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Becky is a wimp

Thursday, October 06, 2011

One little cold / flu and she collapses in a pathetic pile of goo. "Oh, we're sick, let's eat obscene amounts of baked goods and stay in bed all day, we're too sick to exercise. That's the only way to get better."

This is the crazy alter ego who wanted to run a marathon after completing a single 5k, who wanted to enter a triathlon even though we can barely swim a lap and who jumps around like a cheerleader on speed, chanting faster....faster....faster when we run.

This last week she's been chanting muffins...donuts...bagels...please please please!

FANGFACEKITTY has had to be the grownup and say not a chance baby!

I forced our backside to go to the track Wednesday. 200 meter as fast as you can go runs (that is half of one lap) with a slow jog for 200 meters...and repeat 12 times (3 miles total)...and our uber sadistic coach made us do the 200 meter run in under 1 minute each time (8 minute mile pace or faster).

If you can't beat a cold...outrun it!

Tonight Becky was still whining..."we've been sick, we need to ease back in to exercise, let's just do a few minutes on the bike so we don't over tax ourselves."

Yeah, right. Don't think so sweetheart. Two miles in 17:04 on the treadmill, a 5k in 28:54, and jog for another 36 minutes. Two new PRs. Now we know who is in charge here, and it's not the fair weather muffin addict psycho cheerleader on speed (yeah, I'm talking to you Becky!).

FFK is back baby! RAWR!

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BBAHONORS 10/20/2011 1:58PM

    Can I borrow your alter ego next week to get myself off my duff?

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KAREN_NY 10/17/2011 11:47AM

    You are the QUEEN of No Excuses!

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DEZZIEJAMES 10/17/2011 9:57AM

    emoticon I love reading your blogs. WB FFK!!!

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SDM0618 10/15/2011 9:07AM

    emoticon You go Girl!!! emoticon

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JAZZEJR 10/14/2011 10:04PM

    You go, Girl! emoticon

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SM-ARTGIRL 10/14/2011 9:29PM

    FFK - Miaow! You Rawk!

"the fair weather muffin addict psycho cheerleader on speed" - you must have jumped into me- just a minor cold has thrown me off my run training for a week!

I think your strategy of meeting a group or coach to train works, I am checking out running groups in my area for next year. emoticon

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TEENY_BIKINI 10/14/2011 8:25PM

    You are amazing!!

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DISAPPEARING1 10/10/2011 4:19PM

    Love this - thanks for sharing!

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CBAILEYC 10/10/2011 11:42AM

    FFK rawks!

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DANA564 10/8/2011 12:13PM

    Great blog!! My alter ego needs to start listening a little better or I need to get a little tougher!

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RUSSELL_40 10/7/2011 2:37PM

    I went the sleep till 1 p.m., wait till Sunday
Now I feel guilty. I am using my heart problem as an excuse. Having to force myself to work today. Think the end of the sickness is approaching.

Good job with the way you did it. I was too weak of will and body.

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MJK0430 10/7/2011 12:21PM

    What a great blog! Love FFK!!!

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SPARKCHANTAL 10/7/2011 5:30AM

    a group of centenarians were asked about their lives... and they all said they had worked hard their whole life through. so at this rate you might reach 200!

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VYVIENN 10/7/2011 3:42AM

    Hahahahaha!! emoticon Oh woman, you kill me! Your running group is working out great for you, that's awesome! You're basically on track for the Black Belt then, aren't you?

What I think is totally funny is that EVERYONE in my active group of SparkFriends has just had that weird in-the-dumps phase, whatever the various reasons might be. I'm glad we're all coming out of it, though.

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    I sure like your spunk! You sure didn't take any guff! emoticon

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KKINNEA 10/6/2011 11:11PM

    Whipping into shape!!

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GETSTRONGRRR 10/6/2011 10:32PM

    Good to hear you told the Beckster to take a hike. Maybe she needs a one way ride in the min-van on a Thursday!

