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Life = gone to hell

Saturday, December 13, 2014

So my life just imploded. My husband left me.

The reasons are... multitude. Suffice it to say I am not blameless; however, he is living in a situation that is not conducive to healthy... anything at the moment. It's only been a week, and my world is falling apart.

I'm not eating. I'm barely sleeping. I can barely function at all.

I've lost 8 lbs in the last week.

Not the good kind of weight loss, either.

I don't know what to do with my life. All I can ask from my dear Sparkfriends here, please pray. Pray that my husband will have clarity and peace, and return to his family. That he will commit to us working this out. That he will find himself in all of this.

Pray that I have peace as well, because I'm lost.

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LADYSTARWIND 12/26/2014 1:50AM

    Take care Lady.... Your inner strength will get you through this. I know it will be impossible to find right now...especially with the holidays here...but have faith in yourself. All the best for you and yours...

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JENSTRESS 12/15/2014 10:38AM

    I'm so sorry to hear this. I'm thinking of you and I have been through it. Try to eat, try to take care of your family. I hope and pray that you can get through this and work things out. Praying so hard for you and your family.

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JADOMB 12/14/2014 11:40AM

    Focus on you and your kids, that's where you have the most control of things. Letting this destroy you(and in turn, your children), is giving away YOUR power over yourself. In the end, we can ONLY truly have control over ourselves and that is tough enough. But until you get that right and strengthen up yourself, you'll never have the strength to help your children or your husband when he tries to come back into your world. My prayers are with you.

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DAKARISAH430 12/13/2014 9:52PM

    Very sorry about the situation. Sending positive thoughts and prayers your way. emoticon

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SLIMMERKIWI 12/13/2014 7:28PM

    I hope and pray that things will work out for you and your family. I hope that you have someone in your 'real life' who can help support you. Even talking with your Dr can be a big help.

BIG hugs,
Kris xxx

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ONESPOTLEFT 12/13/2014 6:33PM

    praying for your family to pass through this turmoil. Find things to do with your friends and don't focus the conservation on his. offer to help at the veterans hospital to just visit them and that will cheer you.

take one day at a time and rejoice in the small things like just getting out of the house and walking in the park or going to the library.

talk to a stranger at the mall; pick an older person that seems to be sitting alone it will cheer you and them

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MEXGAL1 12/13/2014 6:33PM

Sending you and your family many thoughts and prayers.

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KAREN42BOYS 12/13/2014 5:54PM

    Praying. I hope you have some good people surrounding you right now. What a hard place to be.

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BARCELONAME 12/13/2014 5:38PM

  Praying for you and your family. Be strong.

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ATHENA1966 12/13/2014 5:20PM

    I am so sorry. I am praying for you and your family.


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Obamacare, I am IN YOU!

Tuesday, March 18, 2014

Well, after much aggravation, tons of cussing at modern technology, I'm now officially enrolled in an insurance plan. For the first time in 10 years, I can afford to go to a doctor. Got a pretty decent deductible, and with the tax credit, I'm only paying a bit under $40 a month. We need dental too, but it's going to be hard to afford a decent dental plan.

My experience? I tried when it first opened, and experienced what everyone else did. Crap. So I waited for them to work out the kinks (ran up a few hundred bucks in medical bills in the intervening months, to boot.)

Tried two months ago, was stymied by the credit freeze I had placed on my credit report thanks to a lost social security card. Took some more calls and cussing. Then I managed to get myself locked out of the healthcare.gov website, thanks to failed attempts to reset my password. Two more calls, and I got that fixed.

Once I was finally able to fill out an application, it errored out three more times, so I had to delete and start over. I suspect that had to do with the abortive attempt to verify my identity from the first time I tried.

Once I did that? I was pleased to discover that we had access to at least one reasonable plan. I could have gotten free coverage, but the deductible was a lot, and we decided that paying a bit more would be wise so we could actually get much-needed health care.

Overall, my experience has been positive, if tedious and aggravating. Customer service was fast, friendly, and most importantly to me, not outsourced to unintelligible workers in another country. Whatever else you can say, this plan has certainly created jobs there. Wonder where the call centers are? I wouldn't mind that job.

Anyway, I have just breathed a sigh of relief for the first time in a decade; Maybe we won't have to declare bankruptcy next time we have a medical emergency.

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Missed you!

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BATCHICK 3/19/2014 2:21PM

    I'm glad your experience was positive overall. I also loved the title of this blog.

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_MOBII_ 3/19/2014 9:54AM

    I know how scary it is to go without insurance...I suffered from gallbladder attacks for a year before I got covered. Living with the fear that something would happen that would require a doctor visit or, God forbid, a trip to the ER!

Glad you finally got coverage, now run and get all your parts checked out!

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DRAGONCHILDE 3/18/2014 9:49PM

    JADOMB: This isn't socialized medicine by a longshot. It's private health insurance, just with federal subsidies thrown in, and restrictions on how the insurance companies can screw us. I'm sorry your premiums went up; most likely, there were hidden costs you weren't aware of.

As for other countries with socialized medicine? In general, they beat the US no matter how you rank it, in long-term outcomes, better overall health, etc. I have a friend here who moved from Canada. She pays about the same in premiums here that she did in taxes there, only here she pays more for prescriptions, and can't see any doctor she wants.

