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MY DH....DARN GOOD HOMEMADE PIE BAKER! DARN!

Sunday, March 28, 2010

I was just getting back on track, when what does my DH pronounce last week??? That he WILL learn to make his mother's famous pie crust. He has nine....YES, NINE....sisters and they are all excellent cooks. But the eldest sister, Betty, reins SUPREME at the pie baking. Art decided that this was the year that HE would learn to make her famous, delicious crust, so armed with a video camera and his "middle" brother (yes, he has two of those!), he videoed Betty's procedure from start to finish. It is a treasure and they had a delightful, special day together. Art has vowed now to make our MOMMY her favorite for Easter, Chocolate Silk pie. We all know that the crust makes all the difference. As some of you know, Art and I dance most every weekend, so he made the pies before we left and I cleaned the kitchen for him....this time! (We won't let THAT become a habit, if his baking does!) Last night, upon our return, we HAD to taste that pie...We would neither of us admit it, but just the thought of the pie brought us home a bit earlier than usual. I must say W O W!
BINGO...SUCCESS! Monday will bring me to double time on the elliptical and low carbs all next week! But....my dear friends....I must admit and sorry to say, but...IT WAS WORTH IT! Life isn't just a "BOWL OF CHERRIES". IT'S A HUGE PIECE OF MY ART'S CHOCOLATE SILK PIE! woot woot! TROUBLE IS.....HE ALSO MADE COCONUT CREME! IT'S STILL ALL IN THERE..... AND, WE'RE GIVING IT AWAY.....TODAY!!!!!!!!!

XXOO HAPPY SPRING!
PS Now you know one of the reasons I've been married to DH for almost 43 years!

  
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TIFF38 4/3/2010 11:02AM

    My hubby is the baby of 11 children... all the same mom and dad, very Irish Catholic....(7 brothers) his sister (3 of those) Grace has 12 children of her own..... gotta love the big families, keeps us very busy!

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SPARKROZ 3/30/2010 1:02PM

    I LOVE ART!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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SCHATZI4MO 3/29/2010 10:21AM

    FABULOUS PICTURE OF ART! ... he dances, he bakes ... he's perfect.
trying new recipes is always fun, but mastering a family recipe is priceless. enjoy every bite, the extra time on the elliptical is so worth it. hugs ~ april

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KFAYJAY 3/28/2010 7:53PM

    Hey! Life would not be life without a bit of decadence now wld it? And a man that can bake? A good thing!

It is so nice to hear people who are so much in love with their partners. You both are lucky to have each other.

And yes, the crust is what definitely makes the pie!!!! Yum! emoticon

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PATTYSH 3/28/2010 7:11PM

    Oh my goodness! He dances AND bakes pies! You truly have found the perfect man. So fun!

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take care,
Patty

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DEBBIEANNE1124 3/28/2010 4:25PM

    I'm gaining 5#'s just reading that.
Hope it's a winner!
Debbie

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JUSTLYLE 3/28/2010 3:23PM

    That away to go Art, I think you have discovered another profession, good for you Art!

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ANITABREAK2 3/28/2010 2:52PM

    emoticon emoticonYumm! Chocolate silk is my DH's favorite pie, but he has to have Marie Calendars make it for him as I tell him "I'm challenged in the kitchen" emoticonand he buys that emoticon. At least you had a bit of a workout (dancing) before indulging. You guys are a cute couple and if the DH cooks.... even better.

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WOODSYGIRL 3/28/2010 12:57PM

    Such a handsome man your Art is! And yes, I drooled. Mmmmm...pie. If he makes a banana cream pie, I'd crawl the entire way to your house just to try it. Yummy! So glad you two enjoyed yourselves and got to try his newest experiment. I think you can safely say that he'll be making your desserts going forward if that crust is anything to go by!

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1DEBIE1 3/28/2010 12:47PM

    What a sweetheart, and I can see why you adore him. What dedication DH has to videotape and make sure he got the receipe perfected...wow....Impressive!

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MEADSBAY 3/28/2010 12:02PM

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I'm not a big pie fan but the chocolate silk sounds yummy!
My husband spent many years perfecting his grammy's pie crust recipe and everyone says he has surpassed her.
BTW- I have (had, anyway) 6 sisters and 7 brothers .
Aren't big families...um... interesting?
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FITCHICK421 3/28/2010 11:44AM

  one word - YUM :)

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IVORYGIRL1776 3/28/2010 11:43AM

    I'm invisioning and "tasting" all that YUMMY goodness---chocolate AND crust!!! My own all time favorite pie is my Mother's: CHOCOLATE CREAM PIE!!! and she makes her own crust too!!! Heaven, I'm in heaven...

