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you say curvy, i say fat

Friday, August 20, 2010

Itís not really a puh-TEY-toh/puh-TAH-toh situation. Itís not different ways of saying the same thing. I was chatting with some friends today, and someone mentioned Scarlett Johansson, calling her a curvy girl, which she is. And noting that itís great to see curvy girls represented, which it is. I said that I canít wait to exit Ďfatí and enter Ďcurvyí. And then I got the nasty look. And then I got the head shake and tongue click. And then I was told that real women Ďhave meatí. Seriously? If youíre a Scarlett-size 5í4Ē tall and youíre busty and wear a size 4-6 like her, sure, youíre curvy. But if youíre 5í4Ē and a size 16, youíre not curvy, youíre fat.

And I realize I might get criticized for saying it here. Doesnít make it not true. Iím not going to lie (to myself) and say Iím curvy. I mean, Iíve got curves, but in more places than just the right ones. E.g. the curves on my stomach which, if I keep adding to them, make me a prime target for heart disease. Iím not going to hide behind this Curvy Girl moniker so I donít hurt my own feelings, or so I donít have to deal with something that is a true and important issue.

I donít understand this. Celebrating obesity under the guise of being a Ďreal womaní is just plain silly, not to mention potentially deadly. Does that make anyone that maintains a naturally lower weight a fake woman? And if I was truly eating healthily, hovering around the calories my body actually needs, I might be overweight, but I wouldnít be obese. Whatís wrong with admitting Iím fat?

Iím not putting myself down when I say Iím fat. Iím being honest. And not in a self-defeating way. I am fat, not curvy. Sometime soon I hope to be a curvy girl. But for now Iím fat. And I said it. So there.

Maybe Iím not alone in feeling this way. Iím all for curves, but not as an excuse to stay unhealthy.

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DREMARGRL 1/26/2011 9:57PM

    This discussion was very interesting and I'm proud of all the gorgeous women who spoke up. Being of various sizes and shapes, I appreciated all of you for speaking your minds in an honest manner. KUDOS!!! We all have our own idea about how we want our bodies to look and perform, so finding your ideal size for oneself and is a very good and positive thing. Don't forget.....sexy comes in all sizes.
XO MaryAnn
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KKPSIDI 8/30/2010 1:02PM

    I do 100% agree with you on the difference between fat and curves. With that said, however, I think that a lot of women who say they are curvey say it, not as an excuse to keep that weight on and continue bad lifestyle choices. I think they say it in order to retain self pride.
In our society, super skinny women are considered sexy. Even though they look like they are 17 year old prisoner of war survivors, they are celebrated for their skinniness, even when their weight is dangerously low. There are gorgeous, obese women out there. But when people say "obese" or "fat" they automatically conjure images of lazy slobs with something wrong with them. All of us on here (and I'm 5'4 and a size 14) on here can fully understand that this is not the case, but society at large sees it differently. "Curvy" conjures images of women with large breasts and big butts but who are also beautiful (Christina Hendricks is my favorite example of this...she should probably lose some weight for health reasons, but my god! She is lovely just the way she is!)
I think that if there is someone out there who is working hard at being healthy and not making excuses for herself, but for a sense of pride and motivation and whatever other emotional reason, needs to refer to herself as curvy instead of fat, I say she should be able to do that. Personally, I try to be honest with myself and look in the mirror and see that I am, indeed, fat, but honestly? With the right clothes and the fact that I do have an hourglass figure, I look curvy. So it is possible to be both!

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CALLMENAOMI 8/21/2010 8:25PM

    but if we keep lying to ourselves we can be lazy and eat whatever we want! oh... oh, now i see :D

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LMB-ESQ 8/21/2010 7:01AM

    Where's the criticism coming from? Facts is facts.... and fat is fat. I think the people who criticize the stating of reality are just those who don't want to see reality. They would prefer to remain in denial and go ahead and eat those foods and live that lifestyle that keeps them fat. It's just easier that way. Changing your lifestyle, eating healthy, admitting you're fat.... that's too much work! And it might upset the people around us. After all, we can't have that, can we? So "curvy" is substituted for "fat" because it's more socially acceptable, more PC, sexier, less insulting. Actually I can see myself reacting to someone who calls me curvy. I think I'd be astounded and laugh in their face. I'm less fat than I used to be, but I'm still fat. (Of course, it doesn't help that I've gained 12 lbs in the last 3 months!) Come on now, let's call a spade a spade!

Okay, enough spewing sarcasm emoticon

Great, thoughtful blog! (This is why I like you! You tell it like it is and don't mess around with BS!)

