Wednesday, August 10, 2011
The positive cycle of forgiveness-Healthy reflection
OK, be honest. Do you hold grudges? Do you allow old drama to determine your behavior? Is there someone you just can't seem to forgive? Grudges and a non-forgiving attitude do nothing but harm both parties. You might feel like you're "winning" by not letting someone off the hook, but you're only increasing your own worry and stress. Bitterness can lead to hate, which can sour a life. Today, write a letter explaining your point of view to the person you feel resentful towards. Clear the air; forgiving him. Even if you don't send it, it is an excellent way to relieve tension. Forgiving someone does not absolve them of the wrong that you experienced. It can simply free you to live a life that isn't anchored to the hurt and resentment of past events
Wow when I read this article-Healthy reflection of the day it really hit home and everything I have been doing for myself in my binge eating therapy. Forgiveness, it is something I had to do in order to feel better about me. I held resentment against my younger self thinking of all the should have could have would have, when in reality I was a child and actually did everything right when I actually had to sit down and right the letter to self. I actually ended up apologizing for how I felt toward myself, it feels so much better knowing what I know now about myself. So I do recommend doing this exercise even if it with yourself much more so then with someone else because no matter what it does come back you donít treat yourself right if you binge or emotionally eat when something sets you off, you are doing your body much harm so what does that tell you that you are not worth but indeed you are. Look deep inside and really see how you are not just on the outside but inside each one of us is full of something good and positive, we tend to hold ourselves prisoners when we actually hold the key to get out. I myself like my freedom and the feeling I have, yes there are still days I fall but I donít stay down I keep getting up because I have to love myself each day to keep doing.
Sunday, August 07, 2011
Those of you have been following my blog know my homework a few weeks ago for my Binge Eating Disorder (BED) Treatment was to write a commpassionate letter to self well it turned out to be about 6 pages long and covered self from 12.5 to 17. What i found out about this wonderful young self was that she was brave very brave, intelligent, kind, beautiful and loving. She really did alot to help her siblings more then she ever gave her self credit and that blaming herself for what more she could have done in reality at age 12.5-17 was wrong. I apologize to self and let her know that none of the things that had happened was my fault that those choices where made by the very person that was suppose to love and respect her and he failed. So this week what i found myself doing was actually taking care of self. Eating better and going to exercise, pulling support from my friends, being more engaged with my weight loss programs and sparking. While i wrote that letter a flood of emotions came over me and what i can tell you is now when I look in the mirror i see the following a very intelligent, brilliant, beautiful, loving, kind & BRAVE VERY BRAVE me.
I feel so relieved and free. I really felt a burden removed from myself one that i had carried for far to long. The tears I shed where of happiness not sadness or pain.
My new homework this week is what would my compassionate 12 year old self tell me now.
Friday, July 22, 2011
Write and be compassionate to my younger self. Hmmm not sure how that will go but willing to do try doing. I have to have it done by the 6th appt.
Thursday, July 21, 2011
So on Tuesday on my way home from my TOPS weight loss support group my husband calls me and letís me know the job he just started is switching him to part time status because they are slow. So my mind is like you have been there 4 weeks and already for real. So my head is spinning thinking of expenses and how we will deal. As soon as I got home I wrote it out and we will be okay as a matter of fact we can handle it we just have to adjust. I didnít turn to food Woohoo!!
I started thinking of things we do that are wasteful and how we can trim our food budget. I will still buy my items as they go on sale aka meatóinstead of packing ground meat in one pound packages Iím doing half # I think it will be less wasteful use what we need a lot of the times we donít need a full pound. Also, I love beans so that will be something I can do for proteins, my mom makes some really good chili and I love it because itís not sodium filled and I freeze and use it for campouts and bbq.
I am really looking at things that we can buy and I can make my own mini portions packages. I can get things in the bulk bins at my local grocery things like rice, cereal, flour, sugar, snack peanuts trail mix and beans etc. I know that will help in savings.
Then I will continue to get my fruit and veggies from local farm stands it gives me a chance to try new veggies too. Anyone who says you canít lose weight on budget is wrong. I have made a list of some great recipes that are reasonable and healthy. Portions, Portions, and Portions!! This past week I have eaten whatever I want and have not felt deprived. I have had buffalo burgers and chips and a salad. I made a huge salad with my own raspberry vinaigrette, added chicken and raspberries to it. Iíve made sandwiches with chicken, guac and cabbage on 9 grain. In the past Iíve made soups with simple base items like onion, garlic, chopped ham, chorizo (Mexican sausage), bologna, raviolis, pastas, rice, beans frozen hash browns and frozen veggies. These makes 6-8 servings of different types of soups each depends what combo I use but if you look at the ingredients they are reasonably priced and make great lunches with half a sandwich or just a roll and salad. When I batch cook and plan my meals it helps with my eating. I usually freeze the soups and just grab and go lunches.
So while I just pretty much told you what I wrote out it felt good because I didnít binge eat I actually found solutions to what I thought was a huge problem. I can take the $ budgeted for groceries and still make it work and maybe even find ways to save $. A major accomplishment!
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