Wednesday, March 05, 2014
Identify sabotaging thoughts - I'm going to bring up some of the most common sabotaging thoughts I read in blogs, because I share the same yet while I can try to boost others to see that their sabotaging thoughts are just that, I'm incapable of doing the same for myself...so I hope I'll gain some perspective here for myself.
"I'm doing everything right and I've *only* lost X pounds" - the bottom line is that we lose the weight. Would I like to lose 3 pounds a week and be at my goal weight in 6 months? Yes. Will I be able to stick to any plan that allows me to lose 3 pounds a week? No. I've lost 8 pounds since January 1. If I had pushed myself to lose the "average" 2 pounds a week, I'd be down twice that much. But, as history has proven to me time and time again, had I followed that path again, I would have given up within the first week and I'd now be even heavier than when I started. So be proud of any week that you don't gain! Whether you maintain, or only lose 0.1 pounds or lose 3 pounds...the end result is the same: YOU LOST WEIGHT and that's why you're here, right?
"I swore I'd be perfect but I keep messing up - what's wrong with me?" - that's easy: you're human. I can't stress enough how much better I'm doing this time around because I'm not following the usual "I'm going to do a,b,c,d,e all at once and be 100% perfect every single day" song and dance. I have no time limit to this journey, because it is for the rest of my life. I have no weight loss goals - my only goal is to get to goal. I don't care if I lose 2 pounds a week, 0.1 pounds or not at all. I just want to weigh less at the end of the month than I did at the beginning. So yeah, do what works for you, but if you expect yourself to be 100% perfect, you're not going to get very far. That isn't an excuse to not do anything, but it isn't an excuse to give up, either.
"I had a stressful day, so I ate horribly and didn't work out" - I've got nothing for this one. I'm the worst culprit of all. I try to at least eat within reason and now that I'm on this 10 min a day of exercise at a minimum thing for my personal goal, I'll maybe do some yoga or squats, abs, etc...maybe I won't hop on the treadmill like I should, or go all out.
Speaking of which, that is the point of this month's habit-forming goal. By doing a minimum of 10 minutes of exercise a day and NOT harassing myself for not doing more...I'm creating the habit of exercise. I believe that I'll naturally start to do more and the goal for April or May will be to increase the time spent. Slowly creating habits, that's my mantra this time around.
So about FlyLady - I signed up but had to quickly shut down the emails...I got like 10 emails in the 12 hours since I signed up! Today's task was to Shine my Sink - and I did! It looks beautiful :) That was Day 1. Day 2 is tomorrow, but I'll be at my parents' house so I'll have to save Day 2 for Saturday.
Hope everyone is having a good week!
Wednesday, March 05, 2014
Ok, well, I think we all know about the discouragement that we start to feel once the new diet isn't shiny and new anymore.
I think the most helpful recommendation Beck makes is: focus on what you can do today.
Otherwise, she basically says to remind yourself why you're doing this and to try to realize that you're not suffering 24/7. Anyway, I liked the idea of focusing on today. Every time we start to think about how many pounds we still have to lose, it is an opportunity to become overwhelmed. Every time we think about the fact that it may be years before we reach our goal, we become overwhelmed. Thinking about the fact that we may have to do this for the rest of our lives overwhelms us.
So focus on today. What can you do today to make yourself proud? Track your food, try to stay within range, do some exercise. If you only do your best on any given day, those days will add up and you'll see results!
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Speaking of discouraging. Work. What can I say? I'm ready to move on. I'm working on updating my resume. It isn't just the drama. I drive too far and I'm not practicing in the field that I was promised when I interviewed 2 years ago for this position. It is time to find something closer to home.
Paleo? Not discouraging. I'm feeling great. Any twinges of cravings I have I'm able to quell because I'm feeling the effects of Paleo and it feels GOOD.
I went to Goodwill yesterday to find a few tops to wear to Iowa. I don't mind Goodwill. Sometimes I can get great deals. Mostly, I'm not ready to spend a lot of money on clothes that I plan to not be able to wear anymore in a few months (think positively!). I was pleasantly surprised that everything I tried on fit me and actually looked pretty good. I got a burgundy v-neck argyle-type sweater with light brown and hot pink accents (the argyle portion, I guess). I also got a black and silver striped top for going out. Neither of those are necessarily super flattering on a fat little chick like me, lol, but I thought they looked good, so I'm happy with that. I'm usually very critical so I rarely will buy something that really doesn't look ok. I got a nice long-sleeved top that is all navy sweater in the front but the sleeves and black are a green silky (polyester, maybe?) material. That one is a tad snug at the armpits, but should fit a little better in a few weeks, I hope.
