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How Does One Do It?

Tuesday, June 15, 2010

I have had quite a time trying to figure out how to do it all. I read about some of my fellow sparks and they can be great family people, carry on full time jobs (sometimes even 2) and make time to go to the farmers market, run/exercise, cook healthy food and even grab chances to get away for weekends. I just can't seem to do it!

Some of you may or may not know that I have recently started a full time job after being a mom and working part time or not at all for the last 22 years. Also added to the mix is that I have started going back to school. Trying to find the time for me, exercise and healthy shopping is quite a challenge.

I am just afraid that all I have accomplished will be for nothing if I can't figure this out soon! That is just a scary thing for me. I am trying to be on top of it but still - the possibility still looms over me!

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    It is tough... as a working mom, I'm consistently the last one to go to bed and night, and the first one up in the morning.

As said above, organization is very important. Things can slip through the cracks easily. I end up making to-do lists just about every day, and exercise needs to be at the top of the list. I have to plan my meals in advance, so I have healthy veggies and cooked chicken breast ready for my "brown-bag" lunches.

When things get really busy, you have to find time to get exercise in when you can... fifteen minutes is better than nothing!


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FRENCHTOSD 6/16/2010 1:09AM

    I've been thinking about this since I read it last night. I had difficulties in getting everything done when I worked full time.

In hindsight, I wish I would have given myself small daily goals. That way I could have created some success to work with.

Only you know what is do-able for you, but I think you should try to keep on top of it daily. I know you decided to start blogging, so that is a great start.

I think you should keep blogging about your progress with this issue and see how your solutions develop over time.

Good luck, Felicia!


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LITTLE3LAM 6/15/2010 7:45AM

    It's tough but I find organization is the key. But even that takes time and effort! Good Luck!

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BVICTORIOUS 6/15/2010 2:00AM

    Hi Felicia,
I sure struggle with the same thing. I am up at 5:30 to be ready to leave for work at 7:00 am. I work full time and also run a home-based business. I try very hard to work my exercise in, but it is hard. When I do have time, I am so tired.

I am trying to go to the gym after work two days a week, and to do a workout at lunchtime the other three days. That works sometimes. I wish I was close enough to work to take my bike, that would be great.

Let me know how you work it out.

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WALIDGAZALA 6/15/2010 1:02AM

    You can gain time by using your legs in going to school or work instead of car or bus and you add it to your workouts

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Getting the Family Involved

Monday, June 14, 2010

I have been running races for about 2 years now. Not ever has a family member ever wanted to participate. I never even asked anyone because I knew what the answer would be. No one in this family runs. Of course, I didn't run either until I started to run!!!

Anyway, I was talking to one of my Spark team mates about a race called the Warrior Dash. When I looked up that race for my area I found that the closest one to my area is next April. I was looking over the site and I ran into a race called the Great Urban Race! It is in my town and they have a family team event. It sounds just like a mini city version of the Amazing Race TV show! My son was hooked immediately. He is already strategizing about how we can win! I am very excited to be able to share something like this with him.

That is not the only thing that was discovered this weekend! I found another race, a biking tour, not really a race but an event. My husband wants to do that with me!! How great is that?! It is pretty long so we will have to train for it but again it is so exciting to share something like this with him too!

I know I will have a great time at both events. I just hope they do too!

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SKINNYPOWELL1 6/14/2010 10:51AM

    So great to hear your family is supporting you and now they are joining you. That is emoticon

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CSIENK 6/14/2010 7:47AM

    I think it's great that both your son and husband are interested in competing with you! Your blog encourages me that maybe I'll be able to get my family interested and involved in something like that.
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WOLFKITTY 6/14/2010 2:29AM

    It's wonderful that you can get your family involved! Sometimes it seems hard to make all kinds of changes in one's life, and feel like others are slipping away somehow. Or maybe not able to participate in the new "lifestyle" that we choose, one that's active and healthy. I've been discouraged by that in the past, but it's clear that your family wouldn't have been enthusiastic about these events without the AWESOME example that you set.

I'm happy for ya!

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Not Much of A Blogger

Saturday, June 12, 2010

I am not big on blogging as you all can probably see from my very few past blogs - mostly race reports. I am only blogging for the points. Yup I said it! Only for the points! The thing is......I have started doing a lot of new healthy things "only for the points".

