Sunday, January 16, 2011
Will it make you happier to quit complaining?
There's nothing wrong with having a reasonable gripe and discussing it with the person who can help fix the problem. But if you spend a lot of energy lamenting over what's gone wrong to people who have nothing to do with the situation (that's what I do!), it might be time to deal with what's making you feel dissatisfied.
If you regularly grumble about the things your boss asks you to do, for example, you should consider looking for another job. By taking steps to improve your situation, you'll not only feel more confident, you'll be happier in the long run too.
When it comes to everyday annoyances that you can't control-like the plumber who shows up late or the stop-and-go traffic on the way to work-keep your frustration to yourself. Remember, our thoughts and our words are extremely powerful. What you choose to focus on influences your perception of a situation, your relationships and your health. If you act like you're in a good mood, even if you're not, eventually the positive emotions will follow. Give the "fake it till you make it" approach a try-it really works.
This is easier said than done...but whenever I have managed to achieve it-I find that it really does work. When I was having a tough time with my TOPS group - I'll admit that I shared that information with people who had nothing to do with my group (hello, SparkFriends!). But after I had done that, I then concentrated on happy thoughts. Eventually, I realized that I had undergone a complete change of attitude and was no longer feeling that depression! I'd "faked it till I made it"!!!!