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SI1V3RBACK 3/28/2010 10:35AM

    If he bakes and dances he is definitely a keeper emoticon

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KISHEGER 3/28/2010 10:25AM

    WooHoo. This sounds so abaolutely divine!!!!

Go, Art, go. What a great couple you two are- so talented, in so many spheres and so kind. Love the idea that he is making your Mommy a pie!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I alsobeleive that one has to constantly learn new things, makes life so much more interesting to keep busy and stimulated.

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MYCUTEGIZMO 3/28/2010 10:18AM

  A once in a while indulgence isn't too bad..

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HONEY * HOW SWEET IT IS!

Monday, March 22, 2010

HONEY OAT BISCOTTI (found in “Southern Illinois Health & Life” magazine)

I thought I would pass along this good recipe made with no sugar or fake sugar. My hubs actually found this recipe and I made it tonight….YUM! Made with HONEY….(“A favorite of such notables as Cleopatra and Winnie the Pooh), this gooey substance has a sweet reputation and infinite shelf life.”

Makes 24-30 servings

½ cup unsalted butter
¾ cup honey
2 eggs
1 tsp. vanilla
2 cups flour
3 tsp. gound cinnamon
1 tsp. baking powder
½ tsp.baking soda
½ tsp. salt
2 cups rolled oats
½ cup walnuts, pecans or almonds

*Cream butter; beat in honey, eggs and vanilla
*Combine flour, cinnamon, baking powder, baking soda and salt; mix well.
Stir into butter mixture.
*Stir in oats and nuts. On a greased baking sheet, shape dough into two loaves, each
approximately 10 inches long and 3 inches wide.
*Bake at 375 degrees for 12-15 minutes or until lightly browned. Cook 5 minutes;
move to cutting board.
*Cut each log into ½-inch strips and place on cookie sheet. Bake at 300 degrees for
an additional 25-30 minutes or util strips are crisp throughout. Cool thoroughly.

Store in airtight container. Keeps for days.

Enjoy my Sparkies! HAPPY SPRING!

XO MaryAnn

  
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SEPTEMBERSPIRIT 3/25/2010 4:40PM

    Sounds yummy what's the nutrition info/content like?

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CSIENK 3/25/2010 1:29PM

    These sound delicious. Thanks for sharing the recipe.
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SHAKENBAKE 3/25/2010 1:00AM

    Yum thanks for sharing. Did you like these better than the ones you made last time? I will have to make these. Been cooking cooking cooking and I'm wiped out. Daughters 21st surprise party is Friday. I made a chocolate triple cake Maryann that called for a pound of white choc and a pound of bittersweet. VERY expensive to make but didn't care. You know I LOVE to cook and I guess I have lost my touch not being able to cook but it DID NOT turn out!!!!!!!!!!! I spent all evening on it. UGH! Anyway, I am back to square one in the morning but OH well, just needed to vent. Hope you are doing well? Excited for an update on Mom. xoxo Wanda

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SCHATZI4MO 3/23/2010 9:24PM

    alrighty sparkie ... you tried my recipe, so i'm going to try yours. i just pulled out the butter. i need to get in a quick workout and then it's back into the kitchen to make up a batch for this evening's cup of tea. thanks for sharing. hugs ~ april

p.s. are you going to watch the biggest loser tonight?

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SI1V3RBACK 3/23/2010 12:07PM

   
Oh great ... now I'm hungry emoticon

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DACIUS 3/23/2010 8:29AM

    mmmm... delicious!!!

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DREMARGRL 3/23/2010 8:24AM

    Sorry, but the recipe didn't include nutritional information. I don't think these would be more calories than the store bought kind such as "Nonnie's Biscotti"...Those have 150 calories, if I remember correctly. These should be less since they have honey instead of white sugar. You could omit the nuts or add less, if you prefer. Great with that cup of morning java. If you count carbs, you will have to count these in your alloted count for the day. Thanks for all your inquiries and for reading my blogs! You guys are great! Have a beautiful day.....MaryAnn emoticon emoticon

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BIKERCHICK74 3/23/2010 8:08AM

    YUM. Do you know how many calories in one?