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GEORGIZ 10/6/2011 10:30PM

    The weirdest thing just happened! I was laying here (I've been in bed all day with a cold) wondering if I should get up tomorrow and go to the gym or if I should just sit it out for a while. Then I thought to myself, "what would FFK do?" and motored on over to your blog. Needless to say, my alarm is set for 4:30am. You are so obviously a mother because you're such a good example to others!

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APIRLRAIN888 10/6/2011 10:24PM

    wow does your alter ego know mine by any chance! great job

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IAMWINNING 10/6/2011 10:06PM

    Ok, FFK - like your spirit! LOL

And I have to ask, (since you didn't stay home today) how did THIS Thursday go? Had my fingers crossed for you. : )

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Chinese Numerology

Tuesday, October 04, 2011

From my Inbox:

Chinese numerology and Feng Shui for 2011 This year we are going to experience four unusual dates: 1/1/11, 1/11/11, 11/1/11, 11/11/11, and that's not all; Take the last two digits of the year you were born and the age you will be this year and the result will add up to 111 for everyone!!!! This is the year of MONEY. Also, this year, October will have 5 Sundays, 5 Mondays & 5 Saturdays. This happens only once every 823 years. These particular years are known as Moneybag years. The proverb goes that if you send this to eight good friends, money will appear in the next four days, as is explained in the Chinese feng shui.

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YAGERMONSTER 10/13/2011 4:05AM

    Fun with math is always entertaining, great find and I hop to pass the knowledge as well.

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FUSCHIA6 10/6/2011 6:30PM

    So far, it hasn't been that great for me. Maybe, my turn for money is coming. Health wise, I have been blessed beyond my wildest dreams. I hope it keeps up. Good health is the least appreciated of riches.
My great-niece turns 10 on 11/11/11. I wonder what that means for her.
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    I wish one of those money bags would land at my doorstep!

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GETSTRONGRRR 10/4/2011 6:30PM

    Not only that, but posting this on a social networking site will guarantee that you will lose 5% of your body weight during the Fall Challenge!

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CANDOK1260 10/4/2011 5:27PM

    this actualy work I was born in 60 and 51 this year i add up to 111. sound great

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    Wow! that is a LOT of 1's! emoticon

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VYVIENN 10/4/2011 1:38PM

    Watch out, former Network Geek coming through...

Incidentally, though, this has been a good financial year for the unemployed on this side of the pond... so there must be some fairy dust in the air out there! emoticon

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RUSSELL_40 10/4/2011 1:32PM

    This has been a great year financially for me.. might be

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CAALAN23 10/4/2011 1:24PM

    Hmmm, but it doesn't say whether I will be receiving money or payin it. :P All I can say is this chinese proverb needs to ketchup, mustard, cause I'm in the hole!

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IAMWINNING 10/4/2011 12:51PM

    Interesting. My special day is one of those listed. Does that mean I'll get double? LOL

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MIMIDOT 10/4/2011 11:04AM

    Very interesting. Thanks for sharing.

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FFK and the Third Bad Thing

Saturday, October 01, 2011

Two weeks ago - on a Thursday - my car blew a rod. Major car repair.
One week ago - on a Thursday - my back-up beater minivan finally died the final death.

A smart person, seeing where this trend is headed, would have stayed in bed this past Thursday. But I like getting paid so off to work I went. On the drive problems. I did not go out to run errands at lunch so as not to tempt fate.

But on the drive home I looked down at the dashboard and saw a warning light. Having learned my lesson two weeks ago about warning lights I immediately found somewhere to pull off the road and shut off the car. Out came the owner's manual to discover what the Third Bad Thing was going to be.

Low tire pressure.

OK, I thought, this isn't bad at all. I found a gas station, scrounged up a quarter and started to fill up the tires. Then I looked at the tires.

Bald as a baby's behind.

All 4 of them.


They were a blow out waiting to happen. Today I went to the tire place to get them replaced. Tire Guy #1 gave me a quote, I paid, and went off for a walk.

When I return Tire Guy #1 has "bad news"...the tires he quoted to to me were the wrong ones for my car. And this is my problem how? After some back and forth Tire Guy #1 agrees to eat the difference while Tire Guy #2 is waiting for us to finish.

