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So What Does "Fit" Look Like?

Wednesday, November 19, 2014

Today someone said something pretty insensitive. To my husband.

Some quick fact about my husband:
He's around 5'11"
He's 43 like me
Around 240, but working on losing weight
He was an ameateur hockey goaltender for around 10 years (goalies are a little nuts)
He bikes to work. Every day. In Michigan. Yes, even in winter. Yes, even in snow.

He also runs and bikes for recreation. He's out biking in the snow right now (again, kinda nuts). He has the tires, bikes and clothes to make this safe and for him, it's time to clear his head and enjoy the journey.

So today, someone said to him:
"With all the biking you do I'm surprised you're not skinnier."

Let's all agree this person is an insensitive jerk. But he's not the only one. Hubby's also heard:

Wow, you don't look like an athlete (when he was playing 2 hockey games a week).
I be you were the chubby kid picked last in school, right?

And he's not alone. Any other ladies ever been asked when the baby is due? I really like that one when you are trying and CAN'T get pregnant!

So, what does "Fit" look like?

Is it flat/six pack abs, tight buns, round lifted boobs and Michelle Obama guns?

My husband and are two people who can grab our mountain bikes and hit the trails for 2-3 hours every day when on vacation. We've run over five 5Ks this year. We eat pretty well, probably too much, but we're working on it.

In my life, fit looks like chubby bellies, sagging breasts (I'm 43 and top heavy--gravity is not my friend) and big butts (but pretty good butts--see biking and running!). It also looks like two people who really love and support one another no matter what we look like and still challenge one another and hold us accountable to our commitments.

I would love--really love--for us both to achieve our weight loss goals. But for US. Not for some other idiot's mental vision of "Fit"

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HWNHMMBRD 11/23/2014 7:47PM

    Thank you for this blog. It was very emoticon and got me to look at where I am at. I will never be a fitness model, when I get a six-pack, you won't see it through my soft sided cooler, but I can do so much more that I could a year ago. emoticon

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NIMIRRA137 11/20/2014 8:00AM

    People can be such insensitive jerks sometimes! I know plenty of people that are thinner than me that are less "fit" than I am. I also know plenty of people that are heavier than me that are MORE fit than I am. It's terrible that thin=fitness. That's not true at all.

Also, your husband is insane to ride his bike to work in the snowy winter!

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JAMBABY0 11/19/2014 10:31PM

    absolutely!!! Each person needs to be fit in there own eyes, in there own way!

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Change of Seasons

Friday, October 31, 2014

I live in Michigan. For me, one of the signs of the changing season is swapping out my wardrobe. I don't have enough closet and dresser space for everything to be out all the time--and no one here needs a wool sweater in July or a tank-top in January.

So today, I dug into the two oversized Rubbermaid containers that contain my off-season clothes and made the switch. Because I pretty much touch all of my clothes, this is also a good time for me to evaluate what I have, what fits, are things worn out/stained or do I just not want them anymore and cull out the wardrobe. Often things end up getting donated or recycled.

Some things never leave the bins--I look at them, know they are too small and keep them hoping "maybe next season/year."

I decided today this is the last time that will happen. It is just not healthy mentally to hold onto some of these things. My plan is to be able to wear these things the next time I have to do this swap. But if not, it's time to let them go to someone who can wear them and not keep torturing myself.

The only way to make this happen is to do the work--and I'm ready.

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YISKAMIRYAM 10/31/2014 2:58PM

    I do this as well and also hang onto things that do not fit. I have in the past weeded through a lot of this and got rid of the things that are several sizes too small. I now only have some clothes that are 1 size to small as well as a pair of jeans from the last time I was a size 14 and one skirt/shirt combo and a dress that are also a size 14. Right now I am a 16/18 with most of my size 16 clothes being a bit too snug yet to be comfortable. It is torture though...I am so ready to get rid of my size 18 clothes!

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ARNETTELEE 10/31/2014 2:52PM

  I don't know what it's like to switch my wardrobe. In Hawaii, we don't really do that.

Happy Halloweeen!

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Just the facts

Sunday, October 26, 2014

I have not been exercising as often as I should. That's a fact.
I have been eating more than I should and not tracking my food. Another fact.
My weight is the highest it has been in a year, maybe two. A fact. A very hard fact to accept.

Wanting it not enough. Reading websites and blogs and positive affirmations is not enough. I have to do the work--flip the mental switch from being a fat girl to being an active girl.

I think the most frustrating part of this is I KNOW WHAT I NEED TO DO. It is really not that hard and at the same time it is so very, very hard.

However, I refuse to wallow. I will not let myself go there. Instead I will get up, get dressed, walk the dog and then make a plan for exercise this week. And then a healthy eating plan.

And ask for help--a lot of it. Because I need it right now so very very much.

