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I sent it back return to sender

Wednesday, October 29, 2014

I was livid when that second letter came in, it was a hand written letter and my hubby said it was her handwriting someone had asked if it was typed or hand written. I put the letter back into the envelope and sealed it back up with some glue and wrote return to sender.
IF.................... she's stupid enough to write a 3rd letter then she's going to get one back with Portuguese temper all over it hahaha, but I did send it back hopefully her hubby gets the mail and see's it that was my thinking behind it, he probably doesn't even know she's sending letters to another man ......

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PENNYPANCAKES 11/9/2014 11:35PM

  realy strange how she keeps writing to you. I don't blame you for sending it back return to sender. Did she write back again since then?

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MYAKAYAH 10/30/2014 7:59AM

    Sharon-glad you are handling business with this woman who obviously needs an intervention. I don't know what some people are thinking sometimes. I mean she is married with children right? Hope her man gives her something to think about~

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RASPBERRY56 10/30/2014 7:00AM

    As if you didn't have enough on your plate already.......WTH is *WRONG* with people?


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TCANNO 10/30/2014 4:34AM

    Good for you Sharon,
I would hate to meet you when you are mad LOL

Have a good weekend


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okay another letter from pen pal??????????

Saturday, October 25, 2014

Okay some thought I was over reacting when the first letter I got came in from a German woman that my husband knew 27 yrs ago (she's not in Germany anymore she lives a state over from us) and I'm not happy that she had the balls to send a second letter.
She wants a reply from him, she wants to know if she has the right man so she can have piece of mind, hello? why does she need piece of mind? She's a married woman, he's a married man my husband doesn't owe her anything. I just got the mail and saw this and I'm fuming to say the very least.
I tried to look up my hubby on the internet and I can't find his name and address the only way I can see her possibly getting it is for her paying for the information and why is she paying to find my husband? Does her hubby know she's trying to contact my husband? This woman has 4 kids, why is she even thinking of my husband? She wrote in this letter I'm thinking of you and can't get you out of my mind, I need to know if it's you.....
I'm not afraid he'll leave me for her, I mean I know I said I was a little jealous but that is not a worry in my head I'm just disgusted that some woman has the balls to write to him and then write a second letter????????????????????? Now she has my Portuguese temper in overdrive!!!!!!!!!!

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LUCYCAN7 10/26/2014 10:14AM

  Sharon I would find out whom lives at the return address on the letters,it may not
be the lady it just maybe someone trying to stir up conflict in your marriage.If
someone knew your Husbands past.Just don't add up why she would be wanting
to find him after all of these years.Do you know these are legitimate letters from
this woman.It just does not add up in my opinion.It is worth finding out,so you wil
have apeaceful mind about it.Be honest with your Hubby though.Are they typed
letters hand written letters?

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MYAKAYAH 10/26/2014 5:54AM

    I would send her letters back stamped return to sender. I would think that would send a loud clear message to her. Apparently the woman has been reading too many love stories or Nicholas Sparks books lol.

If your SO does know this lady, he could send her a note saying yes its me but I'm happily married and do not contact me again, that would likely stop the drama~

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TCANNO 10/26/2014 5:28AM

    You can do two tings Sharon, Write to her or just plain ignore her.

If you carry on you will only upset yourself and you really don't want to go back over the last year, that was a bad place.

Ignore her and get on with your good times.


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JANISMKW 10/25/2014 9:49PM

    IMHO you only need to be concerned with your hDH's feelings and behavior, not hers. I would suggest talking with him about the situation. I think it would be best if he ignores her. Any response might encourage her further.

Good luck with the situation.

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MARYBETH4884 10/25/2014 5:59PM

    Tell DH that you want to write her! Tell her the story of your love and tell her that DH is very happy and she can have piece of mind. Tell her any further correspondence will be pitched ,unopened!

