proverbs,sayings are they true or just illusion?or are they lifelines?

Saturday, October 24, 2009

been doing a lot of thinking theese last weeks trying to keep my mind of fsomethings,trying not to let some thoughts from forming and trying to block them out when i couldnīt stop them.set sayings kept popping into my mind like.god wouldnīt send us something he knew we didnīt have the strenght to cope with.this is my big one weather true or not it time of worry or troubles this one is always my lifeline and do i cling on to it like life itself it is the main thing that has kept me going theese last days with my two sons in hospital it is still keeping me going but i sometimes ask my self how long it will last ?how long i will believe it?theese are the thoughts i try to stop myself from forming but canīt always succeed.like the one,what if ayman doesnīt pull through this time,what if this is the last time i have to go through theese situations with him.what would i do?how could i carry on?again thoughts i have to strop thinking.thoughts i had and still have occasionally with zakariya but now i am having them with ayman.when does it ever end,this worry,theese thoughts?do they ever go a way?are they with us for ever?another saying.there is always someone worse of than you.something my nana used to always say.to help us feel better.remember however bad your life is at the moment there is always someone out there worse than you.she is right but in certain moments it doesnīt help.maybe i am beginningto loose my hopefulness,maybe it is like the last straw on the camels back,the water slowly eroding away the stone over the years.all sayings but it is true you do get worn down slowly,eventually.must look for more saying to build me back up again.sorry if this is a bit heavy but that is how i am feeling at this moment.i wont be around much over the next few days as ayman is taking up a lot of my time and energy.if any one reads this who is on any of my challanges can they post on the threads with my apoligies for suddenly dropping out of the challanges without saying anything as i have not the time to go to all the individual threads.hope you are all doing well.thanks for reading my blog and thanks for being there forme.love karen.

  

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KIKIMUFFINS9 10/30/2009 12:38PM

Hey Karen, I just read your blog post and I thought of another saying... "Everything happens for a reason" ... and everything that happens is within the will of Allah.. so, with that said.. in my opinion or perspective.. instead of beating ourselves up about "what is" in the present.. we can choose to ask the question, "what am I supposed to take from this?", or "what am I supposed to learn from this situation?" - is this a test of faith? is this a test of love? is this a test at all? - who knows.. no one knows.. but by maintaining your faith and believing that Allah only wants what is best for us, and truly believing that Allah is the most merciful, the most compassionate, the beneficent , the provider, and so many more.. then when we realize that everything is up to Allah, it gives us greater hope and greater strength that whatever the outcome, there is a higher purpose, and overall in our best interest. But believe me, we are all human, and all of these things are not easy to understand, or easy to feel good about especially when we have a family member hurting or in need, or possibly very ill... but the greatest hope is in faith and above all our greatest gift is love. I don't know if this will help at all, but sister, my heart goes out to you, and I will make dua for your children. Insha'Allah everything will be ok soon. Sending you much love and positivity! May Allah bless you and your family! Take care! Report Inappropriate Comment

P316LEIA 10/26/2009 3:59PM

Karen, I like to believe that when such sayings pop into my head that it is God reminding me that He is with me and I will make it through whatever difficulty I am facing. Keep your faith knowing things will work out as He has planned. Peace. Report Inappropriate Comment

IOWAGAL1957 10/25/2009 7:25AM

karen, i'm sorry your boys are not well. you and your family will be in my thoughts. i don't know how we get the strength to carry on in the hard times, but we always do. janie Report Inappropriate Comment

FINDINGME8 10/24/2009 5:18PM

Ah - Karen - I will pray for you and your boys. Stay strong. We care - God cares - Keep faith and hope. Love Kris Report Inappropriate Comment

JEAN524 10/24/2009 4:57PM

I think that when you are watching someone you love suffering and particularly if it's your child then you are bound to have doubts - you're only human. You need something to hang on to more than ever in times like these. Just keep on praying and doing the best you can and you will take comfort from that. I'll be praying for you. Love, Jean Report Inappropriate Comment

1THING 10/24/2009 4:05PM

II Corithians 12 cites Jesus as saying "...My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness." (verse 9) Yes, I believe all Biblical proverbs are true. I pray for your faith in God that his will is the greatest, his grace is sufficient. He knows the whole picture where we only see pieces. Our faith allows his grace to flow freely in the lives of you and your loved ones. Keep your faith when the doubts arise, keep your faith when the shadows fall, keep the faith thay no matter what occurs .... God's grace is sufficient for thee. Be Blessed!!!!! Report Inappropriate Comment

where did i go wrong??????HELP!!!!!!