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NIMIRRA137 10/31/2014 2:22PM

    I feel like this blog could have been written by me! I'm exactly where you are.

Making a plan and sticking to it and having others around to support you and encourage you will get you down the right path.


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LAURIE9404 10/27/2014 3:40PM

    It's the hardest part getting the mind back in the game. We can wish and hope we'll flip the switch but it takes that something to do it. Sounds like you are ready for the change! You got this! emoticon

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INGBADEN 10/27/2014 1:13PM

    Can you meet at the gym tomorrow?

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SWEETNEEY 10/27/2014 10:43AM

    I reviewed my goals and strategy again yesterday because I've read the material and do the affirmations but I'm struggling. So I decided to break my eating strategy into 6 segments - like the number of meals you are supposed to have. The goal is to try to stick to the plan for breakfast, then mid morning snack then lunch then mid afternoon snack and then dinner than bedtime (go to bed stay in bed).

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KIMMYWIZZIE1 10/26/2014 11:01AM

    Every day you have to make the decision.Yes, that's tough. You can do it!

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NEPTUNE1939 10/26/2014 9:43AM

    Some thoughts on incentive.
Think kindly about your heart. This fabulous muscle needs exercise to keep you alive. So be kind to it. Sugary carbs are very jealous of your heart and seeks to destroy it. What do you love most? Life or death. emoticon

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So long summer; Happy New Year

Sunday, August 31, 2014

Most of my life has been driven by an academic calendar. My dad was a teacher, I was in school K-12 then 4 years of college, my husband has always worked for a University and I now do too. This has always--for me--been the reset and renew time of year much more so than January 1.

Today, I feel driven to restart. To do some deep house cleaning and deep bad habit cleaning. I've bought some new back to program clothes (yay sale on Old Navy's website) and am ready for a new term with new classes. Maybe some new teachers too--or at least some different classes. And like any student who wants to get A's it's time to do the work. To log my food, do the exercise and plan my meals.

My plan is simple--so simple I shouldn't have to write it down--but I will because I really NEED to do that:

1. Keep a food journal. Here. Everyday no matter what I eat.
2. Move. Make appointments to exercise and do the work. Make a 'plan B' for bad weather days.
3. More fruits and veggies; less white bread and alcohol.
4. Ask for help. When I had problems as a student I looked to others to help me 'get it'. Time to do the same here.

That's it--four things. If I do the work and work the plan, this is going to be a GREAT year.

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INGBADEN 9/17/2014 7:18AM

    Make exercise dates with me. emoticon I know it is football season so our saturday plan might not always work but come on the home season sucks this year anyway.

I love your plan. I gotta cut the alcohol down too, harder when work has gone to hell but you know.


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JUMPINJULIE 9/7/2014 10:52PM

    Sounds like a great plan you can do it.

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What's up with me

Thursday, April 03, 2014

So last Friday I had my gallbladder removed to treat biliary dyskinesia. Basically that means my gallbladder wasn't doing it's job and instead just spasmed trying to empty, causing me a lot of pain and nausea. I did not have gallstones, which is part of why it took so long for my doctors to finally give me a diagnosis.

Surgery was planned and laparoscopic, so recovery has been pretty quick. I was off prescription pain meds in two days and have been pretty much taking it easy all week at home. I do get tired easily, but with five incisions that look like I was in a knife fight I think that's to be expected.

I've been using this time to really accurately track my food on SparkPeople and paying a lot more attention to the fat in my diet, which can be harder for me to digest until my body adjusts to not having a gallbladder. I've been doing a really good job of sticking to the lower end of my calorie range and portion control, and I'm really pleased with that.

I also made three recipes from the SparkPeople Cookbook this week and plan to make another tomorrow:

Paprika Chicken--it was OK. My husband seemed to like it more than me, but I would try it again.
Baked Lemon Rice - really good and really easy. I would make this again and could see a lot of modifications like different spices.
Slow Cooker Rosemary Chicken - very good. I let it go too long, and it was still good. I didn't shred it like the recipe suggested, but think it would be good like that as sandwiches too. This will be repeated.

Tomorrow is Slow Cooker Vegetable Curry, which I have made before. I'm looking forward to that and looking forward to a healthier future.

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NIMIRRA137 4/4/2014 9:15AM

    Glad to hear your recovery is going well!

Adjusting to not having a gallbladder and eating less fattening foods does take time. I know people who have gone through that as well. It does make you pay more attention to what you put into your body.

Keep up the good work and i hope your recovery continues to go well!

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AHTRAP 4/4/2014 12:43AM

    Glad to hear the recovery has been smooth.

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PENNYPEARLS 4/3/2014 7:28PM

    I had my gall bladder removed last year. I can totally sympathize. Hope you have a speedy recovery. emoticon

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JUMPINJULIE 4/3/2014 6:34PM

    I'm glad your recovery is going well all the dishes sound yummy to me.

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