HUGS darling!!!

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WOODSYGIRL 3/22/2010 11:10PM

    Oh yum, this sounds so good! I'm going to try these for Easter at mom's house. You always have such creative recipes! emoticon

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SPARKROZ 3/22/2010 10:31PM

    Sounds yummy!!! Thanks for the recipe.....when I do go to work, I like to take my crew members and the pilots a treat!!!! I'll try this for my next trip!!!!

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MARELARK725 3/22/2010 10:18PM

    Sounds delish! Thanks for sharing! Hope you're well. Me, the hubby and little girl are off to Florida tomorrow for some much needed R & R. Take care of yourself!
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DEBBIEANNE1124 3/22/2010 10:12PM

    Sounds simply delicous!

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LIQUID11 3/22/2010 9:56PM

    Off to the kitchen to try them...
Is there something you are not into? I keep wondering...
RESPECT!
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2CATS2LOVE1 3/22/2010 9:40PM

    Oh, how yummy!! Thanks for posting this... emoticon

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MONKEY BARS & GRANDMOMMIES & HAPPY HALEY!

Sunday, March 21, 2010

When you see a happy, young face, beaming with joy all over the place,
Jumping, giggling with squeals of glee....Gaily yelling, "NANA COME PLAY WITH ME!"
On the swing, basketball court, the jungle gym and MONKEY BARS.....
This NANA is so proud and happy that she CAN STILL and WILL DO IT!!!!
(Not too pretty....but I did it! haha!)
HAPPILY....WITH COMPLETE JOY and conviction that I am helping her to become the wonderful, young person that she is...making straight A's....just getting inducted into the HIGH HONOR SOCIETY at her school, making friends and loving life. SO FAR, SO GOOD!

She, her friend, Taylor, and I had the best afternoon...even though it was overcast and a little chilly. Hay remembered all the wonderful times we spent at the park when she stayed with me for the first five years of her life during the day from when she was born. I wouldn't take a million $'s for that bonding experience with my only granddaughter!
Saturday afternoon taught me a sweet lesson. Even though she will soon be 13 years old, those girls truly loved being childlike .....There were none of their peers around to watch them and they seemed entirely...free to be themselves. It is so important that grandparents and parents "be there" to just talk and play with them. Given the opportunity, they will share and let you in, but you have to allow the time....and create the place.
This is a confusing, complex world and I don't want to squander the opportunities I have to be with her, to keep teaching and guiding her, to listen to her....and yes.....TO PLAY....HANGING UPSIDE DOWN! Those precious words yesterday, "NANA, WILL YOU COME PLAY WITH US?"meant more than she will ever know. She will always know just where to find me. She is always in my heart and I am in hers.....I know that and it makes me an extremely proud and happy grandmother.
So....if your grandchildren aren't calling .....CALL THEM! Have them over and go PLAY!
I love you, my Sparkly friends. HAVE A HAPPY SPRING!
XXOO MARYANN

HALEY AND HER MOM...TAKEN TODAY 3/21/2010

  
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ANITABREAK2 3/28/2010 2:57PM

    I will remember your words when my first grandchild is born this coming August. My sons are precious to me and I'm excited about this new adventure. Thank you for sharing your world.

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JIMH1970 3/24/2010 4:10PM

    So, THAT's what you meant by being upside down!
Good work!
It should't surprise me though. You ALWAYS seem so young to me!
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SPARKROZ 3/22/2010 10:35PM

    You're such a good Nana!!! Now I know how you stay beautiful and young!!!!!!!!!!

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2CATS2LOVE1 3/22/2010 9:44PM

    That's the stuff memories are made of! Way to go, Nana!! I have great memories too of my grandchildren although they live in other states. I have 5.

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1DEBIE1 3/22/2010 8:05PM

    Precious times for a lifelong journey of memories; sweet and treasurable.

My own Grandmother skipped rope with us, until we got to the age, we no longer jumped rope, ditto for shooting marbles, roller skating, playing board and card games, while teaching us how to cook Italian foods, the "traditional" way.

The love shared between a grandchild and their grandparent(s) is priceless!

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SI1V3RBACK 3/22/2010 11:42AM

   
Kids today ... making nana do backflips for them emoticon

Ah the days of free time to play and enjoy the day. They are fleeting, I'm glad you had the opportunity to go play with the "young ones" !!!

