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Saturday, August 04, 2012

How many times I have written about my Spark Buds. I openly admit I couldn't have made all three of my journeys without their help. All the motivation, support, goodies, comments on my page and blogs - they have meant the world to me.

As I have done in the past, I am going to list a few of my buds. These are in no particular order. I'll be doing some more later on as there are too many to list at one time!!

ehagfeld: She is so supportive and encouraging. I love her comments on my blogs.

pansylady2: This wonderful lady is such an inspiration. She is s minister and we have shared a lot of wonderful conversations. All this and she loves NCIS, too!

Idletyme: She never fails to comment on my feeds and my blogs. She is always encouraging and just lovely.

ladyirish317: What can I say about Irish? She's great!! She wants to be a chef and has started a team for Food network lovers. We are also on other teams together and she comes up with the best games!

PMFish: Here is another very special lady. She never fails to post on my blogs with lots of encouragement and love.

Q8princess: This lady always posts on my blogs. Her advice is always very good. Her personality shines through in her writing.

Penguinlady: She stood up when I needed help with one of my teams. She has helped to keep it open. I always smile when I read her posts.

1stateofdenial: It seems that no matter how she feels or what she is going through, she always has time for her friends. How great is that?

Karidianl: She shoots guns in competition and tells the best stories about her meets. She is one busy lady, that's for sure! Here's to another friend from Minnesota to help up keep up with the news.


I always find this exercise so meaningful. I am so blessed to have such wonderful Spark Buds. All the encouragement and motivation is greatly appreciated. Thank you so much everyone!! I love each and everyone of you.

Peace, Love, and blessings.


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ILOVETOCRUISE 8/14/2012 8:14AM

    emoticonThat is such a nice blog.

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BUFFYSMOM2 8/7/2012 6:32PM

    Woo Hoo for sparkfriends!!!!!!

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BD3269PM 8/6/2012 5:31PM

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    You are one of the bright spots here on SparkPeople.com for me too! emoticon

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CHERIRIDDELL 8/5/2012 11:45PM

    I love reading your blogs you are an inspiration to many!

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KARIDIAN1 8/5/2012 9:49PM

    Ev- Thanks for the wonderful mention in your blog. I am honored to be your friend. We share Minnesota and our cancer experiences. And of course just being friends. emoticon

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PMFISH 8/5/2012 1:34PM

    It is an honor to be your friend. You have shown great strength and faith that has gotten you thru your trials. Friends and their prayers are just an extra bonus God gives us.

We still have many things ahead of us and I have always said God puts the right people in my life when I need them. You do know it works both ways!

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Q8PRINCESS 8/5/2012 1:06AM

    I only check you out because you inspire me so much! I try a lot harder because of you.

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1STATEOFDENIAL 8/5/2012 12:39AM

    Awe, thanks for the shout out! To be honest, helping others and being supportive to my sparkfriends is as much for me feel good as to do good for others. I might not always have the most perfect advice, but as long as I get others thinking that's what counts.

Things are crazy rough for me right now and I feel so awful, but being here and finding positive things to say gives me a chance to put some positive out into the world. Hopefully some day it will come back to me.

I appreciate your support as well. It's not easy to support someone going through as much as I am (hence why I don't have many friends left outside of SP). Which makes me even more grateful to the wondeful people who lend me their eyes (as opposed to ears hehe) when I need to let it out. What would I do without you and all my sparkfriends?

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The past few days have been something else!

Tuesday, July 31, 2012

Hi Buds! Hope all is going well for you. I have been really busy over the past few days. Lots and lots of good "stuff" happening. Talk about staying positive and up - that's me for sure!!

Let's see, where should I begin? How about on Sunday? Well, Sunday I was nervous about my appointment with the ENT Monday. I had requested good thoughts and prayer for those who felt like doing so. I turned it over to my Lord, but as usual, I managed to take it back in worry. Finally I decided - hey! What is to be is to be. I have no control over it. I have been doing my best, my journey through life is giving me choices, but the outcome is determined by my supreme being - God. It's me and how I feel, so that makes it all ok. I turned it back over and did - what else? I went shopping! In our tiny little town (1700 residents) we have a wonderful outlet store called Beall's. They are like a lot of other stores these days and have a buyer membership plan along with two "clubs" - one for those over 50 and one for those 49 and under. They are all on the one "card". When one uses it, they receive 15% off their total purchase. They started a really good sale the day before, so that is where I went. I ended up with two pair of pants - one was a pair of jeans and the other casual slacks. Guess what? My jeans are a size 4!!!!! I could barely believe it! But best of all, I gave them a $20 and got just over $10 back!! One pair is a Lee Rider and the other is a Lee casual pant. I think I did darn good. At their web site today, one of those was $27 and the other $28 on sale!! Wooo Hooo!! Took my mind right off that Monday appointment!!