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HEALTHY4ME 10/25/2014 5:03PM

    Well then you ask hubby are you going to say yea it is me, the right guy. or you can reply saying yea this is the right guy, he has said to tell you he has been happily !1emarried for x amt of years, has a great son and life is just fine. Now your mind can be set at ease and you can get on with your own life.

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hubby gets letter from female pen pal 27 yrs later excuse me what????????

Thursday, October 23, 2014

To say I'm a little mad is an understatement my hubby received a letter last week from a woman he knew 27 yrs ago. A German girl he had met in the service when he was stationed there and had spent some time together and then became pen pals.
She somehow found our address and decided to write him telling him that she came across his letters and pictures (after 27 yrs) and was thinking of the old days and what they meant to her (now she is married with 4 kids. She talks about how attractive he was and how she wants to know if she has the right guy so she can have piece of mind after 27 yrs. Hello?????? she's married and he's married, I mean does her husband even realize that she wrote to my hubby? Because I'm not happy at all!!!!!!!! My hubby waited a more then a few days to tell me about the letter coming to our house and then said why are you upset I told you it came and I said well why did you wait? He said well you haven't been feeling well I said and today is one of the worst days and you're telling me today so why didn't you just tell me when it came in almost a week ago. Then he says well I thought we could go look her up on face book together... Now if this girl researched my hubby to find out his address she had to of looked up fb and seen he was married as my wedding picture is right there and hello????????????? she didn't think hmmmm it's going to be inappropriate to write to a married man? and hello?????????? I'm married and I shouldn't be writing because I'm married? I seen her and what her hubby looks like and I can see why she's probably thinking of my husband.... Yes I'll admit it I'm mad and jealous, I just don't think it was appropriate do you? Then when my hubby said lets look her up on face book I was like excuse me????????????????????????????????????????
?????? emoticon The kicker is a few days ago he asked if I ever got a letter from any of my pen pals from when I was single and I said no... just doesn't sound right.

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FENWAYGIRL18 10/23/2014 9:14PM

    no she doesn't live in Germany she lives in the next state over and when I looked my hubby's name up on the computer the only way I could get his address is if I paid for it

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BARB4HEALTH 10/23/2014 6:49PM

    The new word for almost everything in the past is 'closure.' Maybe she felt she needed that. Oh, well, no harm done. emoticon

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CAMRY426 10/23/2014 6:23PM

    If people usually want to make contact again. I mean if they are just friends. It would be cool if I could get in contact with some people I knew really well in the past. Male or female; married or not. It's good to know how people are doing and sharing stories about your kids and spouse and what you've done all these years. Basically, what became of the person.

Even if she saw his Facebook picture she most likely wasn't thinking anything wrong more like. "I should really catch up with one of my good old friends."

Sure there's other ways to communicate now but I guess sending a letter was reminising.

But like TCANNO said. I wouldn't worry much about it.

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HEALTHY4ME 10/23/2014 6:15PM

    I agree, just realize that you don't need to be jealous. your hubby loves you and you don't need to worry. Cos that is what jealousy is worry that he may leave etc. So she wanted to know about him, he can say hmmm I am married and have a great son and leave it at that. now if she hounds him then yea maybe. but where does she live? Germany? well then really nothing to worry about.
But I do understand. if he fb messaged her, I would be on there saying Hi this is Sharon his wife and yea I sure do have a handsome hubby Eh. Lucky me. Your kids are really cute etc. or something then that's it. she knows you know, and are acknowledging her presence and that he has told you. lol

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TCANNO 10/23/2014 5:05PM

    After 27 years I would ignore it Sharon, Really no need to get up set.

