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Friday, November 25, 2011

Have you ever had a friend that has taken more then given, you have always been there and listen to but when it is your turn that person is never there. They make promises to you and then fail not once or twice but several times, you want to see the good in people, so easily you are lureed with apologies and promises but then leave you nothing but heartache. Very similar to the battered wife syndrom... ARGH! Well I believe this person has already checked out and so will I, it is very disappointing because i've seen this person go through many transformations good and bad and vice versa it saddens me that one can give up so easily and not want to give a friendship a go the way it is suppose to be not one sided. I know that it is important for my mental health not to fall into the traps of broken promises, i'm sad and angry at the same time. I still even through my frustrations are there have reached out and tried but I know now my anger and frustration is popping up so i think it would be best to move on. My heart still aches :(

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SNAPDRAGON1231 12/14/2011 9:52AM

  Sorry to hear that. There is a big difference between being there for someone who is trying to get better and through a situation, and someone who just loves the drama and has no intention of changing. Those people will always drag us down before we can lift them up. Now you have room for more constructive friendships!!!!

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DEBIBLUE72 12/13/2011 10:22AM

    i have lost a couple of friendships that i thought i would have for as long as i was alive. just couldn't give up. but then i realized it was like a death. the friendship had died. so i had to mourn it. at times i am still sad. so i remember the good, smile or laugh. but then i move on.

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EBPOOKIE 12/10/2011 1:29PM

    I've come to terms with this, i'm doing much better. I understand that this particular person has so much going on around them that they only has time for that; at this time in that person life. I'm just continuing to move on as that is what is best for my heart and for the state of being i'm at. I am confident in myself and have a good support team to draw on that i know is there so i have to go to them when i need support. While it is hard because of piece of me is there i can't let it stay and keep from moving forward! Thank you Aaack!

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AAAACK 12/10/2011 1:23PM

    It took me a long time to realize that some people just never learned how to be a good friend. Some people are very selfish or even just self absorbed. It doesn't lessen the pain, though, when you've let someone in, touch your heart, and share your mind-space, to then have them rip themselves away. It does hurt, and sucks. But know that there ARE people who appreciate you and love you, and so all the more reason to treasure them. You don't need to grieve long for someone who can't be bothered to stick around. Celebrate the ones who stick with you! I hope you are feeling better now!

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REXTINE1 12/1/2011 4:45PM

    I have dealt with several people who were users - who worked and cost me to death, but never provided anything in return except more requests. I would call them acquaintances, not friends, however. Dealing with them always becomes irritating, and eventually the relationship ends.

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EBPOOKIE 11/27/2011 12:37PM

    Thanks Bren, it has gotten easier now!!

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JITZUROE 11/27/2011 10:00AM

    Aww, so sorry doll! YES, I have had that happen, or, allowed that happen, or whatever, still hurts! And I found myself still over-extending myself to that person too often, as if I wanted approval from them. So sad.
For me, that friend would email or call and I was ALWAYS available before I got sick, and then once I did, she would almost pressure me to be at that same capacity, but I got sick!!! She just didn't 'want' to get how it limited me, and she took it as my letting her down. It made me sad sad sad inside, but I had to realize that SHE was in fact emotionally taking advantage of me, and perhaps I should walk away before I allowed myself to be hurt again. It was hard, but had to be done.
Sending you hugs!

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EBPOOKIE 11/26/2011 7:43PM

    Thanks I know it's getting easier.

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LIFEWALK 11/26/2011 5:01PM

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(the emotions are normal... it's the coping that's hard... deep breaths & choosing to release the person & problem, as many times as it takes... i'm so sorry, disappointments like this is hard... hang in Em :)

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November Meal Planned completed as is 100 days binge free :)

Thursday, November 03, 2011

emoticonNovember Meal Plan completed emoticon

I have a bunch of Taste of Home Cook Books: Healthy Cooking, Comfort Food Diet, Ultimate Ground Beef/Turkey and Slow Cooking/Cassoroles I did a full month calendars and abbreviated the book and page number for the recipes I'm feeling really good. I have success when i plan ahead plus my house hubby helps out when i meal plan. On Sundays I batch cook and he reheats. I have recipes like open face meatball sandwiches, Plum Chicken wraps using boston bibb lettuce and tacos using romaine lettuce as the tacos i will also use one regular corn tortilla and one made out of the lettuce. Taco salads, sloppy joes, Shrimp pitas, just alot of different things no boredom here this month. I just batched cooked two meals for tomorrow and Friday. Tomorrow spaghetti and meat sauce with salad and then for Friday Carribean Chicken and Broccoli (has pineapple chunks, bell peppers and onions) over brown rice 1/2 cup and cabbage salad with sesame lite dressing. then i'll make a Pulled pork chili over night friday for Saturday's dinner (i love my crockpot) I just love to cook because i am doing the things i have to do plus i eat less processed stuff.

