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Saturday, 1/29 Home at last!!

Saturday, January 29, 2011

Hi there,

When I left the hospital to go to work yesterday at 11:15, they had told us Megan would be there for the weekend. Then, the insurance company became involved. When I got to her room and against what the doctor wanted, he told us that if her INR continued to increase on Saturday, the way it had on Friday (it was up to 1.4 from 1.1 the previous day) that she could go home. An hour later, the doctor was discharging her against his will. The insurance company made it happen.

She wanted to come home and I wanted her to come home, so this seems like a perfect intervention, right? Almost. I am now worrying myself sick because the doctor really didn't want this. That puts the burden of her care on us and I am fearful of any repeat blood clots. They can be fatal and this is a big deal. The insurance company simply didn't want to pay for the care anymore. I am not sure that they should be able to dictate what the doctor chooses for a patient, as a matter of fact, I am sure that they should not be able to do so. They don't know a particular patient the same way the attending doctor does.

All of that aside, she is home and got to have one of her favorite meals to start with. (Chicken-rice taco dinner that she has always loved.) She got to lie on our couch and use our bathroom and take her meds when she was ready. This was such a good thing for her that I hesitate to fuss about how she got home. The medication thing was solved by our regular pharmacy. The hospital staff called them and got them to run her Lovenox prescription on thursday and they got the medication in to cover her needs. Again, the insurance company had to approve it, but they did. (I think that was easier than keeping her in the hospital.)

She is making plans to get back to her life. I am hovering to keep her at a reduced level of activity as she recuperates. She has an appointment with my doctor on Monday for follow-up care and I am glad for that. We had gotten her in to be cared for by the new staff member, their nurse practitioner, but this is a far better way to handle this. She can see her for routine things, but seeing the doctor for this "acute pulmonary embolism" gives me a bit of freedom from worry about how her care is managed because I know how this doctor has cared for me during times of present and looming disaster (my spine infection and when I was diagnosed with heart failure) and I know that he will look at every meticulous detail in every way needed. She is int he hands of the "A-Team" now. I also know that the insurance company won't bully my doctor around.

So for the moment, as she is sleeps, I don't have to worry. She has a sub at her job at the fitness center today and I get to look after her.

And, I can catch my breath a bit as we wait for Marissa to return from all-state today. She will return like a bull in a china shop because that is how our 15 year old is.

And I will rejoice to have everyone around!

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BEAR_GURL 1/30/2011 7:02AM

    All I can say is wow...what a week and what a mess! Have they determined why she got this blood clot or the possibilty of it returning? I don't blame you for being nervous--I would be a mess!

Insurance companies and hospitals are the pits when it comes to billing: they very seldom agree as to what is in the patient's best interest. I hope your daughter realizes how very serious this all is and takes care of herself; I'm not a good patient myself, but you just have to suck it up sometimes; )

Don't forget to take care of your health as well and please keep me updated. Best wishes and I hope all works out!



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WALKZWDOGZ 1/29/2011 4:37PM

Having any corporation in charge of what doctors can order is beyond worrisome. Don't get me started. But thank doG she's home! We'll be praying that all goes well toward a smooth recovery!

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EMRANA 1/29/2011 12:52PM

  Insurance companies are rotten. They tried to kick me out of the hospital once too before I was ready (that was a psych visit) and I said that I would pay out of pocket for the last three days if they wouldn't, and it was ludicrous to pay for the first two weeks and couple days and then abruptly boot me out when I hadn't even been outside in that long a time. Enter the day pass and their begrudging three day extension.

I'm glad you are able to watch over your daughter. She has the A-Team of doctors but she also has the best home care!


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    Glad that your daughter is home in the heart of all that love her. I'll continue to keep you & your family in my prayers. Love ya, Dawn emoticon

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KKKAREN 1/29/2011 7:32AM

    I'm glad she is home with her loved ones, that should speed her recovery.

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WENDYSPARKS 1/29/2011 6:51AM

    I hope she starts to feel better.

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Friday, 1/28 Up in the air!!