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JADOMB 3/18/2014 9:28PM

    I'm am glad you are finally getting insurance, I hope it lasts. Mine went up over $100 per month so I'm not all that thrilled with socialized medicine and what it will end up doing to all of us. I've been to many countries with it and their care SUCKS. But time will tell I guess how much longer they can borrow from China to pay for things we can't afford.

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FITWITHIN 3/18/2014 8:58PM

    I'm gad that you was able to get health insurance. I've had a family member who suffered for years, because they couldn't afford health insurance and needed surgery. And, now they can afford insurance cover.

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FRUM_SCRATCH 3/18/2014 7:44PM

    I just loved the title of this. Good for you for going through with all the hassle!

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Circuit training... bloopers and pain

Friday, February 14, 2014

So our gym has added a premium class with a football training coach. Pretty standard circuit training, a little bit of crossfit-inspired (including those big ropes.)

I have no intention of spending extra money on it (it's $10 a class, or $70 a month. ON TOP of my regular fees!) but they offer a free trial, so why not?

Overall, it wasn't anything to write home about. I DID enjoy it, but I'm not really at the fitness level where it was feasible for me, yet. I've lost a lot of endurance. There was a big strength component, but I don't like timed strength. I work to failure, in as few reps as possible. I actually pushed myself a bit too hard, and overdid it; I did NOT feel good at the end. I like to feel exhausted, not dizzy and out of sorts. I didn't eat before the gym session; I wasn't planning on an intense workout, but I got roped into it.

The best part, though, was when I totally busted my butt. One of the stations was an ab station; one of the trainers got the bright idea to put me on a stability ball, and throw a medicine ball at me.

Yeah. I don't have good balance on the best of days. It didn't help that he was throwing the damn thing at my FACE. So that would throw me off balance, and finally, when I rolled off the back of the thing and narrowly avoided nailing a machine with my head, I told him I'd just stick with the leg lifts.

Overall, I don't regret doing it, but it wasn't the best class I've ever done, and I'm unimpressed. I prefer to work hard... not overwork.

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JOYCECAIN 2/19/2014 5:44PM

    Well, you should have kicked his butt. How do you like your Glo Getter?

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-CORAL- 2/17/2014 12:02PM

    That's definitely the kind of thing you have to have a good fitness base for! Way to go for it! It's classes like that that remind me how out of shape I am. Probably why I hardly ever do them... haha

Comment edited on: 2/17/2014 12:02:55 PM

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MNCYCLIST 2/14/2014 9:01PM

    Not everything works out well, but I really applaud you for experimenting with something new. I tend to get stuck in ruts, and so when I set myself a goal to experiment with something say once per month or whatever, i sometimes happen upon something I love. So again, thanks for sharing this, it's inspired me to try something new this month.

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1HAPPYSPIRIT 2/14/2014 1:35PM

    Been there as well!

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OBIESMOM2 2/14/2014 1:29PM

    I have a tough time when it's just too hot in these types of classes. There have been several times that I had to walk outside to keep from tossing my cookies. And burpees (or any move to prone when my heart rate is really up there) only make it worse.

I just paid for my third round of 10 classes. If I'd just EAT RIGHT I'm sure I'd really be getting some results

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Well, that was a dumb move

Thursday, February 13, 2014

So tonight I had one of my favorite dinners. Velveeta shells and cheese! I love this stuff. It's definitely a trigger food for me, but hey, I had a limited amount, and that's not the problem. I mixed it with Rotel and tuna. Pretty tasty and filling!

Problem is, my lactose intolerance is warning me that tonight is gonna be rough. My guts are grumbling and announcing their presence.


Ah well, it tasted good. ;)

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HILLSLUG98239 2/13/2014 10:56PM

    Oh, those are my two favorite food groups: hot and gooey! I can eat myself sick on that stuff, and I don't have a problem with cheese.

I hope your tummy is un-rumbly soon.

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SLIMMERKIWI 2/13/2014 9:38PM

    I'm holding my nose from here - LOL!

Sounds like a RIGHT pain in the butt :-(

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Made the switch

Tuesday, February 11, 2014

So after I hit the gym this morning (and I'm proud of my trip) I got the red "burning too many calories" message in my fitness tracker. So I decided now would be a good time to make the switch to the variable calorie tracker, the new one that SP introduced that changes your calorie goal based on how much you workout.

I'm an intermittent exerciser right now, and I have the same weight loss goals regardless of how much I burn, so this makes sense for me. If I find my progress slows, I may go back to the method I've been using up until now. I know how the math works, so I'm fairly confident my ranges won't change that much; I average around 1500-1600 calories and that's good for weight loss most of the time. I actually got this far on substantially more (My first 20 lbs came off at 1800 calories a day or more)! And today's workout didn't change my goal for the day at all, so I think this'll work. It was 1410 - 1760 before, and it's 1410 - 1760 after, so that works for me.

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TRIANGLE-WOMAN 2/11/2014 9:57PM


Is it the Spark Tracker you are talking about, emoticon

or is there another product out there?


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