Speaking of Monday - I was, wasn't I?? I got to the ENT somewhat early. I didn't have a very long wait and they took me in about 20 minutes before my appointment time! The doctor came in and said right away - you've lost even more weight haven't you? He asked what I was doing in case he needed to give information to other patients. When I told him all about Spark, he took notes!! Anyway, he numbed my nose so he'd be able to check my throat area with his "camera". While it was numbing, he checked my throat and tongue. He started asking me all kinds of questions because he saw a red spot on the right side which is the same side I had the cancer. Anyway, he put the tube into my nose and had a look around. He told us he had to check something and would be right back. I looked at Bob and got tears in my eyes because I could feel my heart pounding really hard now. He came back into the room and said, "See you in 6 months, everything looks perfect." I couldn't believe it. All I can say is prayers, good thoughts, lights, everything works! I am so happy about all that. I couldn't stop thanking God for bringing me through once again. All I can say is He must have something really important for me to do.

That brings us to today. Yesterday Bob had looked at a shed he really needs. He loves it and wants it, but hasn't been really sure about it. I told him today, after lots of figuring that he should put a down payment on it. He was hesitant, but I told him to go ahead because he'll never find another with such quality construction and with a 60 inch door to boot. He said he wanted to think on it some more. So we went on into town for my appointment to have my port flushed. This is something I have to have done every few months as long as I have the port, which is looking more and more like the rest of my days. Well, once again I messed up with the time. I had it on my Spark appointments at 11:45 and it was suppose to be 1:45! But things were slow, so I was in only a matter of minutes. Bob said he was going to get gas, as he really doesn't need to be with me. I was finished and he wasn't back yet. We decided to have lunch before going home. As we ate, I asked him once more about the shed. I mentioned I would give towards the down payment as an anniversary gift. So on the way home, we stopped and he gave them some money and signed the papers. When he got back in the truck he asked me what I had done while he was in there? I had only read and listened to the radio. He said I needed to turn around and explain to him what was in the back seat. Guess what was there. A brand new laptop carrier. I had no idea where it came from. It wasn't mine. He brought it into the front seat and said, "Yes, it is. Look inside." Here there was a brand spanking new hp 17" laptop with all the bells and whistles. Well, almost all of them. Enough to make me happy a long time. Here he hadn't gone for gas at all. He had called before we went to town (the county seat BIG 35K population town) to have them get it ready and he was getting it rather than gas. He told me, Happy Anniversary, too. I couldn't believe he did that for me! I was talking about replacing my desktop with a new laptop, but I was going to wait until I had all the money saved in a month or two or three....... well you get the idea. I guess that after I mentioned it he looked at how much space was on my hard drive and decided I should get it ASAP, so he just got it for me. The funny part? We weren't going to go big on gifts this year!

So anyway, that's been my past three days and why I haven't been on a lot, why I've tried to remain so positive, and why I am so happy.

Peace, love, and blessing to each one of you my dear Spark Buds!


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PAMNANGEL 8/7/2012 9:56AM

    How sweet! emoticon

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IFDEEVARUNS2 8/7/2012 8:41AM

    What a wonderful day! Great news and a new laptop. You are indeed blessed!

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SARAWMS48 8/7/2012 8:35AM

    Your health is the best news of all. The new laptop and jeans are a great way to celebrate. Carpe diem, right?

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MEDDYPEDDY 8/3/2012 12:46AM

    his blog ooozes happiness...very nice to read, thank you. AND it inspires me to really put some energy into saving up for a new laptop, this one is not healthy...

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PMFISH 8/3/2012 12:09AM

    I ditto LolaMOm2! She said it all. Congrats and so very happy for you.

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QUILTINGB52 8/1/2012 11:59PM

    What a delightful blog - so full of positive and happy memories!! Thanks for sharing!