I began running .....just for the points
I began drinking tons of water. .....just for the points
I began trying all kinds of new foods .....just for the points
I began doing pushups and sit ups .....just for the points
I began tracking my food .....just for the points
I began counting my steps .....just for the points

So what good are the points? Well....Let's see...

I lost 55 pounds ....BECAUSE of the points
I am a maintainer ....BECAUSE of the points
I am a runner ....BECAUSE of the points
I am a healthy eater ....BECAUSE of the points
I am in a fitness certification program ....BECAUSE of the points
I have so many new friends ....BECAUSE of the points

So just maybe...... I will be a blogger some day.........because of the points.

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CSIENK 6/14/2010 7:44AM

    Hey Felicia! Nice blog... and you kept it on point!
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READNKNIT 6/12/2010 12:55PM

    I have never written a SP blog. But I do read blogs and comment on them ..... FOR THE POINTS! I'm just kidding. I never knew for a long time that I even GOT points for commenting on blogs. I just did it because I wanted to offer encouragement. Maybe someday I'll write one of my own. Who knows? Maybe somebody would even comment on it! emoticon

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ILOVEROSES 6/12/2010 11:06AM

    Felicia, I love your blog! emoticon

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THINRONNA 6/12/2010 10:28AM

    You have made an excellent point here. I wonder if it weren't for the points if you would be pointed in the right direction. I don't mean to poke at you but I will ask you a pointed question. If it you won points for doing nothing would it be as fun? Kind of a thorny issue I would say. (was that last one a stretch?)...or was it sticky? (...ok THAT one WAS a stretch) emoticon I don't mean to poke fun... emoticon

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TOBEARUNNER 6/12/2010 10:13AM

    Felicia - this has to be one of the BEST blogs ever! Of course you knew I'd love it! Of course others may think you're trying to get SparkPoints, but we know you're really after DragonPoints! emoticon

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WOLFKITTY 6/12/2010 5:11AM

    Haha! I love this blog!
You are awesome.


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KIMMERQU 6/12/2010 2:11AM

    Maybe you've just become a pointer emoticon. Sorry, I couldn't help myself. I'm right with you and the others, that's why I blog too. Great job on your journey!
Hugs, Kim
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DRAMAQUEEN1913 6/12/2010 2:00AM

    That's the only reason I blog.....


There is a bit of attention whore in me, but I don't often have anything profound to say--at least not of any reasonable blog length. I will occasionally have a bout of clever inspiration and post a little sumthin-sumthin, but those moments are few and far between. But I try to press on, and at least try to keep my login streak going. And at least meet a fitness goal or two.

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FRENCHTOSD 6/12/2010 1:37AM

    Great blog - considering you are such a rookie at it :)

I definitely care about my point totals, and I agree that has helped me with all of my Spark Goals.

I find that blogging keeps me in touch with my friends here and lets me focus on the good and the bad of my fitness activities.

Every once in awhile I go back and read something from long ago and surprise myself with what I said and thought back then. It's been a worthwhile way to spend time for me.

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LOVEITSILENT 6/12/2010 1:23AM

    You aren't alone!

I share secrets, for points.

I post on random blogs, for points.

I do daily polls, for points.

So what good does this do for me?
Well, I guess it engages my talkative, voyeuristic and intelligent side.
I guess I can be a blogger, but I can't see myself crossing over to becoming a Vlogger.

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DISAPPOINTMENT BY DESIGN: My Race Report - AFC- Last leg of the Triple Crown

Friday, August 21, 2009

The day was just wonderful. I woke up at 4:30, ate my usual oatmeal, and got out the door. Everything couldnít have worked out better. I drove up to the zoo, and the busses were there. I didnít even have to wait in line! Bus rides, for any of you who know me, are not my favorite. I am very susceptible to motion sickness, so I avoid them. I had no choice for this race. No cars were allowed near the start. I boarded the bus and the front seat was vacant. Wow! What luck, this is gonna be a great day.

Once we got up to Cabrillo everything again was perfect. Little lines for the bathroom, met some other racers from my team, relaxed, ate a snack, drank some water and we were off. I never would have thought that I would be disappointed with my performance today. Everything was too perfect.