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SMILINGEYES2 3/22/2010 11:21AM

    One can never be old to just have fun. I recall my grandfather jumping rope at our house--he would have been in his late 70's. These memories will only grow more special with time. emoticon

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SCHATZI4MO 3/22/2010 9:41AM

    you and haley are so cute ... this blog makes my heart smile. xxoo ~ april

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DACIUS 3/22/2010 7:23AM

    That looked like a fun day for your and Haley!!

Playing with the kids is a lot of fun. I know I get weird looks when me and my 4 year old start acting like soldiers in the store or having a transformer fight on the play ground. But if I can't be goofy and fun with my kids then who can I be goofy with? They bring that inner child out in us everytime we slow down a minute and let them pull it out of us. Life is so fast paced and cold that we sometimes forget the warmth and sincerity in a kid's adventurous spirit.

Great blog Maryann!!! It made me smile

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CHRISLEWIS 3/22/2010 4:40AM

    Too cute! Looks like you guys had a great day!

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LINDA25427 3/22/2010 2:53AM

    Loved your blog ,glad you and your granddaughterand her friend had such a great day you deserve to have fun and enjoy life .. Take care . emoticon emoticon emoticon

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SUZANNE0606 3/22/2010 12:18AM

    Sounds like you had such a fun time!!

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BEKAH_IS_FIT 3/22/2010 12:15AM

    You are ...AMAAAAAZING! Truly and inspiration! You make me smile ALLL the time! emoticon

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JUSTLYLE 3/21/2010 11:20PM

    You really know how to make an Ole Grandpa shed a tear. I called my 5 year old this PM to let her tell me how she did on the tumbling competition today, she had very high scores and came home with another trophy. She was so excited she said Grandpa, and I didn't bounce! Aren't they the greatest!

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KIMBEROU812 3/21/2010 11:17PM

    Oh so fun!!How cool and love the relationship you have with her. My little angels are coming to stay at grandma's next weekend and I'm already planning. This is exactly what I hope to build with them (they are 7 and 4) a wonderful relationship. Great job Nana!!

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ETWBOK 3/21/2010 11:17PM

    Wonderful! and so true about calling them (adult kids included) if they aren't calling you.

Thanks for sharing.

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PATTYSH 3/21/2010 11:11PM

    I love this blog the best of all! Seizing those special moments to make memories, is so important to do! She will remember this day for all of her life. That is so awesome! You have done so much to show her what being a strong woman is all about. That is a legacy that your mother handed down to you, and so on down the family line it goes..... I loved the picture of your daughter and Haley. They are both beautiful, just like you!

I had a memory making day today too. Those days are special. Keep on having them!
Take care, my friend
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DEBBIEANNE1124 3/21/2010 10:59PM

    way to go!
Keep that child in you!
cute pictures!

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A NEW DANCE......A NEW DAY!

Wednesday, March 17, 2010

“I do not try to dance better than anyone else. I only try to to dance better than myself.”
Mikhail Baryshnikov

This fabulous quote got me to thinking this afternoon. I have been making excuses for the last couple of months for my lack of time to eat right, exercise as often, emotional eating.... allowing the white stuff to creep back into my diet, yadayadayada. Enough already! It's not that I weigh that much, but this is just how it gets started. The few lbs. become 10...then 15...then....GEEEZZZ! I have always been able to keep myself in check and I will do it again. NOW! Before I change my ticker to show the 5 or 6 lb. weight gain I've had over these same two months, since my mother's stage IV cancer diagnosis, I am giving myself two weeks to change the things I can to get back on track.

1. Start drinking my water again.
2. Stop eating too many nuts!
3. Get the 5 or 6 workouts in instead of the 3 or 4 I'm down to.
4. Limit my carbs to under 100.
5. Get back on the scale.
6. STAY ON SPARK!

After two weeks, I will place my "accurate" ticker up regardless. I admit that I am only human and am consumed with the same problems as others who fight these battles with themselves every single day. You are not alone, as you all well know. The battle is with myself and I am here today to say that I am ready to DO IT AGAIN before it gets way out of hand. That's the trick....not to let IT, (whatever the IT is), get the best of you and take you over.