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CHERIRIDDELL 8/1/2012 11:58PM

    What fabulous news Ev .God gave all of us a gift when he saw to it all was fine so we got to keep a very special friend !Happy Anniversary .We all knew Bob was special when he blogged for you so we wouldn't worry but his kindness never fails to make me think he is one in a million!

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MOM2ACAT 8/1/2012 4:38PM

    I'm glad the stuff that kept you busy was good stuff!

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PIMPINELLAN50 8/1/2012 3:49PM

    What a happy Blog,and wonderful news! emoticon The love and respect you have for each other in your marriage is inspiring! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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LOLAINSC 8/1/2012 11:53AM

    Where to begin to comment--a fine check-up, size-4 slacks--less than half oprice at that, a new lap-top, and another Happy Anniversary! I'm just going to say, May God continue to bless you and yours abundantly--and Happy Anniversary! emoticon

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MADAMES 8/1/2012 5:33AM

    What a sweet blog full of good news! I am very happy for you!


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COACHPENNY 8/1/2012 1:22AM

    "The Gift of The Magi" is what this reminds me of. You have a such a great love for each other. You are blessed!


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KARIDIAN1 7/31/2012 10:38PM

    Great news from the doctor, fantastic gifts for both of you. Life is good.

And great shopping score and size 4 jeans. emoticon

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LYNETTEMOM 7/31/2012 10:29PM

    so positive and encouraging: just what I needed to combat a rough day (and last night). Thanks for sharing!

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LVZ617 7/31/2012 9:43PM

    emoticon So many good things in such a short time! Your husband was so sweet and thoughtful!
I had never heard the line about taking something back from God, after giving it to Him, but I like it because I do that all the time.
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1STATEOFDENIAL 7/31/2012 9:38PM

    Wow, you've had a wonderful few days! It's great to know that you and your hubby both care so much for the other that you'd be willing to pay for the big gifts you weren't going to do.
It is a little scary when the doctor stops to 'check something' but usually it's just fine. Glad to know things look good! And clearly, giving it to God helped you get through, and a little retail therapy helped brighten your day significantly!

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EBEAMS 7/31/2012 9:01PM

    Oh my goodness ... Wow! God is certainly alive and thriving in your life, in your relationship and in your circumstances. I am so happy - no words can express how happy I am for you that the doctor gave you the 6 months thumbs up AND that you and your love have an incredible marriage! Wow ... Wow ... That is awesome! emoticon

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Genealogy Questioin for a Winner (3rd Post)

Monday, July 30, 2012

As most of my regular followers know I have a deep interest in my family and genealogy. From my paternal immigrant grandparents from Slovakia to my maternal ancestors who were here before the revolutionary war, and all my veteran family members, I have enjoyed doing my own research since 1971. You should know by now that I'm an ACE member for ancestry.com and a member of the DAR.

The 1940 Census report is available now. There are a number of states indexed thus far with many more counties and cities being added daily for the others. Ancestry.com has these available along with the other states being able to be searched, if you know where your family member lived. This is only one of the benefits of the site in my own opinion. Ancestry is also encouraging their ACES to have contests on their blogs with the winner receiving a very nice prize.

If you would like to be a part of this - or even if you just want to answer - the two questions that MUST be answered to win are:

#1. What would you like to find out the most about your ancestors?

#2. What kinds of questions do you feel you will have answered by researching the 1940 Census records?

I hope all of my blog readers will at least answer #1 simply because I love hearing about what interests others and because perhaps I could make a suggestion or so to advise where to look for an answer.

I'll reprint this two more times with the final one 06 August 2012 and the final submission date 12 August 2012. I'll announce the winner and 2 runners up the following Monday, 20 August 2012.

Good luck and I'm really interested in seeing your answers. If you have other SP friends who are interest in genealogy and would like to enter my contest, please tell them to come to my blog to see how they might win.

Peace, love, and happiness to all.


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LVZ617 7/31/2012 9:54PM

    Since my mother was into genealogy, I know her side is documented well in the days before computers. ( She also is a member of the DAR.) She went to Salt Lake City to the Mormon library a couple of times to do research, as we do have relatives who were part of that church,and they keep very good records. On a trip to Denmark, she even checked out old church records of baptisms, marriages, etc.

