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What does Football have to do with it (Spark)?

Monday, January 14, 2013

Yesterday afternoon I watched "Brian's Song' on TV. There is a part of it where Gale Sayers is in the room with Brian Piccolo when a hospital financial person comes in with papers for Brian to sign. Brian hadn't been told yet that his doctors had found another tumor and he would have to a have second surgery on his lung. It was left to Gale to tell him. Brian got upset and went to the other side of the room refusing to sign the papers. The financial guy was still trying to get him to sign and asked Gale to talk to him. Gale said he'd rather talk to him and walked the man to the door. When they were out of earshot of Brian, Gale explained to the man that for players to get ready for their games, they had to be both physically AND mentally prepared. What Brian was trying to tell him was that he was trying to start the game before Brian was mentally ready to accept it.

All day I have been thinking about that scene and what Gale explained about mentally preparing for the football games. It is very much the same with our Spark journeys when you stop and think about it. We have to be physically ready if even in a small way to build our exercise program on. And in my opinion, we also need to be mentally prepared for everything else. We have to accept that this is what we want. We have to accept that this is a life time commitment and not something to do on a whim. If we aren't prepared in both ways to face these challenges, we are attempting to set ourselves up for possible failure. If we continue without being prepared, we may never reach our goals. We can take baby steps, we can do everything else to work within the parameters of Spark People program, but are we going to be able to do it if we haven't accepted the realities? It's doubtful.

Ok, Ev, you say, how do we prepare ourselves in order to succeed? We have to realize that the things we learn to do to get us to our goals are going to be with us the rest of our lives. We aren't going to be able to do it to meet the goal, then go back to eating the way we used to do. We must continue on with our fruit and veggie servings each day, only having good fats, carbs, and protein. We still need to see our plates 1/2 carbs, a little over 1/4 with good fats, and the rest in protein. We have to continue with our cardio and strength training each day. There are so many fun things we have to chose from. We can continue to try new ones each day to mix our programs and be sure to have fun.

There is also the need to accept continuing with the same portion sizes and having things in moderation. We need to prepare to love ourselves, realize how much we deserve to be in a healthier place, take each meal as it comes and not beat ourselves up if we slip. We have to know if we do slip, we need to get back on program with the next meal. Each new day is a new chance to better ourselves. A major part of being prepared is to be positive and not to give up. Sparking can be one thing to do this for us! We are doing well and to tell others how this has worked for us - and telling them with all the enthusiasm we feel - continually keeps us focused on doing well. Keeping ourselves accountable works well, too.

I know i must sound like a broken record, but to me what I'm about to write is a huge part of who we can be. The best, the brightest, the most prepared, and a chance for the happiness this new way of living can bring to us. We need to do something special for at least another person each day to help them feel better about themselves. There are two reasons for this. #1 We don't know what they are carrying around with them. #2 It also makes us feel better. Even a smile, a small wave, an hello, a short note to a friend far away, or a phone call to let someone know you are thinking of them and care. One of my favorite quotes is by Mother Teresa who said, "We'll never know what good can happen with a simple smile." We need to be as positive as is possible and carve a way in our lives to rid ourselves of the negative with those things or people who no longer bring happiness to our lives, that no longer support us in the direction we have chosen to go, or we no longer have use for or need. I know i have too much "stuff" I need to rid myself of and when I do, I'm sure I'll find some things I have several because i couldn't find the others and bought new. Isn't that sad? We need to learn to reward ourselves in small non-food ways whenever we reach a goal or maintain for a certain amount of time. Lastly we need to smile, when we greet others, when we answer and talk on the phone, when dealing with service people of all sorts - retail, the food industry, etc. We don't know what is going on in their lives and I know sometimes it is difficult to separate private from work, and most likely you do, too. I also remember how scared i was whenever i'd be left on my own for the first time on a new job. Even professionals can have "crappy" days!!