Saturday, October 10, 2009

so much for good intentions i decided to recomitt to healthy lifestyle and healthy eating on the 9 of september.i am afraid i havenīt got very far with it even though i am down by 1#.life just seem to get in the with with my torn ligament in my foot which still seems to be hurting me.with my oldest and the baby getting ill,the baby being in hospital my motivation and determination i had when i wrote my recomit blog seemed to have vanished in a puff of smoke.i have just been looking back on my spark page and descovered a challange i was on with another spark friend which i had totally forgot about(must check out his page to see how he is doing on it)it started on the second of june and is supose to finish on the 31st of this month.i planed to loose 50 lb on the challange.guess what my start weight was 244# as my presant weight is 255# i guess i am not doing that good eh.so much for 50# weight loss i will be please if i manage to break even.is it possible to loose 11# in twenty days i wonder?oh well.back to basics i guess and just look at what i have lost since my heaviest weight a few years ago.which is 75# lost.it maybe not going as quick as i would like but it is going with a few backtracking along the way.if i hadnīt kept putting back on and loosing it a gain i would now be at my goal weight.noone else to blame but myself i suppose.suggestions welcome to cheer me up please.i am tired,fed up,powered out,depressed whatever you like to call it i need to get my motivation back i had a couple of weeks ago and get on with it.HELP!!!!!!

thanks kamilla for pointing it out to me it was a typo have now changed it it should have read 255 not 455.thankyou everybody for your replies and support.

  

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PEARLSOFJANNAH 10/12/2009 9:00PM

Salaam Sis! I'm sorry that I've been away. It just became so difficult to stay on SP while homeschooling and going through Ramadan. Now all is well, AlhamduLILLAH and I am slowly working my way back. I hope that you and your babies heal soon - May ALLAH take away your difficulties, AMEEN. Take care, miss you too, Nakia Report Inappropriate Comment

VERGE_OF_ME 10/11/2009 1:28PM

Take a deep breath and know you are not alone in what you are going through. Although circumstances are different....the feelings are very much the same. You have come a long way and this is just part of the process. Don't let yourself get overwhelmed....with all you are dealing with...that happens so easily. You have a lot of support and wise encouragement left for you here....let that lift your spirits and help get you through the rough spots like you are having. The support here can truly make all the difference : ) Never forget...you are worth it! Hang in there...you CAN do this! Report Inappropriate Comment

CARIOLA 10/11/2009 10:43AM

Hi, Karen. Everyone who wrote below is right: you made awesome progress in losing 75 pounds, life does indeed sometimes get in the way of our goals, and it's great that you've stopped, recognized the problem, and are looking for ways to forge ahead. My progress has been stalled for a few weeks, and I really appreciated this Spark article that appeared in my mailbox this morning--"25 Ways to Get Back on Track Today": http://www.sparkpeop le.com/resource/motivation_arti cles.asp?id=1062 It has some great suggestions, including lots of little things that I know you can do. Give it a try! Deborah Report Inappropriate Comment

IOWAGAL1957 10/10/2009 8:00PM

hey, sorry to hear things are rough right now. take small steps every day and focus on the successes you have. i know it seems a terribly slow process but you have made great progress so far! keep on plugging away, i know you can. i'm dealing with many life obstacles right now that derail my plans on a regular basis, we just have to do the best we can with what we have to work with every day. woohoo to those 75# you have been successful at shedding already! Report Inappropriate Comment

KAMILLA1 10/10/2009 7:33PM

Did I read your blog wrong you said your present wt is 455 was that a typo I hope so. Comment edited on: 10/10/2009 7:34:18 PM Report Inappropriate Comment

SLOLOSER 10/10/2009 10:51AM

It is natural (for some of us) to gain weight during times of stress. (Although others actually lose without trying!) To not make a major gain is already a kind of victory. Don't beat yourself up over a gain during a stressful time. On the other hand the foot should not stop you from losing weight. It is possible to lose weight by diet alone. People in wheelchairs have done it! Once the baby is out of the hospital you can look up things like chair dancing and cardio for the arms. For now, I think you would be wise to concentrate on healthful eating and getting enough rest. Work in what exercise you can, but don't overdo the walking and other footwork. Report Inappropriate Comment

POSITIVELY_EB 10/10/2009 10:11AM

Karen, I agree with both of the people below! That you have lost 75 pounds is awesome! Remember that as you work on losing more! And don't discredit the "healthy lifestyle" part, either! If you do nothing but make good choices - even though the weight stays the same - you are still better off than you were before! We're all here for you, sweetie! Beverly Report Inappropriate Comment

SANDYMILTON 10/10/2009 9:04AM

As much as we hate to admit it happens, sometimes life just gets in the way. There is a bright side to this. You have recognized there is an issue and are wanting to face it. Forget past goals, forget past issues. Today is a new day. What will you do today to take a step in reaching your goal? Tomorrow - rinse and repeat what I just stated above! :) Report Inappropriate Comment