The race started easily on a long down hill. Beautiful scenery on all sides from the tip of Point Loma as we ran through the National Cemetery overlooking the ocean. Peaceful, beautiful, and almost silent with only the pounding of thousands of feet making noise. I was a little over pace at 10:30 mile. I was okay with that though. I knew I could keep it up. Once down the hill, it was all flat until mile 11-12.

The race went on without a hitch. Hubby and my son met me at mile 5. I was feeling great, just finished the hill and ready to run by the airport and the harbor. By mile 7, I was running into a problem. Where was the water?? Everybody was saying the same thing. Finally it was there, but it was almost 3 miles without anything. I was thirsty. I took the water and drank it all, slowly. I really needed it. It seemed to give me the push I needed to keep going but again, by mile 9-10, I was really thirsty. I donít know as if I have ever been thirsty in a race before but this time my mouth was dry and I was failing fast. Luckily for me, we were along the boardwalk and I found a water fountain. I was able to push on because I knew another aid station was coming. Finally when I got there I took my drink and began walking. I needed to get all that water in me.

I donít recall the exact time or the exact point where I made the decision to walk but I made it. I knew that I could finish this race in under 3 hours even if I walked the rest of the way. I felt lousy, and didnít care. I wanted to get my medal for the triple crown and that was it. When I started my journey my only goal was to do these 3 races in under 3 hours. I would do that, even if I walked now.

Poor Leah, along with Maria and J, were there cheering me on and I was walking, with no intention of running. The funny part was they were there to help me up the hill, but the hill was not what was holding me back. It was ME that was holding me back. Leah walked with me, after trying to get me to run. We talked and walked a bit and then she sent me off with encouraging words and I ran the rest of the way in.

After the race I was so disappointed in myself and the choices I made during the race. But most of it was exactly that: choices. I chose to not carry my own hydration when I knew how few aid stations there were. I chose to walk because I didnít want to feel miserable after the race. I hated that I didnít PR but mid race I decided finishing in under 3hours was what I wanted to accomplish. I was embarrassed about my time and for walking, yet they were direct results of my decisions!

I thought I was miserable during the latter part of the race but a photographer captured a wonderful picture of Leah and I walking and smiling. I think that picture summed it up for me. It is not all about times and PRís. It is about friends, family, health and fun. That is why I do it.

Sure, I didnít do my best. I donít even think I tried my hardest. I know I could have toughed it out and I probably would have PRíd. I just opted not to. I donít really know why. I will probably never figure it out. What I did figure out is: It doesnít matter. I did it therefore I succeeded. I shared it with friends and family. I felt great after. I reached my goal and earned the Triple Crown. A picture tells a thousand words.
I will try to remember that for my next race.

OH YA! My time: 2:46:05 :-) Yes, I am smiling. (Cringing a little, but smiling)

"You are only as good as you are on that particular day, on that particular course, under those particular circumstances." Coach Lee (Quote I got from SP Nancyís page that pretty much sums up this race)

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HAPPY92003 9/23/2009 1:34PM

    You got the triple crown!!!! Congratulations!!! Don't be so hard on yourself for walking...we all know distance running is 70% mental, so even if your body can make it, sometimes your mind just says no. The saying at the bottom of your blog sums it up...you did the best you could with what you had...and you STILL finished in 2:46!!!! That is awesome. Besides you have always said Long Beach will be your big race...only 17 days to go...Yikes!!!

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CSIENK 8/22/2009 8:33AM

    I think you did great. You finished in under 3 hours - your original goal, you had great weather and friends and family there to cheer you on. Here's another crown to add to your Triple Crown.

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SPEEDYDOG 8/22/2009 8:10AM

    Dear Felicia,

Your description of the race scenery sounds wonderful! Maybe you did set a PR -- smiles per mile, maybe!



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WOLFKITTY 8/22/2009 2:22AM

    Hooray!! Good for you!! You guys look happy, and it sounds like it was a good event. I only have one question (hope it's not too clueless): What is "PR"?

See ya tomorrow lady!!

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A YEAR AGO.........