I can remember when my mama's doctor called me and told me he was going to turn her over to Hospice as there was no more that could be done for her at the hospital. I stared asking him questions about her special needs at home. He interrupted me to tell me she was going to die. I said ok and we hung up. I got in the van, got about a mile down the road and had to pull over. I practically scream - "He said she is going to die!" I felt sick to my stomach and managed to get to the salon where I first worked. The girls could tell something terrible had happened and one walked me to the break room. As each of them had time between clients, they came back to see me. When i told them what happened, i was so angry at the doctor. I could not believe i had taken it so calmly and hung up the way I did. All three of them told me what I already knew - I had been in shock. I waited until I was feeling better in about a year and made an appointment to see the doctor. I quietly explained what it had been like for me. I also told him, i couldn't expect him to know every patient''s family situation, but i did know what it was like to be all alone and be told this on the phone. I said it was understandable why people entered offices and yelled and screamed at the office workers and sometimes even shot offices to bits. His reaction was, Well what do you want me to do?" I told him that I didn't expect anything from him but to please keep it in mind for the next time he had to tell a family they were losing a loved one. I let him know he needed to call them into the office by saying he needed to touch base with them on the patient's care and then tell them face-to-face. I could have easily had a heart attack and would have been there for possibly days before someone checked on me. The outcome? The morning after my mama died, I received a hand written letter from him expressing his sympathy and telling me what a wonderful job I had done advocating for her. He expressed that many adult children wouldn't have done all I did. I'm sure part of that was guilt, but I was pretty sure he took my message to heart. I later learned he was going through a pretty nasty divorce at the time he called me.

We really need to be proactive for ourselves as far as preparations for our Spark journeys are concerned. We need to be prepared both physically and mentally.

May all of my Spark Buds continue making wise choices, give compliments, and smile!!

Peace Love Hope


When I was growing my hair for Locks of Love in 2005.

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HEALTHYLADY12 1/19/2013 9:28PM

    You know what I have flashbacks when I do my lifestyle change. I think about my mom a lot. Its nice he slowed down to say sorry. Its good you spoke up. Some doctors have bedside manners but also they have hard personal problems too. Its scarey to lose weight cause when its gone then its a different idenity. Even though its fat its still apart of you, as wierd as it sounds, thats why we need to mentally prepare ourselves.

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LINDA! 1/16/2013 9:49PM

    Thank you for sharing this with us. emoticon

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NORASPAT 1/16/2013 8:18PM

    great insight and courage on your part. I do stuff like that my DH says why did you tell him or her something and I still tell him.

If they do something good I will go over and praise them.

If I feel they did something that has hurt someone I do speak out, I think that too is important to me.
Thanks EV Lovely locks by the way, HUGS Pat in Maine. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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GEORGIAGIRL26 1/15/2013 7:16PM

    Thanks for posting this blog sister. We all need to be ready.
Hope that you have a great night my friend. Holly emoticon

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1CRAZYDOG 1/15/2013 2:07PM

    Oh my. This is what I call a "loaded baked potato blog" -- tons to think about and mentally digest!

You know, I just always have your voice in my head (even though I have never actually heard your actual voice!) about being mindful that sometimes a smile is all that someone needs to make their day better -- and ours! It is absolutely 100% true. And when someone appears cranky or out of sorts, we have no way of knowing what really is fueling it.

Awesome blog. Oh, and for the record, I am glad you spoke with that Dr, even a year later. He needed to hear that! I hope he took it to heart.

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MNNICE 1/15/2013 10:41AM

    So many things to think about in that blog - we sometimes need to try to understand others, and ourselves, better. Thank you for a serving of the ONLY non-fattening kind of food -- food for thought!

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KASEYCOFF 1/15/2013 4:13AM

    ...and even if something doesn't help you directly, in a particular situation at that specific moment in time, I believe - BELIEVE - that it will help someone, somewhere, in the future.

The good we do spreads like ripples on a pond when you toss a pebble. You can make positive differences you'll never know...

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NEW-CAZ 1/15/2013 3:05AM

    Wonderful words of wisdom Ev, have a good week. Great blog

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FLEMIDG 1/15/2013 12:41AM

    Thanks for all the wonderful advice, Ev. Have a great week.

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CHERIRIDDELL 1/15/2013 12:32AM

    What a beautiful photo.I love that you took time to explain to the doctor how to make it better.You are a wonderful person Ev! hugs,Cheri

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Tips That Helped Me Succeed

Saturday, January 12, 2013

There have been several things that have helped me on my Spark journey to health, wellness, and meeting my weight goal. I'd really like to share them with you.

1. Spark tools
2. Making realistic goals
3. Keeping accountable
4. Using the trackers daily
5. Blogging
6. Joining teams (great way to make wonderful friends)
7. Learning portion sizes
8. Kept on going and didn't give up even when I messed up
9. Reading articles, watching videos, joining challenges to learn all that i could
10. Spreading the Spark
11. Commenting on pages and blogs of others
12. Treating myself whenever i reached a goal with a non-food treat
13. Continue keeping a positive attitude
14. Updating my status daily
15. Helping others on this journey to stay positive and upbeat
16. Didn't remove any food or group of foods, but learned moderation


Most of my friends and followers have heard most of these from me before. i feel it is really important to repeat them if they can help even one person succeed. Some days when things seemed they would never change, I would sign in and would have a smile and feel energized before I had to leave for the day. Members here are so willing to help each other and leave positive feedback in teams, on pages, and on blogs. I have to confess, I love the awards and goodies, too!

