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That awkward moment when....

Thursday, May 30, 2013

Hi everyone!!!! It's been a long time since I last posted up a blog. Apologies for the disappearance but I am in school and that's been taking up lots of my time. A quick weight loss update, I've finally left the 200s and I'm now in the 190s, 199.4 to be exact. I'm completely pumped and this was the little boost of confidence that I needed after starting today off with the most awkward of subway train rides.

After bidding farewell to my combs, I was happily making my way to my hair appointment to have starter locs put in (I decided to get dreadlocs). I'm on the train uber excited about the upcoming locing process when I see a nice looking black girl with a super cute hair style standing on the Nostrand Ave platform. I'm busy admiring her hair when I notice that she turns to talk to her boyfriend. I look over at said boyfriend and it's none other than the guy I dated last year.

To say that the wind was taken out of me would be an understatement. It felt like God had sucker punched me in the gut. Instead of playing it cool, I mouth "oh snap" put my hand over my eyes and proceed to duck my head. I'm clumsily fumbling through my iphone hoping to open up and read one of the ebooks I had downloaded but unfortunately, none of my apps were working underground. Curse you Apple for making all apps beholden to internet service.

It wouldn't have been terrible if they had ended up at the far end of the train car but my "wonderful" luck had the ex and his new girlfriend standing right next to me. I'm literally sitting down and my ex is holding on to the handle of my seat rail all the while holding on to his new girlfriend and being all coupley. Now don't get me wrong, I'm neither jealous nor spiteful at him for finding someone else. I love love and I love couples in love. I just don't want to have see my ex being in love with someone else.

Folks, I have never prayed so hard in my life for a train ride to end quickly. I thought, hey just get up and change cars. But I was trying to dodge him and being 5'10 (70 inches, 177cm) with a giant afro really isn't conducive to making a discrete escape. Who am I kidding, I wanted to book it out of there like someone had made an announcement that there was free money in the next car. I kept hoping that their stop was coming up. Unfortunately for me, the three of us rode all the way to the same destination. A lovely 55 minutes of torture in which I steadfastly stared ahead and refused to look to the left of me all the while silently cursing my peripheral vision.

My ex was completely oblivious to the fact that I was 1. sitting right next to him and 2. being subjected to his new love. Thankfully, the train finally arrived at my location and I made a beeline to the opposite direction when I saw that they were headed out a similar exit. After having a round of 911 group texts with my friends, they were able to bring me back from the pit of despair that was slowly engulfing me. They reminded me that I had a lot to be appreciative of and that I've accomplished so much. I was 238lbs at one point and I've fought my way back down to 199.4lbs.

One thing that I'm super proud of is that I didn't fall back to old habits when dealing with stressful situations such as eating a pint of ben & jerry's ice cream or gorging on some cookies. I instead decided to take a nice long walk to clear my head and really absorb what it was that my friends had told me. After my walk, I felt approximately 45% better and by the end of the day after stepping on the scale and discovering that I had finally made it out of the 200s, my mood was completely lifted. Even though it was just this morning, I can honestly laugh about the situation right now. I've got a smile on my face and I've learned with this new healthy lifestyle, I'm using better coping methods and I'm truly proud of myself for having implemented them.

  
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EFFDOT 5/31/2013 4:37PM

    Thanks so much guys. I think the bright side of this is that he didn't even recognize me so that must mean that I'm beginning to look different. That's always a plus in my book.

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SWEETYOUNGTHING 5/31/2013 5:47AM

    Hold your beautiful head up high!! It's always awkward to run into an ex of any sort. Boyfriend, friend, co-worker, employer.................... just know that you are in a good, good place and that will shine through and perhaps leaving the 'ex' sorry you're no longer in their life/lives!!

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RAINBOWFALLS 5/31/2013 5:41AM

    Great job making the right decisions!

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SPARKLE1908 5/30/2013 10:55PM

    You handled it beautifully! Congrats on getting out of the 200s!


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MAMAJAHMAI 5/30/2013 10:45PM

    Let me tell you, you handled the situation with class. And congrats on the weight loss and healthy lifestyle. You are stronger than ever!! emoticon

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MLDRLD 5/30/2013 8:56PM

    Good for you for avoiding previous coping strategies! Good for you for the progress you have made. Keep up the good work!