Friday, January 28, 2011

Hello Spark Friends

This week has been one of complete unpredictability and it seems as if it will continue this way. After waiting for Megan's updated INR, it turned out to have moved from 1 to 1.0 to (drum roll) 1.1--and they want it at 3 for her to be able to be discharged. They increased her Coumadin dose again yesterday but also told us that they are now expecting her to be in the hospital through the weekend because this rate is not increasing adequately. Coumadin (warfarin) is a particularly powerful and interesting drug that got its start as rat poison. I am curious how the researcher connected it to being such an important medical tool in treating major life-threatening conditions. emoticon emoticon emoticon

I am planning to go to work this afternoon so I can see my afternoon students, some who I have only seen once or twice this week to switch out books and to take notes home about my book study for their parents on Monday. I really need to stick to my schedule because I have everything for my National Boards choreographed so I can complete my work on time. If I need to cancel or change things, it will be like knocking down bowling pins and I am not sure I have the energy to rework everything around other activities at school and the like. emoticon emoticon emoticon

I have my own medical things coming in the next two weeks as well that include my appointment with my back doc and my coming stress test to prove that my heart is in good shape. These are very important events in the life of my better health and will both take me away from work for a half a day. It is a good thing that I have been frugal with my sick leave after getting my time back with the new school year. It's a better thing that except for my typical orthopedic issues, I have been so healthy this year. emoticon emoticon

Anyway, it is good to have a weekend approaching after this week packed with stress and worry. We understand how things need to go for us to have some calm restored to our family life again. Marissa left for all-state on Wednesday and will be back on Saturday. I'm not sure that she got the fanfare she deserved for her accomplishment given Megan's illness--but I am equally sure that she will be full of energy and stories when she returns, so we will get to celebrate her success then. We also have Micah's birthday next week as he officially becomes a teen ager. This just doesn't seem right or possible, but he has been changing in all of the ways that children change as adolescence strikes. He still wants toys for his birthday gifts, so I have my little boy for at least a little while longer. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

The nurse just came in, which puts me in position for asking questions here. Thanks to each of your for the support and prayers during this very tricky time. Our children are supposed to stay healthy and young people are not supposed to have embolisms. It just goes to show how unpredictable life really can be.

Gentle hugs,

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1COUNTRY_GAL 1/31/2011 12:40AM

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Wednesday, 1/26 We shall see!

Thursday, January 27, 2011

Hello Spark Friends

Ok, I'm officially embarrassed--no ashamed of myself. I fell asleep for a couple of hours while I was at the hospital tonight. I am so surprised at myself. Megan had a friend visiting and I moved out of the way and I sat back in the recliner and woke up a couple of hours later. It has been a long few days and I have been sick with a head cold which is moving into my chest. I think I reached a point that my body was going to sleep one way or another.

As a matter of fact, my life and needs have gone by the wayside as I have been mom and teacher this week and have scurried to do my two important jobs at the level I do them at--something has had to give. I haven't been to the pool and I haven't had much "leisure" time. I went to the hospital this morning so I could be there for the doctors. The good news is that they have let me take Megan into the hallways for a walk today. The bad news is that her all-important INR level "changed" from 1 to 1.0 (???) It has to get up to a 3 for her to be able to leave the hospital, so they increased the Coumadin today.

I went to school for the late morning and early afternoon. I actually had time to touch base with all of the teachers who have students I work with and I also touched base with each of the 55 kids I see. I did an update with some of them, collected RSVPs for the parent training I am doing next Monday, and helped them to switch out their take-home books. My older kids all got to use the computers--and I actually got those frustrating machines to work!! YAY. I got in one Reading Recovery lesson as well. Then, I attended the kindergarten and primary team meetings before leaving back for the hospital.

I had a doctor's appointment with my therapist at 4:45, so I left long enough to go there--I was out of appointments with him and he is booked up until the middle of March, so he created some later appointments when he normally isn't int he office for me. I went back and Megan was having dinner and her friend was there--and that is when I went over to the out of the way seat--and fell asleep. Arghhhh, that seems like something my husband might do, but not me.

I also have been making my physical therapy appointments. The PTs are so happy with my shoulder--I'm ahead of schedule for my ability to flex and move. My strength is starting to come back. That seems weird because the only wayI can raise my arm is to do it with my left hand, but they are pleased, so I will be too. I saw my ortho on Monday and he was pleased as well. I also had a heart to heart with him about my back and the things that my neurodoc has told me. I asked him for his professional suggestion on how to handle the neurodoc--this guy zooms out of the room and it is hard to have any conversations with him. The last time I saw him, he gave me the results of some labs and dismissed me saying "There is nothing surgical I can do for you." I explained to my ortho that I wasn't looking for surgical, but that I believed that my back could and should be better, that it shouldn't require for me to hold on to something after I take 8 steps or that I should be able to stand for 3 minutes in therapy and move the ball without my back giving out. He helped me to determine that we should try the neurodoc one more time (they share the office complex) since he has operated on me and knows my anatomy. Then he listed off the names of several of his colleagues and asked me if I had ever seen them. I told him that I hadn't, so he responded by telling me that after I see the other guy that if I don't get a response that I am comfortable with to call him and he will get me an appointment with somebody else.