I WILL dance....and do it BETTER THAN MYSELF! HAVE A GORGEOUS SPRING, MY FRIENDS!!!! I LOVE YOU AND HOPE YOU'LL DUST OFF THOSE BICYCLES AND HAVE SOME FUN! (WHATEVER YOU LIKE DOING!)

  
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WOODSYGIRL 3/19/2010 1:59PM

    You can do this dear one! You have soooooo much going on in your life right now, but you are making a plan, which will give you good focus and reward when you accomplish the tasks you set out to do. And we will all be dancing right along with you!

xoxo

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MJMEISSN 3/19/2010 12:53PM

    You go girl! You have overcome the hardest part - recognizing and admitting the issue. You have the determination to succeed, and will!

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SMILINGEYES2 3/18/2010 12:36PM

    emoticon Mary Ann, Not only can you, you will turn the slip around and be in charge of your health again. Dust those dancing shoes off and enjoy your dear husband or do some dancercize. Looking forward to seeing that ticker go down. emoticon Linda

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GUCCIBEAR 3/18/2010 9:34AM

    Sometimes we just have to put ourselves first - it's not a bad thing, but sooo hard to do. Good thoughts coming your way - I know you will do it!

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SI1V3RBACK 3/18/2010 4:45AM

    Reality isn't everything it's cracked up to be! I wouldn't rush that weigh scale or at least feel the need to report the results if you plan to get crack that whip and get back on track. The threat of the weight scale can be as effective as the weight scale itself emoticon

The most positive side of this is we will see your Sparkin' self a little more often *whee*



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FINEARSESOON 3/18/2010 1:07AM

    Yep...we can never give up! especially at out age.. :-) Just gotta get back on track. There will always be that 'thing' that we allow to get in the way...I'm so sorry to hear it involves your Mom! Such a life changing event I know. But you'll feel better equipped to handle it if you feel good...so you go girl. Be there and be strong for yourself, and your Mom!
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CWYNN01 3/17/2010 5:19PM

    The key thing is your back now & you are focused on making it happen!! So just keep on pushing!!!

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PATTYSH 3/17/2010 5:02PM

    Yep, we all have that "other voice" that says we can eat it or go ahead and skip that class. You'll get it back together. I know you will. Speaking of which---I'm off to a yoga class!

Namaste, my friend!
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LINDA25427 3/17/2010 4:17PM

    Mary Ann you will always be my inspiration no matter what, you will have those pounds back off in no time . emoticon emoticon
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DEBBIEANNE1124 3/17/2010 2:51PM

    Way to go, Mary Ann!

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dance! dance! dance!!

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LIQUID11 3/17/2010 2:28PM

    Please do not limit your carbs below 120 g per day!!
It is unhealthy and most of all you'll sooner or later get a B-complex vitamins deficiency, rather unwise, especially during the stressful situation you are experiencing, as they help your mood be in good shape.
I would suggest you to opt for 140-150 g and also to consume some pieces of the best dark 70%+ you can get, it does miracles for the neurotransmitters of the brain! [No milk at the same time, it counteracts the anti-oxidative effect of the thing]

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ETWBOK 3/17/2010 2:17PM

    AMEN SISTA!

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DACIUS 3/17/2010 1:44PM

    I am in complete agreement with #2. I eat way too many!!! LOL!!!

Your plan sounds awesome and I am positive you will rock it out. Don't stress about those pounds. Just be healthy for yourself and those around you and the weight will take care of itself.

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LOVING & ACCEPTANCE......