Tire Guy #2 has "bad news" of my rims is bent. I go out with him to look and sure enough, it is bent. "Yes," he responds to my question, I can still drive it as is but it will probably cause problems and really isn't a good idea.

*sigh again*

So I order the new rim and get to spend next Saturday at the tire place as well. As I am leaving, just to make the experience that much more special, Tire Guy #2 says "You're brake rotors are getting pretty bad, you might want to get them replaced before they really start grinding and you lose your brakes."

Does he not understand that if it is bad and you say it, it will happen? There is another Thursday coming up in not too many days.


So next weekend after the rim is replaced off to the brake shop I will go.

It could have been a lot worse. I don't really begrudge the tires or brakes too much because that is routine upkeep that has to happen. But all at once?!?

Late tonight, when it is dark and there are no witnesses, my car and I are going to have a discussion about what happens to bad cars which cause their owners distress.

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FUSCHIA6 10/6/2011 6:43PM

    I blew a tire on the freeway on the way to the cabin for Thanksgiving last year. My ex had just move away ( 1 week before) without telling me or leaving a forwarding address. Of course, the blow out happened in the town he had moved to and of course, we needed 4 new tires. We were stuck in that hell hole all afternoon. The only good thing was that dinner was super late & we arrived at 9 pm, just in time to enjoy it. I think you've had your share now! Good luck from now on!
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DOGSTARDADDY 10/3/2011 4:15PM

    yea... My car failed inspection on Saturday because of the tires. On the way to get them, I got a ticket for an illegal right turn. End of the day, I was out about $500 for tires and ticket.
I feel your pain.

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CAALAN23 10/3/2011 3:39PM

    Hmmmm, my child was just reading to me about the jinx that was on James Dean's it affected everyone who ever got near it in a very negative way. Maybe an exorcism is in order? 'tis the season for such things.

Hope things get better soon.


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DANA564 10/2/2011 9:10PM

    Sorry you are having to deal with car issues. This is why I hate cars!! Maybe a bike would be better?? emoticon

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KAREN42BOYS 10/2/2011 6:04PM

    okay, all this money going out is definitely bad, BUT i am very glad that none of the bad car stuff has involved you or anyone else getting hurt.

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IAMWINNING 10/2/2011 3:06PM

    I agree with two things: Since stuff happens in 3's - you should be all through for awhile; and two: STAY HOME THIS THURSDAY! Don't go ANYwhere but maybe back to bed. LOL

I"m sorry you're having so much car trouble. We had two in the shop at the same time a week ago, so I do know what that's like. Here's hoping everything car-related is GOOD news for you.

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DEBBIEDAY 10/2/2011 2:57PM

    YES THREES ....NOW have a GOOD THURSDAY this week!!!

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INIT2LIVEIT 10/2/2011 2:30PM

    emoticon sorry... Hope things start working out in positive mode... no more neggies...

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IFATFIRST77 10/2/2011 2:52AM

    I feel your pain lol. I bought a bus pass for the rest of the year lol
I will keep my fingers crossed this coming Thursday for you
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CANDOK1260 10/1/2011 10:24PM

    don;t go any where get off of work next Thursday someone is trying to tell you something LOL sorry for your trouble

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    Is this a new car? Or is it car #1 ? Sorry, I can't remember.
My first car, a new to me car..not very old and low mileage, was possessed. A few weeks after I got it, I was in an accident. The whole front end smashed in. While I was waiting to get it in to be fixed, I was parked at work and a tow truck hit the back of it. (the tow truck driver, a big burly greasy dude, was very scared of me after I spent a good 1/2 hr cursing at After I got it back from being fixed, I noticed that there was green paint spatter all over the driver's side of the car was gold coloured...and the hood had several spots that weren't painted at all. The garage took responsibility for the hood but wouldn't admit to the spatter on the side. So in it went again. A few months later I knocked the passenger side mirror looked really nice with the duct tape on it. Then, a couple of months later I was rear ended. Then the tumbler in the ignition stopped working. It would take me up to an hour to start my car. Then I had a blow-out. Now this all happened in a year. The day of the blow-out I went to a dealership and bought a brand new car. things get better for you.