That seems like a good plan to me--and then, he actually got me a February 1 appointment with the neurodoc--next week. It is unheard of to get in so quickly. I am guessing that he is going to give this guy a head's up that I am in need, so I am going to pray that there is a new plan. I am thinking maybe physical therapy on land to build my strength. The PT thought injections of some kind might help--I'm a bit nervous about that idea, but relief and possibly getting rid of my walker might be the result, so I'll even go there if need be.

We shall see.
It has been a long day and a long week.
I am going to work tomorrow--my husband is going to stay home. I don't know if it will be all day or half a day, because Megan needs me to be there for her. I will figure out the details.
I also have ot have another round with the hospital and the insurance company about Megan's injections. She will need to take them for several more days when she gets to come home. These things cost "thousands and thousands" of dollars apiece. The issue isn't even if the insurance company will let us get them at a rate we can manage--I set that up today. The issue now is that the insurance company wants us to order them at their specialty medication site which means they have to mail the meds--and the hospital won't call inthe prescription ahead of time so we can have them in hand when Megan gets to come home. I cannot make sense out of this--and apparently if we have to get them from a local pharmacy, they will be applied to our deductible and will cost us at least $500 apiece. We don't have that kind of money. I have to force the hospital to do this right. Megan has to have this medication and they need to make it accessible to us. If they need this battle, they will have it and this prescription needs to be called in tomorrow so it will be here by Friday or Saturday (if her INR is up high enough so she can come home by then.)

I have a lot of important work in both of my important jobs. I will be hard at it tomorrow!! We shall see!

Gentle hugs,

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    It was your bodies way of telling you to slow down! You have been going like a crazy lady for weeks with all that's been handed to you. I agree with your daughter...sleeping in her room where it is quiet is totally acceptable behavior!

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ENUFF81020 1/27/2011 3:20PM

    I need to add that Megan thought me sleeping was a perfectly acceptable behavior. It just seemed inappropriate for me to do so. On another note, I got a pretty good night's sleep last night and am feeling quite a bit better today. My cold is breaking up and moving out of my head--that bit of coughing last night seemed to have that purpose. YAY!!

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BLESSED2BEME 1/27/2011 11:30AM

    I second what DAWNWATERWOMAN said! If you don't take care of you first, you won't be there for your DD or the students! I'm praying for you.

Gentle hugs!


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EMRANA 1/27/2011 9:37AM

  Oh my goodness, your life never slows down! I'm actually glad you had that nap in the hospital!

Sending you lots of emoticon

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JHADZHIA 1/27/2011 9:29AM

    I am glad Megan is holding up.
It sounds as though you need to be taking better care of yourself...
The fact you caught a cold means you were run down, and quite frankly, you shouldn't be close to Megan while you are sick. The last thing she needs is to catch a cold.. They always tell people to stay away from the hospital when they have a virus. In weakened people, it can raise havoc.
Please get some proper rest and take care of yourself before you get really sick..Surely your large family has enough members that someone can be keeping vigil with Megan at all hours..
{{{gentle hugs}}}

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    WOMAN... I should spank you... feeling ashamed for falling asleep?!?! You are busier than most people I know. OF COURSE you fell asleep when you had some quiet time. Take care of YOU! You need to get rid of that cold before it really gets you down. Love ya, Dawn emoticon

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Tuesday, 1/25 Update from the Hospital--and my Webpage!!

Tuesday, January 25, 2011

Hi there,

Standing (or sitting) at someone's bedside is a different kind of work than I am used to--I have so often been the patient. However, what I know from my experience being a patient has helped me to help my daughter to get better information and care. She is coming along, but may be here up to 4 more days. She had a bloody nose this morning that precipitated them removing the oxygen. With all of the blood thinners, anything that might cause a bit of bleeding isn't a great idea. Her oxygen levels have been okay, so yay. She gave herself the shot this morning, so she is ready to do her own when she gets home. She started on Coumadin last night and that is now the big thing. She has to have a high enough level to leave the hospital. That is what we will wait for. They have done a lot of lab work and they are trying to eke out what the cause of this embolism is. They check young people for genetic markers and that is important to our other 7 kids.

As for me, I got my website officially published yesterday and today I completed the other two pages from the drafts that I had them in. I still need to add photos, but until I am back at work and can take some, it is just the templates. The information is good and is the result of a lot of work over the weekend in particular and my own frustration in learning the "how to" stuff. Here is the URL, if you would like to take a look:
This is the main or "about page." On the right is a menu and you can see other pages and the "posts" that are less permanent, more newsy items. They switched from the former format I understood and had a great page to this word press format. I had to learn about it and how to get my information on there, with a lot of weird glitches with the technology in my classroom.