Even when I was going through my cancer treatments, I got in at least 10 minutes of cardio everyday, with the exception of when i was REALLY sick!! I would walk in place or in and out of several rooms in the house. Sometimes i had to use my walker, but I did my best to get sweat going.

I never did remove any particular food or food groups from my eating habits. i did learn true portion sizes and moderation. A treat is fine once in awhile. I found sharing with my hubby worked quite well, especially if he brought me too big a piece of anything or we were eating out. At least 1/2 of my meals would go home with me when we were eating out. Actually the amount was close to 2/3. Even today, I might have a hamburger, cut it into fourths, and only eat part of a fourth. Just as love pasta, i only have about three or maybe four bites and i'm done.

For someone who is new to SP or haven't looked around the site much, I would suggest you do so. There is so much here to use and discover. I still have a difficult time understanding it is all free! Not everything works for every one of us. Keep trying until you find something for you. Keep on keeping on and don't give up. You are so worth being healthy and do you ever deserve it!! Besides, no one else can do it for you!! And should you mess up, that's part of it and I believe most of us have done so.
Try not to feel too guilty and simply start over for your next snack or meal. Try to remain as positive as you can. Smile a lot and when you have time under your belt, try to help others with suggestions of how certain things worked for you. Be sure to let others know about your positive experiences with the site and with this program.

My wish for all of you is to continue having as healthy a lifestyle that is possible and to be the best you that you can. And don't forget to SMILE!!

Peace Love Hope




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HEALTHYLADY12 1/17/2013 1:14AM

    Very inspiring emoticon

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COXBETH 1/15/2013 12:49AM

    What a great inspiration! And I wholeheartedly agree! I feel like "this time" is different because of all those non-food/workout things that I'm getting from SP - the teams, the blogs, the friends, etc.

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SHECHAM 1/14/2013 9:52PM

    Great tips.... thanks for the reminders... and encouragement!

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TIKKITAVI 1/14/2013 10:20AM

    Thanks for your tips! You are very inspiring.

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SAMMIESMOM13 1/14/2013 9:16AM

    Great Blog. I agree, everything in moderation. Don't give up, get up and start again. That's it in a nutshell.

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HICKOK-HALEY 1/14/2013 4:08AM

    Wonderful blog. You are so inspiring. emoticon

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1CRAZYDOG 1/13/2013 9:29PM

    such wisdom! Each and every word is true. Thank you for sharing. LOVE the pictures. You look sooooo wonderful.

HUGS to you and I will keep a emoticon on my face!

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KARIDIAN1 1/13/2013 8:59PM

    Wow! What a difference SP has made for you.

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TIME4CARRI 1/13/2013 4:44PM

    Thank you very much for taking the time to share this today emoticon It is just as you said, and I am inspired because of you. Thanks again. emoticon

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NORASPAT 1/13/2013 4:28PM

    hankls EV You have it all covered for people to read and work on

HUGS Pat in Maine. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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DRUIDPRINCESS 1/13/2013 4:04PM

    Thank you so much for reminding us of these important points. Your positive and strong list will help us make the most of the new year... I hope 2013 is awesome for you!

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MOM2ACAT 1/13/2013 3:40PM

    emoticon You are an inspiration to me!

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VONBLACKBIRD 1/13/2013 11:16AM

    Wow so proud of you.You look terrific!

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BUSYGRANNY5 1/13/2013 7:32AM

    Excellent tips and wonderful advice!!! You look amazing!

What a blessing you are to WE fellow sparkers!

Have a wonderful day!

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KASEYCOFF 1/13/2013 5:10AM

    Great outline for how you've done it - and terrific guidelines for the "newbies," Ev!

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NEW-CAZ 1/13/2013 2:59AM

    great tips Ev and a motivating blog. You're living proof Sparks works!!!!!

Smiling is a wonderful tonic; When I go for my morning walk I smile and nod hello to everyone I pass, it's contagous and fantastic when it's returned emoticon

Have a wonderful Sunday emoticon

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1STATEOFDENIAL 1/13/2013 1:19AM

    I bet most people would agree with most or all of your list. Each person responds to something different, but using many different strategies does tend to be helpful.