Friday, March 12, 2010

As most of my Sparkfriends know, my Mother was recently diagnosed with terminal colon cancer. She will be 87 in May. I won't go into what a brave, graceful, loving person she is here, but she is amazing all who know her, because her positive attitude and beautiful smile is still in tact. She has not shed a tear and is grateful for all the happy years she's had. At first, I awoke in the night in terror of what lie ahead. Crying in the night and not sleeping was not what I wanted to do, but it was beyond my control. But we got up every morning and headed to a Dr.'s appointment for radiation, blood work, or other procedure every single day (sometimes three appointments in one day!). My wonderful husband of 43 years drove...Dad with his thermos of coffee I prepared for him next to him, Mom and I all cuddled in the back seat holding hands in an afghan I had knitted for her about 20 years ago. We did what we could do to keep her from almost immediate paralysis and now she has decided not to have surgery or opt for chemotherapy as her cancer has mastastasized to her liver, bones, breast and thyroid. Very serious.....scary.....devastating and every other horrendous adjective you could exclaim. But now....we have our routine. We are accepting her fate....resigned to do what we can as cheerfully as we can. Putting a smile on our faces and being optimistic is not always easy, but we're trying. I remember my parents dancing in the kitchen to all those country singers such as Patsy Cline and Hank Sr. We put those records on and they take us back to those days. It's the cherished memories that keep us all going some days...and give us peace.
My father is 86 and our family is all pitching in to give him time to himself. Going to the store, taking a walk helps him so much. He has surely stepped up and is taking such good care of her, making sure she takes her medicine and getting her food to her. We have all helped keep homemade chicken and noodles, etc. in their frig. I help her shower, clean her house, help with cooking and laundry. Since I am also their beautician/barber, etc., and basic court jester giving them comic relief when needed. it's very convenient to only have them six miles away. It is my honor to serve them both as they have been the most loving parents who have always shown us how to love and live. Their marriage of 63 years is remarkable. She has come to love the "shakes" we are making with whey protein powder, Ensure, milk, and a dollop of ice cream. These have put the glow back in her cheeks and a little weight back on. We will continue to love, hug, pat and kiss her....making her as comfortable as we can for as long as we have her here. I have one brother and we are both on the same page and cooperating with one another, so that is a blessing.
Now that I have accepted all that is happening, I am better equipped to handle whatever happens. She is still smiling and now looking better than she has in months. Her taste is returning and she is eating better. Yesterday as I looked at her, she was absolutely radiant....! It is truly my honor to serve my Mother and Father. We will continue to take care of them in their home for as long as we can and then she will come here and we'll continue to do what we can to keep her out of pain. The blessings I have received in my life are many and I am grateful.
I am also so grateful for all of you.....Since you have shown so much love and concern, I thought I would bring you all up to date in this blog. To all of my Sparkfriends who have written, sent flowers, cards and listened to me rant in the middle of the night, I am humbled by your compassion, huge hearts and kindness! Thank you from the bottom of mine....For letting me vent....For being there to listen. You'll never know how much being able to do that has helped me. I know that I can handle whatever comes....I can smile, dance, be joyful for her and for the others I have to care for and who cares for me. I am trying to be positive and have a radiant spirit. It brings us all back from the devastating despair that covers us like a blanket at times. THANK YOU! XXOO MaryAnn



PS....I promise that my next blog will not be on this subject, but on something a little more cheerful. I appreciate your love so much and I pray that you and yours remain healthy and happy. Enjoy each and every day........Put your face to the sun and be glad..........

  
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LIQUID11 3/17/2010 1:47PM

    Dear Mary Ann,
Forgive my rather belated response to your soul shattering blog...
Having lost my father of an extremely aggressive, most painful cancer back in 1981, in just 63 days time [he was only 51, I was 19, my sister 17 and my little brother 5 years old, and a devastated mother] puts me in a rather weak position, as I haven't yet completely recovered from the consequences of that dark period... [Just know that because of a severe post traumatic reaction I gained 180 Lb. in just 6 months going from 185 to 365 Lb. and practically ruining my life...]
Now the fact that you dear and close friend are facing your mother's illness makes me shake of anger towards that stupid illness!
All I can say, make her lough and fill her with joy and hope. Do not let the pain, fear and despair take over her soul. Try to ease her fears and please try to gather all the family and explain to them how important their supportive presence is to her.
Sorry, I can not continue, I am starting to feel strange, forgive me!
Kiss her and Hug her Tight for me, if you please.
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MONKEYGETSFIT 3/15/2010 7:27PM

    I'm not around Spark much lately, but you and your family cross my mind often and I stop to say a little prayer.

Your strength and courage, as always, is amazing and your parents are blessed to have you. I pray for your continued strength, acceptance, peace and moment of joy during this tough time. You are making memories you will cherish forever and giving your mom even more memories for her to cherish.

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DACIUS 3/15/2010 3:53PM

    well for one...there is nothing at all wrong with bloging about this subject. This is what is going on in your life and what is weighing down your heart. We are all here to help one another out emotionally when things are good and bad.

I have gotta say WOW!!! to the 63 years married!!! That is so incredible and amazing!!!

Glad to hear mommas appetite is returning. Great idea with the whey powder and ice cream. A little indulgence to go along with some nutirtional strength is a great combo for her. Protien is such an important supplement we all tend to take for granted.

