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One Step Forward, Two Steps Back (Suggestions Please)

Tuesday, April 27, 2010

In the past month and a half I've been dealing with a multitude of events:

*I've been reappling to college (transferring credits in).
*I've been going to CT to attend my youngest sister-in-law's bridal shower, and other associated events.
*I've been talking two pregnant friends through some hormonal changes.
*I've been having my sleeping pattern miserably disrupted by hubby and the rain again
*I've been having arguments with hubby about the necessity of cleaning when both of us have allergies to dust and mold, and neither of us (especially him) likes cleaning
*I've been doing other things besides.

I've been, I've been, I've been. In my multitude of I've been, here's what I haven't been doing:

*I haven't been cooking at home more than once in a while, relying on take outs a lot (my lean mean steak burger vs diner burger -hey, I'm anemic, I crave beef when low on iron - is no contest)
*I haven't been eating on a regular, scheduled basis, or even when I feel hungry
*I haven't gone outside except when absolutely necessary (a lot of the above is easily done over the phone or online), thus minimizing movement
*I haven't been exercising in the house due to clutter and dust
*I haven't been socializing other than above events and yet
*I haven't been having my needed alone time
*I haven't been going out to find good cross-traines (even though I have nice shape-up sneakers, which are awesome for walking, I still need something for running/biking; I also don't know what to look for in those)
* I haven't been going out to find some good outdoor workout clothes (again, I don't know what to look for, I've got boobs and hips and get discouraged at the prices and smallness of the items at the athletic stores).
*I haven't been feeling good about myself

I know it's time to start changing these lists, and yet the more I've put it off, the more overwhelmed I feel. I am now at over 200 lbs, more than the 198 when I first started on here.

I know I need a training buddy, and I'm starting to realize that hubby might not work for that (his schedule is too erratic, so he ends up exercising when I'm asleep most times). I also need some semblance of a routine, but don't know how to go about achieving it.

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ELLISERA 5/1/2010 4:41AM

    Thanks to everyone for your support and suggestions! It helped a lot in getting motivated again! emoticon

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DARKTHOR 4/28/2010 5:05PM

    Make a list of goals for the week. A week is a small period of time and make them reasonable but positive steps. Write a blog with your goals and post them prominently in your house. Get invested in completing these goals. Then you will hopefully have something to build off of and can go from there.

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WILDLOTUS16 4/27/2010 11:12PM

    hey!! I am glad u vented it's always good!!

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TEDYBEAR2838 4/27/2010 9:45PM

    I agree. Start making lists of things that you DID DO.

Start small, maybe 15 min walk 3 times a week.

Write a blog about things you are thankful for, instead of looking at the negative.

I'm sure there are wonderful, positive things in your life. Concentrate on them and improve on them.

Here's to you my friend. emoticon

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KAUAI-CAROLANN 4/27/2010 9:38PM

    I saw your note of needing support and thought I'd drop by. Strange, just read the SP Article "One Step Back, Two Steps Forward" also referred to in "The Spark"
Here's the link:


One thing which so many people don't realize is that it is a lifestyle change...not simply changing eating habits and exercise, it's about everything. My best advise is to press that giant reset button, regroup a little and set a few goals which will help you start your journey.

Even simple things planning one or two meals for the week, straightening up one room, committing to 15 minutes outside to do anything...start slow, take those baby steps.

You are still ahead of where you started from because look! You reached out to your SP family!

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TRAVELNISTA 4/27/2010 9:21PM

    Great advice from both Sparkers. Just take it one Baby Step at a time. Slow and steady wins the race. emoticon emoticon

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TIBURONA 4/27/2010 7:56PM

    Okay, this sounds really familiar. So a little humble advice:

I. Clear yourself a little space and keep it clear. Get a air purifier and put it your clear space so you can get some exercise and then relax. Take cleaning a little at a time...budget yourself an hour a day (or less) and spend it "declutterfying" & concentrate on trashing what you can (OK, I still have notes from high school classes in the 80s LOL). You will be pleasantly surprised and satisfied about how much you can get done.

