look more fit and toned.

But boy oh boy that scale....I have to not let it detract from what I'm doing. I have to not let it have that power. I have to remind myself that I am healthy regardless of my pants size. That it took me several years to get to this point and it's going to take time to lose it as well.

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WILSON1926 2/12/2013 7:04AM


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BRASKIN 2/12/2013 6:47AM

  The scale is only a tool!!! it takes time to see it as a guide and not the be all and end all. if the clothes are fitting and other's are noticing.... emoticon

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AZMOMXTWO 2/12/2013 6:45AM

  great blog and so nicely put I keep trying to tell myself it is just a number but I keep going back to see if that number goes down

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DMEYER4 2/12/2013 6:43AM

  great blog.i think we are all addicted to the scale. good luck on your journey and hide that scale

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LEANJEAN6 2/12/2013 6:43AM

    I like to weigh once a week---I vow that if your clothes are fitting better--the scales will eventuially show thje weight loss--What is the alternative if you quit??--Of course it is a weight gain---Sometimes it isn't the weight loss you get on here as much as the knowledge about health----Lynda emoticon

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BLUENOSE63 2/12/2013 6:38AM

  AHHHHH the same old question? To weigh or not to weigh? Well my vote is to stick it under your bed and come back to it in about 3 months. In the meantime, look up on Spark how to calculate you BMR. It will tell you what your caloric intake should be for your age, height and weight. Then stick to that and the basics: water, walking, sleep.

Measure yourself once a month or every two weeks and see how this works for you

Just some suggestions that might help you figure it out

Have a great day

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KAR815 2/12/2013 6:37AM

    I couldnt of said if better if I wrote that myself! lol You sound just like me! I understand as much as I try to hop on it once a week, the numbers do mean something too me. I feel like Im addicted to the scale. hahaha great blog !

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