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MADAMES 1/13/2013 1:01AM

    Great tips! Thank you for reminding everyone every day to SMILE! We can all muster a smile for others, no matter how poorly our day is going. The best part is, most people will return that smile, no matter how poorly they might be feeling. It is contagious.


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FLEMIDG 1/13/2013 12:47AM

    Thanks for the great tips. You are a true inspiration. Sending you lots of hugs.

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CHERIRIDDELL 1/13/2013 12:14AM

    Ev you are an inspiration to me ,I am too stubborn to be in a chair though they have offered me one and I keep thinking if Ev can get out of one no stinking rheumatoid arthritis is going to put me in one !!! Your positive attitude and cheerful interesting blogs never fail to give me the boost I need to keep going !!!hugs,Cheri

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BLUE42DOWN 1/13/2013 12:12AM

    All very good tips, and any one can be a great start.

(Do you know ... I don't think I'd ever looked at your before pictures? I only saw the post-Cancer fight ones. Fantastic job!)

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EJOY-EVELYN 1/13/2013 12:01AM

    Great advice! You've live so very wisely. May reward of continued mobility and improved health be yours this day and every day! Hug, hug -- Evelyn

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Always remember to SMILE!!

Friday, January 11, 2013

Back when i was a sophomore in high school and had been selected for another year as a majorette, I decided to go to majorette camp sponsored by indiana University. What a week it was! There was so much to learn! Besides the routine themselves, we learned how to do our makeup and smile so that we could be truly entertainers and not simply go through the routines by rote. Our cabins were a good half mile walk away from the practice field and the community room. All in all being there was a physical and emotional challenge. I was thankful i did a lot of walking, but a lot of the girls didn't and would be near tears by the end of the day. All of us would be exhausted by bedtime and sleep came fast and deeply.

There was a community room where we would have our very nutritious, healthy meals. We also used the cleaned tables for our makeup lessons. The room was so large, we could also have team practices if there was rain, without having to move those tables.
There were three entry doors into the room from outdoors. Above each doorway in huge letters was the word SMILE! Next to each door was a phrase from the Nat King Cole hit of the 1950's:

"That's the time you must keep on trying
Smile, what's the use of crying?
You'll find that life is still worthwhile
If you just smile"

This was a reminder to us that no matter how bad things seemed to be for us, we needed to smile. it was much in the vein of "The show must go on". Much before the end of the week, smiling was second nature for all of us. It didn't matter if we had blisters on our feet or calluses forming on our hands, we smiled. Especially if we had physical issues and tears in our eyes from pain, those smiles were splashed across our faces and no one knew any different. of course we all knew our own aches and pains and assumed everyone else had them, too. By the end of that week, I had firmed up, applied makeup to enhance my appearance, was better in step with moves and music, and to consistently smile. I also had some new friends of the older girls from a neighboring school. Their entire squad was there and they were all juniors and seniors. I was the only other from our county and they took me under their collective wings. It was a good lesson and one to carry throughout life.

I try to emphasize "remember to smile" at the end of most of my status updates and blog entries, because i truly believe in what i learned that summer so many years ago.
No matter what you are feeling physically and even if you don't really want to, smiling - especially when returned by others - can't help but make you feel better. When i feel better and more confident, i tend to want to do more physically and to eat less. It all comes together for me. I have to be honest and say, after al these years of practice, there are times I can't do it. I cannot smile. But with each year that passes, it really does become easier to smile rather than not.

Our lives are too short to spend them in sadness and being unhappy. We have only what is now. No tomorrow is guaranteed to us. We really should make the most of it and continue on our journeys as the blessing they are while helping others feel better about themselves, being good to ourselves, making the best choices we can, and to always, always SMILE!!

For all my Spark Buds:

When skies are gray, i wish you warmth and laughter.
When something in your life seems almost unbearable, i wish you comfort.
When you feel you aren't progressing and want to give up, I wish you the ability to come to SP and find the support you need to keep going.

Peace Love Hope

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KARIDIAN1 1/12/2013 10:16PM

    Great blog and fond memories of that special week.

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1CRAZYDOG 1/12/2013 9:30PM

    emoticon Taking your message to heart and I think it definitely DOES make life in general a more positive experience.

HUGS and thanks for sharing our story.

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HEALTHYLADY12 1/12/2013 7:29PM

    Hey Sparkies, check I like this as well. I like her blogs cause they are positive.