I have made it through 100 days of binge free living and am still going strong!! I need to get back to exercise this week was a little off because we didn't have class on Saturday and Monday pm cuz of Halloween and today i had to pick up my husband at the VA he got a cortisone shot in his back. So i sued the extra time to cook :) So tomorrow back to the grind and this month is Ball workout and those are hard trying to keep your balance while ou workout is hard.

OKay time for bed! I've rattled enough!

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TRULYVISIBLE 12/29/2011 12:16PM

  Congratulations on being 100 plus days of binge free! I am a recovering binge eater myself. Great idea about using one taco with a tortilla and the other made with lettuce. I am going to try that the next time I get a craving for tacos.

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CATHYJR73 11/9/2011 10:09PM

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SEWINGMAMACDS 11/3/2011 4:20PM

    That is so great at planning a month's plans!

emoticon at completeing 100 days!

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REXTINE1 11/3/2011 2:13PM

    Congratulations on the full 100 days. I have never been able to plan very far ahead, I just sort of eat and plan things that I know will be fine for me. You are very disciplined. Good show.

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CRUISEPUPPY 11/3/2011 6:47AM

    Pookie - Congratulations on being 100 Day Binge Free!!! I'm so proud of you! And your meal plans sound WONDERFUL! Planning ahead is something I would really love to get in the habit of because flying by the seat of my pants often leads to calorie disaster! Do you plan out your calories a day in advance, or for the whole month when you are planning your month of meals? I'd love some hints on how you are doing it? Keep up the GOOD work!

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Frosty :) working on day 96 :)

Saturday, October 29, 2011

My Kick N2 Fitness Class had a Halloween Party this morning I dressed up as FROSTY total cost 12.00. :)

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EBPOOKIE 10/29/2011 11:18PM

    Thanks I had fun putting it together woohoo!!! the hardest find was the nose i needed something to look like a carrot, i ended up with pinocchio nose and painted orange worked! :) THanks everyone!!

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H-DOG-8 10/29/2011 7:51PM

    I see what you mean now! That's a great idea! But since I'm a little bit lazy when it comes to running errands, I might go with what I've got at home...hiking gear! Maybe be a hiker and if I get creative, I'll be a hiker who survived a bear attack! Thanks for the frosty idea though. If I had enough white at home to make it happen, I definitely would.

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HAPPYLOSER46 10/29/2011 7:10PM

    Love it!!! The hat tops it off! Pun intended! Very cute!

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REXTINE1 10/29/2011 7:05PM

    Great costume.

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90 days binge free

Monday, October 24, 2011

Okay i made it and i must say this was the hardest last few days. I have had a mix of emotions because here in our local area we had a child abuse case that took me back to my childhood. I have done a few things i've journaled and decided that it is my time to give back to find ways to do things for Child Abuse Prevention. So my TOPS group has a Christmas Baazar going on and we are selling vendor tables one of which i got to sell my mom's crochet baby blankets and sweaters and i decided i would make small kids shirts and use my embroidary machines to personalize them any money i make off those embroidard onsies and t-shirts will go to child abuse prevention assocation there is location here in portland, with Christmas around the corner there is plenty to do, giving to local foster kids organization and what ever i'll give of my time as well. I'm proud of reaching 90 days now i will work towards 120 and then making it through the holidays. I am feeling good inside, i still get emotions that sometimes overwhelm me but i know eating won't make me feel the way i do right now when i make these accomplishments.

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ALEXIA_ST_CLOUD 10/27/2011 4:36PM

    Such a great streak! YEEAH!

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AAAACK 10/27/2011 1:25PM

    As usual, you have inspired me! In reading this I thought, "but you're now a powerful adult, no longer that vulnerable child you once were." And immediately I realized that I, too, am that adult and not that child. I have been having binge troubles lately and mentally allowing myself to act like that little kid who hid from all the hairy-life-stuff. I'm not her anymore, I'm an adult, and thanks to your inspiration, I intend to think like one and be responsible for my own (eating) actions.

I love that you're giving back - that alone is such a position of strength! And it keeps ya busy, right?!

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RD03875 10/25/2011 4:28AM

    Congratulations on 90 days. Keep it up

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REXTINE1 10/24/2011 7:00PM

    You are setting the standard. I don't think I have ever gone 90 days without falling off the wagon somehow. You give determination a new definition.

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EBPOOKIE 10/24/2011 11:30AM

    Thank you Carrie but you too have been my inspiration you have just kept pushing as through your plateau and you not giving up attitude (lose your quit mentality) has really helped. I am determined not to quit what i have started it is not an option!! SO thank you many times over for supporting my journey as well as being my inspiration!

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SEWINGMAMACDS 10/24/2011 10:06AM

    I love the ideas of giving back. I know you will make it to 120 days and be successful through the holidays. You are an inspiration!!

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11 Weeks of Binge Free living!