MUSIC66 10/10/2009 8:32AM

Just take it one baby step at a time and to take it one day at a time. As they say slow and steady wins the race . also make your self same small goals on your way to your main goal. Report Inappropriate Comment

the swine flu

Sunday, September 27, 2009

well my best friend just got the call from the dr who was phoning out of hours her son has a 100% the swine flu.last night zakariya started having coughing fits,this morning he had a raised temperature of 37.5 a now continious cogh complaing of stomach ache and as of ten mins complaining of headache.have phoned my husband.the earliest he can get home is just after 17.00 it is now 14.26 and then he will take us all to the emergencie dr in town so zakariya can be tested.in itself it is not that much different for zakariya as he often has coughing fits and stomach ache conecting with the coughing but he doesnīt usually have higer temperture or headaches.so keep your fingers crossed for me.although semi .zakariyaīs friend seems to have a very mild case of the swine flu if my son gets it i donīt think he will get off that lightly what with his bad heart and his asthma.his lungs are already weak at the moment which is why he is on steriods and having physio pherapy on his lungs every week.anyway.just wanted to get my fears of my chest and give myself something to do while i wait for my husband to come home after just recomitting to this programm yesturday i donīt want to go and spoil it by pigging out on chocolate to help me cope with the stress.i also worry that the baby might get it if it is as his lungs are also very weak.if it is not one thing it is another.life doesnīt just pull you down he tries to drag you down sometimes when you are not looking.lets hope this is not another fight in this battle of life that we have.because once again it would be a fight that there is little i could do personally against it and which i would have to rely on drīs and modern medicine,once again.must go zakariyaīs just thrown up.does any one know if that is one of the symtoms?i canīt remember reading anything about being sick.but maybe i missed that bit.keep you informed.

  

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TYEASLEY 10/12/2009 10:43PM

To find more detailed information you should visit cdc.gov/h1n1flu or flu.gov. For additional information and to find a H1N1 vaccine provider in your area, please contact your local public health department. Comment edited on: 10/12/2009 10:44:26 PM Report Inappropriate Comment

FINDINGME8 9/27/2009 8:09PM

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Report Inappropriate Comment

LITTLETEALOVER 9/27/2009 3:10PM

I just wanted to let you know that I'm keeping your son in my thoughts. I hope it's not serious and that he is feeling better soon. Report Inappropriate Comment

CARIOLA 9/27/2009 10:32AM

Karen, I hope Zakariyah is OK and that none of the rest of you comes down with this. The "regular" flu is also going around, so maybe it's just that. Report Inappropriate Comment

JEAN524 9/27/2009 9:23AM

One of my pupils has just recovered from it and one of the symptoms apart from the high temperature was being very sick. It seems there are different symptoms with different people. In the UK we are not allowed to go either to the doctor or the hospital if swine flu is suspected, but let's hope that is not what is the problem and whatever it is he get's better soon. Unfortunately though, what will be, will be, and you do have to rely on the doctors, but you're right, better not to hit the chocolate if you can help it and sparking is a much more positive thing to do. I'll pray that Zakariya is okay and better soon. Children do generally bounce back quickly and maybe it will be so with Zak, despite his other health problems. Take care. Lots of love, Jean Report Inappropriate Comment

BEAUTIFUL_BABY 9/27/2009 8:58AM

No I don't believe throwing up is one of the symptoms. I know how concerned you feel. As back in June me, DH, and DS got the swine flu. My DD never got it being around all of us. Ours was 100% positive from the DRs. My DS was the worst but that I believe was because of his asthma and it went straight to his chest and he got full blown bronchitis. He was sick for 3 weeks and constantly having to get chest x-rays. My DH had his for almost 3 weeks his was in the chest as well but not a bad as DS. Luckily for me being momma, I only had it for a week, then I was able to take care of them. We will pray for you all! Report Inappropriate Comment

BOOMERGIRL5 9/27/2009 8:42AM

Oh I hope he gets better Report Inappropriate Comment

starting over again or time to recommit.

Saturday, September 26, 2009

well here it is that time again.time to recess the situation,work out why i have started sliding down or rather the scales going up in the wrong direction again and here it is in black and white---TO RECOMMIT AGAIN----i know you have heard it before ,i know i have said it before.but each time i say it i get new strength.it is just a shame this new strength doesnīt seem to go the whole distance like i want it to.

plan of action
what is my plan of action?basically the one it always is.to loose weight.try to eat and be healthy.try to be more at peace with myself and my life whatever it throws at me.to be there for all my family and friends when they need me.and most importantly to learn to be there for me when i need it.i.e.sometimes put myself first before others,be kind to myself in words and thoughts like i would if it was one of my friends.try not to stress too much and go with the flow.all the above is attainable as long as i believe in my self.am willing to give it a go.do it in small doable steps.be realistic and not to expect too much to soon.learn to lean on others as others lean on me.the last for me is the hardest.
on the good side have just worked out how to work the food tracker using my own food.duh that i couldnīt work it out before.so will start using that if i have time ,must try to make the time.step up my exercise once my foot is better(have torn a ligament in my right foot and it is inflammed to boot)in the meantime concentrate on upper body exercise.(doing the baby pushups much to the joy of my baby who loves them and canīt stop laughing when i do them).and try to think of an affimation for the day to keep me on track.todayīs motivational affirmation is.