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COXBETH 1/12/2013 3:51PM

    Love this story! emoticon

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MOM2ACAT 1/12/2013 2:10PM

    There are days I have to dig deep to find a reason to smile, but I try to do so every day, even if it's a little thing.

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PMFISH 1/12/2013 1:12PM

    We use to tell our agents answer the telephone with a smile and it did make a difference. You really make a difference if you take the opportunity to compliment some one during the day. I was at Sam's Club the other day and noticed this little lady, very perky, neat, smiling and I could not help but to tell her how nice she looked. The she actually beamed and thank me for mentioning it. She must have been in her 80s and truly was a picture.

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LIVINGFREE19 1/12/2013 12:24PM

    Smiling makes you feel happier and really is a good mood booster!

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NORASPAT 1/12/2013 11:21AM

    EV I needed to read this blog today for certain.
You were so fortunate to have had such an amazing life experience when you were so young. it is also amazing it is such a precious time for you and a real lesson in life. Well DONE emoticon emoticon emoticon

I have a very hard time smiling at people. Unless I am in conversation my mouth is closed, I will try very hard to remember your message today and forever.
It is an easy process to determine why i never learned to smile. Its a long story but I am almost 70 and still smiling for no reason never occurs to me.
Thanks for your comments and I know they will resonate with me all day long. HUGS Pat in Maine. emoticon emoticon

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SEAWAVE 1/12/2013 8:37AM

    Your blog is spot on. When I went for my fourth thyroid biopsy, the doctor said "you're always smiling - it's so much more relaxing for my team!" Never doubted the power of a smile, but that sure confirmed it for me!
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DR1939 1/12/2013 7:45AM

    When I was in grade school I walked to my piano lessons. To pass the time I tried to make everyone I saw smile back at me. emoticon

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1STATEOFDENIAL 1/12/2013 4:56AM

    Smiling can actually release hormones in the body that help us feel happy. So smiling when you don't feel like it can often help you feel happier after just a few minutes. "Fake it til you make it." Also, when smiling while out in public it can be contageous and can brighten others' days - especially if they smile back!

I've noticed that as I use my walker I get a lot of looks from people (I'm 31 and have few outward signs of my medical conditions). I look at them right in the eye and give them a big smile. After a moment they look at me and often times smile back or say a hello. It's incredible to see faces go from 'woah, what's wrong with her?' to 'hey she's smiling at me' and their demeanor really changes.

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LEANJEAN6 1/12/2013 3:28AM

    Justa smile will cheer your day up--- Love it! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon Lynda

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NEW-CAZ 1/12/2013 3:18AM

    Very true and that is a fav song of mine!

Keep smiling hun. Great lesson.

Have a great weekend emoticon

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JAMER123 1/12/2013 2:09AM

    So true! I agree with you as one not only make oneself feel good but others around you as well. So "Put on a Happy Face" is a song that immediately came to mind!
Thank you for a great blog!!

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1BEACHWALKER 1/12/2013 1:36AM

    Studies even say that just smiling activates the brain and makes it feel good! Plus you are working out those facial muscles!! And it really does take more muscles to smile than to frown!!! Great blog! A feel good blog! Nice story about your days as a majorette! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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HICKOK-HALEY 1/12/2013 12:30AM

    I agree. Reminds me of the song Smile that Nat Kind Cole recorded. Great blog!

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FLEMIDG 1/12/2013 12:26AM

    Thanks for making me smile today, Ev. Have a wonderful weekend.

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SLENDERELLA61 1/12/2013 12:25AM

    I love to smile! It does make me feel good. Thanks for the reminder. emoticon

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CHARTHESTAR 1/11/2013 11:55PM

    So true- it does make you feel better and by smiling you get to make other peoples day better too. So it is a Win=Win.
Answering the phone with a smile is important too.

Great lesson. tanks for sharing your story.

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oh what fun it was

Tuesday, January 08, 2013

This was the first week of doing something new each week equaling 52 new things in 2013 - at least! It would seem I'm going to end up with more, but i don't consider that a bad thing! if you would like to join my Spark Buds and me on this adventurous challenge, please join us at our team www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/groups_i

My new thing ended up being starting this brand new team. i had never done this before on Spark! I had such a wonderful time thinking of forums and topics. Another thing that was a wonderful enjoyment was coming up with some ideas for our team mates to use as "new things" to try. Some were for food or exercise and others were for motivation along the way while yet others were for wellness or personal satisfaction. All were good stuff. There have been additions, too. What was a personal satisfaction for me was to leave Spark for the night with being the only member, then awaking to a total of 6, then ending the week with a total of 10 members. Perhaps others of you have started teams with many more members, but i am so please with how many have joined us thus far. I feel the team is already a success!! The topper was LADYIRISH317 agreed to help with the team and has made her own forum for games and fun stuff! She is so good doing those things and she honored me by taking on this new duty. it ensures lots of fun for members joining the team and a terrific addition.