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EMERALDGREEN1 8/20/2010 9:19PM

    Nothing wrong with acknowledging fat and actually that's a good thing! You're not in self denial so it's a start to taking stock and knowing what you need to do and where you need to head to in order to the 'real deal curvy'. You're on the right track!


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    I agree with you. "Curvy" is sometimes used as a euphemism for "fat," but to me, they're actually quite different.

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KERLESS 8/20/2010 8:27PM

    I do agree. There is a good message in that one shouldn't base all of their self worth on body image, but I feel like people are using the "real woman" line or "curvy" as a crutch to support an unhealthy lifestyle. Just keep doing what you're doing, "real women" take charge of their health! :)

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JREA24 8/20/2010 8:11PM

    Recognize and change.

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CLAIRESGG 8/20/2010 7:43PM

    I am fat also even though not to some people. I am 60 pounds heavier than I was at 18 so I am definitely fat.

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JAZZMINE 8/20/2010 7:42PM

    I agree. Everyone tells me I look great, but according to BMI, I should lose 25 more pounds! I want to be normal weight, not overweight. Although I am happy to have made it out of the obese category!


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can i get my mojo back? please?

Monday, August 09, 2010

okay, itís not that i truly believe in any kind of personal magic with which one has been innately endowed. i think we make our own whatever-you-call-it: motivation, purpose, impetus Ö mojo. and iíve misplaced mine. hopefully temporarily.

first it was family issues, and then personal-life issues, and then my laptop eating yet another adapter, then grumpiness about SPís blackberry application. and i could go on but the point is made. iíve arranged different justifications roaming everywhere from the minute to the massive. all are relevant to my world and may be legitimate frustrations; but, of course, the extent to which i let them control my world and my mood is entirely up to me. this is no revelation.

iím really finding it difficult to stay enthusiastic. i have moments of enthusiasm, still itís not lasting. i feel like a sprinter trying to tackle a marathon. bursts of energy with an acute lack of planning. and iím getting overwhelmed. itís not like iím doing horribly. okay, itís totally like iím doing horribly. i stay under or at my calorie limit, but on crap, not on healthy choices. i exercise, but i havenít created any routine.

and looming in the midst of all this lassitude is Back to Schoolóa mere three weeks awayówhich means i very much need to get myself on track so that i can keep my son on his, too.

where is inspiration to be found? hopefully just around the corner. still i have a feeling i just need to give myself the proverbial swift kick and get moving!

any thoughts, ideas from SPers?

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LMB-ESQ 8/9/2010 6:56PM

    Dunno... I've lost mine someplace too. So if you find yours, let me know, maybe mine is hiding in the same place

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Consensus on Serving Size..? Please?

Sunday, June 28, 2009

It's been bothering me for a while now. Personally, I do much better when I weigh my food. And I'm trying to ensure I get in the all important Five Fruits and Vegetables a Day.

So I got irritated when every web site said 'one apple, one apricot ... seven stalks of asparagus, two cups leafy greens'. All of these vary greatly is visually measurable size as well as weight, not to mention ... two cups of lettuce? Packed, loose, what?

I looked at dozens of sites. The information was largely the same. Then, oddly enough, I stumbled on to a UN site. Guess what. There is a standard of about 80 grams per serving. I guess you really can find anything on the web.

And with this nugget of information now taking up a little nook in my stuffed-full-of-trivia brain, I feel like I've acquired a better measure of my 5 a day. But I have to say, 80 grams of spinach looks like an awful effen lot!

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TWEET62 7/1/2009 3:28PM

    I love my food scale.

I don't usually use measuring cups but weigh my food instead simply because it's a more accurate measure of what I'm eating. However, the vagueness of produce serving sizes has always driven me bananas (pun probably not intended but you never know). I'm glad to know there is a standard that I can use now. Thanks for sharing!

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CHRISTIEC73 6/29/2009 8:20AM

    Who knew?? Thanks for sharing.
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LMB-ESQ 6/29/2009 7:20AM

    Boy, we do think alike. I always hated that whole "serving size" thing. I think it's whatever the manufacturer thinks is reasonable and measurable. But I gave up on trying to stick to serving sizes for most things. For example, the common thinking for a banana is half a banana = 1 serving. Come on, now, who the he!! eats a half a banana!! What do you do with the rest of it? Save it for later? What happens to an open banana if you leave it out? Uhhh... I ain't eatin' it! And meat too... 3 or 4 oz is the common serving size. So if I pick up a chicken breast and it weighs 5 oz, am I supposed to cut off an ounce and store it for later? That's stupid, and frankly, too much work for me. (Let's all remember now how lazy I am) If I know how many calories etc are in a 4 oz chicken breast, I just count the 5 oz (automatic calculations on the computer make it easy), eat it, be happy, go on my merry way, and don't worry about it.