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UMBILICAL 5/30/2013 8:43PM

  Hairy is correct

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Hello Spark friends

Wednesday, November 14, 2012

Hello everyone. I'm popping in to make a quick blog entry and to update everyone on what's been going on thus far. Med school is crazy still, but I feel like I'm slowly getting the hang of it. I've managed to lose 11lbs so far and I'm super proud of myself. I haven't even been working out, just eating right and the 11lbs have come off. I'm also trying a new meal thing where I replace 2 meals or a single meal and a snack with a protein shake. It seems to be working well. I've been very strict about not eating past 7. I've also introduced gummy vitamins into my regimen.

They're 15 calories for 2 gummies but I'm ok with the extra bit of calories since I've now been taking my vitamins regularly. What else....oh I'm especially proud of myself because I have been successfully beating my trigger foods, namely fried chicken; ice cream; chocolate and pizza. I went out with some friends on Saturday night and we went to get Vietnamese food. I enjoyed my meal grilled chicken with egg over onion rice and a nice clear broth. The real test came when my amigas decided that they wanted to get frozen yogurt at Pinkberry. I went with them but got nothing.

It's a real victory because if anyone knows me, they know that I'm an ice cream fanatic. The next temptation came yesterday when my mom informed me that she had bought some chicken from the Chinese takeout place. I seriously love their chicken but I know that I can't eat just one, so instead of even taking a bite, I gave my two chicken wings away to my cousin and brother. I felt super awesome since I didn't feel as though I was a slave to my cravings. Ok I think that's about it. I shall now return to the abyss of medical school studies. Hope everyone is having and has great days.

  
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STRIVING4HEALTH 11/17/2012 3:50PM

    Sounds like you are doing awesome!! Way to go girl!!

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2BEABETTERME 11/15/2012 11:15AM

    Good to hear from you! Way to deal with life and med school and still lose weight! Keep up the great work!
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RAINBOWFALLS 11/15/2012 10:47AM

    Great job making progress and awesome decisions!

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SPARKLE1908 11/14/2012 7:17PM

    Congratulations on your success so far!!! Keep up the good work! emoticon emoticon

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CHYNNA81 11/14/2012 7:02PM

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Thanks for keeping us posted. Keep your eye on the prize.

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CRAFTINWIFE 11/14/2012 6:55PM

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JLPEASE 11/14/2012 4:51PM

    Thanks for sharing and congrats on exercising your willpower "muscle". Good for you!!
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JAYMELYNN5 11/14/2012 4:51PM

    good job...I LOVE that feeling of being proud of myself!! YAY for you girl!!

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Medical school

Wednesday, August 22, 2012

Hello everyone. I can't believe that it's been nearly a year since I last posted a weight loss blog. Let me tell y'all it's been a crazy time. I started medical school not too long ago so that's the reason behind my prolonged absence from spark people. Good news/bad news, I've managed to maintain my weight loss but the bad news is that I'm still at 205. I'm hoping that now that I've got the initial rhythm of medical school behind me, I can become best friends with my school's fabulous gym. I've got nothing further to report. Just hope that you're all doing well. Oh by the by thanks so much for the awesome birthday wishes I got back in April. 28 has been an ok age for me thus far but I'm hoping that 29 will seriously kick butt. Here's to all of us finally reaching our weight loss goals.

  
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MSMOSTIMPROVED 8/23/2012 3:04PM

    Med School is a dooooozey!!!! Focus Pocus and get it done.

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LILSHINE 8/23/2012 11:33AM

    Congrats on medical school, wish you much success in that area. Also congrats on maintaining your weight loss while you transitioned into school, that's truly an accomplishment as well. Best to you on getting back at it

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PHD140 8/23/2012 9:17AM

    Good to hear from you--- sounds like you're doing awesome! Good luck on the next stage of your journey, I have no doubt that you're about to kick some serious butt!

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RAINBOWFALLS 8/23/2012 8:39AM

    Great job holding and not gaining. Wow - medical school what an undertaking - Good Luck

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GONABFIT 8/22/2012 9:52PM

    Ah, good ole Med school... Hope it goes well for you and you are able to find a way to maintain your fitness!! :-)

Residency is keeping me exhausted most days ;)

Best of luck to you!