Well, that was how my first week challenge went! emoticon
Now i'm onto the second week. So far I am looking at two new things to try. i'm sure one will be for this week and the other possibly for another week or even this week!!
#1 Trying a new food - Bob brought home a small bag of animal crackers. These are about 1/2 the size of normal cracker. I have been having such difficult time finding things to eat without having my mouth burn or chewing them enough to swallow properly, I love finding new foods - especially if i find i can eat them. i doubt i could manage the regular size, but these are so thin, i just might be able to do so!!
#2 Trying a new type of exercise for fun. I have been checking on different web sites to try to find something i haven't tried but seems I can do without having a problem with my breathing (dry mouth) or further injuring my knee. I think I may have found one!! Whether or not I start would depend on how quickly I could have access. If I have to order a dvd, it might not happen until next week. The thing I found? Belly dancing for exercise!! Now how exciting is that?!?!?


I am so stoked about all of these new things in my life!! I can hardly wait to blog on how the new thing(s) of the week went to keep myself accountable and to share. Right now i can't imagine this will ever become a problem, but anything can happen. If I ever have a problem, i may have to come on here, eat my words, and ask for suggestions/help from all of you!! emoticon

The first question that comes to my mind is, do any of you belly dance? How was it to learn? Did you do it on your own or find a class to learn? Was it difficult? Had you taken dance classes before? Did you enjoy it? Are you still dancing for exercise? Guess that was more than one question, wasn't it? emoticon

Enjoy your week and always try to do your best, help others to feel good about themselves and smile!!

Peace Love Hope


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1CRAZYDOG 1/9/2013 9:40PM

    Good luck to you with your new adventures!!! HUGS

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JINLYNN 1/9/2013 8:37PM

    Sounds like a fun thing to do.

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EJOY-EVELYN 1/9/2013 8:35PM

    Enjoying this and with Week Two in progress, already have over a half dozen new things tackled! WooHoo!

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PMFISH 1/9/2013 7:22PM

    It is a lot of fun, haven't done that in in over 30 years. I did not get too proficient, but took the lessons, lots of giggles. I would not even think to try today, due to my breathing. I always loved to dance as a teenager and into my fifties. Breathing has put a stop to 95% of the dancing. When the youngest was living with me about 3 years, we got in a few steps.

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KENMAC116 1/9/2013 7:27AM

    I love reading your blogs.

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KASEYCOFF 1/9/2013 4:25AM

    Belly-dance, no... but I've been thinking about getting a (large size, which I hear is more doable for a back like mine!) hula-hoop. The more I read about hooping, the more I think it would be a really easy, fun, but energetic, fitness exercise.

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NEW-CAZ 1/9/2013 3:21AM

    Sounds like a fun team to be on, have a great time with the belly dancing!

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FLEMIDG 1/9/2013 12:33AM

    You have a great idea. Good for you. Finding 52 new things to try sounds like fun. Hope you enjoy the belly dancing.

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NEELIXNKES 1/8/2013 11:35PM

    Sounds like a fun new team! Enjoy trying things out this year!

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FITGRANDMA120 1/8/2013 11:31PM

    I am very excited about the team and think it's a great idea. I'm laying while I spark with a notebook and pen, listing options for the upcoming weeks. Not sure how you got the idea but I'm so glad you shared it. It helped me to break up my New Year's resolutions.


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CHERIRIDDELL 1/8/2013 11:30PM

    Ihope you enjoy the belly dancing!

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1STATEOFDENIAL 1/8/2013 11:13PM

    Check out the private team for team leaders. There's a place to ask to feature your team - you'll get thousands of new people automatically being added to the team when they join SP, but only about 2-3 percent will participate. So you'll get a lot more members which will get your team higher up in the team lists, but you won't get a lot of people going crazy on the forums.

When you have to come up with 52 new things to try, after awhile you may run out of things. If you start a list, then when you're running low on ideas you may remember a few you've forgotten. Also, when trying something knew, it is possible that it could go wrong, that it causes problems, or that you'll find you won't like it. That's half the journey, but it could lead you to something else you could like. So even if you're not sure about trying something, it may well be worth it.