No one in my husband's family has been interested in keeping records, never mind doing any research. We do know that his father was one of 13, although his grandfather was widowed 3 times and remarried each time, so he had children with 4 different women.
Question #1 would be the names of my father-in-law's siblings and first 3 wives.
Question #2 would be addresses of those people and who was in their households.

Good luck with your contest!
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EVWINGS 7/31/2012 8:39PM

    You may answer right here. I'll ejoying seeing what your answers are.

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SOFEDUPP 7/31/2012 7:57PM

    Interesting blog! I have been trying to find out information about relatives, but I can't afford Ancestry.com.

Where do you want people to answer the questions, on your blog or in a sparkmail?

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EBEAMS 7/30/2012 7:09PM

    Delighted that you are all recovered and back to pursuing your passions! Keep it up!

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Reaching Your Goal

Friday, July 27, 2012

Recently I have been thinking about reaching my goal and the things that helped me. Of course being on the feeding tube for 6 weeks did help some, but really not that much. I would like to share what worked for me. It may not for anyone else, but they did in my case!

1) Having the collage hanging by my computer was a wonderful inspiration to help me keep going.

2) Portion control was a huge help once I got the hang of it.

3) Using the food and exercise trackers made a big difference.

4) Joining various teams and adding friends that give wonderful support.

5) Taking part on the points page.

6) Blogging

7) learning to love my self no matter how I looked.

8) Taking baby steps. I started my exercise program with Chair Exercise Team. I gradually increased my amounts every week or two.

9) not to beat myself up if I screwed up. Tomorrow is a new day to start fresh.

10) Keeping a positive attitude as much as possible. Smiling a lot whether I was happy or not really, really helped.

11) Keeping positive people in my life and letting go of the ones who were negative more often than not.

12) Keeping a gratitude journal where I would write five things I was thankful for each day.

13) Reading lots of articles, member blobs, and watching lots of Coach Nicole's videos. It was nice to learn proper form for lots of the exercises I do.

14) I changed up things I do or the order in which I do them so I don't get bored. There are lots of things I would like to learn, but there are no classes in the area.

15) I always have a play list especially for my various exercises playing whenever I exercise.

16) Cutting out added sugar to food

17) limiting my soda intake to one a day.

18) Weighing myself once a week and track how I am doing.

19) Having a buddy to keep accountable.

20) Believing I could do it this time.

These are things that helped me the very most. Good luck on your journey. I know you can do it with what works for you! emoticon

Peace, love, and happiness.
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THRIVE2DAY 8/2/2012 7:13AM

    What a helpful list. Thanks for sharing your experience, strength, and hope.

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PMFISH 7/29/2012 11:44PM

    You laid it out nicely! Thanks for sharing.

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DRUIDPRINCESS 7/29/2012 6:27PM

    Thank you so much for such a detailed list of things that can help us on our journey. I am sure everyone can relate to many, most or all of these and by doing so can keep themselves focused and motivated.

For me, I have printed off your list, and will use its wisdom on the collage you have inspired me to make for myself!

Have an awesome week!

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NEENERS815 7/29/2012 12:40PM

    This is great. Thank you for sharing!

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MEDDYPEDDY 7/28/2012 4:29AM

    Number 20 I am trying very hard to integrate... it is hard. A helpful list!

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CHERIRIDDELL 7/28/2012 1:15AM

    Thanks Ev!

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1STATEOFDENIAL 7/27/2012 9:54PM

    emoticon Thanks for sharing!

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KARIDIAN1 7/27/2012 9:20PM

    Believing in yourself is huge. Great list Ev.

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CSDAYS 7/27/2012 12:21PM

    This could be the prefect diet book condensed to a page. You have the ideas now to do it and succeed!

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PARAN0RMAL 7/27/2012 12:17PM

    I really love your first idea about the collage near your computer. I work a desk job and sit in front of my computer for 10+ hours a day, so that would be really helpful and inspirational for me! Thank you!


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Spark Pages Safety Tips for protection

Wednesday, July 25, 2012

Hello to all my Spark Buds! I hope that these tips don't refer to things on your pages and that you are all safely protected. Whenever I notice things on someone's page, I try to either privately message them or send them a goodie that contains the problem I see and feel should be corrected for their own well being.