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APIRLRAIN888 10/1/2011 9:23PM

    wow that jsut plain SUX. sorry

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MIQUEY73 10/1/2011 8:18PM

    What a bummer! Glad you noticed the issue before anything majorly bad happened!

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GETSTRONGRRR 10/1/2011 7:57PM

    Ouch, Ouch, Ouch.....the dilemma of loving cars beyond their years. Maybe Joey two-fingers and his boyz need to come visit and sell that machine into Car Slavery to the Sultan of Brunei.

all told, this is still better then being left stranded in the middle lane at a green light during rush hour

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RESULTS361AP09 10/1/2011 7:51PM

    I feel your pain! And been there & done that! Well they say bad things happen in threes, so you should be all done with the bad things. Good luck!

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Taking bets that my son does not survive to adulthood

Monday, September 26, 2011

Right now the odds are not in his favor.

His progress report comes every Monday. Today's report showed 2 Fs and a C - all three because the report showed missing assignments. This after he assured me last week he had turned them in.

So I asked him why he was failing 2 classes and on his way to failing a third. He became combative...I was obviously making it up or exaggerating and I didn't know what I was talking about. The only things that saved his health right then was I was driving...a rental car I do not traffic and he was in the backseat where I couldn't reach him.

So I took him to task, promised consequences and said something to the effect of "I am the parent and you are the child".

And what does he come out with?

"You just gave birth to me."

I swear he is not going to see his 16th birthday next month, let alone survive to his 18th.

He is at band practice right now, so is alive for the moment. I'm debating leaving him to find his own way home like I told him to do when I dropped him off, or going to pick him up in an hour so I can throttle him and still get to bed at a decent time.

Teenage hormones are going to drive me completely insane.

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MARISPHERE 10/5/2011 12:43AM

    You can survive this (and so can he)! My daughter's (she's oldest) mind went on vacation when she was 12. It didn't start circling the runway until she was nearly 20 and finally made a bumpy landing when she was 25. My son was barking mad for his entire sophomore year of high school. The beginning of his junior year, I woke up one morning and my real kid was back.

I'm praying for you. Just keep running -- you'll definitely need the endorphins! emoticon


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GARDENQE2 10/1/2011 7:59PM

    There is hope!!
My younger son was terrible at two and got steadily worse. Every time he had a birthday, I was amazed that he had survived another year!
Now at 38, he is kind, considerate and a great Dad besides!
Keep your sense of humor right up front!!
Sometimes kidding around and being silly with the kids breaks the tension and mkes it easier to talk.
I recall one time I was terriblly stressed about work. Of course, I had to come home and fix dinner and run the house and EVERYTHING!! I was right at the edge. While he was watching TV, I handed my son a plate with a hamburger and some salad on it, he looked under the bun and said, in the rudest possible tone of voice, "Where's the ketchup?" THAT DID IT!! I took the squeeze bottle and threw it directly at his head! He caught it and threw it went back and fourth across the house, hitting the walls, and coming open, ketchup splattering everywhere. We were shouting, laughing and crying. As we cleaned up the mess together, we all shared what was going wrong in our lives, and we ended up with several months of peace and cooperation. emoticon

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VYVIENN 9/30/2011 2:46PM

    Whoa, shooooosh! Well, I know why I leave the child rearing to other people... emoticon I don't really remember how it felt to be almost 16, but I do remember that it majorly sucked to have a hard time at school like that... so remember, he's not really enjoying himself anymore than you are. emoticon

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BETTERHEALTH123 9/29/2011 12:43PM

    good luck...I know what you are talking about...

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SUECHRIS50 9/29/2011 10:51AM

    Imagine will ya,that I raised 4 daughters and two grandsons!!Im still here alive and kicking butt!! emoticon

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CATS_MEOW_0911 9/29/2011 3:48AM

    Oh dear. I bet you wish you could just wake up in 10 years when he might start acting like a man--hope he shapes up soon!