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MNNICE 1/8/2013 11:12PM

    Never would've thought of bellydancing! (Sometimes my belly DOES dance, but not on purpose! emoticon Will be anxious to see how it goes for you!

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NORASPAT 1/8/2013 11:07PM

    Sounds like you had a real great idea.
DH surgery is next week so i am not going to be doing very much. There is no-one here but DH and I so I know i will be very busy doing his chores as well as my own, There will be Snow to move so i must stay healthy.
HAVE a fabulous time.
Taker care and enjoy your team . emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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KARIDIAN1 1/8/2013 11:07PM

    Never have tried belly dancing. I have heard it is supposed to be very good exercise. Good luck!

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In search of a hero....

Saturday, January 05, 2013

14 self- discovery blog challenge: A hero that has let you down. (write a letter telling them)


Dear Mr. Edwards,

It has been a long while that I have lived with the disappointment I felt when I learned of all your deception and dishonesty. There was no way I could find a way to let you know without feeling pain and sick to my stomach. It has only been the past few months that I have been able to think of everything and not have incredible sadness envelope me. What you did to the American people with your actions is disgraceful at the very best. But what you did to Elizabeth and your family is far worse.

What bothers me most, I believe is how this had to impact Elizabeth's last day. She was such a brave graceful lady and deserved so much better than what you gave her. She stood by you no matter what, as did the voters, your backers, and members of your party. We all deserved better, too.

Your personal life is yours and you must live with that. You also must live with the consequences of your actions and dealing with your relationship with your God. I do not envy you these things, but you must accept responsibility for it all. You had so much going for you and threw it away for a "skirt" chase. As angry as i once was, I now only feel shame for you and pray you can somehow get your life straight once more.

You see, Mr Edwards, I thought you to be an honest candidate, something rare in today's world. What you did was prove to me the search must continue yet again. It was tough sticking up for you when your infidelities were whispered, but I honestly thought by the way you stood by Elizabeth when her breast cancer was first discovered that there was no way you could be so stupid as to commit adultery against her and God's law. I guess that was totally naive on my part and I really should have known better. I'll say though, you taught me a valuable lesson about trusting any of our "politicians".

With the passing of time I have come to forgive you for being human. It doesn't lesson the disappointment I feel, but it helps me spiritually to be able to do so. it wasn't an easy thing to do either, especially with Elizabeth's passing. But i had no responsibility for your actions and choices. You did all of that on your own. I wish you no harm or bad come to you. i do pray you can learn from you mistakes and sincerely ask and receive God's forgiveness. Hopefully your family is able to forgive you, too. it is sadly too late for Elizabeth, but i have to believe she was able to do so before you left the world you helped create for her.



it is never easy when a hero has destructive behavoir that leaves you completely disappointed. After all my years of witnessing political deceit, I should be used to it, but i truly believed John Edwards was different. He was not and he has paid for his indescressions. I have been able to forgive, but i could never trust another word from his mouth. Have you ever had anyone that was a hero to you let you down? How did you handle it? Were you able to forgive?

Enjoy your Sunday. it is Epiphany in the Church year. It is also Cuddle Up Day. I do believe I can honor this one without any problems!!!

Peace Love Hope

  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

COACHPENNY 1/14/2013 11:38AM

    Heros do fail. You are right, he is human. Humans can be selfish and he has to live with the pain that he caused. It was amazing to see his oldest daughter stand behind him. Her losses are even greater than his and she found a way to forgive him.

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CHERIRIDDELL 1/8/2013 11:25PM

    Power corrupts and absolute power corrupts absolutely.

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KARIDIAN1 1/6/2013 9:23PM

    Too bad he made such bad decisions.

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KARIDIAN1 1/6/2013 9:22PM

    Too bad he made such bad decisions.

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CANNIE50 1/6/2013 5:00PM

    I, too, was taken in by John Edwards and was deeply disappointed to learn how dishonestly he lived, and how truly weak he is. I felt foolish for believing him. I don't view Elizabeth as a victim, though, because I think she was stronger and more shrewd than that. I think she was a remarkable woman but I think she put up with some things in a trade for the lifestyle and I wish she would have challenged him more because she was a formidable woman. I hope she is resting in eternal peace - God knows she earned it. I feel badly for their children - they have been through SO much pain. They have their mother's DNA, though, so I am sure they will rise above.