Monday, May 25, 2009

A lot has happened in a year. When I get down on my weight, my training, or any aspect of my new healthier life I remember:


I was carrying around 25 extra pounds and didnít know that 25+ will still be coming off

I had a waist 4 in wider and thighs 4.75 inches thicker

My core was the leftover part of my apple

A long run was anything longer than 25 ft. - Now my longest so far is 16mi.

LSD was a hallucinogenic Ė Ok so it is but it is also a Long Slow Distance Run!

A track work out was something the High School Track Team did - now I do them!

A stick had nothing to do with running it was just something you played hockey with

PR stood for Public Relations (well it still does but not for a runner) Ė Now I have PRís for 5K, 10K and half marathon

I hadnít even thought of running let alone racing and WCRR, Huh? Now I have done 3 5Ks, 2 10Kís and 3 half marathons and belong to a running club. (WCRR)

Lake Murray was a place I drove to and maybe walked a little. I have actually run to it, around it, and back home again!

10 miles was too far to drive for dinner, now it is ONLY a 10 mile run.

I had Never heard of Spark People - now I know SO many Spark People and many have become good friends, running buddies, motivators or all of the above.

A year agoÖ.. I went out on a huge limb and joined a group of women that I didnít even know, who wanted to do something so outrageous, like run a half marathon. We called it couch to Ĺ marathon and we trained all on our own, communicating only on line since we lived all over the country. We compared training, aches and pains and anything else on our minds and then 4 mos. Later we all met in Long Beach and we did it! Fast or slow, walking or even watching (one women was pregnant) we did it! It was amazing .

A year agoÖ. This is what my journal said, ďWorked in garage had a good breakfast missed morning snack had a good lunch then went for long walk at the lake. 6 miles it said. Surprised I could do it. It took about an hour and half which seems fast but that is what the mile markers said.Ē

A lot can happen in a year. I can never forget that and I will never forget all the amazing people I have met on this journey so far and lots that I still havenít met. I canít wait for next year to see what new things I will do, new people I will meet, and accomplishments that I never could have imagined doing this year!
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    I love this blog!!

p.s....how are you???

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    wow- that great. very inspiring... maybe that will be me in a year too... probably not, but at least i can try for the 5k and the 10k part. emoticon

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    What an inspiration! I, too, go back and compare then with now when I get down on myself. It really can put things in perspective.


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CLASSIB65 6/1/2009 3:24PM


I love this post! It is so inspiring to see how far you have come! Keep it up lady! I'm back on track....well at least started. I walked 4 miles this morning.


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ROCKINROBINFL 5/26/2009 7:02PM

    You have accomplished alot in a year and you are such an inspiration to me. Thanks for letting me know about Sparkpeople.

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HERE2PERSEVERE 5/26/2009 10:50AM

You've accomplished a lot, AND you are able to appreciate how far you've come! That's emoticon
As long as you keep that attitude going you're sure to go far!
Spark On!

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BVICTORIOUS 5/26/2009 1:36AM

    Wow, Felicia,

All that in a year? That helps me stay motivated to keep at it, if you change so much in a year. Thanks for the advice about a yummy dessert from Spark People - I wish I would have read that before I put together the Layered Lemon Surprise in my fridge right now! I will check through the SP recipes and see what I can make for the next time. I do a lot of parties, so I need to have something planned.

Looking forward to seeing you soon!

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SPRING4FAL 5/25/2009 11:23PM

    Well said my friend!!! I agree with being excited for the next year because a lot can be accomplished!!! 9 minute miles here we come!!!! LOL! Thanks for being an important part of my journey...who knew when you came to that rock climbing event that I would catch you in my evil web and the rest would be history!!! LOL!

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FAELFE 5/25/2009 9:41PM

    What a great blog! I think so many of us have so many triumphs when we think of them in the long term like this....rather than focusing on, "I only lost .5 of a pound this week," why not focus on "I am 30 lbs lighter than I was one year ago!" Attitude is so important. Congrats on your achievements :o)

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*ROGUE* 5/25/2009 9:33PM

This is such an inspiration to me!! I know that it can happen for me, too, if I do the work like you did! You've done an amazing job. Thank you for sharing this blog--it's incredibly motivating to me! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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