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IFATFIRST77 9/28/2011 8:48PM

    I hope he settles down soon, I know I was a horrible teenager! My poor mother LOL
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MH2SHEL 9/28/2011 6:44PM

    LOL. I don't have kids yet but.. take comfort in the fact that he may have kids someday who will drive him crazy too! emoticon

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SPARKCHANTAL 9/28/2011 2:15PM

    so much to say on this topic!
teen brains are physically different from younger and older ones.
so as bill cosby says: kids! got brain damage!
one day it fixes itself.
chin up!

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DANA564 9/27/2011 5:53PM

    Yes, your blog brings back memories. I don't wish teen years upon my worst enemies. Hand in there and I promise that eventually they turn into normal human beings again (sometime in their 20's but it WILL happen). emoticon

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MS_DOLLY 9/27/2011 2:33PM

    hahahahaha I don't know how many times I have said this about my oldest daughter. She is so headstrong and independent. Often times she forgets the small things like love, respect, food, shelter... I'm mean what do I know? But thankfully after about 2.5 years it is starting to pass. Just hang in there and anytime you need to, feel free to vent to us.

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CANDOK1260 9/27/2011 2:27PM

    well my mom raise 5 sons each stubbier and crazier than the next and that just the boys we girls were even worst boys and she now 85 and the boys all are alive you will make it. and so will he just hang in there also you can tried to tell what my mom always said i put you in this world and I can take you out

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QUEENKMJEFF 9/27/2011 1:52PM

    My oldest child is getting ready to hit the teen years soon he'll be twelve this year. I'm dreading it he's a good kid so far very sensible , but he"s very strong willed and passive aggressive. I'm sure I'll be feeling your pain soon. emoticon

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IAMWINNING 9/27/2011 11:52AM

    Bless your heart. DH and I raised 3 girls (no sons) and our middle one gave us the most trouble with missing assignments, etc. When she was in the 8th grade it was really bad, and one day in the midst of the second semester of 8th gr, DH and I met with DD and all her teachers. DH & I told DD in front of her teachers that if she didn't bring certain (core classes) grades up by one full grade (all she had to do was complete and turn in homework and study for tests), then at the beginning of the next school year, she would find herself back in 8th grade.

She didn't do as she should (and easily could have), so we kept our word. Had VERY little trouble with assignments and studying after that.

The high school called me a couple of times that fall and told me DD was truant. Twice I explained that no, she was down the street repeating 8th grade. You see, she had passing grades, but 'just.'

Trust me, you WILL make it through your kids' teens - gray hairs and all. But I do empathize with you over the day-to-day living of that time.

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DOGSTARDADDY 9/27/2011 11:36AM

    Ugh. I watch my daughters grades pretty closely, because I think her mother is letting her get over-extended with activities. Any time she has a mid-term grade under a B, we begin to take away activities. If your son likes band, then maybe it's time to tell him if his grades aren't good enough, he obviously needs to be focusing better on schoolwork.

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DEZZIEJAMES 9/27/2011 11:15AM

    I DREAD the teenage years.

"you just gave birth to me". Guess that means someone else clothed, fed, protected, cuddled, loved, disciplined, sheltered, educated, respected, and transported him after you squeezed him out?

One thing to remember (by watching my friends/family who have teens).... they do still love you. They do a DAMN good job of making you believe otherwise, but the love is there. I keep remembering of how I felt when I was a teen, and keep reminding myself that these horrible, awful, no good kids probably feel similar. It's that tough in between time where you aren't a child, but you aren't an adult (and you think you are), and you have no freedom (although you don't understand what no freedom is until you have a job, a house, a child or two to care for...), and you just want to lash out at every one you love because you don't know what else to do with all those emotions.

Hang in there. Keep venting to us! Here for you!!!


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FUNKY5RED 9/27/2011 10:15AM

    Oh, the memories this brings. I used to say I wanted to put our daughter out for the garbage man. We had the same problem with not turning in assignments. She would do them, but not hand them in. So, each friday she had to bring on a form initialed by each teacher saying she had handed in her homework. Grades were not involved here because her grades went up when she handed everything in. Going out on the weekend was earned by bringing home the initialed form - and all the teachers had to do it. She refused to do it for a few weeks, but then realized she was missing out on her social life. It was a rough time for us, but is now 30 and an intensive care nurse. Not only that, but she is going back to school for her masters degree.