I CAN AND I WILL:lets say it again I CAN AND I WILL.

  

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LIBRARYLISA7 9/27/2009 9:05PM

You can do it! And I can do it too. One day at a time. Report Inappropriate Comment

JEAN524 9/27/2009 2:44AM

Karen. You can do it and you will. Just one day at a time and you'll get there. Jean Report Inappropriate Comment

POSITIVELY_EB 9/27/2009 12:30AM

Excellent blog, my dear! Just remember that as long as you don't quit, you haven't failed! Keep picking yourself up and continuing onward! We Can and We ARE!!!! Hugs! Beverly Report Inappropriate Comment

FINDINGME8 9/26/2009 3:44PM

YOU CAN and YOU WILL!! I Can too! WOO HOO! : ) Report Inappropriate Comment

CARIOLA 9/26/2009 11:10AM

Karen, YOU CAN DO IT! I've said it before on the challenge thread, but my three mantras have really, really been helpful: Just do it! No excuses. Plan ahead. I should probably add a fourth one: Stop and think. I am so hard on myself--so quick to criticize anything and everything and yet so hesitant to give myself credit for the positive things that I do. I'm learning to stop, think about the truth of a situation or the choices before me, then talk to myself from a more realistic standpoint. It is helping immensely. Best wishes on your recommitment! ~Deborah Comment edited on: 9/26/2009 11:10:47 AM Report Inappropriate Comment

IOWAGAL1957 9/26/2009 10:28AM

you can and you will! i can and i will! we can and we will! Report Inappropriate Comment

a step in the right direction.

Saturday, August 29, 2009

today was the first day of me using a pedometer after finally working out how it works.he are the statistics from my pedometer.i feel like i did good but as it is the first time i used it and have no comparrision there i could be wrong either way it is a step in the right direction.maybe tommow i can do better.hereīs to positive or wishful thinking which ever is the case.bye.

steps-----10,525
distance----8,31 km(doesnīt seem much with all them steps.)
calories---79 (surly that is a mistake surly it should be more than that?)

all that effort for 79 cals seems not worth it somehow what say you?

apart from the calorie count which i think must be falsh i am happy with the pedometer .how long before the novelty wears off is another matter though.
see you around.bye.

  

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IOWAGAL1957 8/30/2009 11:58AM

i love my ped and always use it. it gives me an instant visual of how i'm doing, a constant reminder to "move it"!! i don't really pay attention to the calories but it does seem low. i have had my ped for over a year and it is still a motivator for me. Report Inappropriate Comment

ESHRALAIN 8/30/2009 11:47AM

I know it doesn't seem like much, but if you think about how many steps you'll take in a week, then in a month, it all adds up to weight loss. Not to mention you'll be making muscle which will, even at rest, cause you to burn more calories. That's a great thing! Keep up the good work. I think you'll be surprise at how much those steps will help you reach your goals. Report Inappropriate Comment

JEAN524 8/29/2009 5:06PM

I have the same problem with mine. Today I've been painting most of the day so no aerobic steps, 7,000 odd ordinary steps, 68 kalories and a measly 2.82 km! I like wearing it though because it makes me much more aware of how active or inactive I am. Trouble is I sometimes forget to put it on first thing, or else forget to change it over when I change my trousers for the garden or whatever. Have fun with it anyway. Hope you have a great weekend. Jean Report Inappropriate Comment

MOV4WARD 8/29/2009 4:56PM

Hi ~ So glad 2 c u :) Q4u ~ are the steps continuous from a walk (then check & compare against SP's walking cals in the exercise tracker)? Or all day steps... ??? I think my pedometer only calcs calories from the "aerobic steps" that are continuous like when you take a walk. It doesn't calc cals on the steps from stop & go walking like puttering around the house, standing while doing dishes, even grocery shopping isn't included when i stop & go to read labels. So, if yours is like mine, then the goal would be to get more "walking" steps that acts as aerobic exercise... further, a 2nd overall goal w/b 10k total steps for a day which all the reference materials i read says shoot for 10k/day!!! Which U did! Woot! Comment edited on: 8/29/2009 4:58:59 PM Report Inappropriate Comment

POSITIVELY_EB 8/29/2009 4:22PM

You definitely have a problem there with the calories burned! That is waaaay too low! But over 10,000 steps is awesome! That's what's recommended! You go, girl! Hugs! Beverly Report Inappropriate Comment