Tuesday, October 11, 2011

11 Weeks and 78 days as of today!

Each and every day I get through this I feel stronger and stronger, I feel more confident in myself. I have more energy now that Iím working exercise into my routines and just feel way better about myself overall. I feel as though this black cloud has finally cleared and sunny days are ahead, knowing that thunder storms may pop in sometimes but the rainbows always shine.

This past Saturday, we had our TOPS Area Recognition Days Rally in Canby, Oregon. We have different chapters east of the mountains come together and it is always nice to see people from old chapters that you have formed friendships with because of some previous event. This year my girlfriends from our TOP Chapter and I did a skit, we call ourselves the Women of TOPS and it is always center around something weight loss related. This skit happened to be the very first one we ever did. It was called the Secret. We added humor to it and it turned out to be a blast. Setting a TOPS meeting, everyone is congratulating each other for having a losing week, then in the background you hear ARE YOU SURE THAT IS RIGHT? Out comes the TOPS member who is ready to quit because she had another gain. TOPS members ask her to stay for the meeting even though she is reluctant. So one of the girls just went to a nutritionist and was told the secrets of weight loss. Everyone is interestedÖ so the first secret is eating breakfast. The gainer says I do that I stop at Mickey Dís and get and egg mcmuffin with cheese and sausage and hash brown and 32 oz OJ, the girls say hash brown, gainer says what itís a vegetable a potato is a veggie, no not so much and give her the actual OJ serving size of 4 oz and that she is better off then the next secret is drink water gainer brings out her 2 liter pop and calls it carbonated water ;) the ladies tell her sugar water and 800 calories in the bottle. Then the next item is portion control and they show her a the plate method she pulls out a huge bowl and tell them she hasnít eaten because it was weigh in day but that she would show them her lunch salad, she proceeds to pile it high and add ALL the fixings!! She discovers her salad is a dayís worth of calories. Then they says journaling and exercising are the last two secrets. Gainer says exercise can be dangerous as she sprained her ankle last time she tried walking and is dumbfounded. The ladies of TOPS remind her that all this information is in the TOPS Choice is mine book and she should read it, she says oh wow Iíve been using that as a door stop. So in conclusion they wrap up their chat as their regular meeting is ready to start and gainer realizes she has to attend the meetings, cut her portions, drink water, eat sensibly, exercise and journal her food in order to lose. We got a lot of compliments had people laughing but everyone could see a part of gainer in themselves.

We will be hosting State Recognition Days in Portland, so all of the area chapters were asked for volunteers. I found that since I have taken the leadership role in my chapter as co leader my attitude has changed and I hold myself more accountable as I want to be a good role model. I am going to volunteer I think it will be good for me to continue to give into the very organization that is helping and supporting my weight loss journey.

This weekend the Ladies of Tops are going to the Mountain for a weekend retreat we decided to do for ourselves. We will be cooking and grilling at the Condo and will have one go out night. We practice our eating out skills and making good choices. We will be doing a lot of hiking as there are several local trails and lakes to explore! It is so much easier when we have support!

My goal for this week was meet I stepped up my exercise and now this week starting tomorrow am I will do the following even while on vacation:

Wednesday 5 am Walk 30 mins and then at 5:40 pm my exercise class (dance/kickboxing) 60 mins.
Thursday 5 am Walk 30 mins and then at 5:40pm my exercise class (dance/kickboxing/weights) 60 mins.
Friday 6:30 am Exercise class (60 mins) Day we leave to go to the Mt, still exercising plus hoping we go for a pm hike and or walk for at least 30 mins.
Saturday 6 am Walk same hike or walk later in the day.
Sunday same as above
Monday same as above then a pm exercise class!
Tuesday 5am Walk 30 mins.

Then repeat the cycle more or less adjusting to fit work back in on days that I was getting up at 6am back to 5 pm and then Saturdays will go back to walking at 6am then 8;30 am exercise class. If I knew I could handle walking to class and back and doing the workout I would do it but I donít think I can do it just yet. I will have to figure out the mileage on it out.

I know these goals sound like they might be much but in order for me to break this plateau I will need to step up the exercise and eat healthy.

I just know I have to do this in order to get it all working together, continue to follow my lo-carb diet, and that consists of lean meats, veggies, fruits and high fiber starches ;)

I feel like I can do this that I have it in me no matter how hard it is some days I have it in me to do it.

I will not sit by and let things happen! Iwill make things happen!

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REXTINE1 10/12/2011 4:43PM

    I'm sure you will do it. Keep up the good work!

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SEWINGMAMACDS 10/12/2011 10:51AM

    Sounds like the skit was lots of fun - and sooo true!

I know you will be able to reach those goals and break that plateau!!!
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RD03875 10/12/2011 8:30AM

    Good luck, you can do it.

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CATHYJR73 10/11/2011 8:04PM

    Great blog and I know emoticon
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