I don't have heroes so much as I have people I admire and one of them let me down recently. He is someone who helped me when I struggled, by believing in my ability to become stronger physically and mentally. He was my fitness instructor and became my friend and we formed a bond and had a mutually supportive friendship. Then, he was lured by the money and false promises of a multi-level marketing scheme. At first, he respected my lack of desire to get involved with this but as he got deeper and deeper into the culture of this company, he began his attempts to recruit me. It has caused me to dread hearing from him and I have lost respect for him. He has lost lots of friendships this way. I find it hard to believe the money is worth it.

Thank you for this blog. Take care.

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JAE_HENNINGTON 1/6/2013 11:41AM

  I had the same sentiments as you about john Edwards, When I first saw and heard him . I was impressed with him and thought he would be a good canditate for president. The heart of a human is deceptive. I guess thats why God says not to judge. Only God can know the heart of a person and thier intentions.. Elizabeth was so gracious.. I felt so bad for her that she had to go through all of this with her health, and her last days on earth..

in the end I think it is not up to us to forgive him, he will have to settle that with God.

I want to thank you for taking the time to pen your feelings in a blog.. writing always help settle things and get them out into the open.

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1CRAZYDOG 1/6/2013 11:20AM

    What a poignant letter you've written. It is so true. You put faith in the honesty of someone and when they betray that trust, no matter how they do it, there is definitely difficulty getting to the point of forgiving. However, my philosophy definitely is being forgiving, but forgetting . . . that's another issue all together. I feel like once trust is betrayed, to me, it is a huge lesson to be learned. So, forgiving is a good thing. It give US back our personal, rather than harboring ill feelings. BUT if you forget, to me, you also forget the lesson learned.

There have personally been times that I have had to be forgiven as well, so that puts it more in a positive view to be able to forgive.

Very thought provoking blog.


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GINNJEN1974 1/6/2013 8:17AM

    Interesting idea for a blog.

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NEW-CAZ 1/6/2013 3:24AM

    Ev it seems to me, in the UK anyway, that we build people up only to knock them down. There seems to be an appetite to over publicise a person on the way up, relish in their success and then hunt out their dark side and skeletons/flaws and destroy them
The true heroes in my life are not celebrities, one was a teacher whom I much respected and still recall even now, one is a local lady who has done much for charity and indeed went on to earn and OBE in the Queen's Honours List a few years back.
There are heroes on here too! I am friends with one chap who has lost a lot of weight and has joined the SP coaches on seminars to motivate others to change their lives!

No body is perfect but it's those who shine without seeking publicity or recognition that I applaud.

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KASEYCOFF 1/6/2013 3:14AM

    Mmm hmm - well-written, Ev! I admired her so much and couldn't believe - regardless of the gap that probably exists between "public" and "private" - that he valued her so little.

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1STATEOFDENIAL 1/6/2013 2:27AM

    I take the term "hero" in a different way than most. Many choose to call someone a hero and place them on a pedestal for all to see who they worship/believe in/think above others/etc. I've seen first-hand what happens to those who are put on the pedestal. I've seen the inner turmoil they constantly face in an attempt to live up to the status they've been given. I've seen how it tears them to pieces knowing they can never be the perfect person some want them to be. I've seen them damage relationships and hurt those they care about most because they need to push away people before they can leave and find new people to replace the holes. Because of that, I refuse to ever put anyone on a pedestal, ever. I know everyone is imperfect and flawed and no one deserves to be held up above others.

My view of a hero is someone who is willing to give up everything that matters to others. Soldiers are an example. Many soldiers end up mentally destroyed from what they've seen and done but choosing to face the realities is heroic. But they still shouldn't be put on pedestals - only given the help, care, and attention they need and deserve.

Since I never put anyone on a pedestal, I instead choose to be inspired by those who have qualities I wish I had. Those who are incredibly charitable, who are forgiving and loving beyond measure, and who have talent I can't even imagine inspire me to be try to be more than I am. Therefore, when their imperfections are revealed I am not affected by the loss of what I deemed perfect. When their flaws become clear and many would dismiss them, I find compassion because I know that they are not that different from me.

The last time I had someone I idolized so much that their imperfections could have affected me was when I was when I was a teenager. An actor I greatly admired (and crushed on) eased out of the limelight as he became greatly depressed. A few years later (with few roles) he committed suicide. If I hadn't come face-to-face with the sombre reality of the damage caused by the limelight in the few years prior, I would've been absolutely devastated by the loss. I realized that those friends I have who are in some shade of limelight need to be kept grounded, knowing that people care and will not allow them to be on a pedestal. I've been thanked more than once for helping keep a friend grounded.

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