I also got some work pants. A few years ago I bought a pair of Old Navy grey trousers at Goodwill and I swear I have bought the same pair in different sizes probably about 4 times! I jokingly told myself to look for a new pair there and lo and behold, grey, Old Navy slacks - the same ones I've been wearing for almost 3 years! I went down a size from what I'm wearing now and they fit great.
Alright, well, this laptop is making me overheat and it is late so I'm going to bed. Good night!
Sunday, March 02, 2014
They bring pizza to work and everyone attacks it, washing it down with a big glass of cold Coke and taking care of that sweet tooth with a warm, chocolate chip cookie.
Sabotaging thought: it isn't fair that everyone else can eat what they want.
Sabotaging thought: I've been doing really well, it isn't fair that I can't reward myself with my favorite foods.
Sabotaging thought: I've been having such strong cravings, it isn't fair to have to feel so deprived.
Putting Fairness in Perspective:
* remind yourself why you decided to diet in the first place - nobody is forcing you to diet. You might not feel this way right at this moment, but not long ago you strongly felt that the advantages of dieting were worth the hard work.
* make a list of the advantages in your life - you can be who you want to be and you can choose to be a healthy, happy being
* dieting might not be fair, but we have two choices: we can feel sorry for ourselves, stop following our plan, never reach our goals and remain unhappy with ourselves. Or we can sympathize with ourselves but go ahead and do what we know we need to do.
The greatest unfairness would be to let this excuse prevent us from reaching a goal we so strongly want to achieve.
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Today's Beck goal really resonates with me and the fact that of late, I've found myself doing a good job of saying, "oh, well".
Everyone else is having pizza and warm cookies...oh, well.
It would be so much easier to just go through the drive-thru...oh, well.
I know I said I'd work out, but I'm just not feeling it...oh, well.
and so on!
1) was day 1 of C25K - warmed up at 2.5-3.0 mph for about 7 minutes, then run/walk for 20 minutes, then finished up the next 33 minutes at a 3.0 mph walk.
2) enjoyed my Sunday and am ready for Monday!
3) missed DH a lot, but we talked a bunch and sent each other a lot of lovely emails
4) had a spontaneous dance party with Shandi and Blue...the cats were less than impressed
5) stayed under range and did not eat 15 apples with 2 pounds of cheese :0)
Sunday, March 02, 2014
This photo is from one of my favorite nights. It was after my brother's wedding and we had all gone out a few nights later (the night before they left for Hawaii) to the Portland City Grill. We were there with family that had come out from Israel and we had a blast. We're very close and it was bittersweet. Well, it was about midnight by the time we headed home. My father was driving one car, SIL another, and DH the third. The highway was empty and at one point, SIL and Dad were neck-and-neck and for some reason...SIL made a stupid decision to speed up rather quickly. She got pulled over. This woman is leaving for her honeymoon and she gets pulled over 6 hours before her flight! We were laughing SO. HARD. when we all got back to the house. We popped a bottle of champagne at 1 am with all of the family. The laughter didn't end. It was like we had all taken some kind of laughter pill. It was that kind of laughter that makes you feel like you don't care who's watching, you just have to laugh and laugh. The photo was originally SIL and Dad, with my brother basically photo-bombing it. I love how candid the laughter is. That kind of fun with family just can't be topped.
This guy. Blue. DH bought him from a homeless man out of a box full of puppies. He is goofy and brilliant and naughty and just makes me so happy.
This girl. Shandi. We got her days after losing Blanco to an aneurism. She has been my baby for 9 years. I will miss her dreadfully when she is gone. She has cancer and we cherish each day with her.
Shandi and Blue together, before I diagnosed Shandi. This was their last long, off-leash walk together. We had such a great time. I have a lot of photos and some video. I didn't know it would be our last time. We may take another long walk like this when the weather gets nice again, we'll have to see how Shandi is doing. I'm thankful she isn't in any pain.
This photo just makes me LAUGH. Photobomb!
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