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400 calories

Monday, October 31, 2011



When you visualize food like this, it kinda makes you rethink eating that candy bar.

  
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RAINBOWFALLS 11/1/2011 7:49PM

    That does make you think!

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DETERMINED_SOUL 10/31/2011 7:07PM

    That is an awesome visualization! I will definitely have to remember this one.

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STRIVING4HEALTH 10/31/2011 5:37PM

    Amen!!

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ADZY86 10/31/2011 11:14AM

    Wow! I'm definitely stealing this! LOL

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YELLOWDAHLIA 10/31/2011 11:08AM

    That is exactly how I think about food! Lucky for me I love veggies!

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ROJAKHAN 10/31/2011 11:03AM

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BRITT831 10/31/2011 10:59AM

    Frame it and hang it on the fridge! Im so the visual person - LOVE IT!!!! Thanx for sharing :o)

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Plus 24lbs and then some

Saturday, October 22, 2011

May 11, 2011; that was the very last time I updated my blog. A lot of things have happened since then but not in the good sort of way. So instead of boring you with a long drawn out story, I'll give you the cliff notes version of my weight loss roller coaster. In May, I was on a roll, I was down 24lbs and feeling great. Then disaster struck; I fell down a flight of steps, suffered a partial tear in my left miniscus and also reinjured my right knee (which is the knee that I had surgery on back in '09).

I was placed on bed rest and told by the doctor no sports or exercise. I tried, but could not stave off the eventual weight loss that comes with inactivity. In as much as I love my body because I can lose weight fairly quickly; I also dislike the fact that as fast as I can lose it, I can also gain it all right back. So we fast forward to late September, I'm given the all clear by the doctor to return to regular activity. The partial tear isn't so severe as to keep me from doing anything and my right knee is pretty much healed up.

I step back on the scales and I was now a whopping 219.4lbs!! Um that is not a good look and I'm scared because I've never been that heavy before in my entire life EVER. Well since that faithful day in late September I've been back at the gym. To prevent any injuries, I have given up on running on the treadmill. Alas I won't become that 5k runner. I've now started back on the elliptical and I'm also using the rowing machine.

I've incorporated a few dance classes namely African dance, hip hop and Zumba and I'm focusing more on strength and flexibility so I'm also taking Yoga, kettle bell and total body conditioning classes. Lastly, to help on my weight loss journey (which I feel at seems to be a never ending adventure) I've also begun visualizing myself thin. I know it sounds crazy but I've actually started imagining what I would look like trimmer and healthier and I've bought a pair of size 8 jeans to help keep me motivated.

Oh and before I forget, I've decided to weigh myself monthly as opposed to weekly. When I restarted with my exercising I was at 219.4lbs, then I checked again during the second week of October and I was down 3lbs and was 216lbs. My next weigh in won't be until the end of November where I hope to have lost between 16-20lbs for the months of October and November combined. So there it is; my slightly disappointing but not completely depressing update. I hope I haven't let anyone down with news of my weight gain but I'm not going to dwell on it. I'm focused and really want to tackle this weight thing so I can finally enter into maintenance mode.

  
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RAINBOWFALLS 10/24/2011 8:12AM

    Life happens to us all. We shouldn't beat ourslves up, it doesn't do us any good. It sounds like you have a great plan. Just don't overdue it in the exercise area.

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ROJAKHAN 10/22/2011 10:56AM

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STRIVING4HEALTH 10/22/2011 9:38AM

    You can do it!!! I have a pair of size 6 jeans I can't wait to fit into! It is a good visualization to think of yourself as the person you want to be. I read something somewhere to not only think about your goal during the day, but fall asleep thinking about how you want to look and feel. Do the same thing when you wake up in the morning. It helps you to keep your head on straight and to keep away discouragement!
I KNOW you can do this.

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EFFDOT 10/22/2011 9:09AM

    Thanks Mandalore. I'm keeping a positive attitude. For some reason and I can't explain it, I really feel as though this time everything is going to work and I'm going to hit my goals.

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MANDALORE 10/22/2011 9:07AM

    keep up the fight!

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