Hang in there. Make sure you spend time with him that has nothing to do with school or anything that can cause conflict. You both will get through this period of time. It isn't easy, but you aren't alone.


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MCJULIEO 9/27/2011 10:12AM

    Longtime colorful basketball coach at Texas A&M, Shelby Metcalf, was famous for responding to one of his players who one semester produced 4 F's and a C... Metcalf reportedly said, "Son, it looks like you're spending too much time on one subject..."

Hang in there... it always astonishes me that any of us lived to reach adulthood!

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    Oh, this brings back memories that I don't care to remember! Hang in there, my friend! They usually get past this stage... eventually! emoticon emoticon

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DEBBIEDAY 9/27/2011 8:23AM

    My daughter pulled the 'I don't have any homework' on me at that age....I bought her an assignment book and sent a note addressed to ALL her teachers asking them to sign the letter which said...please intial Cindy's assignment book for YOUR class if she truely has NO homework .....EVERY DAY I checked the assignment book .....when her grades came back up she no longer had to collect signatures....

MUCH worst that throttling her was 'embarrassing'...worst than death to a teenager but it worked!

Also slammed on brakes in the middle of the town square one night because she was mouthing off .... she KNEW the next step was to open the back door to assit her in an attitude adjustment so apology was forthcoming before I got my seatbelt undone.

AMAZED - we BOTH survived for her to get out on her own I and hubby LIVE with her and we are 'best friends'....!!! ( She is 35 now and has a PreK age daughter 'practicing' to drive her mom nuts!)

YOU CAN & WILL Survive but will EARN more than a few grey hairs along the way!


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REBECCAMA 9/27/2011 8:11AM

  Hang in there! It's all about control, right? I have a 5 year old and am not where you are yet but right now our battles are over eating. I'm sure some day they will be about grades. I like what someone else said about remembering to use some respect with each other. It's not easy I know, but just take it hour by hour. That's all we can do with our kids sometimes.

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TUBJUMPER 9/27/2011 8:01AM

    I have a 14 y/o duaghter and ask my mom and husband all the time if they will bail me out of jail if I hurt I hope the teenager-itis stops soon.

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DEEGIRL50 9/27/2011 6:19AM

    This too shall pass!


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JENN03275 9/27/2011 6:15AM

    I have a 13 year old and we have entered these turbulent teenage years. Isaac has always been pretty low key but I do have issues with a temper. I often say to him that we are going to sit and talk like adults but often ends up with him yelling at me and getting up to lock himself in his room. Then, in turns get me yelling at him. I can honestly say that nothing we fight about is anything major but I find it difficult to say the least. I find it amazing that we can see every humanly possible emotion in 15 minutes or less.

My doctor gave me a presentation she went to at St. Paul's School regarding teenagers. Their amigdayla (sp), the primitive part of the brain, is very active at this time. This is what causes the poor decision making and impulsiveness. In adults, this area is not as active. Very interesting. If anyone is interested in the article, private message me with your email and I will forward it to you!

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BEATLETOT 9/27/2011 3:26AM

    As a DINK, I actually got quite a laugh out of this blog post and some of the responses. Then, I double-checked that I'd taken my birth control.

Isn't it weird to think that at one time, it was normal for people to let kids these age get married, have children, get jobs, and work on a farm? Working on a farm might be good for him though. Teach him discipline they don't get in marching band! emoticon

Good luck to you, and whatever happens, DON'T GET CAUGHT! =)

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EUPHRATES 9/27/2011 2:27AM

    My two cents of unsolicited advice (as the mom of one son who just turned 25 and another who turned 21 on Sunday) - think about how you say things. Just because he's your son doesn't mean you shouldn't say things with the same respect for him as a person that you would anyone else - think back on how the conversation went, considering the words you chose, your tone of voice, etc. If the roles had been reversed, would YOU have become combative had someone said something in the same way to you? Talk to him the same way you would a co-worker, or your partner, or the friend you go to the gym with. Respect is a two way street.

