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How do you plan on spending the next phase of your life?

Monday, September 05, 2011

I had this thought of breaking down my life in phases.

My first phase was from birth to about the age of 28/29. I was thin, confident and happy up until this age. I had two kids by this age and that is when the weight started to pack on my body.

The second phase of my life from age 30 until now, I am 44 now, I am fat, well not fat, obese. I am sad, uncomfortable and lacking in self confidence. Not a phase I want to continue to be staying in.

Now, the 3rd and last phase will be from this day forward heading back to the way the 1st phase was....but more settled, grounded, happy, secure, self confident, reassured and healthy.

I am sad that I have wasted 14/15 years of being this way, but going forward I need to change it. It's a short period of time compared to the other 2 phases added together. So I don't want to dwell on time lost, I want to focus on the best phase that's about to come.

So you need to ask yourself the same question, How do you want to spend the next phase of your life?

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DIANAOR1 9/6/2011 11:03PM

    Great question! I, too feel as you do. Time to move forward and feel better about ourselves. emoticon

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KMIRANDA2000 9/6/2011 4:33PM

    I want to spend the rest of my life in a healthy body that allows me the freedom to enjoy life to the a participant and not a spectator.

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JNK125 9/6/2011 8:13AM

    I like this. Eventhough I too am disappointed I've let myself be where I am (in a big and uncomfortable body) for so long I like to remind myself that the future could be brighter if I take control. Great blog!

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    I'm turning 60 this year, and have four amazing grandkids, two just born in the last few months. I want my next phase to be full of fun activities with them, including the fitness activities I used to do.

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The return of Sadness.... The Almost Empty Nest Syndrome

Saturday, August 20, 2011

Just got back from a whirlwind one day trip taking our son back to college. You would think that since he is now a Junior and us still having a daughter living at home, I would be over the Empty Nest Sadness that goes along with him leaving again. But I am not. I feel sadness. I feel lonely. I feel pathetic. I am so proud of him and am glad he is doing well with school, has a lot of friends and a goal, but how do you get over not being around a child after 18 years of taking care of them, loving them and doing anything for them? Its like asking me to turn a switch off or to stop breathing. Impossible. Dont get me wrong, I have my daughter that keeps me busy and on my toes, that I love just as much, a household to run, a full time job to go to and a business to help run. But why when a child leaves the nest is when I feel empty inside, not complete? I dont know how other moms get over it and are able to accept it.

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JNK125 8/23/2011 11:35PM

    I've got to say that I think you feeling this way makes you a great mom- because you can really tell how much a part of your being your children are and how much you truly love and care about them.

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KMIRANDA2000 8/21/2011 9:28PM

    Oh God...I'm feeling that way and my daughter leaves for the first time this coming Friday. I am thrilled that she is going to experience college life completely, but I feel such a sadness still at the house being quiet. We have a dog and three cats, so we won't be totally alone, but our daughter just brings so much life to the house. It'll be a new normal I guess. Anyway, I feel your pain.

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IILAAD65 8/21/2011 11:17AM

    Slow adjustment.. I totally understand. Mine are 17 and 19 and I am looking forward to seeing them on their own.

But when my 17 y/o says she's moving out next year, it hurts my feelings.

What's up with that?? lol

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TISHTOES 8/21/2011 3:47AM

    Oh yeah, and get a dog!


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TISHTOES 8/21/2011 3:46AM

    Stay busy. That's what I do.

We have a team called Empty Nest. You should join us. Check it out!


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Everything in life comes back to this one thing....

Tuesday, August 16, 2011


This is a quote by author, Doris Mortman. This one line sums it all up for me. This can be interpreted in many different ways. It could be a weight thing, it could be an attitude thing, it really could be anything.

Without having or feeling complete PEACE, you have NOTHING.

I will continue to work towards this until the day I die.

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MRS*RADISH 8/18/2011 8:40AM

  so very true! Great quote...

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GRACE612 8/16/2011 7:20PM

    Wordsnwe should all be able to live ny!!! Thanks for sharing!

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    beautiful! emoticon

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ANYVAR54 8/16/2011 12:23PM

    True Peace, I believe comes from a relationship with God. True peace within myself comes from daily knowing that I am loved and accepted by my Creator. I just have to get in tune with that. And trust it. No one else can bring that peace to me, I have to go after it.

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EMILYULM1 8/16/2011 11:53AM

    Thank you so much for blogging this. I need to remember this every second of the day. I have lost a fair bit of weight over the last several months, and some days, when I don't have peace with myself, it all makes no difference to me. Thank you, thank you.

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JUDYPOPPINS 8/16/2011 10:48AM

    emoticon It really does boil down to this!! Thanks for sharing.

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DOWNTOWNJEN 8/16/2011 10:28AM

    emoticon What a great quote and I couldn't agree more.

Thanks to SP and flylady amongst others - PEACE is emerging.

Self-discovery and peace are wonderful things - not to be achieved overnight but ever evolving. Life is grand!

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Who Knows..... Who cares......

Wednesday, July 20, 2011

I've been going down
Down into the river baby
Listen to the sound
It's something only god knows
You figure it out, I can't stay
Water's in the clouds
Is my life about to change?
Who knows, who cares

So we took a van down to colorado
Where we ran into the dead
I took you by the hand
Know that even with your doubts, it's ok
Take into account that it's not about to change
Who knows, who cares

You could let it down
Jump into the river baby
Easy as it sounds
It's never quite as easily done
The current has us now, it's ok
Take into account that it's all about to change
Who knows, who cares

No one's been there
But I don't care
I know all have been there
I don't care
I know... who knows, who cares


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Summertime in NJ means GREAT PRODUCE!!!! YIPPIE!!!

Tuesday, July 19, 2011

Living in NJ in the summertime makes it all worthwhile dealing with the crappy winters we have here (please remind me of this when its January, bitter cold with lots of snow!) Summertime means all the great produce we get from the local farms to enjoy all the way thru September.

I enjoy the grilling of Zucchini, onions and peppers... This could be my entire meal for dinner. Forget the steak or Chicken!

Now I just need to find a low fat recipe for that Blueberry Buckle.



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    I so believe you. When my son lived in Hackensack (sp?), he took us to a Farmer's Market, I believe it was, and wow, the prices and variety and quality were GREAT!

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MAGA99 7/19/2011 9:16PM

    jersey corn is the best

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JERZRN 7/19/2011 2:03PM

We've been picking fresh tomatoes from our yard. YUM! Also grilling zucchini and yellow squash. Eating fresh fruit in my cereal or oatmeal every morning.

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SUGIRL06 7/19/2011 1:03PM

    Amen! I need to make a trip to the blueberry farm this weekend for my flat of blueberries. And I can't wait for my zucchini and tomatoes to ripen!

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