Keep supporting her and remmeber that being the jester around her is probably the very best thing you can do for her. Nothing alleviates pain and sickness better than a smile.

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JIMH1970 3/15/2010 12:07PM

    Thanks for sharing this with us Mary Ann.

Your parents are very lucky to have you there to support them.
Stay strong.
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SPARKROZ 3/14/2010 9:49PM

    What strength you have......my sisters and I went through a similar situation with our mother a few years ago. Keep ALL the memories in your heart. I'm keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. You have such a beautiful spirit---keep blogging, your strength helps many people here on Spark more than you know.

Blessings!

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ALEXEMMY1 3/14/2010 6:53PM

    Dear MaryAnn,
It is with much joy, not sadness that I read your blog. You have been going through a tough journey these past weeks. As much as we are here for you, it is your love and determination, as much as your mother's that will see you through. My joy is in reading the immense strength, support and love that you all give each other and the inevitable acceptance that comes along at some stage.
I share with you the knowledge of the gift that a loving mother brings to our lives...no matter how old we are.
You will be an inspiration to every child that has to go through the process of seeing their parents suffering, and taking on the loving mantle of caring for them,
God Bless you, and much love and peace to you and your family.

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MARELARK725 3/13/2010 8:11PM

    You are such a strong, amazing woman and daughter. This was so heartfelt and truly amazing. You can feel the love you have for her. Take care of yourself. It sounds like your mother has so much love surrounding her. She is truly in great hands. Thank you for sharing! emoticon

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SI1V3RBACK 3/13/2010 3:42PM

   
We all need a safe haven sometimes and yours should be here. A place you can open up about what is going on in your life and not worry about being judged because you are among those who know the pain of being judged, weighted and measured and not appreciated for who we really are. This is your save haven, your port in the storms and good weather. We will be here for you no matter how rough or smooth the waters get.

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SIRCATNIP1 3/13/2010 12:33PM

    Wow!

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CANBDONE 3/13/2010 12:07PM

    I am going through this amazingly painful journey with my mother. Another friend referred me to your page and it has blessed me. Your beauty is inspiring, but your spirit is more so. Thank you for reminding me of the important things on this journey we're taking with our parents. I, too, consider it an honor to sit by my mom's bedside and rejoice in the time we have with each other. emoticon

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LINDA25427 3/13/2010 8:17AM

    Mary Ann we are here for you .You can blog about your mother or whatever you want .Don't forget to take time for yourself and your wonderful hubby. Your are a graceful and beautiful woman. Take care. Love as always . emoticon emoticon emoticon

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WOODSYGIRL 3/13/2010 12:19AM

    I'm just in awe of your strength and grace. You are truly a living example of what it means to live in the moment, live with compassion and passion, and to enjoy every single moment we are here on earth...knowing that this is not the final dance at all...we're just warming up.

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SHAKENBAKE 3/12/2010 11:07PM

    Well done my grateful wonderful servant and friend. Despite this is such a challenging time for you, I commend you for sharing your story. My prayer is that as we go through life and these times in the future that we can have the loving compassion that you do in being so respectful honoring your precious parents. Keep a journal MaryAnn and take pictures every day. It will be wonderful to put together an album and what a precious story to treasure forever. Despite life is so short, it's great that you have been able to have so many wonderuful memories with both parents. Thinking of you as you celebrate each NEW day. Thank you Jesus for my friend, MaryAnn and Art! emoticon

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DEBBIEANNE1124 3/12/2010 6:13PM

    Huggggzzzzzzz
It's okay to talk aobut thsi subject as mucha s you want if it makes you feel better. i went through the same thing with my mother and father I can relate. Be strong for your family. They need you.

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PATTYSH 3/12/2010 5:49PM

    I'm so glad to read this. I have had you all on my mind. It sounds like everyone has a wonderful attitude and outlook, but that doesn't surprise me one bit, knowing you. I'm sure you are every bit the blessing to your parents as you feel they are to you. That is a legasy that is handed down. You have been so fortuante to have your parents with you this long.
Know that I think of you often and keep you all in my prayers.
As always,
Patty

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PISTL67 3/12/2010 2:14PM

    hank sr., conway twitty- 8-track players. some memories are great. it's a great blessing to have family you're so close to. cherish the closeness and good memories. you're in my prayers. emoticon

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BAILEYS7OF9 3/12/2010 11:53AM

    You can vent any time! and blog about anything. We'll be here, we'll read it and respond accordingly!