Lately, I have been seeing a lot of pages containing the member's email address in complete form. We all need a reminder if we want to publish our emails that we do it thusly: my name at gmail dot com. Why should this be posted this way? Well, lots of bots, those sneaky little electronic things that collect emails for both legitimate and illegal businesses, can pick up the address when it is typed the way you would address an email. You can then start receiving lots of unwanted spam and possibly have your account hacked to name just two problems. Personally I would prefer if someone would like my private email that they message me for it. That just makes me feel safer knowing that not everyone on the net can see it no matter how I type it on my page.

Several times lately I have even found members who leave their entire location addresses and sometimes include their phone number. Please, Please, PLEASE do not do this. It is only risking your safety that someone with a problem starts calling, writing, or even stalking you at your home. It is more than just not wise. It can be your life being in a horrible place and no one here needs that kind of trouble. But the only way we can keep others from seeing the info on our pages is to make them private. And even then, some people know how to get past that and onto the private page.

We really need to keep in mind that anyone with computer access can see our pages nearly anywhere we go. As much as we would like to think we are letting friends or potential friends know us better, we need to be mindful of the information we do share ANYWHERE on-line.

I refuse to make my page private as I want anyone who might like my posts at Teams, comments on their blogs, or read my blogs, to be able to add me as a friend, leave me a comment, or send me a goodie! Those things are worth the cost of not publishing all of my personal information.

Hopefully this information will be helpful. It seems we can get to know one another on teams and in sharing that we forget there are millions of members and even more guests who visit these pages and see what is written.
Then, too Spark has attracted members who are fairly new to the internet and aren't aware of some precautions that should be taken to protect themselves and need to have the information. We are new at some point and have had to learn it ourselves - some of us the hard way.

Most of this is common sense and actions we would take in our day-to-day activities at home. Sometimes it is good to get a reminder now and again.

Peace, love and blessings to all my Spark buds and I hope you stay safe on-line and off.

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BD3269PM 7/31/2012 6:48PM

    Thanks for sharing. It does make sense emoticon

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SAMMIESMOM13 7/27/2012 7:48PM

    Great post. Thanks.

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PUFFPASTRY 7/26/2012 1:37AM

    As someone who was harassed here on SP and had to make my blog private, I can say a hearty "Aye Aye" to this post! Funny enough, I just Googled my phone number today to see what all would come up on the internet, and I was shocked at how many places it's right there out in public. This is a dilemma for me, as I'm a self employed artist and I WANT people to be able to contact me and offer me work, but it also feels dangerous to publicize it. Not sure what I'm going to do about that... emoticon

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CHERIRIDDELL 7/25/2012 11:27PM

    Excellent advice Ev .Sadly I had to make my page private as we learned the hard way that simply saying I was a military wife aqnd my husband was deployed let me in for things I would have rather not received and my email address was not published !

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CJBAGGINS 7/25/2012 11:17PM

    Great tips!
I was going to mention full names as well, but I see that 1STATEOFDENIAL beat me to it.

People often think that cj are my first two initials, and baggins is my last name. I let them think that, but it is not my name at all, just a pseudonym. Makes it harder for people to track you.


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COACHPENNY 7/25/2012 10:27PM

    I agree and even on Spark, there are people you might not want to share personal info with. Not everyone is who they might portray themselves to be.

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KARIDIAN1 7/25/2012 10:19PM

    You are so right and thanks for reminding us to think before we post.

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1CRAZYDOG 7/25/2012 8:41PM

    Thanks for your information.

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DFROMTX 7/25/2012 5:01PM

    Thanks for reminding us of the dangers!

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COOKINGSTARS 7/25/2012 4:42PM

    Thanks for the advice

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EVWINGS 7/25/2012 4:27PM

    Great reminder about total true name and city. When I have been on forums, I'll often use my confirmation name rather than my real name.

Another good point I should have mentioned in the blog itself, it is very easy to set up a free on-line account a gmail, yahoo, hotmail, etc. If you wish, you can always set one especially for a place like Spark and by your user name at the site. ie: mine would be evwings at free account dot com.

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1STATEOFDENIAL 7/25/2012 4:20PM

    It's good to remind people of this. Many people don't realize the dangers of giving everyone all their information. One thing I like about SP is that it has some anonymity, but we still get to share our lives with people who care.

One thing I'd like to add is avoiding using your last name and your city. With full name and city a person can find a lot of information with a few minutes of searching online. Say the rough area you're in, but avoid the actual city.

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JUNEBUG1944 7/25/2012 4:06PM

    Thanks! Good reminders....

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