II. Concentrate on your own needs. Relationships should be reciprocal. I know it's hard, but make sure you get something other than feeling you helped someone else when you are doing all that you need to do. It's also OK to say "NO" or "NOT NOW" Especially if you don't want to burn yourself out. In the same vain, you will probably never get your DH to like cleaning, so don't waste your energy brooding about it, maybe he will even pitch-in when you lead by example.

III. Learn to say "so what" if you need not to home cook your meals. You can still make healthful choices at most places with a menu or in the grocery prepared food section.

IV. Forgive yourself, and get on with it!

I did and do.


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BELGIUMTULIPS 4/27/2010 6:43PM

    I read in the Spark Book today about one step back and two steps forward....this is a most profound way to look at it. Sometimes I lives get so garbled with occurances that it tend to forget what is important. I find that is the time I need to regroup and figure it all out. It may also mean that perhaps we have to downsize a bit the things that are important just temporarily. It could be as little as using Lean Cuisine instead of cooking or parking further away in the parking lots to get extra exercise. As long as we are taking those baby steps forward we are still winning the battle. As I told my husband today....he is my trainer in the corner and his job is to make sure that my portions I eat are good and that I get my exercise....motivation. For today or whenever you need it I am your trainer who will wipe your face and tell you that you can do it. Jeannette

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Needing Motivation

Wednesday, March 03, 2010

(Also posted on one of my team forums)

So I joined SP on Tuesday Feb 23, at 5'8" and 196 lbs, (I had already gone down from 198 lbs two days beforehand), I got down to 190 lbs by Sunday the 31st, and have been stagnating at that weight since. SP advised me to up my fitness goals around Friday, because I had already exceeded and doubled my calories burned per week goal by then. With the exception of last Thursday (which for now is set as an off day for cardio), I've been doing at least 30 min of cardio/day from walking, playing DDR, general dancing in the house, to heavy cleaning (yes, that apparently counts).

I've also been taking measurements since Thursday, and those have been steadily going down, even though my weight hasn't. I should note that I have been keeping within my calorie/carb/protein/fat requirements. I have been having a problem meeting my potassium requirements though.

I've been waking up more and more tired and sore every day though, and later in the day. I don't know if this is because of the switch in my routine, or because DH has had a recent shift in schedule (more free time) and has been insisting on playing WoW up until the wee hours of the morning, thus keeping me up too.

I'm keeping strength training to 3 days a week (wed, friday, sunday). I'm supposed to do both strength training and cardio for today (woke up at 6 PM, exhausted), and am having a very hard time finding the motivation to do so. I'm still tired, feeling a bit hazy (I think my dust allergies have been acting up a bit too), and just overall not in a good mood.

Thursday's Measurements
Weight: 191
Waist: 33
Hips (measured around the butt area): 46
Neck: 14
Thigh: 29
Calf: 18.5
Upper Arm: 14
Waist to Hip Ratio: 0.72

Today's Measurements
Weight: 190
Waist: 32.25
Hips (measured around the butt area): 45.25
Neck: 13.75
Thigh: 27.5
Calf: 17.5
Upper Arm: 13
Waist to Hip Ratio: 0.71

How do I keep my energy levels up?

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RUSTYSHAW1 3/23/2010 10:35AM

    From reading your wonderful bio on your lovely spark page, it sounds like you are already a fairly active, engaged person who is concerned about her weight. Further reading, it sounds like you are increasing your physical activities (these would certainly cause weight loss for me) and consequently would like to see more results in the weight loss/size change department. I do not see if you are drinking the recommended amount of water or getting an adequate amount of sleep. I truly believe being properly hydrated and rested are so important. Lastly, RARADEV1 says it very well, "And who cares about the number on the scale if your measurements are going down! That's awesome!
Remember one small step at a time. This is not about an overnight fix but a permanent life style change. Best Wishes, Rusty
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JVDURAN 3/3/2010 8:30PM

    you gotta remember too if you're adding some muscle that weighs more than fat. so while the scale may not be budging it sounds like you're still going in the right direction.

keep it up! emoticon

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RARADEV1 3/3/2010 8:26PM

    Well, I think getting your husband to let you get some more sleep will help with the energy :)

And who cares about the number on the scale if your measurement are going down! That's awesome!