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EXFULGERE 6/29/2009 6:19AM

  Hey, DRACO63 ... it means the food weighs 80 grams. And even though my apple, nectarine or baby summer squash weighs more, I still count it as one fruit/veggie. I guess for me it's just knowing a minimum ... so for blueberries, grape tomatoes, cut up fruits/veggies, leafy greens I'm no longer trying to 'eyeball' it. My eyes can be and are frequently wrong.

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SEVERUM 6/29/2009 12:37AM

    My personal thought? A serving is an adequate portion to be taken seriously alongside any other items during a meal. :)

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DRACO63 6/28/2009 11:28PM

    I'm pretty sure the 80 grams very, depending what the food is. 80 grams of fiber would be hard to take if you know what I mean.

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Wednesday, June 17, 2009

So Iím taking a moment, once again, to note the little things Iím enjoying/appreciating this week.

.My new playlist! (Del Tha Funky Homosapien, Mos Def, Handsome Boy Modeling School, Gorillaz, Latyrx, Bobby Digital Ö and others of the experimental/underground hip-hop and rap genre)
.Double dog lead (two dogs + one lead = happier walkies when I take them solo)
.Gorgeous weather
.The lovely gentleman at the newsstand who gives me a cheerful Ďgood morningí at 5.30 am
.New sheets for the bed
.Cute Overload ( cuteoverload.com , check out Ďcute or sad?í)
.My angsty brat who keeps cleaning the house
.SparkPeople staff

Whatís got you smiling today?

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LMB-ESQ 6/19/2009 1:59PM

    New sheets! Mmmmm..... emoticon

Cute Overload... I lliked the floating pups myself emoticon

What's your secret? I ask my angsty brat to clean the house and he blows me off!

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JNEUBS 6/19/2009 7:12AM

    Video----SAD!!!! Gorillaz----HAPPY!!!!

Good Morning Darln'

Have an awesomely delightful and delicious day!

Rock On!


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Pleasure in Small Things

Wednesday, June 10, 2009

Through my frustrations and grumpiness, I thought Iíd take a minute to jot down what Iím enjoying today.

Mos Defís new album (I confess to having a huge crush)
Dog park
The Penguins!
Fresh pineapple
Cute girl with tats and labret piercing on the bus today
Poetry (reading and writing)
My partnerís dedication to school

I realize itís not all so very interesting or meaningful, still it offers me a little perspective. There are many little things to appreciate.

Anyone else enjoying 'minutiae' today?

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FUTURERNAIMEE 6/25/2009 1:07AM

    iced coffee with caramel syrup instead of sugar
dreaming about my future chihuahua puppy who will need me and go everywhere with me
being in a decent mood at work
getting out of work a few minutes early
muffin tops (the food, not the awful fat sticking out the top of your jeans)
spending a few minutes with my brother

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0CHLOE0 6/13/2009 12:22PM

    the minutiae are as meaningful as you make them!! i often stop to pinpoint what around me i have to feel blessed about, and often i can find a lot of things... but i'm the type of person who thinks perfection is the sunday paper and a good sandwich. counting my blessings is my favourite bad-mood buster because it usually works. joy is indeed where you find it.

have a wonderful weekend and take a well deserved break!

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DREMARGRL 6/13/2009 11:56AM

    Contemplating your fabulous personality and have come to the conclusion that your are truly a FABULOUS, INTELLIGENT, COMPLEX WOMAN!!! I LOVE THAT ABOUT YOU!
Hope you have a delicious weekend.....had F U N !!!!!!!!! XXOO Mary Ann emoticon emoticonDon't forget....you are a winner, too! CUZ I SAID SO@!#%!&*$&!

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EXFULGERE 6/12/2009 9:12PM

  My dear Dennis, if I could fit in your cup I'd be there in a heartbeat!

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DENNIS48 6/12/2009 7:57PM

    Glad we penguins made your list, Folgers. It must be fate. Just like it's fate that I can't see your handle without hearing: "The best part of waking up is Folgers in your cup!"

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JNEUBS 6/10/2009 8:09AM

    Saying goodbye to my daughter at the airport this morning at 4am as she travels to Israel!

It's the little things!

You are right on!

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5KADAY 6/10/2009 7:21AM

    The small details in life. I'm afraid I've really lost sight of that. I need to take time to refocus. Thank you for your blog.

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CHRISTIEC73 6/10/2009 7:06AM

    You are SO right that we have to be thankful for the little things. And sometimes we need to be reminded of that.

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