Monday, December 19, 2011
Today I met a very nice young woman at the pool. She was overweight and walked with a limp but the water was good for her and I started talking to her while I was exercising. She had been in a car accident and shattered her knee, had several surgeries and was told to absolutely lose weight immediately. The MD's wanted her to get gastric bypass and she didn't want it. So they put her on a 900 calorie diet and told her that if it didn't work, surgery was in the future and she could end up in a wheel chair.
I listened to her, let her ramble and thought to myself this girl is not going to make it. She is not ready for a strict 900 calorie diet, or for any diet at all. Her mind is on the pain she feels from her knee, on top of all her other problems. When she was done I told her about SP and a few other sites on the computer that might help her. She wasn't interested. I told her how much I had been helped and how I had lost weight. I asked if they had suggested talking to a therapist and she said that they did but she didn't want to do that either. I told her that there was a lot of help out there available but she would have to be able to accept it for it to work.
My heart goes out to her and I wished her well. She is still young and to be forced to face issues that she is not ready to face could screw up her life forever. It's so sad. I only hope that someday a light goes off and she decides to try SP, a site like it or get some kind of help. I remember my younger years and the diets I did on and off. I wasn't ready or even able to commit back then and none of them worked. I was lucky that my health didn't depend on it. In my old age, I opened my mind and let in new possibilities and have been rewarded. I said a small prayer that someday soon, her mind will open and it will be the start of a new journey. It was all I could do.