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DOLLIE6 3/12/2010 11:39AM

    Lots of love and prayers I am sending.

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PTESORO 3/12/2010 11:26AM

    Thanks for the Blog MaryAnn! I know what an honor it is to care for a parent in the throws of terminal cancer; It is indeed an honor. It warmed my hart so to hear you say that!

It is an odd dichotomy to be joyful in such a challenging sad time: I know that one too! I wouldn't have missed it for the world. I cherished he last days I spent with my father. And I am determined to be of service to my mother if/when she should need it. Which of course complicates my living situation with Jim. But he is completely understanding. So we might have to wait a few years til he come out here, or til we figure something else out!

It is hard at times to stay positive, so in those times allow yourself to feel whatever you need to feel. Please remember to be gentle with your sweet self.

Know my love and support is with you!

Alesia

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MJMEISSN 3/12/2010 11:26AM

    You, my dear friend are such and inspiration to me and I am sure many others as well.Thank you so much for sharing this. My thoughts and prayers are with you, your mother and your family. There is a prayer I have read from a subscription to Minute Meditations that really moved me. I want to share it with you in hopes that it will bring comfort to you as well. emoticon Jeanette



God of Grace

God, you are a God of grace who bends to touch me in every hurting place. I need you. Be with me all the day. Send living water to refresh me until I sit in quiet with you again.

— from Healing Troubled Hearts



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CSIENK 3/12/2010 11:25AM

    I'm not sure how I stumbled upon your blog, but reading it brought tears to my eyes. You and your mother are lucky to have each other. Your beautiful spirit shines through in your words of caring for her and I can tell that you get it from her as I read about her dignity and grace in dealing with this devastating disease.

My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. Remember to take care of yourself as you're taking care of her.
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SMILINGEYES2 3/12/2010 10:31AM

    Keeping you and your dear parents in my thoughts and prayers. Although, we have not met, I feel as though I would know them. It is difficult when roles reverse and we are nurturing our nurturer. They and you are blessed that you live nearby so that you can give each other support during this challenging time.

Is there a hospice program there who can help your folks and you as you go this journey? I am sure your husband is your main support right with other family and friends there also for you--but you do need that as well. I have a sister in law who is a retired nurse and she is a hospice volunteer. It sounds like they can help through the various medical care that families may not know how to provide.

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MTRICE 3/12/2010 10:22AM

    My heart goes out to you. Feel free to blog about any of your feelings, they are yours and they are legitimate. (((HUGS)))

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DEBRA_T 3/12/2010 9:43AM

    The love that you and your family have for yourselves and each other is shining through every bit of the difficult situation you are all facing. My prayers are offered for all of you.

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MEADSBAY 3/12/2010 9:15AM

    My thoughts are with you and your family now, my friend.
You have got a wonderful attitude and a beautiful spirit.
This is a challenging time of life for you, your mom, and your whole family.
Some of my siblings felt bad about not being around my mother during her last few years and were afraid I would be mad at them at some level but I felt so grateful that I was able to do it and it was my honor to care for her until her death. I would not have traded that for anything in the world.
love,
elizabeth
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EOSAURORA84 3/12/2010 9:12AM

    sending you emoticon and emoticon to you and your family in this time. it is hard to lose your mom and you never really are prepared for it no matter how long you knew it was comming, but you survive and with your family as tight as it is things will be okay.

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JUSTLYLE 3/12/2010 9:10AM

    Sure so sorry to read about your Dear Mom. This can really take its toll on the family if you let it. We have gone through similar circumstances over 10 years ago. Make sure you keep doing some exercise, eat properly and sleep enough so as not to get down. You are blessed to be a part of such a loving family because you have also shown such love. My God bless and watch over your family. My prayers are with you and your family.

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JANNIEWANNIE 3/12/2010 8:46AM

    Sending you strength for these trying times. Hugs from Janet

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KIMBEROU812 3/12/2010 8:43AM

    What a beautiful blog for the story of your family and the love you all have for each other! Your parents are indeed blessed to have a daughter like you too!! Prayers for your family!! You are all making the best of a bad situation and with such grace and what a great example you are! Thanks for sharing - God Bless!

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