It sounds like you are doing great - keep it up!

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I Feel Bad For Vegetarians (and not due to the usual reasons...)

Tuesday, March 02, 2010

Today (March 1, 2010) ended up being a completely vegetarian day, not on purpose, but due to not managing to get to my butcher's before they closed. Don't get me wrong, I've done vegetarian days before, but I've never actually tracked my nutrition for them.

By the end of the day I was wondering how vegetarians manage to get a decent balance of nutrition and not feel as if their stomachs are exploding emoticon

This was my dinner:

Steamed Trader Joe's Cucumber Wontons (100 cal) on top of 4 slices of cucumber as an appetizer.

Eggplant (1cup) sauteed in coconut milk (1/4 cup mixed with black pepper, ground ginger, sweet paprika and oregano), steamed okra (0.5 cup) and potatoes (1 medium idaho potato), and red kidney beans made with onions and salsa.

Nutrition Breakdown for Appetizer and Dinner
Total Calories: 583
Total Carbs: 104 g
Total Fat: 11 g (9 from the coconut milk)
Total Protein: 27 g (14 from the beans)
Dietary Fiber: 10.2 g

My entire day has been like this, and I barely made my minimums for calories, carbs, fat and protein! I am stuffed!

Vegetarians, how do you do it?

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RUSTYSHAW1 3/10/2010 2:02PM

    My daughter is a vegetarian and she has been educating us on wonderful meal preparation. We celebrated last Thanksgiving with her and her stepfather and her came up with a fantastic meal with a combination of a meat dish and protein vegetarian dishes to die for. We all were stuffed. I think it is a educational journey. Get this, she became a vegetarian in her teens, then went 'vegan' in her early 20's and finally came back to being a vegetarian (thank goodness). She loved it and even more loves teaching us meat eating people to enjoy her way of life.

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ELLISERA 3/2/2010 3:00AM

    I usually find that lean red meat and dairy take care of my protein requirements, without being high in cholesterol. Add some nuts into the mix, and protein AND fat (I was apparently not getting ENOUGH of that when I first started tracking food) are taken care of completely. Grains and veggies for fiber, and you're good to go.

I just don't get how you can get the protein and fat as a vegetarian without the "fake meat" products that are also atrociously high in sodium!

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JMATACZ 3/2/2010 2:08AM

    Yum your food choices look delicious! I always find it difficult to meet my protein amounts and I'm not a vegetarian, crazy huh!

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I Hurt All Over!

Monday, March 01, 2010

Finished a week of exercising in strength training yesterday, and I've set my cardio for every day except Thursdays. Today I woke up with incredibly sore muscles.

I know I didn't hurt myself, but I am wondering if my trending potassium deficiency (according to the nutrition log) has something to do with it. I've worked out more than this in the past after bouts of not working out, without hurting like this. Hmmmm.... Well at least I have today and tomorrow as off days for strength training...

Still determined to do my cardio though!


Dance Dance Revolution Cardio Fun

Sunday, February 28, 2010

In the past few days the weather has been snowy and cold in New York, and I haven't really wanted to go outside more than necessary. Since I've been relying mostly on walking and housecleaning for cardio, and since neither was about to get done today I was wondering how I would complete my goal for the day. Dance Dance Revolution to the rescue!

I used to love playing DDR back in high school, and for a few years after, and have had it for PC (with an old school mat that attached to a SCSI port - remember those?), Playstation 2, and Xbox 360, complete with mats. Since getting married I haven't played much, due to the fact that my husband doesn't really like playing the game anywhere near as much as I do, and part of the fun of DDR is playing it with friends or family.

Today, I dusted off the Xbox 360 Mat, popped the disc in, switched the setting to Workout mode (which tracks calories burned and either steps/swimming/or jogging equivalents) and proceeded to have a lot more fun than I remembered just playing some old favorites.

Oh yeah, and I surpassed my calories burned goal for the day!


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