THAT said, if you can honestly look back and say "No, I didn't accuse or belittle, I was calm and reasonable and he reacted badly anyway", THEN you can totally chalk it up to teenaged hormones and "plug up the hole" (my dad always said pre-teens should be put in a barrel, and when they turn 16 you should just plug up the hole). LOL But again, before you just assume "he's a combatative teenager", take a look at your own communication style and see if you're not doing yourself any favors there.

Good luck!

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BADSEEDGIRL 9/27/2011 2:27AM

    I have a 15YO and I feel your pain. Manys the days I visualize driving him out to some farm and dropping him off like some unwanted cat, the only thing that stops me is the knowledge that at his age he can find his way back home, and that with all the hormones rushing thru his teenage brain he is like stroke victim, he has brain damage, and you just have to be patient and wait for the undamaged parts of their brains to take over, than they will become decent human beings again. My mother assures me I acted the same way, but I have my doubts. My mother was not opposed to smacking unruly children with a wooden spoon. To this day I do not have any wooden spoons in my house!

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BECCALULU 9/27/2011 12:41AM

    I would totally run with that...
"You want dinner? What? I JUST gave birth to you."
"A ride? I JUST gave birth to you."
I am not your personal chef, taxi driver, bank, nurse, tutor, department store, i JUST gave birth to you."
Oh yeah, I'd lay it on thick and melodramatic! But, that's me! hehehe
If teen is worse than tween, I may just combust.

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ELYMWX 9/26/2011 11:56PM

    I'm not looking forward to the teenage years...

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KAREN42BOYS 9/26/2011 10:55PM

    Oh geez, what a mess. I hope the band pick up went smoothly and you can now breathe in and out more slowly.

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JMARIES51 9/26/2011 10:35PM

    My sister always said that the teenage years are nature's way of allowing you to let go of your children and push them out of the nest. I think it is true. My oldest daughter was kind of like your son, plus involved in a gang (her idea of the perfect family, I guess). My middle daughter was almost perfect, and my son, the youngest has always been pretty even. So there you have it. 3 children, same family, all different. All 3 kids have survived to adulthood, but I wasn't always sure I would survive.

Wish you the best of luck, and eventually, you will be long past these days and the memory fades - kind of like the pain of childbirth does.

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MCLAFLIN 9/26/2011 9:50PM

    My DS was like that. We had a vehicle for him to drive when he turned 16, but he didn't get to drive. We toted him like he was 15! When his grades were up, he got to drive. When they dropped, we took the keys. It was harder on us to transport him, but he got the message. You can find something that will motivate him, but you have to stick to your guns.

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SVELTEWARRIOR 9/26/2011 9:25PM

    Oh as a mother of a 17 year old daughter I feel your pain! I go from wanting to bury her in the backyard to having great laughs with her. The problem is wondering who she is going to be one moment to the next!

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GETSTRONGRRR 9/26/2011 9:05PM

    Yeah, those frontal lobes don't fully develop until they're about 25 years old....until then it's a roller coaster ride.

There is a light at the end of the tunnel....Our #1 son (now 23) has come back a few times and said things like, "Yeah, I guess some of those things you told me to do in High School were right....I was kind of a jerk about it"

Just makes ya love 'em more....after the fact

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DOODIE59 9/26/2011 9:04PM

    This too shall pass! Along with all the wonderful things family brings into your life, there are those moments that stop you dead. But, honestly, I bet you he's cringing inside about saying such a dopey line. "You just gave birth to me". Haha. That's all it was -- a cranky, hormone fueled moment he'd rather not remember.

Let him know the insults don't work for you ... but really ... we've all said something stupid to someone we love ... and lived to tell about it.

One of my favourite songs has a line that goes:

"Without the ugly, emoticon
there is no beautiful" emoticon
sung to a pretty little tune.

And it's true, the bad makes the good look good, and vice versa.

You might ask him (when you're in a good mood) if he remembers what he said in the car -- I betcha he works up to an apology or at least laughs in embarrassment at the ridiculousness (and that's all it was:))

Hang in there

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CAALAN23 9/26/2011 8:55PM

    Damn, that is one of the scariest true stories I've heard in a while (says the mother of an 11yo on the brink of teendom.) Thank god for rental cars.

