Wednesday, February 23, 2011
1. Rewire your brain. If you know that constantly thinking negatively about your body teaches your brain to focus on the bad stuff, why not flip the script? It's absolutely possible to create neural pathways that favor affirming thoughts. Keep a pen handy to note things you do that make you feel good about your body. Doing this puts positive stuff front-of-mind and starts becoming instinctive.
2. Ask yourself: Is this really about my body? Or am I trying to distract myself from being upset with someone or something else? Address that issue instead of thinking negative thoughts.
3. Exercise! Working out regularly tends to prevent harsh thoughts. And it's not just that being physically active improves your shape and health; it actually boots your mind-set, too. One new stude found that women felt better about themselves after exercising even when their bodies didn't change, suggesting that the feeling of "That was challenging and I did it!" played a bigger role than weight loss in boosting body image.
4. Say "stop!" - literally, that word - when your mind goes all negative. Just imagine a giant screaming sign. It's funny, but it really does shut up that negative voice and clears your head.
5. Remind yourself that obsessing about what you eat or look like doesn't make you look any better. A study found that young women who obsess over their diet don't actually weight less than those who generally eat what they want. Some women look at a brownie and think: Oooh, that looks good, but brownies are 'bad'. I wonder how many calories are in that? Maybe I could just have a teeny bite, and on and on. A woman with a healthier relationship with food would either eat the brownie, or not, and be done. At the end of the day, both get the same number of calories. The message: Fretting over every bit gets you nowhere. Eating mindfully-enjoyed food and putting your fork down before you get too full-feels better and works better.
6. Appreciate your body for what it does, rather than how it looks. Next time you're, say, cursing your wobbly arms, pause and think of their purpose-is it to make you feel bad? Or to let you your and enjoy life? It may seem a bit "Kumbaya," but this mental tweak helps you think less negatively.
7. Finally, play up your strengths. Comparing yourself with others doesn't help anything. Focus on making the most of what you've got. Hold your head a little higher and walk a little taller: That attitude is absolutely magnetic. Hear that? You're MAGNETIC. And don't forget to tell youself so, either. We all could use a few more compliments!
Tuesday, February 22, 2011
It's hard to jump high and feel down at the same time.
Sometimes the loneliest moments are the ones that show you HOW STRONG YOU REALLY ARE.
The riskier the endeavor, the more exhilarating the reward.
Spending just five minutes outdoors can undo hours of pent-up stress.
Don't think of decluttering as emptying your home-you're filling it with possibility.
Rather than battle your emotions, make them your allies. They hold the secret to what drives you-and what scares you.
Happiness is a fickle houseguest: She shows up at surprising times, but when she leaves, you KNOW she'll be back.
Treat an apology like a gift. Accept it without peeking at the price tag.
You achieve balance not by pushing against your body, BUT BY FOLLOWING ITS LEAD.
Monday, February 21, 2011
Being happy in the midst of the difficulties of human life is a wonderful art, a great accomplishment. Learning to be happy is perhaps the most important skill we can develop in life. So, how can we learn? Here are 3 key lessons to get you started:
1. Know that happiness is always available to you. The moment you see the truth of this, you can be happy right away. There's nothing that needs to happen first for you to be happy. You don't need to do anything else, go anywhere else, reform yourself, or become a different person. Happiness is very simple. It's only our tendency to complicate things that makes it difficult.
2. Accept imperfection. There always seems to be something naggingly imperfect in life. We have the idea that if we could get it all together, attain some imagined state of complete wholeness and authenticity, everything would be great. Being happy is about being able to relax into the imperfect nature of your experience, not about finally having everything just the way we want it.
3. Don't try so hard. The Declaration of Independence asserts our right to pursue happiness, but the pursuit of happiness makes us crazy. The idea that happiness is something to chase after deadens us to the wonders of life that are here now. Happiness is about being receptive, about opening to what's good in the present moment - here, now, and this.
TODAY IS PRESIDENTS DAY
IN 2009 C-SPAN POLLED 65 HISTORIANS AND ASKED THEM TO RANK THE 42 AMERICAN PRESIDENTS.
The Top 10: 1) Abraham Lincoln; 2) George Washington; 3) Franklin Roosevelt; 4) Theodore Roosevelt; 5) Harry Truman; 6) John Kennedy; 7) Thomas Jefferson; 8) Dwight D. Eisenhower; 9) Woodrow Wilson; and 10) Ronald Reagan.
The Bottom 10: 42) James Buchanan; 41) Andrew Johnson; 40) Franklin Pierce; 39) William Harrison; 38) William Harding; 37) Millard Fillmore; 36) George W. Bush; 35) John Tyler; 34) Herbert Hoover; 33) Rutherford B. Hayes.
GEORGE W. BUSH IS THE ONLY U.S. PRESIDENT TO HAVE FATHERED TWINS.
Sunday, February 20, 2011
DO wear clothes that fit well and skim your body. Baggy or loose clothing emphasizes size. Accentuate your assets with good makeup and attention grabbing accessories. For example, a bright scarf flatters and draws attention upwards.
Choose long, thin items to layer with shorter ones for a leaner look.
V-neck shirts will lengthen the lines in your neck, unlike polo-style necks.
Avoid stiff fabrics - opt for softly draping ones instead.
DO stand up at work. Research shows you'll burn more calories.
DO keep it simple. Elaborate attempts to camouflage figure flaws (i.e., over-size scarves and shawls, ornate jewelry) only serve to highlight them. Simple accessories make you look pulled together and not weighed down.
DON'T label foods as "good" or "bad."
DO treat all foods equally.
DO have snacks. They'll help you stay on track by making you feel full between meals.
DON'T skip meals.
DON'T weigh youself more than once a week. Let your clothes be your "scale."
DO keep plenty of healthy, nutritional "produce superstars" in your refrigerator. They're available year-round, easy to prepare, and cheap to boot! Some favorites include: garlic, mushrooms, oranges, spinach, sweet potatoes, tuna and yogurt.
DO eat breakfast. Why?
1. Breakfast eaters consume about 12% less fat than breakfast skippers do.
2. Breakfast eaters tend to be leaner than breakfast skippers are.
3. Breakfast eaters tend to have diets that are more nutrient-rich, especially in fiber.
Saturday, February 19, 2011
The minute you lose interest in learning is the minute you risk becoming ignorant. So read. Volunteer. Go to museums. Take a class. Meditate. Never stop education yourself, and you'll be the most interesting person you know.
"Even if you are on the right path, you will get run over if you just sit still" -Unknown
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