Anyway, it is finally at least up in published format. I went for help on this in November, so it is an accomplishment for me. emoticon

That's about it for now--I am going to leave the hospital to go to physical therapy for a short break. I'll get some other exercise in besides walking then. I haven't been to the pool since Sunday, but these hallways make a kind of walking track away from the cold.

Gentle hugs,

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LADYLAUGHS247 1/26/2011 1:58PM

  Glad to hear Meg is doing better. I will keep you all in my prayers! Take care. Gentle hugs. emoticon

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WALKZWDOGZ 1/26/2011 1:48PM

    Please know we're praying for you & your daughter! How scary.
Congratulations on the excellent job on that webpage!

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JHADZHIA 1/25/2011 9:26PM

    Wishing your daughter a safe and speedy recovery.. This was so very scary to read, I can't imagine what it must be doing to you :((
Well done with the web page!! Very professional looking!!
My thoughts are with you...
{{{gentle hugs}}}

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TLCFME 1/25/2011 8:08PM

    You, Your daughter, and yours are in my prayers. Congrats on your site. We love you!!!!! Have you been able to visit my blog sillies? I will try to think of an elephant joke just for you. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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    Glad that you got your website rolling. I am sure that all the glitches will work themselves out. Will continue to keep your daughter, your family & yourself in my prayers. Love to you, Dawn emoticon

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Monday, 1/24 Family from birthdays to the hospital

Monday, January 24, 2011

Hi all,

Right now I am sitting at the hospital in my daughter's room. Megan was at the movie with a friend when she called and said she was coming home to get our insurance cards. She had a severe pain in her back and it was starting to hurt up to her shoulder. She and her friend went to the ER around 8 and at 11 PM, she called us to tell us that they were transporting her to the main hospital. I was already in "bed" and doing my late night posting on SP--I got dressed quickly and my husband and I got to the hospital before the ambulance had even left with her. It turns out that she has a blood clot in her lung. I know little about this (yet) but it is pretty serious. She has been poked and prodded. They are giving her injections that according to the nurse cost "thousands and thousands" of dollars--they are some kind of blood thinners and she will be on them and medicine for some time to come. Right now they have her on oxygen and a heart monitor and are trying to get to the bottom of everything.

Miles had a nice birthday on Saturday. Several of the kids ended up going out, so we didn't have birthday cake until Sunday (before the hospital issue came up.) I had a small piece before I looked up the Weight Watchers points on a 3" square piece of iced cake--9, holy cow. Oh well, I don't eat such stuff often--and I didn't even eat the entire piece, so it was okay.

I am going to attend to my daughter now--even at 22, she is still my baby.

Gentle hugs,

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1COUNTRY_GAL 1/31/2011 12:34AM

    Oh how scary Sylvia,just read this.I will say prayers for her,our baby girl daughter is 19,isn't this rare for her age?? I am happy she had the maturity to get herself to the hospital.Prayers for all. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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DAWNWATERWOMAN 1/25/2011 12:02AM

    Oh Sylvia, I am so sorry to read this... please know that I will keep your daughter (and you of course) in my prayers. Love you, Dawn emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MORTICIAADDAMS 1/24/2011 11:46PM

    Oh my, Sylvia!! I am so sorry about your daughter and am praying for her!!

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LOULOUBELLE2 1/24/2011 11:06PM

    Sending prayers to cover you and your daughter with God's love and mercy.

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HALO6149 1/24/2011 8:55PM

    Sorry to hear about your daughter. Holding her and your family in prayer tonite. Gentle hugs to all of you. emoticon

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    So sorry to hear about your daughter. Good that she had the wisdom to get herself to the hospital! Will be praying.

Glad you were able to enjoy the birthday celebration prior!

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BLESSED2BEME 1/24/2011 2:39PM

    emoticon I'm sending prayers your way. So glad you can be there for her! Blessings to you and your family.

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CUB99TIP 1/24/2011 1:17PM

What a nasty "surprise" when you're nicely snuggled in bed!! Your poor daughter must have been scared out of her skin. Thank goodness she had the good sense to go straight to the ER!
Hope she's not in the hospital too long. You'd probably like her to be home where you can "baby"' her as she deserves.
My thoughts are with your whole family.
gentle hugs right back at ya',

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IMNENA23 1/24/2011 1:13PM

    My heart goes out for you! Take good care of yourself so you can care for her! Keep us posted!


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