The only advice I can offer is from my mom, find that one thing that is his passion and make him work all other avenues to earn it. Worked on 4. Hope it works for you cause it's my only ray of hope myself. Good luck!


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KKINNEA 9/26/2011 8:28PM

    Oof, time to run him up and down some hills to tire him out. As a childless person, I always hope that trick will work to drive the rebellion out of children :)

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KATRINAKRAUT 9/26/2011 8:24PM

    Time for intervention. My 16 year old son is smart. My 16 year old son does pretty well on exams. My 16 year old son usually does his homework. My 16 year old son does NOT turn in his homework. As a result, his grades tanked. This has been a pattern. We had sent him to an organizational therapist for a year in a half. Fine while it lasted. But then he went back to his old pattern. So we went to a psychiatrist this summer and she tested him for ADD. Confirmed. We are choosing not to put him on meds for now but we are making a list and checking it twice. So far so good. You will know in your heart if his combativeness is "normal" . Good luck. Parenting is so darn hard.

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BARBARASDIET 9/26/2011 8:09PM

    Only child?

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TRENTDREAMER 9/26/2011 8:04PM

    Sorry to hear.

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Lazy Sunday

Sunday, September 25, 2011

Today I actually do not have anything planned, no extra curricular activities for myself or the kids, no appointments, nothing I HAVE to do today or anywhere I HAVE to be.

I don't know what to do with myself! LOL!

So for my lazy Sunday I am doing laundry, chopping garden veggies for the freezer, drying herbs, changing a few more light switches and outlets, cooking the eggplant casserole I've been meaning to make for the last month. I might even get around to scrubbing the bathtub and setting up the "new" laptop I got from work (they sell off the old ones every couple of years for $50, can't beat that!).

I finally got a light bulb for the floor lamp I found last week so now I can sit on my new couch at night to relax and read...when I remember I actually have furniture now. Seriously. I didn't have furniture for me to sit on for so long I don't remember that it is there now. Before I had the room where the kids would be & I wasn't "allowed" to turn the lights on so I never went in there, and the other room was my grandmother's area...and sitting with her every evening was not conducive to relaxation.

I will also go to the gym and do some ST and cardio before they close at 6.

Reading this list over it somehow doesn't sound like a lazy Sunday after all!

I hope everyone is doing whatever it is they want to be doing today! Happy Fall!

Go Cats Go! Cats rule! (5% Fall Challenge)
Beat the Geezers! (30 something's Challenge)

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MS_DOLLY 9/26/2011 12:39PM

    I think I might have to disagree with your definition of a lazy Sunday. Yours sounds productive, but with a choice. I prefer going sailing (which is a little bit of work) and then laying on the boat soaking up the rays while the breeze across the water keeps me cool. I would love to go out for a day on the water.

Hope you enjoyed your day and the tasks you selected. Have a great week!

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FUNKY5RED 9/26/2011 10:38AM

    I hope you had a great "lazy" Sunday. It sounds like a day when you get to decide what you do or don't do. Those days are the best!

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BESTMEICANBE51 9/26/2011 6:56AM

    I don't know about lazy but it does sound productive.
Hope you enjoyed it.

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GETSTRONGRRR 9/25/2011 11:24PM

    Sounds like a pretty enjoyable lazy typical of a cat!

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CANDOK1260 9/25/2011 10:31PM

    you like it doesn;t sound very lazy. Hope you have a great day.

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JOAN_HEO 9/25/2011 6:39PM

    I love lazy Sundays!! I wish I actually HAD a lazy Sunday. It sounds sooo good!

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    I hope your week is wonderful with lots of joyful surprises! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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INIT2LIVEIT 9/25/2011 1:00PM

    No where to be, only good positive choices for yourself, I'd say that sounds like a V day to me! Enjoy!!

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SHEILA-45 9/25/2011 11:39AM

    Here's to a lazy day your way! You're doing the things you want to do with no stress, no deadlines, and no pressures. That's an awesome thing ~ emoticon Enjoy the day!

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