You have a good family and you know that so don't worry about it.
Have a good weekend


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will power to the test and no taco bell for me

Friday, October 17, 2014

emoticon son wanted taco bell we haven't had take out in a very long time and he was craving taco bell and my hubby said well I'm not going to go somewhere you can't eat and I said no, I'm not going to deprive him of having something he enjoys because of me.
So I said go and I can wait till we go home and I'll make something he said you sure? I said yep, so we went and I told hubby your hungry go ahead and get something so they both ate and I waited till I got home and had my frozen veggies and chicken.
I think the feeling of pride I have in doing that tasted better then any taco would of and glad I put myself to the test and didn't cave. I want this, I really do I want this more then taco's or those snack twists they have I want this more then any chocolate bar, Chinese take out or sweet that exists.
I came home and both my husband and son told me how proud they are of me and that felt sooooooooooooooooooo good!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! emoticon

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HEALTHY4ME 10/18/2014 12:55PM

    WOW good for you but do remember that you do have to live too, but perhaps it is still too early in the game to let yourself that little leeway. I totally understand as I can't do it at the beginning either, ha who are we kidding I haven't gotten that far cos when I do I end up stopping or giving up in a day or two after. Keep on doing what you know works for you!!!

Proud of you too!!! emoticon

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MARYBETH4884 10/18/2014 6:59AM

    Now that's the focus I as talking about!! emoticon emoticon

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TCANNO 10/18/2014 6:57AM

    It is good that you can do that but you are not going to stop eating out for the rest of you life as that would be unfair.
Two trick I do when eating out.
Choose a healthy option
if you get too much push half to the side of the plate and don't eat it.

You get to go out and have the added enjoyment of being with family and friends.


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JANISMKW 10/17/2014 9:58PM

    Good for you!

You're stronger than me... I would look online at the nutrition and find the healthiest option they have... a couple of the fresco tacos perhaps, and work it into my whole day's nutrition goals.

But if you can do that and feel good about it, not deprived, that's awesome!

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ARNETTELEE 10/17/2014 9:32PM

  That's great!

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not going on scale everyday and wow it moved faster

Friday, October 17, 2014

so one thing the nutritionist asked me was how many times I was going on the scale because I said I was stuck on a number for a while and I said sometimes twice a day and she said okay you need to stop it because it can bring you down and it was and of course being on spark as long as I have I know better so I haven't been on since I went on Tuesday and it moved 2 lbs and I just stood there with my mouth open looking at the scale like WOW....
Something has really clicked for me this time, it's too easy or maybe I want it more then I have in a long time I haven't been cheating I've been right on course and I look forward to my little snacks , god bananas I have never eaten so many bananas in my life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I look forward to my little fruit cups they are like my candy now and yogurt is like my ice cream that's the way I'm thinking of them, pistachio's are like my chips and sometimes I have the multi grain chips from food that tastes good too.
My son graduates this year and I want to look good in pictures and feel proud and be proud of myself maybe that's the difference. Maybe it's because of the big 50 and I know I need to be healthier because lets face it how many good years do I have left with all my ailments I really need to lose the weight and stay active so I don't become my father.
I also have the I don't give a crap attitude this year and won't be serving Christmas dinner this year for what???????????????? A chew and screw? I ask them to bring stuff and they bring stuff half rotten for a salad and then want me to prepare it? noway I'm done being everyone's little slave girl they can all look for another place to eat it's just going to be me and the boys, stress free!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I owe that to myself.. and to my boys.
So right now everything besides being in some extreme pain is going decent and hopefully I can shed the amount of weight I want by next June.
I hope everyone has a great day and thanks for all the support you've given me! I have the BEST spark friends ever!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! emoticon

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JANISMKW 10/17/2014 9:51PM

    Wow! You are doing great. Keep taking good care of yourself the way you are and keeping your eye on your goals!

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CINDYSDAY 10/17/2014 3:58PM

    I am so proud of you taken care of yourself and your family! You are such an inspiration!

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HEALTHY4ME 10/17/2014 3:49PM

    Awesome!!! you have grown in so many ways this past year. Good for you!!

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MARYBETH4884 10/17/2014 3:38PM

    WooHoo!! Glad it has clicked! Don't go thinking it's too easy!! You have just are on a roll, enjoy it and keep your focus!! Glad you are destressing your holidays! Hope you do have simple plans to enjoy it with your boys!!

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